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Wizardslayer:
Why is Nigeria always having orgasm whenever it has to do with Igbo and related to the Igbos??

If nnamdi kanu and Simon epka where fulani or Yoruba I bet their case would have been overlooked long time ago.

Because dot-nation must continuing to serve the slave masters.

9jawazobia:
Until all his decisions start to yield positive results we have the right to criticise and complain

Who is your own man of the year?
It's a very simple question.

Very Very easy to wail, condemn even attack!

gasparpisciotta:
Rufai Oseni will have HBP today 🤪

The foolish boy that is totally prejudice in every of his opinion, the guy is most bias TV host I ever seen or watched. Even Abati that is PDP member, still far far gives neutral opinion than that arrogant boy. Asides from being bias minded, he would turn interview to interogation. No wonder he is finding it difficult to leave with woman as husband and wife.

Yet he is the best journalist in the eye of Obidients.

Those who are cheering him behind keyboard, enjoy chicken with their girlfriends and mistress, while the Messiah is struggling in most dreaded prison in white country, I'm very sure when he finally arrives zoo, he would even prefer to stay in most dreaded prison in far away Finland.

Nexttpage:
Lol you be baby when it comes to man and woman matter. Na real fact the guy dey yarn o

I repeat for the last time, you and the guy are learner not only woman, but human behaviour generally. ( For all women I have dated before, I knew/ know the exact level of love each had/has for me, I know the one that only dating becos of money, she wanted to marry even diik and the one genuinely loves me).

ONE THING YOU MIGHT NOT KNOW IS THAT LOVE DO FADE, PERHAPS THAT'S WHAT YOU MISTAKEN THAT WOMAN DON'T LOVE

Everybody man or woman loves and hates, that's designs of God , which nobody can remove or add. Accept this reality and stop angry because of past experiences.

Meanwhile, I will advise you, not to be forcing yourself or buy love of women, that is why you and that guy seeing nonsense in the hands of women, I don't blame you guys, that's ugly personal experience from women.


Bye.

lailo:
U advice seems u really don't know woman. There is no love in woman's dictionary. So she doesnt love any of them. Take that one first. Women are unstable and also love to explore just like men. She is just only tired of the new man and long to experience the old love. If she goes there, she will soon be tired and would want to return to OP. And the cycle continues. Women love new experience and easily tired of monotony. Money is another motivation. And another law that is trying to play out there is Okafor's law: once de be, always de be . Love has no place in their heart, it is men who love.

You are taking from own perspective and how women dealt with you in the past and not general perspective,...... EVERY HUMAN BEING DO LOVE & HATE

datola:
Osinbajo should have stepped down. I didn't like the way he was humiliated.

Because cowardice runs in ur linage.
After he might have gone, HIS GREAT GREAT GRIND CHILDREN WOULD ASK, THEY ONCE SAY MY GREAT GREAT GRIND FATHER WAS NIGERIA PRESIDENT FOR 8 YEARS, HOW COME,HE NEVER CONTESTED I BECOME PRESIDENT?

A. HE BACKED DOWN BECAUSE ONE MAN BULLIED HIM OUR.


B. HE CONTESTED I LOSS IN PRIMARY.


which one you will choose as great grandchild?

Buhari most foolish, that ever had opportunity to rule a nation twice. It's not only Tinubu that outsmarted lifeless, but every his appointee dribbled him and ran Nigeria aground.

Oluromantic:
That woman is an example of women who enter marriage without knowing what marriage really means and entails.

It's a married woman's duty to set boundaries and know when to set them, not the man's duty on her behalf. If she doesn't know that, she should cover her face in shame.

It will only works, wen the woman is not a "fine bobo FREAK", she is ready to face any consequence thereafter, rather than denying herself from such big opportunity.

If you are a very handsome guy or you have friend that is very handsome or famous, you would understand me better.

When you marry a woman,who is celebrities FREAK, just know you have successfully housed OUR instead of MY wife. This same goes to women who are "fine boy' freak they can never ever control themselves when they meet their FREAK.

Sapasenator:
Hello Nairalanders,

I am completely lost and need advice. My name is Olumide Adeyanju(Not my real name), and I’m a 42-year-old civil engineer based in Lagos. I’ve been married to my wife, Tola, for seven years. We have a son together, Jidenna, who is five years old. Our marriage hasn’t been perfect, but I thought we had something solid—until recently.

When I met Tola, she was a divorcee. She told me her first marriage to a man named Dapo Olatunji ended after three years due to irreconcilable differences and I believed her. According to her, Dapo had anger issues and was overly controlling. She said she left the marriage to protect her mental health and focus on building a better life for herself. At the time, I admired her courage, and we built a beautiful relationship.

Last month, everything changed. Tola and I were invited to a wedding in Lekki. As fate would have it, Dapo was also at the wedding. It was the first time they were seeing each other in nearly 10 years. I noticed they exchanged pleasantries, and while it seemed cordial at first, something about the way they looked at each other didn’t sit well with me.

In the weeks that followed, I started noticing subtle changes in Tola’s behavior. She began acting distant and spending more time on her phone, often smiling at her screen like a teenager in love. When I asked her what was going on, she brushed it off, saying it was just "work stress."

Then, two weeks ago, I came home early from work and found her on a video call with Dapo. She didn’t realize I was home, so I overheard parts of their conversation. They were laughing and reminiscing about their past together—things like how they used to travel to Abuja for weekend getaways and the time he bought her a surprise gift for her birthday. It felt like I was intruding on a private moment between lovers.

When I confronted her, she admitted that she and Dapo had been talking regularly since the wedding. She claimed it was "nothing serious" and that they were just "catching up as friends." But I don’t believe her. Her behavior has changed so much. She’s more secretive, and I even found out she met up with him last Saturday without telling me. She said it was a "closure" meeting, but why does she need closure after all these years?

Now I’m stuck. I love Tola, but it feels like her heart is being drawn back to Dapo. I’ve spoken to my elder brother, Kunle, and he thinks I should stand my ground and fight for my marriage. But my best friend, Tunde, says I should let her go if she’s already emotionally checked out.

I don’t know what to do. Should I confront Dapo directly? Should I give Tola an ultimatum to stop talking to him? Or should I quietly walk away and let her decide who she really wants to be with?

Please, Nairalanders, I need your honest opinions. Have you experienced or heard of a situation like this? How do I handle it?

Let me repeat what I said about a story, similar to this few weeks ago here.

If you married a single mother, which her husband is still much alive, just know you are into a polyandry instead of monogamous marriage........fact 1.

If husband still struggling to separate ordinary ex boyfriend without kid from wife, how much more relationship that involves kids. ........communication, collecting gifts/money and even visiting, these are the things you can't stop single mother not to do with ex husband.

I have witnessed countless of such cases, where ex wife, who is now married to another husband, which exes still sleeping with them.

One thing I studied about woman is,... any man that succeeded in sleeping with them before, no matter how the relationship ended, couples with the present status of the woman,(marital or financial) , ex can still come back to her life, thou, such ex must knows how to play his game very well. fact 2. ......more reason why husband shouldn't totally leave wife by way of not monitoring, once in a while.(woman won't know, when she mess herself in the hands of ex. .......fact 3

Sapasenator:
Hello Nairalanders,

I am completely lost and need advice. My name is Olumide Adeyanju(Not my real name), and I’m a 42-year-old civil engineer based in Lagos. I’ve been married to my wife, Tola, for seven years. We have a son together, Jidenna, who is five years old. Our marriage hasn’t been perfect, but I thought we had something solid—until recently.

When I met Tola, she was a divorcee. She told me her first marriage to a man named Dapo Olatunji ended after three years due to irreconcilable differences and I believed her. According to her, Dapo had anger issues and was overly controlling. She said she left the marriage to protect her mental health and focus on building a better life for herself. At the time, I admired her courage, and we built a beautiful relationship.

Last month, everything changed. Tola and I were invited to a wedding in Lekki. As fate would have it, Dapo was also at the wedding. It was the first time they were seeing each other in nearly 10 years. I noticed they exchanged pleasantries, and while it seemed cordial at first, something about the way they looked at each other didn’t sit well with me.

In the weeks that followed, I started noticing subtle changes in Tola’s behavior. She began acting distant and spending more time on her phone, often smiling at her screen like a teenager in love. When I asked her what was going on, she brushed it off, saying it was just "work stress."

Then, two weeks ago, I came home early from work and found her on a video call with Dapo. She didn’t realize I was home, so I overheard parts of their conversation. They were laughing and reminiscing about their past together—things like how they used to travel to Abuja for weekend getaways and the time he bought her a surprise gift for her birthday. It felt like I was intruding on a private moment between lovers.

When I confronted her, she admitted that she and Dapo had been talking regularly since the wedding. She claimed it was "nothing serious" and that they were just "catching up as friends." But I don’t believe her. Her behavior has changed so much. She’s more secretive, and I even found out she met up with him last Saturday without telling me. She said it was a "closure" meeting, but why does she need closure after all these years?

Now I’m stuck. I love Tola, but it feels like her heart is being drawn back to Dapo. I’ve spoken to my elder brother, Kunle, and he thinks I should stand my ground and fight for my marriage. But my best friend, Tunde, says I should let her go if she’s already emotionally checked out.

I don’t know what to do. Should I confront Dapo directly? Should I give Tola an ultimatum to stop talking to him? Or should I quietly walk away and let her decide who she really wants to be with?

Please, Nairalanders, I need your honest opinions. Have you experienced or heard of a situation like this? How do I handle it?

Thou a figment, but can happen. Infact, is happening.

Such husband has little or nothing to do, in other to stop them going forward, it appears the woman loves ex husband, despite she is a wife beater, when woman loves a man, no matter his flaws, she can't remove her heart from him, and the way you narrated your imagination, the wife doesn't love you, only want to be tagged, Mrs "married woman" in your home, and possibly for financial security.

Dilijingsly:
I've got a niece and I want to change her name to Muslim before she write WAEC but her first school certificate has Christian names. How do I do that??

The way religion has destroyed you I pray, you won't allow same to destroy this girl future, not even in a world, where everything about you must all way the same.

Must she bear Muslim name at all cost, you change her religion to whatever you want and leave her original name.

Relationship needs love, money and understanding to work, all the 3 are highly essential for relationship to work and enjoying

Not until life lost by blood sucking Libya, who doesn't know how to be sportsmanship but "WARmanship" keep on collecting 50, 50 and leave them to be behaving like animals.

Tokskob2008:
Lol.... these people are just too heartless, instead of working to make sure prices of foodstuffs drop he wants everyone to start planting potatoes along the highway or where else can one get a small piece of land for farming in a rented apartment

He said, "grow something" ,'don't just be tweeting, lamenting and wailing from one social media to another'. He didn't say, you must grow potatoes at all cost.


The situation of Naija today, caused by leaders and followers, it can also be rescued by both the leaders and the followers .

Yes the messenger is bad, but the message is good, not only for you and me,but also for the nation

How many of such fans, lost son or daughter in the stamped, I think we should start from thr.

Hemanwel:
"Loneliness". That was the Sunday School topic at my church yesterday.

You can be married and still be lonely.

Loneliness is the feeling of being disconnected from others, even when surrounded by people.

That you are single or unmarried doesn't translate to being lonely, so long as you connect with people; you are extroverted.

Wen you married with kids, and you are lonely, you choose to be lonely, infact, that's not even lonely but unhappiness. But, as a single man or woman, it's forced loneliness.

Anybody of marriageable age, who is not married and no children, who claims he/she not lonely and happy about his/her situation, is not different from mad man wandering on the road.

tishbite43:
This Kalu is an efulefu of a kind
OBJ and GEJ are the ones who made Igbos feel as Nigerians. Especially GEJ. Yar'Adua also did his thing by appointing Ogbonna Onovo as IG of Police. The first and only Igbo to occupy that seat since 1970.

So, appointing Igbo into high positions is more important to you than infrastructures in Igbo land? if he had appointed Igbo to all important position in his cabinet, without putting infrastructure thr, how would it benefits you and other common man?
What BUHARI DID FOR IGBO, IS FAR GREATER THAN, WHAT OBJ, YAR'ADUA AND JONATHAN DID COMBINED. (FACTS ARE THRE IF YOU READY TO TELL YOUR CONSCIENCE TRUTH)

2ND NIGERIA BRIDGE & N-POWER, THESE ARE THE OPPORTUNITIES THAT GO TO MASSES AND NOT APPOINTMENTS OF FEW INDIVIDUALS, WHICH ONLY BENEFIT THEM AND PEOPLE AROUND THEM.

Indeed , many of you guys are nothing but clowns.

khalling2008:
Those who are shouting on social media don't know that the Sharia panel has been practiced in Yoruba land. Go to Ojo-oba in Ibadan, go to Lagos, and go to other states. The Oyo community will inaugurate their shariah whether they shout from today till kingdom come, nobody will stop the sharia in Yoruba land.
You are free to practice your traditional religion, Christianity in Yoruba land, but to shout that Muslims will not practice sharia law in Yoruba land, that's in your dream, by the time you wake up from your dream, you will realize that your dream is deceiving you in reality

Abi ooo, two people of different religions that have issues, one will first drag you to his Hindu court and latter you will drag him to your jihadists court, yet you don't know it will create chaos.

Indeed, Islam taking common senses from its followers, anyway, since he must suck human blood from time to time, it must render them foolishly

paxx:
My parents want me to marry a girl that they hand picked for me from my community. Shes drop dead gorgeous and our families are perfectly coupled together.

My long term gf is from a different area, and I wanted to marry her. Yes we've only been together for 2 years but I know she LOVES ME.

Who should I pick?

The girl my parents picked is GORGEOUS and can bring our family alot of political connections and wealth. But my long term gf is obsessed with me, and I love her.

The girl my parents picked claims she loves me. but I dont know how since we dont know each other. My dad said I should give her a chance, and went as far as to say that if I marry the girl im dating he will cut me off.

I ended up marry the one from my community traditionally after my long term gf aborted my child. Since I live in a different country, when I went back home to where I stay with my gf. I married her in the court house. (Yes I'm crazy)

Now I have two wives and I have to divorce one.

If I divorce my long time gf, she will hate me. If I divorce the one from my community traditionally I'll be in trouble in my area, and it will affect my family.

What should I choose?

I guess you are asking from who will always be referee whenever, two of you want to play bedmatic game.

Still doesn't know, why someone who is mature to marry will be asking unseen multitude, the woman that she plans to be leaving with.

Omoawoke:
You people really think that the military are dumb.
Like you think they don’t have very intelligent people working in the military?

For your information, they have one of the smartest people in the country gathering intelligence.
You people don’t know anything about the Nigerian military. You all just assume they are bunch of half illiterates

Yet they labour labour labour, and couldn't get, SHEKARAU until rival killed him

AND NOW, NOT BE ABLE TO GET BELLO FOR YEARS, THIS IS A MAN IN NIGERIA TERRITORY. WHAT WILL IF HE IS ANOTHER NATION?


I think you urself shouldn't be always foolish to follow follow without using your common sense.

They got the woman yesterday and paraded her, immediately, Haba!

Did you even endeavour to asked yourself, whats urgent in it by quickly rush to the media?

symbianDON:
by now, Turji already KNOWS she has been captured.

Did he know immediately she was captured? They would use her for bait immediately, infact, plant remote bomb on her, and detonate it wen she got to where Turji is.

Just as someone says up thr, who knows, if the military using her just to gain accolades from public. Perhaps she doesn't involve in the crime. no be Naija.

You arrested on 28, you quickly rushed to the media to show off the same day,......I think it would have been helpful, if you haven't gone media by now, use the opportunity to work on the two arrested, to get Turji or his lieutenants


CAN MOSSAD OR NAVY SEAL RUSH GRAGRA TO MEDIA TO DISPENSE THIS TYPE OF VITAL INFORMATION WITHOUT FIRST WORK EXTENSIVELY ON IT?

No wonder some people saying military doesn't want the war to end

Ikinternational:
Wtf
Guy it's not a must to comment

Yet you commented, pls see psychiatrist!

Gagare1:
I will make it brief, I hope.

Today is our six years wedding anniversary and my wife (a very good wife) decided to surprise me with a gift. She bought a material for me to sew native attire. Of course, she said I would have to settle the tailor charges when I get it made. No qualms. I was so excited and thankful. Then it came, she told me that she also bought exactly the same materials for her two elder brothers. My wife knows that I don't do anko (asoebi). Now I feel belittled and the gift looks more like a slap. I strongly feel that mine should not be the same with anyone else 's. That difference is key to me (even if mine is cheaper and of lower quality). I am her husband and the father of her child, not just any man. She has been my sole responsibility for the past six years and her first ever anniversary gift should not equate me to her brothers in the village.

I gently told her to at least change the color of mine, but she has been moody since, claiming that she bought it since November and kept it with the seller, she only collected it yesterday. God knows that I don't intend to use that material. I might just give it to her younger brother next time he visits.

For the matured men (my elders in marriage), please am I on the wrong here? I am open to honest responses.

I just feel that mine should be different, the price doesn't matter. The value for me is rooted in mine being different. I do things for my sister too, but never on the same level with my wife. Her's is always different to reflect her unique place in my life.

Sorry, not so brief after all.

You would be able to live longer, if you can be ignoring so many little-little things, most especially from your wife, close siblings and close friends.


I THINK FOR YOU TO BE IN MARRIAGE FOR SIX FULL YEARS WITH KIDS IN HALE & HEALTH, THE JOY IS SUPPOSED TO OVERSHADOW ANY MINOR MISTAKE THAT WIFE MIGHT HAVE DONE, BUT WHEN A MAN WANTS TO TAKE OUT MOUNTAIN FROM ANT'S HOLE, HE MUST ANGRY ON SLIGHTEST MISTAKE.

Fault-finding!

Odafe360:
I posted a previous topic about my divorce with my wife and i got alot of advice on this platform which really encouraged & have me strength.
I'm really grateful for the nairaland community. The only issue i'm still battling with right now is how to move on, i'm trying everyday to forget the past, but the more i try, the more it's becoming fresh in my heart and the pains too. I won't lie to you it's difficult. Sincerely sometimes i cry and the thoughts of ending my life comes and goes. I don't drink, I don't smoke, neither do i womannize and worst of all i don't have much friends cos I'm more of an introvert.
A snippet of the entire problem is that most times we have an issue and she leaves the house, i've always been the one going to speak to her mum, plead and bring them back home, that's why whenever there's problem and she goes back to her mom's place, nobody from her family would contact me to even hear my side because I've become like a fool to them cos they know i'll still come. This last one that she left, we just had a little issue and she packed a her things and left. So many people not to go to her family house and beg this time around since i didn't send them packing. I swear guys, i've forgiven and tolerated what 90% of men won't forgive nor tolerate from her.

Please guys help a brother with more advice, how do i move on?

You are not yet mature for marriage, maybe,that's why she leaves anytime she wishes, and this is evident in your feeble-minded, for always bringing your marriage issues to the public to decide for you.

When you ready, you will take critical decision of your life by yourself

muykem:
General Abdourahamane Tchiani has started smell a bad omens and he could not ascertain where his problem is coming from hence allegations upon allegations.

It seems, he is sensing thr might be a revolt among his military, hence, comming out to shift his cluelessness on whole world.

Perhaps, the civilian population no longer queue solidly behind him as it were.


THE URANIUM THAT HE CLAIMS FRANCE IS TAPPING TO ENRICH THEMSELVES, HE, HIS FAMILY AND FEW OF HIS FRIENDS NOW USING IT TO ENRICH THEMSELVES ALONE, WHILE LEAVING MAJORITY OF NIGERIANS IN DESPAIR.

personal59:
At least the citizen were happy when he took over the seat of power.


By the time he is done with his selfish and greedy government which African continent are good at, his people will see clearly what hit them in the blokus

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Before he would eventually relinquished power, possible after 20yrs in power, many of those foolish Nigerians praise-singing him then, it's on their scattered blood, on the roads, that he would use for passage to friendly nation that
would grant him asylum.
By then, they would be saying , " had we known" we would let the civilian president finishes his term and gives way for others.

They never see anything yet, they would fully tired of him, after 5 years as a dictator with nothing to show for it. Thank God France is no longer in his country, let see how, he would utilise the rich uranium for betterment of his countrymen, infact, the foolish supporters would, even be begging France to come to their aids by the time their Messiah finished with them.

Wen we were growing up, ladies hardly having 2 boyfriends at a go, at least, 7/10 then, if boyfriend misbehaved and time to move on, they would still wait a little bit before giving chance for another guy. Then, girls were mostly doing this not because they fear guys, but not to be seen as cheap ladies, but nowadays, women having the same orientation of "man is polygamous in nature.

Some married women don't even know the number of concubines they have.

Wasting lives of people who are breadwinners of their families on hourly basis, just because you want to fight super powers, the battle you yourself know you can never comes out victory, yet delusional people in far away jungle hailing.l his satanic sagacity.