5 years later

I don't regret it and never will

I wasn't ready for motherhood, I am still not ready. I would have been in poverty and miserable if I had it, I might have even resented it.

Whenever I think about it, all I feel is relief.

True I may not have the life I want now, but I am working towards it.

A child is a big responsibility with little to no return on investment. I'm even thinking if motherhood is not for me. Parenthood is scary. I'm not saying I won't love my children, but it's harder to love what you didn't want, than something you planned for with someone

I see terrible parents all the time and it has scarred me, I see children die due to the parents' ignorance, I see women in labour unprepared for the shit they signed up for. I see kids for what they are, being a bundle of joy is a very small portion of it and the rest isn't joyful


I cannot do parenthood alone, God knows. I don't think I can be a baby mama, a single mother, or married to an irresponsible mAn. I'll abandon the kid with him. I cannot have more than 2.


I don't think motherhood is for me. Yet.

If you think I am a wicked person, I can take that, but what I cannot do is deceive myself.

zinaunreal:
this op is pained
No 6 is a big lie vagina does not bounce back I repeat It does not bounce back because I have fallen inside well on several occasions

Oga, you just told us your preek is small. Just continue to swim inside well

Psoul:


I have also seen many medical doctors cause more damages to their patients in the name of giving them medical treatment.

We have silly many medical doctors out there. In the same way, we have bad trado-medical doctors.

A medical doctor that has bn handling my friend's wife antenatal checks and treatment, noticed that the young lady has Pelvis bone issue which may make it hard for the lady to deliver by herself.
He kept telling the lady and the husband that everything was ok.
Until the day of delivery, he insisted that the should push out the baby.
Even seeing that the lady was getting tired and he insisted that she should try.
Not until my wife who was standing like a mother for the girl started shouting at the doctor that can't u see that this young girl is tired or do u want the baby to die in her womb.
My wife told the husband to sign fo CS.
The doctor invited my wife and the lady's husband and opened up that the lady has Pelvis issue.
My wife was so furious that he knew this, refused to let them know before hands and he still insisted that the lady should push the baby.

Now, after the CS, the baby came out, but he sucked and swallowed the fluid in his mother's womb.
Baby is now in another specialist hospital in another state while the mother is still in the hospital recuperating.

Meanwhile, this happens to be one of the best hospitals that has branches in many states.

So you can see one of those silly medical doctors here.

Actually, the doctor did nothing wrong. The only process that determines whether a child can pass through the mother's hip or not is labour. I have seen people with apparently small hips on pelvimetry deliver with no issues and people with normal pelvimetry results almost go into obstructed labour.

mariahAngel:


Did you experience a similar situation?

No, my father is still with my mom. I know what both sacrificed to put food on the table and send us to school, and make us useful members of society. As I got older, I am grateful for that.

So someone who chooses instant gratification than to provide for the children he brought into this world deserves no pity and everything bit of bad luck that comes his way

torqque7:


To see u?is he trying to marry u since he didn't marry her or did he just miss ur punny and wants u to wet his d.ic.k?some guys tho..

As in.

Very bad behavior.

I with someone else now, it's his loss

Crossroad1:
u dey vex I bro.. But truly, every one should own up to his actions.

he made his bed, let him lie on it. This is the cost of being a deadbeat

bukatyne:
@Crossroad1:

Lovely story, I particularly liked the end that they are in different space.

I usually don't like galavanting spouse (especially the husband) and isonu makeup when he is old and wrinkled.

If I did not enjoy your youth, why should I be saddled with your broken old age?

Two three things I will say:
1. Your mother should forgive your father. She is still harboring bitterness towards him which is injurious to her health; physical, emotional, spiritual and mental. She should let go of the hurt & pain.

2. Facilitate your siblings to forgive him; he is still your father and send whatever stipend you can send to him. You all need to play your part.

3. You said she has someone new; I don't know the conditions under which they married; she might want to check she is free to be with someone else so she is not committing adultery.

I don't agree with point 1&2. No one owes his father anything. Life is not a cheap budget yoruba movie

RIP English

Iamdbull:
I was coming back from the gym as usual and from a distance something struck my eyes, I saw a very fresh looking lady wey fine die had to look in her direction, she was glowing extraordinarily and radiating, she was not putting on anything special like that but her skin was glowing. But was shocked when I saw the person

Am sorry cant mention her name because that might be quite downgrading but let me give a clue she's like the most beautiful light skin celebrity in nigeria, she was once in big brother nigeria and she was on front page recently for sharing bikini pictures which lots of unscrupulous elements here were OLOSHOSHAMING her.( Please don't mention her name if you know her)

I was so surprised to see her on the bike, I guess her car broke down or something but that kind babe suppose get plenty simps wey go give her ride na abi because that kind fresh face no suppose enter sun walahi


I wish I don blow and get a nice ride and I was there while she was about boarding the bike, I go just be like hey BIURIFUU it's Dbull ofcourse I know you Know me my music is banging all over the country, what's wrong why are you under the scorching effects of this harsh sun, Oya hop in my masseratti right away from there I go dey lamba her chaiiii. Make I go continue to dey rehearse for my next song I must blow by force.

give me the weed you smoking

Iyaebe:
Let's be truthful to ourselves, we all have that careers of men that immediately turn us off on finding out. Mine goes thus: - Anything media is a big turn off, Bankers, The ' I work from home' groups, Teachers, Bitcoin traders and other Internet businesses, Car dealers.Please add yours,no insults.

rappers

Jeon:



BLACK NIGGA KEEP FIGHTING URSELF UNTIL YOU HAVE PEACE AND HARMONY.

he might be down low. He needs to come out of the closet

Intersexxsherry:
. Intersex beauty

Did you photoshop your waist? It's okay, looks snatched

torqque7:


Lol na u still loose na,cos he still fv.ccked u silly right infront of his girl whom was probably wet as fvcck and still returned to him to get her own mind blowing sex and u also proved to his girl how desperate u are and cheap too..my dear if at all u hurt anyone,it wasn't the guy cos he won both ways...go and drink cold water so u can calm desperation. ..I envy the guy man o..u must have been real pained to go through all that shit ignoring the fact that u could have been recorded by the girl too and become a famous pornn actress online nxt day..fish brainss �

it's 3 years later and this same ex called me to apologise. He said he didn't marry the babe because a lot of stuff happened. He sha called to apologise for which I told him there's no need. He asked to see me for which I lgnored and blocked him

Callmegerald2:
I recently welcomed a son. The bill wey follow this boy is well over N220,000, this is aside baby clothing, diapers, wipes, cot, bathing kit, hanger and so many other stuff, which gulped at least N100,000. The thing shock me.

Wetin man go do nah? For this Buhari times... What needs to be done gat to be done.

So you didn't know the cost of having a baby before opening leg for a man abi?

Mtcheeeeeeeeeew

You are a wicked person

arthurwillia:
Lol

I remembered I helped a mother who gave birth but lost the child to escape about 2 years ago
Haha
She gave birth to the child through SVD, but child was underweight, didn’t make it in the end after some treatment in the SCBU before transfer to neonatal ward.. no money to pay for bills, her baby daddy left her there.. we are from same tribe and we met each other in a strange land so we talked very well as I was an intern in that government hospital..
she spent up to two months in the hospital because they will not let her go, her load was packed to one side with other mothers that can’t pay too, They can’t escape with load because security will ask them at the gate.

Na so we plan am o, she began dropping her stuffs with me small small, and I took it to my place not far from the hospital, did it for 3 days I think and when it was complete, she just strolled out to come pack everything and she disappeared, never heard from her since then, 2019. Whew what a mess

T3ndrils:
See the hypocrisy in this 304, damaged 304's like this date multiple guys and expect them to get that shit but once it's the other way round, you get damaged goods like this seeking looking for who to exact childish revenge upon—grow some brain cells at least..

Prolly a narcissistic Effed up imp on the loose.

Yen! Yen! Yen!

you sound so pained!!

Oga go and buy a beer instead of throwing a tantrum, the economy is hard on everyone, not just you.

Amarisco:
The cheating was very traumatic, a horror story.

So, by the last straw (hint hint), I didn’t say anything this time. I just left him, almost silently, travelled for a bit and moved on.

About 2 months later, I quietly sat down and remotely accessed his phone, factory reset it and permanently deleted every online profile he ever had - email addresses, google account, iCloud account, dentist account, google drive for pictures/contacts, OneDrive, blocked the laptop… anything you can think of that can ever require a login was gone - forever. I even tried to change his mobile number but it was too tricky.

To not be wicked I returned his passport and birth certificate… sent it to his mistress’s place, addressed with her full name and sealed it with all his hand written love letters, the dirtiest and the deepest ones included. No note or anything, just those three things

I heard she practically wet herself with fear.

May I add that he told me this place belonged to one close male friend, so he would get me to pick/drop him when he stays overnight.

I bite as hard as I love.

Amen to that. You have to show these MOFOs that they can't get away with sh!t every time.

TheWolfen:
Well it seams u still love him even that that moment you "teach" him a lesson
But now that then deed is done there is little or no chance for anything between the both of you ever again I guess

Ewwwwww!!

Hell no. After I did that, I surprisingly felt nothing. I've moved on. You don't need to love someone to have cold hearted revenge.

Attempting to two time me was the last straw. I don't regret it one bit. The point was to burn bridges.
I'll never go back to my vomit

Moneywirer:



Beautiful script.

I wish it was a script.
But I can't be crying over a breakup.

I rather get angry.

Nairaland

Happened 3 years go

After breaking up with my Ex for cheating on me and denying it, and had the nerve to be dating a look alike of me a month later, he had the nerve to call me and tell me he wanted to patch things up with me and confessing that he didn't love the new babe.

I'm pissed because I hate being a second option or being played, I also kinda felt bad for the babe.

So I show up unannounced to his house one saturday morning looking sexy in red when I knew, he and his babe will be present. I greet and introduce myself to the babe as his 'friend' and tell her that you gotta surprise men once in a while while chatting with them both jovially. My intention, to sow discord. It worked because the girl is very paranoid. My ex still succeeds in kicking me out in a non confrontational manner and tells me never to try it again.

He then has the nerve to call me later that same day to come over, most likely because she had gone out. So we talk about stuff, I send him to buy me food because I was hungry. While he's gone, I browse his phone and send her contact to my phone then put his on airplane mode I save it and say hi on WhatsApp and we start chatting. She was aggressive, but I tell her that I come in peace but I needed to tell her something important.
I keep my phone in an inconspicuous corner.

He comes back, we chat, we eat, he tells me he still loves me and is with her because she's ready for marriage and we have mind blowing sex, but meanwhile, my phone is on a WhatsApp video chat with her. She saw and heard everything.
Immediately after, she calls him and threatens to leave him.

He's angry, and I tell him never to two time again, then I dress up and walk out

She packs out of his house the next day, but he begs her to come back and she does because she says she's pregnant for him. The pregnancy she magically loses a month after.

After teaching him that lesson, I felt justified and relieved. I felt that I gotten justice for myself and gained closure.

At least she knows the kinda man she's dating.

Maybe I'll tell their ending another time

Summary: I banged him live while his new babe watched.

tunwumi:


Slow down on payment and send email to support.

I did and yet to get a reply. This happened last month

tunwumi:


https://nimc.gov.ng/how-to-print-your-improved-nin-slip/


Pls share any problem you are experiencing so we can assist.

after it debited me twice, I was still unable to get my NIN slip printed

Otar:
102 ?!!

No chills!!

Absolutely no chills!!

Male or female, anybody who consciously plots to take advantage of a child, doesn't deserve to walk amongst the sane

baba ijesha, your turn is coming

biggie73:
...why being pessimistic? What if he is our Jesus? Our savior? Every foetus deserves to live in a lovely atmosphere.

sarcasm

biggie73:
...congrats. Don't abort the future President. Love your bestie. Wish u well

what if it's the future namdi kanu, or sheikh gumi or Isa pantami, or bihari?

ChizzyBuna:

Na you dey carry the belle
Omo which kind dullards full this forum.
Abortion wey girls dey do like say na normal normal. U come here dey talk rubbish.. as long as pikin neverc form
Nothing dey wrong. My only issue her be say she no gree. If u can't give mature advice then please leave

A lot of girls die from abortion you know. It is a major cause of maternal mortality

Enudapan:
Nah eh! No qualms

E don be for you nah!
Nothing can actually be done right now
It's already late

Is either she drops school
Or.........

why should she drop school. Let him get a vascetomy

ChizzyBuna:
I haven't been able to sleep since yesterday. Im a young guy and still in school and this girl is my bestie in school.
We do it regularly and without condom I never knew it will end like this.
I'm still young any advice on how to handle this situation..

get a job and start saving for pampers. You have called fatherhood and it has answered

clitah:


Even without God's coverage,IVF will fail.

May God forgive you.

Na so

livette:

(9) Kanayo o Kanayo.
(4) Chiwetala Agu.
(3) Rita Dominic.
(6) Clem Ohaneze
(7) Stephanie Okereke.
( Genevive Nnaji
(5)Kingsley Ogbonna.
(2) Eucharia Anunobi

booboo!!

lasisi69:
Your exposure from a young age to the realities of the world is a super big thing !!! The best advice or gift i can give all y'all is to practice MINDFULNESS... Love everybody ( the heart must become a sea of love and your mind, a river of detachment...This is because, ATTACHMENTS leads to SUFFERING . In all, Get closer to GOD !!! Nuff said

Be Happy

English Please!!

The hungry nigerian cannot be mindful