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DouchessPunkyII:
That's how she sees it, her opinion. Doesn't make it the gospel truth. You don't cheat on someone you love imo. A person can't cheat on me & still tell me they love me. Actions over words any day & the act of cheating doesn't convey a message of love to me. Sorry.

dhebo:
..oya op come and learn from d bigger bros

SlimCupid:
sorry.won't happen

blayde:
Go church but u gree go? Smh

danidee10:
And what do u mean by that

oyemprince:
Selling point as how

mazazatonda:
There happen to be some misunderstandings between me and my wife coupled with the fact that there was financial challenges on my side,hence the two reasons for giving ourselves break as in temporal separation for some months so that we can figure out what used to cause misunderstandings and quarrel and for things to normalize before we start living together again,so she went to stay with the parents.However,we get united again last week as in she coming back and we start living together.When i wanted to touch her as in love making,she keep on turning it down,i was suprised how after missing each other for some months does it mean she doesnt has sexual feeling.The more i keep making advances,the more she is rejecting and i begin to think whats is wrong.She was giving difference excuses,later she said she dont know to do and how to tell me this and that it is disturbing her and cant allow that we make love as her conscience and what could be the consequence is disturbing her.I told her to tell me what it is,she finally said that since we separated till now that she made love with two men.I was shocked,thou i reason she may fall into such because she has a very high sexual drive,that i hardly leave her and travel for more than a month without coming back because of the nature of her body unless i buy intimacy gadgets and keep for her.She said that apart from her high libido,that she has been having the apetite and bearing it and was thing that i have use style and abandoned her as in divorcing her.She pleaded,and i am confused on what to to because our culture has implication on woman commiting adultery but i cant tell my parents otherwise they may say that i sent her packing.I only explained to my elder sister and she said from her knowledge,that she doesnt know much about how our tradition handles such,but since she confessed that i can forgive her,unless she do it again.Thou i am not a saint anyway for i know i have committed adultery since i marry her but i dont know how our tradition handles this matter and i cant tell such to my parents.She begged and begged that even at two days ago,i later fall and made love with her which i said i wont do but i am disturbed.Please what should i do.Advise pls.

naughtynaughty:
I mean u meet a guy newly, maybe xchange numbers cos u think he is smart, he calls nd d next thing is 'can you come to my house'?? Lyk criosly? Honestly its bcumin so boring nd annoying nowadays.

What's it with guys nah? Cnt u guys patiently woo a lady without adding the 'come to my house' talk? Its a big turn off for me, wats there to b done in ur house dt we cnt do elsewhr?

Is there some solution to global hunger in ur house? Orishirishi. Its so common nauadays dt u wonder if guys hav lost their minds on dating etiquettes. My new frnd yaf turn dis come to my house talk into a daily anthem ooo..no b small thing.

The thing is..80prcnt of the men who invite
ladies to come to their house at
first meeting have no good
intentions at heart..nd y'all need a slap to reset ur brain on how to properly woo a lady. Lord save guys of dis generation

Am I d only one in dis?

Buthupogon:
There's this guy that has been a friend to my fiancee for sometime now. Some months back, I observed that the friendship was becoming "too close" than the norm, cos he was calling her almost every time and not just short calls, but long ones. I expressed my thought about it to my fiancee, but she insisted that there was nothing more to their friendship. After, sometime my fiancee started displaying some "erratic" attitudes. Most common of it was "I don't care" attitude. What now put me off, was a day she was with me and the guy call came in, she didn't answer it. Then I told her to answer the call, and she did. I observed the way she was talking with the guy, then I sensed there's more to them that meet the eye. I asked her to tell the guy that she's with her fiance and that the guy should call back, but to my surprise she was stammering and later disconnected the call. I got really furious and demanded an explanation. It was then she told me, the guy has been "disturbing" her for a date, but she said she had made it clear to him that its not possible. A lot of drama followed, that I can't relay here. It was then I knew there's more to what she has just said. Two days after, she came to my place to apologize for what happened the last time. I asked her to give me her phone, and she reluctantly gave me. Then after I collected the phone, I discovered that all her social apps has been 'passwordized'. I asked her to enter her password, and she said she can't, but I insisted, then she entered it reluctantly. I was about accessing her whatsapp when she suddenly snapped the phone from my hand and was begging me not to look further, but I insisted and had to wrestle the phone out of her grasp cos I was bent on knowing the real truth, no matter what. I checked and was shocked when I discovered she has been dating the guy in question. I called the relationship off @ that instance. She cried and begged that she's sorry, but I didn't listen. She actually continued to apologize for days, promising never to do such again. I eventually forgave her and we continued, but on the condition that she must never have anything to do with the guy and she agreed. Its been 3 months after the incidence, and my fiancee is asking to be friends with the guy again, claiming that she's not happy with my decision not to pick his call or chat with him. She said she's not use to doing that and that she will control the friendship. but I told her my decision still stands. I want to know if my decision is wrong and also to ask if its ideal to approve her friendship with the guy again.
Mature response please. Thank u all.

Airforce1:
Now as a big boy easy

Keketu:
this is my orente, shes 15 years older than me but age is all but a number, shes got a small stature so people dont notice much, a quick + shes woking with fidelity bank

SlimCupid:
Morning nairalanders. I'll keep this as short as possible, and please read with an open mind. There's this girl, a neighbour, that's making me feel like I haven't felt in a long time. She knows my intentions, and she gives off the right vibes, but she wouldn't give me a positive or negative reply. A few times she's seen me in my underwear and with just a towel around my waist. Yesterday, I was talking to a mutual girlfriend of ours who lives in the same compound, and is aware of my feelings for the babe. We touched on the subject, and she made me understand that that girl wouldn't date me because she has the impression that my tool is certainly too huge for her to handle. Now I have had that kinda feedback from the girls i've been with, but it has never bothered me as i'd always thought they were exaggerating, until now. The girl has a boyfriend and I was prepared to let go, but surely not for this peculiar reason. Not my quiet nature, or some personality trait, but my d*ck size. Experienced nairalanders,what do you reckon? This totally beyond me, and i'm officially bothered.

Brytawon:
My name is Myra and I'm a very angry and bitter woman. And it's all thanks to the 'witch' called Hetty, my landlady.
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Before the 'Jezebel', came into our lives, my husband CJ and I were doing just fine. We had been married for about eight years and though we did not have children, CJ was not too worried.

"When the time comes, we will have children. God's time is the best," he often said anytime I grew anxious over our childless state. You know how our African society is. Once a couple gets married, people especially family members, friends, colleagues and other so called 'well-wishers' expect the woman to start popping out babies as quickly as possible. My husband's parents and other family members live far away from us and hardly visit so pressure from their end was not much.

All the same, I never relented in my quest to have my own child. I fasted and prayed and cried to God to remember me. But the years went by and there was still no issue.

Then about two years ago, we had to move to another apartment from where we were staying in Lagos due to problems with the landlord. He had increased the rent by over fifty percent without warning and threatened to eject any tenant who did not comply. My husband, who felt the new rent was too high for the flat decided we should move.

So that's how we ended up in our new place. The house, made up of four flats is owned by Hetty who had inherited it from her parents. She lived in one of the flats downstairs with her two children, both teenagers. Hetty, who is in her late 30s, was said to be divorced or separated from her husband. When we moved in newly, the woman was so nice and helpful to us, always asking if we had any problems. She would invite us to her home and even cook for us. With time,
we became very close. I thought in my naivety that she was just being nice.

How did I know that she had designs on my husband! Anyway, I found out later that my husband was dating our landlady. It had been going on for months before I knew about it. You see, because of my job I'm hardly at home. My office is in Victoria Island so I leave home early and return home late as well. My husband is a business man so his schedule is more flexible than mine. There are days he does not go out at all, but stays at home and works on his computer and makes contacts on phone.

Since the story came out about their affair, friends and other concerned well-wishers have told me that I should have been more careful, that I should not have allowed a woman like her, single and still quite young and pretty to get close to my husband. But what were they expecting me to do, tie a grown up like him up? He's mature enough to know right from wrong and that dating that woman is something he should not have done.

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I found out about the affair from a neighbour who had been seeing them going out together and acting like lovers whenever I was at work. I confronted CJ and though he denied it initially, he finally owned up and confessed. He pleaded with me to forgive and forget that it was the 'work of the devil.'
"What devil?" I countered furiously.
"Instead of accepting responsibility for cheating on me with our landlady, you are blaming the devil!" I was very angry with him and I felt hurt too. What the woman has that I lacked, I wondered, weeping bitter tears. Ok, she was very pretty but I was not bad looking and was even younger than her.

CJ promised to stop seeing the woman, also begging me not to go and fight her as we could be kicked out of the apartment. I loved my husband very much and he meant the world to me so I forgave him. Things went on as normal though I was more vigilant this time around. As for my landlady, she travelled with her children abroad for the summer holidays and I did not see her for some time. The children came back and resumed school but she stayed behind for a few more months.

When she returned later, it was clear to even a blind man that she was pregnant. I did not think much of it and just ignored her as I had been doing since I found out she was sleeping with my husband. That was until CJ broke the terrible news to me, that he was responsible for her pregnancy! How could this have happened, was the first thought that entered my mind. I was, as expected devastated by the new development. Here was I, married to him for nearly eight years and yet to produce a child. Yet a clandestine affair with our landlady had resulted in a
pregnancy.

I became ill when I heard the news and had to take some time off from work. When my mother who lived near us heard what happened, she came to spend time with me. It was my mother and younger sister who came with her that went to my landlady's house and fought with her. Much as I hated the woman, I was not in support of physical combat and told my mother to leave her alone. The damage had been done and fighting her would not solve anything, I reasoned.

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It was my husband that I was more worried about. He had become so happy since Hetty announced she was pregnant for him.
"Finally, I will be a father," he had stated with obvious pride the day he broke the news to me. When I recovered, I called him one day that due to the situation of things, I no longer felt comfortable living in the same compound with the landlady, that we had to move. To my shock, CJ was vehemently opposed to my suggestion, insisting there was no need to relocate.

"Hetty will soon put to bed and as the father of the baby, I need to be around to look after them," he said. I was not ready to give in and I gave him an ultimatum: it's either we left or he should forget about me and our marriage. I told him I was not ready to share my man with any woman, least of all that conniving landlady of ours.

"I can't stay here anymore. Seeing that woman every day with her big, protruding tummy drives me crazy. I need to get away for my own sanity and peace of mind," I said.

That was when he told me that I could do whatever I wanted, that he was not ready to go anywhere.
"I'm going nowhere. We just moved here so why would we be moving so soon? Learn to adjust to the situation or ..." he rejoined.

Since I'm not ready to adjust, I have begun making alternative plans. My younger sister, who has her own apartment in town, has suggested I move in with her until CJ comes to his senses. I don't know what will happen to my marriage when I leave. I still love my husband and I know he cares about me too, but that woman seems to have cast a spell or used 'love charm' on him or something. I need to get away before I lose my mind with worry and stress. I don't know if I have taken the right decision or not. But I need some space right now before I lose my mind or even die prematurely from all the trouble my husband and his mistress have caused me...

THE END!

Names have been changed to protect the identity
of the narrator and other individuals in the story.

source: www.truelifestoriesng..com.ng/2015/12/im-childless-but-my-landlady-is.html?m=1