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UnfairLife7:
I have a cousin sister in her late 20s, she's going out with a guy in his mid 30s. This guy works in the oil and gas sector while this cousin of mine works in the telecommunication. They both based in Portharcourt. She met this guy immediately after her service year and they've been together for over 2 years now.

This guy hasn't asked my cousin out to be his girlfriend neither has he proposed to her to be his wife. He spent so much on my cousin. My cousin has met his parents and some of his siblings. He flew her from pH to Lagos to and fro before Christmas just to attend his friend's dad burial. This guy can spend close to million on a seat for her. He gave her ANYTHING, I mean just anything she wants. It got to a point my cousin started feeling somehow the way he spend.

The issue she's having with him is that, he can go for days at times weeks without communicating with her. Then the moment he reached out to her, he'd spend heavily on her. He's not a married man. He's single. Although he has jokingly told my cousin that all what he's doing for her is absolutely nothing . My cousin earn up to 100+ in salary while this guy earn million He jokingly told my cousin not to catch feelings for him as all what he's doing is nothing but unfortunately it mean a whole lot to my cousin. This guy isn't freak about sex. She can count the numbers of times they've had sex together. My cousin is confused why is he spending this much on her if he doesn't see her as his girlfriend or wife to be.

If not that my cousin has been to his office once and always goes to his house. She'd have think the guy is either a yahoo boy or into drugs due to how he spent on her. When he flew her to Lagos to his friends event, they spent a week in Lagos. The girl was in her parents house while the guy was in his parents house in Lagos. The guy didn't asked to meet her parents but he took my cousin younger siblings out for shopping, gave them money and also get stuff for my cousins mother.

My cousin understand the guy might have other girls as a successful young guy. She's just worried the way the guy is doing. She's really confused and doesn't know what to do.


NB: My cousin has left him at some point and blocked him but he drove down to her house to beg her. He will apologise and they will come back together. He's not ready to leave her and he's not committed to her only spend spend spend spend

Please what's your advice to my cousin

1 of the underlisted scenarios would certainly happen to her in future 3 scenarios.

1. She will remain confused until her time fades,.......... remains single for life.

2. She won't be able to cope with another guy/man again, because of how this guy has spoiled her, hence,.a potential single mother

3. If she manages to marry another guy, very
certain of infidelity with this guy in future.

Onegai:
He doesn't love her.

Trust me.

Those guys are earning a minimum of N1.5mil to N5mil every month.

When they enter, they're shocked at it. Then it goes to their brains and they begin to feel entitled and selfish.

That's when a lot of them, their marriages or relationships collapse. They feel they can do better.

They go on spending sprees (I remember when MTN used to pay $1500 monthly, those boys were buying branded native wears like crazy). They don't know what to do with the money, so they upgrade their lifestyles and stop listening to the stable person in their lives (wives or girlfriends). They can afford anything they like, so they do. Prudent savings be damned (even the ones that save struggle to be disciplined).

Eventually, the frenzy leaves most of them. They calm down, because it gets boring seeing that money hit your account monthly (no longer a big deal).

The emptiness inside them is still there, worse, it's bigger now. Then they start trying to get rid of the money: spending on others to make themselves feel good and look like a hero in others' eyes and freedom to live their lives as they please.

You can't fix them, they ruined their lives themselves. Their problem started with low self-esteem and insecurities.

Same with politicians when they first enter govt. The madness no get Part 2. That money controls them.

I could be wrong o, but if you know these guys, you'll notice they have the same patterns.

If your cousin wants to test him, she should tell him she's pregnant. His reaction will show her clearly what's up.

How would she tell him she is pregnant,when he has told her uncountable time, that he doesn't want relationship with her ,he also went ahead, she shouldn't develop feelings for him, Infact, the rich boy never toast her, only sleeping with her casually, so, on which authority she wants to stand to proof her case?


THIS IS TYPE OF RELATIONSHIP IN WHICH WE GUYS USE TO SAY, ......IM ONLY FUCKING HER WHENEVER I REMEMBER SHE IS STILL EXISTING, THAT'S, USING HER TO RELIEVE BODY TENSION & LONELINESS.

THE GIRL ACTUALLY DATING HERSELF BELIEVING SHE IS DATING QUALITY HUSBAND TO BE.

We4all:
Ha..ha..ha..the story sounds familiar. Firstly, that dude is suffering from a severe case of low self esteem and is hiding under the cover of being generous.

Secondly, he is the only one who knows what he is getting from your cousin. One thing I know for sure is that, nothing is free.

Thirdly,a lady I know had similar experience. The guy would spend thousands on her and she thought he was generous. Eventually, he had a court marriage with her without a witness from her family.

After living together for a couple of months, he ran away claiming he was tired of the marriage. Obviously, he was after something and has gotten it.

That dude is after something and will dump your cousin when he is satisfied.

Hope you also read, where OP says, they had sex couple of times?

MasterJayJay:
Keyboard general? You guys hate the truth. Lies will keep us in bondage.

Someone said he has superior firepower, overwhelming firepower and the result is 1 terrorist dead, 2 soldiers dead.

I was not the general that said they had superior power.

If a woman can tolerate you for 6 months, I salute her endurance.

Anyway, you guys must still come online to wail, how all women are bad and not marriageable, even wen the man himself, is a lunatic.

Just like someone said up thr, I guess your performance in life, even in ur own field has always be 10/10.

ehikwe22:
If they terrorise the westz they're a terrorist group. If they terrorise enemies of the west, or carry out western agendas, they're freedom fighters. We understand

I guess you will lead them to decimate the west.

Olorunwa2009:
I don't understand what Niger wants from my Dear country.

They are bullying your dear nation, which she claimed to be big madam to submission.


Bullying, interference and hijacking are all allowed in international politics.

Still don't know why France hasn't said a word on this matter but Nigeria talking like parrot to explain to who ever care to listen, because a minor nation gave out force information about them.

Bandirao:
I don't know what this governors can gain when they put their dirty hands in our traditional institutions established by Usman Dan fodio (rta) and his generals? They should just mind their business and stop putting their hands on things that didn't concern them.

Not until traditional institutions know that govs are their superiors, that, it's govs we voted to hold state power and that, govs can make or break them.

Kings should endeavour to be neutral in politics, they shouldn't habour or dinning with political opponents, if they don't want trouble from sitting Govs

ebijimi7:
I'm not being mummy's pet oga the issues here was because my sister saw a bag of rice cheaper and she told me then I sent money to her to help me get it because if we buy it like that we both share the rice half half notwithstanding that the provision we bought at our own home my woman was the one that bought them and I told her that you don't need to stress yourself since she has already bought the bag of rice, but she's still mad at me because my sister procured it, my sister works with lago state government so it was fortunate fit her to get a link to get the rice cheaper. But my woman was mad because I told her I sent money to my sister go get us rice.

Always complaining about hardship and girlfriend/fiancee issue, I biliv u will use 100 yrs to wail on public forum about gf and woman.

Keep it ok.

ebijimi7:
I'm not being mummy's pet oga the issues here was because my sister saw a bag of rice cheaper and she told me then I sent money to her to help me get it because if we buy it like that we both share the rice half half notwithstanding that the provision we bought at our own home my woman was the one that bought them and I told her that you don't need to stress yourself since she has already bought the bag of rice, but she's still mad at me because my sister procured it, my sister works with lago state government so it was fortunate fit her to get a link to get the rice cheaper. But my woman was mad because I told her I sent money to my sister go get us rice.

Always complaining about hardship and girlfriend/fiancee issue, I biliv u will use 100 yrs to wail on public forum about gf and woman.

Keep it ok.


You are free to re-check ur inconsistencies in ur imaginations down

Many of our nurses over there are doing nurse assistant but since everyone back home, has known they have relocated, they have no option than to continue their health-care services instead of proper nursing.

No thanks to exchange rate that also favours them.

Mama I guess you mistake hunger strike to mourning.

Hope it's not collection of giftS from different men, who are married to their beautiful wife.

While their wives enduring to be with husband and kids, you choose to be leaving without control and larger than life, at expense of men, as a single mother.

Ericmaestrooffi:
Hello everyone,

I will keep it short, this is not a thread to bash ladies but to point out an observation.

I started dating a lady last month and everything was going fine until last week when she demanded for money for her christmas hair and clothes. I actually had a lot of bills to settle and also send my mum money for the christmas and I told her I wouldn't be able to give her the money she requested for cos I am also saving for my rent payment which is due early next year.

She got really upset and left my place angrily and since then has refused to call or message me, I decided to reach out to her and she told me the relationship is over . I just responded with ok and I moved on. Despite the short time we have been together I have always spent on her and always assisted her when she needs any form of financial assistance. I can actually afford to give her money for the december but I believe the relationship is still young and I want to be sure the feelings are genuine and not money motivated.

I have also had similar issues with other ladies and I observe they are so money minded , is it a general issue with Nigerian girls or am I just unlucky. I am neither stingy nor broke, I am a banker and I earn well but I am always unlucky with the ladies I meet.

So I want to know do you guys also experience such? Is true love no longer achievable in Nigeria?

N.B ;This is not a thread to bash women, kindly take note.

You are having problems with others women the same you had with this lady, because you are buying their love with heavy money.

Try your best to go for lady that not conscious of money,next time, you will see the different.


NB. The girl you will go for next time, make sure before you toast her, she shows interest in you already, more so, immediately she agrees to date you,make sure you take in charge of the relationship from very very beginning.

ebijimi7:
Good day guys I need your advise on this issues especially the ladies.
I have a lady I'm dating which I have intention of getting married to and its been 7 months together but the thing is that I'm a very gentle and quiet person that loves peace.
So everything wa going well when we first met until she started complaining of almost everything if we are going somewhere may be we board a tricycle to cover a short distance she woukd almost be fighting the person sitting next to her just because she wanted the person to adjust.
another thing she did that's annoying is the fact she expects me to tell her everything about me which is not possible.
So the main reason I created this thread was what happened last night.
So we were having a discussion then she talked about me not taking her out that I kept saying I'm broke but if it's utility bills now I would pay up instantly and if its to stock the house with food the money would come and yet I kept saying I don't have money for us just to go out and have fun, so I told her where I come from we don't catch fun and go hungry we fill our stomach before going to waste money catching fun.
Then she resorted to saying why is it that its my sister that use to help us go and get food instead of her,them I told her that my sister knows all this things and how to get them done properly why not leave it for her she got mad that I do things behind her without telling her and why are my always running to my sister foe stuff, then I told her I didn't run to my sister and my sister is this type of person that always look out for me since we lost our mum even if I just visit my sister she gets mad that why are my going to see my sister

You urself not ready for marriage yet, you are still a mummy pet going by one sided information you give o, you want to marry a lady, yet the lady not mature and wise enough to stock food at home, but your sister, which wife will accept that oga? Who knows so many ways you are being acting like Mumu, which making her behave like lunatic too.

And most importantly, because of your being too soft to handle a woman, it seems she has taken control of the leadership at home.

Unlike before, women that love man genuinely, would preserve her body for such man alone, nowadays, lady still loves genuinely o, but but body won't be solely for him. Female too is polygamous in nature.

WE ARE IN GEN Z WORLD.

PriceActionZ:
Then regional government will be fully activated...that is tinubu's plan B... Just wait and see. Unfortunately they can't bully tinubu to succumb to their agenda. He is a stubborn fellow. He will rather loose that seat than not letting majority of his plans come to pass. Another thing is that, the battle line is drown, either he veto the tax reform bill or not, they will never support him for the second time up north, just like how they deceived GEJ, but I am sure tinubu, being politically smarter will dangle presidency for someone like shetima because they are the only region that has never tasted the presidency (NE). So they will be confused who to follow 2027.
I don't know why our leaders are afraid of new ideas. They have the population but are afraid of ideas and lack brainstorming to use such population to their advantages. Shame.

And you think anybody can defeat Tinubu in 2027? If it's dream, just know the dream can never come to reality.
No amount of regional cooperation can defeat Tinubu, after all, he didn't promise you guys transparent election, neither did he promise independent judicial arm of government.

This minister is the best Aviation minister Nigeria has, since 4th Republic, anyway he is human rights activist, I won't surprise his achievements in his ministry.

France refuses to say pim" cos they know it's 🐜 that is being ranting, only a sleeping giant running helter & skelter to look good in the eyes of minor.

I biliv grammarian goes this route to save face. He has since realised that, federal not on his side this time around.

Upritman:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WKHp53mvKvI?si=oRN948FVX7WXaTAR

An Imam has spoken on the controversial banner at the Lekki Central Mosque in Lagos. The Imam insisted that Jesus is not God and that since Jesus is talked about as a Prophet in the Quran, Christians cannot Monopolize Him afterall there are Moslems who answer Jesus (Isah) as their name.

Muslims are more concerned how others serve their God than, how they themselves serve their gods.

Islam ready to die if people not serving their blood sucking gods, the same gods which they claim is almighty.



IF I CHOOSE TO BE WORSHIPPING STONE AS GOD, WHY WOULD THAT, GIVE IMAMS HBP.

[quote author=Jaapu post=133463931][/quote]Abi oo, and JIHAD way is, to steal, to kill and to destroy.


Today, anywhere where there is no peace, you must see Muslims that fighting to force his way.

It won't islamise Oyo, yet in Kano, sharia forcing people to adhere to jihad at full force.

. You must fast by fire by force.

. Muslims or non Muslim must not drink beer.

The problem is that one of top hierarchy would still find way to cut Conner.

Every policy and tech that work in other clime must fall in Nigeria.

Beuberry:
Read the news in detail.
He didn't steal but was accused wrongly. More like a case of bad belle and village pipu combo. Somehow, he was ripped in armed robbery case from petty chicken thief allegations.
What a country!

You should endeavour to read from other side to balance the story ok.

What did you expect thief to say? Rather than denying his wrong doings.


I give 🐖 six months, it would surely back to mud Water.

Is it because of chicken they sentenced him to death or his involvement in ARMED ROBBERIES?

DANCING GOV ONLY PLAYING TO THE GALLERY BECOS ON RE-ELECTION, HE MADE A CRIMINAL AN HERO, FOR HIM TO GET CHEAP VOTES.

EmperorEmerald2:
....
Tell ur self the Truth have Nigeria Military ever fought any other Country in any part of the world 🌎 Single handly ?....
Now No Tribe in Nigeria can defeat Igbo Nation without Collaboration between North &West....
So as it remains Nnamdi Kanu is a Hero and must pay the price ....
We the Real Igbo are happy with Nnamdi Kanu & Simon Ekpa who is Nigeria Nightmare

While you are bragging in ur one room apartment and roaming around with full freedom, the two HEROES are begging for freedom becos of their conditions

Xisnin:
Failures always have someone else to blame.
The foolish coup plotter is now finding out that governance isn't as easy as he imagined.

Now, he has started using Mugabe's style of blaming enemies for his incompetence.
Well, it worked for Mugable until it doesn't.

The most painful part is that Ecowas was begging this idiot to come back when he
should be the one begging Ecowas to not get expelled.

That's why he has effontary to be saying all these jargons, a minor nation that needs others survive doing gragra, a nation thst doesn't have anything to contribute, they are begging him to come back

geoworldedu:
If she is a propehtess of god, what is ooni? Is he not a representative of god too? Just that the gods they serve are different. While one is worshipping Jehovah the god of Israel, the other is worshipping Olodumare, the god of the Yoruba people.

Ooni is chief priest of Orunmila.

BeIa:
people seems to have forgotten that woke is fighting for a developed Abuja and a better Nigeria, not himself

because of that,he will be behaving like emperor.

I believe Naomi is facing consequences of action she took in the past, a prophetess of God chooses number one idol worshipper in yoruba land as husband.

Let her go back to Almighty God for total forgiveness, for her to stop receiving reproaches from public and fans.

It seems God is angry with every of her actions, either good or otherwise.

Sharingiscaring:
To be fair, if we had a working legal system, Tinubu should have been the first to be prosecuted for these stampedes for making life so miserable for Nigerians within a year of his Aso Rock tenancy.

And you too, needs to be prosecuted.....for attempting to cause violence in the society by luring someone wife for sexual escapades .



The critical of every action of leaders, when they themselves are DEVILS INCARNATE.