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21cents:
so he should hustle just for your sake ABI? dey there dey wait free monies all the time.

you have no skills, no handwork and you expect me to respect you or be giving you my money like charity just because you're a woman? I only give to girls that knows how to work their ass off to take care of themselves. what I give is just jara to compensate her for being resourceful and bieng busy with herself.

as a matter of fact I don't have problem giving money to these kind of ladies cos one way or another, she knows how to maximize profit with it and not these dumb girls around who only worry about makeups eyeslashes, handbags and praying to jam a money bag she can heap her lazy entitled ass on.

God forbid I settle with a lady that doesn't know what making money feels like, what happens if I die untimely and I have kids already with her? she'd just look on while my kids become a menace to society due to lack of finance.

dey there dey misyarn about spending money on you shogbo? no go hustle. you're on a long thing.

If you want to drive a point across, please do so logically, without sounding crass or rudely making assumptions on my persona and character.

It is your opinion and you are entitled to your truth, but please type it across so you at least sound like a decent human being. Thank you.

jimyjames:
There is nothing vulgar about 50/50 as I treat you I want you to treat Me the same way

Its just like love making as I give you pleasure let the pleasure return

you really are vulgar. I will Ignore you from now on.

purples25:
Who said it was one sided? Unless she wants to be a fool. No, but at least that man will do something. Most men, once you cuddle them and leave them in peace, ask nothing, they will overstep. They will neglect you badly. And that woman who always shouts for money, who will never take it from them, they quickly arrange what to do for her. It is even that woman, that they will later respect so much and marry..... And try to impress. Then women should stop being mute, and start expecting something, because most times, that poor love that yields fruit is usually a pipe dream.

He will later apologize to you and move on with a younger mistress that just enjoys the money. So, women, dont be cheated!

The previous generation learnt the hard way.

jimyjames:
Taking each others responsibilities 50/50 not one sided

I actually don't believe in 50 50. It's a very vulgar term.

jimyjames:
As much as I love my pets I can sell them out and get new ones anytime I want , I can even kill my pets no questions asked

Wow, you have a really terrible personality

I have 2 dogs, the oldest is 13years, slow and half blind and I would never trade him or his brother for anything, neither would my family members not to talk of killing them. You obviously don't know the point of having a pet.

jimyjames:
It should be a 50/50 responsibility once it becomes one sided then she's being bought , one person can't just be giving and the other one be receiving all the time without giving back

what on Earth is 50/50?

purples25:

Lol these guys that want to kill a woman with suffering have come. Okay, then men are also body diggers. I have never seen a woman who is less attractive say 'Manage with my current looks and age, when things get better, we will enjoy my beauty' and a guy will agree. The men always go for what they want, they get list and preferences.

But if a woman chooses, she is a LovePeddler.

Let me tell you the real truth, you will suffer with him, ask him for nothing, and he will ridicule you! You will be a foot mat that he rubs mud on!

Any guy that wants to summersault should do so! I'm only returning the savagery you guys lash out with here!

you say it like it is. If a man rejects a woman because she is ugly, she will go and improve.


But he'll will let loose when women reject broke men

khia:
This is ridiculous. Just because a man spends on you doesn't mean anything more than him purchasing you like he purchases a who.re, once he gets what he wants he's on to the next new toy. Putting a price tag on a man's emotions is illogical.

I do not appreciate the language you use on this thread @the bolded. Kindly desist from such


On to the topic. I understand that we have different opinions, But a man spending on you is not the same as purchasing you. If a husband spends on his household, is he purchasing them?

The thing is this. A man will spend money where he sees value, be it a business venture or his PS4. If he is spending money on you, regardless of motive, you are of value to him at that time. If men are not spending on you khia, then ask yourself why they don't see you as valuable?

If a man sees a person he is spending on as property, that's because he has a twisted orientation, not because you are a bad person or you are not valuable. That he spends on you is not a license to treat you badly or tolerate bad behavior from him.

purples25:
I've spent some good portion of my life giving all to my erm, love. I didn't have much, but I gave all my money and stuff. It still didn't work out.

A guy being broke does not make him an angel and doesn't mean he deserves you. At the end of the day, he will leave for greener pastures and a woman who NEEDS him, a woman who makes him feel like a MAN. This is that woman that probably never worked or suffered with him, the one that just looks pretty and has her hand out for money. For staying there and managing, you become his masculine partner, a work mule

The truth is bitter. Truth is everything you put up there, OP. So hypergamy and co. really works. Keep up the teaching abeg.

Thank you.

Victoria234 Riele isilove
Khia purples25

What do you think?

donsolo4u2c:
Uproar In Twitter As Nigeria Man Abandons Fiance After 28 Abortions

There was an uproar on the micro-blogging site, Twitter on Monday as a Nigerian man identified only as Kunle; became the subject of much vitriol after abandoning his fiancée who had gone through over 28 abortions for him.

In fact, the unidentified lady who disclosed that Kunle absconded on the day set aside for their wedding introduction; has threatened to make life a living hell for him. As a matter of fact, she had revealed that her lover, Kunle; had bought her a cheap engagement ring after she made clear her intentions to walk out of the relationship.

However, on the day of their introduction, he had turned off his phones; only to surface two days later to inform her that he cannot marry her because she is older.

Read The lady’s narration of her ordeal at the hands of Kunle.

‘‘I have been a quiet girl but not this time around. I have been with this guy since childhood…pursued all my suitors because I thought he was serious about his marriage proposal.

‘‘Each time I took in, he will tell me to abort, that he is not yet capable of starting a family. I am in my early thirties and he’s in his late twenties. When I got to know that I senior him with 4 years, he said age is not a problem. I have done several abortions for him. I lost count on the 28th. At a point I nearly died in one of the abortions.

‘‘I told him I am walking out of the relationship. He went and bought 500 Naira ring and engaged me. It’s been 3 years I have been wearing that ring….

‘‘He later agreed and we fixed date for introduction. My people invited some close family friends and cooked food. On that day, his phones were switched off. After 2 days, his number went through and he claimed his parents said he can’t marry a woman that is his senior. The same excuse he said doesn’t matter years ago.

‘‘Kunle, if you no run mad, call me a bastard. I will tell you I am from Bayelsa…’’

Subsequently, Nigerians have expressed their reactions to the issue after the disclosure by the unidentified lady. In fact, as at the time of writing, it was one of the top trending topics on the micro-blogging site, Twitter.

As a matter of fact, the opinions expressed have largely criticised the said Kunle for his callous action. Also, a cross-section of users has equally expressed amazement at the number of abortions the lady claimed to have procured; all in a bid to keep the relationship with her partner going.

In fact, the trending topic has generated huge reactions, some of which have been presented by Ebonyi Tv News below.

https://ebonyitvnews.com/2020/05/12/uproar-in-twitter-as-nigeria-man-abandons-fiance-after-28-abortions/

this kunle guy deserves to be miserable.

But the lady didn't try tho. This is why ladies should keep their options open.

lukui:
1. Men don't want to jump from third mainland bridge again because of women
2. Men don't want to be drinking sniper again because of women
3. Men don't want to be standing in front of dangite trailer because of women again
4. Men want to enjoy just one minute of life without trouble.

nobody sent them message, or forced them

sexylassie2:
This what they want.

A girl they can cheat on, a girl that will give them money, a girl they can disrespect and act rude to then still come back and worship them.

They want a slave.

this is the truth. But with a little psychology, even the simplest of ladies can outsmart men

GLO6:
I don't think so

not only serial killers are psychopaths,normal,everyday people are psychopaths too. Its a spectrum really.

GLO6:
Monfeels, with those traits you can never be manipulated by another human being, + You have never fallen in love, when you do you then realize nothing is wrong with you.

Much Ado about nothing, lemme go joor.

cos he's a psychopath.

Monfeels:
I want to share my problem with you guys in the hopes that maybe I'll get some good advice or at least some insight into my problem.

When people first meet me their impression of me is that I'm good looking, cool and intelligent. Most girls usually assume that I have a girlfriend or a legion of side chicks that I Bleep whenever I want to.

The truth about me is that I've never been in a proper relationship with another woman before. All I've had is sexual partners that I stop talking to after I have sex with them, and girls I get intimate with just to control them and get them to fulfil my desire of having a female to own, please me and do my biding, and then I get bored of them and cease contact and move on like I never knew them.

The reason for this behavior is that I don't possess the emotional resources needed to engage in a healthy relationship with another human being. I have no empathy and I usually feel no guilt or remorse for my actions. It's impossible for me to care genuinely for another person. I don't feel people's pain or suffering and I'm not moved by the death of family members or friends. I simply do not care for any other person but myself. I've been this way for a very long time. I lack the ability to maintain relationships with people hence why I lose friends often. Relationships are usually a means to an end for me and when that end is met, I become irritated by the person I've gotten close to.

Despite the fact that I don't see the point in relationships, I still find that I get jealous of couples in healthy relationships. It's not like I want to experience what they experience, just that I am envious of the fact that they are participating in something I can't participate in.

When I find a girl that I want to get close to, I'm usually consumed with jealousy over her previous relationships, and over any current relationship she has with any member of the opposite sex, even if it's merely platonic. All I want is for her to devote all her time to me and shower me with attention and love. The problem with all this is that I don't want to reciprocate this behavior. In fact the idea of devoting attention to, and showering affection on someone else irritates me. It's all pointless, but I enjoy when it's done to me.

Another weird side to all this is that I don't just want to control the girl, I also enjoy making her feel bad, but in a way that makes her crave for me more. I enjoy poking holes in herself esteem, making her second guess the presumably good qualities she thought she possesed, making her not feel wanted by me, and making her do more to please me.

I don't love women, I only become obsessed with them. Obsessed to the point that I'm constantly tortured by thoughts of them being sexual with another guy especially when it's someone she has dated before. I want her all to myself and even if she had sex with someone before I met her or before we became close, I am filled with anger and jealousy whenever the thought crosses my mind, and I want to punish her for that. It's like I want to erase her past and replace it with me. I want to be all she's ever had. I don't want anyone else in her life and I don't want anyone else in her past.

All this must sound crazy to you guys but this is my reality and it's eating me up. I need advice.

You need therapy. You are just a toxic person. Simple.

Narcissism, obsessive, sadism, dare I say even an antisocial personality. Gotta blame your upbringing.

Are you Igbo? Or the only son in your household?

The truth is going to be hard for you to swallow. You most likely don't want to change. The reason is simple, there's no advantage changing will bring you. Nothing is in it for you.

Changing a personality disorder is almost impossible, even for therapists.

I wish you luck tho. May you starve of narc supply

Ladies always remember that these men are selfish and manipulative even in love

Ekakamba:

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I laugh in Swahili.

Girl wan chop your money? You wey you no fit buy phone wey get punctuation marks.

don't mind op

LovelyDude:
Big trash ���

pls go and hustle.
Goodbye

The long and short of this article is written in bold.

Men spend money on the things they care about. If they aren’t spending money on you they don’t care about you!!.

That's the simple truth sweetheart.


The way they demonstrate that something is important to them is by putting money into it. They can spend money on bet9ja, on a suit, on PS5 and so on because that is what they care about. This is why so many fathers are completely emotionless with their children, yet they have no problem giving them money and gifts. That’s the only way they know how to display affection. Children of emotionally unavailable fathers grow up to be adults that complain about this in therapy.

If the reason is because he’s broke, you shouldn’t be dealing with him anyway. Stop worrying about broke men’s feelings and stop trying to explain your decisions to them. It doesn’t matter why you arent interested in them. The fact that you’re one less woman they can’t have access to will infuriate them, making them open lady bashing threads to vent their frustration. Regardless of your reason why. The fact that you have the agency to choose the better man for your needs will infuriate them, regardless of your reason why. E.g Ubunja Martinez39 Greatresearcher1 Kennedyiheme02 and the other so called woke guys of the REDPILL troupe.


Poor men hate women too and are not more likely to treat you any better than a man who has money and resources, just because he came from hUmbLe bEgiNnIngs. There are millions of poor men in both first and third world countries who abuse women. Their socioeconomic level has nothing to do with how much empathy they have for women. In fact, you’ll hear many poor men blame their mothers for their poverty. E.g childofdoom


Money is the only real security in the society we’re in and men know it, yet they like to tell women it’s not important but it is. Poverty has a way of making love take the backseat. It’s in men’s best interest to hoard wealth, it’s in their best interest to make sure women continue to be paid less than them. They don’t think your high paying career is “too masculine and therefore unattractive” simply because you are in the highest position in an office full of men and are wearing a suit. They know if you have a job that pays you well, you are much less likely to put up with their bullshit and bend over backwards for them. Men are turned on by women who show signs of socioeconomic instability, hence the “damsel in distress” trope that they love. A great example of this is the abundance of pornography where the Roleplay is all about how the woman couldn’t afford to pay for a service, so she used her body as payment.

All men know that deep down they are energy vampires and most women would have no incentive to put up with them if they didn’t need something. They want to be needed. They’ll even say it themselves sometimes. “Men like to feel useful and needed! If you feminists women don’t need us for anything what’s the point?” They don’t see a point in being romantic with you if you are self sufficient, but when you hold them to what they say and start asking for things, suddenly they have an issue with that too.

Sex is the easiest thing to get out of a man. They’ll give you plenty of sex and attention because it’s free, it’s the main thing they care about, and they don’t lose any of their wealth or resources doing it. What they don’t like doing however, is giving women security. I browse many forums and groups because I like to hear the perspectives of all sorts of women. I have seen women in the sugar baby/sex work game complain about how men have no problem giving them their allowance or payment in the form of physical gifts like a purse, a pair of heels, or a necklace. When the women stress that they want physical cash for their time so they can split that money up in ways that’s most beneficial for them, suddenly the “it’s too transactional” excuse jumps out. It’s bullshit. They don’t want you in a better financial position because that means you’re less likely to need them in the future. These same men are usually high rollers in the fields of finance, or they’re entrepreneurs. They understand why certain items are a bad investment and if someone tried to pay them for their time with a new suit instead of cash, they’d sue.

It doesn’t matter how much men tell you they care about you. If they cared they’d provide you with security whether that is through cold hard cash or investing in your business. Hell, maybe you do really just want expensive gifts, whatever floats your boat. Define what security means to you, define what devotion from a man looks like to you and make sure they’re giving it to you. Otherwise, don’t waste your time.


To all the broke blokes who might want to vent their frustration on my thread, pls go and hustle and mind the business that pays you.

I'm that elder sister who tells it to you as it is ladies without the politeness and eye service. I don't try to be politically correct.


Remember to put yourself first.


In my next post, I'll get around to how to get men to spend money on you.

Wow!!

This is beautiful

kizbad:
sorry to disturb you ,

my sister did her traditional wedding around September and his husband traveled afterwards and came back for wedding whish is scheduled around Easter but Anglican church has refuse to wed them with pregnancy ..they said can only wed them if she will wear milk colour gown and that didnt go well with d husband...so he is now looking for a big penticostal church that will wed them and they pal to continue church wherever they wedded

Do court wedding.
Church wedding isn't really that compulsory

Happy New year ladies. This post is to honor the woman whose lovelife is a cacophony of utter f**kshit. This post shares miss Pickmesha's million and one tips to snag your man . Vision 2020 is a goal.

With so many women complaining about men today, ladies seem to have forgotten to show the man you want to hold you above others that you hold HIM above others as well. Do all of this and any kind of man will be yoursHere are the tips;

• Ask him out.

• Take HIM out on every date.

• put money in his wallet so that he can pay for the date

•Motivate HIM

• Build with him

• Buy him flowers

•Keep texting him, up to a year after he has ghosted you, that you will do anything to have him back.

•Let him watch football, play Bet9ja and LUDO for 12 hours every day.

• let him live in your house.

•Pay his bills, down to tissue paper allowance.

• Give him sex as long as he asks for it, whether you are sick or healthy, give him blowjobs even when he has a penile discharge, penis sores or hasn't washed his boxers in 2 weeks.

•Give him wife privileges even though he is just a FWB.

• Date him for 12 years before asking if you are in a relationship, then let him tell you ' let's see how it goes'

• Give him your V card, just because he said you are pretty and he has nothing but a beard and excuses.

•Clean and cook for him.

• Serve a three course meal for him and his girlfriends.

• wash his boxers

• Ask for his father's blessings before you propose to him.

• Pay his groom price

•Suck his boobs

• Walk with him to the labor room

• Allow him to insert a hair straightener in your anus since you must give him whatever his wants in the other room.
• Be his white knight online,Troll other girls who comment on his social media. Stalk him online, it shows you care.

• Be his baby mama

• Have 15 abortions because he is not ready to start a family.

•Use your school fees and your parents' retirement savings to help his upcoming music career.

• Allow him to call you a hoe, a b¡tch, a cunt, an olosho and any other degradatory slur to your face.

•Download his blows and punches like 4G wifi

There are many other tips to secure your man, if not you will end up in Shiloh at 22.

Varlfott:
Before you ladies respond to this, I'll like to say that most of you are simply cowards. Why waste time making subtle gestures towards a guy you like in hopes that he will read your gestures as greenlights when you can simply just walk up to him and tell him you like him? A lot of us would appreciate you more if you did this. Most guys can't even interpret your green lights and most of you in attempt to show these green lights end up giving mixed signals.

What's the point of giving green lights even? You fear rejection but yet you expect men to overcome their own fear of rejection and approach you?

Why would you have a crush on a guy but expect him to be the one to text or call you first? Why don't you be the first to text or call?

So in leiu or all this, please tell us guys how you indicate that you are attracted to is and explain how you expect us to proceed. How do you show your greenlights? What are those subtle behaviors we guys should look out for?

utter nonsense spoken by a weak man

theButterfly:
Hmmm, so he had also cheated but couldn't forgive her like she did him? Talk about a vindictive hypocrite.

Don't mind him, in my opinion, she just dodged a bullet

Omar09:
If my girls doesn't use the f words, she ain't real.
As for number 3, if you don't cook or clean for me, how then am I assured you'd do it when we are married? If you don't cook or clean, how then would I get married to you?

you are the one that knows what you are looking for. The mother of your children will teach them to use foul language, but it is okay, as long as she cooks and cleans very well.

IamPlato:
I Hate Catfish Pepper Soup

I also hate catfish peppersoup

Ariza:
Nice points but I have problem with 3,4 and 8. There's no harm in helping your man financially, cooking or cleaning when you visit or building things with him.These are signs of altruism which should come naturally in a love driven relationship. If you don't do these things for your man, what do you offer then?

That said, I think you need to know what the state of being 'broke' is because there is a difference between a poor person and a broke person.

i make a post for ladies but men keep flocking it. They should really stop this peeping tom attitude in 2019.

don't be deceived, that isn't altruism, but desperation because a woman thinks that doing all these will keep her by his side. ALso please educate us on the difference between poor and broke because dictionary doesnt differentiate the two.

Also. who told you he is your man? this is plain pickmesha behavior, making asumptions upandan until he walks you down the aisle, he is not your man. You are single until you are married. how many me have you hears say that statement?

IF you have an issue with any of these, then you are a woman with low self esteem who doesn't enjoy her own company and cannot function as an individual without a man

if that is what you want to keep believing. Yet the number of men wailing and crying on new threads everyday says otherwise

IamPlato:
What Is A Nigerian Woman Without The Things You Listed?

Women Will Forever Seek Validation From Men

Happy new year in advance ladies!!!

While we get ready for 2020 with new resolutions, and a lot of hope, there are some things we have to leave behind in 2019. An example of that is dead end, toxic relationships with men that for some reason you are still holding unto like an old toy from your childhood.

2020 means a new approach, new start and better methods to achieving your goals. After all, repeating the same mistake and still expecting a different and better outcome each time is utter madness.
On to the main gist

So who is a pickmesha?

A Pickmeisha, also commonly known as 'PICCCCCCCCK MEEEEEEEEEEEEEE', is a woman who is desperate to be picked by a man, at all expense to her self esteem and her wellbeing.

Most women have been a Pickmeisha at some point in their lives, most likely when they ran into some Nigerian male demon also known as a bleepboy , that cursed them for at least 18 long months of a situation-ship with his penis from hell that probably left the poor woman senseless after being influenced by the hormones serotonin and oxytocin. Pickmesha's are naive in the ways of the world of dating and relationships, either in their first relationship, or

Pickmeisha is a woman who sees ANY man as the prize, not herself. Therefore she will do anything and put up with epic levels of nonsense in the hopes that he will pick her (aka pick-me-isha). Examples of pick me behavior:

1. Allowing him to disrespect you

2. Parenting his children from another woman when you are not his wife yet

3. Cooking or cleaning regularly for a man you are not married to

4. Borrowing him money for God knows what purpose, without demanding or proof of good credit from him, keeping evidence of paying him the money and stating the purpose on the transfer, or checking to see that it is used for what he says he is using it for. If his mother is sick meke sure the money goes to her medical bills.

5. Forgiving him for cheating , and not leaving him with a message that he will not be able to afford the price of cheating on you with again.

6. Doing sexual acts for him that you don't enjoy, just because he asked for it or because he said he would leave you if you didn't do it. Allowing him to have sex with you and ejaculate while you have never experienced an orgasm while doing the act with him

7. Letting him string you along into a relationship, and friends with benefit with no commitment

8. Dating broke dudes who you are trying to help/encourage by providing 50:50.(Then you are not only Pickmeisha but you are also Brenda the builder or Bob the Builder. Don't try to build with a man.)

9. Having a kid(s) with a guy you aren't married to/hasn't committed to you

10. Making excuses for his bad behavior again and again while ignoring that inner voice that tells you that you dont have to put up with this.

11. Allowing a man you just met online to invite you to his house without taking you out for a date. That speaks of loose morals, poor home training, and lack of discipline on your part. What else are you coming to his house to do, preach the gospel?

12. Opening your legs for a man just because he only bought you either suya, catfish peppersoup, sharwama, ice cream, pizza, or for some of you indomie and egg each of which cost under 5k. Sorry to tell you this, but if this is you, stop being so cheap and think about your life. Acquire some standards in 2020.

13. They make posts to bash other women, just because they are so thirsty for male attention and approval and will suffer from even lower self esteem without it. this is different from bashing someone for wrong doing. But women should uplift each other and not the other way round.

14. Doesn't look after her appearance, leaves the house without bathing, wearing a hairnet on and bathroom slippers.

15. Putting aside her life's plan aside, sacrificing herself, not developing herself just to further a man's dreams, education or career, married or not, without critically appraising whether the benefits outweigh the risks.

16. Using her school fees, pocket money, or money from her sugar daddy to buy her boyfriend a new phone or car which he will still use for his side chicks.

17. Fights with other women, especially physically, over a man.

18. Uses foul language A LOT.

19. Doesn't financially provide for herself or have her own source of income despite being an adult, schooling is not an excuse.

20. she is desperate and will do anything to have any man, especially one that has told her either by words or by actions that he doesn't want to be around her or even like her even pursuing and proposing to him.


Pickmeshas are always on the losing end of the stick,, they end up working twice as hard and getting emotional and physical crumbs and they grumble and end up bitter when they see their friends in happier marriages or with better men.

Pickmesha's lack game and strategy and go into relationships blindly and erratically. they still believe in fairytales, and struggle love, hoping for prince charming after he made made her jump through hoops and cross seven seas and end up crying when he leaves her for another woman but not without sucking her dry and running away with her money and investments, leaving her in debt, or leaving her pregnant or with children to take care of.

From 2020, this will not be your story anymore, things are gonna change in your. Watch out for my monicker, together we will transform to quality queens and princesses in 2020.

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