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Magnoliaa I'm really glad Greta Thunberg finished Andrew Tate with that tweet. That guy's just an ediot.

One Aboki been give me this new N200 naira note,I reject am. The currency just get as e be for my eye.

AmazonTopaz:
It's Madam Yeni's marriage that lasted two years. Morayo is still married.
I agree with you and thanks for your input.
You mentioned those two narcissist Trump and Musk let me not even talk because I dislike them both and you are right about their background.

My apologies. I've edited the name now.

I know right!!!!! Those two men are something else entirely.
I know say you nor like them.


You're welcome Mami.

AmazonTopaz:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=O8MTuN4q8JE

Good morning Magnolia and folake4u this is an interesting video I would love for you to please watch when you are less busy.

Hello Topaz! My apologies for the late reply.

My humble opinion:

A long lasting marriage does not necessarily mean a happy home.

Take for instance, the useless and jobless redpill cretins that usually chant "My mother has been married for 40years and she endured throughout... Nigerian girls(including their sisters and nieces) are useless" etc. They know the truth deep down in their hearts but too embarrassed to admit that their mothers were married for 40 years living in toil and agony. If really their mothers' long lasting marriage equated a happy home, why then are they bitter? Why do they not respect women?
A happy home begets happy children. Right? No?

Personally, I do not rate marriages based on longevity, it also doesn't necessarily represent its success because some of them experienced abuse in all forms, emotional torture and infidelity.
I rate marriages by how HAPPY both parties are. So yeah HAPPY MARRIAGES over LONGEVITY MARRIAGES.

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One important point from that video is "Do you treat your spouse the way you want someone to treat your children?"

It is something to ponder on.


Another interesting question asked is "Does a woman's success( through her children being successful or graduates) outweigh the suffering of 40 years marriage?"

Personally, my answer is "What if you don't live to enjoy the fruits of your labour?"
One cannot really determine these things.

This late "Ekueme" crooner that was abused by her husband still remains fresh in my memory. Despite her staying back in the marriage (due to her own reasons) whatsoever, probably she thought she'd just "endure" just because of the kids and enjoy the fruits of her endurance, it led to her death.
And there are so many sad tales out there.
But oh well, one man's meat is another's poison.

In this part of our continent, Nigerians judge from the outside and conclude a perfect marriage from IG pictures and the likes, I think we should learn to value and normalize healthy marriages. The reward for Marriage is not for who suffer pass please. Gosh!

If I ever get married, that part where they exchange their vows and say "For richer, for poorer" , best believe when it's my turn I'm saying "For richer, for richer". Biko nu.

And also,children usually pick up on abuse even if and when their parents try to hide it. You can't hide abuse from children, it is not possible. That's why they pick up all those negative energy from their parents such as narcissistic tendencies. More reason we have so many toxic and dysfunctional people in the society today. Check the likes of Elon Musk and Donald Trump. Narcissistic attitudes. Check their background.

It is better to be open with children and tell them the realities of marriage so they do not make the same mistake their parents made. This is based on the fact that most of our old folks have long lasting TERRIBLE marriages and these children are traumatized from how they were raised.

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I like the fact that Yeni was honest about her marriage lasting for only 2 years, did co-parenting and raised a healthy child.
Co-parenting is a really nice idea if both parties calm down and there's maturity on both ends. It should be normalized in Nigeria in the interest of the children.

My humble opinion again.

I come in peace.

Agba baller!

kude:
More like it caught on fire according to rumours.

How? I never heard anything like that.

If really it was, it'd have been reported in the news.

I've seen Nigerian elephants before and even ridden on them at Ogba Zoo, Benin City and Okomu Reserve when the place was still functional many years ago.

Elephants have a really tough skin.

Anytime I see Op, I'm always reminded of Femi Kuti.

Farfalla:
They deserve it anyway.
Very annoying elements.

Sis!!! You know.

They're very annoying, all those beggarly elements.

Farfalla:
When did you join the savage gang Folake?

Lol. I've always been that way, but no time to indulge them because time is important to me.

limcar:
mrs fairly used is talking

Your sisters inclusive.

kude:
Heard the train was a no show yesterday 22nd December and today 23rd in Ujewu, Delta State.

Oh wow. Probably holiday.

Ayebatonye:
Good afternoon. I have read the thread.

I will like to travel next month to Lagos, from Abuja. How do I go about it?

Thank you very much

Hi there. It is not possible from Abuja to Lagos.

There's no route for that.

pyyxxaro:
Old Layer

Old layer wey dey sweet? Dey play!

Keep playing.

AmazonTopaz:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=O8MTuN4q8JE

Good morning Magnolia and folake4u this is an interesting video I would love for you to please watch when you are less busy.

Good morning Topaz.

I will watch it later then. Thank you.