₦airaland Forum

Daresh: Let me explain this properly. I was watching a show last night and the lady had a dream job @ colombia university in Boston. Her husband is a highly respected surgeon dt had hospitals all over the country wanting him. My husband then said " is she planning to leave her husband?" And I said "y? He can just go with her I'm sure getting a job won't be a big deal for him." My husband said, " he can't just follow his wife" and I said "Y not? I'm sure she would do the same for him". He said "you don't seem to realise that he married her and not the other way round so it's on her to follow hin not him to follow her".
I spent the next 30mins explaining how flawed his thinking is and how such attitudes stop women from getting married. No one wants to be tied down because of marriage. He didn't answer again but I hope he heard cos if we get into such a situation and the offer is fantastic, only God knows what will happen.

1. I will never leave my Job, because my wife got a better Job elsewhere.

2. She can go,if she contributes her income for the family up-keep ,(What is the worth of her career if she doesn't contributes to the family.)

From your post it seems you allow your wife to determine your life.

Never ever allow any woman (Wife/GF) to trap or control your life.

Your responsibility is to provide for your family by any legal means and you don't have to tell her everything.

I will advice you tell her to go and meet her EX since she still admires him(EX).

[quote author=S@NNiE]Nigeria’s president Goodluck Jonathan today formally launched the energy saving bulb, he said this would reduce the cost of energy.

He reiterated that it should not be misinterpreted that government cannot give Nigerians light,that is why he is launching the bulb.

“Even if we have abundant power we need it. Other countries have done it, the whole world is changing, they are phasing out the bulbs that emit so much heat to ones that save energy. It has nothing to do with our commitment to stabilise power in this country. We will continue to work hard to stabilise power”

He expressed displeasure on how Nigerians leave their bulbs without switching them off.

Minister of power, Barth Nnaji said the concept is to reduce electricity consumption,he said 60 watts bulb could be replaced by 10 watts bulb depending on the type of technology employed.

“it is a way to make more electricity available through saving and reduction in cost, because you are using 10 watts instead of 60 watts, you are in effect using just a small fraction of the power and it cost you much less in the end”.

He adds that the urban poor and rural dwellers are going to be paying less with the new tariff regime and this will further reduce their cost of electricity by this device.

However, he said the bulbs are in the market right now and government is partnering with companies manufacturing bulbs to start manufacturing LED bulbs.
http://citizensplatform.net/2012/05/pres-jonathan-launches-energy-saving-bulb-to-conserve-power-supply/#.T8ZQ2Sti1-Q.twitter[/quote]The-same LED-BULBS have been on sale in ALABA and JANKARA for the past 5 years.

PapaBrowne: Most South Westerners, young and old likewise are criticizing the renaming of UNILAG. I personally don't like the change in name. First because MAU just doesn't sound right. Secondly, I really don't know why but it just isn't cool.
However, I'm surprised at the reaction of South Westerners especially because they made everyone believe MKO was their hero.

Imagine if University of Nigeria Nnsukka were renamed after OJUKWU, I don't think it would generate all the negativity.

You are very mischievous, the renaming in OAU,ABU, AND UNIZIK also brought controversy and protest.

Do you know Nnamdi Azikiwe rejected the renaming of UNN?

The people are not fighting MKO but your Tribal Leader GEJ.

Everyone including you know that this is a political move.

We watching and waiting to see how things unfold.

Lacrissa: I am about passing out this present batch and when people ask me what next, their emphasis is always on marriage. One told me, now I'm passing out, when am I giving them invitation and another talked to me when I plan on settling down. Is that what most people do, after NYSC, plan on getting married? Not like I don't want to get married soon, of course but I was just surprised when both of them at different times after congratulating me talked about marriage being next.

First thing after NYSC is to get a JOB or Setup a Business.

How do you wanna sustains your Marriage without any source of income.

rokiatu: Ok I am being told by some people...ok not some people my stupid friends that you can smell sex on a man after been intimate with another woman. Some are saying that he will hit the shower as soon as he comes home. By the way I am not doubting my hubby or anything but they are already advising me to look out for signs like those as you can not trust men. But can you catch a cheating partner just by their mere scent?

This is your third tread concerning your Marriage. your marriage most be something else,

Can somebody tell me where Olisa Adibua and Olisa Agbakoba came from.

queensmith: Is that not why we're here.

If a woman is more comfortable with a man she needs help, and vice versa.

yes an environment of producing insecure women

here we go *rolls eyes*

From your post it shows that you are a Highly temperamental and Choleric woman.

Women like you will fight everybody over everything, especial when they don't see things from you POV.

It is a great weakness called INSECURITY AND INFERIORITY COMPLEX.

queensmith: Its backwards to state women are irrational and even worse to use their hormones as an excuse. Maybe in Nigeria there is something in the water making them mad and irrational.

A woman that is only comfortable with male friends is the insecure type that seeks validation from men. You've been raised to believe you are nothing until a man says you are and you've intentionally seeked out male Friends to further validate you.

Pettiness and bickering is down to personalities and nothing to do with gender, what of men that bicker, gossip argue and fight in the absence of sexism soo many nonsense notions will never exist. If you are insecure and irrational that's personal to you don't group women up as all being the same or try and use nonsense like pmt or hormones to excuse your securities. Makes me sick to the bone. Take one step forward and comments like yours drive us 500 steps back. Mshew.

The fact that you are quick to judge other women here, shows you are guilty of the topic.

Yes, there are women who are more comfortable with men, and it has noting to do with insecurities or self-validation,some men are also like that.

It all depends on the environment.

Well, since you are sick it shows your HORMONES are raging.

queensmith: Its backwards to state women are irrational and even worse to use their hormones as an excuse. Maybe in Nigeria there is something in the water making them mad and irrational.

A woman that is only comfortable with male friends is the insecure type that seeks validation from men. You've been raised to believe you are nothing until a man says you are and you've intentionally seeked out male Friends to further validate you.

Pettiness and bickering is down to personalities and nothing to do with gender, what of men that bicker, gossip argue and fight in the absence of sexism soo many nonsense notions will never exist. If you are insecure and irrational that's personal to you don't group women up as all being the same or try and use nonsense like pmt or hormones to excuse your securities. Makes me sick to the bone. Take one step forward and comments like yours drive us 500 steps back. Mshew.

The fact that you are quick to judge other women here, shows you are guilty of the topic.

Yes, there are women who are more comfortable with men, and it has noting to do with insecurities or self-validation,some men are also like that.

It all depends on the environment.

Well, since you are sick it shows your HORMONES are raging.

queensmith: Its backwards to state women are irrational and even worse to use their hormones as an excuse. Maybe in Nigeria there is something in the water making them mad and irrational.

A woman that is only comfortable with male friends is the insecure type that seeks validation from men. You've been raised to believe you are nothing until a man says you are and you've intentionally seeked out male Friends to further validate you.

Pettiness and bickering is down to personalities and nothing to do with gender, what of men that bicker, gossip argue and fight in the absence of sexism soo many nonsense notions will never exist. If you are insecure and irrational that's personal to you don't group women up as all being the same or try and use nonsense like pmt or hormones to excuse your securities. Makes me sick to the bone. Take one step forward and comments like yours drive us 500 steps back. Mshew.

The fact that you are quick to judge other women here, shows you are guilty of the topic.

Yes, there are women who are more comfortable with men, and it has noting to do with insecurities or self-validation,some men are also like that.

It all depends on the environment.

Well, since you are sick it shows your HORMONES are raging.

Bad move.

The price of computers will sky rocket.

The local manufactures cannot meet Nigerians demand.

Why all this arguments, the wife was tested and she failed. Simple

The examiner is not an issue here, but the examined.

Tgirl4real: Infact OP,

Reaching the office of the P. Defender might be a long thing. While doing that, I suggest you send a transcript of this thread to the man. Let him read what people had to say about him. Say it's from a silent observer, that he should change else the kid will be taken away from him.

Ignore the latter part.lol

P. Defender in Nigeria,

Who will take care of the kid if the GOVT take the children away.

The absentee MUM should share the blame here.

Yea,

Oyedepo is bigger then Nigeria.

He should be arrested if he disregard the Court.

[quote author=Ekwy + Nwa]this baboon[/quote]HA HA,

Who look more like a baboom

AWO or Ojukwu.

[quote author=Ekwy + Nwa]Irritated @ you being a baboon or what……?[/quote]Are you referring to you Brother here?

[quote author=Ekwy + Nwa]It really sucks to come from a family of baboons [/quote]Why are you so angry.

chinwe11: Thanks for your advices/insults sha. I have read them through, and i have decided to help out. I guess the reason why i had to bring this to NL is because most of my frieds kept warning me before wedding that 'DO NOT PAY FOR ANYTHING DURING THE WEDDING. IT IS THE HUSBANDS RESPONSIBILITY'. Even my relatives said the same thing, that in Ibo land its the man's duty. [/b]You get lots of advise from other women, this morning, [b]a friend was telling me that after marriage, you keep your money and spend his, and they say that is what happens in thier homes. When the issue of bringing the 80% came up, i got worried,, cos i felt it would be like i was marrying my self. I have enough money to foot our wedding and even double of that. But was just worried it would be like i was marrying myself, or the man might take me for granted. Also i forgot to add that when i said he should borrow, i planned that we would pay back from my money, so it wont just look like i GAVE him the wedding money. Anyway sha i would bring my 80%.

Thanks for all your advises oh! I would post the wedding pictures here maybe! Thanks

LOL,

Now i see why must marriages fail.

Excuse me Madam, in IGBO tradition the day your Hubby pays your Bride-Price, that day you become his wife wedding is not necessarily.

And if you marry with the attitude of THE MAN MUST DO ALL THE SPENDINGS then NEVER TALK ABOUT EQUITY IN YOUR MARRIAGE.

mimifonwon: WHY MUST EVERYTHING BE TRIBAL WITH YOU ALL. AS A MIXED TRIBE PERSON, THAT ALSO HAVE IGBO HERITAGE, AND WHOSE COUSIN IS IN IN THE COMPETITION I KNOW THE QUALIFICATIONS IS NOT ONLY BEAUTY. THERE ARE EDUCATIONAL ALSO, PLUS U REP THE STATE UR PARENTS GAVE BIRTH TO U IN, NO MATTER YOUR TRIBE NATIVE LOCATION. ALSO IGBOS ARE ONE OF THE TRIBES THAT HAVE ALWAYS DONE THE PAGEANTRY THING, ITS ALWAYS BEEN PART OF THEIR TRADITIONS. ITS CALLED MGBEDE, AND ITS SEEN AS A STEPPING OUT OF SOCIETY THING FOR UMU AGBORBIAS( YOUNG WOMEN). MAYBE IF ALL YOU PEOPLE WHO SCREAM FOR ONE NIGERIA SIT DOWN AND ACTUALLY LEARN ABOUT EACHOTHER'S CULTURES ANS STOP ASSUMING, PERHAPS TRIBALISM WILL FADE A BIT, IT JUST IRKS ME TO SEE HOW YOU ALL STUPIDLY GET TRIBAL AT ANY GIVEN TIME.

Abegi shut-up,

The OP your triabalistic brother stated the tread, try read his comments before correcting others.

MBGN is an IGBO show.

Is wedding expenses DOWRY?

@ If your man has paid your DOWRY and necessary registry documentations, you can start living as MAN and WIFE.


But what will you be using your money for, while hubby spent his money on the family.

BlackPikiN: ^^^You will be banned if you dont stop cursing out someone's father.

You are an hediot and an attention seeking goat.
You post are so senseless and aimlesss. You think after writing this stupiood long epistle of yours, you've arrived, abi?
Mumu nama!
You unrepentant scam artist!

HA HA,

See who is trying to ban another man.

[quote author=PROUD-IGBO]@CyberG:

You know i've noticed you like making this statement of "everybody moving back to his/her place", and if i didn't know better i'd think you were the resident nairaland clown.

I know it's Lagos you have in mind when you take this position of yours, and all i can say is stop dreaming mate.

*Are you talking of Lagos that has been kept -by all sorts of underhand shenanigans- as the only centre of commerce and industry in Nigeria with all the attendant advantages over cities from other regions/states?

*Are you talking of Lagos that was the former capital of Nigeria, and hence has seen a sizeable chunk of OUR COMMONWEALTH used in developing it over the decades?

*Are you talking of Lagos that has the only major Int'l Airport/Sea Port built by the Federal Gov't in Southern Nigeria (and for a long time was the only major Int'l gateway for the whole country), and by default has had an unfair advantage compared with other cities in attracting investments, tourists, etc?

*Are you talking of Lagos that people from all over Nigeria have been forced to reside in and do business b'cos of the above mentioned points?

*And finally are you talking of Lagos that is the former capital of Nigeria- a Nigeria that your forebears fought Ndigbo in particular and the old Eastern Region in general to be a part of when they wanted out?

If you think for a second that Nigeria dividing would lead to lazy bastards like you coverting and keeping all the investments and sweat of non Yorubas in Lagos, then you've got another think coming.

You justify the boko madness and reason that we brought it on our heads for choosing to side with Jonathan (as against your saint Buhari) in the last elections. We owe no-fuc/king-body any apology for who we choose to vote for- that's the beauty of 'democracy' and 'one Nigeria' so get over it mate. If you try to justify -under any guise- the slaughter of innocents by these bastards, then you're no better than them.

If Nigeria divides, Lagos and it's peculiar nature will be discussed. Now if for instance you got possesive with cities like Ibadan and Abeokuta, i'll understand, but not Lagos.[/quote]Who are you going to discusses Lagos with, the ICC or ICJ.

You people keep dreaming, maybe you want another AWOLOWO TREATMENT(your properties and investments will be swapped for CENTS).

Azazi has spoken PDP(GEJ,OBJ,IBB,ATIKU e.t.c)caused BOKO-HARAM crises.

My friends,

You are a product of your environment, unless you move out.

Some people are paupers in their villages until they came to Lagos.

Some people are paupers in Nigeria until they travel abroad.

Nigeria is a third World county.

So poverty is a choice for those who know their way-out.

And poverty is not choice for those who don't know their way-out.

harakiri: Really? If i tell you what i have personally experienced from MY OWN MOM (deceased) and younger sisters, then you would call it Hollywood. This thread is NOTHING compared to it but all the same, $hit like this happens every blessed day. Today on yahoo news, i was reading an article about a lady (dentist) who removed all the teeth of her recent ex-boyfriend. That's just how irrational women can be. Get in tune with reality my friend. The link is right below :

http://news.yahoo.com/blogs/sideshow/dentist-pulls-her-ex-boyfriend-teeth-split-210829769.html

Is that Tales by moonlight too? Hmmmm? GET REAL!!!

HA HA HA,

He is lucky it is not vasectomy he went for.

But what is it with women and unnecessary competition.

Even in the Corporate World, you see women competing and fighting over unnecessary things.

lefulefu: not in naija
make u no spend on dat naija babe and see wetin she go use ur eye see

O boy babes plenty for town,

No time for SHAKARA, Yansh and clean mouth be the koko.