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whizqueen:
My friend sent me this thread last night but I had too much to say so here we go.

I (A Nigerian girl living in Canada) will be responding to the OP's points and some other comments I found on the thread.


Are Nigerian Ladies in Canada lonely? Ofcourse we are! Are Nigerian girls in NIGERIA lonely? Hell yeah!!! Are Nigerian girls in other countries lonely? Absolutely!!!!! Being lonely is not a factor of location or person. It's about not finding the right friends/partner you vibe with.


Why did we immigrate? Bros are you kidding me? Canadian govt is paying me $2000 monthly and other benefits for losing income due to covid-19 Is that happening in Naija right now? All the money donated by philanthropist in Nigeria would soon disappear into the thin air without our govt giving explanation of any sort. Ofcourse, it's not bed of roses abroad neither were we expecting a man wrapped in a gift bag but please don't let your sentiments cloud your reasoning as to why people make immigration decisions abeg.


I personally feel attacked I recently posted a video on my YouTube Channel about finding love & online dating in Canada. It's asif this hope saw my video and wanted to attack me


What makes you think we would be interested in you to begin with? Don't pride yourself too much plis dear


If you like let the OP influence your decision and stop you from chasing your immigration dreams, last last it's up to you to decide what you want for your future.


Whilst I would agree with growing together with your partner and building with them. I think it's just shallow minded of anyone in this age and time to ask for women to chase marriage first before career. Marriage is not the ultimate not everyone sees marriage as an achievement. These days, if you crave for sex so much, you can pay someone to do it or get yourself a Love Machine, if you want a child, you can literally just buy a sperm and save yourself lots of stress. Most of us are yet to keep an open mind to these things, however if you want something badly there;s always a way to get it.


Most Nigerian men hate to see it happen, there are laws that protect women here and they would prefer dying single than to see women as their equals. A good number of them are control freaks and would rather their woman be at their beck and call for everything as opposed to having their marriage work as a partnership. Nigerian married man knowing the laws of the land will still go ahead and cheat on his wife with a girl living in the same condo with his wife. Una no even dey fear or respect una madam. If atall you really want to cheat, you cannot travel to Nigeria and secretly mess with girls that fancy IJGB crew or allen avenue. As expected, some women do exploit the situation but if you find yourself a god-fearing person and you do the right thing, no divorce laws or child custody issue would stop y'all from flourishing.


White men dont find us attractive? Laughs is Swahili
On the contrary most men of other races have FETISH for Nigerian girls and Black girls in general. Maybe not long term in all cases tho but they reaaaaaaally fancy us and admire our enthusiasm towards life. Whilst most Nigerian girls would likely not wanna go for the likes of 'Ryan', 'Billy' and co it's not cos we don't find them attractive. Firstly, Naija guys are smart, intelligent and goal oriented. You see the average ones already have plans for their future and working towards it unlike the counterparts who are comfortable with just a high school degree. If a Naija guy is even into technical jobs he would try to be the best at it and work towards starting his own company in the near future. Secondly, coping with someone with a different culture, lifestyle, food, etc is honestly stressful. I was talking with one Persian guy and he said before we can kiss or hold hands, we have to be temporarily married. The other chinese guy is only about 5ft tall, I'm just wondering what he would look like in that department

In Nigeria, when you visit a guy at home, some would expect you to know that's express ticket to get laid with them. But here if you visit a guy at home, you can be almost certain that if you guys have sex it's cos you wanted it, no guy will try to lure or manipulate you to straff them or tell you when you came to my house what were you thinking. They know it's important to ask for your opinion or even avoid the whole situation altogether.

Something the OP failed to address is that the Loneliness spans across both men and women living in Diaspora. Even the white people find it hard getting a partner for themselves much less an immigrant that would probably take some time to fully settle in. The system is built to have everyone mind their business, that togetherness or family-spirit is missing.

All the naija guys and ladies in Toronto have finish dating themselves. It's such a small city, everyone knows eachother thru another person only a matter of time before you find out that; the guy toasting you is ex with your colleagues' friend. Or the guy you matched with on the dating app went on a date with your housemate the day before. Some would be married and they would be on the dating apps lying to other women.

Some of us don't even mind going back home to bring men here, but 'em guys just they find paper. Only few genuinely love and care for you. I kuku know people here already do that as business tho, some ladies/guys now charge up to $30,000 to marry people from home to help them get residency here.

There are tons of Nigerians in Canada groups on WhatsApp and Telegram some are just for singles and you find people of age 35, 40, etc filled with both women and MEN. Some guys eventually resort to going back home to marry the less exposed girls, but guess what happens once they reach YYZ airport? Oh well your guess is as good as mine. Their eyes go open finish.

A good number of Naija guys are single and desperately finding love as well as ladies. Truth is, we all crave for love. And that's not a bad thing to want. Finding a good match or significant other is a honestly a game of chance. Home and Abroad, White or Black race finding a partner is truly difficult and if you got lucky finding that one special person, you better love and cherish them truly.

I rest my case; I am in the comment section waiting for someone to jump on my mention and before you do so just remember: Opinions are like as5holes and everyone is entitled to one. So this is my opinion, I have free time today

Link to Original thread https://www.nairaland.com/5782313/chai-nigerian-girls-canada-lonely

oya babes, send me money so that I can come and meet you there. I want to leave this asshole country. our leaders are currently under spell

Bluehill1051:
OP, just prepare to die. You cannot escape this one

why are you so pessimistic? must you vent your anger on him? or is he the cause of coronavirus that allows the world to be lockdown? please always try to be nice to people. it will help you a lot

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kem21719:
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what does this code mean

Yenefer:
will you convert to Islam

you don't look and sound like a Muslim

AmTruth:
Not international flight, this is local flight.

And who told you that flying on air gives you automatic virus.

that is not I mean joor.
I did say that those that fly on air are automatic carrier of the virus, what I mean was that the virus entered Nigeria through those who fly aeroplane into the country. mind you, he was only proactive because when a case is witness in the state, no amount of money spent can withstand it

it is not about the governor's action but in time like this where most people that fly on air are the carrier of this virus. that shows that there is something wrong with the aviation sector in Nigeria, how would you land in a state without informing the state of your arrival

I don't believe this nonsense, that the fire spark from one of the AC air conditioner. the question who was using the AC when the city is in a total lockdown.

who is to be blamed? the murderer or late chief

Lanretoye:
So that project is multi billion naira already,continue to spread the virus...I wonder how much Nigeria will declare as expenditure in the post corona era.

when I see something like this, I am always happy for the state, at least they are constructing or erecting building and at the same time, embezzle money out of the projects. when I think of my state kogi, I always feel like weeping. he has practically done nothing rather than collecting people's lands for his farming work. one thing I know is that God will judge everyone according to his/her deed while on earth

vinoj0225:
Then why did you ask in the first place? Some people really have problem

the guy problem is more than coronavirus

Babatunde40:
Nothing is too small. I shared N10k each to 10 persons yesterday on whatsapp that I knew were desperately in need of assistance. I felt good doing it

Let's help whenever we can

p
you can please send to me also

Joy099:
Hi,

I'm Temi Joy, a lady in her early 30's, I'm yoruba, I live in Lagos, I have heard of people saying they met their partners here, we might be lucky to meet each other, if you are the one be kind to send an email to me and let see how it goes joyovercatering@gmail.com. Please you should be 30 and above. Goodluck to us.

are you for real?

Perfecttouchade:
u don dey do marketing for them already Bros, Nigerian men go shift their satellite go that side now

lol. this got me really laughing

the question I always ask myself is must the Nigerian Army always be on the defense. I find it funny reading that the Nigerian Army are always repelling against Boko Haram. let the Nigerian Army be offensive for once and see how it will reduce the activities of Boko Haram. I just want to believe what General Adeniyi said that the Army are not equipped and lack intel

I prefer a tall lady any day and anytime. all the short ladies I know are all troublesome, nag and stubborn. they always have this notion that you can't cheat me because of my height that nature has already cheat them. naturally, I can't cope with a stubborn or troublesome lady, I want it gentle and smooth

Princedapace:
Kano should do like Rwanda then

don't mind the guy comparing Kano to Rwanda in terms of population but he has forgotten that Kano generate more fund than Rwanda

Stalwert:
show us how you and Jonathan shared $2 billion arms funds, that is where our real interest is not extolling the virtues of Kigame, who ruthlessly deal with critiques and dissidents.

how has it solve what Nigerians are facing now. don't try to change the thread. the money generated to curb this virus, how has the government use the fund

Moji12:
Wow just look at the woman in her prime. Old age i know you are inevitable but i want to remain forever young

RIP

Aunty, no one can cheat nature. it is part of life

you want to have sex with her since 2018 till this moment and you are yet to achieve that, why are you disturbing yourself na. I think you have a problem

source

Stillthebest:


No be person wey don chop dey follow order?? Nigeria is always putting the cart before the horse. Which I can champion a cause that will make voters have sense in 2023!

I doubt it if Nigerians will still have sense till then.

is our leaders in Nigeria under spell? can they reason at all? at a crucial time like this, when the masses needed them most, yet they see as a way to siphon the money to themselves and families. I feel like cursing our leaders

op, you are just showing us physique not beauty

you have not yet tell us what you want to hear from us

don't bring it to Africa for testing

op, is a thief, he just wants to fvck her only

Quality20:
Leave her alone. Are there no girls on d streets or in ur church?

I think you have problems with the church

since you know you will open it for him, why do you want to wait till 6 months, when it will benefit both of you. I believe you are the one that want to fvck him and not you state it here. and if you think you are going to get money from him. you are on your own, shishi he won't give you. why do you think he out for you and not a single lady.
well think about it

the part 1 is released, come and grab your copy, as we await part 2

Mavis3:
Dear Nairalanders,
I had to open this new account Because I have friends here and family members.

Please kindly advice me on this. As I am so bitter and unhappy right now.

I have been married for close to mine years without a child. I have had two miscarriages and couldn't take in again and we tried IVF once which failed.

My husband has been patient and supportive and have been wadding off any form of interference and other than that we had a beautiful marriage and close friends even think we are a perfect couple.
My pain started some months back when our pastor called me for an urgent meeting. On reaching there I met my husband and pastor told me my husband has a confession to make.
My husband told me he had an affair with a lady for a year which he ended because he was feeling guilty. But the lady had a child for him from the relationship which he just got to know recently when she called to tell him. And baby mama has threatened bringing the child to the house if he doesn't meet her demands.

He begged me for forgiveness and so did our pastor. I was heartbroken but I forgave him and took him back.
Early this morning, he told me he wants my permission to become involved in the child's life and be a father to the child.
We own a joint account and our finances is usually.planned as we talk about what we use money for. He wants us to include the upkeep of his child in our budget for each month .

I feel batrayed,angry and bitter.
I told him i will give him an answer when I am done thinking about it.
But I am not happy and I also feel cheated.

How do I handle this please?
Married folks in the house please I need your advice on this.

Pls mod, front page.

sincerely, I salute a woman like you that haven't taken any bad decisions at all. I feel your pain and not easy couple with the fact that the first child is not coming from you his wife. there is nothing I can say but I pray God should give you wisdom, understanding and strength to do what is right. please don't even think of cheating as a means of revenge