sthar:
My husband and I have not had the best relationship. The past two years has been really tough for us, we've had to struggle to make this marriage work. Although we have two kids, My husband talks down on me all the time.

He calls me an ordinary female, a useless creation and believes he owns me. He believes women should not have a freewill and are properties to their husbands. He calls himself my Alpha and omega. I sometimes wish he would hit Me rather than say all sorts to me.
Last week he started as usual. He called me names and Went on to talk about how he would teach me a lesson someday. I really don't know what came over me. I slapped him.

I s.wear it wasn't intentional, I didn't mean to hit him. I thought he would hit me back but he did not. It's been a whole week and he acts like nothing happened. He goes about playing with the kids , he greets me and makes sure we have food to eat too , but it is so unlike him.


My husband always reports to my parents. He tells them everything I do wrong and they always end up calling a meeting. But this time he's silent , he doesn't want sex too which Is so unlike him. I don't know what to do , I feel like he's planning to hurt me really big. I want to call my parents but everyone would blame me. How do I tell the world I slapped my husband?

Men have ego and superiority complex issues. He realized he made a mistake but wouldn't admit it.

Talk to him at night and settle before 12am, talk of the wrongs and rights, he's and your side battels and the problems and possible solutions also try to be romantic druing all these so it would end up in both of you making love. I assure you it will reignite the feelings and work things out.

If he doesn't forgive easily it would be a Little bit difficult or not the communicating type.

However try to do your best. Take the fault and let it slide so your mind can be at rest.

Depends on what you are buying for her or what she is using for the problem. I think from your narration it has gone deep into the skin.

It would definitely go away except it's a birth condition. In order to cure it permanently if it's not a birth condition, since I believe the root cause is deep down the skin so instead of trial and error stuff with creams and soaps, take her to a doctor who's knowledgebale about skin disease and not just some cream like funbact A or and the likes....

Drsnives:

Thanks.
Abeg any suggestion will go s long way to help

anyone between the ages of 25-30 in a relationship not heading or thinking of marriage is a complete waste of time and dating resources.

Stephen2324:
Are you in a relationship that will probably lead to marriage or na knack you dey focused on?

There are stronger medications and lotions for that. It's not a forver thing except she has a medical condition of the skin

Drsnives:
Yes i am but am having 2nd thought cos she has one kind irritating ezima on her neck and have both both medicated soap n lotions for her still the thing is spreading, according to her the ezima is in her blood. I just weak, na so the thing go come spread all over her body, what is she come pass am to my kids nko?
If i get the desired help sharply mid or late next year na to go pay her bride price

UBA girl that sees your account balance


I guess she just wants to be friends plus be your personal accountant now and in the future of all things in your life.

On the other angle, it might just be a harmless hangout trying to make friends so there should be no much feelings or hard thought on top of it.

Jayzel:
I've been dating my beautiful damsel for over 6 years now (2015), she has been financially supportive to me when things were so rough for me untill now things are a bit balance, since when our relationship kickoff we have never fought for once, we do argue most~times and later in the day we settle it inside our bedroom at night, she's so respectful and honest to both me and my family members.

There's a pretty damsel working in a UBA bank close to my residencial area here in Oniru Lekki, when I do return every~day from my working place I do branch at the bank to save some money in my account, the lady is my favourite cashier so I do give her the money and take my leave, so later in the day she will transfer the money into my account without no delay at all. But yesterday she called me on phone that she wanted us to hang out together (today being sunday) that all bills & expenses on her. I'm seriously confused now.

I still love my current girlfriend and i don't wanna hurt her feeling's, plz help out peers.

Breeze111:
Early this year, my babe broke up with me. According to her, she told me there is a man who is asking her hand for marriage and her parent has already giving her the go ahead to marry d man..

She told me the man is rich and promise to buy her car, bla-bka-bla so I told her there is no problem, she can go ahead since am not ready yet after all am just a shoe-maker still waiting for my NYSC...

Bt of lately like last two weeks this babe started disturbing me that we should come and she is sorry... Well I don't know how she get to know that my mum lent me 600k to start up, of wish am doing well now by his "Grace" and at the same time serving my country presently...

So according to her, she say the man just only wanted to sleep with her and because she refuse and told the man to wait till after their wedding the man broke up with her...as it stands now I don't really know what to do...

Bro aside material stuffs ask yourself is she worth it, does she tick those important boxes whether she left and came back or not. If she fits in to your demand and hers too, take her back. Forget all this fyck her and disappoint her later advice....

Womenarw generally under pressure when it comes to marriage.

No 11 got me.

Having such a great partner you both would never be tired of is the prayer of every one like me.

Ex is a red flag for me
Anything Ex is a big "NO" for me.
A scar that cannot be forgetten.

blessingchinny:
That a relationship has come to end doesn't mean you should become an enemy to your ex. You can be friends.

But when you discover that the friendship is going out of boundary, try as much as possible to cut off.

Yes I say block him, if you can't control the feelings.
The truth is that you can't be friends with an ex when you are still hurting. You are only putting on flames of fire you may not be able to quench when the heat becomes intense.

So when is the proper time to reconnect with an ex as friends after a break up?

When you've moved on. ( making sure there are no more feelings attached).

When you are happily married or in a relationship with another. ( note the word) " happily. Not forcing yourself in a relationship to forget about him/ her. Once you've moved on, love will certainly find you naturally.

I don't know why you Igbos have this crazy mentality of her coming from your place and first son bullshit. Move on society won't wait for you guys to eradicate your idea about ethnicity.

Frankly speaking, to me you guys are financially good hence no need for third party opinions. And even if you weren't okay financially I would still tell you, third party opinion is bullshit. They are just waiting for your downfall of one way or another to laugh at your sorry had I known face.

So the point is, Sort yourself out nigga.

AmericanDad:
Hey guys, I just found out my colleague at work iv been sleeping with is pregnant. We were'nt dating tho we were just having fun together. We both came into the organization the same time and we earn very well like well above 500k per month. I'm 33 and she's 28. Shes having double mind about it and thinking of abortion but I told her No. Her reason is what will our colleagues say and how her family will react to her being pregnant out of wedlock.

The issue is she's from calabar and I'm from anambra. I'm the only son of my parents. Iv not told my folks yet but they definately would prefer me to marry an igbo girl. Also guys, we have started talking marriage plans but now that she's pregnant can the church wed us? or should I just do Traditional and court then after the baby is born I do white wedding Time is ticking oo.

Aswear you just said my mind.
Justice Mary Odili is next in line bit she won't get to the CJN because she's due for retirement and except the Bill to extend their retirement passes through, she gets to stay even at that she won't get to be CJN because seniors the present CJN by age.

The only reason she will be CJN is if PDP comes onboard and removes Justice Tanko then she might as well be the CJN in 2024.

So the plot is to remove her before the next presidential and General elections. She's a torn in their flesh whether as potential CJN or not. As long as she's the next most senior and very influential plus her husbands role, forget it they will try so hard to pull her out.

Finally, remember the new Justices of the SC are all elevated from the CA immediately after their role at the previous election petition matters.

Christistruth00:



If NBA disbar him or Suspend his licence Malami will be retired before Odili

tunjilee003:
Most of my friends who are not schooling are into fraud, while chatting with them, they will always tell me i'm wasting my time and resources.... This always make me depressed.... I'm tired and don't know what to do....

You can get all you want from yahoo. But the thing is how long would you consider doing yahoo to sustain you for life ?

You can never compare real hustle money especially when you have a certificate to an illegal gotten money.

Let's say someone decides to empower you one day with a good job and you have maybe a safety training certificate or probably you joined the Nigerian Army as a recruit, you can't go far in career with such level of certificate or knowledge especially if you aim to reach superior levels.

In all, focus on your studies whether your parents are paying for you or not. And still, instead of doing Yahoo alongside, learn tech stuffs. By the time you are are done, you would build Saas products and earn more.

I wish someone advised me like this back then when I was in school

KingAzubuike:
In Nigeria, prostitution is a far better option than being jobless or being a house wife. Prostitutes are really trying, they collect all sizes of dick everyday yet get compensated with peanuts. Without them there would have been severe cases of rape and child molestation in Nigeria. They really deserve more than this and shouldn't be given societal stigmatization.

Our environment, economy, politiçal atmosphere and there's is way different. These ladies have aspirations, they add value, they have something better than sex to offer. Can you imagine the innovative ideas on that post, career path. Its nothing compared to a Nigerian prostitute.

An average Nigerian girl thinks of being or marrying a rich guy to house her problem. Only few of them think of elevating beyond prostitution.

Imagine a Nigerian girl who decides to leave Nigeria to US or Italy for greener pastures, but all what is on her mind is grabbing a white nigga to get papers, starting prostitution on a whole new level when she arrives there.

The whole idea of them and ours are way different.

Please call it off for your sanity and mental health.

Forget what people would say. There is absolutely no shame in saying NO now than living in a marriage full of regrets and enduring pain.
Marriage ought to be a thing of love and enjoyment and not one to be lived alongside by pain and fear creating uneccessary future occurence like the most recent trend around (child paternity fraud).

Warrior14:
I will be getting married in 3 weeks time but I'm not happy
I'm getting married to a man who has beaten me two different times. I'm getting married to a man who is heartless and doesn't know how to love and treat a woman right. I'm getting married to a man who does not have a mind of his own.

I'm getting married but I'm already thinking of divorce.

I'm overwhelmed! I'm physically strong but I'm weak.
Just don't want to wake up from my sleep so I won't have to continue with this marriage plans as I can't stand the shame of calling off the marriage at this time.

Jayzx:
My girlfriend/fiancee just showed me the blood genotype result. I am actually AS and I insisted she do her own too which later revealed she is AS too. We so much love each other but I think that will be the end. Or guys, please let me know if there is any solution

Forget love for now and think straight.

For the sake of your kids, end the relationship

I like your observation and opinion. But for fairness, I think everybody no the matter age
Should be given a chance.


My only issue with employers is the unrealistic qualification requirements. Imagine looking for someone young but yet put an age limit and a 7 years working experience.
Like in my industry they even specify that you must have 3-5 years post call plus must have worked in a big known commercial firm. In addition they top it up with for e.g must hsve worked 3 years in banking sector, 4 years in commercial practice. Like seriously who does that ?
Its annoying.

kingthreat:
This is my special appeal to those who are employers of labour, and human resource officers in charge of recruiting staff in companies.
Please give more employment priority to men of 28 years and older especially the married men.

After that, you can now give preference to single mothers, married females, the younger men and women.

I am saying this because as we speak, families are breaking up. Many men that are dependent on salary income have lost their roles in families.

They cannot foot the bills of providing food, paying rent, fees, etc and their families are being shattered.
I got a call last night from a relative who has been unemployed since the covid19 but his lucky wife whose job was not affected is presently keeping late nights, starving him of sex and he cannot say nada because she is the one taking care of 80% of the bills.

Or is it my senior in secondary school presently in his 40s whose wife left him with their 2 daughters and is flirting with big boys in Abuja who gave her apartment and takes care of her bills?

Mind you, these men are not lazy. If given work, they are ready to put in 120% of time to feed their families but the employment system is frustrating them. They cannot keep submitting CVs to companies giving more priorities to women and the younger folk.

Save a family today.

If everyone rejects teaching job, I bet you that you won't see someone to teach your kids or even teach you that programming skills you are learning via YouTube. Teaching someone programming is one of the hardest not to even mention blogging via a drag and drop builder.

Teaching isn't a bad thing, its just the pay and I tell you that even people who studied professional courses with the mindset that they would see a good paying job on completion, end up in the same dilemma.

For example, people see doctors as rich or persons that are well to do. My dear until you enter the real life practice then you will know as it is now in Nigeria and the world, its Survival we all are fighting for. Only people that work for government agencies and parastatals are sure of a stable income and secured job.

One of those reasons I look forward to building my own company from scratch and investing is the idea if not working for someone and the day I out perform or even become unproductive, I will be laid off at the slightest opportunity.

I'm not good at tech, but I have improved over the days at a very snail speed. If not for my gf, I even forgot I had a personal skill.

Finally, Tech takes time and patience. You have to learn, unlearn, build and sell to the right market.

Spark2:
Hi guys,
I trust this meets you well?
I am 25 years old, I'd soon be 26.
I'm a graduate, I served in Kano and stayed back after service doing a teaching job. I am paid 35, 000 naira per month. The 35k finishes on transportation and feeding even before the month ends.

I started learning a skill in tech about a year and half ago, I've gained some confidence already in web development, I can call my self a Front-End Developer now with some knowledge of back end development... I have made up my mind to keep learning everyday. I have a dream of going fully into tech and at this point in my life, I need a job that will offer me the opportunity to learn what I'm personally interested in. I want to work in a team that will help me to grow, not a teaching job where I am overworked and get home tired everyday and have little time to code.

After sitting and considering all these, I made up my mind to resign my teaching Job by the end of December. I'm going back to my hometown (a state in the North central) where I hope to go down to Abuja in search of a better life or better still if I get one in my state.

The thing is that I'd need to take this bold step now while I'm still a bachelor before I get married and unable to.

I understand that it is a hard decision to take, but if I let fear hold me down here, Many years will pass and I will be here held by fear. A colleague shared his story with me, that he was afraid of leaving and for him, it's 11 years now teaching and he is still struggling. He's married and it's now difficult to take any step as such.

I need advice, if possible share your experiences so that I will learn.

Thank you very much

If everyone rejects teaching job, I bet you that you won't see someone to teach your kids or even teach you that programming skills you are learning via YouTube. Teaching someone programming is one of the hardest not to even mention blogging via a drag and drop builder.

Teaching isn't a bad thing, its just the pay and I tell you that even people who studied professional courses with the mindset that they would see a good paying job on completion, end up in the same dilemma.

For example, people see doctors as rich or persons that are well to do. My dear until you enter the real life practice then you will know as it is now in Nigeria and the world, its Survival we all are fighting for. Only people that work for government agencies and parastatals are sure of a stable income and secured job.

One of those reasons I look forward to building my own company from scratch and investing is the idea of working for someone and the day I out perform or even become unproductive I will be laid off at the slightest opportunity.

I'm not good at tech, but I have improved over the years at a snail speed. If not for my gf, I even forgot I had a personal skill.

Finally, Tech takes time and patience. You have to learn, unlearn, build and sell to the right market.

Get a good skill preferrable tech skill.

improve on yourself.

Add value and seek for growth

Apply for jobs like its your first time no matter the rejection mails you get.

Do a follow up.

McSaviour:
I don’t know why I born in to this evil country!

My new uniform. It was so painful I had to steal another persons own.

This same thing happened to me in 2018. Thank God I'm tech savvy if not I would have fallen.

Like people actually sit down, compose messages, so patient even for years hoping one day their prey will fall into their net.

Ritzybeauty:
Nobody is perfect, there are better ways to work on relationships rather than being judgemental at first, you just exhibited number one killer of creating relationships with people

Everyone who has gone into a relationship has had their fair share. Even in marriages these things happen.
He's probably still hurt from his experience and shows similar traits as posted by himself.

Maybe he should add the unforgiving and never letting go typebof persons to avoid

sarrki:
Oboy too much stress I think

Stress is much on him plus political enemies who must have slipped something into his drink.

Olivertwist1985:
My wife which we have been married for the past thirteen (13) years and have five(5) children, four boys and girl for me ,just left my house on Sunday to her parent house without informed me.

She left because we have little disagreement about monthly food allowance which I used to give her every month but I failed to give her this month when she requested for

She left with the girl which is six months old and a boy two years and left three boys for me.

Please I need your advice, should I go and beg her or I should forget about her and continue with my life. According to my family members, they said I should forget about her because of the manner she left.

I wouldn't believe this your story. Its incomplete.

What issues led to her moving out ?
Previous quarrels or issues ?
Have you ever left them to be in hunger ?
What's ur side of the story and her own side ?
There are lots of why and when and how questions yet to be answered?

One last thing, settle with her don't bring your family or hers or social media advice into it. You both should have a consensus. I tell you its the best solution.

The screenshot, please which ad centre dashboard is bad ?
Please how do i monetize my traffic, which platform to use for running ads and monetizing my cpc

i spend money on FB ads, get organic traffic and more but no results.

I use shortlinks but the popups are too much and not all monetize.

Please whats the way forward to monetize my traffic and my ads.
I don't run Google adsense though because I'm not running a blog or a content driven platform. Its more like a business website.

damilola4162:


Hello brother, we are in this problem togther, C.P.C most times i get 0.03 as against 0.10, 0.15 in March, April, May.

I think it is general, except you are gwttimg traffic from first tire countries like, US, UK, Canda, etc.

My suggestion

Buy facebook page, promote your content to first tire countries I mentioned above.

Truth be told Canada is far better than Nigeria. If you get a job there hopefully my brother forget it, you can pay that money within a short time frame. If it was UK would have said don't go. But since its Canada, my brother if truly you're a hustler, take the dammn opportunity.

Make new friends, get new foreign contacts, form love with a white lady...

Chuky7:
Last time I did it I didn't want to step in a hotel with my Barney so I just did the do in the car she climb on top you know the rest.

Ever tried that

Yes sure man
But there's a but....
My car has never being the same from one mechanic to another.
I thought it was a joke until I used another car and tried same car sex.
Mehn the next day I spent 15k to fix one small problem that wasn't there before.

Car sex is bad

Not all companies or firms you apply to.
Some it's through the email heading I get go know the company if it wasn't stated on the mail.
Some actually give a call or a day notice to my interview. My last two was fixed on a Friday and Saturday. For the Friday interview, they called that very Friday morning me and another one gave me an early invite about 4 days early invite.

As long as you stay within their reach they believe they could call you at any time to show up.

Employers in Nigeria currently feel they are the ones doing you a favour whereas you are the one working your ass off and driving the revenue to the business.

harmargedon:
no one said the address was fake, but there is no company that would send you an interview invitation without their name on it or give you few days notice. And that address doesn't look legit.

Very nice... I agree to the above analysis and submissions

Rubbish mentality.

Appreciate successful women and don't cloud your native mentality with sentimental inferences.

Ceenachi:
A man and a woman can never become equal, no matter how you intellectually sugar coat it in the funny name of feminists or feminism.

There are different social gender responsibilities, and even in our biological defined, and the man is always being reference as the lord.

The word feminism should be properly redefined to avoid it's usage abuse by this younger generation of women.

No matter you put it Man will always be a Man, he's created first before a Woman was created after several years of Man existence
Even God is not a God of confusion that made Man the head of the Family..

It might be your engine sitter. Maybe one of them is broken or maybe your plugs are dirty.
Check both the engine sitters and the plugs.

Ayoslimzy:
I bought a fairly used lexus ES350 2007 almost a year ago and it’s been running fine except from some few electrical issues which are easily fix
But day before yesterday my friend ask for my battery to start his car
I gave him the battery and he use it to start his car
And since then when I fix the battery back and start my car I noticed my car vibrates a lot
From the steering to the seats when it’s moving or not
Pls car guru what should I do
Is it an urgent matter I should solve cause I’m currently out of funds
Just managing

Thanks In advance

I don't subscribe to divorce except on grounds of extreme adultery or irreconcilliable differences beyond control. However, if your case doesn't fall into these, sit your husband down and you guys should discuss.

I'm not married but I have learnt a lot from people and marriages like yours.
Being with one partner is not a joke and it takes the grace of God to put a house together.

My grand parents have being maried for over 50years. They built together, travelled together, went places together whether business meeting or of any kind.

My advice is you should talk with your husband and you guys should explore in both intimacy and stuffs like family vacation and hanging out, it will help rebuild the love and create memories.

Zuchey91:
I need matured inputs please.

I am a married woman, with a child.

My Marriage has been really rocky. Quarrels every now and then.

What basically causes the problems is our differences, we just don’t understand each other, it wasn’t so visible during dating.

Although we did not date for long....but being married, it has been from one issue to the other, right from a week after our wedding.

I have always contemplated leaving, but I am yet to be fully independent.

Sometime this year, I found out he has been cheating (I was not surprised, but I was heart-broken) my discovery strengthened my resolve to leave the union.

In the process of nursing my heartbreak, I reconnected with an ex, we got talking and he helped my heal. I did not tell him what I was going through at the time...I was just enjoying the attention he was showing me.

I should state that I did not tell my husband about his cheating, I held all the emotions back, it was a very difficult period for me because I am usually the outspoken type.

My ex is not based in the country where me and my husband reside, we just communicate on phone, he says he misses me and would want us to meet when he is in town.

I should also state that my ex was married but divorced.

I would not deny my having feelings for my ex, and I also do not want to believe in a fairytale ending, I am just confused.