₦airaland Forum

omooba969:
So the woman's bones would be very strong in old age ehn.

*Baba n dagbe at 70* ( 70 years papa going up and down, grounding pepper, wash dish, wash cloth with his spine not able to straight again)

70 years old woman can still effectively does that at 70.

Meanwhile, I haven't seen any female boasting, she doesn't need HUSBANDS but KIDS here , unlike several despair male urchins here.

Many of them usually die lonely and miserably. The same portion is awaiting ..... those..."I don't need wife, I only need children.

Nothing can be comparable to the wife you married young in which both of you grow old together ( if God give two of you such golden opportunity).

Some people think their bones, would be strong and agile the way they are in their teenage, for the rest of their life time.

ThatFairGuy1:
No Christian leaders or Christian bodies condemn or sympathize with the Muslim for what happened so far.

Imagine if this were to be on Christians?

The World would have heard how every Christian in Nigeria has been slaughtered by Muslims.

This is The Hypocritical World we lives in.

I don't blame you because country hard, nobody knows if u have even sold ur TV not to talk of subscribed to ur decoder to enable you watch Channel, AIT, Arise tv alikes.

If not you would have watched different Christian personalities condernming the actions.

Gjrich:
https://www.lindaikejisblog.com/2023/12/we-have-a-muslim-president-and-vice-president-but-they-are-killing-muslims-former-nhis-boss-prof-usman-yusuf-laments-about-the-erroneous-kaduna-bombing-incident.html

Meanwhile, some gaulible religion bigots would think the cow is fighting for them and they would ready to machete anyone because of him, not knowing madman is fighting for his pocket.

Fahvvy:
Money and chores isn't a gender based thingy, but pregnancy is ...

So putting them in the same context comparatively, is the du.mbest thing ever in the history of dum.b ...

I guess cooking is gender base as well... Sitting down inside parlour and expecting ur slave to cook for you. If they ask you, you wail for them that because u carry anaconda.

I refused to be backward, I refuse to turn my headship to followers just because of my financial responsibility that I'm supposed to carry.

Fatherly roles, all the problems of my household are also my problems, together with my own personal problems.

Meanwhile, anybody that usually says what woman bring to the table are crazy.

Cooking, washing, carry pregnancy and taking care of kids are very tough assignments to carry out for family to succeed.

Caseless:
Yahaya Bello's hungry lawyers you meant to say? Some lawyers are the main conveyor belt of corruptof in the judiciary; it's through them the judges get bribed.

A winner declared on the 12th of November, and petition submitted on the 2nd of December, tell me how that's not within the stipulated 21 days.

These dogs submitting petitions didn't see reasons to submit petitions for the contradictory judgments emanating from the court in recent times, but here they're working for a thief that's not paying salary.

This one Yahaya is deploying every method to scuttle this court process, it tells you what really happened - he did over-rig it.

You said u won through legal means, why going to court making you jittery again?

djon78:
And where it is only one partner that will guide the union jealously then what happens?


Most times people talk things based on just what they think not what they have experienced

Like the guy you quoted stated
A woman can hide her real personality, till she enters marriage

That's what many Men go through

Although from personal findings
Rugged Men are less likely to see this
Because if woman dey craze a rugged Man dey craze pass am

So she better behave herself or she go collect well well

Bold my comment where I wrote a partner should guide the marriage jealously. (Tell people around you to explain the meaning of the *two actors" I wrote in my post)


Perhaps u are a graduate,if you are, how u passed out surprise me.


I won't be surprised if u re having issues in ur relationship, ..........gragra and coconut head would surely bring toxic into relationship

Silentgroper:
street girl.. you must be joking..

Girl is as classy as fvck .. what you talking about ...


Nah, you clearly don't kniw what you're talking about...

Ok sir ,she is a church girl oooo. Tell him to keep following church girl sir. And if depressed, he is not the first man to go depression, neither would he be the last.


It is only a fool that would be closely related with another person for months/years and won't know substantial part of her/his characters

Silentgroper:
Who says female commit these days.. they just pretend until they're tired of pretending and boom, they disappear.. na you go come they nurse a broken heart ...


Naso my cousin enter toilet locked himself up there and was crying after one girl show am shege .. Since then, guyman no dey do commitment oo .. my guy just dey pack dem upandan until it feels right with one of them...

Tell ur cousin to stop going for street girl, and don't forget to tell him as well to behave like good boy too.

Tell him I tell you, it takes two to tango.

FreeBiafra2018:
Really?? This is only where we're recognized as Nigerians abi?

Well, the only thing I was interested to find out is wether he has any of the industries located in Lagos, but thank God there's non and would NEVER be, otherwise by now his industry would have been amongst Sanwo Olu and Tinubu's list of Igbo properties to be destroyed in Lagos.

Enemies of progress that have attracted courses on themselves and their innocent generations ahead because of their uncalled for hatred on those they're surviving on.

You should also be prepared for Igbo alone to buy his products.

NB. If his business want to be destroyed, it doesn't stop a Yoruba president to destroy it wherever his company located in Nigeria.

Stop thinking like a fool.


Yesterday, one of you complained the moderator posting anti-igbo, today that they post pro-igbo. You still bombarded the post with venom.

Nigeria govt need to bring out a policy to partner with innoson , it would not boost our economy, it would also reduces volume of dollars taking out of economy.

How I wish it's Obasanjo that is in government.

reddingtonblack:
if you can't see OP is not a sexist rather what he is suffering from is psychological problem then your likes don't deserve his commitment.

Earth is filled with so many natural disaster, you don't see humans evacuating to pluto, instead over the years Men have evolve and learn how to survive natural disaster. think

When you are a sexist, you are suffering from psychological problems. It's natural phenomenon for a man to like woman, but when you are now hating women for no tangible reasons, you are going abnormal.

There is correlation between sexism and psychological.

OvertheTop:
The Truth is You can Only know the Outcome of the Bolded After you are already Married and TOO Late.
Marriage is Simply a GAMBLE!
if Might Make U or SCATTER YOU

just Braze up for whatever comes

Yes but on many occasions you can also know at least, 75% what might come out, if you don't go by way *physical body* but the quality the partners possess that can make the Marriage work. Meanwhile, having got the prerequisites, the two actors still need to guide the Marriage jealously if they want it to succeed.

......and what did I mean by guiding it jealously?

The two of you should endeavour to refrain from what you know can hurt ur partner toooo deep, not that one alone,you should also learn how to reach compromise.( I reject some and accept some of my partner's characters)

Slurity:
I UNDERSTAND YOUR FEAR AND REASONS BEHIND IT, IN FACT I RECENTLY PITY GUYS GOING INTO MARRIAGE INSTEAD OF HAPPY FOR THEM, I HAVE BEEN INTO MARRIAGE FOR OVER 8 YEARS NOW AND I CAN TELL YOU FOR FREE THAT I SOMETIMES WISH I DONT MAKE THAT DECISION YET BUT COME TO THINK OF IT, GREATER UNHAPINESS AWAITS IN FUTURE IF YOU DONT MAKE UP YOUR MIND NOW, MARRIAGE MAY BE A DIFFICULT THING BUT BELIEVE ME, YOU WILL VALUE IT MORE AS YOU GET OLDER. BE STRONG AND COMMIT.

For me I have been in marriage for 9 years, I have never regretted for a second, offcourse, things are not rossy, but not because of Marriage but economy situation of country.

I have said and will keep on saying it, over and over and over.

IF THE TWO COUPLES NOT ONLY LOVE THEMSELVES BUT READY TO PLAY THE GAME OF MARRIAGE ACCORDING TO ITS RULES, TWO OF YOU WOULD BE FEELING LIKE KING AND QUEEN IN UR MARRIAGE.

my ADVICE., you and ur woman should make amendments, u will surely enjoy it, meanwhile, don't mistake economy or spiritual problems for "Marriage toxicity"

They are different kettle of fish.

Silentgroper:
We both have the same commitment issues.. but I enjoy mine cause i know how to Keep girls without giving my heart to them ...


It's very enjoyable if you do it like i do it ...


Shiit loads of advantages if you ask me ...

U re keeping GIRLS , yet u expect commitment from any of those Girls, it's only a mad girl would give u her heart, wen she herself see numerous girls. Not until you guys start playing relationship game according to its rule.


If they ask u, u will wail, Marriage not for everybody.

MikeofKd:
Good day Nlanders, pls I need the wisest counsels of wise Nlanders. I have a problem which is lack of commitment to women, ive been this way since I left uni, and pls know that this isnt due to masturbation or any sorts, cause I havent done that thing since my teenage years.

I meet a woman today , we vibe, connect and all but i'm just damn too scared to commit any woman no matter how good she is. I'm scared that if I continue this way I may likely find it really difficult to get married.

Seeing and experiencing different complains of men in real life and on the forum as made my commitment issues with women only worse. I'm currently working, fair pay, got my own place, I'm doing quite well for myself. Ive met different women this year that were good women, but I fear if I give my heart to them they may switch up, women are too complicated naturally to cope with.

This fear of commitment is seriously holding me back from getting a serious relationship. My only fear is if I continue this way I may not get married. I need the counsels of wise nairalanders to advice me on what to do concerning this commitment issues cause it quite depressing no lies.

I form hard guy, but deep down I really be craving for a romantic relationship, I'm just too scared to give any woman my heart cause ive been hurt in past relationships . So hurt that even when I had a good woman I couldnt see it and I lost her.

Your Wise advice and counsels would be deeply appreciated thanks.

because people complaining you now lack commitment? I fear who no fear u.
When u want to do JAMB, did u jettison idea of register because they complained of mass failure?


Let me tell u sweet truth, as at today, couples that are enjoying their Marriages are still more than those complaining, the difference is that those complaining, their lamentations are louder than others.

If I'm enjoying my Marriage, did u expect me to come on air to announce it? Only a mad do that on social media.

Meanwhile, even those that are lamenting, have you endeavour to ask them if the two play their games according to dictate of the rule of marriage?

If they fail must you fail too? Indeed you worse than infidels, and if they call mentor, I don't think ur type would be answered.

U ask urself these honest questions.

Can ur salary caters for 2 or more people?

Did u have accommodation suitables for married man?

If you marry now, will you be able to improve urself going forward?

If you cannot give urself 3/3 in the questions above. You are writing application not only for poverty but also for depression and finally single fatherhood.

Two years to come, you won't blame yourself but attacking Marriage institution.

Instead of hunting for girls and guys, it's the prime time to face future, future in naija is highly unpredictable and time do flyyyyyy too fast . You would just wake up and see urself @40.

At teen age, you must hold on to at least 1 of 3 underlisted.

1.You focus on your study squarely.
2.If u re not good in area of education, go and learn work.
3. Or you start a tangible trade if you have financial back up.

(Teenage girls at that age should totally eraze it from memories that ,one husband would be ur financial security in future)

MANY OF DESTINIES USUALLY DESTROYED AND TAMPERING WITH AT TEENAGE YEARS ,and on many occasions, one cannot rewind the clock.

Better. If Courts are doing this, perhaps lawyers would stop jam-packing Courts with loads of cases.

Just like Roberts clerk said,.....if I'm Atiku's lawyer,I won't advice him to go to supreme court, because it's obvious he would fail. Trust my naija hungry lawyers, they advised him to file the case just for them to collect their own share of loots.

Obolor123454:
NB, I OPENED THIS ACCOUNT FOR THIS

Hello my friends, I need you different view and please I need your in put about my wife.
We live in the states. she is in kenya for a three weeks visit with the 2 kids. She has been in kenya for about 10 days, three days ago, she called me and said she will be attending her friend's marriage ceremonial, which is taking place 600km away she did not say if the person is a male or female ( I did not ask because I was just kind of not wanting to be drawn into the discussion), she said she may not be able to come back same day, because event is starting late that she will like my brother to come with her, because she does not want to go alone. This is the first time I am hearing about this occassion, she never mentioned it before and I do not know the friend she is talking about. (or at least I am sure, because I do not really know most of friends, and she is not the friend keeping type)
I just told her that I am not ready for the discussion yet.
Please guys what are your take, I do not feel like telling her to go ( well, she may still go without my consent )
Please it may sound stupid, I just need your genuine advice

If you are a husband and you can't stop ur wife not to attend ANY kind of party( not interview, hospital, schooling,office/business, but party) you are horseband and not husband oo.

Obi and LP not different from other Naija politicians and political parties.

People only hide under him to make Igbo presidency by portraying him as Saint.


We have LP as rep, senator and governor, what are they doing differently now from other crooks in government.

greypencils:
Baba na you wan remarry. The norm will be for men to keep remarrying, women can do whatever they want. But the ego in men, the pride in men will never allow them to stay under the same roof with a cheating woman. Sebi the feminist agenda is to model woke countries na? Even in woke countries the men don't stay with women who cheat. They opt out of the marriage. Instead of remarrying you keep women friends and as much as possible try to stay in the lives of your children. When they are of age, tell them the truth about what happened. No be their mama cheat? As long they recognise their father, you are good to go. If it is about konji, there are several ways to satisfy konji without getting married please.

U are only thinking at present and not deep into future,.....the way u re now , it won't be like that wen u clock 60 going to 70. (A 60 years that remarried like 3 times, and seeing the same errors from his woman, won't he accepts his faith)

You asked urself bitter question, HOW MANY GIRLFRIEND FAITHFUL TO BOYFRIEND NOW, IS IT HOW IT WAS IN THE PAST?

HOW MANY HUSBAND MARRIED VIRGIN NOW?HOPE THEY TOLD YOU HOW THEY TREATED MAIDEN THAT LOST HER VIRGINITY BEFORE MARRIAGE IN THE PAST?


If u don't agree with me u re free to leave in self deceit. Even now, some husbands know infidelity on part of their wife yet overlooked it. Funke Akindele ex knew about her wife infidelity yet overlooked it. It was Funke that pushed him out wen she tired of him .

I see u reason to the level of ur intelligent perhaps, self-deception.

Bye.

greypencils:
No man with 'preek' will live under the same roof with a cheating wife. 10-20 years what you would see are viral cases of divorce. I doubt if women will slow down extra marital affairs but marriages will keep on crumbling. I repeat it. NO MAN WITH 'PREEK' WILL HARBOUR A CHEATING WIFE.

Having married and remarried for up to 4times and same things reocurring, I guess u would grow old leaving alone.


Oga, think deeply into the future, the way woman sees it that almost impossible to see man who won't cheat and accepted it as norm.

Still imagine what what marriage would turn to in next 10-20 years.

I'm seeing a scenario in which husbands would have knowledge that their wives are having affairs outside marriage and showing little or no hard feelings towards it, just the way it has become norm for husbands having side chicks now.


By then, 8/10 of wives would be involving in extramarital affairs, which would make it norm in the society.

Tmb78:
We always Major in Minor and Minor in Major in this Naija.

What if the police officer volunteered to help her with the earring?
Some people get time sha!😂

Even though its nothing, but it would be more honourable If she does that off camera and if she is social media crazy type, she should do it without uniform.(that's what we call professionalism. How will you feel if you see CJN in front of APC secretariat? Or Kumuyi taking pic with masquerade?)


The message she passes thr, is more than what u think.......... every action or inaction can pass different messages.


Just imagine a police officer drink dear on social media,......I biliv u know beer is legal in Nigeria and he own his body to consume what pleases him, but to the public he is not displine officer.

Cloggym:
So I shouldn’t confront her ?

I'm very sure you know the answer she would give you already, If u confront her.


If u confront her now, she would not only denying it but also put up a defense against future occurrences.

Before u know, you would be leaving in a world of female's manipulations.

Not until we see Nigeria project as _personal project, it would continue dancing backward

teepain:
How do you assume that the girl knew his evil intention? Is it all young men that have evil intentions. Several years back I was a 19 year old boy like him and I didn't have evil intentions towards people's daughters. If I asked a lady out and she said know at any point in time, I simply walked away since I believed in my own self-worth.

Wen you have grown up daughter, tell her to be jumping into one boy bed room to another, tell her to leave ur house and relocate to stay with teenage boy permanently in hotel room, after all, just like her father, she won't know if the boy has evil intention.

Since his father must read it in capital letters on forehead, before he can believe you have evil intention towards him.

teepain:
Sorry, do you mean to say that every time a girl follows a man into the room it must result in sex? A girl can follow you to a room and when you make a pass at her and she says know you must respect her wishes. It is thinking like yours that has landed many Nigerians in jail abroad.

Wen u already knows his evil intention, why can't you avoid going inside with him, wen u know the chance to escape is minimal inside?

You people should think rationally, prevention is farrrrr better than cure.

19 years teen bold enough to take girl to hotel? A girl of 17 has started following man to hotel.

The gap now and few years back is wider than imagination.


A teen that his body is supposed to still be "chasis", would drink all sorts of illegal substances just to feel like conqueror.

seborrhic:
Whenever I see replies like this,I always ask:if the average Nigerian,including highly certified ones can believe that a man can steal another's manhood by mere touch or reciting an incantation,then believing tales like this to them is like believing the sun will rise the next day.

Let me tell you what happened to me few years back, I was working and based in different town from where my then fiancee ( now my wife stayed) so, Whenever my then fiancee visited me,she used to play with one lady in our neighbour. The lady normally finds way to indirectly hit me in present of my girl then, she would say ,she didn't know what this beautiful girl, doing with me. She won't throw jabs at me directly o, but trying to dissuade my girl to leave me.

Meanwhile, Whenever my girl traveled back then, the lady in question would come to my flat and went directly to my kitchen, came back to sitting room and doing all manner of cunning stuffs in other for me to ask her out. By God grace, all her tricks not successful.

After like 4 years into my marriage, my wife now narrated how the lady used to indirectly attack me in her present, this also made me to open up and told her everything she did for me, trying to have having affair with me, (the lady latter ended up with a man of 3 wives making 4th wife).


Oga, what's different between this story and my own? Except I didn't go for her.

Bro ,the more you look the less you see. Several things are happening in ur present with ur eyes fully opened in which you don't see them ooo.