soulhelper481:
Inasmuch as I desire to have a peaceful home I also don't want to push more further when all my efforts seems not working.

Some times ago, I was seeking for financial help inorder to take a walk from my marriage. Although I didn't get any. I had to sell off some of my things to be able to have some money to proceed with my intention. Right now, I can afford an apartment and now, ready to proceed.
For a while now,
Some family members whom I told, came up with the suggestion to discourage me from walking away telling me that boys need their father for proper upbringing.
Aside thinking about myself, my children are my first priorities.
But another problem is, my 9yrs old son is always sad in the house, he's always excited each time he sees my efforts on us moving away. He's developing this kind of anger in the house which I don't like.

The two of them are like cat and dog in the house. (His father can send him to bring something from the room, once he goes in, it can take him a very long time to come out and with a sad expression) which most times, he will end up beating him up for behaving rudely to him.

The both aren't compatible at all.
He has accepted the fact that his Daddy don't bring anything home for him and his brother but once he's around, he takes all the little available for them, then start shouting and finding fault in him.
Most times, I try to say sweet things about his Dad so, he don't get affected , but his response is not ok. I'm surprised that this little boy, understand many things he pay more attention to most things that's happening even when I try not to let him know.

My husband is the root cause of everything. He behave badly that even his 9yrs old son can see without me explaining.

I don't want to raise children that detest their father.

At this point in my life, I'm afraid.
Walking away with my two sons and taking care of them all by myself (which I have already been doing)
Or staying back here so they can have their father in their life like this. Hoping that one day their father could stop gambling and change, start taking responsibilities and showing love and care for them. (Which they're not seeing and is annoying them)
Which of this my decision could possibly raise a healthy young men?
Pls, matured mind, advice me.

The dichotomy of the leadership at home. When the husband is no longer the head of the house, then the children choose a side.

Were you not the one who was supposed to slap his face first whenever he disobeys his father? Lol!

You may think your son is on your side and you may be happy about it. Lemme tell you something, a child who disrespect his father cannot go far in life.

It is different with a daughter, allow a father train his son. He will appreciate it later in his life.

My son dare not disobey or rebel me. When it's not as if he wants to be mad. I'd first throw him into the army correctional facility for a week.


A 9yo boy is already being rebellious towards his father and you were busy commending that he's attentive to details.
His father sends him to pick something in the room and he loiter around to return when he wishes and you as a mother didn't lock him up for a week?

A kid is already dragging supremacy with his father. Chai! Nawa o.

Lol! 21st century women are raising kids.

Mumben:
I saw a post on Facebook days back talking about experiences of people living in some neighborhood especially some estates in Abuja and everybody's I don't care attitude towards their neighbor and I thought to bring the topic here for your contributions.

A particular guys experience made me feel bad. He said he escorted his girlfriend who had come to visit him to the bus stop to board a taxi home. On getting to his compound gate, he knocked and knocked but no one came to open the gate even though he could see them through the small opening on the gate. Unfortunately for him, his phone was in his apartment and his girlfriend's family were calling him to inform him that the girl had an accident on her way home.

Las Las, he had to pass the night at a friend's place with only boxers and singlet he was putting on. On getting to his house Early the next morning, he saw a lot of mixed calls from the girls family, he called back and tried to explain but they didn't want to hear. He packed out of the compound one week later as he couldn't come to terms with the fact that his neighbours could be so mean.

Personally, I can't relate because some years ago in our former compound, I was in labour and my husband was not around, he called our landlord and he drove me in his car to the hospital. May God continue to bless him, he is such a good man


Share your experiences with I Don't Care kind of neighbours

Them go lock me outside and them no go come open gate for me after I don knock tire? Ha! Lol! I no go pack out o.

They just declared a war. I must to do my own back. I go first go buy snake wey just fresh die from all those biza boys.
I go put am for their door for night.
As them dey wake up early in morning say them wan step outside. Make them first see that one.

I go grind white chalk wey go plenty. I go put am for their door front. Them go fast and pray tire thinking person dey bewitch them.

Maa bawon finra gidi gan. Olohun

Beverlyjean:


Madam , u are being economical with the truth... I lived in uk before I got married when I was doing my masters ...I rented a room in the home of an Indian family , their father was even more controlling than the men in Nigeria , and their mother was absolutely submissive to her husband , it was even their female child that was even trying to rebel due to western ideologies cos she was raised in UK, unlike her parents . The father migrated to UK when he was in his 20s and later married his wife and brought her to UK, same applies to their relatives in the UK.... they dont even marry foreigners ... they stick to their own and their wives are very submissive to their husbands, infact I taught I was living with arabs , they are so much alike . I feel Nigerian women are allowing western ideologies ruin our marriage. No man or woman is perfect to be honest ...all men can't be bad while all women are good according to social media .... the truth is that we women will react worse compared to men, if we were the providers and we still end up getting disrespected by those we provide for , it's a natural process ... just imagine a woman living in UK, doing well , her own cars and house and then she comes to Nigeria to marry a man , brings him abroad and then he starts to disrespect her and when she reacts , she is thrown out of the house and everything now belongs to him, would u support it ? ... u can't be disrespectful towards the person that pays the bills and expect no reaction, that's slavery ... only a self entitled person will see nothing wrong with that ...

You dey mind person wey never leave Ekakpara village since birth, wey no even get international passport?
Ordinary Cotonou wey them dey smuggle people go, she never go there.

Indian women rule their home? Person wey her head dey pepper her

2braithe:

Yes, you must live by rules and principles but they should be the ones you set for yourself.
Why? Those so-called rules you're talking about were formulated by people like you, I, and some random content creators(a woman could be among or even a teenager...who knows?).

The food you are eating today were discovered by men like you and the city you live in today was founded by men like you. The technologies you use today were invented by men like you. Do you now understand my point?

2braithe:

Going by exposure and upbringing alone, those kind of males cannot be called real men. But exposure and upbringing is not the only thing that makes men. Why do we see a male that grew up among all girls becoming feminine and weak, yet, another male with similar background is masculine and a man? SELF IMPROVEMENT!

Self improvement in the aspect of learning to be a man. The dos and don'ts of a man.
A man lives a principled life, unlike plant and animals . That's why you hardly see a man go on to social media and start shaking his ass or his prick for likes and comments.
We are beings of principles and rules.

2braithe:

I should have mentioned that to become a man, one of the basic requirements is to be a male. If a female carries out self improvement, she'll be a valuable "woman". If a male carries out self improvement, he'll be a masculine and valuable "man".

A woman can learn to be a man. You can be a woman and learn to be a man.

Self-Made Man: My Year Disguised as a Man is a 2006 book by journalist Norah Vincent, recounting an 18-month experiment in which she disguised herself as a man and then integrated into traditionally male-only venues, such as a bowling league and a monastery.

I don't usually read books authored by women because most of them don't always have sense. But you can read the summary of that book up there.
The woman realized she couldn't cope with being a man as there are many rules and principles a man must uphold, lest he would be seen as a less of the pack.

2braithe:

Yes, living by principles... that you deem fit and realize is necessary during the course of your self improvement and personal development!

Oh oh! And that's why we have people like Bobrisky, Jayboogie and other non-binary idiots.
A man is a being of principles.

MrBrownJay1:


if a man ever needs financial assistance then let him ask his own family and friends BEFORE going to take a yeye loan from any thieving banks or loan app. i'd rather my family/friends came to me for financial help because if i can help then of course i will. thats what friends and family are also here for.
the reason why so many brothas fail is because they think they can figure shiit out by themselves while help is just a question away (but their misplaced ego is in the way of common sense)

This is not about ego. This is what I've tested and handled. I know what I've done for people and how I've come thru for them. But I'd rather I took loan everyday of this life than run to anybody for financial assistance.

Try BOI. They offer a great loan plan.

MrBrownJay1:

so being sad is not being emotional, abi? remember, being happy is also being emotional, being upset is also being emotional.
as a father, i cried tears of joy (like a baby) when i saw my 1st son being born; as a brother, i cried like a baby when my dear brother passed away... and there is nothing wrong with a man being emotional, this is something completely NORMAL. it doesnt make you a woman, it doesnt make you weak, it makes you HUMAN... only a very evil person would not shed a tear when his parents/sibling pass away.

Asunkungbade. Why should I cry because I'm having my first kid? Why? Haha, I don't understand o. If I were to be your elder brother and I saw you crying. I would have slapped your cheeks.

Being sad may be a result of pain or hurt, being happy may be a result of enjoyment or contentment.
Do you cry after eating a lovely meal to your satisfaction?

MrBrownJay1:

the above are not men, the above are yeye people who think that they can recreate in a wife what they have for their mother. WRONG!!!! your mother is your mother, she is unique and can NEVER BE COPIED/REPLACED by any woman; your wife is NOT your mother and will never remotely be your mother; you are highly confused if you expect your wife to be the same as your mother. your mother gave you life; your mother breastfed you; your parents raised you for +20yrs and made you the man you are today, how dare you want to compare them with a woman you just met a few months/years ago?

Then of what use is a wife?

MrBrownJay1:

BWAAAAAAAAAAH so this is what this thread is really all about... abeg, open a new thread on this exact subject and lets discuss this issue... which really is that; YOU have never met a good/intelligent woman or that YOU cant attract a good/intelligent woman

This thread is about men. Not about plants and animals. Men should begin see themselves as the perfect work of nature.

MrBrownJay1:

its called the right person FOR YOU... and that person is mostly easy to find. if you've met tons of women in your life and never met a perfect woman then the problem is YOU.

I insist that there is no such thing as the right person. Not in this 21st century. The right person you think you've seen is basically a woman that her cover is yet to be blown or is yet to receive a great deal of power.

People who are a mess today once thought they also found the right person.

Right person my foot.

MrBrownJay1:

there is nothing wrong with having an emotion but sadly, men like you automatically assume that being emotional means a man is weak. being SAD means you are emotional.. didnt you just write you were sad when your best friend passed away? although useless to you, thats how you felt and there is NOTHING WRONG WITH THAT NOR WEAK ABOUT THAT.
Btw remember, emotions can also be HAPPINESS, PRIDE, HOPE, THANKFUL, LOVE etc.

My sadness was due to pain. Pain sometimes may not be the result of emotion. If I hit my head on the wall. Will I not be sad about it?
By the way. That was many many years ago.

MrBrownJay1:

there are plenty of moments in life when a man can cry (tears of sorrow/joy) and that doesnt make a man weak... it makes a man HUMAN

It makes a man an idiot. A cry baby.
Imagine you are crying and your kids are crying too. What a family of town criers.

MrBrownJay1:

so now its ok for a man to cry (aka be emotional), so long as nobody sees him cry? again, thats your misplaced ego talking...

If you're a man and you are seeing this thread. If you liked, go dey cry around like one short mythical being wey dey carry mat and lantern around. Yoruba people dey call am egbere.

Men are kings. How does it even look when a king cry because he's emotional at the presence of his subjects?

MrBrownJay1:

as much as i am an atheist... i disagree with you on this point too. many of these religious people believe that by submitting to their holybook's teaching, they will live a better/righteous life. some people out there need the guidance that their holybook gives them. i dont need a holybook to show me right from wrong, but its obvious these religious people do. to each their own way of life, so long as it aint criminal or against our knowledge of right/wrong.

Submitting to their holy books is different from submitting to their pastors.

MrBrownJay1:

i LOVE, honor and respect my father and mother because they gave me life, raised me, instill the right value in me and made me who i am today... and as much as i love/honor/respect the mothers of my children, it certainly aint the same thing, i love/honor and respect these women for a completely different reason. i can die for my parents (even though they probably wont let me), i can NEVER give my life away for a woman i "chose" to love. even the love i have for my children is different than the love i have for my parents.

I can't die for my parents. Worse comes to worst, I can only die for my kids. There is no other human being in the picture.

MrBrownJay1:

i dont know about you, but what i have/feel for my father is the exact same thing i feel for my mother. the LOVE is the same; the HONOR is the same; the RESPECT is the same (regardless of who they are).

If my mom calls be and goes like, "My son, I'd like to see you by weekend."
If I'm gonna be busy. I'd say "I'm sorry, not this weekend but Polly next".

If my father said the same thing. I'll make sure I find a way around seeing him by weekend.

Respect and love are two different things.

MrBrownJay1:

again, its obvious your issue is not with MEN being proud about themselves, its about women (as the enemy or something).

I'm failing to understand what must have given you this impression.

MrBrownJay1:

its obvious by your above writeup that you have never met a good woman, thus why you think like the way you do... if you believe that nagging/sleeping around and wasting a man's money is only what describes all women out there (while any smart man understand that it only describe useless good for nothing liability women), then no wonder you open such a thread.
AGAIN: if you've never met a good woman, with great character, intelligent, hardworking, caring, compassionate, etc...then the problem is YOU, not women.

AGAIN: THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS A GOOD WOMAN. THE 21ST CENTURY WOMAN IS NOT A GOOD WOMAN

MrBrownJay1:

why dont you equally look at the MILLIONS of great married men out there who were happily married? or do you solely use these above handful men to judge billions of women out there? BTW quickly remove the undercover homo on your above list with entanglement issues.

You will think they have a great marriage until the husband conducts a DNA test on all his kids. By the way. Those marriages are not 21st century marriage.

MrBrownJay1:

says who? just because you see all these yeye good for nothing liability on SM posting foolish pictures and saying stupid shiit, doesnt mean that ALL WOMEN are liability good for nothing pay as you go oloshoes.

The 21st century woman is really good for nothing. Let's not lie to ourselves.
Give me just one good thing that a 21st century is good for that can't be found elsewhere. And I'll deactivate my account and never visit NL again.

MrBrownJay1:

a man shouldnt be scared of living alone, just like he shouldnt be scared to live with someone and sharing his life with someone. only a very sad person would want to be in his huge mansion sharing his life with nobody, apart from part time yeye women just there for a handout and good times, and when times are tough (OR money don finish) these women dont give a damn about you. same women that wouldnt even look at you if you didnt pay them to be around you.

And if the money doesn't finish, what happens?
Living with a woman is annoying, irritating
and nauseating. Oh my Jeez. Ew! Except she's your daughter. 20years down the line, looking at flabby arms and sagger face. You'd feel like dying.

MrBrownJay1:

if a woman doesnt desire to be with you when you are down/sad/broke, then this woman does not deserve to be in your life when you are up/good/wealthy.

Why should a woman be with me whether I'm sad/broke/happy/wealthy/or whatever state I'm in?
Men are really a lost cause. Why should a woman be there. Unless for material, financial gain and societal pressures. Women don't even want men to be there. It's only the men who are desperate for women. Women are not desperate for men.

MrBrownJay1:

so who will you spend your life with? dirty oloshoes that anybody can buy with a few Nairas?! is that the type of life you see for yourself?! do you hate women so much that you'd rather be with yeye good for nothing pay as you go oloshoes than finding a good/intelligent woman for yourself?

I guess this is where we are getting each other wrongly. My question is, why must you spend your life with a woman at all? Be it dirty hookers, Single mothers, not single mothers, unintelligent women, "intelligent" women or whatever women or anybody at all, except your relatives.
Why must there always be a woman in the picture?
The more I grow in years and cash, the more I feel the needlessness of a woman.
Is it just me, or does anybody else feel like vomiting just seeing a woman who is not a relative?

Proserpina:
Okay.... No sense at all this time

Sorry bro.

I regret engaging a fish brain gender.

Nighty Nighty daughter.

MrBrownJay1:
i fully disagree on a few points you made (as it seems is just misplaced ego speech):
- so a man in need shouldnt beg for help? if you are in need and you need to beg your family/friends/acquaintance for help, then by any means do that. these people are there to help you and so are you there for them (if needs be)

I never said men shouldn't beg for help. I said men shouldn't beg for financial assistance. It makes you become a bother and people easily look down on you. I do not request for financial assistance from people, not because i'm arrogant but because taking stuff from people when I haven't worked/ earned it makes me feel like shit.

A man should always learn to figure his own shit out, by himself.

MrBrownJay1:

- so a man cannot be emotional? just because women bring yeye emotional nonsense to argument doesnt mean a man cannot be emotional. the day you sign your 1st big contract, BE EMOTIONAL! the day you have your 1st child, BE EMOTIONAL! your kids graduate, BE EMOTIONAL! the day your kids get married BE EMOTIONAL! if/when a dear person in your life pass away, BE EMOTIONAL!

When I closed a deal that changed my life I didn't feel any special thing, I was just happy. And that was it.
I didn't attend my own primary school graduation, my secondary school VS, my UNI convocation, when I completed NYSC I didn't even make a fuss about it.
I don't wish myself on my birthdays.

When my kids graduate, it'll be a normal thing. When I lost my best friend so many years ago, I was sad. Nevertheless, I dusted myself up and went back to school the following day. I had papers to write.

These things are normal things that everyone does. Why should I feel special and emotional about them?

MrBrownJay1:

- there is nothing wrong with a man's desire to find LOVE... love is a great thing, especially with a good/intelligent woman. whats important is to make sure that he finds love with the RIGHT person, and not some yeye liability

Now the problem is, the kind of love a man wants doesn't exist. A man wants a mother in a wife, which can never happen. You can't drill your mother, but you drill your wife. That's already a big clause.

Secondly, there are no good and intelligent 21st century women.

Thirdly, there is no such thing as the right person.

MrBrownJay1:

- so because a man has goals in life, he cannot be emotional? again, there is nothing wrong with being emotional and have a life. if you want to go home after a hard day at work and cry/vent yourself to sleep so that the next day you are fit to attack your issue head on, then by all means, do so.

Emotions are weaknesses, they lead to feelings and feelings are useless. You might feel like not going to work, but you gotta go regardless of your feelings. Therefore, feelings are a waste of human precious time.

Tears don't solve anything. Therefore, why should a man cry?
Life is always unfair, and full of misfortune. Men should always have this at the back of their minds.

I agree with the fact that, at worst, if a man must cry. He should be by himself alone and never do it in front of anyone else.

MrBrownJay1:

- many men out there submit to their holybook, religion and/or their pastors. to each their own.

Men who submit to their pastors are stupid. E.O.D.

MrBrownJay1:

- any man understands that his love for his parents/siblings is different than the love he has for a wife. these are two different set of people, with two different set of love. the love a man has for his parents/sibling is natural, they can be the worst person on earth and you would still love them, while the love you have for your wife is an emotional/wise decision you took because of who that person is.

- men who rape are mentally sick criminals... just like pedos, whose urges should send them to jail for a LOOONG time. these are not human beings, these are ANIMALS!

- so a man cannot/shouldnt LOVE his father?

The language of love that a man understands is honour and respect. You can playfully tell someone you love that "you are not serious". Can you try that with your father?

- so a man cannot/shouldnt RESPECT/HONOR his mother?
Women don't understand respect. They want love and affection. You honour them with your affection.

MrBrownJay1:

- so a man cannot/shouldnt LOVE his wife?

Is a woman deserving of love? Why does she deserve to be loved?
That useless love which is a misnomer for lust will render one useless and pitiable.

MrBrownJay1:

finally, as much as we should be proud of being men, we should also understand that LIFE being alone is worthless, unless you have someone worthy to share your life with. someone to share your good times and your bad times with; someone to be able to open up and talk to with no fear of being judged etc; someone to build a life/family together with; someone to grow old with etc. if you dont find such person then cool, but if such person present itself to your life, then embrace her and welcome her into your life so you can become the BEST VERSION OF YOURSELF (only a good woman can bring that out of us men)

This is what silly men use to console themselves. How would a woman bring the best out of a man? By nagging, sleeping around, wasting his money on frivolities or how?

How did a woman bring the best out of Nikola Tesla, Isaac Newton, Leonardo or Will Smith, and many more who have fallen by the snares of women?

Again and again. The 21st century woman is not a good woman.

Why should a man be scared of living alone, who should a man wanna share his good time or bad time with anybody? Those men are like babies, they are idiots. They make me feel nauseated. Ew! I even feel like throwing up thinking about it.
Should I tell you the truth. Women even hate this kind of men who are emotionally dependent. They see them as a nuisance.

2braithe:
There's no rule to becoming a man.

There are rules to becoming a man. A man that lives without rules is nothing but an animal.

2braithe:

You can't actively start learning how to be a man.
Becoming a man is a natural continuous process that results from experience, environment, upbringing, exposure, and a host of other psycho-social indicators.

Being a male is a natural thing. Becoming a man is a result of training, long suffering, discipline and intelligence.

If being a man is a result of upbringing and exposure? Would boys who grow up amidst Trans and weak men be also classified as men?
Think.

2braithe:

In order to be in line with what will naturally shape you to become a man, just keep improving yourself.
What you encounter in a bid to improve yourself is what will shape you; and not some questionable rules that are based off myths of what a man should be.

Self improvement is not what makes you a man. AI self improves itself, the other gender improve themselves too. Does that make them a man?

Being a man is living by principles and discipline. A male is different from a man.

How do I even expect everyone to understand this?

Proserpina:
The only part of your post that 1. makes sense and I agree with.
2. If you can't deal please let her go. Nobody should be subjected to any form of abuse physical or verbal.

3. And that is why they continue to be with you and do not blink to throw you out of your homes when they get the chance to.

4. Women aren't the ones crying all over the internet don't you think they got that sorted out long ago? Lol

5. And what makes you think I'm a guy?

1. That makes sense to your level of understanding.

2. Women can also leave. They shouldn't wait until someone drops their hand. Whoever benefits the most in a relationship always doesn't wanna leave first.

3. Are you saying, men shouldn't bring their women to the US any longer?

4. Women who cause men to whimper around like a baby goat are stupid. Not like men weren't told the nature of women. They thought they were lucky and special to have found the impossible perfect woman. The joke is on the women who can't be vouched for .Bunch o' idiots.

5. You can't literally be a goddess. Only a man on a troll mission enjoying his cruise would use that kinna moniker.

Proserpina:
Sadly they are in a country where there's no excuse for domestic violence.

Perhaps men should be more innovative and creative in handling rude and mannerless partners. How about that?

I agree with you. One of the innovative and creative way is to part ways with them and never see them again, or turn them into sex objects. Just for fun, nothing more.

By the way, Nigerian girls are also in a country where they can't chase a man out of his own house for his unkind attitudes.

Perhaps women should be more innovative and creative in handling unkind partners . How about that?

Having this kinna comments coming from a man is a really serious issue.

Proserpina:
If you are kind and good nobody will kick you out of your home.

Be a kind person, it's very simple.

It's true. If women are respectful and not partially mad from a useless home, no man will dare lay hands on them.

You may fail, but that's not your end. You know why? You are a man.

You look weak, but you are stronger than what you could ever imagine. And thanks to the fact that you are a man.

You are a symbol of perfection, strength and vigor. You have to face life head-on. Everything wants to be like you. But none can't.

You will get disappointed, thrown into the earth, ridiculed and underestimated.
Don't get depressed, it's your story. It's definitely gonna be difficult but embrace it. It's for glory.

Even if you failed, don't worry about it. Pick yourself up, dust yourself up. You definitely have to give it a tough fight. You are a man, it's never too late.

Not everyone will succeed, but regardless of which state you find yourself. Always strive to be better than yesterday, that's what makes you a man.

You are the greatest work of nature. The society is harsh towards you but nature has got your back. You can take consolation in that and turn it into motivation.

You are not insecure, you are not fake, you are not inferior.
You do not need to wear a make-up, lipstick, extended eye lashes and eyebrows drawn like the horns of an antelope to look good.
You are naturally awesome.

We can go a month without body cream and still be looking all dope in whatever drip we on.

That's why every other thing wants to be like you, wear your dress, be in your space or at least want to be equal with you.

The more you grow, the more handsome you look.

I understand that some men who are raised by men who don't know how to be men have also raised men who don't know that manishnness is all about. But if you are finding this thread today. Congratulations to you.

Men have always been the strong being both in physical strength, intelligence, critical and conceptual thinking and natural sense.

Here are a few things that men shouldn't do.

1. Men don't beg for money. The male gender is not the gender that beg for money and food. Only a male gender that'll still a minor is allowed only to request from his parents.

2. Men are not meant to be emotional. A man must always be logical and his brain must always be at work 24/7.

3. Men should not desire the feelings of being loved. Any man who desires to be loved is a useless man who can be likened to a lost puppy who is looking for a soft place to lie down.

4. A man must be emotionally independent. A man shouldn't need someone to be there for him emotionally. A man should be too focused on his goals to even consider emotions at all.

5. Only a stupid man would be scared of living alone and doing his things alone. A man who enjoys being alone is a scary man.

5. A man should put his respect first and then above all things he wants to get.

6. A man should be capable of causing evil, i.e. A man should be dangerous, but he should refrain from causing the evil unless there is need for it. A man who is not capable of causing evil is a lion without teeth and claws.

7. A man must be dedicated, persistent, smart working, hard working, determined and diligent. A man should not expect favours from people, if it came, fine! If it wouldn't? Fine! A man should dust himself and unto the next one.

8. As a man, you should not take the meat that belongs to a member of your brotherhood. You should not take his food. A man who takes his brother's meat out of envy or jealousy deserves death.

9. A man should not submit himself to any authority except of his father, the government and the person who pays his salary.

10. A man should understand that there can never be no one like his mother again and therefore should stop looking for love and affection from elsewhere. It's for stupid people.

11. A man will not be remembered for being a great husband or a great father. A man will only be remembered and celebrated for his contribution to the society through his purpose.

12. The importance of a man in sexual relationships is basically for procreation. Men who cant control their sexual urges are even lower than the animals. He's totally useless and unrefined.

13. A man who idolizes sex to the extent of rape is nothing but a bag of worms.

14. Your goals must give you insomnia as a man.

15. A man must respect and honour his father.

16. The only people a man must love are his mother and his kids. Those are his bloods.



I'm so proud to be a man, I couldn't wish for anything else. Being a man alone is a great blessing.
Men built this world and every civilization.
99.9% of the discoveries in the history of mankind that has advanced mankind up to this point were done by men.

If not for men. Human beings would have remained at Homo Erectus.

Proudly a man. Can't nothing be better. I am not the same with any other being.

Therefore men, let's stop whimpering like lost kids. Life is unfair, let's get used to that.

Who else is proud to be a man?

Gistmedia10:
A Nigerian woman found herself in a state of shock and despair after her boyfriend took her to his village to meet his family for an introduction, only to discover weeks later that he ended up marrying another woman instead of her.

The young lady, whose identity remains undisclosed, had been in a relationship with her boyfriend for some time. Full of excitement and anticipation, she eagerly accompanied him to his village, met his family, and possibly discussed their future together.

Only for her to discover that her boyfriend has gotten married to another lady!


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S6BLgjqBvBA

Can someone do me the honour of finding this guy please.

That serves them right. They call people who don't worship women broke and childish.
Lol! Broke and childish yet we get money pass their papa and we no dey seek empathy from social media.

Them wey rich and mature. Women dey send them commot their homes and them dey come social media come whine like a baby goat. All of them dey mad. E no go better for them and the people wey dey pity them.

That serves them right. There will be no pity for any man who falls by the snares of women.

winner37:



Am aware that she has another guy but is only that guy that Bankrolling her anytime she complains to that guy ..
All what I know she is doing with her money is she is fun of ordering clothes online,
The last one she ordered I was the one who droved her for pickup..

It will hurt your feelings but imma tell you the truth. The fact that a lady who says she's into you has another guy bankrolling her until you are aware of it means she could possibly have more than just the other guy bankrolling her.

There is no father christmas anywhere, those guys who are bankrolling her are either sleeping with her or will soon sleep with her.

Both you and other guys them who are bankrolling her do not catch her fancy. Ya both are not what she's looking for.

This is the kind of lady that will turn to her ex for assistance when you guys hit a rack in your marriage.

You are in love with this girl. That is what is messing your head up. The girl is capable of paternity fraud. Them no dey tell person.

Get her pregnant and make her a baby mama.

chimuanya24:
When you marry a small girl and she prefers doing tiktok and spending more time on social media, instead of joining you to watch the new masquerade or 9 o'clock news, don't come online and start complaining.

Cos u asked for it.

Make she dey spend the whole of her day watching Yoruba movies sef. I no go still ever for this life read evening newspaper.

Whatever you do is up to you alone. Your politicians are stealing the public funds for themselves and they are daily waxing stronger.

Your pastors are steadily scamming their members and they are daily waxing stronger.

You don't get punished for doing evil. You are punished for getting caught.
The NO.1 thing on your plan should be.
1. How to not be caught
2. If caught, how to avoid punishment.

Once you are able to fix the two above. You are free to commit any crime.

winner37:

Have being dating this lady for almost a year she mostly visits me on weekends and if she having off at work she will come to my place and stay till her resumssion day ..
Sincerely, am not that spending type I don't think have given her money 4k before but I will make sure I will provide what ever she wants to eat anytime she visits me ,food and I is like 2 and 3 that is why I don't lack food stuff in my house ..
This lady in question is like living in free world because people do bankrolling her even the least as data still getting as gift,she is having Two different bank accounts the amount I saw there last two months ago was fucking Whooping. She so stingy to an extent she doesn't buy food stuff and keep in her house anytime I visit her she will be complaining she doesn't have food this makes me perplexed why she saving money but Eat like an ant
My concern is anytime I stylishly ask this lady to borrow me some amount of money she will be telling me she is broke .I don't really know her plans am confused having a lady who is not supportive....

She comes to your house and she can't sometimes get groceries on her own while coming in. She can't get you an indoor slide or a common toothpaste, even a day old soup she prepared before weekend.

Brother, I'm telling you from experience. I've seen where several women are vulnerable. I tell you brother, the most stingy woman on earth will find a way to spend on you that moment that she's really into you.

Bro. You do not tick her fancy box.

It will shock you the way she'll become a spender for another guy that ticks her fantasy. Women are all the same.

No woman is stingy. You are not just the guy that messes up with her head.

HellVictorinho6:


But u said theres no b4 big bang

Are you referring to what happened before the bigbang?

HellVictorinho6:



if u cant use b4, then u cant be using past tense, u cant be saying xyz happened.

if xyz happened, then 123 had to give way for it.


that means something else was happening instead of nothing

dont come and be using nothing in quotation marks when u know thatz not exactly nothing


what was happening?


what u did not witness



KnownUnknown

i neva said we are placed in a universe.

I guess I'm failing to understand your question. The reason many people might be avoiding this thread.

Your question not coherent enough, maybe you should figure out how to ask your questions in a more comprehensible way.

GodHimself:
I’m surprised I understood this. In essence time is a location.

Time is not a location, time and space are just two sides of the same coin called spacetime. Time is only relative to location. That is, Time is relative for different observers in space.
If one brother of a pair of twins born on the same decides to travel into the space at 50% light speed when they both are at 20years. When he gets back from his journey after a month.
He will be 20years and a month old, but his brother on earth will be close to 80years. The more we travel faster towards the speed of light and towards gravity, the more time slows down.

Therefore time and space are not the same. But are only related. Their relationship gave birth to speed. Hence.

Speed= Distance/Time

GodHimself:

Question: if the system can be “un-isolated”, then that means time can run backwards, and entropy can decrease. Right?

This question doesn't make sense because there is no true isolated system. The only true isolated system is the universe.
However, there are systems that can act as an isolated system. For instance, a thermoflask is an isolated system. But it's not truly isolated because gravity still acts on it.
When you hold it in your hand, it's reacting to the energy from your hand therefore resisting gravity.

Now fit that into your question. The only true isolated system is the Universe. Can the universe be un-isolated?

Time is directly proportional to the entropy, and not just the isolated system.

Therefore even if an isolated system becomes "un-isolated", time can never go back unless if the entropy reverses itself.

The only thing that can make time go back is if the entropy of such isolated system is reversed. Like if all of a sudden, universe start to contract back into that single entity before the bigbang. Then, time will reverse itself as entropy reverses itself. They'll go hand in hand.

First set of phones in Nigeria.I know all these phones sha and used most. Some are even missing. Nokia 3310 isn't there, that Flat Motorola that displays like Casio calculator is missing as well.
From Sony Ericsson, Nokia, Sagem, sendo, Bird, Trium, Motorola. LG, Samsung, HTC joined later on. Then Nokia Symbian, BlackBerry, Starcomms. HTC introduced android in 2009.

That phone up there, No.3 from the left was Sony Ericsson. That phone was bae. All these Gen_z children no go know wetin them dey call Starcomms.

There is no spiritual nonsense for any guy who sleeps with a married woman. Single girls sleep with married men all the time, lecturers , married bosses, married pastors, married colleagues, and all.

Why do you think some girls were able to graduate and sort their bills? You get it. Thanks to married men.

If that be the case? Why can't single guys also use married women as stepping platforms to have their bills settled?
Oh oh! So married men can enjoy single ladies, but married women can't enjoy single guys? Y'all are sick.

Except for morals and your pride as a man. There is absolutely no spiritual repercussions sleeping with a married woman.
You don't get punished for commiting a crime, you only get punished for getting caught. Just don't get caught.

You know many girls who have become successful courtesy of married men?

A married man is prolly sleeping with someone's GF, so what's stopping you from sleeping with his wife too?? Aren't men and women no longer equal?

All the married men must learn by force. They will sleep with your wife and she will love it with them more than you.

Lemme try to explain using this in a layman's words.

First of all it was wrong to ask what was before The Big Bang, like what was the past of big bang? But this question would be wrong because before the bigbang there was no space therefore, we cannot talk about time. Because, Space and Time didn't exist separately they are part of same fabric called spacetime. If there is no space there is no time .

After the event of the big bang happened space and time itself come in existence and they happen to be inseparable.

For instance without space and time, we cannot define an event for instance. If I had a meeting with you and I say, meet my at lekki toll gate but I haven't given the time. You would probably not know when to come and likewise if I said let's meet by 10pm tomorrow and I haven't given you the space(place) to meet. You'd still be confused.

Therefore, space and time is a part of our reality.
Now this raises a question, because if space and time are inseparable. They should however have the same properties, how?

You are on earth, which is a part of the space therefore you can move in a 3 Dimensional direction. That is, you can go to the front, back, right, left,diagonal towards any direction at any angle, go up and go down.

Now lemme give you a simple experiment.
Stay at a spot let's say at 3:00pm, then walk 20meters towards any direction. Let's say the time is now 3:05PM, return to the same direction following the same path. You have returned to the place,but the time will not return to 3:00pm. Do you know why?

It's due to the second law of thermodynamics.

The second law of thermodynamics states that the total entropy of an isolated system can never decrease over time.
Entropy simply means a disorderliness,

For example, a big chunk of ice falls on a rock and breaks to pieces. The amount of disorderliness has increased over time. If you picked another broken piece and drop it again, it will break the more. It cannot unbreak.

Expansion of the universe means the expansion of space and we know space and time are inseparable and space is expanding, that is why time is always increasing.

Suppose space suddenly starts contracting, then time will moves backward, but that is not true because the entropy of an isolated system is always increasing, therefore, time is always moving forward not backward as the universe is continuously expanding.
Take a video player for an example.

Also, time is relative and not absolute for different observers.

MrCork:



Who told jesus weep. Did u see him? Did he come to yor house?
((REAL TALK))

Nice questions.

I realized crying doesn't solve anything at a very tender age, I was less than 12. So since then I promised myself never to cry again.
Tears is a waste of time. It's meant for babies and the other gender. Any man who cries deserves a lipstick, eye lashes, Mary Kay and bonestraight. Men don't cry, we think.

Hamachi:
Heaven-🔥
Mum- ❤️
800 billion dollars- 🎉

Heaven sharp

Truvelisback:
Good day, fellas. I saw this on Facebook.“Go And Do DNA Test On Your Son Immediately. I Don't Know What Nathaniel Bassey's Face Is Doing On Your Son's Face” — Nigerian Man Tells Mercy Chinwo's Husband, Pastor Blessed

It's not beyond the bound of possibilities for that child to be Bassey's. It's the sisterhood code of conduct.
Unless you are blind or just decided to be mischievous and unfortunate. This boy resemble Bassey pass Bassey himself.

Mamayam:

Rice is not a carbohydrate, but rather a good SOURCE of carbohydrate.
Similarly beans is a very good source of protein, and also of carbohydrate, b vitamins etc.

Most food have a high percentage as water leaving the rest nutrients taking less than 50% of the weight.

So any food source that has 20%+ of its mass as any of the food classes, is a very good source of that nutrient.

No food is a class of food in itself. I meant to say Rice is considered a good source of carbohydrates. And is classified under it

diamond68:
supernatural not spiritual

Are your Gods and demons spiritual because they are supernatural or are they supernatural because they are spiritual?

FxMasterz:


Are you sure about the bolded? Can we discuss more on this?

Modified:

I went online and found a great deal of information confirming your thoughts. This poses a big problem for atheists. Jaephoenix, lordreed, maynmann, hopefullandlord, knownunknown, francistown etal. Someday, your spiritual eyes shall be opened, and your spiritually deaf ears shall hear. I just hope it wouldn't be too late because your hearts are already hardened.

Apart from the attached screenshots, you'll also find useful information on the links below:

https://planetquartus..com/2015/02/shiva-apollyon-destroyer-cern.html?m=1

https://cds.cern.ch/record/745737?ln=en

Good! I should be back to Lagos before the 8th of April. If that your Apollyon or Aquarium or what did you call it comes on board by 8th of April. I will surprise you with an unimaginable gift.

diamond68:
The saints are about to be given that rapture vibranium god particle energy from CERN. Expect to see some supernatural negros after 8th April

Also the rejected are going to get their life force zapped so expect to see the zombie apocalypse too. Human zombies. The walking dead

I'll give you $500 worth of Bitcoin if any spiritual negro shows up after 8th of April.