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drnoel:
Really if that is so then would u call asians yellow like some of my european friends do? Or what would u call mulattoes? Skin colour alone is not enough but derogatory.

How am I supposed to know someone's heritage? I only know what I see.

I can't assume heritage based on skin colour or appearance.

A white person may be samoan, aboriginal australian or native american. A black person could be the same nationalities.

So the least racist and most accurate way to describe a person is by the colour of their skin. Black, yellow, white, olive.

I do not use the term mulatto. Mulatto is a derogatory term meaning half-caste.

ThundrCork:
Alpha males are easily drawn by the intelligence of a woman. it only becomes a problem when display of critical thinking isn't done with humility

I think that's a problem for both genders.

I think this question is silly.

You are a man. You have the gear. You identify as a man.

You can't be more or less of a man. Just like you can't be a little bit pregnant.

Either you are or you aren't a man.

drnoel:
Its a racist term.

Skin colour is the least racist and most accurate ways of describing appearance.

ThundrCork:
I have followed your post. not literally though. i noticed something different from your way of reasoning compared to other female post i read in this forum. you are not from around here obviously.

I can think critically. I'm not afraid of showing it, because I don't suffer from the fear that men won't like me.

timioladipupo:
Make her submit to you
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You should be steady with
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Yes, that's what equality of opportunity is. And why shouldn't that happen?

Reasons thusly - a lot of men feel emasculated by this behaviour from women. Like "less of a man". Which is trash.

Feminism helps men to pay only their half of the date, be asked out by women and get doors opened for them. I always pay my half. I have asked men out in the past. I have literally opened a door for a man (I actually open doors for all people, it's called being considerate).

Men on here complain about female "aggression", but then complain about having to "pay for everything".

You can't have it both ways. You can accept feminism or you can accept having someone being completely dependent on you for their life.

I have no interest in submission. I have an interest in being an equal partner. Which means we both pull our weight and benefit equally.

Owliver:
Lolz you can't get that. uneven though I wish you to get that but it's just not possible. why don't you just stop worrying about the world.

Impossible according to you.

And I won't simply stop caring because I do care. And it's my duty to make the world a better place. For anyone's children, least not mine should I occasion to have any.

I don't want my potential daughters having to face the same frustrating unfair prejudices I do. Just like some people didn't want their daughter's genitals mutilated, so that is now being eradicated.

Checked86:
Dear, I am the OP and have followed your comments from page 1. Women influence men a lot. Both with words and appearances. That is why how women dress matters. They are very influential. The recent increase of 'fap farmers' are due to how women dress. How you dress as a woman may not affect you but it can affect another woman. Yes, another woman. It causes rape(I know you would say, 'perverts') but it is true. The sight of cleavage turns an average man on. Some may deny it but it is true. Any man that sees an open breasts gets preoccupied with sexual thought and may result to rape. You may not be at the receiving end but what of the defenceless teen girls? Why do I complain about women baring the breasts? I complain because it affects me. It affects our collective value as human beings. It affects women. These day men don't love again not because women are not loyal but because men see women as sexual objects that have no feelings. When a woman tells a man how she loves him, he thinks that may be she is dying for his sexual dexterity. We degrade ourselves.

Yawn.

Rape is cause by rapists.

The only way to stop objectifying women is to stop treating them as objects. Like telling them how to dress, how to behave, how to do anything.

Women have minds. They are just like men, with different Instruments.

slimthugchimee:
its about the too much fake female accts ww are seeing this days on nairaland...check maxi112 biafrabushboy stfuareyougod.

Okay then...

Drabeey:
same reason why divorce is rampant nowadays and seldomly then

Maybe because women were property, not partners.

This advice just feeds into a patriarchal worldview. It's well intended but very silly.

udemejacob:
Girls will u let a guy kiss u on d first date?

I expect it.

slimthugchimee:
we are just the nairaland sexchange crew.....am actually male

Sexchange crew? What's that in aid of?

drnoel:
White ?? I wonder why that term.is still being used? U probably mean Caucasian.

My skin is white. Accepted term like black.

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Why bother?
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I'd rather be alone than settle with man who finds these things most important.

saintdennis:
Whites on NL... ah ya ya.

Problem with white people?

samblack:
keep wondering please

Rhetorical question.

Owliver:
in a society you don't care about what you want alone but also what others want. that's why it's called society. if you decide to care about yourself alone then the jungle is the best place to live.

same way a serial killer doesn't care about others but his urge for blood. emotional torture and physical torture are almost same if not even same. you can't rule out one.

you can't twerk on my deek and expect me to control myself damn that would be emotional torture for Christ sake.

in conclusion. concept pf society defies individualistic way of life just like you are proposing. understanding is what matters. and I never said women aren't humans.

"Twerking on your deek" happens in a strip club where men manage to control themselves daily.

What you wear is an entirely different proposition.

If you are suggesting a society in which people carr about and respect one another, then this applies to men also. Caring about and respecting women as well as other men.

I am fighting a patriarchal society, not society in general. Society is made from men AND women. Patriatchal society puts pressure on women to adapt to men, makes women responsible for men's bad behaviour, hampers their careers etc. It makes things generally difficult for women.

I care what I want and I care what other women want. As a man, your needs and wants are largely taken care of so you see no problem. Women's are not.

You have male privilege and it's about time you recognised it. Women are half the population of the world and deserve to live a life as easy or as hard as a man does. They deserve to define their own destiny free of stupid judgements based on gender stereotypes alone.

Interestingly, freeing the world of negative stereotypes of women also frees men from equally harmful gender stereotypes.

saintdennis:
Seems u confusing me with these ignorant NL boys sha...I knew errtin bout S&M way b4 ur cherry got popped.

I also used to have alotta hustlers(even gay hustlers) back in my skul days as friends ... if na naija u dey then u lying about dominatrixes .
Most men as masochists, u jes dey famz dey form say u get girls wey don perform Dominatrix roles.

Continue...

I'm white. And I don't care about your sexual history, thanks.

Owliver:
unfortunately the 4billion men on planet earth can't, won't and will never reason like this. so what do you do? choke it down their throats?

you solely have the responsibility to protect yourself, not the cops, not the marines but you.

BTW, you wana take this personal? is this how you welcome friends you miss? Lolz

Well, yes. The 4billion women on the planet are humans too. Women have every right to shove stuff down men's throats, just as men have been doing to them through time immemorial.

There is no excuse for this patriarchal bulldust in an evolved society. People are people are people. Everyone deserves autonomy and respect and equal opportunity.

I am a human and I deserve respect. I don't care what men happen to think of me. I care what I want, and what I want matters.

And yes, I take it personally. Because attitudes lile yours affect me personally on a day to day basis.

You can talk about these issues theoretically because you are in a position of privilege where these issues don't personally affect you.

marvelck:
Atimes, when you meet a girl, you tend to feel she is the best, and you always enjoy being around her all the time, cos of the way she makes herself look like an angel to you, not knowing she was very cruel to her last ex boyfriend. Girls are fond of acting sweet and nice when they start dating a guy (meet a new guy). Doing her best to look like an angel to her new guy, while concealing every trace or evidence of her cruel past and bad treatment to guys in the past.... Guys need to look well before jumping into the arms of any girl. You might be dating a dangerous damsel...who might end up putting you in distress.

Same goes for men.

Hiding their previous bad behaviour to new partners through deception and lies.

Justifying bad behaviour by saying "they were crazy". Bad partners drive people crazy, and some craziness can be explained by tolerating lies and awful relationships for too long.

halfricanadian:
Very selfish nd evil nigerian men aint worth d struggle cant even lift a pin or move an inch for nigerian men u wi always regret u did so

I know, right.

Can't manage their way out of a wet paper bag.

saintdennis:
continue...

Dominatrix is when a woman degrades, humiliates and causes physical pain to a man for his sexual satisfaction.

More often than not, this type of work requires no sexual contact, the woman is just mean to the guy and ties him up, whips him, beats him, says mean things, makes him perform humiliating acts like licking her shoes... the dude gets so turned on by this he releases without any conventional sexual stimulation.

Weird, I know. But there is enough of a demand for this that it has become a profession.

saintdennis:
Lols NL people and lies.

Dominatrix doesn't require sex so is a different type of sex work.

PushPlay:
Hmmm!
Okay, cuz you sound like you're one of them.

I support them. But I don't have the looks or youth required to perform this profession. Maybe I'd give it a go if I were younger, j st to see what it was like.

A lot of the ladies I met were younf single mothers and conventional jobs didn't allow the flexibility and money needed to support their children.

It was really interesting to listen to these women talk about their experiences but I'm not judgemental.

samblack:
Am so going to enjoy this,let me give you a clue before some of the species of the girl am about deal with start calling me a monster. I and my ex dated for two good years,although we had our down times but we were almost perfect,untill all of a sudden she called my line and say it's over with out any explanation,it hurts alot but I moved on.Now fast forward 4 months later we met at shporite,we exchange number and hanged out couple of time,now she is telling she can't move on that we should continue from where we stopped and she is so sorry,i said Yes.
This Time am so going to treat her f++k up,1st I would take my two years back from,make her fall in love badly,t reat her like a queen and just break up with without any excuse also.she go hate me pass devil when am done with her,my plan is to tie the not with my new girl immediately am done with her punishment and would make sure she get a copy of the invitation. JAH bless me,Amen.

Wow so mature. I wonder why she broke up with you?

PushPlay:
Are you a stripper?

Not personally. But a few people I know have worked in the sex industry as strippers, prostitutes and dominatrixes. It was very interesting to talk to them. Very enlightening and sometimes really funny, too

Aspergers Syndrome. Gay. Maybe just hasn't found someone with whom he truly connected. Lots of possible reasons.

Needs further investigation to determine the true cause.

IamLEGEND1:
same goes for you.
There isn't exactly a RIGHT way to kiss a woman,you have to constantly fine-tune ur methodologies to the likings of ur partner.
bt what i don't get is How this,in any way alludes to rape?
obviously,you might be a bit of a control freak as the thought of leaving urself at the mercy of ur partner,even during an act as sensual as a lip lock freaks you out.(I mean that in a nice way of coz)
I'm not buying into the whole "hispanic soap opera" vibe I'm getting off the thing myself,but I don't see anything wrong with it either.
I think the OP is going for an erotíc kind of body movement, not forceful or violent.

I don't take umbridge at restraint. You don't know anything about my sex life.

I take umbridge at the assertion that the "right" way to kiss a woman is to restrain her. Imagine that happening on the first date - having your legs forced apart and held against a wall. That screams rape.

There are lots of immature, ill-educated and inexperienced men who read this forum and they shouldn't be lead to believe this is "right".

[quote author=IamLEGEND1 post=47774482][/quote]The actions are forceful and infer restraint of the woman. Restraint isn't required. If a woman likes this, she will let you know over the course of your relationship.

Nothing wrong with us. Something wrong with you if you think this is the "right" way to kiss a woman. Different strokes for different folks.

WindUpMerchant:
being a stripper/prostitute is one of the worst kind of slavery you can think of.Not only physically but emotionally

I suppose you would know from experience?

Don't assign your prejudices.

It's not slavery because you get paid and have the choice to leave or work at another establishment.

I don't know what emotional slavery is.

AbroadBabe:
This is rape

First thing I thought as well.

But seriously - kissing properly open your damn lips. You can't kiss for more than one second with lips closed. So sick of adult men who kiss for long time with lips closed.