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udeh3:
I was almost supporting my mum as the senior child at home when quarrel broke out between Mom and dad. That single act made my father rained curse on me. I was quick to understand that my mum used emotions on me due to my dad's short temper. I quickly went to his close friends, begged them to come help me beg my dad, including my mum joined in the begging. Years later, I understood better that I was emotionally blackmailed into matter that wasn't suppose to involve us, but, my mom managed to bring us in and will call me as a witness, mine is just to agree! This happened when I was 13 to 15yrs

Emeka Ike has everything to loose unlike the wife. He was at the peak in his career. So, the news will sell well. Media houses will feist on it. I support him speaking out. Those of your in Magboro then will know better. His multi million Naira school was at CMD road. He lost everything, including his career and went exile. What did the woman lose, nothing! And you expect him to keep quiet?

Today, nobody talked about Saint Obi anymore. He was the quiet version of Emeka Ike, he died helplessly.

Men cries alot, but, when they do outside, they laugh at them and say, you're not a man, why cry. So, they bottle it inside and cry within. Men in the house, don't keep quiet in abuse domestically. When in emotionally pains, cry out. It's better to be called weak as a man and have your life than be called strong and die. The difference between Emeka Ike and Saint Obi is that, one is speaking out. You don't understand when someone went on exile for over 10yrs due to marital issues...

My parents story made me more careful when choosing a life partner. All the signs I saw then, I took note and today, by God's grace, I'm happily married. Marriage is deeper than we think

Peace!

You are just ranting and one sided throughout ur comment!

First of all, for how many years, ur own Emeka will speak out for people to hear his voice oooo? I guess he would rant throughout his life time. Go and check internet since he started his lamentations.


2. How does school that crumble single handedly caused by his wife? Was Emeka traveled to moon, throughout when the school is going down for him not to come in and take charge of his sweat that destroying?

3. I doubt if prejudice allowed you to read what son said......Son said, he has pleaded with his father not to go to media again and allow peace to reign.....yet Baba go to TV to condernm his family again & again. What else you want the child to do again?

If u are in that guy shoe and still choose to be neutral or supporting ur dad, u re nothing but foolish man. You are a son who doesn't really loves his family to be in peace.

4. Even at that, who told you, it's the mother who instructed the grown up son to go public? Were you there wen her mother telling him to go public against his dad?

Oga, stop being prejudice and for emotions overwhelming you on the basis of gender, religion or races.

The 3 are extremely important if you want a successful Marriage. Thou, finance is number 1 on the list.

If u remove anyone of it.........just have it in mind that ur woman may slide and starts believing in another man as a better option.


Woman too behave like kid...... always want things to be at high gear through out relationship.

KwuoteYourFada:
No it indicates
SW are educated and unemployed

Only about 15% of northerners uses internet

Unemployed yet they are spending money on internet.


I guess u re the one given them free internet services.

dre11:
https://punchng.com/lady-stabs-boyfriend-to-death-in-rivers/

You left ur wife and kids at home ( perhaps (loneleness and hungry) and start fighting over a lady who is not ur wife outside, maybe because of her infidelity.


I always see married man who thinks a single lady who knows her marital status would be faithful with him as most stupid sheep among men

Soleimani a superior & sophisticated general than him was roasted few years ago, u ranted more than this, at the end nothing happened.

Raisi is wailing as if , .....if his own head is cut off by Isreal/us heaven will fall.

lanre316:
If you know the meaning of ronu, you will know that using that word to insult the Yoruba is totally useless and senseless. It simply means "Think". Imagine shouting "think" everywhere, thinking you're insulting Yorubas. It makes you guys look so ridiculous, honestly.

I guess you know the meaning of urchin.

These guys are online urchins, you need not replying them in other not to dignify them.

As you are replying them, they would masturbate and be honoured and waiting for next available post to say trash again.
The urchins are perpetual in sorrowful minds because of a tribe that too much superior to their tribe and making them irrelevant in the committee of nation.

Rubbiish:
Let the woman go out publicly to also condemn the man! No one is against that. They can always sort it out. Bringing the boy into it have ripple effect and spiritual side to it. You can't bypass spiritual principle. A child insulting his father in public is a curse. Do u think this is the best way to introduce such a young boy to public? The boy still have a long way to go in life

were you thr wen the boy mother instructed him to go public against his father?

Hope you see the son's picture to know his age.

You just assumed it was his mother that forced him to go to media.

Go and read what the guy said about trying to make peace in the family and yet coconut head dad still going to media again and again against his own immediate family.

The way you guy bias towards women would not make Marriage has peace.

seetomorrow:
You are the biggest fool I have seen here. Who are you to this couple? Can't you be reasonable enough to place your comments than ranting nonsense. In fact how old are you? Which I am not sure you know what is called marriage not to talk of divorce. You sounded so childish and immature here.
If you don't know exactly what to say, shut the f.ck up about divorce.

The day you stop being prejudice base on ur emotions and gender, is the day you stop leaving in embittered world.

NB. I'm not only married for several years, I have taught and counselled several people of your age and older than you about Marriage.


If you are not a stupid and evil father, you would consider the future of ur kids before going to media about your immediate family.

rollywise:
You must really be an idiot o. No man is perfect but even in her own interview, she opened up her own faults. The two occasions are mentioned he beat her, it was because of the children's health, that means he never joked with the well being of the children. She even admitted she called him a jerk and walked outta him to go sit in the car in the presence of everyone in the hospital where they took their sick child to and then he came to d car to hit her. She also claimed she met him at 18 and he became very controlling which she grew to realize in her twenties then decided to start fighting back in her late twenties and she also admitted that's when the physical abuse started. She claimed she was abused all through the 17 years of marriage yet he sent her to school and paid all her fees, even catered for her mum. She called him a monster but yet he has never come to harass you after leaving his house till date. A calculative person sees your weakness even from your defense. Be calculative in reasoning. It will help your response next time

If you are not an imbbecile you would understand my point. Give it to person that know how to read well and interpret for you, also, stop suporting base on emotions and sentiment of gender, tribe or religion.

NB. Go and read where I wrote,....if Emeka has stopped Washing his private life in public.

Every story you are saying now, Emeka has said it over and and over, what else he wants again? Now that his biological son has insulted him publicly. I biliv he would close chapter on it.

waziri4biz:
I came from a broken home so you can't know this better than me. Regardless of what I saw and could condemn my mother would never encourage me going out on my dad in public. Media trial with a divorcee using your kids as weapon is not wise either.

And you support your dad ALWAYS going publicly condernming ur mother!

If Emeka himself doesn't give recent interview, after several of such in the past wen he and ex were in court for divorce, nobody would talk about him again.

Since he is looking to be relevant in the media again and the only way he could do that is to come online to wash his private life in public in other to get empathy for his dead career, his son forced out to completely shattered a frigile situation, since the boy talked hard about his father, Emeka has applied break, I'm sure from now, he would keep his mouth shut permanently on his failed marriage.

He is not the first to go on separate way in marriage, and definitely not the last, this year alone, several celebrities went on separate ways. None washes his/her dirty linens in public except his fellow Igbo actor.


THE POST BELOW SHOWING THE IDIOT STILL BEGGING HIS EX WIFE AFTER SHE HAD LEFT AND BE WITH ANOTHER MAN TO COME BACK TO HIM IN 2015. FAST FORWARD TO 2023, MAD MAN COMES UP WITH ANOTHER STORY TO ATTRACT SYMPATHY.

If Emeka himself

Pierohandsome:
Look at how marrying a bad wife can make one lose his family.

The boy foolishly meddled into marital issues that has nothing to do with him. Who advised him to start fighting his father simply because he wants to prove love to his mother? That is foolishness

I biliv u re one of guys who used to say girls like bad guy, meanwhile,if any girl refuse to day you now, you will come to nairaland to wail like wolves as usual.

Which girl will see an unintelligent boy like you that would be proud to make him, her future husband.

"Please read what you wrote again and smell it to know how stupid is".

Carcholce:
In 2024, one thing I really want to do is to be able to completely avoid threads that has to do with man and woman relationship. I don tire to read these things. Reading posts as these is not helpful to the mind, and if you are not strong minded, it plants hates towards the opposite gender.

OP, sorry for not contributing to help your situation. Happy new year in advance. Extend my greetings to your fiancée!

You and other people that like ur comment are leaving in what psychology called *self denial* things like this are uglier in reality than what they posted here.
If you think you want to show blind eye, instead to buckle ur shoe and be vigilant for ur own relationship/marriage, I'm seeing ur own posted here one day, provided it won't messier than this .

If you are reading and learn about dirty events of relationship palavers, you may use lessons learnt to prevent/reduce Incase if such want to happen to you, but if u show blind eye, (God forbid) if it eventually happens to you, it may completely overcome if not break you down irreparable. (pls read about Emeka Ike comments now and his comments when his marriage was rossy,)

Emeka Ike said something similar to what u saying now wen his marriage was rossy, but wen marriage storm came, it broke him down and sent him back to square 1.

Today, his family is in dissaray & shattered


Meanwhile, if you want to stop reading and communicate about romance stuffs, u need not telling the whole world and make ur decision,not only personal but private.

They're fuming because they dnt know extent president can go and because they are not wise enough.

Sim case still pending in supreme court and we all know how executive influencing judiciary.

If 27 impeached Sim and Tinubu supports them, fubara is gone.


If the two camps of legislative arm claiming they are authentic and crises increasing in Rivers daily, Tinubu can declare state of emergency.

IF ANY OF THE 3 ABOVE HAPPENED FUBARA IS THE BIGGEST LOOSER.


Meanwhile, fubara still need times to lure some political foot soldiers in other to have firm control over his government before he can successful fight godfather or federal might.

Infact, he is unable to win this time because it's not yet time to start fighting godfather (he hasnt completely held "sword handle" before started fighting enemy) not even political neophyte in rivers politics .

Autobot05:
Good morning and merry Christmas

I have this distant cousin ( Mid 20’s) and we are quite close. From my perspective She kinda suffers from a mental disorder or illness rather but y’all know African parents and their mentality na. Her parents believed it’s a spiritual thing . This cousin of mine often run away from home.

The last time she ran away from home, she copied a pastor's Number from a TV advert when watching TV at home and ran to his house when her parents tracked her down to his house through his ( the pastor’s) help too. After meeting her parents He said she should stay at his place for a while so he can tackle her case specially . Her parents often send money to the pastor during those times. After a while She suddenly packed her bag and ran back to her parents house Without any explanation and the pastor kept calling her mother frequently to bring her over that he wasn’t done with the deliverance or whatever. ( the pastor is a married man btw and stays with his wife but I don’t know if they have kids )
Fast forward to last month the parents of my cousin found out she was pregnant. After multiple interrogations She finally confessed that the pastor Raped her ( while she was at his place ) and threatened to kill her if she tells anybody
She never told anyone even after she came back to her parents house until they found out she’s pregnant. The pastor isn’t aware he is still calling for them to send her back but her mother isn’t picking his calls

I’m lost because I was so close to her. she even babysat me as a toddler and even taught me Before I was old enough to go to school and we have been close since like forever … now I even stopped speaking to her because I feel so bad she opened the door for all this mess by running from home and not telling anyone at the right time .. I’m just trying to manage my emotions because I’m short tempered and can act irrationally when Angered

What can I do in this case ? What legal steps can be taken ?

All these people telling you to go to war with the pastor, I guess they will gather money to foot the bill to take care of the girl and his kid when the pastor is servicing jail term!

You see, it not every fight you declare war on, some you overlook, some reconciliation and if the 2 fail you can now go to war.

In this case, I will advise you to call pastor first and make him responsible for the girl and her child, if he agrees to do that, it will benefit the girl and family farrrrrrr more than wen pastor sent to jail. But if the pastor denying,u can go extreme with the pastor.

DID IT ALSO OCCUR TO YOU LIKE THIS, IF NOT PASTOR THAT IMPREGNATED HER, ANY OF RANDOM GUY CAN DO THAT, IN WHICH HE WON'T BE ABLE TO IDENTIFY THE PERSON (u said ur cousin normally run away from home and that she mentally/spiritually not balance)

Hope u know the implications of the 2nd scenario!

Autobot05:
Good morning and merry Christmas

I have this distant cousin ( Mid 20’s) and we are quite close. From my perspective She kinda suffers from a mental disorder or illness rather but y’all know African parents and their mentality na. Her parents believed it’s a spiritual thing . This cousin of mine often run away from home.

The last time she ran away from home, she copied a pastor's Number from a TV advert when watching TV at home and ran to his house when her parents tracked her down to his house through his ( the pastor’s) help too. After meeting her parents He said she should stay at his place for a while so he can tackle her case specially . Her parents often send money to the pastor during those times. After a while She suddenly packed her bag and ran back to her parents house Without any explanation and the pastor kept calling her mother frequently to bring her over that he wasn’t done with the deliverance or whatever. ( the pastor is a married man btw and stays with his wife but I don’t know if they have kids )
Fast forward to last month the parents of my cousin found out she was pregnant. After multiple interrogations She finally confessed that the pastor Raped her ( while she was at his place ) and threatened to kill her if she tells anybody
She never told anyone even after she came back to her parents house until they found out she’s pregnant. The pastor isn’t aware he is still calling for them to send her back but her mother isn’t picking his calls

I’m lost because I was so close to her. she even babysat me as a toddler and even taught me Before I was old enough to go to school and we have been close since like forever … now I even stopped speaking to her because I feel so bad she opened the door for all this mess by running from home and not telling anyone at the right time .. I’m just trying to manage my emotions because I’m short tempered and can act irrationally when Angered

What can I do in this case ? What legal steps can be taken ?

You said ur cousin is having mental issues and now got impregnated by pastor.

I will advise you and her parents to call pastor and let him responsible for the pregnancy, .....all these rape or whatever issues should be dropped immediately, provided pastor doesn't deny pregnancy.


NB. Did u think it's only once pastor slept with her? The two of them consented to have sex multiple times. And this is opportunity for her to have her own child, you dnt even know if her mental cum spiritual issues would still get out of hand, in which it will be extremely difficult for her to get husband let alone children.

UnfairLife7:
did he ask you guys to celebrate his birth? i only know of his death to be remembered


besides, it is written in the Bible, it is better to be in a place where they mourn than a place of jollyment

Did he ask you not to celebrate him as well?

Did bible say we shouldn't be in place of enjoyment? The marriage in canna where Jesus turned water to wine, I guess it was mournful place!

Gainman:
Are u married? B4 i explain things to u

You can join him going to every media house to explain to the world how his wife finished him, how his son joined his mother to rob him from now till both of you grow old and ur gospel reach the length and breadth of the world.


If you are one of those who condermed Tonto dikeh for going dirty always with her ex, Churchill but now reluctant to condernm Ike because you are a man.

Just know you are nothing but hypocrite

gassbee:
Who do we believe Emeka or the wife, Emeka says he never beat her, the eife says he has been violent towards her

Seeing him alone, you would see "aggressiveness' in him, he would also have issue with anger" management and above all a *talkative.

When husband nags too much, he would have problems in marriage, I think it's women that do nag and men overlook several things for peace to reign at home.

Emeka a very foolish guy, a crazy attention seeker, who "always" going dirty publicly about his family affairs.

I still don't know how many times he would go publicly about his marriage's failure for people to hear him and emphatise with him as a victim of marriage.( Anyway he is seeking public sympathy this time around, to reedeem his dead career)


I think Emeka and Edoche should be bestie and Emeka vs Tonto would be perfect match.

nairalee:
There's no rule. Everyone is a product of his or her CHOICES. Agree there are things that influence your choice but it still boils down to u.


In this life I've seen pastor children become most wayward in the society and I've seen a single girl raised by a street prostitute grow up to become a disciplined moral girl.

U need to be more exposed to see life from different angles

Yes anybody can become anything irrespective of his or her background but, THERE ARE SIMILAR PATTERN SOME PEOPLE MUST BEHAVE IF THEY BELONG TO SIMILAR SOCIETY, BACKGROUND OR ENVIRONMENT, EVEN AT THAT, NOT ALL WOULD STILL BEHAVE IN SUCH MANNER, BUT WHEN 7/10 OF RESEARCH GOING IN SIMILAR WAY, WE CATEGORIZED SUCH FINDINGS AS POSITIVE OUTCOME.

Any girl brought up by single mother usually find it difficult to be submissive to husband, and this is result of absent of father figure during her upbringing. Also, they usually toxic towards husband, this will happen if her mother is a toxic woman herself and they can also be a wife that would easily involve in extramarital affairs in their marriage, that's, if her mother is a type that changing different men carelessly.

easyfem:
What shock me must is that she said she is a new born again christian and millions of pple had died and dying due to mismanagement of our common wealth and guess what ? GOD is a GOD of mercy , he will forgive her and if care is not taken , she will make heaven .. I'm not judging anyway but as a xtian, she will ...now aw abt the pple that lost their life , family , home, business , marriage and many more due to this politician stupidity... have u seen ex cbn governor carrying bible around ? I swear is a crazy world my brother and sister ..... dont let us b fool by this useless guys called looters , take ur life serious or else , u will just die for nothing and the person that kill the country will make heaven

Meanwhile, she might be forgiven o, but she started suffering her sin even from earth here

7victor:
The issue is that if I like a woman because maybe she is attractive or intelligent or nice/kind-hearted/caring, it will only remain in the arena of "Like".

But immediately she started showing interest in me, she will become sexy in addition to her initial qualities that made me like her in the first place.

That's when I will move from Like to Love.



Also a woman who shows sexual interest in me suddenly becomes very sexy and attractive to me.

In fact a woman who says "I must sleep with the man afterall he is a man" is suddenly more attractive to me than the most beautiful woman in the world.

The actress that made that statement in the movie I once watched, till today I find her to be the most attractive actress in Nollywood just because she made that statement.


Another case is that let's say I am about to enter a room, a woman blocks my way in a playful manner, I suddenly finds her very attractive and sexy. In fact every type of teasing by women is very attractive to me.

The most surprising one is a woman who wants to have sex with me.

I tell the truth and nothing but the truth: The only women currently occupying a place in my heart and I find it difficult to forget them are the women (1) who wanted to have sex with you, (2) who told me to marry her (3) who teased me one way or another. Maybe she just appeared from nowhere and said something, cover my face or did any other things.(4) who showed interest in me.

What do you think about this?

Please no insult.

What you are passing through is nothing but pure lust and sexual fantasies. Infact some sexual perverts called fetish

So many people don't know the tiny different of love and lust, they mistaken lust to love

Only few females billv they can get rich or succeed without support from men/selling their bodies.

The super league would soon become monotonous and boring after 5-7 years of existence, wen the same set of 20 teams are playing year in year out.

Football has its funs and suspenses when teams relegated and qualified for champion league.


Just see how Chelsea gave way for Newcastle and how Arsenal came back after several years of not competing in champion league.

I think that makes it to be highly interesting and makes other teams to strive harder to qualify and play better.

Dantepet5000:
I am a 40 years old man,married with 3kids...I got married 6 years ago. In my early and mid 30s I wooed several women most of whom either turned me down or weren't ready to settle down at that time even though some where in their late 20s.
I needed them so badly back then but nothing seemed to workout. Very beautiful extremely outspoken and gallantly curved.
I am fairly financially ok but maybe they knew better what they wanted.time was not on my side and so I eventually settled with a girl I actually love and she loves me too.fast forward to 3 more years in my marriage, some of these women i either dated or wooed in the past started finding their ways back into my life knowing fully well I am married but didn't mind still getting a piece of me despite how hard I tried to fight it. The obsession of times back didn't leave my head so I tried to knakk so that I may do away with them permanently and focus better.
Most of them still look as good as they were, the only difference is time and interest.
What baffles me the most is some who dated better men than I was in the past now find me more attractive than their present men even though this has nothing to do with looks or money. They have answers to such pensive innuendo. Some even left their marriages cos of their husbands infidelity only to end up with me who is also married and this keeps me wondering why they left their husbands in the first place....
The aim of this writeup is just to pinpoint gratitude of the rejection of the past coz it has saved me from marrying women whom are either not OK with one man or loose in its entirety.
To set the record straight for those who did not read this writeup till the end, I did not sleep with any of these women as I am still faithful to my darling wife as she is to me too. It is not easy even though I know I may fall in the future as the temptation is biologically potent.
I keep asking myself this question , do men become more attractive as they age or it is something we have no control over as even girls half my age don't mind been my sugar baby. The temptation is just so much and I do not know how long am gonna be able to handle this. This may be the only sin to land one in hell and I do not want to there.

What is happening to you, is applicable to 90% of men in ur age bracket (so, don't use that to raise shoulder)

Man chances of having affairs with women increase from teenage years and pick at 40s and start decline at 50, where as, ladies start decline at 28 and by 40 ,they are already oldies, in which they would be struggling for relationships.

My advise, if you don't careful , this is a stage in life of man, in which, the chances are high to have another wife or impregnated another woman because of availability of women at that stage of his life and by extension the stage in which Marriage can be scattered.

If it's European court who doesn't have a single influence or authority over football that has power or UEFA/FIFA that controls how boy would be governed, let see if your yeye judgement would hold water.

wirinet:
If this scenario happens, that might signify the beginning of the end of democracy in Nigeria, if not Nigeria itself. That would have been a direct affront on the constitution. Tinubu would have exercise dictatorial powers outside the constitution. The courts would have been dragged further into the mess, with conficting purchased injunction up and down. The whole of the Niger delta would have been up in flames, as the Ijaws would take the matter as an insult to its tribe.
It's a pity Fubara chickened out, he was not ready to put himself at risk.

Ps. The situation is still not resolved, as I don't see Fubara implementing the 7 items on the so called peace agreement. I don't see him reinstating the resigned commissioners loyal to Wike. There is no way Fubara can work with commissioners who clearly stated they can't take orders from him.
So I expect us to be back to square one within a very short time.

Is it not same Ijaw that Tinubu pushed out of power in federal as ordinary non state actor, and in which nothing happened. Or which ijaw you are saying?

Not even when that same Tinubu now occupied all the executive power.

You guys would just be making urself happy by way of hallucinations.

TruthsFM:
Sim Fubara will never be removed in Rivers State. Rivers State is 100.% peaceful, so no form of declaring State of emergency. Tinubu will just be distracting himself more by issuing threat that will never hold any water. Governor Fubara have signed the passed budget and the government continues.

Sit down thr and be saying trash.

As I said u just grown up and following politics and governance from Jonathan's reign. Jonathan and Buhari didn't show you how powerful Nigeria's president is.




I will refer you to Obasanjo declaration of State of emergency in Ekiti state.


Bye and bye

TruthsFM:
Tinubu can’t do anything here. Buhari failed woefully when Obaseki blow up Oshimole in Edo State politics, so tell me what Tinubu government will do to stop governor Fubara from leading in his government. Tinubu government will be distracting themselves more

It's only to utter a word both sim and Wike will be removed.

Well! If you you think every president is like Jonathan and Buhari , it's say how far you ur step understand office called president of Nigeria.(perhaps you grow to maturity and start following politics and governance in Nigeria from Jonathan time)

tetula123:
Check around you will see one to do without the mom. I had to ask another one after the first one refused without the mom’s consent.
I see dna like a must, before I got married I always told myself I was going to do dna for my kids it’s not about trust. I just feel it should be a must do. I did tell my wife I would have one after she gave birth in her words na me go waste my money she no get wahala. Later told my wife I did one, her reply was it’s a lie. I no even stress the matter my own is I have done what was on my mind. It’s expensive though

You shouldn't have put the statement..... "it's expensive though"

At least you have satisfied ur curriousity.......pls don't be weary to do second till last one sir.


To me, any woman that I would have "an atom* of doubt that she may be sleeping (not even bring another kid o) she shouldn't deserve to be in same house with me.