debby999: Dear married women and men,pls I need your advice on this issue. I just had a baby boy and still on recovery, my sister inlaw came and Since then my peaceful home has turn to war zone. As am writting this I feel like runing away with my little boy.This lady has never talked to me since she came into the house.she is type that does my "brother's house I don't send anybody".Big war started the day I finished cooking and was about dishing food this lady went to pot and started taking her own. After she finished the eating, I called her and explain to her as I should to my younger ones, that it was not right for her to take the food I just finished cooking without letting me knw. Most times they will take all the meat in the food. The next day my husband called me that her siSter reported me to him. So I told him and he to said it was right. I didn't knw they have tabled the matter with their other sisters and all of them called me and saying I must allow their sis. To go the pot anything anytime she wants which I refused,she was just calling me names. I was suprised when she said my husband supported that the lady should be allowed. My husband came in I told him all that happened,he couldn't stand on his ground to defened his wife infront of his sisters. I felt unprotected. The last one that happened that made me write this was the day my husband brought up dat issue again,bcose he noticed his sister has not been eaten the food in the house. He said I have to treat his sisters with care and piortity and if I don't treat them dat way, bcose a always insist on the right thing, dat anything I see I should take.I told him since you cannot give me protection I have to let my parents knw about incase anything happens to me.called my parents to let them. My baby started crying I bathed him and gave him the baby so I can prepare his food. On bringing the food to feed him,my husband pushed me out, took the food frm me and gave his sister to feed him. Carried me up and threw me on the bed, my hand hit the wardrobe, I was carrying. I dressed up to get a recharge card to let my people knw, he carried me up again and threw me on thE bed. I have to sneaked out late at night when he was sleeping. I called them and I was scared to go back again, I remebered my baby I had to go back. When I got back he has gone out to look for me, I opend my room to sleep, I found his sisters sleeping on my bed, I left them and slept on the couch. I asked the little girl he said my husband told them to sleep there. Am no longer feel protected with him. Since he can humulaite his wife in the presence of his sisters. Waiting for advice. Sorry for the errors, typed it in hurry so I can attend to my baby. ThAnks all.
Neither you or your family can fight your in-laws in that house and win.
No women tries such at this age.
LEAVE THAT HOUSE NOW TO YOUR PARENTS PLACE, IF YOUR HUSBAND WANT YOU BACK HE WILL COME AND NEGOTIATE.
moremi2008: Undisciplined men like you annoy the heck out of me! If you're not man enough to safeguard your house and your wife's sanity from your intruding family members, then why bother with marriage at all? Why don't you move-in with your family and make babies with the family she-goat? Of course, every man wants his wife to be on great terms with his family but there are limits and boundaries to everything. I won't let my family just pop-into my home for extended stays without notice because it is unfair to every occupant of that home. I would expect the same courtesy from her family members.
I guess it's a different issue when you live in a giant Naija house with guest quarters. Otherwise, there's just no excuse for family members that won't leave young married couples alone to enjoy their lives.
At this day and age of marriage breakups and divorce, man must learn to balance affairs between his Immediate family and extended family.
Because when thing go wrong(which will always be) you will still fall back to the-same extended family.
The-same married woman will go complaining they were neglected to her aggrieved in-laws when thing turn sour for her and her husbands.
I would like to congratulate Dr Jim Yong Kim on his emergence as President of the World Bank Group. I look forward to working with him, staff and stakeholders of the World Bank Group for the benefit of poor people around the world. Their plight is at the heart of the mandate of the institution and we must never lose sight of that.
With regard to the selection process, it is clear to me that we need to make it more open, transparent and merit-based. We need to make sure that we do not contribute to a democratic deficit in global governance.
Nevertheless, by our participation we have won important victories. We have shown what is possible. Our credible and merit-based challenge to a long-standing and unfair tradition will ensure that the process of choosing a World Bank president will never be the same again. The struggle for greater equity and fairness has reached a critical point and the hands of the clock cannot be turned back.
I congratulate Dr Jose Antonio Ocampo for being a worthy participant and for his decision to withdraw his candidacy in my favour.
I am proud of Africa for displaying great unity in supporting my candidacy. I am proud of my country Nigeria for standing by me. I want to thank all the African leaders, but particularly President Goodluck Ebele Jonathan for his resolute support, along with other leaders – President Boni Yayi of Benin Republic, President Alassane Ouattara of Cote d’iVoire, President Jacob Zuma of South Africa and Chair of the African Union, Mr Jean Ping. Africa has stood for the right principles throughout these processes. I am proud to be African.
I want to thank other developing countries who supported my candidacy. I also thank the Nigerian public, the National Assembly and the Nigerian and international media for their analyses and support. I am deeply grateful to the numerous groups and individuals in different parts of the world that worked so hard and so passionately in my support.
It was a worthwhile battle. Now it is time to move on and contribute to the search for solutions to the many developmental challenges that confront the world.
TisaBone: I did not say aggressive, but assertive.
the type of woman that will love you unconditionally, but as soon as you mess up, will tell you your shit stinks. the type that doesn't take any mess, and doesn't believe in second chances and will leave you in a heartbeat if you are not acting right. the type of woman that carries her own weight. does this turn you on, or are you not man enough to handle such a woman?
Onegai: My love, I'm gonna hazard a guess at your age. About 25 or a little above or below. You sound like me at that age. I see from your signature you're a christian. Now let me refer you to the bible. Go point out all the assertive ladies in there, let me know how it worked out for them. I'll wait (pours myself a drink of OJ).
See the difference btw Jezebel, Esther, Bathsheba, Mary and Deborah? Both strong,but one was calm, and the other didn't take shit and was equal to her man in screwing up. Guess who suffered? The bible says "Men, love your wives as Christ loves the church". So your man is meant to cover and protect you. So what does the church do? It worships Christ. Ergo, you're meant to worship your man. The church does not say "'xcuse Jesus, I don't like what you just said or did so I'm not gonna follow" and sit down glaring at him. So what's the shi.t about "I won't take crap, get to stepping if you piss me off, I am Woman hear me roarrrrr!!"? A strong woman, does not need to be like what you described to be strong. I know a lot of strong, i-dont-take-crap girls. They declare their strength, then go to the kitchen, dish their man's food, serve him and prefix every sentence to him with "darling". They're submissive. If they couldn't be, they'd be single. To quote a white, aethist relationship coach (so you know that ALL men are alike) "men have to be strong in front of their friends and the world and it gets exhausting. T[b]hey don't want to marry and keep fighting for strength at home. So it's great that you have a Ph.d, speak 4 languages and climbed Mt. Everest, if you don't make him feel like a man, he won't care about that and marry you.[/b]" What men want is for you to be emotionally stable and strong, in case they're not home, to hold down the fort, but when they show up, baby, get on your knees.
omar22: Do you know how many celebrities have slapped or punched a papparazzi in public we are talking from the young (Selena Gomez) to the old (Diana Ross)
Do you know the amount of Legal battles they faced.
Olalekan 0: May God punish these sister in-laws. A friend of mine is no longer on talking terms with his four brothers now due to ill treatment he suffered in the hands of the wife of his eldest brother.His three other bros sided with the wife cos they didn't want to upset their wealthy eldest brother who made it categorically clear that whoever does not like his wife could go to hell. My good friend now lives isolatively in the US for the past 7 years,does not call home and has vowed never to come back as he feels he has no family
Women!!!
When they want something they play the good girl.
When they get what they want, they becomes THICK MADAM.
Basics007: Ok i admit i may have overeached myself by barging into her home without prior notification. But is it just about the calls? Why cant someone who used to act (cos i'm firmly conviced now that her former friendship towards was an act) to be by my friend tolerate me for a single week even to the point of depriving me from playing with my nephew/her son? Rose,of course i cant open a thread if my blood sister did that to me cos i'll report her to our mum which i cant do in this case cos i aint an homebreaker. The way i see it is that i was a convinience who is no more needed in the scheme of things now that her contract with my bro is totally signed sealed and delivered. Thanks for taking the time to contribute i appreciate
Women are territorial warriors, especially in their Homes(territories).
Will she give such cold shoulders if her people are visiting? probably not.
Even if you call to notify them of your coming, you will still get the-same behavior.
Just ignore are actions and live your life, she will adjust with time.
hercules07: I might be reading this wrong, the Oyinlola guys are saying that the logs in their possession shows that the ACN guys were communicating with Ayo Salami while the ones released to both the Police and NJC do not show this as they have been edited. The NJC reached their verdict based on the ones released to them by MTN, but Oyinlola is saying the two cdrs (one to the police and one to NJC were edited), so nothing new has been learnt here, until MTN can accept that the one released to Adeolu Oyinlola came from it and that the calls from Salami to the number was to a Tinubu, then Oyinlola does not have a case o.
Idrive: Actually guys! The picture is real but no where near Nigeria. Its been around for sometime and was actually taken in india. Simply Type veyron vs road bump in youtube and it will bring it up.
blank: I don't think this is Lagos more likely it is Abuja.
No photoshop here. I can see the bump even if others cannot. For those asking about the car moving sideways, i am 100% sure you have never driven a car before.
LOL,
The only drive on NL.
What type if car do you drive that moves sideways,
Did you notice the Car and keke-napep behind, are they sideways?
tyson55:Wealthy Lagos $1.3 Million Dollar (Bugatti Spotted Rolling Over Speed Bumps)
In between the chaos and speed bumps of lagos. The wealthy show of their toys and we got a picture to prove it below. What you are looking at is a photo of the Bugatti.
Only in Nigeria can someone buy a Bugatti with bad roads and tropical rain but hey you have wealth show it off right?
President Jonathan Goodluck has declared before an Abuja High Court that he is qualified to contest the 2015 presidential election.
He based his qualification on the account that he is currently doing his first term of four years in office as the President of the Federal Republic of Nigeria.
Section 137(1) (b) of the 1999 Constitution disqualifies any person who has been elected into the office of President of the Federal Republic of Nigeria “at any two previous elections”, notwithstanding his meeting every other qualification.
Jonathan, however, declared at the weekend that contrary to the rumour making the rounds, he had not indicated or announced anywhere that he would be contesting for the presidential elections in 2015.
He made the clarifications on his qualification in his reaction to a suit filed by a chieftain of the Peoples Democratic Party, PDP, before an Abuja High Court seeking its order to stop President Jonathan from contesting presidential election in 2015 on the ground that he is already in his second term in office.
The PDP chieftain, Mr. Cyriacus Njoku, had on March 20, 2012 filed the suit following a declaration by the President in March that he is serving his first term in office.
The applicant, is, however, claiming that President Jonathan is running a second term in office and cannot be a candidate in 2015.
He also said the President could not swear to an oath of office thrice as contained in Section 137(1) (b) of the 1999 Constitution.
Those joined in the matter are the President, the PDP and the Independent National Electoral Commission, INEC, as the third respondent.
But in a 15-paragraph counter-affidavit deposed to by a counsel, Osahon Okeaya-Inneh in the law firm of President Jonathan’s lawyer, Mr. Ade Okeaya-Inneh and Co., he described the suit as frivolous and vexatious that failed to disclose reasonable cause of action.
The deponent said:. “The first defendant is currently doing his first term of four years in office as the President of Nigeria as provided by the 1999 constitution as amended.
“President Jonathan’s status and position is formidably backed by the 1999 Constitution.
“The constitution of Nigeria only makes provisions for a president to contest for not more than two terms of four years each.
“The constitution recognises the President’s tenure of office to be four years.
“I was informed by Dr. Reuben Abati (an aide of the President) on April 4, 2012 at about 5.30 p.m. in his office and I verily believe that.
“The first defendant has not indicated or announced anywhere whether in words or in writing that he will contest for the presidential election in 2015.
‘The late President Umaru Yar’Adua contested and won the presidential election conducted in 2007 for one term of four years. He was the President from May 29, 2007 until sometime in May 2010 when he passed on. ‘Yar’Adua’s four years was to end in 2011.”
Jonathan also averred that on May 6, 2010, he was sworn in as the President after the death of President Yar’Adua, thereby completing Yar’Adua’s 12 months of the four-year tenure.
He insisted that this was the first time he was coming to power as the President of Nigeria through an election wherein he was voted as the presidential candidate of his party, PDP.
The President told the court that the plaintiff did not attach copies of his recent tax clearance certificate from the Federal Inland Revenue Service, FIRS, and his PDP membership card as proof of who he claimed to be.
Consequently, Jonathan asked the court to discountenance the suit as it was meant to make the court to labour in futility because the suit was purely an academic exercise. The applicant, however, through his counsel, Mr. Osuagwu Ugochukwu, raised two questions for determination by the court.
These are:
*Whether Section 135(2) of the Constitution which specifies a period of four years in office for the President is only available or applicable to a person elected on the basis of an actual election or includes one in which a person assumes the position of President by operation of law as in the case of Dr. Goodluck Jonathan.
*Whether Section 137(1) (b) of the 1999 Constitution which provides that a person shall not be qualified for election to the office of President if he has been elected to such office at any two previous elections applies to the first defendant who first took an oath of office as substantive President on May 6, 2010 and took a second oath of office as President on May 29, last year.
However, the presiding judge, Justice Mudashiru Oniyangi, has fixed April 18 to hear President Jonathan’s application for an extension of time within which his lawyer can file his memorandum of appearance and counter-affidavit in response to the plaintiff’s suit dated March 20.
This is the second time that Njoku will take the President to court.
He had in August 2010 attempted to stop PDP from allowing him to participate in the PDP presidential primaries of January 2011.
Njoku, from Zuba Ward in Gwagwalada Area Council and with PDP registration number 1622735, had urged the court to ask the party to respect its principle on zoning formula in line with Article 7. 2(c) of the party’s constitution.
He said the declaration of Jonathan (third defendant) to contest the presidency on the PDP platform was contrary to Article7.2(c) of the PDP 2009 Constitution (as amended).
But the Chief Judge of the FCT High Court, Justice Lawan Gummi, dismissed the suit.
NaJoke2000: Thanks Man for your suggestions! So far, I can see dat there are no objections to ur opinion from females in this section because it's true dat they talk... Women are confused being! U open up to them, the whole family wld know it. U don't open to them, they complain they don't know ur mind.
Which kind life b dis self? Na wa ooooo ooooo ooooo oo! Of wat use is the marriage if u cant av a heart 2 heart talk with ur wife without her family knowing it?
Danny3230:So there is no transparency in america.soon they will come to tell us that the rise of boko haram was as a result of poverty and neglect of the region while the have neglected many countries of the world to continue their domination. I now hate that country with the highest hatred because they cannot be trusted;any country that preaches what it does not practice cannot cannot be trusted.From the information i got from BBC it shows that the details of the selection process was not made public.Countries that supported NOI should demand the details of the process and severe ties with the US if their request is not granted.I think our president should recall our ambassador to that rogue country and demand explanation.All said NOI has made us proud as Nigerians and more especially as BIAFRANS(IGBOS).Our ingenuity is once again known to the whole world.May God save us all!MAY GOD SAVE,PRESERVE AND PROTECT THE SOON TO COME REPUBLIC OF BIAFRA.Bye for now.You can reach or send an e-mail to me at danny3230@ovi.com or better still call me on +2348060695900
HA HA,
So deluded,
What transparency are you talking about, when US and EU has more higher voting power, abi na how much ur Nigeria dey pay for world-bank.
Let GEJ recall the ambassador, and see who will lose, do you think the US rely on our UNSTABLE OIL?
lastpage: You dont need to start a war or a movement to point this out, even the uneducated men of the 19th century are ware of these things! It is when you turn it to a gender-war that you loose focus! Dont fight for what you already have, it is called foolishness!
Now, l am very happy for you on one thing, you agreed that "God is fair, righteous and good"!
That being the case, could you ask yourself: Why did God PUT A CONDITION TO THIS INHERITANCE? If he did not put a condition to the inheritance of the families with male children, why this one? Did l hear you say God is no longer fair, just and righteous?
Truth is that "that is how it is and that is how God intends it to be: The Husband is the HEAD/LEADER of his family, and that includes his wife! If God, in his "fairness, justness and righteousness", did not treat them as equal but rather put "a condition" to their supposed equality, how come you feminist think you are wiser, more righteous or fairer than God? Why did the Bible even refer to women as "weaker vessels", to be treated with "gloves"? Does that not indicate that though not equal, women are "unique and special"? As about respecting the rights of women to work or earn income? That is a forgone conclusion, l bet even you work for a living? Accepting and respecting the "contributions of women to society"? Contributions of men or women to society is there for all to see and whether others respect it or appreciate it is a function of how relevant and effective such contributions are! NO NEED TO FORCE IT!
A lot of women are inventors, pioneers and pace-setters in many fields (Pick up any historical book on invention and you will see their names alongside the Albert Einsteins of this world) so what else does "feminism" hope to achieve if not chaos and family breakdown due to its confrontational attitude?
I still repeat, you dont need to fight for what is inherently yours except you have an inferiority complex! Women who have achieved a lot or anything meaningful in this world "dont fight" for recognition, it goes along with it.
Take Oprah Winfrey for example, does she have any reason to fight for equality with any man? She is already accomplished and well respected for her achievements, it is the empty barrel women that scream and fight for recognition because they have nothing to show for it, except ofcourse, their lousy mouth and aggressive attitude!
And that wont take them anywhere except misery-land!
Lastpage!
BTW: I think you love attention but your post still makes sense and would get you the required attention, without those "screaming and indecent font-size" or is it just in your nature to scream?
Can somebody tell me that country Gender equity has been achieved=none(no even in the US).
Only Feminist and Inferior women goes about competing with men.
queensmith: A woman is as responsible as keeping the home as a man is. An educatec woman will not take bulllshit from a man, hence why im yet ot hear nonsense from a married friend. Keep Ypour mond thinking rubbish, women are going further than ever before!
Some women should never think of getting married(except to a fellow woman).
[quote author=ekt_bear]Given wom more time. They've been kicking men's azzes in the biosciences despite being a minority in it 30 or 40 years ago.
Who is to say they won't start kicking men's azzes in engineering and math 30-40 years from now?
Regarding your "life" comment, i guess it depends on what group of people you are talking about. But for white collar sort of work, women are in no intrinsically inferior.[/quote]WELL,
[quote author=Sisi_Kill]Except you are carrying pompom at a construction site. . I don't know which kinda work a woman will say is a man's job. Even with pompom carryin sef....some women women still hold their own. So your coworker is just a lazy person. . .just like any other lazy person even a man who finds a way to avoid working.[/quote]No true,
Even in the US(Nigeria women gold standard), Men still outsmart and outpace women in almost all industry.
It's only inferior women that indulge in unnecessary competition with Man.
Most man don't compete with women, because it is not needed.
taryour:Impossible!! A Man & A Woman Can Never & Will Never Be Equal.
Many times, I have heard some women claiming equality with men. Its a sin and we cant reverse God words that A MAN IS THE HEAD OF A WOMAN. It is only an insane woman that will claim equality with her husband. No reason whatsoever makes us equal.
As mothers do we intend training our female children into believing they are equal to their brothers and the male they meet in life?
HA HA,
No need for competition,
Men and women are never equal.
I have a feminist in my office who share the-same view, but this lady is the laziest bitch in i have ever meet.
Every-time a difficult Job come in she cries it is a MAN'S JOB.
NNEKA2015: Have been married for 6 years to a pilot and we have have three kids my marriage isn't working anymore , there is no love or trust in the marriage again, my husband gets angry at the slightest thing i do and then goes out drinking and and doesn't come back to sleep in the house until i have gone to work. He only says he loves me when he wants to sleep with me , he complains about everything from my , shoes ,dress to my hair , my food and now that i am not improving in making love. he showers me with gift once in a while but claims i don't make him happy, i have tried and tried but he is never pleased, I don't want my kids to grow without their father because they are just getting to know him but at the same time i can't take it anymore and neither can he as well. please married or divorced women advice me on what to do i can't concentrate at work , i know he loves me and i feel something for him but i can't continue like this. please i need sincere advice on what to do.
My be there is more to your story.
But from your post, it seems your husband going through hard times somewhere, probably at work.
When a man start drinking unnecessarily and avoiding his wife something is wrong.
If you can't talk to him, you will need a professional marriage counselor to help out.
Do not involve any family member/s for now, they may complicate issues of you.
Oni, in a statement by his media aide, Mr. Lere Olayinka, described the ruling party as law-abiding.
Oni said the PDP would not be cowed or succumb to blackmail to abandon its resolve to rescue the South-West from those it described as “predators.”
He said, “This is another concocted statement by the ACN in the party’s desperate attempt to cover up the ACN’s now exposed grand plot to destabilise Nigeria as a nation.
“Our position is that actions and utterances of Governor Rauf Aregbesola of Osun State suggest that he was championing a plot to disintegrate Nigeria.
“Is it not true that Aregbesola is sending student activists to Cuba? Is it not true that he goes about with security guards other than men of the police and SSS? Is it not true that he goes about with flag of his imaginary republic? Is it not also true that there is a Facebook account named Oduduwa Republic, with flag and map of a republic?
“We therefore wish to reiterate our call to security agencies not to succumb to the blackmail of the ACN, because issues bordering on threat to corporate existence of Nigeria is a serious security matter and security agencies in the country must go the extra mile to investigate these allegations.”
Dismissing the ACN’s allegation on 2015, Oni said that Nigerians had continued to show their love and support for Jonathan and the PDP.
“The ACN came into governance of the South-West through dubious means and they think they can sustain their reign with vicious propaganda. No, it won’t work here. Yoruba are far too enlightened, too sophisticated to submit with docility to a reign of predators and destroyers. The PDP will use every legal and constitutional means to rescue Western Nigeria.”
Oni advised the ACN to tell its governors to stop seeing wolves where there were none and concentrate on governance.
logicboy: You can google "buddhism and atheism" and find out for yourself that buddhism is generally atheist or you can choose to be ignorant.
It is a fact that 64% of Japanese do not believe in God. My question asks "where is God in our everyday life?". You can keep arguing with hard evidence that Japan is not an atheist country.
HA,
Now i see were you got it wrong.
Buddhism is not generally Atheist.
In many cultures Buddhism co-exists with local gods.
Sometimes the local gods are seen as having adopted Buddhism, while in other places the local gods are regarded as manifestations of various buddhas. Often a particular local deity will be given responsibility for a particular temple or place of devotion.
These "gods" are very different from the eternal God(s) of Judaism, Christianity and Islam. They are not eternal and unchanging, but are go through the process of death and rebirth, just as human beings do.
Siddhārtha Gautama Buddha (Sanskrit: सिद्धार्थ गौतम बुद्ध; Pali: Siddhattha Gotama) was a[b] spiritual teacher[/b] from the Indian subcontinent, on whose[b] teachings Buddhism was founded[/b] http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gautama_Buddha.