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malcom1X:
If a man has money he will find a woman to start a family with but if a woman has money she will say she doesn't need a man anymore..

This seamstress has finally had enough. Or the man has finally been set free.

Guys marry virgin in this life, someone that will be loyal to you so that you don't live alone in your final years of this life.
That is the most painful thing in life.

No allow your wife dey sew clothes for military heads of states dey collect oil wells allocation just for sewing clothes.... You grab?

Negroid001:
You've strayed from the main topic. I said a divorced pastor shouldn't be giving marital advice.

mmadu4:
i went to a local brothel with a beer parlor to take a few bottle of beer and feed my eyes immediately i stepped in they all swamped on me .


i couldn't even sit down to order my beer 3 to 4 ladies don surround me

,in their words,, bros u too fine oooo bros i go do u fine . give me 2 hundred naira i go pull off for you .....

i was shocked. last time checked 200 is worthless

has it come to this? na waooooo

anyways i ended up leaving the place cos i felt uncomfortable


naija don cast sha.

F1re:
What's up guys, trust you're doing fine.

There's this lady(27yo, virgin) in my School, I'm a Teacher by the way(23yo), that became very obsessed with me, we once met at a Tech event where I was part of the Speakers, we didn't talk then, till she came to my School for an assignment, she saw me and reintroduced herself to me, I was like 'oh okay, what's up?' you know trying to be friendly, we got talking about stuffs, she told me she wants to learn how to code and if I can help her out, I said Yes, because I have free time on my hands, so she started coming around and I started teaching her the basics, she collected my Mobile Number and chatted me up, at a point she kind of become obsessed with me, she's always the one to chat me up first, calls me and give me chocolate during our lessons and all, bro i started having feelings for her, but I keep them in check and just flow with her.

She then travelled to Abuja at a point and things slowed down, I wasn't invested in her that much so it didn't bother me much, after she came back we continued our lessons and all, mind you, these lessons are more like 30% lessons and 70% gists(Relationships, Sex, Marriage, Life in general), I'm a good conversationalist so I got her to open up to me and all.

Then something happened last week, which is the main reason I'm writing this, she came to my office and I was sent on errand, I told her to wait for me that I'll be back and all, she said she promised she will, I didn't even ask her to swear lols, but when I came back, I found out that she had left already, it hurt me so bad, I was surprised at myself like why I'm I hurt like this because of this little stuffs.

And from that day till today, she haven't call me, I didn't check my Whatsapp either from that day, because I decide to switch my Whatsapp line due to disturbance of other low value people on my contact list, but the point is, she ghosted me, and she didn't come to work(she's not a Teacher, kind of working with an NGO, so their work isn't obligatory like mine), I didn't call her either because there's no reason to.

Now, the problem is I can't get her out of my mind, I'm a big fan of Stoicism and I've got help from applying some of its concepts in my life, but this time around it's just difficult, my mind will just be wandering towards all the good times we had and the 'Stupid' mental projections I was having in my brain about us, I'll forever not gonna call her or text her though, but I want to forget about all of that and get back to work, like I was before she came into my life.

Also, I've never kissed or touched her, because I've got some principles I live by and I'm currently working on some stuffs that will put me out in public soon, I'm very careful about my reputation, I've also never spend a dime on her, she's even the one that was begging on buying me stuffs when she came back from Abuja the other time, had to decline the offer.

Is it scarcity mindset? I don't know, but I've never been the one to chase girls right out of secondary school, they always come to me, just that right now, I don't have an active social life and I'm all by myself so I don't have any girls around that I talk to.

What do y'all have to say about this.

I'll tag my favorite posters here: Pansophist, Karlifate, luminouz, smartb0y, reminderz, caveadullam, olamoses75, please I could use some of your help, thanks.

Brighton1:
do you just called us idle guys? I’m a civil engineer and I’ve gotten lots of contracts to construct roads and buildings.. My guy is now a barrister, he was even working under a chamber before he went for law school and finally he’s called to Bar.. the said elder brother is a Lieutenant in Nigerian navy, he’s has not even seen dry land for the past 7 months, he just arrived last week and he’s reporting to base probably next week. And you’re calling us idle.. it’s fine sha.. let me don’t talk much.

Ogiame:
An avoidable death, BUT the notorious SIMP on the poster choose to forgive a community pussy everytime she shares her pussy to her pastors son and boys in the area.

Mind you, this was not the first time he caught the community pussy cheating.

Instead of the SIMP to take the matter to his elders and family members, he went to his pastor who advice him to forgive the notorious cheat.... Now, Erivwin don k!ll the SIMP......


There are so many SIMP's around us readily available to forgive their cheating partners but like a Nairalander will say and I quote; “D€ath to all SIMPs”


No RIP to waste.

Domaining101:
Idiots. Let him and the wife and their useless son go to hell. After all the enjoyment, traveling all over the world, flying jets and helicopter up and down, eating chicken and turkey, drinking juice, shebi e don end? I Heard it was even cardboard they use in bringing their smelling dead bodies back from Ablord 😂 When the fools where alive, you'll never see them doing anything for poor people, there own na to dey send their children go abroad go school, MIT, Cambridge, Oxford, while our own for here dey strike, let them go and die abeg.

How i wish God can take elumelu and that his daughter next.

jeromestarks:
The husband would have married a virgin woman. He would have escaped death and stayed alive but he went to marry a woman who has been fvvcked and mounted by many men. Now he is murdered by one of the men who fvvcked ( is fvcking ) his wife. Shame on him.

Marry a young virgin woman (18 -23) and get peace of mind and a long lasting home you can return to after work.
Ignore my advice and 9jacover will cover your story.

Bellotelli:
Is wike now the foreign affairs minister?

RevenuesBoost:
This illustration is based on marriage grounds and some are saying she should disobey her husband because she doesn't need permission from anyone.

Imagine a Father telling his daughter not to go see her best friend, should she disobey?

Also imagine an elder brother telling his younger sis not to go visit a close friend, should she disobey?

You dare not step out of the house without informing my parents. This is for security reasons, why should it be different with husbands when he is the only person you are living with at that moment?


Many marry for different reasons, some see their husbands as strangers, others regard them as very close friends.
If you are married to a man that is more than a friend to you, you will certainly need his permission for everything because you see him as your guardian in the absence of your parents.


If he says no, don't drag it with him, rather make him see reasons you have to travel, if he insists, then relax.

It's his turn to be with you, your siblings have been with you from childhood, they should miss you more 😂. You'll eventually see them but that time is not the right time, your siblings will understand.


Las las, if you disobey your husband and marriage scatter, na them go still talk.
Just give your husband all the respect he needs and obey him, that's all.

Cindypresh:
Ladies and gentlemen, behold the nightmare of every agbado thugs.

When the name obi is mentioned, their evil heart skips, their kidneys malfunctions and their brains keep spiralling aimlessly.

Watch them convulse on this very beautiful thread😂😂

superCleanworks:
After traditional wedding, all this one na just extra showbiz.

PureFace1:
You are just delusional, so not chasing women now mean women can easily disrespect me? dude i walk away from women because i respect myself and wouldn't tolerate any disrespect. You are a loser if you don't realize No is No and even if she want you to chase harder who want to be with that kind of shittty woman ? that will keep playing stupid games and wouldn't respect you.

So if you are a champion it mean you must conquer every women and turn your self to a loser and don't respect yourself and lose respect in the process?

I am not going to waste my time chasing a woman doesn't mean i don't know how to handle women when it come to other issues and tolerate disrespect.

You think bickering with women make you strong ? you are still a kid.

I will never be in relationship with a woman that disrespect me, if she disrespect me in the relationship i will end it.

Cerebellum:
Small boy, shurrap there!

Someone is correcting you, still you kept been adamant instead of learning

immortalcrown:
Women believe in love and are emotional. But what happens to the belief and the emotion when a man is poor or ugly or when he cannot give her orgasm?

PureFace1:
I get better result with less effort and respect myself.

You are the weak and foolish guy here and you can continue to waste your time away chasing women no one care, what did you achieve with all the chase ? You only make the women to think they are goddesses and must be worship because fools like you waste your time on them.

PureFace1:
Even if your game is top notch you are a fool if you think you can seduce every women.

Perhaps i'm more knowledgeable than you to know that it doesn't really worth the effort at the long run when there are plenty women that will dig you immediately out there even if she is playing hard to get i don't have time to waste on women that play stupid games and disrespect my time and I respect myself. i know that i am the prize here.

You are the one that's weak here for not realizing when a woman is just not interested in you and move on instead of wasting your time and resources away. Think about it would she reject Wizkid or Davido or even Portable ?

It is people like you that come online to wail when a woman take advantaged of you and used you. Why wouldn't they take advantage of men like you when you are just too desperate and don't understand what "No" is ? why wouldn't they disrespect you when you worship, give cheap attention, waste your time and chase them around like a dog on leash but in your delusional mind you think you are a gods player or seducer lol, you will hate yourself if you see what these women think of men like you, even if they later considered you it's because they ran out of options and they wouldn't really respect you or treat you well because they didn't really want you in the first place, you were the one chasing them around like a loyal dog.

Think about it would you really reject a beautiful woman that you are interested in and she asked you out?

Would any of these young women in Nigeria reject Wizkid, Davido or any celebrities that ask them for a date ? these women wouldn't even reject a guy with a good car.

Why wouldn't these women later act out and disrespect you when you just wouldn't take the word no, you must respect yourself first before people can respect you. You don't have any value if you think rejection is a challenge instead of moving on with your life, would wizkid or Davido, Asake waste time on a woman that reject them ? because if even a woman reject them they have thousands that will dig them.

FRANCISTOWN:
But the person he calls a friend has refused to help. Which means he is the one who considers the guy a friend, the guy never considered him a friend.

Obainoman6:
There's this girl in my neighborhood, she's very beautiful, yellow skinned and working class.
After very much hi and frequent discussions i told this girl that i really like her and want to boyfriend her and that's when she told me she's a baby mama to a soldier and she's not interested in any relationship for now.
But here's the thing, we connect very well even without words, we listen to the same kind of music, we both listen to radio and we watch the same kind of movies.
Before i even talk sef d girl don dey blush, she's a good girl and shy girl tho not like your typical Nigerian girl like...
I don't need anyone to tell me this girl likes me
But anytime i bring up anything like we being romantically or love stuffs like she gets off.
To be honest i can't even help pretending around her because i want us to be more than friends and i also don't want to be her love slave as well.

I feel like i should just give space or withdraw or even ignore, Please experienced nairalanders i need your honest opinions please.

PureFace1:
No matter how amicable a girl is toward you to the extent of thinking that she really like you romantically as long as she reject you then she's not really interested in you as you thought everything is just in your head.

Anything after a girl reject you is just a waste of time because there are several girls out there even better than her that will agree to your request immediately you ask, you just have to go and find them instead of wasting your time on someone that don't really give a fvck about you.

FRANCISTOWN:
The problem you have is an entitlement mentality. Only weak men have this mindset and if you're not careful, you may never rise above poverty because your mind will be plagued with bitterness , revenge and envy.

Know this today. No one owes you anything. Not your parents, not your friends or siblings. The only person what owes you is your employer. The moment you have an entitlement mentality, that's when you'll start noticing stingy people.

Your friend is rich doesn't make him automatically owe you financial assistance. He has the right to do whatsoever ever he wishes with his money.

By the way, you could be the one who considers him a friend. He could be seeing you as a burden and a bother