JackDaAlienz: She is a,loving woman, but she can be very hyper sometimes. We are 3 in family, 2 boys 1 girl. My father is a very calm man, sometimes i wonder how on earth did both of them get together?? Very opposite couples
Mum is hyperactive, the next minute she i calm. Fluctuating everyday
You’re a man , so it’s a personal decision And every decision made in life always come with consequences. May peace be upon your mom , big bro May Allah touches her heart and turn her to what will make the family happy Try to forgive her shortcomings and talk to her . Let her know the pains you guys go through whenever she switch to the hyperactive mode
I didn’t get my first job because I was carried away with the beauty of my interviewer and before we started the interview I said excuse me sis , can I say something , she said yes , I told her this “I appreciated your beauty “ She said thanks and we continued
May Allah subwanahtawahallah forgive me for all my shortcomings
Jashub: It seems your problem is based on comprehension. For the record ,I remember telling you the odds were "low " regarding regular women. Or have you forgotten?
Bro stop arguing with him , he’ll never comprehend the point . You’re trying to educate him but he’s not trynna listen and if he even listens at the end ‘ a great knowledge in the hand of a fool will be self destruction “
I want to know the reason why you make this assertion
I wan learn. I mean if she really loves you. Sometimes I feel most feminist are born out of severe heartbreak and disappointment from men.
Big brother it doesn’t matter how great of a person she is to you , the only thing that matters is how great of a person she’s for you . She might not be a feminist as you perceived , She may be someone who is always rigid with her own life decisions I.e like she prevents people from violating the privacy of the content of her brain or mental health rather and you in your opinion term it as been feminist. My elder sis was like that though we ain’t talking again since I told her I’m finna accept Islam ( my personal decision ) . Just do your finding and check the match guage . If you feel she clicks on the boxes or most you can go ahead with the union
Novemberaura: Is there anyone here married to a feminist lady.
I need inputs.
What are the challenges and benefits. Is it really as awful as people say it is
Why do feminist ladies end up not married or have failed marriages.
May peace be upon you and your households. Big bro ,There is nothing like feminist in the real world . If you marry your match i.e someone that matches your energies in all ramifications of life . We only talk about alphaness , feminism and other when we are already on the bad side of life . That’s why we ( human ) needs to stay true to our personal self and intentions Before you go into relationship Ask yourself few questions Do I really love her ? Is she exactly what I want And tell her to ask herself the same If anyone faults the questions and ride on because of the benefits he or she is expecting or looking at , the fellow must be ready to face the consequences. We are living in the world of consequences You do good or you do bad , you’re finna face da consequences. May peace be upon you once again
I give my heart and soul to Allah Subhanallah tawallah I will worship you and serve your forever Forgive all my short comings and pave ways for me to JANNAH. I’m trying to learn somethings at the moment , How to pray , how to do ablution , how to do cleansing as I’m an adult and other . Trying to quit smoking too because Islamic doctrine doesn’t allow it and it’s also a personal decision. May Allah Subhanallah tawallah support and guide me throughout the phase of the self accountability
May peace be upon you big brother She actually messed up
nicho450: In 2016 she told me her salary was N35,000. And then two years later, when she got promoted, I asked about her salary and she said, “Oh these people, don’t mind them. They added only N8,000 to my old salary. Because of her meager salary, I’ve taken up so many responsibilities in the house without complaint. I pay for utilities and pay for food. I pay the fees of our two kids, clothe them, and take care of their medical bills. When my wife sends me a grocery list, she adds sanitary pads. She buys dresses and clothes, comes to show them to me, and asks me to pay for them. She started talking about a car when our second child came in. Things weren’t good on my side so I asked her to give me some time. She said, “I’ve saved something. I can add it to what you have so you pay me when your money comes.”
I agreed and took that money from her, topped it up to get her a car. For three months my ears never rest. She would wake up at dawn and ask me to pay what I owed her. I got tired and paid the money when I didn’t have much in my account.
One evening, I turned my laptop on and saw a lot of emails. I checked and it was my wife’s email that had been opened. I asked her, “Did you use my laptop?” She answered, “Yeah I was checking something.” I told her, “Then you didn’t log out.” She answered, “I forgot. Please log out for me.” I was about to log out when something caught my attention. I saw a mail with the subject, “January Payslip.” I opened and started going through. When I saw her gross salary, I was shocked. N654,734? And this girl has been crying poverty?
I went through the details. That night I couldn’t sleep. I was angry. I felt let down. I felt cheated. I felt played. We’ve been married for six good years and my wife earned that much without my knowledge? How much she earned didn’t bother me a lot than what she was using that money for. I decided not to talk immediately but rather do a little bit of investigation.
All my life I’ve held the view that it wasn’t right for anyone to go through their partner’s phone. It’s an invasion of privacy and it breeds mistrust in the relationship but that night, going through her phone was the only way to find out what I was looking for. I started with her best friend. Nothing much was found. Her family had a Whatsapp group. I read the messages there. I got few hints. I went through the chat with her father and that was when I realized my wife had bought a piece of land and had started building. Her father was in charge of the project. He had sent photos of the various stages of the building. At some point, her father said, “Thank you for helping out your brother. He would have been home had it not been you.”
She has only one brother—her senior brother. I went to look for the chat between them. Her senior brother lost his job and was home doing nothing so my wife bought her Hyundai i10 to use for Uber. Every week, her brother rendered an account and they split the money. From all indications, my wife was doing well for herself while she plays poor so she could rely on my salary. Why would she do that? I thought I was being a supportive husband so my wife could be proud of the man she married. When we bought land, it was her name and my name that appeared on the land title. That car I bought for her with a loan from her bears her name. I didn’t mind. I believed what’s hers was also mine.
The next morning she realized I wasn’t looking well. I was boiling on the inside but looking for a good opportunity to start the conversation. When I calmed down a little, I asked her, “So why would you do that to me?” She asked, “What have I done?” I answered, “You bought land, you never told me. You started building on it, you never told me. When are you going to tell me?” She was shocked. She asked, “Who told you all that?” I said, “Your father did.” She stood quiet for a while. She asked, “Why would my father tell you all that? What were you people talking about” I said, “I don’t know. You can ask him.”
We left it there. Some minutes later she came to me with her phone: “My father wants to talk to you.” The phone was already on a loudspeaker. Her father was clearly angry. He asked, almost shouting, “You said I told you my daughter has a building? Where did I say that and when?” I asked, “Is it not true that my wife has a building project going on that you’re supervising?” He asked me, “I told you that?” I asked him, “Is it true or not?” After the back and forth I told them, “I read your messages last night. I saw the pictures. I read the various budget you had sent to my wife. I read the confirmation of the money receipts that you sent her. You’re a man. Would you be happy if your wife does this to you?” He started fumbling. He started apologizing saying he thought I was aware.”
My wife stood there motionless, didn’t know what to say. When her father hung up, I told her everything I knew, from her salary to the car she bought for her brother. I said, “Yet, even your sanitary pad, I buy them. You think I’m a fool? You’ll use your money to acquire your own properties and live on mine because you’re my wife? I hear. We’ll see.”
Trust was lost. Love was broken. We had to find a new way of living our lives going forward. Her father called me every morning and evening apologizing for everything and sometimes taking up the blame so I didn’t have to blame his daughter. I told him, “The emotional state I’m in right now, it would be hard to think straight or think forgiveness. Just give me space.” Three days later, they were in our house. The father, the mother, and the senior brother. They came to apologize. “Don’t let this break up the beautiful marriage you both have. If nothing at all, consider the kids and be lenient in your judgment.”
I listened to them. My position was still the same. “I need time to clear my mind. Just leave me alone to think.” From last month to this moment that I’m writing this, my wife had changed totally. She doesn’t ask for money but the house is being run smoothly. She has started paying for things she never paid for but that doesn’t move me. She has taught me a very great lesson and I’m taking it seriously. That in everything, I have to look out for myself and my family first. Lastly she told me, “If you want us to change the names on those properties, we can do so.” Guess whose name is on the property…her father’s name.”
I told her, “You don’t need to change anything. They are yours. You suffered for them so you can decide what you want to do with them.” The land I bought has our names. I’m selling it and take my money back. The car she’s driving has her name. I put a for-sale sticker on it some weeks ago. She agreed she’ll pay for the car. I’ve given her two months to pay up or I sell it and take my money. She’s getting the message and I’m glad. Each one for himself, God for us all. She keeps asking if I’m going to leave her. I keep telling her I won’t but if she wants a separation for a period, I will gladly give her. I’m not going to leave the marriage. I would give us some time to heal and see what may happen but when it comes to money, I’ve taken the lesson she taught me through her actions.
What will you do if you are in my position and feeling deeply hurt??
Christians should be able to relocate to Jerusalem as the holy land whenever they feel less secure where they are ,same should be applicable to Islamic people too , they should move to Saudi when they feel less secure where ever they are , as the holy land . Regilion is just a form of slavery and enslaving each other in Nigeria It’s not done this way in the developed world No religion killings in most of the develop world because they all believed in whatever they believed in . If religion was really an institution as they said it was , an institution institutionalize people it doesn’t make them redundant in spirits and knowledge , Nigerians living in Nigeria needs to wise up and rise above this poor religion mental processing May peace upon the injured individuals and rip to the deads .
Crunchy Chicken is a yes anytime any day. You can make this in the comfort of your home and enjoy to your satisfaction. You don't have to break a bank to enjoy the things you like eating.
Devilagentcap: If you are giving a chance to work in mortuary you take it or not for 100k
If it happens that I want to take a mortuary work, what are the things that I should prepare for to avoid all those experiences about the Dead or are they just fairy tales
You need to go through a transitional phase of self accountability first .
Deborah98: Live your dreams. I wish to meet top and renowned writers,best selling books and authors in life. My number one fan was Chinua Achebe but it was so unfortunately he left before I grew up ... Keep resting in the Lord's bosom. I'll beat the likes of Wole Soyinka and Ngozi Chimamanda. We all have our aspirations in life,na to work am out remain. God help us.
Beehive01: An Incel(involuntarily celibate men) as we know them is a member of an online subculture of people who define themselves as unable to get a romantic or sexual partner despite desiring one Incels make a deliberate decision to identify with a misogynistic hate group, and whatever personal challenges they might have faced or pass through in the hands of women do not excuse or mitigate their choice, and that is why I see incels as pathetic sexually frustrated men and undeserving of pity I don't blame them I understand how they feel They feel hell on earth to most incels the ordeal almost cost them their sanity, some male incels always end up on antidepressants for years. Nowadays.....well the anger and resentment is still there. But the weary anger is within them. Most of them have given up all hope of ever being happy. Those male Incels just exist in perpetual state of anger. But they is a part of them that can never forgive society and women in particular for the suffering they had to endure Their live has taken them to a place were they have succumbed to such anger and resentment some of them has resulted to self-flagellation
If you can imagine such a thing self describe male Incels will loathe lesbians even more than they hate other women Lesbians brings into their subconscious mind how ugly their are and how lesbians detest and loathe their body anatomy hense you see them flocking hopelessly dejected on a lesbian thread venting their frustration, depression,anguish and agony They can't stand the pain and agony to see two girls frolicking together it makes them involuntarily incapacitated in life they feel rejected and leftout completely They feel so dispirited when they see a woman attracting a woman they can never attract in their entire life Male Incels are bunch of messed up and depressed unthinkable partners who has lost out in the world of love,sex, affection and promise I see why people have sympathy for them, but lesbians have no sympathy for someone who thinks they owe those incels sex just because they were born with a penis Male Incels are bunch of cowardly, whiny,ugly,scrawny,fatty, disfigured,dejected,oppressed, dehumanized, victimized, grotesque, unattractive men who contribute nothing but pains and misery to themselves. They wish rape to women who says no to them and talk about corrective rape on Lesbians how LUDICROUS
Violent misogyny, depression,hopelessness and suicide:it's time to save incels Articles have several reports and records of countless numbers of male incels who has committed suicide based on their inability to find a female partner the abondonment,the self inflicted harm, repulsion, irritation will at its best cause this bunch of male Incels to commit suicide and cut short their lives
KyberTHEGREAT: She is so full of herself I’m a red puller guy so I decided to put it into action
This is no no redpill , this is typically bullshit bro ,if you ain’t capable of doing something then you step out instead of messing around with your own integrity . This act is no no a redpill or an Alpha act . Alpha male eject rubbish before it even erupt . You shouldn’t have take her on a date in the first place
if I’m in your shoe big bro , ama get out of the relationship, I’m not finna allow love to blind me from seeing the pains ahead of me and thinking on how I can circumvenge the pain . Big bro , pain is pain . Nobody loves pain , and the pain is real , pls don’t step in if you are not fully equipped financially
Jasiman: Good morning Nairalanders, please I need urgent help.
My relationship is on the verge of break up due to genotype issue and I sincerely need your advice. I will appreciate if medical experts on this field and those with experience can help out and Share their experience.
I love this lady so much and she's everything any man can pray for except for the genotype. She equally love me so much as well. On her part, she has booked consultation with doctors and all they keep telling her isn't good at all. No hope at all.
On my part, I have this strong believe that we will give birth to health kids since we are not planning on having much. Maximum of three. I have also done some researches and also heard about "bridgeclinic". I don't know if it will work and the success rate.
Please, is there any hope at all or not. I really appreciate your advice as I anticipate them. Thank you
Flakky26: Marriage could be hell or heaven on earth. You need wisdom and understanding to make your marriage work.
marriage can only be hell if you allow someone / anyone to violate the privacy of your brain contents and it can be haven if you don’t give room for that . It takes two strong minds/ heart to be happily married
Romance › Re: How do i solve this case? by Freelane33(m): 11:10pm On Jun 24, 2022
