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Intelligent ladies drive me crazy. What an intelligent lady! You cannot be impelled my sister. God is with you.

I want to thank you immensely for this write up. Ecclesiastes in the bible really summarized this your write up, Thank you so much. This is really inspirational. I wish we will all learn from this.

Allow her be for now. Just be sending her your morning love messages. Flow naturally and also study the person you want to live with for the rest of your life. if truly she is for you, she will come for you. You don't need a mirror to see a homely, humble and cool headed lady ready for marriage.

I believe God Almighty saw my tears this very moment. Rest in Peace Soldier of Christ!

There's one Igbo adage that says, ihe e nyere nwoke ibe gi wu jidere m. Meaning; Whatever you do for your fellow man, one day it will be reciprocated by him. You don't do such for a woman expecting reciprocation. He would have married her first and let her give birth for you before such gesture. Chai! Nwoke m! Ndo!

I took my time to study what you outlined as factors that led to your regrets towards marrying your beloved wife God gave to you.
Yesterday, I saw a video that was trending online about a pastor who was making love to another man's pregnant wife. The husband caught her live on their matrimonial bed. My brother, what will you then say about this?
You don't have any problem with your wife. All you need to do is to talk to her like your blood and flesh.
With time, she will be corrected and suit into your taste. Let me tell you one thing, good wife materials are hard to find. Hold yours firmly cause there is no 100% perfection in marriage. Most importantly, always pray to God about your problems. God bless your union.

Life2020:
Hi, first I want to thank you all for your advise the last time i was here.

The last time I brought up my problems here, I vented out about how my husband is being a total pain in the ass.

The problem is one, he's cheating on me with several girls and still want to have sex with me but i refused stating that until he does a full STD test we are not having sex, simply put i need to Know that he is STD free before we have sex again.

Two, he's never at home, sometimes for two weeks he stays in hostels with girls, partying and spending his money, at first i tried to understand him because we did marry young, i felt that maybe he misses having his Independence, so at first i said nothing until it got worse. I now feel like a single mom, i do everything, the children don't even know anything about their dad, they see him as a stranger now, he's always cool towards them and i don't like it, have told him several times that i want the children to bound with him, i need them to have a good relationship with their father and have even advised him to take them out, maybe to a theme park or anything really but he has refused stating that he's busy.

Thirdly he body shames me, telling me that i look like a clown, I'm fit, it's not like I'm dirty or anything i take care of myself, i know he's lying because i have admirers, like a lot of them, ever since i started making money and could afford to employ workers, i have done everything to make myself look good, i go to the gym, do facials and i make sure I look beautiful, honestly I don't know what's wrong with him.

I have come to the conclusion that he is only saying it to be mean to me, maybe as a means of control, honestly i think he thinks if he makes me feel less than i am, to make me think i have no where else to go.

Thirdly when we first got married, we both agreed that he will go to the university first then later, i will also attend, after finishing his university education he couldn't find a job so i gave him two of my lands to start a business, he because successful in the business and his now lavishing the money. I have a farming business, it's very successful, with it i have many lands and i built the home me and my husband live in, ever since he started making money i advised him to build his own house but he has refused, instead he bought a fancy car, i want to build an estate so that i can have another source for revenue but for one reason or other, my husband is advising me against it.

Now back to me wanting to attend the university, i want to study accounting so that i can take my business to a new level but my husband has refused saying that he wants more babies, we already have twins (two lovely girls). i told him later, after I finish my university degree and our girls are a little bit older, we will have more kids

Now back to the present day, have decided I'm kicking my husband out. Recently, I noticed he was always at home, I was happy but surprised, I thought he had changed. I decided we need to spend time together as a family, I was even planning on us going on a vacation, give my children a life I wasn't opportune to live, I talked to him about it, we made plans, he agreed to go for a full STD test. I was happy
little did I know that my so called husband has fathered another child outside our marriage, he told me this himself, saying all sorts of nonsense on how I should advise the girl to abort it so that we can be one big happy family, I just looked at him, I haven't said anything to him in days. But I have decided that I'm kicking him out. I want to do this in a way that it doesn't affect my children, I really want them to build a relationship with their dad but as for me I clocked out of this marriage a long time ago.

I was advised by my a friend to make a video while I kick him out but I'm not going to do, he's till the father of my child, and I don't want my children to grow up and find those videos
honestly I just need emotional support while I go through this divorce.

It's so unfortunate. Have you prayed to God about this?

This is a fact. There is one at Amakohia in Owerri. The only son that died married and gave birth to children for her mother. They are alive till this day.

I think the answer to your question is very simple. Look for a couple who has a child with SS genotype. Let them tell you their experience then you will understand more the English adage that says prevention is better than cure. I wish you well.

15k is very exorbitant.

.... Lecturing job is a knowledge based job. Thank you my Prof. This is not an Agbero job or putting tickets on packed cars by an alaye. I regret been a Nigerian.

[quote author=Sweetplum post=116711673]What a funny advert. Confused voter wanted to colonise others into vote candidates n not party. [/quotes]
What do you want to vote for before? You want to vote for party and not the candidate?

fati2001:
London Bridge is falling down,
Falling down, falling down.
London Bridge is falling down,
My fair lady.


Who are we going to sing this to now that she's no more.

It will now be ...

London Bridge is falling down,
Falling down, falling down.
London Bridge is falling down,
My fair Gentleman!

Number 6 for my soup and number 8 for my stew and jellof rice. I can't cook without onions ooo!

May her soul rest in perfect peace, Amen.

What a country...

What a country...

There are some questions one doesn't need to answer.

People at the age of 26 and above who is working are still talking about relationship instead of getting married? I am really sorry for such fellows.

HeroHero:
Go for doxycycline take it for 2 weeks
Two tablet per day .... One morning, one night
(2 x 14days)

Please, try these drugs mentioned above. Sorry about your ill health and also say No to premarital sex.

Fadafada231:
Thanks, I did mine in a private hospital a week ago which I was given my result. Planning of taking her to other government hospital for confirmation of her status.

Take her to the same hospital you did yours Face to face and get results. Don't entertain highway stories.

Alexgman1:
Not all the time. Women have blood, they can feel too. They need sex too.

I thought you wrote this so that you can be guided accordingly. Since you know all these, why seeking advice? Anyway, as a bachelor, this is hell fire, this is heaven, choose one.

Her good home didn't mould her to be disciplined. She will continue to be indisciplined with finances even after marriage. As a bachelor looking for wife... See hell fire, see heaven, choose one.

My favorite! Good with oatmeal swallow. Well prepared.

Most married women face same wickedness from their husbands and still keep quiet in the name of protecting their marriages. If she had opened up, she would have been alive today. As for that barbarian, he will definitely suffer. What a painful death. May her soul rest in peace, Amen.

No age limit to any sickness ooo! Try check your sugar first thing in the morning before you eat anything. Also, check your Blood Pressure. You will take it up from there.

30 marks

On a Saturday morning, this is what you have to offer here. You are still talking about girlfriend? My friend go and look for a better thing to do with your life than this thrash. Rubbish!

Golan007:
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It is Uzodinma that either told drivers to be running at top speed or punctured a fuel tanker.

This has absolutely nothing to do with the Governor or anybody. It's just an unfortunate incident.

My sister, you are disturbing yourself. It's a simple matter to handle. I once sent a message to a lady I buy drugs from in a pharmacy. It ended with ... good night baby. My wife saw it. Two days later, she pretended to reply a cousin and wrote one epistle and ended it up with God bless you my Love. She gave it to me to proofread before she could send it out. Hia! I shouted which one is my Love, who is this guy? It's Dozie naaa! Which Dozie I Insisted? The one you know. It's a lie give me the number. She refused. My sister, after 30 mins, she sent the message I sent to that lady. Who is this lady I called baby? If I call another man my Love will that be okay by you? I explained and apologized. We married since 2017. That incident happened in 2018. Since then, such never occurred again till date.
Just apply this format. His answers will help you know how to talk to him. Most importantly, go down on your knees and pray to God about it. It is well with your home, Amen.

That's a good one.