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I'm picking up on the red flags right now.

1. He says he will do something as small as calling me back and he doesn't.

2. He says he will never disrespect because I'm different and then does number 1. Also this implies he is a disrespectful person and he will choose to be respectful to me. You either respect people or you don't. You don't pick and choose who you will respect and who you will disrespect. Respect is a state of being and not doing.

3. He won't take no for an answer because I'm not interested due to 1 & 2 and he won't leave me alone. I ignore his calls and he keeps calling. I turn down his dates and he won't stop asking. I have shouted at him to get the message that I am not interested but he says he loves my voice and he wants to hear it for the rest of his life.
I have blocked his number and he uses another number to call me. He either has zero self respect or he is a sociopath either way I won't be his victim. What a psycho.

Hi, you write so well.

By the way, are you in two versions here? there's also a Nobody that comments as a guy.

StacyO:
You didn't get the discussion I presume. Putting this up there,I just want to get one explanation.
I see wailing all over the thread already
It's just an honest and direct question.
You men are using your own confusion to confuse the ladies




*The worst part of this whole issue now is that;
You claim you don't want a virgin for wife.
You claim you don't want a deflowered lady for wife.
You claim you don't need a working class lady cause their problems will be too much to handle.
You still claim you don't need a full time house wife.
You always claim that Nigeria girls can't work for their money (am I missing something or you are missing something)*

Drafted from the writeup.
How would you go about this, assuming you were to be a lady??

Stacy0, you and ireti seem to be saying the same thing. You ask how a lady will cope with conflicting wants by men. He's agreed to the conflicting wants. Fact is, no single spec fits all. A lady just has to be herself until she finds her match.

You sure must have heard the clause "money can't buy happiness". Assuming that's true, other factors, not money, are responsible for happiness in a relationship.

Zzor:
who's a small girl?can you say this to my face?

Haha. Zzor is back. Welcome, Nairaland's Romance Section fierce queen

Zzor:
what kind of thing is this,i smell manipulations

Zzor, where art thou? Haven't read from you today.

TonyeBarcanista:
As long as a lady is humble with good character, submissive, godly and loving, I can/will cope with her irrespective of her level of supposed intelligence. This is because I can influence her positively and teach her things that she may not know...

The guy @OP should hide his face in shame...

Guys have different perspectives to this. My very good friend who was the smartest in our clique recently got married to someone that could be likened to a computer freedos. The lady in question was worse than Jane. Knowing we may not approve, he didnt introduce her to us until two weeks to their wedding.

He felt he's very comfortable, and as such, he needed someone who's not so ambitious to take care of his home. He said he would teach her every other thing.

To the rest of the clique, we were disappointed and surprised. But then, it's his life.

If he's enjoying the marriage now, I wouldn't know cos he's somewhat withdrawn from the group.

Zzor:
i have been busy,how are you doing

I'm kicking. Howdy? Have a blessed day.
By the way, would you mind dm?

Zzor:
im fine,how was your night

Oops, it's another night already. Not many posts from you today.

Zzor:
What is all this moneyless love I'm seeing here,love without money,is that one love?

Maybe yes, unconditional love. Conversely, the one with money at the center of it all can be termed contract, with terms and conditions.

Howdy, Zzor?

Zzor:
Thanks dear,i slept like a baby

Cool. Have a nice day, and avoid troubles.

Zzor:
They will come for you now, they would only applaud you if you attack me.How was your night

Who are the they that would attack me for stating my opinion? Seems you obviously have many admirers who are faking hatred on the facade.

My night was good. Trust you slept well too, and didn't have to dream about how to respond to supposed insults from your coded fans here? .

Zzor:
fake wealthy pastor johnw47,i know you have many addictions,share it with us.My problems started with you when you lied to me that you were very wealthy only to discover that it was all lies.I have already map out plans to milk you dry, but I was disappointed when they busted your bubbles on our usual meeting thread,i still haven't forgiven you for lieing to me about your wealth,you totally destroyed my plans.

Haha, Zzor. Most times I read your comments and laugh really hard. You deserve compensation from this forum for some of these comic relief. Hope you're this interesting in reality.

Zzor:
Most Nigerian men have this mentality that a good woman should not like money,she should be ready to suffer with them(they will maltreat her after the money comes),she should also not see anything wrong with cheating as long as they are providing for the family.Why must a woman undergo all these before she can be tagged a good woman?Is she your mother?

Zzor, it would be interesting to know the statistics you referenced that gave you 'most men' for the personality you described. What kind of men have you been rolling with?

Zzor:
yes I have a babalawo here on Nairaland

Guys gotta be careful then

Zzor:
im submitting your name to my Baba immediately

Haha. Zzor, your baba? Just curious

Zzor:
nothing really,just have money,plenty of it that will never finish,let it not finish ooooooooo, that's where wahala will start

Haha. But you know you can also be a determinant if the money will finish or not.

Zzor, does this concern you?

Zzor:
yes ooo, I believe your day was cool too

Yes, thanks. Just getting home actually. Thanks for dropping by.

Zzor:
You don't know how our mindset as women operates,your body go tell you when you get old if you don't control yourself now and respect her.Thats the mistake most of you men make. Never take a woman's silence as nothing or that she's cool with your philandering ways,no woman is truly happy watching her man disrespect her all over the place even if she's not saying anything for now.If you wish to enjoy your old age with her,stop Now and begin to respect her

Hi Zzor, trust you've been having a great day. On the topic, no such experience. It's ridiculous some folks do that. More like relationship with termination clause.

Zzor:
They will insult you for saying this.Thanks all the same

Haha. Why would anyone insult me for expressing my opinion? I see you as someone who's quite expressive and tries to analyze issues objectively while putting feelings in check. That's interesting to me, regardless of what anyone thinks.

Zzor. She has an interesting personality

Zzor:
Very desperate girl that messed herself up on national TV for this yeye boy,kidwayya will not marry you,she should stop wasting her time

You never can tell. Bad girls have always been fortunate with this marriage thing

Zzor:
Yes,ladies please quit your relationship if your man isn't acting like Ozo around you,be the Nengi in your relationships and the table should only adjust when you are married,never date a kiddwaya type,they ain't for keeps.

You sure that's what you want? You'll get tired in no time and wish you have a Kidwaya

Zzor:
I can't wait to have a baby

Hi, I like you. You aren't replying my dm

Good luck to the op. sadly, however, i fell victim to a 50k scam about 2 months ago. in an attempt to recover my money, I first went to the scammer's bank to complain, but was directed to my bank as the right channel. Proceeded to speak with a branch manager of my bank who hinted that the best he could do was to send message to the fraud unit at the headquarters and then follow up for update.
After calling him for two days without positive feedback, I called the headquarters to report, and also sent them mail. Response I got from them after three days was that I should report to law enforcement agents, as the case was beyond them.

I then went to the police area command close to me. There, ehn, I received the insult of my life after narrating my story. It was such a bad experience. After the insults, their conclusion was that I needed to process a police report which would be done in ogun state, as judges in Lagos had stopped honouring such report. They said the report would cost me 30k, then I would pay 30k for transportation of the officer that would do the processing for me (including followup he would make with bank and court).

At that point, I had to give up and became more devastated for falling victim.

Goodluck op, I hope you return with success story of your money recovery.

[quote author=lefulefu post=91424959] i just dey laugh..so wat guranntee did she give.

rastaLivity:
How did he build the tyres

How do Toyota and the likes 'build the tires' for their vehicles? You must have assumed they manufactured the tires

Franklyspeakin:
Hmmmm if its not your personal house abeg pack out. Cos the day those boysngo match from mosque come reason u after you petition dey come. When it gets to religion people become unreasonable.

You know how it is to change standard house in Lagos, and this is not about religion. I just wish something can be done to make them remove those speakers.

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Swtbabyvee:
sadly yeah .

Did he pound you better than your BF? Love to do it again, perhaps with a different person?

LadyGCrueDKilaB:
Actually being totally subdued in bed

Haha. Tendency to enjoy what seem painful, huh?

LadyGCrueDKilaB:
nope

What's your sexual fantasy?