Your assertions are not totally true

A woman can be the rise and the fall of an empire.

Marry the right one and you could grow rich or wealthier or still you could even die at your doing

marry the wrong one and be so relaxed, my dear absolute doom is the only result.

Same thing for a woman who maries the wrong man. It typically applies to every gender

TheGidRedpiller:
I believe this thread will also shed light on the the reason why most inlaws suspect the wives first for the death of their sons/brothers.
I remember the last time i made reference to DON JAZZY in one of my threads, he is the true redpill/mgtow role model not because he is not married but because he was wise enough to figure it out in the early ages!

I'm over 80% sure that if he had gotten married in the "Kokolet" era, he wouldn't be here today, YES! I mean he would have been dead by now and by dead i mean, we probably even wouldn't have heard the legendary "Doro Bucci" .

Back to the main topic of the day; WOMEN DRAIN YOU TO NOTHING LIKE SLOW POISON!!
I'm pretty sure every extended family household that has one of their sons as a married man would have in many occasions have to resolves the marital issues with their son and his wife!! This is a fact.

Women bring nothing more than emotional degradation, psychological torture and financial depletion in your way i can assure you

Still Typing...

Truth is marriage is scary and still sweet but to me I feel shes's not ready for marriage bro....

don't force or beg for love

Just move on slowly with her give her a timeline in your heart if no changes leave the relationship

Thank You
people just quoute rubbish just to dissuade others and make some persons feel like they can't make heaven.
They are so judgmental especially when it comes to topic like this.

As for me I will encourage sex before marriage at any time even if it was my child.
Sex is one thing that can keep or break a marriage not even love or tolerance.
if two partners are not sexually compatible, my dear forget it that other partner will look for a solution hence cheating and adultery which is not even allowed in our christian doctrine.

omoolokunEsin:
Please, leave sex out of the Category of sin. There are worse sins in the Bible. If sex were such a big sin as people often emphasise, God wouldn't have permitted it! Or was it Sex that caused Adam and his wife Eve expulsion from God's presence?

very true but not just one sided but its both

mariahAngel:
Wow!

Sometimes, we never really know how much we love someone (and how far we can go for them) until we’re suddenly faced with the fear of losing that person.
If I were you op, I’d totally be devoted to her.

I told someone recently that the love of a woman is a powerful and protective shield ( for her husband especially), but when you betray that love, you’d only be destroying yourself.
That is why it never ends well for unfaithful men.
When you cheat and hurt a woman who loves and is devoted to you, you’d only be hurting yourself.

livette:
In my first relationship, it happened. Dating without cheating is not easy. Marriage without cheating is not easy, but all is possible. Even those who don't cheat in marriage probably cheated in courtship or few days to wedding. Though we have many who didn't cheat in courtship and in marriage. It is not easy being faithful in this porous generation with lots of distractions and social media communication.

Anyone who has dated severally without cheating?

Few plus my current

So hard but worth it

That baby mama of a thing scares me

What scares me most is having different kids from different women

I have being in situations that made me have thoughts of going into Yahoo, sleeping with a woman married or even sugar mummy or habing a one night Stand with any Lady.
If not for self discipline and principle I would have taking in offers.

At your Lowest point in life you become so vulnerable that anyone can take advantage of you.
Only if you know what ladies pass through in this life especially when they have no helper you will weep

One if those things I don't want to waste any girls time If she's not ready for real stuff.

Shaa If her confession is going to become a scar during marriage, let her go now.

tgmservice:
Hi Nairalanders
There is this girl I meet in my church very beautiful and well-behaved.

We got to know each other better and developed a likeness for each other and along the line.

As our feeling where growing, she told me an ugly truth about her self how she used to date a Yahoo boy back in school.

She said the yahoo boy gave her all the luxury she needed in life, including the latest gadgets and fashion wears.

She was one of the big girls on campus but deep down the yahoo guy did not have any regard for her as he only used her as a sex tool.
She said sometimes before he sleeps with he robs some strange ointment on his penis and she felt it was fetish.

She also told me that her boyfriend and his yahoo friends usually have group sex with her, it began to impact on her life and physical health negatively that she finally had to take the bold step and leave the relationship and even dropped out from school.

Though now she is doing well and self-employed as she is into hair business.

She said she told me this not to hide anything from me and she really likes me, I really like the girl and thinking of marrying her.
But after revealing her life story is it advisable I still go ahead with the relation?

Vision101:
Let us gather and confess for once. Daughters of Eve don't run away ooo.

Have you cheated on your partner and how many times?

The latest time I cheated was some 16 years ago. I was always telling lies of late meetings, travels etc. Like every other sin, to cheat is sweet to the flesh but bitter to the soul.

For big boys, to cheat is very expensive - comfortable hotel in secluded places, drinks, food, gifts etc.

Yes

The thought still anmoys me whenever it flahses through my mind

Wasn't just worth it at all.

Their are two sides to this issue

I have had avfair share of this.
Now one of the sides to the issue of a lady or woman helping her man whether in marriage or normal relationship, to most men it might actually help to be a form of motivation to work hard.

But some do it to massage their mans ego and hence he becomes so lazy and used to the woman giving or providing. These ones are on a different level.

I had a relationship where the girl in fact up till today she doesn't give, especially after one of her relationship that her man took advantage and was using her ATM to withdraw cash at will.

Well for me I can't be with someone that is not open to giving whether with me or not.

Well whether its a made up story or not...
I have listened and heard from married couples of similar sex issues.

I'm always of the opinion of pre-marital sex especially if she's not a virgin.

Making love and satisfyinf ur partner is now a major cause of broken homes.

It all depends in individual perspective.

Some like it older while some like it much younger while some like it in between age grade.
For me I prefer someone within my age bracket

obembet:
Sometimes I wonder if woman have different body that makes some men leave thier beautiful and good wife for another lady outside. The issue of extramarital affair has lead many men into early death and destroyed many homes.

Most of this men promise heaven and Earth before their wife consider them among other suitors but still pay the wife back with one side Chick.

The case of Super TV CEO and Nigerian billionaire Michael Usifo Ataga is a big case study which I keep thinking how can a man be that bless with that kind of beautiful wife and still looking for one small girl outside, the wife is more preetier than the small girl which lead to his death.

Most men abandoned thier home for one girl that doesn't worth thier wife maid.

So this is what I keep asking my self what exactly do men want and is there any way to please them?

What exactly could lead a man into extramarital affairs even though he has a beautiful and good wife?

Lalasticlala
Seun
mynd44

Lack of communication

Low vibes

Low sex urge from any of the spouses at every intimacy.

Nagging wife ( could make a man or woman go out for peace of mind and in the process find peace in another woman's bossom)

Failing love

Loss of attention from any or either spouses

The reasons are more according to individual issues.
I have even encountered a man cheating as a result of the fact that his wife can't cook good meal, she's the show off material type.

But what ever it is, It takes grace to be faithful to one partner.
Me I believe this whole marital cheating thing can be avoided only by good moral self principle and discipline.
And I HV so tried and practice self discipline and principle for years that nothing can take me away from someone I'm with.

At least thia one took out time to draw a reasonable inference backing his arguments with legal regulations.

Unlike our clueless public officers spitting rubbish out of political hate and been unaware of certain regulations.

Thank God say I no get family member wey go come tell me rubbish or even advice me.

I go just tell am to keep him stupid advice for him children.

Thank God shaa say my house people know say I dey calm but rude in things like this cos I do what I say and plus I HV shunned one of my senior uncles before.

The idiot dey beef me till today self

slawormiir:
Damnnn niggar
Isoright......meaning this guy go dey bang one pussy for God knows how long...this whole marriage thing scares the hell out of me

a real niggarrr won't do this shit.....baby mama sure me die....too many problems and wahalar in marriage
a real niggarrr will now be in the same roof with one particular pussy for God knows how long
The thought of that shit scares the hell out of me
Coupled with the fact that she won't be allowing me to live my life on the fast lane anymore...she won't allow me smoke my weed, bang other pussy, drink enough bottles.
Not to talk of the fact that my dickkk won't be getting excited for her anymore because my dickkk is used to her already...the love will no longer be there...but we will continue to be pretending that we still love each other probably because of our kids and what society will say
She go dey quarrel and advise me like a mother, sister and wife make i stop those things like alcohol, smoking weed, banging other pussy or make i reduce am..if i nor hear she go come go report to my mum or daddy..or probably person way I dey fear pass for my family...those ones go come call me for family meeting...see wahalar

Damnnn.......mmmmm...he who finds a wife..finds real dope problem and wahalar..and he doesn't know what he has put his hand into

No vex bloodaa

DAMN99:

Your matter don tire me aswear

fredwilson:
Beautiful pictures of a Nairalander with His Bride. May God bless their union

Soon to wed couples ....Ona dey intimidate us oo

Making us feel like we are not serious with life

Las las na only few men like me get marriage plan for head.

slawormiir:
Damnnn niggar
Isoright......meaning this guy go dey bang one pussy for God knows how long...this whole marriage thing scares the hell out of me

a real niggarrr won't do this shit.....baby mama sure me die....too many problems and wahalar in marriage
a real niggarrr will now be in the same roof with one particular pussy for God knows how long
The thought of that shit scares the hell out of me
Coupled with the fact that she won't be allowing me to live my life on the fast lane anymore...she won't allow me smoke my weed, bang other pussy, drink enough bottles.
Not to talk of the fact that my dickkk won't be getting excited for her anymore because my dickkk is used to her already...the love will no longer be there...but we will continue to be pretending that we still love each other probably because of our kids and what society will say
She go dey quarrel and advise me like a mother, sister and wife make i stop those things like alcohol, smoking weed, banging other pussy or make i reduce am..if i nor hear she go come go report to my mum or daddy..or probably person way I dey fear pass for my family...those ones go come call me for family meeting...see wahalar

Damnnn.......mmmmm...he who finds a wife..finds real dope problem and wahalar..and he doesn't know what he has put his hand into

Ikwerelastborn:
Brothers and Sisters, I had a female friend visit me .we've been seeing from time to time though but I do know she's stubborn to an extent . So one day she visited as usual and refused to sleep in my house but preferred roaming around the premises of the hospital we lived in.I begged her severally to come to bed but she refused till around 1am in the midnight, then I went to bed.she came back around 3 am from God knows where because I'm sure she knows no one else in the vicinity.
The next morning she refused to go when I asked to leave that i will be travelling ,just to ,all her leave. This girl refused and insisted that I pay her #10,000 before she goes anywhere. I quickly went to the kitchen and hid the knives there to avoid stories that touch . Finally we settled at #5,000 and she left afterward.Mind you she's my regular female friend oo
When I moved to another city she called to tell me her school was close and she wanted to visit me,i just declined her from visiting

Men be wise ,don't allow your penis to think for you, shallom

Had similar experience back then in school.
Made me fear women when it comes to domestic violence.

Life shaaa.... Trust just birthed distrust.
He will move on but the scar will always be there.

Some people get mind shaa

everday we hear new gist in this country. If it's not women planning marriage while in an existing relationship its the man pallning evil.

The whole truth is we shouldn't toy with peoples emotions when we get to that marriage stage or mindset.

The money to rent why not just give the already friends you have. it will save cost plus ur mans money

Na people like you dem dey avoid to ask something or help

Blixon:
Is it possible to hire guests for a wedding in Nigeria? I’m just curious. So please don’t attack me.
I have always dreamed of having a wedding that I would be proud of. AKA posh wedding. Unfortunately I don’t have a lot of friends or know many big people and the few people I even know at all are not really posh looking (this is not an insult); what I mean is, you know, these broke guys kind of friends that you have to pay their transport back when they even manage to visit you.

So I have this question: is it possible to hire posh grooms men and a couple of posh guests (including white men and women and money sprayers to act as friends) to pose at a wedding in Nigeria?
I have read it is possible in the USA or other countries. Has anyone come across this in Nigeria?

I have a little of 1 in terms of digital, also I have 3,4 in terms of tech idea, got 5, 6 and 7
I thought I could harness the potentials of my present environment but I thought wrong. Its rather a dream killer zone.

Luceee204:

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You have no idea about law.

shegzhkn:
Lol.

I wouldn't advise even my foe to study law in Nigeria.

Where do we even start, first there are hundreds of thousands of folks who think they are lawyers regretting that they studied law, secondly law does not work in a country where the political climate is unstable, horrendous human right record, no regard for the rule of law and buckled democracy.

And the so called SAN means absolutely nothing.

Nigeria modelled it democracy to countries in the west but hasn't grown to their level in everything, for example in the United States you've got so many options to practice your trade because of their humongous advancement whereas in Nigeria lawyers only get cases because of basic issues that shouldn't have existed like Election matter, Political Corruption, etc.

So No don't study law.

Stealing someones money to show off.
An armed robber will steal what you have at hand but you see yahoo guys, they will reap out your life savings, investments and everything you ever own.

The funny part is that I know more than most of these guys and the people around me will take years to acquire the knowledge I have.
I have never been a fan of it even when I'm been pressured by the people around me.

don4real18:

Thanks a lot. I want a mini flat though. Any idea on the price?

Housing in Abuja is very expensive. That's why I prefer other cities except my job is taking me to Abuja.
A very affordable location is GwaGwalada outskirts of Abuja.

Kubwa is better with 350k self contain.
I would have said Gwarimpa but self contain is 550k above

We give excuses every year. How the clock ticks so fast is what I can't imagine.
Any thing could happen at any time.

I don't subscribe to out of wedlock but you guys can do something small and legal.
Just go to the marriage registery and get married plus a small white wedding to reduce cost. So you give birth peacefully.

If your done with school maybe you should keep it.
Its your choice.

You both have anger issues and ego problems.
Communication is the key in marriage, relationship.

I learn a lot and wish even though we will have issues, let it not pass midnight.
A principle I have tried and is working probably. Doesn't matter who's wrong or right.
You both need to talk it out.

Even as I plan to tie the knot, I pray not to be with the wrong person but some one who will not take advantage of me, domestic violence or whatever but someone we both share peace of mind together