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mercyefe200:
A working class woman identified as Jennifer Oseh has taken to her Instagram account to share the screenshot of the chat she had with a security man who confessed that he has fallen in love with her.

Jennifer revealed that she has always been kind to the security man by always giving him tips whenever they met.

However, the man misinterpreted her kind gesture.

In the screenshot the lady posted on IG, the man had texted her to reveal that he has feelings for her.

He went ahead to reveal to her that he would have confessed his love a while ago if he had money.

On a different day after she refused to reply to the confession, the man sent a text, asking if he could come and stay with her.

She replied and told him never to send such messages to her.

He, however, sent another message apologizing and even claimed that he was feeling lonely.

She asked if she should be worried about the message sent by the man.

See the screenshot below:

https://www.instagram.com/theladyvhodka/

https://www.ogbeta.ng/2019/11/security-man-falls-in-love-with-working.html

I wanted to say love transcends social strate, but That security man is most likely a hobosexual. ladies you should not be too nice to men if not they start thi king they can take liberties with you

No fúcks given, that woman got game

Hello ladies, it's me again giving AMORAL advice about relationships. Hope your day has been going good?

We all have a back story, some of us have been in different relationships or situationships with varying outcomes, while others have never even been asked out. We are all of different sizes, ages, strata and situations but we have one thing in common. We are stunningly single, and about to dip into the murky waters called the dating pool with the hope of fishing for an appropriate son of Adam. It's not an easy task i tell you. So how do we maximise our chance of success? Well you are at the right place.

Our Nigerian culture hasn't really taught women to date correctly, forget the single seminars in your churches and mosques, they just regurgitate outdated content. So what we see is a lot of blind people stumbling in trial and error making the same mistakes and expecting a different result each time. If that isn't madness, i don't know what is.

To have a remote chance of success, you need to modify your mindset and approach dating with a strategy tailored to your unique situation. The way a teenager approaches dating will be slightly different from a single mother, an older woman, a widow or a divorcee. i have decided to give a few simple guidelines that might help.

1. WORK ON YOUR SELF FIRST; is your self esteem doing poorly, are you broken or have going through some special tribulation that will take your time and decrease your dating chances. Take out time to.work on that first, ask yourself the tough questions that we are all afraid to answer? Why did my last relationship go south? Who am I? what do i want? Why aren't people interested in me? What undesirable characteristics do i have? and so on. It is important to ANSWER YOURSELF TRUTHFULLY, no matter how much you may not like to hear it.

2. THERE IS NO PRINCE CHARMING IN NIGERIA: except the ones sending you emails to send a certain amount to them. Just use soap and water to delete all the fairy tales and Disney cartoons from your head. The average Nigerian man is far from perfect and has a lot of disgusting flaws to boot. Take time to delete toxic mindset you may have about dating, relationships, marriage and men that is promoted by our silly culture.

3. PUT YOUR BEST FOOT FORWARD: you are not the only one fishing from the same pool so you have to stand out. Go extra, pamper yourself and look attractive. There are no ugly women, only lazy and poor women. Wear the full makeup,fix that wig, wear those feminine clothes and shoes, Level up your persona. i will talk more about this in later posts.

4. SET GOALS FOR DATING: What do you intend to achieve from this? Marriage to a high quality man? To be pampered and treated to gifts and expensive places? To find a glucose guardian or an intimacy buddy? None are right and none are wrong, you owe it to yourself to know why you are doing this in the first place. Just make it realistic, achievable, measurable and time bound.

5. KNOW WHAT YOU NEED AND DON'T NEED? i will talk more about this in subsequent posts. of you go to the market without knowing what you need, you will end up wasting money, time and resources on what you don't need. Same with men.

This is just the basics, subsequent posts will tackle these points in detail. it might take some time, but nobody ever went awry with these tips. May the odds be in your favor

Trimque2k1:
rich men don't complain of stingy women because situation has not allowed them to,op states everything clearly.its a plus when u know ur wife when u are not rich and get rich later to appreciate her

Men do not like it when women see them at their worst. Do not deceive yoyrself

loswhite:
How do you define rich men? How much do you need to have for you to classify yourself rich? Well you will never hear them complain tho because they can easy dump your sorry ass and move on to the next

That's your reality, not mine

Fantazy:
I wonder what good can come from a stingy person.

Think of this: Even the wealthiest man on earth still expect financial assistance at times from his other half
#Fact

What you said is a fallacy

user283:
There's this lady I've been dating for two years now. We happen to be members of the same church and I ought to have taken the relationship to the next level by getting my parents to her place for our introduction last month but I had a rethink and postponed the introduction due to an issue that might cause problem in the future

I noticed my girlfriend is the stingy type. When I mean stingy, it's on the high side. Assuming she's just averagely stingy I wouldn't really be bothered but this is gross.

I work as a bank teller (contract staff) and my salary isn't really much while she works in Shoprite. Even from the little I earn, tipping my girlfriend whenever she's stranded or not has never been a load on my neck since I love her but how can I explain being with a lady for two solid years and I've never for once received any gift no matter how little it is?

Initially, I didn't see this as a big deal probably because I grew up with the mentality that it's a taboo for a man to expect gifts or little support from his girlfriend when he's in dire need
but I've now grown to see "give and take" as one of the key elements of a good relationship

Even if I get stranded or go into debt, my girlfriend act nonchalant and she'll be the
last person that will ever render a little financial assistance to help my situation. You might say I should sit her down and discuss about it. Yes I've already done that and I made her understand that I actually postponed our introduction for no other reason but because I'm still indecisive if I want to spend the rest of my life with a selfish woman but her response shows she's not willing to change.

I even used logic to whine her younger brother recently and he told me her sister is stingy. I decided to carry out my findings on her brother because I believe he should know her better.

You might want to talk about sex but my belief is that sex is just a mutual pleasure and does not define what a woman gives to you in a relationship. 

What's getting me worried is that we've come a long way but I don't want to end up with a selfish woman because it's written all over her that she cares so much about herself alone

Please advice your fellow brother. Do I have a reason to be worried? I've been jumping a lagoon for a woman who can't jump a gutter for me especially when it comes to giving

Should I tolerate this level of stinginess from a woman simply because I'm a man? Can you consider a marrying someone as stingy as this just because she has other good traits?

Please pardon my typos. I wrote this in a hurry

the reason you wrote this is because you don't have much. if she is a good person despite this, then marry her. Actually, you are the provider in the family. How come i never see rich men complain of stingy women?

eguarojeona:
1.You are a liar, you knowingly cheated.
2.He is scum for threatening you with revenge porn.He is scum.You are scum too.
3.Just break up and move on.
4.Report him to the appropriate authorities.

If she was drunk then her judgment was impaired, do you want to say that you don't do stupid things when drunk that you will never do when sober?
Guys sleep with ’ugly’ girls and get them pregnant from one drunk night.

women get raped.

Even if it was consensual in her drunk state, she didn't consent to a video being made of her and that sex is enough grounds to make it not consensual.

Ladycewhy:
lol , is that so? Lol well i am no newspaper, i am youthful and still very much with age on her side.For some reason you dolts assume this of every female here, Lol try again , ransack through the cells in your dickhead ,just try again lol

Male birth control is now available in India in the form of an injection to the groin.

Very soon it will come to Nigeria.
Let all these incels and redpillers stop bringing their seed to this world biko.

Ladycewhy:
which is why i said you need to comprehend and stop ranting ,you just confirmed my assertion that you are frustrated about something and going all out like a wounded lion. All you did was regurgitate the same thing.

I am not here to go back and forth with you in whatever world you have created for yourself, if you want to keep regurgitating ,i will leave you to it and respond to people who are more on the side of logic to allow for an engaging conversation.


But let me just say this, there are many unwritten rules of society, but you wouldn't know that now would you? now i am not against women making their own money ,infact i encourage it,but if a woman must share financial burden ,the man must also share from other forms of house chores its that simple,atleast western men dont have a problem with that .


How Do I Understand/satisfy My Husband?

I saw this thread this morning and it dawned on me that the self esteem of men is only tied to being able to provide, they see it as a tool for control and manipulation instead of for fulfilment and opportunity. Take this away from a man and they feel worthless and their self esteem flies out the window.which is why women need financial freedom not so they can be equal to men but to be free from the control and manipulation of men. Its not so you can help him offload his financial responsiblity as a woman but to empower yourself. Hence "women empowerment".


In this current century ,women still give birth and take care of homes and their children so i don't even see the comparism between now and our mothers of the old,infact women now have more duties when it comes to kids with perverts running around and the dark side of technology etc. The only thing i see that is different is the level of freedom which you seem to be bitter about hence this your comment

us to be the provider men of the past while women are free to not be women of the past. Women of the past were more useful to their husbands: they gave birth, took care of the children, accepted the man was the head of the house, listened to their husbands' commands and rules (the husband's authority was finally), consistently and without fail did the chores of cooking, cleaning, and tidying, respected their husbands, gave sex whenever the man wanted etc. all these in return for the man being the provider.

Which brings me back to the issue of control and manipulation which the woman must strive to be free from for her own good not so she can be equal .Our mothers endured alot in the past not because they were happy but they had no choice infact in my culture leaving your husband's house was a taboo. So these men knew their wives were going nowhere so they did whatever they liked cos the tradition was all in their favour. Your choice of word like "commands and rules" is a justification that truly women of old adapted patience as means of survival and not because they liked it .

Martinez39 is a redpiller and an incel. Arguing with him will only be to your demerit as he will bring you to his level and beat you with experience.

Omar09:
I am not sure you sucked yo mama's breast when you was still a baby. How could you say something like that? Is that how far you've gone with yo feminism shiiiit?

Like she could get more? What more? Didn't you read the part where he said they are now enjoying the fruit of their labor, or you just decided to be dumb?

Idk what's worse that you are a hoe or you are a very dumb hoe. God!

Enjoying which fruit?

Don't be deceived by what you see in that kind of marriage.

Suffering with an adult man does not pay.

Nigg3369:
ok what type of nigerians are you talking bout

The adult ones with a penis and lack of enlightenment.

Some of y'all can wipe your asscrack properly.

smart024:
Do you even know the meaning of "disgusting" at all...?

That a beautiful lady who can do.so much better for herself decides to stick with a bum for whatever reason, knowing that she is taking a big gamble is the definition of disgusting

Riele:
Believe it or not.

Nigeria men are ugly and below average .

It's so annoying .

it's simple.
they don't take care of themselves.

they believe the only way to take care of themselves is to drink peppersoup and beer, sleep with girls and smoke weed.

if you preach to them the good news of cream and bodycare, they will look at you like you are the witch from their village

smart024:
I know a pretty lady that not only said but did and stuck to her guy in the worse living conditions one would imagine...

Both her family and the guy's family were no longer in support of their relationship to a point of accusing and counter accusing either the guy or the lady for their condition and if the relationship was not ordinary...

As we speak, they are now reaping the positive results of them sticking together and are now the cause of the unity of both families...


I don't own rights nor have got permissions to mention their names or I would have done that...

that's disgusting

mrkings84:
U sounds like a fool, do u know that if God was not involved, that man would have died even being rushed to the hospital?

story for the gods

Autotech312:
One of the wonders of Allah.

Wonders of Allah or science and medicine

Mrop:
Relationship expert Joro Olumofin has come hard of single ladies who didn't get married in 2019, praizenews report.

According to the relationship expert, he wrote ;


https://www.instagram.com/p/B4sGn9hg0DS/?igshid=rjorfsq26aje

Ladies what do you think about Joro opinion ??

we'll rather stay single than spend ourselves on gigolos with poor home training. Where did he gather his statistics from

ericsmith:
@Eyeness i av seen ur DM, buh d truth is i just can't date you becos you are UGLY.

I never DMed you?


You are entitled to your opinion. Good morning

boiz2men:
To whom much is given.. Much is expected.

If you want to be given the opportunity, then expect responsibilities

If you know can't take the heat, you shouldn't be in the kitchen

You call equal opportunities much? IT IS THE BASICS, THE BASELINE. Equal opportunities are not asking for much at all..


Men and women can never have equal responsibility because their differences are meant to complement.

An apple and an avocado pear are fruits, they both grow from trees, are plucked, process and sent to the market for sale. that is basic,that is equal right. But they are both different in look, feel, taste, what they are eaten with and nutrient composition.

Asking an avocado to do what the apple does is quite a stretch, isn't it?

Do you now understand?

boiz2men:
So you want to blame me for your interpretation?

Whose fault is it that women are emotional?

Thick skinned women are not

Answer your question. Your tone implied something else.

boiz2men:
But there's a dictionary meaning.

I'm not responsible for your interpretation.

But women are emotional. they listen more to the 80% non verbal communication.

boiz2men:
Feminism didn't start as that..

But guess what we have today... Women wanting equal opportunities but never equal responsibilities...

A typical feminist often forgets that there are gender roles in the family....

Well I don't know about feminists, but i do know this, while equal opportunity is possible, and equal expectations at work, equal responsibility is not possible because of biological sex roles.

ericsmith:
correction: there is nothing like "man's response" reply varies ..sum wuld walk away, sum wuld say " ok", sum might insult buh that is common among low lifes, or thugs
if its eric i can absorb wit sum sense of humour ;naa broke we broke we no kill pesin

I don't expect you to ask me what a woman response wil be, i am not a woman ... you tell me what ur own response will be, afterall response vary

i agree that responses vary, but they do tend to follow a general pattern.

boiz2men:
So you read that post you quoted and still didn't get why men are the prize?

What is your emotion when you are single?

Worried, indifferent, joyful

My emotion when I'm single is indifferent. No loss no gain. What's yours?

Indifferent also, i have learned to truly enjoy my company.

boiz2men:
Hello dear..

Does thick skinned have a different meaning?

For me, it means someone who is insensitive to others criticism. Someone who cares less about others opinion....

Calling a lady ugly and she not flinching is thick skinned.. She doesn't Care about your opinions of her look.

Kindly tell me why this hurt you please..

I'm confused

Yes, it implies a different tone to some people.

i guess men are truly from mars and women are truly from venus

boiz2men:
Actually thick skinned is a complement denoting a strong willed woman who isn't disturbed by other's opinions. Her ideals do not bend to favor your opinions.. If you call her ugly, she leaves you behind and move on...

While this is admirable, they eventually become feminists.. Which becomes unfortunate for guys like us who love thick skinned women....

Its an ambivalent feeling... We love women who are not pussies but hate when they become a captain too in this ship of relations

My intention is not to usurp a man's authority especially if you read the thread, but to make women realize their feminine potential. It is quite insightful talking with you

boiz2men:
To A good number of ladies

After school, whats next?

Marriage (not even jobs)

Who do they marry?

Men.

Who would do anything to get a another human even to resort to use charms and jaruma

Women

Who is the "another human"

Men

Who is the more excited couple in a wedding?

The bride

Who is a bride?

A woman

Who marries who is available and not who they love?

A woman.

Who regularly checks the clock and gets disturbed when time ticks?

A woman

Except career focused women, most women become less of themselves when they marry.
When you have run the race and you get the gold (the prize) ... You rest.. That's what most women do after marriage.

The dream of a young girl in her world of fantasy to be marry a charming rich prince. A prince is a man.


the dream of a young boy in his world of fantasy is by be very successful.


you get

i think you mistake femininity for cowardice and low self esteem.

Besides you are yet to prove that men are the prize

funmisticqueen:
I can see that arguing with you will take me nowhere. I didn't insult anybody, but here you are calling women thick skinned. I never painted women as calm, as i said in other posts, they have issues too and i said i would trash them in due time. Calling some women thick skinned for giving their all to improve their appearance is uncalled for.

It is like calling men thick skinned for hustling to make money i think i am taking your post personally because this behavior is called gaslighting

Don't take it personally.

MEN ARE BETTER AT ARGUING, doing so with them will put you at a disadvantage and they will beat you at their game. TRULY FEMININE WOMEN NEVER ARGUE BECAUSE ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS.

i have been watching your threads for a while and something i notice about you is that you let men bait you too easily and you always react by arguing. Stop giving them the attention

boiz2men:
I love how you tried to make the woman a calm simple lady who takes things easily in good faith

Typical of women...

Only thick skinned women are like that and they are few. Unfortunately they eventually become feminists.

Women take their looks seriously. Telling a woman who loves you that she is ugly will kill her...

She will by proxy be at war with the new babe you will get (someone that is yet to come)

the very heartless ones will go the mile to make sure your new gf who is prettier become ugly... havent you heard of ladies pouring acids on ladies faces..


Women hate rejections and are incapable of taking it...

the worst a woman can say to me is NO...

I won't hate her for that.... Never. We just become friends. That's all..

I have liked some babes here but I have gotten a good number of rejections... They are still my friends... We talk and laugh as though I didn't ask them out.. No time to be waste productive time on a woman's rejection...

This is not even an alpha make thingy. it is basic survival instincts and common sense..

Have some value for yourself and women can never break your heart...

I see everyone as nothing but SKINS and BONES (male and female alike).. So why should someone who can rot to sand feel larger than life to me...

This does not happen often. Majority of men don't think like you.

but calling some women thick skinned was really unnecessary.

While i respect your opinion, i wont try to force them down your throat or belittle them.

It was nice chatting with you

boiz2men:
To consider something a failure, it has to be beyond the ordinary.

If you add 1 to 2, u should get 3. If you get 4.. You failed it.

It is normal for ladies to reject.. Considering a lady's rejection as a failure speaks a lot about the self esteem of the guy...

I particularly think any girl who rejects me is a loss to her...

The mentality goes beyond women.. If I apply for a job and I'm rejected. I consider it their loss...

What then is failure?


Despair.. When you get to that point where you believe external odds are better than you.

If I send you a pm and ask u out, best believe I will be unperturbed (even though I might be in love) if you reject my proposal. I cant and will never take a ladies rejection as failure..

Which was why I asked if the guy has a dickk

Whether u agree or not.. when push comes to shove, men are the prize...

You should have said you were talking about yourself. People in general dont think the way you do.Remember we have a lot of people with low self esteem walking the earth.

please tell me why exactly men are the prize?

boiz2men:
I want to answer on his behalf


The man will strive to become better and go for women who don't consider his financial status

The woman will lose her confidence and self esteem. She will become timid and slow in public. She will always shy away from the public. I pray she doesn't commit suicide or bleach her skin

Good reply.

But the initial response will be to lash out at the woman who rejects him because she is broke, he will call her names because he feels he is entitled to have her and she MUST accept him as broke as he is. If men strive actually to become better,why is it that he always paints his ex in a bad light. "She was this and she was that". Not all men who strive to become better actually become better. Men are 4 times more likely to commit suicide than women

If a man rejects a woman because of her looks, initially she does feel dejected, she doesn't call the man names for calling her ugly. But she then tries to either supplement her ugliness with other things, character traits we commonly call ’inner beauty' or she tries to work on her looks in any way possible, lightening,hair,makeup,nails, weightloss, surgery, just to upgrade her looks. To back it up with real life evidence, a good number of today's female celebrities were not born with the looks they have today. That is how femininity works. When a woman talks about her exes, she talks about his actions, 'Hey did this or did that to me'