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My husband was the kind of man every woman wanted. He was kind, funny, rich, hardworking, romantic and also very handsome. It was hard to believe I had got the perfect man, yes he was perfect. Even though we were both very Different from each other, he still understood me. While my husband was a quiet & reserved person, I was a wild and outgoing person. This very difference in our personality was what later led to the end of our marriage. When I think about it now I wish I had done things differently.

Like I said my husband was a quiet and gentle guy. He loved to stay at home or just bury himself in his office work. While I loved to show myself off on the internet or just hang out with friends. My husband had no problem with me hanging out with friends. Since, he didn’t like going out often, I usually went out alone with my friends. We went to clubs, events, vacations and my husband was cool with it.

My friends were single ladies and many guys were asking them out. And when I was out with them, guys also asked me out. But I would always tell them I was married. Well, one day I told one I was married and he still did not back off. He got my number somehow and started texting me. Well, I didn’t see anything wrong in texting him back and soon we began texting each other often on the phone.

My husband didn’t know about this, of course, I kept hidden from him. But even if he got to know about it, he wouldn’t be upset about it. That’s what I told myself to feel less guilty about what I was doing. The guy wanted more than phone conversations, he wanted me to visit him- I was a married woman. When I told my single friends about it, they encouraged me to go and have fun with him. But I didn't, I stopped chatting with this new guy. His name was Dan and he was young and attractive the day I saw him.

Well, things became messy when I found out Dan had moved into our compound. I was coming back from an outing with my husband when I saw Dan stepping out of his car which was parked in the compound. Oh, no! I was very scared he had come to tell my husband about our nasty chats. But we soon found out he was our next-door neighbor. I didn't know if I should be angry, scared, or happy that Dan was living close by.

Dan started visiting our home often, even when my husband was away from work he would visit. Sometimes when my husband was coming home, he would see Dan watching movies with me. My husband didn't see anything wrong with this, he didn't even question me. And of course, I wouldn't disrespect my husband by sleeping with another man in our home.

Well, one day I saw the true color of my husband when he walked in on me and Dan. That day, I had gone to Dan’s home wearing a skimpy dress. He had some ladies around and I was jealous he was spending time with them and not me. That was ridiculous I told myself. What has gotten over me? I walked back to my house while scolding myself for behaving so silly.

Soon, there was a knock on the door and I opened the door and it was Dan. What was he doing here? Where were his girlfriends I asked him jokingly? He simply looked into my eyes and I knew he wanted to kiss me and he did. I kissed him back because I have wanted that to happen for so long. He pushed me on the couch without closing the door, it was insane. He was touching me all over and I was letting him. Something was controlling me and I just couldn't stop. I looked around and I remembered it was my husband’s home. His picture was right there staring like he could see what I was doing. I felt guilty and started pushing Dan away but he wouldn’t stop. And that was when my innocent husband walked in on us... And I could see the pain in his eyes. I was half-naked and Dan was all over my body.

Later that evening when he told me our marriage was over, I knew he meant every word. How could I have done this to my dream man? How? I cried but my husband didn't care anymore.

I just couldn’t believe my eyes when I saw that James was back to Nigeria. I could still remember the last time we spoke before he left. He promised me he would come back and marry me. We both cried profusely as he told me he was leaving Nigeria against his will. His father was a wealthy man who wanted nothing to do with the townspeople. But James wasn’t like him at all.
I loved him so much and I also knew he was in love with me too despite his father’s hatred for people like me. And for so long I have been waiting for him. But now he was back, he didn’t even want to look at him or say a word to him. I didn’t care if he no longer loved me or not, I still loved him so much. So, I rushed to him the first day I saw him and hugged him. But he pushed me away violently and stared at him with so much hatred. My heart broke! How could he do this to me? I was the woman he loved.
I was still staring at him in surprise when I saw another young lady step out of the car and gave him a kiss. I wanted to slap her and shake James to his senses. But I just stood there unable to do anything. How could James do this to me? How could you everything we have been through together.
He grabbed her by her waist and whispered in her ears as she smiled. They walked out happily while I stood there in tears.
All these years I have put my life on hold for him and he had the audacity to break my heart. Is it a crime to love someone with all your heart? What have I done to deserve such heartlessness from James? How do I move on?

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“How could stand there and call me names? After everything I did for you” Buike screamed at Ella who was busy chewing gum like she didn’t have a single care in the world.

“Look, you are not just broke, you also irritate me. And I can’t stand talking to you” she lifted her bag like she was about to leave.

Buike didn’t care they were in a public place he dragged her by arms and forced her to sit.

“Don’t you dare manhandle me, don’t you dare, you can’t even buy the cream I use for this beautiful skin. Don’t touch me with those filthy fingers” She screamed at Buike as all eyes looked in their direction.

Buike had never felt so embarrassed in his life. This was the same lady he sponsored in school till her final year, now she was barking at him like he was nothing. He wanted to strangle her till she vomited all of his money. At the same he felt like crying and pleading for her to take him back. He was still in love with her even if it hurt so much. He just couldn’t understand why she was being so wicked to him.

She picked her phone then to make a call. He could her calling someone else baby and giggling like she used to with him. He felt like he was going to die of heartbreak. He snatched the phone from her and smashed it on the floor. She screamed in terror and gave him a dirty slap…
#Africanstories
To be continued…

We all know heartbreak is hard even when it seems like you have moved on you still remember your ex. Any little thing can remind you of them and you start feeling lonely. Omo! It is not easy o
And sometimes I just keep wondering if my ex is missing me the same I am missing him. But I think he is because of his recent behavior. He keeps talking about our relationship online like he has not moved on.
He keeps flaunting his new gfs on social media like he wants me to react or something.
He is always quick to answer my text. And the last thing that made me so sure he is not over me is when he asked to see me.
What do you guys think, is he really over me?
Have you had an ex that kept reaching out after breakup?
Source: https://www.xplorefeelings.com/signs-your-ex-is-pretending-to-be-over-you/

Do you often wonder if a guy is pretending to like you or not? But you don't know how to tell if he does or does not.

-If you have to ask him what are we after sex, it means you don't know where you stand in his life. A man who loves you wouldn't make you doubt your place in his life.

-If he is only interested in sex and becomes nice or sweet when he wants sex then he is only playing with your heart.

-He wants your relationship to be a secret. Someone who really cares about you will not hesitate to flaunt you. If he is hiding your relationship he doesn't want you.

Have you ever dated someone who was only playing with your feelings, how did you find out?
Source: https://www.xplorefeelings.com/signs-he-pretends-to-love-you-how-to-know/

metalgear11:
NB - This is not about me, but one I assume people can relate to. What sort of advice would you give the guy?


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I met this very young and cute girl around 2011. I was a 400-level student then. I met her one evening during night study. I had gone outside to grab a sachet of pure water and stretch my legs for a bit, and by the time I got back, there was this young, big eyed girl in my spot. Back then getting a spot for night reading was like searching for treasure – you had to be fast, accurate, and very precise, particularly during the examination period. I asked her why she had pushed my books aside and she told me she thought the owner(me) would not be around for a while. You see, some people saved spots for themselves ahead of time, and as such some seats could contain books with no one reading there for hours on end. I told her I had just stepped out for about thirty minutes and was back. With a babyish whimper and frown, she began packing her books. I told her that if it wasn’t going to be too late for her, I was going to finish what I was reading in about an hour as I had an early morning lecture the following morning, and it was already going to around midnight then. I could keep the seat for her if she wished. She smiled and gave me one of her books to place there when I left.

I ran into her(literally) again two weeks later. I had totally forgotten about the encounter, so imagine my surprise when, upon paying for the food I had purchased at the eatery I had gone for a late lunch, I turned around and almost bulldozed into the person walking behind me. She almost spilled the contents of the tray she was carrying and I quickly grabbed the drink and glass cup she had balanced along with the plate of food before the tray came tumbling out of her arms. I began to apologize for my clumsiness, but I was pleasantly surprised to see her. She at first didn’t remember who I was, but after reminding her of the events of the night in class, her frown melted away. I picked up my tray of food and led her to an empty table at the far corner of the cafeteria.

Over our meal I got to know she was a 100-level student. She told me her name was Yewande. We talked about several things, and when we were about to leave, I asked if she wouldn’t mind giving me her number, that I would love to talk to her again. She hesitated at first, but eventually shrugged. I asked if I could come visit her sometime (her hostel was not that far from mine) and she replied with a maybe. At least I had her number.

Over the rest of the school year, I got to know her better. I got to know she lived in the same town I was from. I once playfully told her I would visit her at home whenever school was closed, but she refused. She did eventually invite me to her room which she shared with two other fresh 100-level students like her. All of them were youthful kids. I was sure the oldest among them was not more than nineteen. Yewande in particular was a very playful girl, and coupled with her babyish looking face and playful demeanour, one would assume she was much younger than her eighteen years. As she became more comfortable with me, she really showed me that side of her playfulness. She also had a very sharp tongue.

I didn’t want to, but as a 23-year-old guy with raging hormones back then, it was only a matter of time before I began to notice other things than her youthful face. She was a bit on the busty side, and her slim waist complemented her curvy hips and lovely figure. She filled anything she wore nicely. I began having thoughts of asking her out, but considering she was that young, I wasn’t sure it was a good idea.

This is nice! A loyal woman is worth having by your side https://www.xplorefeelings.com/5-qualities-of-a-loyal-woman/

Heartbreak is painful but it is even more painful to see your ex move on when you are still stuck in the past. I cannot just get used to seeing him with other girls and posting about how happy he is when I am miserable.
I don't know if I should disappear from social media for some time to help me get over this pain. Even his friends keep posting about him and how happy he is. I just don't know what to do?
Should I block him or should I just keep checking up on his life on social media? I'm trying so hard not to stalk him but I can't help it.
I'm always checking his social media pages to see how his life is going? How were you able to handle this after breakup? What's the best way to move on with my life? Should I block him totally or just stay friends with him?
I keep feeling the urge to post about my breakup and how painful it is. But my friends advised me not to, that it wouldn't help me. Heartbreak can really push someone to make rash decisions.
But it's time for me to focus on my life and take control of my life. Can't let this heartbreak ruin my life forever.
Source: https://www.xplorefeelings.com/disappearing-from-social-media-after-breakup/

One thing that I dislike more than anything is a guy that cheats. And lately I keep having that weird feeling that my bf is not loyal to me.
Is there a way I can really tell if he's faithful or not? I am not okay with suspecting him all the time.
I need someone I can trust completely, do loyal men still exist? Are there still men I can feel safe with? There's nothing as beautiful as having someone who can confide in. Someone who will not hurt you or break your heart.
A loyal man is someone who is invested in the relationship, who is ready to work for the relationship. Someone who doesn't keep secrets or sneak around or tell lies.
How can you really tell if a man is loyal?

Source: https://www.xplorefeelings.com/signs-of-a-loyal-man-6-clear-signs-to-look-for/

Yes, I told my boyfriend I needed some space and he was so scared I was about to breakup with him. The truth is I have had so much to deal with recently and it is affecting my relationship. I am always stressed out and I find him irritating because of how I feel.

I am asking him to give me some space to figure out myself but he thinks I want to break up with him. But I’m really concerned that if I continue without addressing what is bothering me I might end up ruining my relationship.
Is it wrong to want to take a break from your relationship to focus on yourself for some time? Should your partner be scared when you ask for space?
I’m just finding hard to understand why my bf wouldn’t let me have some breathing space. I’m not breaking up with him. I just need to figure out what we are both doing in this relationship and what I am doing with my life.
See more: https://www.xplorefeelings.com/signs-you-need-space-from-your-boyfriend/?amp=1

I don’t think I have been lucky in love and I’m thinking of giving up already. All the people have fallen in love with have hurt me in one way or another. And I can’t keep up with the pain. I just want to stay on my own.
Now this new guy is telling me he has fallen in love with me just after two weeks of meeting me. I think he wants to use me! I don’t know! I can’t trust anyone anymore! Maybe he loves me! I don’t know! My heart isn’t capable of love anymore.
But since I closed my heart to love:
I feel rather empty, depressed and I find it hard to associate with people.
And now that someone has fallen in love with me, I don’t know if I am capable of loving him back.
Should I keep my heart closed to love?
Source: https://www.xplorefeelings.com/should-i-give-up-on-love-5-reasons-you-shouldnt/

I can’t really tell what was going on in my head when I decided to say Yes to him. I wasn’t expecting him to pop the question but there was no way I would have said No. He was everything I wanted in a man, handsome, caring and very sweet.
Call me desperate for rushing into the relationship with him but there was no one I could have turned down this beautiful opportunity to spend a lifetime with a man of my dreams. We had met on a rainy day after I had just been through a terrible breakup with someone I have been dating for 2 years.
We spent some time together waiting for the rain to stop, we exchanged contact and that was it. The feelings were so intense and he proposed and I said yes.
But now we are married, I no longer feel that spark. And I seriously don’t think I know him enough. Most times I feel like I am with a stranger. I don’t know what he likes, I don’t understand his temperament and I find him very boring. He may look like the man I want but it doesn’t feel like it. I feel nothing towards him. I can’t even stand him and I feel like I have made the wrong decision.
Do you think this marriage I rushed into can be saved?
Source: https://www.xplorefeelings.com/can-you-save-a-relationship-that-moved-too-fast/

It took me a whole year to try to forget my ex boyfriend after our relationship ended. And while I was going through this heartbreak, I had this guy who always cheered me up and took me out from time to time. I just wanted to spend some time with him as friends but the more time I spend with him the more I fall for him. I know he wants me too but the thing is I am not ready for a relationship.

After going through that heartbreak, I am finding it hard to love or trust another person again. I love this new guy and I don’t know how to tell him I am not ready for a relationship. And the thing is I don’t want him to date another person because I love him.
But I think the main issue is that I have not really gotten over my ex. Sometimes I think about him and I want our relationship back. I’m just confused and I know this is not the right time to get into a relationship.
I don’t want to play this new guy and I’m not ready to give my heart to another person. What should I do? Should I be sincere that I don’t want a relationship now or what?

Note:
Before getting into a relationship you need to ask yourself some important questions. Are you ready for a relationship? Are you ready to handle the responsibilities that come it? Do you know what you want from a relationship? What are your dealbreakers (things you can’t tolerate in a relationship)?
Source: https://www.xplorefeelings.com/not-ready-for-a-relationship-how-to-know-and-what-to-do/

I still can’t believe that my own friend could do something so wicked to me. I know friends shouldn’t fight over a guy but right now I feel Ike ending my friendship because of a guy.
We were both going home from work when this young handsome guy approached us and asked us to enter his car. Since we were both going to his destination, we decided to accept his offer for a ride. Before we got to our destination, the guy told me that he really liked me and would love to see me again. I was flattered and since I was not in any relationship I decided to see him next time.
We met another time and he told me he really liked me and would love to date me. I told him I would give him an answer soon, that it was too soon for me to accept his offer. When I got home I told my friend and instead of her to be happy for me. She told me that I should not think of dating that guy because he looked like a ritualist and a yahoo boy. I told her we don’t know that yet but she insisted that I would only end up in trouble if I dated the guy. I was just wondering why she was convinced he was a yahoo boy. And she told me it was obvious and that I should trust her.
Well, I decided to trust her and told the guy we couldn’t date. He disturbed me for a week before he got tired and stopped. And one day I was coming back from work, to my surprise I saw my friend talking with the same guy. I was just wondering what they were doing together until I saw them hugging . My heart was pounding and I couldn’t believe my eyes.
My friend later came to apologize to me and explain to me that the guy had initially wanted her and not me. I don’t even know what to do anymore. My friend is a bad person and I am going to end the friendship because of this? Am I wrong that she’s a bad friend?
Source: https://www.xplorefeelings.com/6-warning-signs-that-you-have-bad-friends/

I know it’s really sad but if you had seen the signs that she was no longer interested, it would have helped you a lot.She may have been giving you signs of not being interested and you did not see it. Here’s how to know someone wants to break up with you https://www.xplorefeelings.com/signs-of-ending-relationshipis-he-no-longer-interested-in-you/

LOGICALKEN:
So I met this lady in 2019 through a mutual friend, after few weeks of getting to meet her we started dating. She is 29 and I’m 31. She’s based in Benin where she works and I am in Lagos, the agreement was that after our wedding she will join me in Lagos which she agreed. Our relationship has been going on smoothly which made me do the introduction January this year and I’ve told her the wedding will be by January next year, which she knows I am making adequate preparation to that effect. I even had to get involved in a monthly contribution of 30k which is done in her workplace, I told her she should collect 2 slots so we can save enough for the wedding . She has never made any financial request that i did not grant, just two months ago she started acting all weird, I have asked her what the problem was and she would say nothing. She stopped picking my calls and told her parents I offended her, I called her to know what my offense was and she said I should forget. God knows I have never deliberately done anything to upset her. Just yesterday morning she called to tell me she is done with the relationship which left me so confused and devastated. I have already paid for cow and all the wines we will use for the wedding and now she has called it off. Please nairalanders what could possibly be my offense? I have thoroughly searched my heart and I can’t seem to remember when I offended her.

I am the clingy type and I just can’t help it. I find it hard to stay away from someone I really love. And now my boyfriend is avoiding me because of this.
Whenever he goes out I want to go out with him. I want to hang around him every time. I want us to always do stuff together. At first he never complained about it, he was cool with it. But now he keeps telling me to go get my own life and that I am choking him with my too much attention and care.
I don’t understand, is it wrong that I want to be my boyfriend’s side all the time? Is it wrong that I am clingy? Or does he not love me anymore?
A friend advised me to have my own life and have my own passion. And that if I keep being too clingy that moving on if this relationship ends will be very hard for me. I don’t know how to stop being too clingy.
Source: https://www.xplorefeelings.com/how-to-protect-yourself-from-heartbreak/

I feel like I am forcing this relationship on him and I am just getting fed up of it all.

He was the one that asked me out a year ago and I immediately accepted because I couldn’t believe a guy like him would be interested in me. We met at the ATM, very unusual place to find love. But somehow we got talking while waiting for our turn to use the ATM and decided to give each other a chance.

I have been dating him for a while now and I just figured out I love him too much. For the first few weeks, he would always call and check up on me. But after some time, he stopped calling or asking about how I am doing. He would be online and he would not even chat me up. I have to beg him to call me everyday and when he does he doesn’t spend much time talking to me.

I would post him on WhatsApp all the time just to let people know we are dating but he doesn’t ever do that. I don’t even think anyone knows we are dating for real.

The last time we met, I kept on telling him how much I missed him but he was more interested in having sex with me. And once we were done, he just forgot about me and started pressing his phone.

I even got him gifts for his birthday and he never even remembered mine. I was so heartbroken but I just let it go.

Each time I complain, he says the relationship is fine and that I have issues. I don’t know but I think I am forcing this relationship.
I have told myself to stop caring, to focus on myself and let him chase me for a change. I can’t keep on forcing someone to love me.
Have you ever been in a relationship where it seems you are forcing things? How did it go?
Source: https://www.xplorefeelings.com/are-you-forcing-a-relationship-how-to-stop/

I don’t know why I have the feeling that my best friend is falling for my boyfriend. I don’t like the idea of it but I can see how she behaves around him. She’s always ignores me when he’s around and always fond of displaying herself for him to see. She wears skimpy clothes when he’s around and talks only about her.

We’ve been friends for more than 3 years but what I have noticed about her is that she’s like dragging for whatever I have. Once I get a new bag, or hair or shoes, she wants exactly the same. Or if people start admiring me, she becomes jealous and start talking down on me. Since we are friends, I act like it is nothing. One time, a guy approached me and started telling me sweet things. And because he didn’t talk to her, she started ignoring me. When I asked her why, she told me because I like acing like I am better than her.

But it is becoming too much, I don’t know why she feels we are in a competition. Now, that I have a boyfriend she also wants to take him away from me. I am beginning to think my friend, if not what else would make her want to take my guy away from me.

She acts strange when he’s around and she insults me all the time in the name of jokes while they both laugh at me. I don’t know if I should end the friendship with her or distance myself from her!
I believe these are some signs of a toxic friendship and I don’t know if I can continue. What do you think?
Source: https://www.xplorefeelings.com/6-signs-of-an-abusive-friendship/

Thank you so much. We still have sensible people in Nigeria. The ones that are proud of cheating on their women, please continue. One day you will get the punishment you deserve. There’s no reason to stay with a man that cheats

Avviala:
Anytime you want to go back, just remember when he was sucking the other girls and calling their pussy the sweetest. It should be your wake up call.
Its hard to leave someone who continually disrespect you but in a year time, you will look back and be happy you did. You are at risk of HIV/ STDs. If its too hard for you to leave, cheat on him as well.
You will see that the man you can't leave easily will leave like shit if he discovers you cheated as well.

This is something very sad for me to be writing about. I am very hurt, devastated and tired and I think it’s time I leave this relationship.

I love this guy and I have been dating him for 3 years now and within these three years he has cheated on me countless times. Each time he does this, he will apologize and we would continue with the relationship. But it is becoming too much and I can’t take it anymore.

I am not happy and I don’t trust him, he is too shady and I think it’s time I moved on. The only problem is that I love him so much despite everything and I am scared of living without him.

How do I leave someone I love and move on? How do I leave someone I love and is not good for me?

I wish you guys can understand how heartbroken I am now! I’m just wondering why he can’t stop cheating on me and respect me as his woman. He keeps saying it is the devil’s work and I cannot keep taking such stupid excuse again. How do I leave him even though I love him?
Source: https://www.xplorefeelings.com/how-to-leave-someone-you-love-and-move-on/

This young girl told us a story about how her friends deceived her to go clubbing with them behind her boyfriend’s back. According her, it was a long distance relationship and her and her boyfriend barely see each other. And they also quarrel a lot because of this.
One day after she had a huge fight with her boyfriend, her friends advised her to go clubbing with them to forget her sorrows. She didn’t want to do it but she was angry with her guy so she decided to have fun since he was not there.
Her friends go out every Friday and they come back happy, high and with a lot of money. She has never envied them because she’s in a serious relationship and her boyfriend wouldn’t accept such. But this Friday after he fought with her, she decided to have a taste of her friends’ life.
So, she went clubbing with them, got drunk, danced with a lot of guys. But she didn’t know how she ended up in a room with some guys and she found out one of them was her boyfriend’s friend. And that was how he found out she went out to clubbing. Her friends have ended up deceiving her by making her do something she would never do.
She doesn’t know if her boyfriend will ever forgive her. And her friends are telling her to live her life and forget him. But she loves him!
Are her friends at fault and should the boyfriend forgive her?

You always feel relieved when you cut yourself off from toxic or bad friends. They will always make you hate yourself and ruin your peace of mind. The best thing is to cut them off with no regrets at all. You should be relieved. At least you were able to identify the signs and cut her of https://www.xplorefeelings.com/6-warning-signs-that-you-have-bad-friends/

GeneralKoko:
As for me I felt relieved when I lost my bestie during the lockdown.I had a very low self esteem ( I've still not recovered fully) and she was one of the cause . She constantly abused me verbally about my looks and all and it made me shy and weak . The friendship was on life support. We knew there were issues to iron out but we were too proud to address it. Then the deal day came when I called her a proud person and we had back and forth until she finally said , " FYI I'm a narcissist" and blocked me . I felt very relieved afterwards.


Bad aide is that now she's begging for my attention. I kn ow she misses me but I'm not going back to that fake friendship.


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We have been dating for 7 years now! We met at a very young age and and we have been dating since then. But few days ago we had a very huge quarrel and he stopped taking my calls or replying my text. And I am scared he is going to leave me! After 7 years!

Okay, what was the quarrel about? He saw me walking home with a guy and he asked me who the guy was and told him he was just a colleague at work. But that was not what annoyed him. What made him very upset was because he saw the guy hugging me before he left. I don’t know what made that guy hug me like that and I don’t know how to explain myself to my boyfriend. I don’t keep male friends but this guy is just a colleague from work who decided to escort me. I have nothing to do with him and I don’t know how to make my boyfriend understand.
Ever since then he has not been picking my call or answering my text. And I don’t know if he wants to end the relationship with me. I don’t want to lose him, we have been together for years.

-I have decided to give him some space to get over his anger and pain.

-I have apologized countless Times because I was wrong.

-I have promised not to repeat the mistake but I am really hurt that he has been ignoring me for so long.
How do I resolve this problem?
Source: https://www.xplorefeelings.com/how-to-fix-a-relationship-after-a-fight-7-essential-tips/

Breakup is no easy thing to deal especially when you loved that person dearly. Breaking up is frustrating, hard to deal with, heartbreaking and emotionally draining. And all these may affect your sleep. These are the reasons you can’t sleep after breakup: https://www.xplorefeelings.com/3-reasons-you-cant-sleep-after-breakup/

-The memory is still fresh
You can’t easily forget someone who you have loved for so long. You are going to feel down, angry and unable to sleep especially if it has just happened recently. You might up all night scrolling to your ex’s social media page, thinking of texting or calling them or just feeling lonely. All these can keep you from getting your beauty sleep.

-You are stressed out
Going through something as tough as breakup can stress you out. You may find it difficult to eat or sleep because you are thinking of how to move on and how to live without your ex.

-You loved them dearly
Losing someone you have loved for so long can be very hard to deal with. You may become a shadow of yourself, find it hard to sleep or eat, which my affect your performance at work or school or your relationship with other people.

What to do if you can’t sleep after breakup

Exercise-If you are finding difficult to sleep after a breakup then you need to try exercising to wear yourself out. Find some sport you enjoy doing, this would help you tire you out and sleep would eventually come.

-Listen to music
Music can lure you to sleep if you focus on the song and not let anything distract you. It can be your own lullaby, that makes it easy for you to drift off to sleep. Don’t underestimate the power of music.

-Find something you love doing
Stop focusing on the pain and sadness, and focus your energy on doing something you love. When those painful thoughts come, keep yourself busy so you don’t dwell on them.
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Good sleep is important for health and also keeps you in good shape for work, school and other stuff in your life. Don’t lose your sleep!

The kind of friends you have reflect the kind of person you are. And also affect the kind of decisions you make in your life. A lot of people have bad friends but do not. This is how to identify bad friends:
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-They influence you to make only negative decisions. They push you to do things that will put you in trouble. And they don’t give you advice that will help you.

-They are fake friends. Only there to enjoy when things are going well and nowhere to be found when you have nothing.

-They are controlling. They force you to do things you don’t want to do. They want to be the ones in control of whatever you do. They want to have a say in every thing you do.

-They are selfish. Their friendship with you is only about them. And they only care about what they stand to gain from the friendship. They make everything about them. The friendship is centered around what they want only.
-They are not trustworthy. You can’t tell them a secret and feel safe.
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Everyone wants a loyal person, someone who would always stand by them and never betray their trust. https://www.xplorefeelings.com/how-to-be-a-loyal-woman5-qualities/
Especially now that cheating and lying has become normal. Finding someone who will never cheat and lie to you is very rare. But loyal women do exist.

Loyal woman are:

-Always truthful. They tell the truth no matter what. They feel uncomfortable telling lies to their partner.

-They avoid temptation. They always try to avoid situations or people that would make them cheat on their partner. They don’t meet up with ex, go clubbing or do things their man wouldn’t approve of.

-They only have eyes for their man
There man be richer or more handsome guys but a loyal woman has no interest in them. She’s only interested in her man and has no interest in double dating or cheating.

-They always stand by their partner
Through thick and thin, a loyal woman has got your back. And she’s always there to support you and encourage you.

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Have you found the woman of your dreams but she doesn’t feel the same way about you yet? Are wondering what you need to do to make her yours forever? Then this is just for you:

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-Be attentive and caring
Women love men who pay attention to them and treat them like they matter. So, you should always let her know you’ve got eyes for only her. Listen to what she has to say, let her feel special around you. Compliment her, let her know you find her attractive.

-Understand and respect
You need to understand the kind of woman she is if you want to know how to win her heart. Understand what holds meaning to her, what makes her happy and respect her opinions and feelings.

-Be her friend
To get a woman to relax around, you need to become her friend. Make her feel she can tell you anything. Let her feel at home with you. Make her laugh, take her to places she loves and just be her friend.

-Surprise her
Surprise her with gifts when she Least expects it, not just any gifts but meaningful gifts. You can also cook her dinner, make her feel special.

-Let her know you are serious about her
Make your intentions clear to her right from the beginning so you don’t end up in “Friend zone”. Let her know how you feel about her and what you want with her.

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Have you heard people share their beautiful love story and how it all started online? Yes! People are finding meaningful relationships online and you shouldn’t be left out. Pay close attention to these tips if you are looking to start a relationship online?
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-First you need to find a suitable dating platform for you. There are lots of dating sites on the internet, but you need to go for the specific one that suits your needs. But you need to try your best to avoid sketchy sites to avoid being scammed. Depending on your taste or age, you should know what site to go for.

-Creat an exceptional dating profile
When you have found the dating site suitable for you. The next thing to do is create a great dating profile. Don’t forget to add your hobbies, interests, likes, dislikes and other important aspects of your personality.

-Choose a great profile picture
You need to add something attractive or appealing to people. The first thing people are likely to check when they come across your dating profile is your picture. So you need to make sure it something they would love to click on and get to know more about you.

-Go for people that interest you
Don’t just start chatting with just anybody on the platform, find people that match your interest. This way you can build a connection with them quite easily.

-Stay connected
Since you are looking for something meaningful, it is important to stay connected with them. Don’t go on and off, that they might think you are not serious about them. Build a connection with them! Video call, chat and get to know them more!
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-Don’t rush it
Take your time to get to know them! Don’t be too in a hurry to take the relationship to the next level. To avoid making yourself vulnerable!