This girl is beautiful naah compared to some I HV seen.

iomoge2:
Stinginess
Double dating.
Thank God I left him

He is still pained and single as duck

I hate this things u just mentioned.
Most people especially guys confuse or rather use the excuse of been conservative for been stingy.
A man who is stingy will always be.

Millenniumlady:
Lesson learnt. Never go to a struggling guys house

Nahh don't share ideas or talk with someone that isn't responsive with your own vision and little conversation.

If she's not a graduate

Dmeji4444:
I am Muslim that wear beards. On that d, interviewer shifted from the major interview and started asking about Boko Haram immediately he checked my name on the CV.

questions like;

What do you know about Boko Haram?

How do you feel if you hear the news about the members of the sect being killed?

I smiled, picked my CV from his desk then walked out.

I think they only wanted to test your emotional and mental state of how your react to stuffs

Suzzi23:
Hi guys. Please I need advice.

There is this guy in my department. Let's call him Joe. He is good looking and very intelligent. He also has this very nice voice and good vocabulary. Initially we were just normal casual classmates, we greet, exchange notes and all that, nothing serious. I've always found him attractive but have not found him special in any way because I've met lots of guys like him in my University.

But few months ago he started becoming more friendly towards me. We got talking and we realized we shared a lot in common. He asked me if I was single and I told him I was. This was the truth because I wasn't dating anyone then.

Few days after another guy I was very close to asked me to be his girlfriend and I agreed. I'm in love with this guy. He is very jovial, intelligent and he knows how to treat me well. I know he loves me because I've known him for a while and he has treated me with love, affection and respect. It's always fun being around him and I enjoy his company.

Despite now being in a relationship, I still continued spending time with Joe. We shared a lot of deep intimate info about ourselves with each other. I have never felt more comfortable talking to someone before. Talking to him always made me feel good. I felt I could be vulnerable with him. He was very honest and didn't hide the dark aspects of himself. He wasn't the type to pretend he was a good person. And he wasn't. He had done a lot of bad things in the past and he wasn't afraid to talk to me about them. And although this might sound weird I liked the fact that he wasn't the typical "moral individual" I was used to meeting. I liked the fact that he had a dark personality that only me knew about. He said things to me that made me begin to explore myself and my sexuality in ways I didn't even imagine that I could. He was always fond of teasing me and never hesitated to correct me if I did anything wrong. I loved that kind of honesty.

As we talked more Joe opened up to me that he was attracted to me and had feelings for me. He would flirt with me and I'd try my best not to flirt back but I enjoyed his flirting and I enjoyed his company. He asked me if I felt the same way about him and I was honest and I said I had feelings for him, because I did. He is an attractive guy and even though I have a boyfriend I can't help being attracted to him..

He then asked me to be his girlfriend and I told him I was already dating someone. He was surprised by my response. He told me he was under the impression that I was single and that's why he had gotten so close and intimate with me. But he didn't appear angry or sad. He even told me my bf was lucky to have me.

The problem now is that since that day he hasn't talked to me. When I see him in class, he doesn't even act like I exist. He doesn't reply my messages, doesn't pick up my calls and doesn't check up on me. Throughout this lockdown he hasn't even texted me once. This is unlike him. I feel very bad about the whole thing. It's almost like our relationship didn't mean anything to him and I didn't mean anything to him. I want to still be friends with him.

sharing something especially secrets very dark is difficult. I can imagine how the dude feels now, its like "I shouldn't have told you so much about me" thats how he feels at the moment cos to him he trusted and loved you.
one more, give hime time he needs time to heal

Expensiverichyb:
@evil1. Thanks for sharing.

Yea. Ur wlc dear

Expensiverichyb:
Honestly, it's so scary reading different stories about marriage, married people online. Most especially nairaland. Does it mean we don't have great marriages that's working here? Why too many nagative stories. It's discouraging.

So, do you think marriage is beautiful, does it worth it or a waste of time?

What area are you pride of for being married?
Are you more happy and fillfied now than when you were single?

What beautiful view can you share with us?

Married people in the house, share with us please.

I'm going to share a long post for you I made, you might try reading it.

What is Marriage ?
Marriage is a union of a man and woman of marriageable age. In Nigeria it is a union for life between not just the intending couples but between two families.

Difference between cohabitation (living under same roof) and been legally married:

Living under the same roof with or without kids but not married either traditionally or legally is cohabitation.
I have seen intending couples cohabiting and even calling themselves husband and wife. Most of them even have kids in the same house. Now to the position of our laws in Nigeria, our law in Nigeria does not recognise or give legal effect to cohabitation. No legal benefits or incidence flowing out of such even though supposed would be marriage. Where a man and a woman have lived together regardless of the length of time as man and wife, there is a rebuttable presumption that they lived together in consequence of a valid marriage.

Our laws relating to husband and wife apply only where a formal marriage exists. Customary law also distinguishes formal marriage from mere cohabitation. One important feature of customary law marriage is the payment of bride price in addition to other ceremonies. Where it is absent, the relationship is regarded as mere friendship to which the law relating to husband and wife does not apply.

Under the traditional system, parties who are cohabiting without marriage are free agents because they are not bound by any of the obligations of marriage. Each part is free to associate with third parties of the opposite sex without evoking any legal sanction. lol.. That means your given free sex and wasting your time


Benefits of getting married legallly:

Because you are living with someone or even pregnant or with kids already for him which I call cohabitation doesn’t mean you are legally married. Anything can happen my dear…. I already explained what cohabitation is and the effect… People often say that if I do white wedding ee don finish or if I do traditional and ee pay my bride price I don marry…. Yes aunty you are half married. Traditional and getting married legally are intertwined, that is they go together somehow.

Someone recently said to me marriage is over exaggerated… I cannot ill myself LOLz … someone said to me Charles should a lady throw herself to any man because she wants to get married ? I tell you yes it is over exaggerated if you see it that way. Been married has created a legal backing and benefit that the both spouses owe each other obligations especially sex anytime and any day any of the couples want it…lol that means if your husband forces himself on you as the wife, my dear forget trying to go to the police to file a complaint of rape because you know why ? in law, a married man cannot rape his wife. Other legal consequences of marriage which cannot be changed by the spouses are prescribed by law and cannot be altered.

They relate to status of the spouses, consortium, the duty of maintenance between the spouses... divison of property, maintenance of spouse or child, legitimacy of a child, custody battles, divorce, sepeartion, alimony, consortium etc all comes along depending on the status of marriage….

I see insecurity from the man, complacency from you the lady, and tryst issues from both of you.
You too need to work on your relationship and if your not on the same line, instead of forcing or trying to make it work leave the relationship my dear.

Acme45:
she's 45 now. Women shouldn't lie with age, if she had told me her real age, definitely i wouldn't have ventured into the marriage in the first place.

Mehhn that's already the age of menopause... If you still want the marriage try IVF. and the doggy position during sex like @ SweetCunt97 mentioned.

Acme45:
I got married in 2014, only for me to discover that my wife is four years older than l ( she lied) it's was when I went for her elder burial i could not believe it ,till date no issue.i ve gone for test twice, the results were 75% and 68% active that is semen analysis. Am considering divorce or is getting a child out wedlock an option. The wedding was@ the registry in Delta state

You can divorce her but its not a good ground for divorce.
There are grounds in law in order to file for divorce and succeed.
I advice you talk to her about it then for that of the child issue you can consult your doctor for medical advice and for possible solutions.

Everything must not be resorted by divorce except you don't live each other anymore and you had it in mind a long time ago.

You can divorce her but its not a good ground for divorce.
There are grounds in law I order to file for divorce and succeed.
I advice you talk to her about it then for that of the child issue you can seek your doctors advice for possible solutions.

Cheating
Lies...lack of trust
Serious health issues.

I agree with your article.
I like divorce cases somehow in practice but its very stressful.
However I would like to add to the fees been paid as it is more than just the three you mentioned.
1. scale fee
2. Appearance fee
3. Contingency fee
4. Consulting fee
5. Hourly fee ..though not used in Nigeria
6. Percentage fee
Etc.

jericco1:
How can they say his death is shocking, the man is 82 years with history of medical complications and going by the way the virus is programmed, it'd take a miracle for him to have recovered! Funnily enough I couldn't get a glimpse of them at the burial, yet the burial site is crowded! He's gone just like anyone else.. there's nothing to be shocked about. He wasn't a superhuman abeg! Allow his soul to rest

When it comes to the death of a politician the country should mourn while everyday, every minute and hour our military men on the front line of endless terrorist attacks are been killed, but they don't show sympathy or even call on the family and Nigerians to pray.

Preshieben:
Akwa ibom isn't Calabar ohh
Anyway
We can't be friends

Gossh I know it's not but they share boundaries

and what's the reason for saying we can't be friends ?

Preshieben:
I prefer men in their Mid or late twentiesfunny
I don't have anything to do with them ohh
I don't date or have sex with them
I just like staying around them
That's all

Dats nice.
I did my service in Calabar shaa. People from that your area are somehow nice.
If its possible for us to be friends on WhatsApp won't be a bad idea u know

Preshieben:
Okay

So am 19 years(tho I'll be 20 on June)
A final year student
I have a partime work which pays very well
So I must say am doing very well all by myself
My problem now is I don't seem to fall in love with any guy
I Know this shouldn't be my worry
But I want to get married at 23 or 24yrs
And I haven't been in any serious relationship before
Am beautiful tho,I respect alot and am a very nice person
I play around when once am in a relationship and often it leads to breakup
I hang out mostly wwith men old enough to be my dad and I enjoy their company
What could be the reason?

N/B; please no one one should come here and call me a kid
Age is just a number

To me as a guy if I see u with older men it turns my green light to black light. Let me ask u,
Do you prefer dating older men or young men of same age grade like still in early 20s ??

NaijadrivaCars:


Imagine, 'evil1' is scared of them?.

Before.... Even the devil is scared

suzzyboss:
most of them are very friendly but I am always scared of them..
Honestly very scared�

And they are very beautiful and well mannered but still an scared of them

Shelloween:
When the day finally comes, I wonder what song you'd be dancing to. As for me.. "Perfect" by "Ed Sheran"

Drop yours.

Same over here, Perfect by Ed sheeran

Preshieben:
uhh

Leave me nahh allow me search for my missing rib

Preshieben:
No one likes and would associate with evil

Don't judge a book by it's cover dear beautiful @ Preshieben

Preshieben:
Do i look like all girls
Better respect yourself
BTW
What sort of moniker is that??

Lol... It's a moniker, guess u like it

Allaboutkatiee:

I'm waiting for him to ask me my hand in relationship
Then we proceed from there

But you are rejecting advances even here on nairaland

mabeni:
thanks but can't we do whatever we should have done after given birth? Heard some people gets married even after given birth to 4 children

So that's your plan eehnn to HV four kids before u think of marrying her. U re a wicked someeeewbody
I really don't like havjng a kid out of wedlock but since u HV d means to take care of them then u should also have the means to pay Bride price and go to marriage registery after the lockdown and seal things up.

My friend take advantage of this lockdown and do the needful.

askakim:
a lady boob's can't be like this at a young age.. the pic is edited

Lolz.. My broda I HV seen several of them. Infact I had a chick DAT had her boobs like Dat during service year.
But sincerely not all girls DAT HV flat boobs was as a result of smooching or wateva. Mist if them are there genes abi hormone factors.

Allaboutkatiee:


I'm waiting for my crush to propose

As in I dont get.
U font have a man in ur life ? Abi u HV but ur waiting for him to propose or abi u don't HV but just want him to come propose..
Wat are we even saying seff...

Preshieben:
Nothing much
Broke up last year November
Not interested in any relationship for now

Na so all the girls dey talk.