Regardless:
What you said makes sense but bro, women are necessary evil.

They make the world colorful in their own way. Besides, there are exceptions amongst women and even if the exceptions don't negate the overall rules, one can be lucky to meet a woman who deserves a man's all.

People like us are no longer angered by women's games instead, we've accepted it and learnt to dish it out to them in the same dose.

Men just need more awareness and wake up call, don't hate the game, learn to play it too.

The emboldened already showed the kinna person you are. I have nothing to say to you

advanceDNA:


The mistake some women make is that they over estimate their worth in a mans life..many do not realize they do not have the bargaining chips to demand for a man's submission and total faithfulness (only few can truly ask that question "what else does a man want" )

...many just believe by agreeing to date or marry you...they are doing a huge favour, and have automatically given u all u need, and so u must return the favour with all they want including faithfulness to them....

And its always funny because they don't believe they are doing anything wrong in a relationship....they always believe they have done more than enough .....

Lol.....even the so called sex they claim to be "giving u their all"... Just in a month...
Their body is in ghostmode for 1 week period
They are just not in the mood for no reason
Not in the mood just becos they want to tell u sex is not food....
Not in the mood because they are truly tired from stress...

A man will not get enough sex
He will get nagging...he will get billings
He will be expected to pay all the bills
Pay for her clothes, still buy her motor because davido bought chioma motor...
Settle in laws...and sponsor inlaws that will come and live with you.........And still demand u to not look for peace of mind and relaxation elsewhere.... They will now ask ...what do men want as if they are giving u all u need in life...

Infact you are really on point.
I had a GF one time like that. We were in the living room chilling out when a call came in thru her phone. It was her younger sister.
The sister was trying to get some funds from her but she replied that she was broke.
Next thing I heard was "Ask from uncle Francis now."
Na me be that uncle Francis o.

In my head I was like. Uncle Francis wey dey run charity NGO now.
I kuku like the girl. She know the kind person wey I be.
I'm a very kind person wey dey lavish. But I hate begging and feeling entitled.

Now imagine if I wifed that kinna lady. I'll take care of her, take care of her parents, her siblings will always flock around because them know say rabas full ground.

Idiot wey no know how I take struggle before I made my money go begin vex because say I send my parents money and I no send her own parents money.

At the end of the day, she'll turn your kids against you.

You see, any man wey go marry. Anything wey him eyes see. Make him dey manage am like that.

Mindlog:


Clarify what "to mend his kid" means.

He sends his kid into the room to get an item and the kid loiters around like a sluggard, only to return when he feels like.

The kid doesn't honour his father. That's it.

It is so disappointing this is coming from a man.
Is your father your father because he is kind towards you or is he your father because he gave you his genes?

Fathers are gods. If you called yourself a christian and have read the old testament, you should understand that being a father is just more than providing.

Whether your father provides for you or not, he is still your father.
Whether he cares for you or not, he is still your father.
You don't get to chose your father. Therefore you can't unchoose him.

Well! To each his own. All I know is, I can't have my kid hang around a boy that doesn't honour either of his parents.

A 9yo. In no time this one will start beating up his father now

Mindlog:


A father has the obligation to raise his children right and it starts with him being a positive role model to them.

So a father who smokes doesn't have the right to mend his kid if he smoked?

blackboy:
Deep!!! But can be disputed. One solution is not for all. I must give it to you though makes some sense.

This is the gospel truth. The truth is not a respecter of persons.

soulhelper481:
I am not. As a matter of fact, my son can't be rebellious. Is because I pay attention to details that I'm able to see those little things. That's to tell you that I can't raise a disrespectful child. He is a good child, he's just passing through some challenges, all these will pass.

The truth is, in life, you can't do shameful things Infront of the young one and expect them to applaud you.

Since you brought your business to our space. Lemme give you a piece of advise as an elderly man.

You see all these lil girls that are doing big talks are not married o. Some of them are divorced and bittered.
You can't learn how to be rich from a poor man.
If you wanted to succeed, you should learn from a successful person, not from failures like them who can't even get a man to buy them engagement ring.

Why do you think many mothers are still with their husbands? Basically it's because of the children.

Why do you think the man is gambling? So he can lavish? He's prolly gambling to make money for his family. The pressure is just too much on him.

He is not cheating on you and he doesn't beat you.
Knowledge can only get you far. Understanding is the key. Do you know your father in-law? Did your husband experience something like that with his own father?
Those who don't know or forget histories are doomed to repeat them.

Regardless of his fathers mistakes, a 9yo boy is really too small to start being rebellious. Chai!

Wo! Do whatever you think is best for you.

Mindlog:


You as a husband and father has the obligation to do right before your wife and children, you can intimidate them to fear you but not to love nor bond with you.

"Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger by the way you treat them. Rather, bring them up with the discipline and instruction that comes from the Lord".....Ephesians 6:4

Are you saying a father does not have the right to straighten out his kids?

A 9yo for Pete's sake.

We4all:


Why are you trying so hard to pain the woman black? As an adult, you should already be aware that there are consequences for our actions or inactions. If the kid is giving his dad a cold shoulder, it is because the father is not being a good and responsible dad. And it's the least he deserves.

From research, it has been proven that most boys tend to imitate/inherit their father's behavior because they see it as a norm. So, it is better she moves out with the boys so they don't end up like their dead beat dad.

A 9yo really?
Regular talk from a distorted hypothalamus gender.

We4all:


Go and sit down. Why must a woman cover up for her husband? If you want your kids to adore you as a father, then be a responsible dad.

Was the husband always like that? Use your head lil child.

Biglittlelois:


Always the emotional tantrums from the male gender when it comes to deadbeat dads

The son is blind and can't see the actions of his irresponsible gambling dad? The Op, God bless her soul, even tries to shield the husband by saying and painting him good to their sons but they still see through the beautiful lies

You men need to do better because the enduring wife era has come to an end, being a sperm donor doesn't automatically make you a responsible father, do right by your family and take care of them in love, very simple.

Honestly! It's really not safe for your husband.

It's very simple.

To avoid infidelity in marriage, don't marry/get married. It's that simple.
I've said it several times that we are too different to live together.

Since the advent of social media and the emergence of these bittered feminists, in association with men who walk around in female panties.

Men have been reduced to the same level with women, and it's so shocking that some men are part of such ridiculous and odoriferous movement.
I can't even imagine a full man with ibroobi and afuonu would think he is same with a woman.

A man pays your bride price, brings you into his house, feeds you and annihilate your bills. Then you think you have equal rights? Is that not madness?
Let's flip the coin. If a woman paid a man's dowry, and brings the man into her home, feeds the man and clothes him. How do you think the woman will behave towards the man?

She'll turn herself into the head of the family, with absolute authority. She begins to run her mouth like a runny tap. Resents the man and treats him like trash.

This is because women are not natural providers.

A man on the other hand pays a bride price. The bride price means the man is buying the absolute authority over his bride's sexuality.
It means you are buying this woman's womanhood. Her womb. Therefore, no other man must have access to it except you. Since you have paid for it.

Now, imagine if you've paid for a KG of meat, wrapped in a nylon to pick up later. And while you are on your way, you look ahead and you see the meat seller stealthily removing from your package to sell to another.

How will you feel? Great, awesome, or ecstatic?

You'd prolly feel betrayed, disappointed, and being taken for a fool.

What the '? I mean, the meat seller just stole from you, downplayed your common sense in the grand calculus of things. What you already paid for.

That's exactly how it feels when a woman cheats on her husband, her sexuality has been paid for, that she may keep it only for her husband. Or for which other purpose do you think men pay bride price. Are women really that worth it, if not to buy their loyalty?

If women think they have the right to cheat as men do. They should start paying groom's price too. Buy your husband's sexuality and feed him and clothe him without being resentful and disrespectful.

Now to you men(men with sense), the society creates a standard and forces everyone to live in accordance.

Those men who keep indulging women don't know that they are steadily undoing themselves, because, since we've given much liberation and a taste of power to women. Women now cheat more than men on a 3, 7 ratio. I mean, they thought, if men cheat, why can't they.

And so, you know, the ripple effect?

While you are out working your ass off to provide for your family. Your wife will sleep with a young boy who is very youthful, has stamina and by far better than you in bed.
Scream your his name while he is at it, and imagine him while she does it with you once in a month.

And you know what? She will enjoy it with him more than with you that she will start starving you of sex, and even take money from you to offset his bills.
And since you are so sex starved, you will look for a young girl, who has a boyfriend. And when boys see that married men are sleeping with their girlfriends, they will lose all morality and pay you back by sleeping with your wife the more.

If the boy got too sweet, she might even kill you and elope with the boy to spend your fortune. Meanwhile, these younger boys are really good in bed (boys wey dey smoke igbo, wey don dey watch porn since 14yo. If them handle your wife)


And the cycle keeps centrifuging.

Therefore, if you had money and you marry a wife in this 21st century. You are stupid. You can't even cheat. You married a 21st century woman. She put you out there on SM and your fellow men will persecute you. The same way you've been persecuting others.

However, if your wife no longer appealed to you , you can divorce her and place a young girl on a soft life with lots of enjoyment here and there. But divorce may get messy and she may part with your money and taunt you with your kids.

But what if you just have baby mamas? Lol! I mean baby mamas are very very understanding. You don't have to pay any stupid bride price, somebody will not whine like a horse when you sleep with another woman.
You don't have to worry whether someone is cheating or not.
You don't have to sponsor her family for anything, her younger siblings will not expect you to do shit for them.
If any of your baby mamas lost a family member, you dont have to be there for her. Just send her money.

You don't have to pretend around her family members so they can think you are cool.

If you are broke and you marry in this 21st century you are stupid. Rich men will pass your wife around like Jabulani soccer ball.

But the best way to go about this is to simply

GO YOUR OWN WAY.

Don't have anything sexual to do with women. Your life and your purpose should be your insomnia.

MONK_MODE_FOREVER

advanceDNA:


.... U women cheat all over the place too but come here to pretend....u blame men for paternity fraud, u blame men when u cheat, u even blame men for prostîtution....U are just playing victim card and fallacy...

Let's stop stressing ourselves with all this he cheated, she cheated...he hurt me, he made me depressed...No one should stop anybody from cheating...

Every body should stay their lane...let's cancel marriage since no one wants to be discipline or mayb it's just that fvcking one partner for life is not feasible.... So no one should expect Faithfulness

..face u career and make ur own money.....do ur chores alone, pay ur bills alone, build ur own house

If u want fvck ..fvck whoever u like..
..if u want kids.....get pregnant...
.if u don't want kids, face u life and enjoy it .
..no husband or wife will harass u or limit u career ur growth....

I don't always want to quote NL female again because it seems that their IQ is in ten, and not in tens.

How can I pay your bride price, bring you into my house and at the end of the day you'll tell me we have equal rights?
The bride price I paid is to privatize your sexuality. So that no man may ever sleep with you again.

Women should also start privatizing their husbands' sexuality by paying his dowry, feeding him and the kids and single handedly running the affairs of the home.

TheBillyonaire:


Does it occur to you that your present mindset as indicated in your post is the default programming of the mind of all masculine males by default?

Males are wired to mate and see mating as supremely ultimate and the funny thing is that we are ready to mate with every beautiful female whether married or unmarried, whether virgins or someone's girlfriend, whether someone's sister or auntie.

We are the reason that we accuse women of infidelity, because we are the ones fuccking them, so while you are gallivanting outwardly to fucck people's virgins, sisters, aunties, wives and daughters, etc; do not refuse to forget that other masculine males are also gallivanting inwardly to fuccks yours truly.

It is fair in war and in peace. I think the best thing to do is rise above the organic instinct of the programmers and focus on just two women. A wife and a side chic. And I do not think AY did anything wrong, I think he is a product of his God as that God wanted him to be. And I see no reason why he should cry. Now he can live the bachelor life and sow his wild oats as long as his waist can handle the wiggle.

Who gets in trouble with NAFDAC over fake products? The seller or the buyer.

The buyer may request to buy anything. It is the responsibility of the seller to either accept or decline.

Since a man always wants to have sex. It is the responsibility of women to decide who to give it to.

Blaming men for the promiscuity of women is not only the highest level of stupidity. It is imbecility in it's grand form.

soulhelper481:

Your son wouldn't disrespect you so long as you don't repeatedly do shameful things and show inresponsibly Infront of him.

Trying to justify why your son is being rebellious again.

Well, one thing is sure in life. You can choose your actions, but you can't choose your consequences. As long as you are able to deal with the consequences 20-25years later.

You are good.

MsJackson:
Check my profile for the beginning of my story. Now he is living with another woman at the moment and I don't know how to function anymore. I can no longer sleep without taking alcohol. I have developed high blood pressure. I suffer from heart palpitations now. WHERE WILL I START FROM? A 40 year old single mother

No man lets go of what is important to you. If something is serving it's purpose towards me, you will need to tie me up first before I can release it.

If your husband wasn't serving his purpose, and a richer man comes around. You would have dumped him too.

This is just one men out of 5million women who are dumping their man.

1:5Million cases.

Men need to catch up.

Ha! My fathers would say "longevity or not seeing evil. You'd have to choose one"

How many years have I lived gan that I've started seeing evil.

Teaching confidence by being naked around your kid who is now grown?

I now believe that every second at one particular place on earth, someone, somewhere is moving mad.

These people have an agenda. Don't you see they be trying to push incest and homosexuality?

Chenzee:
I know you sometimes feel like calling to check up on him/her. Why not try, especially if you still miss him/her. Swallow your pride and deflate your ego.

Remember, he/she was once your world.

Dear men, kindly disregard the above information. It's for idiots.
This is not a wise man move. If she can't contact first, do not initiate convo.
Abort mission!

Do you copy?

Savedday2:
Mugu man! After girl use your money buy these things and cook for you, then you become her SIMP.

Truly, our men are becoming senseless by the day! Who do our men this thing erh, e no go better for those village people!

E go better for village people. Na the men wey decide to move mad e no go better for.

Make I no see poverty for this life again. That thing wey dey OP picture no reach #20k o.

I go come because of #20k looseguard , Akwana?

orohbiro:
I tire mostly broke men that are asking what we bringing to the table

You too, create the table for yourself and bring man without asking what he is bringing.

As Davido take get money reach. Chioma is a professional chef on international deals.

As Kizz Daniel take get money reach. His wife is an international brand ambassador.

Na people wey no get anything them dey ask wetin them dey bring come table.

Girls wey get something to offer dey display their package for table before anybody ask them.

So I ask you again. What do you have to bring to the table?
The #1k daily you make from plaiting secondary school girls' hair?

Freshtruth:
Just be a caring and loving woman, You don't have to put your man inside bottle, he will enter by himself

You will gladly enter the bottle by yourself. As per say me I no be tifunloran, abolonjeku, For Food Only. Wey e no be say na only food I come this life come chop or say I never chop spaghetti before.

Baba if you wan enter bottle, enter alone. No drag anybody enter.

Fahvvy:
The moment I saw "My husband is the root cause of everything" I just knew that advising this one is a total waste of time ...

And besides, since your husband is the root cause of everything, I'm guessing that You're the stem cause and the branch cause ...

Madam, whatever you choose to do is your business, but if you love your children as you claim, then don't prevent a relationship between the kids and their father ...

Cause the reality is that, it takes a masculine figure to raise a male child, a woman is solely incapable of doing so (for the most part) - go do your research and see the stats of boys raised by single women ...

There's only so much you can do to raise a male child as a woman ...

From her story, it was very evident that she is indulging the boy to rebel against his father. Imagine she said "The father is the root cause"

What kind of women do we have these days for God sake?
I'm sure the husband had never always been like that. She wouldn't have married him.
There was definitely a time the husband was providing for his home.

And all the blocked head idiots who are offering her series of advice won't think before accessing their dumb ass brain to respond.

Was the husband always like that?

If yes? Why did she marry him?

If no? What happened?
When did he change?

Maybe the husband lost his job or somethin'.

Gosh! Damn! I'm so fade right now. The man has mis-married.

soulhelper481:
Inasmuch as I desire to have a peaceful home I also don't want to push more further when all my efforts seems not working.

Some times ago, I was seeking for financial help inorder to take a walk from my marriage. Although I didn't get any. I had to sell off some of my things to be able to have some money to proceed with my intention. Right now, I can afford an apartment and now, ready to proceed.
For a while now,
Some family members whom I told, came up with the suggestion to discourage me from walking away telling me that boys need their father for proper upbringing.
Aside thinking about myself, my children are my first priorities.
But another problem is, my 9yrs old son is always sad in the house, he's always excited each time he sees my efforts on us moving away. He's developing this kind of anger in the house which I don't like.

The two of them are like cat and dog in the house. (His father can send him to bring something from the room, once he goes in, it can take him a very long time to come out and with a sad expression) which most times, he will end up beating him up for behaving rudely to him.

The both aren't compatible at all.
He has accepted the fact that his Daddy don't bring anything home for him and his brother but once he's around, he takes all the little available for them, then start shouting and finding fault in him.
Most times, I try to say sweet things about his Dad so, he don't get affected , but his response is not ok. I'm surprised that this little boy, understand many things he pay more attention to most things that's happening even when I try not to let him know.

My husband is the root cause of everything. He behave badly that even his 9yrs old son can see without me explaining.

I don't want to raise children that detest their father.

At this point in my life, I'm afraid.
Walking away with my two sons and taking care of them all by myself (which I have already been doing)
Or staying back here so they can have their father in their life like this. Hoping that one day their father could stop gambling and change, start taking responsibilities and showing love and care for them. (Which they're not seeing and is annoying them)
Which of this my decision could possibly raise a healthy young men?
Pls, matured mind, advice me.

The dichotomy of the leadership at home. When the husband is no longer the head of the house, then the children choose a side.

Were you not the one who was supposed to slap his face first whenever he disobeys his father? Lol!

You may think your son is on your side and you may be happy about it. Lemme tell you something, a child who disrespect his father cannot go far in life.

It is different with a daughter, allow a father train his son. He will appreciate it later in his life.

My son dare not disobey or rebel me. When it's not as if he wants to be mad. I'd first throw him into the army correctional facility for a week.


A 9yo boy is already being rebellious towards his father and you were busy commending that he's attentive to details.
His father sends him to pick something in the room and he loiter around to return when he wishes and you as a mother didn't lock him up for a week?

A kid is already dragging supremacy with his father. Chai! Nawa o.

Lol! 21st century women are raising kids.

Mumben:
I saw a post on Facebook days back talking about experiences of people living in some neighborhood especially some estates in Abuja and everybody's I don't care attitude towards their neighbor and I thought to bring the topic here for your contributions.

A particular guys experience made me feel bad. He said he escorted his girlfriend who had come to visit him to the bus stop to board a taxi home. On getting to his compound gate, he knocked and knocked but no one came to open the gate even though he could see them through the small opening on the gate. Unfortunately for him, his phone was in his apartment and his girlfriend's family were calling him to inform him that the girl had an accident on her way home.

Las Las, he had to pass the night at a friend's place with only boxers and singlet he was putting on. On getting to his house Early the next morning, he saw a lot of mixed calls from the girls family, he called back and tried to explain but they didn't want to hear. He packed out of the compound one week later as he couldn't come to terms with the fact that his neighbours could be so mean.

Personally, I can't relate because some years ago in our former compound, I was in labour and my husband was not around, he called our landlord and he drove me in his car to the hospital. May God continue to bless him, he is such a good man


Share your experiences with I Don't Care kind of neighbours

Them go lock me outside and them no go come open gate for me after I don knock tire? Ha! Lol! I no go pack out o.

They just declared a war. I must to do my own back. I go first go buy snake wey just fresh die from all those biza boys.
I go put am for their door for night.
As them dey wake up early in morning say them wan step outside. Make them first see that one.

I go grind white chalk wey go plenty. I go put am for their door front. Them go fast and pray tire thinking person dey bewitch them.

Maa bawon finra gidi gan. Olohun

Beverlyjean:


Madam , u are being economical with the truth... I lived in uk before I got married when I was doing my masters ...I rented a room in the home of an Indian family , their father was even more controlling than the men in Nigeria , and their mother was absolutely submissive to her husband , it was even their female child that was even trying to rebel due to western ideologies cos she was raised in UK, unlike her parents . The father migrated to UK when he was in his 20s and later married his wife and brought her to UK, same applies to their relatives in the UK.... they dont even marry foreigners ... they stick to their own and their wives are very submissive to their husbands, infact I taught I was living with arabs , they are so much alike . I feel Nigerian women are allowing western ideologies ruin our marriage. No man or woman is perfect to be honest ...all men can't be bad while all women are good according to social media .... the truth is that we women will react worse compared to men, if we were the providers and we still end up getting disrespected by those we provide for , it's a natural process ... just imagine a woman living in UK, doing well , her own cars and house and then she comes to Nigeria to marry a man , brings him abroad and then he starts to disrespect her and when she reacts , she is thrown out of the house and everything now belongs to him, would u support it ? ... u can't be disrespectful towards the person that pays the bills and expect no reaction, that's slavery ... only a self entitled person will see nothing wrong with that ...

You dey mind person wey never leave Ekakpara village since birth, wey no even get international passport?
Ordinary Cotonou wey them dey smuggle people go, she never go there.

Indian women rule their home? Person wey her head dey pepper her

2braithe:

Yes, you must live by rules and principles but they should be the ones you set for yourself.
Why? Those so-called rules you're talking about were formulated by people like you, I, and some random content creators(a woman could be among or even a teenager...who knows?).

The food you are eating today were discovered by men like you and the city you live in today was founded by men like you. The technologies you use today were invented by men like you. Do you now understand my point?

2braithe:

Going by exposure and upbringing alone, those kind of males cannot be called real men. But exposure and upbringing is not the only thing that makes men. Why do we see a male that grew up among all girls becoming feminine and weak, yet, another male with similar background is masculine and a man? SELF IMPROVEMENT!

Self improvement in the aspect of learning to be a man. The dos and don'ts of a man.
A man lives a principled life, unlike plant and animals . That's why you hardly see a man go on to social media and start shaking his ass or his prick for likes and comments.
We are beings of principles and rules.

2braithe:

I should have mentioned that to become a man, one of the basic requirements is to be a male. If a female carries out self improvement, she'll be a valuable "woman". If a male carries out self improvement, he'll be a masculine and valuable "man".

A woman can learn to be a man. You can be a woman and learn to be a man.

Self-Made Man: My Year Disguised as a Man is a 2006 book by journalist Norah Vincent, recounting an 18-month experiment in which she disguised herself as a man and then integrated into traditionally male-only venues, such as a bowling league and a monastery.

I don't usually read books authored by women because most of them don't always have sense. But you can read the summary of that book up there.
The woman realized she couldn't cope with being a man as there are many rules and principles a man must uphold, lest he would be seen as a less of the pack.

2braithe:

Yes, living by principles... that you deem fit and realize is necessary during the course of your self improvement and personal development!

Oh oh! And that's why we have people like Bobrisky, Jayboogie and other non-binary idiots.
A man is a being of principles.

MrBrownJay1:


if a man ever needs financial assistance then let him ask his own family and friends BEFORE going to take a yeye loan from any thieving banks or loan app. i'd rather my family/friends came to me for financial help because if i can help then of course i will. thats what friends and family are also here for.
the reason why so many brothas fail is because they think they can figure shiit out by themselves while help is just a question away (but their misplaced ego is in the way of common sense)

This is not about ego. This is what I've tested and handled. I know what I've done for people and how I've come thru for them. But I'd rather I took loan everyday of this life than run to anybody for financial assistance.

Try BOI. They offer a great loan plan.

MrBrownJay1:

so being sad is not being emotional, abi? remember, being happy is also being emotional, being upset is also being emotional.
as a father, i cried tears of joy (like a baby) when i saw my 1st son being born; as a brother, i cried like a baby when my dear brother passed away... and there is nothing wrong with a man being emotional, this is something completely NORMAL. it doesnt make you a woman, it doesnt make you weak, it makes you HUMAN... only a very evil person would not shed a tear when his parents/sibling pass away.

Asunkungbade. Why should I cry because I'm having my first kid? Why? Haha, I don't understand o. If I were to be your elder brother and I saw you crying. I would have slapped your cheeks.

Being sad may be a result of pain or hurt, being happy may be a result of enjoyment or contentment.
Do you cry after eating a lovely meal to your satisfaction?

MrBrownJay1:

the above are not men, the above are yeye people who think that they can recreate in a wife what they have for their mother. WRONG!!!! your mother is your mother, she is unique and can NEVER BE COPIED/REPLACED by any woman; your wife is NOT your mother and will never remotely be your mother; you are highly confused if you expect your wife to be the same as your mother. your mother gave you life; your mother breastfed you; your parents raised you for +20yrs and made you the man you are today, how dare you want to compare them with a woman you just met a few months/years ago?

Then of what use is a wife?

MrBrownJay1:

BWAAAAAAAAAAH so this is what this thread is really all about... abeg, open a new thread on this exact subject and lets discuss this issue... which really is that; YOU have never met a good/intelligent woman or that YOU cant attract a good/intelligent woman

This thread is about men. Not about plants and animals. Men should begin see themselves as the perfect work of nature.

MrBrownJay1:

its called the right person FOR YOU... and that person is mostly easy to find. if you've met tons of women in your life and never met a perfect woman then the problem is YOU.

I insist that there is no such thing as the right person. Not in this 21st century. The right person you think you've seen is basically a woman that her cover is yet to be blown or is yet to receive a great deal of power.

People who are a mess today once thought they also found the right person.

Right person my foot.

MrBrownJay1:

there is nothing wrong with having an emotion but sadly, men like you automatically assume that being emotional means a man is weak. being SAD means you are emotional.. didnt you just write you were sad when your best friend passed away? although useless to you, thats how you felt and there is NOTHING WRONG WITH THAT NOR WEAK ABOUT THAT.
Btw remember, emotions can also be HAPPINESS, PRIDE, HOPE, THANKFUL, LOVE etc.

My sadness was due to pain. Pain sometimes may not be the result of emotion. If I hit my head on the wall. Will I not be sad about it?
By the way. That was many many years ago.

MrBrownJay1:

there are plenty of moments in life when a man can cry (tears of sorrow/joy) and that doesnt make a man weak... it makes a man HUMAN

It makes a man an idiot. A cry baby.
Imagine you are crying and your kids are crying too. What a family of town criers.

MrBrownJay1:

so now its ok for a man to cry (aka be emotional), so long as nobody sees him cry? again, thats your misplaced ego talking...

If you're a man and you are seeing this thread. If you liked, go dey cry around like one short mythical being wey dey carry mat and lantern around. Yoruba people dey call am egbere.

Men are kings. How does it even look when a king cry because he's emotional at the presence of his subjects?

MrBrownJay1:

as much as i am an atheist... i disagree with you on this point too. many of these religious people believe that by submitting to their holybook's teaching, they will live a better/righteous life. some people out there need the guidance that their holybook gives them. i dont need a holybook to show me right from wrong, but its obvious these religious people do. to each their own way of life, so long as it aint criminal or against our knowledge of right/wrong.

Submitting to their holy books is different from submitting to their pastors.

MrBrownJay1:

i LOVE, honor and respect my father and mother because they gave me life, raised me, instill the right value in me and made me who i am today... and as much as i love/honor/respect the mothers of my children, it certainly aint the same thing, i love/honor and respect these women for a completely different reason. i can die for my parents (even though they probably wont let me), i can NEVER give my life away for a woman i "chose" to love. even the love i have for my children is different than the love i have for my parents.

I can't die for my parents. Worse comes to worst, I can only die for my kids. There is no other human being in the picture.

MrBrownJay1:

i dont know about you, but what i have/feel for my father is the exact same thing i feel for my mother. the LOVE is the same; the HONOR is the same; the RESPECT is the same (regardless of who they are).

If my mom calls be and goes like, "My son, I'd like to see you by weekend."
If I'm gonna be busy. I'd say "I'm sorry, not this weekend but Polly next".

If my father said the same thing. I'll make sure I find a way around seeing him by weekend.

Respect and love are two different things.

MrBrownJay1:

again, its obvious your issue is not with MEN being proud about themselves, its about women (as the enemy or something).

I'm failing to understand what must have given you this impression.

MrBrownJay1:

its obvious by your above writeup that you have never met a good woman, thus why you think like the way you do... if you believe that nagging/sleeping around and wasting a man's money is only what describes all women out there (while any smart man understand that it only describe useless good for nothing liability women), then no wonder you open such a thread.
AGAIN: if you've never met a good woman, with great character, intelligent, hardworking, caring, compassionate, etc...then the problem is YOU, not women.

AGAIN: THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS A GOOD WOMAN. THE 21ST CENTURY WOMAN IS NOT A GOOD WOMAN

MrBrownJay1:

why dont you equally look at the MILLIONS of great married men out there who were happily married? or do you solely use these above handful men to judge billions of women out there? BTW quickly remove the undercover homo on your above list with entanglement issues.

You will think they have a great marriage until the husband conducts a DNA test on all his kids. By the way. Those marriages are not 21st century marriage.

MrBrownJay1:

says who? just because you see all these yeye good for nothing liability on SM posting foolish pictures and saying stupid shiit, doesnt mean that ALL WOMEN are liability good for nothing pay as you go oloshoes.

The 21st century woman is really good for nothing. Let's not lie to ourselves.
Give me just one good thing that a 21st century is good for that can't be found elsewhere. And I'll deactivate my account and never visit NL again.

MrBrownJay1:

a man shouldnt be scared of living alone, just like he shouldnt be scared to live with someone and sharing his life with someone. only a very sad person would want to be in his huge mansion sharing his life with nobody, apart from part time yeye women just there for a handout and good times, and when times are tough (OR money don finish) these women dont give a damn about you. same women that wouldnt even look at you if you didnt pay them to be around you.

And if the money doesn't finish, what happens?
Living with a woman is annoying, irritating
and nauseating. Oh my Jeez. Ew! Except she's your daughter. 20years down the line, looking at flabby arms and sagger face. You'd feel like dying.

MrBrownJay1:

if a woman doesnt desire to be with you when you are down/sad/broke, then this woman does not deserve to be in your life when you are up/good/wealthy.

Why should a woman be with me whether I'm sad/broke/happy/wealthy/or whatever state I'm in?
Men are really a lost cause. Why should a woman be there. Unless for material, financial gain and societal pressures. Women don't even want men to be there. It's only the men who are desperate for women. Women are not desperate for men.

MrBrownJay1:

so who will you spend your life with? dirty oloshoes that anybody can buy with a few Nairas?! is that the type of life you see for yourself?! do you hate women so much that you'd rather be with yeye good for nothing pay as you go oloshoes than finding a good/intelligent woman for yourself?

I guess this is where we are getting each other wrongly. My question is, why must you spend your life with a woman at all? Be it dirty hookers, Single mothers, not single mothers, unintelligent women, "intelligent" women or whatever women or anybody at all, except your relatives.
Why must there always be a woman in the picture?
The more I grow in years and cash, the more I feel the needlessness of a woman.
Is it just me, or does anybody else feel like vomiting just seeing a woman who is not a relative?

Proserpina:
Okay.... No sense at all this time

Sorry bro.

I regret engaging a fish brain gender.

Nighty Nighty daughter.

MrBrownJay1:
i fully disagree on a few points you made (as it seems is just misplaced ego speech):
- so a man in need shouldnt beg for help? if you are in need and you need to beg your family/friends/acquaintance for help, then by any means do that. these people are there to help you and so are you there for them (if needs be)

I never said men shouldn't beg for help. I said men shouldn't beg for financial assistance. It makes you become a bother and people easily look down on you. I do not request for financial assistance from people, not because i'm arrogant but because taking stuff from people when I haven't worked/ earned it makes me feel like shit.

A man should always learn to figure his own shit out, by himself.

MrBrownJay1:

- so a man cannot be emotional? just because women bring yeye emotional nonsense to argument doesnt mean a man cannot be emotional. the day you sign your 1st big contract, BE EMOTIONAL! the day you have your 1st child, BE EMOTIONAL! your kids graduate, BE EMOTIONAL! the day your kids get married BE EMOTIONAL! if/when a dear person in your life pass away, BE EMOTIONAL!

When I closed a deal that changed my life I didn't feel any special thing, I was just happy. And that was it.
I didn't attend my own primary school graduation, my secondary school VS, my UNI convocation, when I completed NYSC I didn't even make a fuss about it.
I don't wish myself on my birthdays.

When my kids graduate, it'll be a normal thing. When I lost my best friend so many years ago, I was sad. Nevertheless, I dusted myself up and went back to school the following day. I had papers to write.

These things are normal things that everyone does. Why should I feel special and emotional about them?

MrBrownJay1:

- there is nothing wrong with a man's desire to find LOVE... love is a great thing, especially with a good/intelligent woman. whats important is to make sure that he finds love with the RIGHT person, and not some yeye liability

Now the problem is, the kind of love a man wants doesn't exist. A man wants a mother in a wife, which can never happen. You can't drill your mother, but you drill your wife. That's already a big clause.

Secondly, there are no good and intelligent 21st century women.

Thirdly, there is no such thing as the right person.

MrBrownJay1:

- so because a man has goals in life, he cannot be emotional? again, there is nothing wrong with being emotional and have a life. if you want to go home after a hard day at work and cry/vent yourself to sleep so that the next day you are fit to attack your issue head on, then by all means, do so.

Emotions are weaknesses, they lead to feelings and feelings are useless. You might feel like not going to work, but you gotta go regardless of your feelings. Therefore, feelings are a waste of human precious time.

Tears don't solve anything. Therefore, why should a man cry?
Life is always unfair, and full of misfortune. Men should always have this at the back of their minds.

I agree with the fact that, at worst, if a man must cry. He should be by himself alone and never do it in front of anyone else.

MrBrownJay1:

- many men out there submit to their holybook, religion and/or their pastors. to each their own.

Men who submit to their pastors are stupid. E.O.D.

MrBrownJay1:

- any man understands that his love for his parents/siblings is different than the love he has for a wife. these are two different set of people, with two different set of love. the love a man has for his parents/sibling is natural, they can be the worst person on earth and you would still love them, while the love you have for your wife is an emotional/wise decision you took because of who that person is.

- men who rape are mentally sick criminals... just like pedos, whose urges should send them to jail for a LOOONG time. these are not human beings, these are ANIMALS!

- so a man cannot/shouldnt LOVE his father?

The language of love that a man understands is honour and respect. You can playfully tell someone you love that "you are not serious". Can you try that with your father?

- so a man cannot/shouldnt RESPECT/HONOR his mother?
Women don't understand respect. They want love and affection. You honour them with your affection.

MrBrownJay1:

- so a man cannot/shouldnt LOVE his wife?

Is a woman deserving of love? Why does she deserve to be loved?
That useless love which is a misnomer for lust will render one useless and pitiable.

MrBrownJay1:

finally, as much as we should be proud of being men, we should also understand that LIFE being alone is worthless, unless you have someone worthy to share your life with. someone to share your good times and your bad times with; someone to be able to open up and talk to with no fear of being judged etc; someone to build a life/family together with; someone to grow old with etc. if you dont find such person then cool, but if such person present itself to your life, then embrace her and welcome her into your life so you can become the BEST VERSION OF YOURSELF (only a good woman can bring that out of us men)

This is what silly men use to console themselves. How would a woman bring the best out of a man? By nagging, sleeping around, wasting his money on frivolities or how?

How did a woman bring the best out of Nikola Tesla, Isaac Newton, Leonardo or Will Smith, and many more who have fallen by the snares of women?

Again and again. The 21st century woman is not a good woman.

Why should a man be scared of living alone, who should a man wanna share his good time or bad time with anybody? Those men are like babies, they are idiots. They make me feel nauseated. Ew! I even feel like throwing up thinking about it.
Should I tell you the truth. Women even hate this kind of men who are emotionally dependent. They see them as a nuisance.

2braithe:
There's no rule to becoming a man.

There are rules to becoming a man. A man that lives without rules is nothing but an animal.

2braithe:

You can't actively start learning how to be a man.
Becoming a man is a natural continuous process that results from experience, environment, upbringing, exposure, and a host of other psycho-social indicators.

Being a male is a natural thing. Becoming a man is a result of training, long suffering, discipline and intelligence.

If being a man is a result of upbringing and exposure? Would boys who grow up amidst Trans and weak men be also classified as men?
Think.

2braithe:

In order to be in line with what will naturally shape you to become a man, just keep improving yourself.
What you encounter in a bid to improve yourself is what will shape you; and not some questionable rules that are based off myths of what a man should be.

Self improvement is not what makes you a man. AI self improves itself, the other gender improve themselves too. Does that make them a man?

Being a man is living by principles and discipline. A male is different from a man.

How do I even expect everyone to understand this?

Proserpina:
The only part of your post that 1. makes sense and I agree with.
2. If you can't deal please let her go. Nobody should be subjected to any form of abuse physical or verbal.

3. And that is why they continue to be with you and do not blink to throw you out of your homes when they get the chance to.

4. Women aren't the ones crying all over the internet don't you think they got that sorted out long ago? Lol

5. And what makes you think I'm a guy?

1. That makes sense to your level of understanding.

2. Women can also leave. They shouldn't wait until someone drops their hand. Whoever benefits the most in a relationship always doesn't wanna leave first.

3. Are you saying, men shouldn't bring their women to the US any longer?

4. Women who cause men to whimper around like a baby goat are stupid. Not like men weren't told the nature of women. They thought they were lucky and special to have found the impossible perfect woman. The joke is on the women who can't be vouched for .Bunch o' idiots.

5. You can't literally be a goddess. Only a man on a troll mission enjoying his cruise would use that kinna moniker.

Proserpina:
Sadly they are in a country where there's no excuse for domestic violence.

Perhaps men should be more innovative and creative in handling rude and mannerless partners. How about that?

I agree with you. One of the innovative and creative way is to part ways with them and never see them again, or turn them into sex objects. Just for fun, nothing more.

By the way, Nigerian girls are also in a country where they can't chase a man out of his own house for his unkind attitudes.

Perhaps women should be more innovative and creative in handling unkind partners . How about that?

Having this kinna comments coming from a man is a really serious issue.