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Most peep forget that marriage is build on TRUST.

That TRUST is not a right, it is earned .

The OP will have over-looked what his wife is doing for long, until things got  to this level.

Imagine budgeting 30k of of his 40K salary, just for madam to inflate the price until their in noting left to spend.

And the-same man will be expected to pay Rent, school fees, and other bills.

chaircover:
And your boss is a very brave man to sleep with both his eyes closed at night

Why won't the Okunrimeta himself sleep well, when he know how he makes his money.

You want the woman to liquidate him and later file for divorce ?

Marriage is just a legal contract and noting more, peeps trust thier family members more than thier wife/husband.

chaircover:
hiya sagakanu  . . . . . . Somehow I knew that you'd show up soon    

Dont mind the woman jare . . she only managed to steal N600 when her mates are killing their husbands for the life insurance money  

So you even agree she stole something.

Well, my boss ordered his wife arrested  for stealing his money.

BlueDiva:
LOL. . .this coogar is really slow.
Grow up and stop those silly jibes you think you know how to throw.

These community sponsored people always make the loudest noise.
I had to laugh at my not ever entering a plane. . .lolz

Back to the topic.

Why can't a woman just write the real prices and ask for extra money for her needs?
Is that such a big deal?

Maybe you can school me in sports but in issues of marriage, you're a dummy.
I hope you're just trying to win cheap popularity here, i seriously hope you don't reason this way.

What sort of person will pinch 2k or 3k in a month?
Poster, you married a hungry girl, sorry to say.

MADAM, ABEGI leave this boy alone,

Throwing Jibes with him, gives him erecting joystick.

He gets easily irritated when you don't buy his view.

moderatorr:
mumu.
We even went to war in 1967.
If you think you are bold enough, come out of the back of your laptop.
Just put your full name or email here.

Will you just SHUT-UP.

MUMU making noise online .

When we were doing ALUTA, your like will be hiding from the police.

kasiem:
I have always come across this saying, "what a man can do, a woman can do better" insinuating that men are not stronger than women. But, it still baffles me why many bodies in this universe still make special to protrest that weakness of women, when they've said that are not weak. We have laws against molestation and ra-ping of women, while, there are no such laws for the male folk. There's a punishment for men who beats their wives and we dont have such punishments for women who beats their husbands. Since, there's law guiding women from ra-pe, shouldn't there be law protecting men from seduction? There are many health laws in favor of the women folk without a single one for the male folk. Due to some gender based policies, women are no longer getting employment through merit, rather, they're getting it based on gender equality. since all human beings are equal, there should be equal treatment for all human beings.

It is influenced by FEMINISM.

Why do the media make so much noise when men cheat and keep quiet when women cheats.

Those FEMINIST even claim both genders are equal, just to appease themselves. 

BlueDiva:
The whole issue is simple.
Why should a woman lie and steal from her hubby?

People are now talking about the woman must look good bla bla bla.
The op even said he provides for her, so why steal? Why not just ask for money if you have needs.

Mr poster, you have a klepto on your hands.
If a billion people support the wrong thing it still remains wrong.

Don't believe all they are saying here, that they take their husbands monies at will.
It's all e-bragging. A man can give his wife 10million but will be pissed knowing you're scamming him.

Anyways there are always exceptions, some men are spineless while some are under the spell of their women while a few are outright sissies.
You are very much in order to be vexed. 

My advice for you is to set up your wife in business.
Let her make her own money and know what it feels to earn money. Every penny is something.

GBAM.

coogar:
i am very sure you bagged a professorship in hypocrisy.
so i should not judge nigerian marriages by western law when we have fully adopted their practises. why do you practise the religion they brought to your doorstep in africa? why do you wear jeans? you should be covering your honour with pawpaw leaves. . . .like your ancestors!

why do you speak their language? why do you use their technology?
why the heck won't i judge nigerian marriages by western laws? so you actually feel the way women are mistreated in nigeria is normal? by now, the education and exposure we have had should be reflecting in our society. so it's a shame that this man is complaining about 500 naira in 2011. he belongs to the stone-age.

over amounts less than $5, they don't. the money this husband is screaming about will not even get you a meal at mac donalds. what sort of husband is he? and yet, he wouldn't mind spending $500 in a strip club or the various whorehouses in lagos.

what has prenuptial got to do with police escorting you out of your own house if there's trouble at home? prenuptial ko, pre-nautica ni.

financial management of 500 naira change, 400 naira change, etc. this husband is a disgrace to manhood.

we are talking about his wife here, not the housegirl. she is the mother of his children.
pray tell. . . .what does he think the woman does with the extra she keeps to herself? she definitely spends it on herself to look good. shouldn't that make the man happy? my happiness as a husband is incomplete without making my wife look good.

the compliments i get from my friends about her looking good will complete my joy. that is my wife, my life partner.
this husband shouldn't be married at all if 500 naira makes so much difference to him. i repeat, he's a wuss, a moaner, a cry-baby!

LOL, you really surprise me,

So have you ever heard the word JURISDICTION?

The most EU countries  use the-same currency, technology e.t.c is their Marriage Laws the-same?NO.

Meddle Eastern countries speak the-same Language, practice the-same religion.Is their Marriage Laws the-same? NO

Marriage is a legal contract and your Western Laws don't go beyond their various countries.

Imagine MAMA IYABO tying to evicting BABA IYABO because it is done that way in US. When their is no legal backing for it.

In Nigeria the man keep all his asset after divorce .

In US it is 50-50 (except their is a contrary legal agreement).

So why judge Nigeria marriages by your WESTERN LAW.

dayokanu:
[size=18pt]So if your son or daughter inflates the prices of books, School fees and money spent on groceries its ok?

Why cant the lazy woman get up and look for a job to pay for her own bills instead of stealing

and she would have the guts to tell the children that stealing is bad.

If stealing from your husband is permissible then children stealing from parents should be permissible too[/size]

Bros You dey mind these women,

If the Hubby did the-same thing, these women will call him BROKE ASS, lazy fool, gold digger bla, bla, bla.

But it is normal for a woman to do it.

moderatorr:
MODERATOR
stop putting all these bigotted anti progress protest threads on the front page.
You are promoting disorder in the nation.
When yawa go gas, na seun them go catch, when them catch seun , he will point you.
Just about 8 persons repeatedly posting almajiri rubish on this forum.
Moderator, we have seen them, stop putting them on the front page again.

Your are the problem we have in this country.

We have not even started the protest yet , you have already threatening fire and brimstone.

That man was not dead for sure.

I have heard of unconscious accident victims dump in mortuaries, without proper checkup.

macjive01:
thats it, i believe this is the part still on ground, here is the other elevated section


https://www.globim.com/images/enugu_blvd.jpg


ENUGU railway line in construction


TO GOD BE THE GLORY


see more photos here

http://www.igbolandforum.com/index.php?topic=634.0

Mr Man stop posting that PHOTOSHOP PIX here.

coogar:
he is a wuss - a crybaby, a moaner, an inconsiderate husband.
his money, his money - it's their money. 2 became 1 the day they walked the aisle. [b]this bush man mentality only exists in nigeria [/b]where the man barks every second "my" "my" "my". in marriage - it's "our" "our". if he's not ready to share, he should have remained single.

i am not speaking because of the married women boasting here. i just think this issue is no issue at all - that's my opinion. husband/wife matter - every penny belongs to the both of them. it's a relationship not a dictatorship!

you probably married in the 80s, long before mandela got his freedom so marriage is imprisonment for you.
may you be delivered from the shackles.

it's the naija mentality in you. where men turn themselves into demi-gods and tyrants and you think that should be the norm.
notice the people who are on the same side as me are all staying abroad. an environment where women are empowered and the husband knows marriage is a 2-way street.

if these wives make trouble, the husband is the one that would be escorted out of the house by the police until the wife is comfortable with him around.

if you make trouble for your partner, you are the one that would be bruised, beaten and sent back to your parents house.
so no one is painting a rosy picture here. the women are just telling you as it is. in 2011, if your husband still harasses you over 1000 naira, then you are probably in the wrong marriage. beware!

LOL,

Now i know you are one of those WESTERNIZED NIGERIANS who seems to know more then the Oyinbos.

It is a pity you now Judge Nigerian Marriages by your Western Laws. Nonsense.

The White Man(rich,middle-class and poor) your are praising here also barks, when their wife inflate their spending.Yes they do.

You also forget to tell us that your White Men now sign[b] Prenuptial  [/b] before getting married, meaning his assets are intact in case things fall apart.

Financial management is a serious issue in marriages world-wide which usually leads to divorce , so it is  not limited to Nigeria.

Their is no[b] Utopia [/b] in marriage, stop bashing people according to your views.

The OP is a typical "Woman-wrapper".

Quit all these women boot-licking .

One more, A MAN give the WOMAN his ATM and pin-code.

Happy now,

YEYE BOY.

jmaine:
Resign over talking to the press who milled around him . . .Now that is so funny . . .

Just ignore those PDP boys.

coogar:
the women are not married to their housemaids.
there's a universe of difference between wives pinching the money of their partners --- and the housegirls doing it.
please, compare like for like.

she meant she should be made to be in charge of the money she was given in the first place. she's not talking about the man's bank accounts.

it is not wrong! the money cannot turn itself into food.
some time, some energy, some sweats and some skills have been added into the equation to make that food.
what's going to pay for that?

if he's not capable of marrying, he should stay single and continue to squander his money @ mamaput!
mamaput will not pinch his money. at the end of the day, he would be saving more spending his money at mamaput, isn't it?

LOL, he is not capable of marrying because he controls how his wife spends his money.

You seems to have little/ No ideal about marriages,

For you information most of the Married women boasting here have experienced this issues from their Hubby, but they will come on Nairaland lying about it.

My friend, this is not Marriage on paper.

We are talking about real Marriages here.

9ITE.

Ironically the Women complaining here would be the first to beat-up their House maid/girl if they catch her doing such.

coogar:
keep your eye on the ball. the original poster did not say the wife is in control of the finance. she gets it bit by bit from the husband.
maybe you should go and read his opening comment.

Man i was not quoting the original poster,
i was replying armyofone who said "she is a wifey and as such be made to be in charge of the money "

you are making your own argument.
if the man is complaining, then he should bloody the chores himself. better still get a housemaid(free of charge)he can trust - at least that cuts the wife completely out of the loop.

Nobody is talking about bloody chores here.
If a man makes budgets for his spending and his wife decide to inflate the price of her purchases for selfish reasons. It is wrong.
And if the money is not enough to do other things you will be the first to insult the man here.

you should stop being inconsiderate!

Money don't grow on trees.

That is the reality for you.

coogar:
except that is actually the most common trend.
most women are full housewives in nigeria. the issue of food is the responsibility of the husband from the mega cities like lagos to the villages of zamfara. the husband must provide the money for food. how the food gets to the table is not the man's business.

we chastise these women when they don't make the house clean, we abuse them and their parents when they don't cook very well and yet we still scrutinize how they spend the money? what the crap is that? if you ask this moaning husband to go to the market, haggle prices with those shrewd market women for hours in that searing heat and buy foodstuffs, transport the food home and convert it from the raw product to finished product, he would be complaining he's the man of the house and the men don't cook. but he can complain how the money is being spent.

he cannot have it both ways. if he wants to complain about the money, let him cook, scrub, wash and clean.

LOL, are you saying Nigerian men give their wife charge over their money.THAT IS NOT COMMON.?

Don't be deceived GFs do all those things(wash, clean,cook bla bla bla) you talk about and their men still controls the money he give them.

If the man is giving out his money he has the right to complain.

That is reality for you.

Stop dreaming.

Some people don't know the diffidence between FRATERNITY and[b] CULTISM.[/b]

Wole Soyinka started a FRATERNITY.

Most Universities world-wide have FRATERNITIES.

BlueDiva:
@ronkebp

Sorry i don't do that.
If you do, cool.  

Well, yáll keep talking of hubby buying you nicer cars than his.
Hubby 'dashing'you the monies you guys get as gifts.

You girls are living in paradise.

In my world, hubby has his 'machines' that not even me could touch.
Me i have mine but definitely not as exquisite as his.

In my world hubby doesn't dole out money anyhow.
Guess i'm just one of those fake ordinary couple with no level.

+100

That is the reality madam.

armyofone:
she is a wifey and as such be made to be in charge of the money . until then, she will continue to snatch every lil ten kobo that's left from shopping to buy iru or maggi or painty hand.

That is not common in a country like Nigeria.Where people spend huge chunk of their money on bills.

Do yo think it is easy for a man to work for 21day just to handover his money to the woman.

How many working women can do that for their husband.

ronkebp:
Blue Diva, and who told you that ''some marraiges'' are perfect.  We are all trying our best, But for you to call the poster's wife a thief, is that not too much??.

Put hand for buttocks swear, say you never lie to your hubby on the amount of curry and thyme in the market. Don't come and form on this forum oooo abeg. 95% of women do this stuff, now level differ from level oooo, but in a case like this, NO MAGANA!.

LOL, Why you dey attack the woman.

She is not lying.

debosky:
I still don't get all of this excuse making - even if the man is aka gum that is no excuse for brazen dishonesty!

Let's call a spade a spade. 

I don't see anything that is making the woman look like a 'pain or inconvenience'. Even if he calls it 'his money' - is that now license to steal?

Is it not the same 'his money' that was used to buy the bb touch and to make her hair every two weeks? Is it not the same 'his money' that he's planning to buy her a car with?

The man is making sacrifices for his wife, and he is justified in being careful in giving her access to funds because of this dishonest attitude. If she is already abusing his trust in the 'mere 600 naira', what will happen with bigger amounts?

Not one of you women is saying that the woman's behaviour should be stopped first and foremost, you're saying the man should be free with her first so she'll stop stealing. 

It's like saying everyone should open their gates wide for robbers to come in - once they do that, there'll be no more reasons for thieves to rob.

The OP does not agree with joint account - many women don't agree either. The fact that he has decided to exercise overall control over finances in the home is no reason for any woman to steal.

You say the man has a wrong mentality towards money - what about the woman who is habitually lying to her husband just to get more money?? Is her attitude right?

Interestingly enough, NOT ONE OF YOU WOMEN has commented on the most crucial aspect of things here TRUST!!

If a man can't trust his own wife to tell him the truth about prices, how can they build trust? 

My BROV,

This is one of the ironies  of Marriage, women expect their men to do the working while they do the spending.

You will be surprised that the OP's wife has never bought anything(small undies) for her hubby since they got married not even from the money she is stealing.

All she does is collect collect  collect .

Hand over your bank account to your wife she will spend all the money on the children and her-self and forget that the man exist.NA the man come suffer for marriage haba

Make them go marry rich men now!!! like say e easy ti marry rich man for Nigeria.

Gluckdude:
For the ladies who are advocating for "OUR MONEY",(chaircover and co.) if i'm right, that symbolises JOINT ACOUNT. tufiaqa.
so the money i worked so hard for has suddenly turn to our money, in the first instance, what for? why the our money issue.its her own money that should rather be called our money since i own her and all that she has, not the other way round, just because God has placed a hole in one section of your body, does not give you ladies the right, to abuse our masculine nature.i don't blame those man-lover boys, just kidding though. but honestly.ladies and their ability to ruin men, i have some negative testimonies of such incident. can't put them up here as it will turn out to be like an epistle.
if she is already misbehaving with few naira notes. what will stop her from using the atm 10 times a day on "OUR MONEY" whats stops her from getting brazzilain hair, without my prior notice,what stops her from visiting the boutiques on daily basics.whats stops her from sending money to her relative on weekly basics,
i think you ladies should imagine yourself being a man, and lets reverse the scene.
on a lighter note, i want a partner i can trust 100% with no iota of doubt.she has compromised that,it takes a lot to win my trust.

I really like this you comment.

MRbrownJAY:
@jennykadry
so because they have s[b]e[/b]x, he should be giving her money regardless of what he believes or think is right? now you ladies are starting to make very little sense. (as if only we men enjoy the bedroom acrobatics)

stingy stingy stingy, you women are quick to call men stingy yet, most dont have a penny to bring to the union. if any of you ladies have your own income then buy your own and stop calling men stingy because they dont believe in y'all "frivolities".
spending money or shopping to y'all is a form of therapy and this is also why some men lost their fortunes (and were subsequently dumped by these same damsel).

any man has the right to decide what he wants to do with his money, if his wife is quick to whine about 600Naira extra then let HER go and earn it, et voila!

go ask any of the vulcanizer, danfo/okada drivers etc if 600Naira is "nothing" as you lot are quick to claim.

GBAM

Another TROJAN HORSE landing in Nigeria.

AH AH AH.

neyostica:
@ronkebp are you a ho aw many guys u don date

I thought @ronkebp is married woman.

That yeye LASU charging[b] N193,000 to N350, 000[/b] for school fees

With N350, 000 i can send my children to COVENANT or any Private University.

Even the best of Federal Universities don't charge that much.

Nonsense .

PointB:
For a while, I thought it was Sahara Reporters at it again.

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Gowon? What does he have to do will this?

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werepeLeri:
RASS. MUCUS HEAD. There is a difference between junk and lies.  Pele.

LOL. Yaba yaba doo doo doo. Mother fu cker. EEDiot tribalist - what has this got to do with tribe. Fool. I am Yoruba - so, if you want to introduce tribe, think properly, make use of your empty head before you spew dust.

and who said you should not criticise anyone? Abeg- you too mis yearn. Go back to primary school.

Mr WERE,

I am not suprise MUMU like you finely found a voice since GEJ became president.

Who cares if you are YORUBAWA.

So Ruben ABATI Who's articles feature on  Saharareporters has been lying before and now saying the truth because he is in GEJ 's pocket.

Mumu who claim to attend LAG.