One of those moments I sat down and had a deep thought of so many things, I reasoned my level of pay as at now that even if I worked for 5 years at my current job, I would strugle harder than I used to just to afford accomodation, remain unmarried and that is if I put in my fee as hope. Secondly the value I wanted to add to my current place is not appreciated nor welcoming.

I can't be having a timeline for myself for settling down, and I'm been held back because I want to gain experience. I'm not getting young, in my late twenties already.

I changed three jobs in less than a year, worked in a law firm with 7k as a fee I earned just my two weeks in the firm which I had to drag with my princiapl, worked in a hospital for months with no pay and did a database and other tech stuffs someone else will charge thousands, I did all these for free and I earned a toatl of 20k for the hospital I worked in for about 4 months plus my legal and tech skills. Now about to be on my fourt job within the brackets of alomost a year with a better pay. I wont stop changing jobs even if its a thousand jobs until I'm been paid well and knowing I add value at my place of work.

One of those annoying syndromes about my profession aslo is that they tell you to learn and work while you work under pressure, drafting taking about 70% of your time and brain. I have been to some seminars and conferences and hear senior members of seniors of my profession bash members who are seeking for a job or selling themselves to clients for a better job or too interested in the pay. I find it annoying how they laugh at others and try to make it look like its against our professional ethics to scout for a job or sewek better pay.

funny thing is that my profession pays far below minimun wage in this country we live in, except you are in a company or a corporate law firm of which I'm moving into very soon.

So I still say even though I have an 80% chance of the current job I'm moving into, I'm still open to high paying jobs as a lawyer, digital and Tech lawyer included to my curriculum and personal skills.
Send me an email if you have a business offer, job or anything. I'm available.

Congratulations ooo

I'm on sex leave till maybe next year when I say I do.

Shaa don't kill yourself for woman oo

God forbid say man die untop woman

Me an my partner have begun the process of searching for a good name for our kids before we settle down.

Me an my partner have begun the process of searching for a good name for our kids before we settle down.

Right now I think I'm in between.

More of the calm type than I used to be.

I guess its part of age, environmental change factors or something like maturity.

Its very 100% possible.
Seen it play out before

This one pass Law School question oooo

Adetomi01:
My friends younger brother Donald lived a rough life, got some unexplainable wealth and died intestate last 3weeks, Theo my friend is the eldest son of the family and was not in good terms with Donald for a long time even before his death due to his Lavish and shady life style.

2weeks after Donald's death, a lady who had 2 children for him but was never introduced as a wife to the family decides to take legal action against Donald's siblings in respect to his property. She put up petition against all the sons in the Family for "FRADULENT CONVERSATION OF PROPERTY", no one has touched the property yet, even the deceased mother is yet to be aware of the Sons death as I type this, but the deceased father is late.

in regards to the petition Police invited Theo to defend himself, the petition was not attended to on the day he appeared and he ended up parting with enormous sum for Bail to avoid being detained till they have time to attend to the issue (it was a delay tactic obviously for the bail money. trust Nigeria police). On the day they reappeared, the police hear the case and discovered it's all for the property and that Theo isn't really connected nor interested in any of the property, he also made his intentions known of having no Interest in the deceased life nor property, he's neither interested in accepting any child nor the lady who dragged him to station.
THE police suggest that they should go home and settle and formally accept the lady and her kids out of God's love and return with family resolution in 2days time but Theo is bittered because of the false accusations, embarrassment, waste of funds and time at the station on matter he knew nothing about. He's not interested in having any resolution meeting, nor anything that has to do with Donald's property, nor the lady nor the kids... He is not ready to go back to the station.
Now, someone informed him that the lady threatens to go to court

The questions are:

1. Can court force anyone to take responsibility of children that doesn't belong to them? Or is it the responsibility of eldest son to accept other siblings wife?

2. What can Theo do is such case as this? Sincerely, He has never shown interest in Donald's property nor is he interested now, he just want to live on his own and in peace.
He's a hustling young man who doesn't have enough to spare for court case.

3. If she eventually goes to court as threatened, and Theo fails to Honor court summons, what will happen?

4. What can she sue for here

All the properties in question are already in police custody now .
The lady had children for other men previously, and she seems to have a lawyer BF who's fronting for her wanting to impose herself on Theo.
The lady in question was not legally married to Donald, neither was she at any time introduced to Theo as a wife nor baby mama while Donald was alive, as far as the family is concerned, Donald was not yet married before he died.

easybuy is the worst
those guys stole 8k funds from a direct family of mine and still came up with different amounts from different agents that he's owing. today they will say 58k tomorrow it will be 15k. meanwhile the dude has cleared the debt.

dhoncesar:
Most of them are owned by most of our politicians. This I have checked and confirmed. ... This is this other app that loans money and they have another name called easyby which you can buy phones and electronics and pay small small. They re all scam. Your bvn is at stake .

Eady credit
9credit
LCredit
Fairmoney
renmoney
Fast money
Are all fraudulent schemes that should not be allowed to exist.
Its negative output an consequences outweighs its positive effect and rational for existing.

Hence they should be scrapped off from the financial system.

They cause more hardship, fiancial burden and more depression than the original situation

God no go let of man die on top women oo

Them plenty Shaa.. but for the dating 8 plus my current.

Aswear i Don tire

Polygamy starts from a cheating spouse before you know it when the wife allows the man in a situation whereby he admits to mistakenly having a child outside, that's the full beginning of polygamy.
The kids are affected more in this scheme of marital events.

Therefore I won't advice anyone to cheat on his wife nor even think of marrying several wifes.

Anytime cum or she cum all of us rest.

Can't kill myself.

Run to live to fight another day

Real Love never do u before nai make

Educationalserv:
U be simp .she scopping you we called it soft landing make u no retaliate. a richer guy came in the she grap the oppurtunity.

Don't worry you will be fine.
Shits happen in life

I'm not a fan of this but it happens and it has happened. The scar will be there but just know she's a victim and her vulnerable moment was taken advantage of.
She already feels remorseful so just live happily with her especially if she's a good wife material. But if you can't, for peace and sanity of her mind please leave the relationship let it not be that a baby is what is keeping you guys together without love.

Wahala no dey finish

By the Grace of God next year 28 years of age

Na wahhh

One of my greatest fears.

I just prefer she tells me its over and block me from viewing the status on the day she uploads her marriage pictures especially if its weeks after our breakup because the hate, jealousy, anger ...
Only God knows I might just give up on so many things in a relationship

forget it bros... No matter the situation you were a semi gay now turned full time official gay member

28 years 2022. I so much pray and hope for it.....

Heathrow44:



Jealous by labyrinth
Skinny love


Omo u people just reminded me of two songs I've been trying t remember


Op just take this two songs above and dont get an overdose of breakup songs that would lead t depression, btw at this age nobody cries about love, especially about Nigerian girls ain't worth it, Go get showered up, and go out or travel, u meet new friends, nobody's too special for u! Though I admit there re some people that come into ur life and u find hard t let go, but is a pathetic and condescending thing going about crying and begging for love, learn t be emotionally strong and be someone that can sustain a major loss without collapsing, only cry at a funeral for ur loved ones, no women deserves to see ur tears OK!

That one na for u oo

The one I'm dating now deserves not only my love but tears. Call me a simp if u want to but i I must say I HV found peace.

tunapawizzy:

This person wants u to commit suicide

Lol

Its the perfect song for breakup

sorry man.

You will get over it anyway.
Makes me remember one of hardest breakups
Always tell my self this my present relationship is my last date. Will do anything to keep it except I have to let go for certain reasonable reasons.
After this one no more relationship bro just Bleep n have fun till maybe I decide to have a baby mama.

Anyway, I already recommended Let her go by passenger and
Photograph by Ed Sheeran if you want to cry a little

Stephen2324:
Please which song can you recommend for someone with fresh heartbreak?

Let her go by Passenger
Jealous by Labrinth

In my project at the University, I wrote about crimes such as rape, I included the fact that men are also rape but are rarely talked about or even heard.
I drew a little inference from the ongoings in prison facilities because I saw that consent isn't required in such places.

Money is the ultimate goal

Aswear.

Its the most difficult process in practice

YelloweWest:

After handling divorce cases, I dumped litigation! Nothing is worth the destruction of my mental well-being.

If you both have an understanding then its settled

On the implication of raising a kid by just one parent affects the child more especially if a female child.
Because of the kind of system we live in, a child raised by a single parent especially from a broken home comes along some emotional and pschological effects.

foreman:


Thanks. I would say my case is not so troublesome. We kind of have mutual understanding on who takes care of what.

I am just trying to decide whether to take some of the children or not because I know I don't have time to take care of them. Yet I need to know the implication of a woman raising kids alone.

Let me tell you few things as a lawyer

Divorce is one hell of a process. Even the lawyer handling such matrimonial causes have to be very strong emotionally, if not it might affect him/her emotionally and pschologically. This is because emotions are put into play not just by the parties but also their respective counsel.

on the other hand, the divorce process is a very lengthy one and as such you should be prepared both emotionaly and financially.

Things you should consider are
1 Children and their custody (If the marriage is already blessed with one)
2 Property acquired within the marriage
3 Maintenance fee if it arises
4 Alternative Dispute Resolution ( court wil try as much as possible for you both to reconcile before even hearing your divorce petition).
5 The type of marriage you both underwent (Customary/traditional or Statutory marriage or the both).

Other matters will follow when the process is on

foreman:
I am about to get divorced. Just wanted have an idea from people who have experience.

Are there things you wish you did differently?

Unical ought to be taken to court.
at least pay for damages

Jmkzb:
I was once married to this woman whom I had 2 kids with unfortunately we lost our first born at birth and we had only one child left.

She completly changed after the birth of our daughter, she started drinking and coming home late. Her parents were tired and ashamed of her attitudes but she didn't listened to them when they tried to advise her.

After a few years she becomes pregnant again, I knew from the bottom of my hart that I was not responsible for her pregnancy but because I loved her so much and I didn't want a broken home for our daughter because I am a product or a broken home, I have suffered all my life because my parents were busy with their new family while I suffered alone in relatives houses and I didn't want my daughter to become a victim so my prater was if I am responsible for her pregnancy, she will give birth peacefully and if I am not she will suffer during labour and the child must not leave.

God really answered my prayers because I was innocent and she really suffered during labour as death was knocking on her door, she confess that I wasn't responsible for the pregnancy and at the end the child didn't survived.

I told her not to worry that I have forgave her for the sake of our daughter, I paid all the hospital expenses and we went home. We were living fine and I have never for once I suited her or reminded her of what she did to me, but just 2 months after she left with our daughter and went back to her parents. I followed her to her parents begging her to come home but she refused becuase her guilty conscious couldn't allow her to stay in the marriage again but I promise to always be there for our daughter.

It is been 7 years since our separation and I have been paying maintance for my daughter but I had to stop 2 years ago because I have found out that she lied to me about a lot of things. She told me her school fee was 55k per trimester, I was sending her 25k monthly for chime upkeep plus her school fees but I later found out that her echo fee was only 33k per simester and she use the rest of the money to pay for her other son she had with another man.

I wasn't happy that I told her I will never pay for another man child that I want to have custody of my daughter but she refused.

So I haven't send her any kobo neither saw the child for the past 2 years because she won't allow me have contact because I am not paying for her upkeep. I would like to know if is possible for me to take her to court for the custody of my daughter because I don't want her to grow up under her care because she will turn up bad like her mother. Also I will not send her any money again as long she is still staying with her mother. she is 11 this July.

I can't give you full legal advice here.

I will give you on pro bono servvice

you can contact me if you wish to