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lukui:
Can a girl date a guy without asking for money?
This is just coming this afternoon as an argument amongst guys. Some said if there is love, she won't while some disagreed.

What do you think?
Matured comments only please and no insults to anyone!!

Can a guy date a girl without asking for nude or other room activities?

theunnamed:
Hello NLers

So long story short, this "pastor" has been owing me 27k since July, partly due to the fact that I am busy always and didn't have time to follow up on him physically.

Anytime I call him now he will be telling me one story or the other. I want to rough handle him but the fact that he is a pastor is holding me back. Personally, I have lost all respect for his person.

I'm planning on going to break bottles in his church every Sunday till he pays

Please I need your advice.

simply come out to say that you want to give testimony in the church and say that your pastor been owing you and you prayed to the lord and the holy spirit told you to make a declaration of faith that your pastor will pay you the money.

bamirotola:
Hello medical experts on nairaland, my wife gave birth to my first child less than 2 years ago, but since she weaned her, her breast has become incredibly flaccid...

I am a fan of petite round breast and flaccid is a turn off for me...

I love her and I don't want that to be a barrier as it is affecting our sex life .

Plz what can she do to put the breast back in shape?

I don't want to loose her, how can I help return d breast back in shape...

Flaccid breast has been my fear even before I got married that why I naturally fell in love with petite boobs max 34dd.

Ladies plz don't judge me, I need medical expert to help my marriage!!

Thank you!!

there's the option of surgery, like 2 million plus, just that she wont be able to breastfeed. those herbs and oils don't woek.

UnclePrincipal:
But it's not when things favour women. I expect nothing more from a coded runs girl

Has insulting me made your dating life better?

lilbest4:
same as everything you've been saying. You claimed since men pay for vagina to satisfy penis, vagina is more valuable than penis then I'm asking you if the beef I'm paying for to satisfy my dog is more valuable than my dog.

you're clearly looking for an argument. Good day

lilbest4:
I have a dog that I feed beef which cost me a lot of money, is the beef more valuable than my dog?
Paying for something For satisfaction doesn't mean the thing is more valuable than what you are satisfying
If paying women for sex makes them more valuable why are women the ones crying about sexual objectification?

this doesn't make any sense

Crazyemberr:
Better let her know before hand, that things arent going to go down that way. You both share the bills, thats marriage.
Dont enter one chance.

Aunty, 50:50 is a scam meant to favor men. i will open a thread on this soon

ericsmith:
You've a smart question buh it fortunate its a simple one to answer.
Maybe not all diicks are priceless, considering the existence of gigolo ... buh what is even the % of these low lives among men, let even say 30% of men makeup d gigolos, from such hypothesis can we state for a fact that diick has a price NaH!
On the otherhand, when we say all pussy has a price n therefore they're cheap is simply becos price is not only prostitutes,runs/oloshos pussy alone ... even round gurls make demands or xpect things in return, either in kind or gifts.
Now you make draw a hypothesis, and let see if 85% of women won't make up to reaffirm "women are cheap generalization" hey doesnt mean we love them less by the way

i never said dick was priceless, please let us not leave room for lexical ambiguity here.

that grass is free does not make it priceless. it's quite hard to get what you are saying.

Toks2008:
Do you know that 99% of ladies who are still single at marriageable ages have no business with singlehood?

Many ladies pray to GOD every now and then for a spouse but unknown to them, GOD has blocked his ears to their prayers...WHY? Because God has already given them a spouse but they rejected his choice for them due to the preconceived unrealistic standards they have already created in their minds of what a good husband should be. The average woman is totally confused as regards the type of man she truly wants, she does not really want a good man or a good husband in the real sense but what she wants is her own fantasy idea of what a good husband is supposed to be, in order words, she already has her MIND MADE HUSBAND...

Whilst men may get away with this mind-made choice because they are at a vantage position due to their ability to walk up to any lady of their choice, a lady may find It very difficult to do the same...maybe things would have been easier if ladies can walk up to the man that has their standards to decisively woo them and make them fall for them, propose to them and stay married to them

Whilst I totally agree that it is perfectly ok to set a standard as regards the type of husband you want, it is sacrosanct that you do not cross that line from realistic standards to fantasy and you can't pray to GOD to give you a good husband and at the same time give him conditions...if you want GOD to lead a good husband to find you then allow him to do just that.

*Work on yourself to be independent financially and you won't care if your man is jobless, broke or earns 30k per month at the moment cos the state of being broke or poor is relative and temporary.
*Sixpack or a good body frame does not equate to a good husband.
*A big dck is not a guaranty that he will be a good husband.
*That he is rich does not mean you are also rich.
*You will hardly find a rich man that will be there for you whenever you need him.
*It is very unrealistic to expect a good husband to act or look like the super romantic sexy F boys you have met in the past and hoping to turn a F boy into a husband is lame.
*A man is not supposed to be cute like ladies who are regarded as the fairer sex or must be tall to be considered a good husband...what a man needs to have is a genuine desire for you.
*You can never date a pastor, a divorcee, can't marry a man with kids, you can't date a workaholic and you want a rich man, you can't be with a guy who is not fluent, who talks too much, he has to belong to a certain tribe, religion or even church denomination, must have a certain skin colour, must have good dress sense, must be based abroad or from a certain country, the age difference must not be too much as if close age gap is a prerequisite for a good marriage...
*He texts you or calls you too much or so into you and you feel he is not your type!...would you rather prefer he cares less?
*You want a good guy or husband but you have bad manners, you act and dress indecently and your nude or semi-nude pics and videos are all over social media and you dare crave for a good man
*Your feelings for a man as important as it is can not guaranty that he will have the same feelings for you and if you marry a man you have feelings for but does not have true feelings for, sister you are finished maritally.
*You Have friend-zoned and you keep friend-zoning the good guys and running after bad boys like a jinxed lady and you still talk about how difficult it is to find good men...
*You don't want to build a life with him cos you feel he will leave or cheat on you if he is made...Crazy!... I can go and on highlighting a series of unrealistic standards many ladies look for in a prospective good husband.

No matter how you pray and no matter the number of the singles summit you attend, If you are not ready to forget your false standards and make a serious compromise, you may remain single for a very very long time. l believe that the most paramount desire of an unmarried lady is to have a GOOD husband who will love and care for her and any other thing should be secondary and when you pray to GOD FOR a husband, blank your mind from any Imaginary standard you have created for yourself and allow GOD HAVE HIS WAY or simply develop the balls to approach any guy that matches your imagination and stop bothering GOD.

I hope this makes sense.

how low the mighty men have fallen

Arkmanbuddy:
I think black women are more demanding than white. Haven't dated a white Lady though, but most of the time them seem independent.

when it is time for divorce, white women will suck you dry, mosquito dey learn work for their side

Korllami007:
I just have one single question. Just single question and no beating around the bush like hunter that want to kill bush rat. Do sugar mummies pay their gigolos for sex? Yes or No.

Very simple and straightforward.

no

Korllami007:
I hope you can urinate through your bladder since your urethra doesn't produce urine and that makes it useless.

At bolded, penis is also expensive because sugar mummy are paying gigolo huge money for it too.

If most women from the age of 35 upward don't get marry, dick will be expensive for them and most them will start paying for it.

your first paragraph has no meaning,kindly paraphrase it.

penis is free oga,Take it or leave it. Even ass hole is more expensive than penis, if you doubt me ask bobrisky and other fruity men
@ the bolded is also another lie, let us use this romanceland, both dating and sexuality section, the way some monicker have been begging for sugarmummy for years ehn, you will know that itnis not legit hustle, what of coded runs? more women than men.

You just refuse to see reason because you want to be right. I refuse to go round in circles with you. Las las a woman will still press your mumu buttons.

lilwetdick:
sperm and spermatozao are from the testicles but does the sperm comes from the mouth of the man into the virginal isnt it for from penis, the penis is the tool and a valuable tool for women, a man with a testicle and without a penis, how useful is that man to child bearing, a woman without child will do everything possible to get one penis to lay her down

Women will say viginal is not cheap, but it is surely cheap and can be gotten with the right tactics

women might say penis might be free or does not have value but i have seen many women fight for one penis, even sabotage each other plans just to get that penis.

Now you are not discussing logically

lilwetdick:
i dont need to quote statistic and reference, it is what we see daily in the physical world..there many things that dont need statistics or references, pure observation will bring out the true details

weak men always put women on pedestal, making women feel like small gods, most of these men think women can do no harm and worship them daily. so your rules only work for men who put women on pedestal

secondly, most women need children, there is always that desire to carry her own child to feel like a mother and also act like one, if penis does not have value most women cant have that feeling of what is it to be a women, you infact have already written the value already, the penis produce the sperm not semen, that sperm is needed for it to fertilise your egg in your fertile period. if the penis does have value, you wont have offsprings.

Amen

Guest007:
Co. Signed

That number 1 is a must...

Bless you girls! You will all find your Kings by kicking the frogs out the way

lilwetdick:
Virgina and penis do have value, each one needs each other to survive

the problem is penis putting virginal on pedestal, penis acting like they cant live without virginal, even some penis commiting sucide because of virgina that is because the penis doesnt know his worth. that is why i wrote that your tactics only works for Simps, average frustrated chumps and incels.d


Lastly, Many women wont stay in a sexless relationship with a man, it shows that sex is compulsory for women, with sex, women are able to bond well with a man.

Quote statistics and references please, or didn't you see the other thread asking if women will stay in a relationship without sex.

Men and women need each other but no one is put on a higher pedestal, those are the lies men tell themselves when they know they are inadequate. What is your proof that penis has value, the only valuable thing is semen with good quality spermatozoa, not penis, every male ejaculation can result in a pregnancy, female ejaculations hardly do so.

I hope she gets convicted for murder

lilwetdick:
i think, it will be a dishonnour to keep redpill men in that list,

pls the incels and redpill are different people, redpill men seek to maintain a mutual understanding with women and not to demonise them, they know the truth and understand that

women love redpill men, pls incels and Average fraustrated chump are what you meet daily here on romance sections not redpill men.

back to your topic, i say this, a woman setting different rules for a man might not meet a potential partner, we shouldn forget sex is cheap and can be gotten anywhere, basically a woman knowlege that there are potential competitors out there to take her so called quality man and her understanding of her biological clock will surely make her not to follow this your hard rules

this your rules only works for SIMPS, not men with lot of options

my method is tried and true for ALL men regardless of their option. I actually will leave red pill men in my list, i even forgot to add that offspring of redpill and pick up artists called MGTOW.

Sex is cheap but not compulsory. At least vagina has value, penis is free.

This is a continuation of males and monogamy part 1 where i touched on why monogamy benefits men more than women and talked about mate guarding. The reason, i am starting this series, which is yet to get a name is to help ladies to attract and sustain interest of good quality men in the haystack of incels, redpill men, fuckboys, manipulators, egomaniacs, abusers, mama's boys, no future ambition men, parasitic types, backdoor men and every other undesirable category of man born with a penis. So please Click the link below to read more on part 1;
https://www.nairaland.com/5462373/knowing-dirty-games-men-play

Mate guarding is not necessarily a bad thing. It is only natural to do everything you can to keep that which is precious to you, and trust me, men may not act like it, but continuing their lineage(and the woman they do it with) is very important to them. It is also very painful for men who father children that aren't theirs. In view of these, i will cut them some slack, for now.

Back to topic ladies, i promised to spill on how you as a lady can make a male mate-guarding benefit you in the long run. There are many, many ways on how to do this but i will only highlight 5 of the very important ones to allow room for flexibility.
1. BE A HIGH VALUE WOMAN: dont be cheap. Trust me, good quality men won't make any extra effort for someone who doesn't treat herself like a prize. Be the woman a man knows everyday without you rubbing it in that he is lucky to have, work on your insecurites,self love and self worth, respect yourself and others. Be the person who leaves someone with a beautiful experience of you.

2. KEEP YOUR OPTIONS OPEN, ALWAYS: and I do not mean your ex. Instead of a woman desperately pursuing a relationship with a single man, maintain different relationships with or date several men which are beneficial to you. Never put your eggs in one basket. If you feel guilty, men do the same thing too, just don't rub it in their faces and keep this to yourself.

3. GO ON DATES WHERE YOU ARE MORE LIKELY TO ENCOUNTER A LOT OF MALE COMPETITION:any place with a lot of single available males is fine, so is any activity that encourage his competitive spirit. Just have fun and be observant.

4. MAKE SEXUAL ACCESS RESERVED AND EXCLUSIVE: to the male(s) who have demonstrated good character, commitment and has significant investment. Close shop until you know that opening them will only bring you tangible benefit, make him so invested in you/the relationship that he would think twice before ghosting you because he will truly be the losing party. Also remember not to get pregnant too.

5.MONOGAMY IS FOR MARRIAGE ONLY: or do you want to be miss 'lord of the rings'? Unless a man expresses to you, and acts on his desire for marriage with a timeline in mind, you should not be monogamous. Remember that monogamy benefits men more than women.

You will know that your chances with susataining interest of that high quality bobo when he starts exhibiting mate guarding behavior, which could include but not limited to physically trying (not really suceeding)to reduce out rival males without harming your self respect or person, being in constant communication to maintain you interest, increased intimacy and friendship, and making you his exclusive significant other because you mean that much to him.


Questions are welcome but are limited to one per person, your attempts at an argument will be shut down before it begins so dear men be civil.

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Kkings11:
No seriously you have more body fat and definition than me and I am 2 yrs older than you.

My plan na to marry better woman wey sabi cook so that she go feed me well.

Because you can't feed yourself as an adult abi?

AfroKnight:
Somehow you can see that from whatever hole you crawled out of, this morning.

Girl, you have no idea. (I could say that literally and still be spot on!)

Luckily for me, I don’t do bimbos. Better luck next time.

And you can also somehow see that i am a bimbo from whatever crevice you type from.

Good morning

AfroKnight:
Same dick you just can’t but twerk on all day, moaning and singing off key to your heart’s content? Yeah, I understand you miss the action.

Why are you calling on your friend? Want a party? Not sure I swing that way anymore.

i dont do micropenises

LillyVal:
I WILL MARRY You!!

Sister, I will marry you is not marriage, give me your mummy's number is not marriage. I just spoke with everyone in your family, and even your ancestor is not marriage.

I sent some stuff to your parents is still not "marriage." Haven't you seen my people? Is not marriage. My mum is fond of you, It is not "marriage" I love the way you cook, and you will make a good wife, is still not "marriage."

My parent and siblings can't stop talking about you, my dear, that is still not "marriage." I have engaged you, so you have nothing to worry about, that is not marriage. Until he performs all marriage rites, Don't Get Your Hopes Up.

Till then, you leave your heart opened, be wise in all you do and remember not to engage in wifey shit for who is not worth it. Don't place your mind on anybody who is not yet married to you and stop bragging that he's yours yet. Also having keys to his apartment is not marriage.
Don't let them deceive you into their temporary lust.!!!!

Be wise!!! Maka ndi audio money and audio marriage

My humble advice for single ladies out there

YOU ARE STILL SINGLE UNTIL YOU SAY I DO!

preach it sis

AfroKnight:
Who’s praying for you? I’m prescribing medication for whatever ails you and your cohorts.

medication from a quack with STD infected dick? I'll rather take from doctor funmisticqueen

AfroKnight:
Never in the history of Nairaland have I seen such a great gathering of hopeless misandrists.



Somebody, help these ladies. Give them a faithful boyfriend each. Let’s quench the rage in their stony hearts.

if the niggas are mad enough to send prayers my way , then let me congratulate myself for a job well done.

it isn't everyday a man prays