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deprof9:
hey fam, in my previous thread, I talked about my girl whom I caught with another guy red handed. though most of u thought it was made up, it truly happened to me. but guess what? I took some advice from you guys and broke up with her ASAP!


But there's a problem, before the break up, there was a day I met her at her friends shop, she complained that she wants to make her hair but she has no money, then with much persuasion by her friend I asked her to make it for her then I'll foot the bill.


but that was when we we're still dating, few days after the break up her friend called and asked for the money, I related with a friend and he advised not to pay the money, I agreed with him because I realised that she's nothing but a bloody good digger.


I told them that I will not pay the money. then just yesterday a thug called me and threatened to harm me if I don't pay up. I still don't want to in order not to look stupid, but right now I'm contemplating btw paying and let peace reign or keeping my words and not look like a coward.

plz guys I need advice urgently.

Ineedinfo:
I see your point. I guess individually we're all built differently. Some probably use that means to vent their frustrations, letting out steam. It may be harsh to breakup with a girl you're dating based on something as trivial as that...instead like you said. If she must confide in someone, it should be someone older and mature. Who would never use it against her.

Ineedinfo:
I see your point. I guess individually we're all built differently. Some probably use that means to vent their frustrations, letting out steam. It may be harsh to breakup with a girl you're dating based on something as trivial as that...instead like you said. If she must confide in someone, it should be someone older and mature. Who would never use it against her.

Ineedinfo:
Your view on this issue is quite similar to mine. I never really see the need but then I don't trust easily. I want to find out if my view is wrong. I'd like to know the advantages because from where I stand, I only see people using what they were told in confidence against the person maybe during a fight or just gisting with other friends.

kaycyor:
A promised marriage may never be fulfilled at the tail end of the story!!!!
i hope your experience wasn't as bad as mine

MissCuppy:
Yes I will, men can't be faithful.

MissCuppy:
I'm not interested in that kind of love. My man must be matured.

JerryTemi:
Fadamant no vex for me but you am right but as for the girl in question, let him be a man and seat her down,talk to her,tell her you are not enjoying her attitude towards you and the relationship that you want peace in your affair with her.Bros all the best.

johnson232:
Jesus!!! I can't believe we still have these kind of men! Now i know why your girlfriend treats u like that....u are a whimp...a weak man. U aren't even bold enough to call it quit & move on...rather u wanna escape like a criminal....damn! i have read all of your posts on this thread & i must say u are a disgrace to men...Shame on u... whimp

JerryTemi:
You men don't like good,and nice ladies,you people treat them like trash as if you are doing them favour so bro enjoy but try talk to her

Saintsammurai:
This is heart breaking..leaving your home to watch a boring match bytwo boring teams and meeting your end..If it was Barcelona playing, GOD would have prevented the cable from falling..GOD BLESS BARCELONA.

Protagonist:
Thanks for your help. I have deviced an arrangement. Since my rent will expire next month, I intend to quietly pack without her knowledge. Sounds childish, but that's all I've got. All the same, Thanks

gbolahanoluyemi:
Married to an Adulterer?
How can the law help you?
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The law provides remedies for victims of extra marital affairs
In recent times, allegations of adultery by public personalities have occupied the social media. This no doubt changed the fact that many married persons are married to adulterous spouses. While some are aware of this fact, many are ignorant of the situation. This publication considers adultery under the Matrimonial Causes Act, how it is proved and the remedy available to a spouse who has been a victim of adultery.

The Court of Appeal in IBEABUCHI v. IBEABUCHI reported as (2016) LPELR-41268(CA) defined Adultery as consensual intercourse between two persons of opposite sexes, at least one of whom is married to a person other than the one with whom the intercourse is had, and since the celebration of the marriage.

Establishing adultery in a court of law is not as easy as it is in the cultural system. In law seeing your spouse hanging out with an opposite sex on a date with nothing more may not amount to sufficient proof of adultery. To successfully establish adultery, there must be sexual intercourse and the sexual intercourse must be voluntary and at least one of the parties must be married. Rape does not amount to adultery.

Adultery is one of the grounds permitted by law for the dissolution of marriages provided the adultery has not been condoned by the spouse. Adultery is difficult to be proved, judging by the fact that adulterers usually exercise extreme secrecy during the act. The law however allows it to be proved by inference from circumstances where it cannot be proved by direct evidence.

Proving adultery is not as easy as alleging adultery, the co-adulterer must be joined in the petition, under Islamic law, an allegation of adultery leveled against a woman must be proved by the testimonies of four unimpeachable Muslims who must have seen the adulterous act. However, in the secular court which applies the Matrimonial Causes Act, direct evidence which is very rare can be given, adultery can also be proved by circumstantial evidence that could be in various forms e.g. If the victim can prove that the spouse had contacted a sexually transmitted disease from a third party during the marriage, this will give rise to a presumption of adultery; If the victim proves that the spouse visits a brothel with an opposite sex, it will be presumed that such a spouse has committed adultery; confessions of spouse; birth of a child outside wedlock etc.

The law is that, a party to a marriage whether husband or wife may, in a petition for a decree of dissolution of the marriage alleging that the other party to the marriage has committed adultery with a person claim damages from that person who has committed adultery with his/her spouse. You can sue your husband's girlfriend and get damages, likewise husbands can get damages from their wives' boyfriends.


The purpose of the damages for adultery are not to compensate for the loss which the victim has suffered, even though the Court may consider matters such as damage done to the victim by the blow to his/her honour, the hurt to his/her family life and injury to his/her feelings, the court may give directives with regards the manner in which the damages awarded shall be paid or applied and may, if the circumstances warrant, direct that the damages be settled for the benefit of the victim or the children of the marriage.

It must be noted that, the Court will not grant damages in respect of an act of adultery committed more than three years before the date of the petition. To learn more or ask questions about marriages, divorce and the law, please send us an email via lawcandles@gmail.com or olivesandcandles@yahoo.com


Engaging in adultery cost us religious benefits and can also make us pay huge sums in damages. So when next you receive a proposal from a married person, think twice or better still, confide in a lawyer.

extracted from https://www.smore.com/scgxr

Protagonist:
Fadamant, I'm really trying. But your encouragements will serve as strength. I promise

Archaa:
Op is related to lie Mohammed


Only you knows you married a gigolo whose only job is to sleep with old rich women but you kept mute cus of the money he was bringing in


as he became broke and start depending on your salary hence you began to raise alarm thereby decided to moved out of the house


fortunately for him, he found another sugar mama and move in with her
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Acidosis:
Clergymen are in better positions to correct an annoying spouse.

Majority of Nigerians started disobeying their parents right from age 5, so I wonder why people report an annoying spouse to his/her parents.

It is always a challenge when people marry deceitful and deceptive spousal "moralists". There is no true moralist anywhere, and there isn't any saint anywhere either, but a saint will most likely subject himself to doctrinal warnings from a religious leader.


It is always dangerous when you marry someone without a spiritual father, a leader or someone out there in the position of authority. Don't even think about getting any meaningful solution by reporting to his parent... chances are your 30-40 year old man won't listen to his aged parents' warnings...he'd rather listen to a 20 year old "prophet."

So the question is; don't your husband have a respected spiritual leader? Someone in a position to warn him of the consequences...
Please don't tell me his spiritual (clergy) leader is Bishop Oyedepo or Pastor Adeboye (both don't even know 95% of their pastors).

If you can't relate any with your husband, then you're in HOT SOUP!!! The journey to single parenting has just begun.