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Family / Re: Should A Man Live In His Parents House After Getting Married? by Estherqueen50(f): 8:36pm On Jun 24, 2023 |
A lot of people don’t see it as a big deal because it has worked for them. But remember, that not every thing works for everyone. So instead of starting your married life that way, I advise you just leave and stay away from your parents. |
Family / Re: Advice Needed by Estherqueen50(f): 8:15pm On Jun 24, 2023 |
Like you said, discuss with your wife and hear what she has to say. It’s no problem discussing how you want to run your home. Visiting without informing your host is a no no. So since it’s family, talk to your wife and I pray God gives you grace to come to a peaceful conclusion. 1 Like |
Family / Re: Relationship Advice Needed by Estherqueen50(f): 12:29pm On Jan 14, 2023 |
Jobs/Vacancies / Re: Urgently Needed by Estherqueen50(f): 7:29am On Jan 08, 2023 |
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Family / Re: I Urgently Need Ur Advice On My Husband And His Ex-girlfriend by Estherqueen50(f): 4:49pm On Sep 13, 2022 |
Good evening Maam, Since you have spoken to him and he isn't planning on stopping communications with his ex, I will advise you seek help from someone your husband respects or takes counsel from. I wont advise you calling the girl, Its your husband who needs to stop calling her. Also pray for your marriage, the devil is after marriages so as a family you need to be prayerful May the good lord watch over your home. |
Family / Re: What Is My Duty As A Married Woman? Help! by Estherqueen50(f): 11:50am On Sep 12, 2022 |
Good morning Its so obvious from your post what the problem is. Ma'am this is not courtship but marriage. You say your husband does not respect you,that may be valid but have you asked yourself if you respect your husband too? he asked you not to make a particular food that he doesn't like it and you insist because of your children. Your husband is not supposed to eat a particular food because your children love it but your children are supposed to adapt because of your husband. You respect and honor your husband not your children. If you don't want to cook two different dishes then cook the one he wants. If you cant even give him the kind of food he wants because he eats it outside then that's not good enough. How sure are you that he even enjoys the one you make. Maybe he prefers the one he eats outside which you should have communicated with him respectfully how he actually likes it. Ma'am, marriage is service, you are there to serve another not to seek validation. Marriage works because of effort not because any human is perfect. Do your part and you will be surprised how he will turn around. everyone is equal but there is hierarchy in marriage , respect that hierarchy .If it was courtship then I would have understood but this is marriage. Please work on your marriage May your marriage be blessed. 1 Like |
Family / Re: I Married My Pastor's Daughter, And Now This Is Happening by Estherqueen50(f): 11:35am On Sep 12, 2022 |
Good morning, Your post suggested you guys never truly courted. These are things that have should have been trashed out in courtship regardless of who or what you think the person is or represents. Courtship is interview stage, if you had done the needful you would have known what you can tolerate and what you cant and also how compatible you are with a person. It doesn't necessarily need to end in marriage. Back to your worries, since its equally your fault as much as it is hers then you don't need to end your marriage or love her less. Marriage is more than our feelings and desires, Its commitment, its a vow. You vowed you will love her in good and bad times, its barely months and you are already drawing back. I have seen men that are not virgins marry women that her and vice versa. Work on your marriage, everyone has their own shortcomings, you might have been a virgin but if we should ask her what she doesn't like about you, she will certainly have something to say. The devil is just giving you reasons in order for him to destroy your marriage , don't let him. Love your wife unconditionally and work on your marriage. And you at the end will obtain favor from the Lord. God bless your new home, be blessed forever. 1 Like |
Romance / Re: The Problem With Beautiful Women by Estherqueen50(f): 9:08am On Aug 21, 2022 |
Happy Sunday to you. Sorry I can't post my phone number in public. Thank you, have a great day. Eleyigidgan: 1 Like |
Romance / Re: Is It Possible To Win Back A Wife Who Has Sworn To Make You Suffer. by Estherqueen50(f): 4:33pm On May 23, 2022 |
I am very happy it went well for you sir. Be blessed forever. Mykbillz: 2 Likes |
Romance / Re: Is It Possible To Win Back A Wife Who Has Sworn To Make You Suffer. by Estherqueen50(f): 7:22am On May 23, 2022 |
Good morning. If I understood by your words, she once loved you. If she once loved you she can still be won over( since we are talking about marriage here) You only need to start doing those things you did before to woo or that won her heart. Be humble enough to ask her for forgiveness, If she doesn't respond, involve her mentors or those she holds in high regard. And the last but not the least, seek God and pray to him concerning your marriage " the heart of the king is in the hand of God" And when she forgives you, be delibrate about working on your relationship. And do not dishonor ya marriage anymore. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Family / Re: How Can I Know If This Nairalander Is Married Or Lying To Me? by Estherqueen50(f): 3:14pm On Mar 17, 2022 |
Thank you very much for taking time to explain I think you quite misinterpreted what I said. I wasnt saying that her instinct aint right , cause I believe in the instinct of a woman: I am one myself and I know how accurate it can be most of the time. I was only saying that there is need for communication cause from what I deduced from the post, they just met. I was saying since Its still new why not communicate atleast nobody looses anything from doing that and if he isnt able to convince her otherwise then she can move on. Trust you are having a great day? and once again thank you. Married2Crypto: 1 Like |
Family / Re: How Can I Know If This Nairalander Is Married Or Lying To Me? by Estherqueen50(f): 8:16am On Mar 17, 2022 |
Good morning. Trust you had a goodnight rest? I dont really get what you are saying. please can you explain? Married2Crypto: |
Family / Re: How Can I Know If This Nairalander Is Married Or Lying To Me? by Estherqueen50(f): 4:46pm On Mar 10, 2022 |
I am someone who strongly believes in a woman's sixth sense. But the truth is that they is also need for due diligence too. There should always be room to give people the benefits of doubt, but not in an ignorant way. There is this thing called communication and it's a measure requirement for any healthy relationship. I am of the opinion that after you have done your observation, you should also have communicated your feelings too. Let's take for instance when he asked you what time will be good to call you, you can also ask him the same since you also want to call him sometimes. I believe the problem here is that you have not really gotten to know him as much as is required: that's the confusion. For me, when am in doubt, I take my time to ask questions even if it's not too direct, I also pray for Gods leading and direction I believe assumption won't help you on this unless you ain't really interested in the relationship. I always tell people "assumption is the lowest level of ignorance" So the key word is "Communication" have you expressed all these to him? What was his reaction? And I also do not undermine your sixth sense. You are a woman and I also believe in ya wisdom. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Health / Re: I Am So Depressed. I'm A Chronic Stammerer! Please I Need Your Advice. by Estherqueen50(f): 10:12am On Feb 24, 2022 |
Lol, it's fine. If that's all he has, he is welcome to his lot. Have a great day. Wawelexy: |
Health / Re: I Am So Depressed. I'm A Chronic Stammerer! Please I Need Your Advice. by Estherqueen50(f): 10:06am On Feb 24, 2022 |
Yes I would love to hear the truth. Have a nice day. MufasaLion: 1 Like |
Health / Re: I Am So Depressed. I'm A Chronic Stammerer! Please I Need Your Advice. by Estherqueen50(f): 9:36pm On Feb 23, 2022 |
Good evening, I guess you are bittered because of your what you see as a weakness or disability. It's all good. I remember a time just like you I was also a chronic stamerer, I had to hit my leg on the floor to even utter a single word. But today I talk very fast that people think am rapping. And you know it disappeared And I didn't know how it happened. I only knew I was serving God with so much zeal. Haven't you read that the grace of God is sufficient and His power is made perfect in weakness. You just need to remember this and ignore every other negativity. You might not have supportive parents like I do. But we have a God that loves us even in our weakness and he is the best person to reach out to and tell of your heartaches Stop trying to analyze God and his love. His ways are higher than ours and his thought above ours. He is committed to healing us if we are committed to believing him. He healed me many years ago and I know that what he makes happen to one, he also makes happen to all. Focus on your life, have a plan for your life. I know of people with worse disabilities than yours and they are doing great for themselves and being recognized all over the world Stop making excuses. Start doing the needful. Nothing can limit you unless you let it. Just to let you know, you are loved, you are blessed and highly favored and I believe in you and the progress you will make. 22 Likes 3 Shares |
Romance / Re: My Girlfriend Birthday Post For Her Male Friend by Estherqueen50(f): 8:27am On Feb 12, 2022 |
I deduced from the post that your girlfriend is pretty young but I may be wrong. All I see here are young adults who can't control their emotions. Funny how we Nigerians want to subscribe to the lifestyle of the western world when we don't have the capacity to take everything in The use of endearment for everybody now is now the in things. People now use endearment for even strangers they meet on the way. No more sacredness to it Gentle men/Ladies now use it to confuse their partners and double date. Cause a girl and guy can be using e.g "dearest" ," love" for different people and say they are just friends. First of all, you guys are young ( if I guessed correctly) and are not even ready for a relationship yet. The both of you can't control your emotions. Focus on what is important now, romantic relationship is not one of them. Improve yourself and achieve your goals and if you have done all these already and ready for marriage, you can just prayerful seek for the woman of your dreams. 2 Likes |
Romance / Re: I'm Scared Of Marriage Because Of The Married Women I Dated. by Estherqueen50(f): 7:55am On Feb 01, 2022 |
Your fear is one of the reason God commanded the marriage bed to be undefiled. Because God knows how important trust is needed in a relationship. But because humans are right in our own eyes we do what pleases us. Imagine we have a society everyone waits to get married before they have sex and also stick to one. What bliss! It means one of the major problems of broken homes and marriages wouldn't even exist. You don't need to fear I believe you can start afresh by being delibrate about living a Godly life and also leading your wife and children in that direction. If You and your family becomes genuinely saved then you have nothing to fear. Don't fear so that what you fear will not come upon you. Ask God for mercy for what youve done in your past and invite him into your home. A man is but limited and can fail but with the help of the Holy spirit your marriage can work out. I believe things will work out with Jesus at the centre of it, cause He is the custodian of marriage. Be blessed. 5 Likes 2 Shares |
Romance / Re: I'm A Chronic Womanizer And I Broke My New Year Resolution! Pls I Need Help! by Estherqueen50(f): 11:12pm On Jan 15, 2022 |
New year resolution is just what we say in a passing while being emotional about starting a new year. Change doesn't happen in a day it's a gradual process and that's why you need to forgive yourself for failing. The truth is that no human changes by mere confession, you must be delibrate and and intentional. The scripture says "and Daniel purposed in his heart that he would not defile himself....." And the truth is that Daniel worked so hard to achieve that while still depending on God with constant prayers and the word. No man can change himself in a day, you need help. To achieve this; you need to be accountable for every decision you make, since you have failed why not examine yourself to know when you got it wrong. E.g You can ask yourself, was it when I allowed a girl I've slept with before to come to my house in the first place? With this you can know what to do when such situation comes to play again and then you will be able to change the overall situation. It isn't going to be easy but it will be worth it, just involve Jesus and be determined. Also set boundaries. The scripture says all things are lawful but not all things are expedient.Learn to set boundaries with the opposite sex. It has worked for me all my life and I know with the help of God and your determination it will help you too. Just to let you know, You are loved, you are indispensable, I believe in you. 1 Like |
Romance / Re: My Ex Is Disturbing Me by Estherqueen50(f): 10:59pm On Jan 01, 2022 |
It's funny when I hear that not indulging in fornication makes one a simp. If being a simp will save your soul, why not proudly be a simp which you are not . Because it takes a lot of self control and determination to flee from sexual immorality. But it's so unfortunate this generation got it twisted. Calling real men simps because they choose to be respectful and obedient to Godly principle. Back to your question, taking up such offer is just heading for the part of destruction, you got nothing to benefit from that, except for the pleasure you feel you would derive at the moment and you have a lot to loose. May our destiny never be shortchanged on the altar of temporal pleasure. Have a beautiful year. 2 Likes |
Family / Re: My Parents Are Using Their Lives To Ruin My Future!!! by Estherqueen50(f): 10:02am On Dec 30, 2021 |
I'm sorry to hear this but never regret being born in a family that birthed you. How they live their lives is entirely up to them and how you live your own is up to you. For the fact their marriage is a disaster to you does not mean yours will be. You can from the experience vow to have a loving and blissful home or become like them it's a thing of choice. So you must be delibrate and intentional about your achieving it. With your write-up I presumed you are staying with your parents, I don't know how old you are but for you to be worried about a relationship with the one you love and even marriage in the picture makes me believe you aint a kid or teenager so what are your plans of leaving your parents house. I don't know if I misunderstood but your dad have an issue of proximity. So why not leave your parents house, cater for yourself or are you planning on getting married and still leaving with them? If no, what are your plans. You need to start by being independent and responsible before you start considering marriage. If not just leave the idea and work on yourself. I believe in you and I know the cycle won't repeat itself if you decide to. So really think about this carefully and loom for a way out of the ugly situation. God bless. 1 Like |
Family / Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by Estherqueen50(f): 9:33am On Dec 30, 2021 |
I'm sorry for what you are going through but I can't really fault your husband on this. I see what is happening as a result of not doing the needful in courtship. Courtship is a period of getting to know each other: Your likes, dislikes, wants, needs, expectation should be shared so you will know if you are truly compatible. I can see from your post that raising a family is important to you, if only you have discussed deeply. They are so many things to discuss in courtship e.g financial goals, spiritual goals, and even how to raise your family etc. Since you have stated already that he doesn't listen to his parents, does he have anybody he respects like a mentor, friend etc that can talk to him and see if there can be a balance If so,pray and seek for that person but if he doesn't have, keep praying and ask God for his thought on the matter, if it is his will, let him bless your husband and change his mind. I understand that the present economy of Nigeria is frustrating and he might be considering the hardship of raising a child but you want children so there should be a balance. Marriage is not just about one person but two people. you both deserve to be happy; if just one person is happy that means it isn't love: love isn't selfish. And also don't look down at his plans to get a professional course,( there is nothing wrong with self improvement even you need it) that is not the problem here your priority and his is the problem cause they are different. I pray that divorce will not be the option in this marriage. And for people in courtship always utilise courtship period, don't just go about eating meatpie and ice cream or saying things that don't really matter. Do well to talk your hearts out, share ideas and don't take any of the words you hear for granted thinking he or she is just joking. Words matter. God bless your marriage. 3 Likes |
Romance / Re: My Lady Made A Mess At A Hotel by Estherqueen50(f): 8:11am On Dec 29, 2021 |
I said thank you. Thanks. Heathrow44: |
Romance / Re: Help!! I Have Been Masturbating For 9 Years Now by Estherqueen50(f): 7:16am On Dec 29, 2021 |
Good morning, Yes I'm not perfect Just doing my part by speaking about what I believe and convinced about. I live the rest to the righteous judge. Who is going to enter the kingdom is up to him. Have a blessed day. Heathrow44: |
Romance / Re: My Lady Made A Mess At A Hotel by Estherqueen50(f): 7:13am On Dec 29, 2021 |
Good morning, Thank you And yes that's me Have a nice day.[quote author=Heathrow44 post=108894915][/quote] |
Romance / Re: Lady Refuses To Sleep With Man Who Took Her On Expense Paid Vacation-He Did This by Estherqueen50(f): 8:12pm On Dec 28, 2021 |
I understand your point. Like you said there no crime asking anyone for sex ( that's your belief) On the other hand, my belief is against sex outside marriage. So I think the difference in belief is the problem we have here. So it's fine. � walkingshadow911: |
Romance / Re: Lady Refuses To Sleep With Man Who Took Her On Expense Paid Vacation-He Did This by Estherqueen50(f): 8:05pm On Dec 28, 2021 |
Wow! Just saw this now. I understand you so I cant be hurt by your words. You have spoken based on your experience, believes and mindset. So I it's fine. I only pray we all get to experience and meet great people and most importantly have an encounter with Jesus. Be blessed forever. JohnOkolo: |
Romance / Re: The Problem With Beautiful Women by Estherqueen50(f): 7:59pm On Dec 28, 2021 |
Nope reside in Lagos State. Sorry for the late reply. sageb: |
Romance / Re: My Lady Made A Mess At A Hotel by Estherqueen50(f): 11:29am On Dec 28, 2021 |
I know at this stage you ain't looking for advice but letting out your hurt. It's fine. We all want to have something beautiful and worthwhile with the one we love but the truth is that as far as good things happen, bad things do too. Its just that sometimes we ain't just ready. I thank God you came to know of her reality before you got married. That is the essence of our prayer, that God should break us out of wrong relationships, reveal to us things we never knew about our intended that would have made our lives miserable. So I think God loves you very much to have revealed this to you. But it isn't for you to see everyone as the same or see ya self as someone incapable of Making the right choice. But I will strongly advice that this serve as a lesson to us . We need to be faithful to God first, before we talk about being faithful to others or wanting same from them. He has said flee from fornication and we think it doesn't matter but the truth is if someone can comfortably cheat God with you. Who told you they can't cheat on you with another. Just to remind you " You are loved, you are indispensable, you are perfect, blessed and highly favored. I wish you the best. 81 Likes 7 Shares |
Romance / Re: Have You Ever Felt Like Committing Suicide Before? How Did You Overcome? by Estherqueen50(f): 8:28am On Dec 28, 2021 |
For me I have never tried to commit suicide . Not that I have not gone through any hard time but anytime I pass through difficulties I say to myself "Esther, the same way the good times came and was replaced by the bad times so also this bad times will pass, yes it will pass" And after praying and even shedding tears I get ready for the next big thing. The truth is that they is nothing you are passing through that others haven't experienced but you can win if only you can stop seeing your bad experience and start seeing Jesus and the amazing and beautiful life you want to live. You can be a part of something bigger. Incase no one have told you these" You are loved, indispensable, blessed and highly favored". They all pass, it will pass too |
Romance / Re: I Am Scared To Ask Him When He Wants To Get Married. Help!!! by Estherqueen50(f): 6:59am On Dec 10, 2021 |
The only thing I observed that he doesn't see you in the picture when it comes to marriage even though he is not ready now, even when he is ready you won't be the one. You know one thing about guys, there are so clear about what they want . If they even give you mixed signals it means they don't take you seriously but in this case he is not even giving you mixed signals. He said to you" when I'm married, my wife will be my responsibility" if you were the one he will tell clearly that when he gets married to you, you will be his responsibility. He even asked you if you want to marry as if he doesn't know you love him, he is actually using a reverse psychology on you and applying most of the manipulative ideas he might have learned on you. A guy who loves you will reassure even if it means everyday that they love you not calculating when last he told you so. He just wants to make you crave for it and the truth is that you are already booked. If you just want a casual relationship you want to enjoy for a moment you can choose to continue but I tell you if your goal is that you have seen the man of your dreams then you are mistaken, he doesn't see you as such. He doesn't hate you , neither does he love you, he is attracted to you and you will do for the moment. Learn not to discard warning signals and do the right things that needs to be done in a relationship if you know what I mean. And take out time to position yourself for a person that will love you to come to you. Thank you. God bless. ngoziwrites: 1 Like |
Romance / Re: My Life Is Not In Shape, I Need Help by Estherqueen50(f): 9:54pm On Dec 01, 2021 |
I will start with the title of this "My life is not in shape". The truth is that if something is not in shape we try to fix it to be in shape. Be it our clothes, shoes etc why? Because there is a beauty we need to see. Sometimes things are not in shape in our lives because we ignore it, too lazy to work on it, or we feel like it doesn't matter; like the case of you knowing how much you spend on tramadol daily but refuse to quit because of reason best known to you. It means it doesn't really matter to you. Apart from God we are the most important stakeholder in our own life, all God help us to do is to give us strength and direction when we involve him. You have to examine yourself, intentionally work to put things inorder in your own life. Your girlfriend infidelity is not the problem. You are the problem. The truth is that no mater how smart we play, we attract what we are to ourselves nomatter the deception. I believe in you, I believe you can heal, I believe your life can take shape, you just have to work in letting go of things that are Killing you. Sometimes the truth is that we are already dead even if we are still breathing. I believe you can truly live. Life is not far from you, embrace Jesus, embrace the God kind of life, learn of him, allow him help you win over your addictions and poor choices. You are an Overcomer, thats who you are, tramadol and immorality have no power over you. Go and meet with Jesus. Thank you for sharing and God bless. Omokrireno: |
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