₦airaland Forum

Nackzy:
OP you still haven't answered my question...if your mum is a prostitute is not everyone's mum that's like your mum

Ode oshi...na foolish goat like you dey learn the hard way...ur father can not fvck ya mummy alone, he's too weak, old and tired..Young men has to top her dry abandoned coochie..to make it wet again like a woman's coochie.

apatheticme:
Don't mind these hateful misogynists! Their Mothers are always the best. Are there no women with jobs or those who take up businesses and support the home, until another door opens for the man

Many women in various homes today are the breadwinners, yet you don't see them bragging upandan on nairaland.

People like op will never see several success stories of great marriages where virtuous women stood by their men no matter what. They will only be quick to open nairaland threads bashing the entirety of females because one useless married retired harlot decided to look their way.

Low self esteemed broke ass sons of bitches everywhere on nairaland. Tueh!

I dint blame anyone here , I wonder why you are bitter. I only said men should hustle well, to at least reduce the likelihood of their wife seeking emotional support out of their matrimony. I do not regard those women I laid with as harlot, you are the one calling them so. They are only human to seek happiness and pleasure when their homes is devoid of it. I'm only underscoring the fact that women can easily seek alternative especially in this era of social media that allows remote and virtual relationship on internet. Most of the ladies I referred to here were ladies met through social media..And it's a common occurrence. Either she's working or not

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paulolee:
still d same generalization shii....ma mum didn't do any shii wen ma dad was broke and bankrupt bt instead she took loans and increased her business which made her saw more profits to sustained d family and helped my dad with some cash and with prayers....i pray i get a wife inform of ma mum.

You guys don't read and understand...you are talking about ya mom of analog generation...I'm talking about this digital age of social media...where your wives can meet people on Facebook, Instagram, Tinder, Twitter, whatsap group even without living her house. Dey there ...Is that not what ladies do nowadays.... consuming social media from morning till night. One was even video calling at midnight while children are asleep, and hobby in another room..so what are u talking abt. it's not about being judgement...... I'm only stating the obvious reality but Nigerians are so foolish with their lack of critical thinking

Athemisia:
Not all.... my mother saw hell with my father but she never lose respect for him....

I'm referring to this generation of women with Android phone in their hands, chatting all day long on Whatsapp

MiddleDimension:
this is the biggest lie that has been peddled for years!
even if the man is well behaved, ones he is broke, he ceases being attractive to women and
if they are already married, then she begins to regret being with him. this has got nothing to do with
a man him exhibiting behaviours that are bad. the mere fact things are not working for him is enough
to make the lady disrespect and regret ever being with him. it is very much like when a woman loses
her beauty, and the man is doing very well, then it becomes difficult for him to stay with her. him not
being faithful to her has got nothing to do with what she did or did not do wrong, it is just the issue with the psychology
of men. in the same way, when a man is not doing well, he loses every bit of attraction to the wife. it has got nothing to do with what he is doing well or not doing well. it is just a thing with the psychology of the woman.
people who deny this are only willing to say that women do not have their own version of innate behaviour.

so you can see that the forces of sexual selection as explained by Charles Darwin is so great, not even the sacrament of holy matrimony can break it, sanctioned by the all powerful god, can break it.

only men and women of great character can rise above the natural forces that shaped us.

You they mind low witted people that lack basic understanding of human nature. They place so much expectations on their women, and flaunt their ego as if they can control who or why a woman fvcks other men.

ayoblinks:
As in eh bro, e go destroy beyond remedy...
Keep fucking married women bro

Ode oshi, is that the purpose of the write up? Holier than thou....All your pastors sleeping with your church members and wives in the choir, have u preached to them? Ode

Kryptonvinyl:
Oboy eh!

Op you're already sleeping with a married person. No matter what I do I this life, I'll never sleep with a married person.

Anyways to the topic, you're generalizing. Not every woman will do that. Watch what u say

That you don't sleep with a married woman doesn't mean someone won't sleep with yours in future. Life is not 1+1...it's not straight forward. Now, can u say it's cos ladies generally date older men including married men, that that is why younger gals do sleep with their husband? Don't we see a woman who was a virgin when she married yet, younger slay queen are sleeping with her husband? Oga go and sleep with ya nursery schl logic

Nackzy:
Not all faithful wives will, dose it mean your mum can Bleep other men if your dad is broke,,not vex ooo naa jst follow up

Anywoman including your mom will fvck other men when your Dad is too broke. My Dad wasn't broke to warrant such...and my mom was never this social media generation

They go out and fvck tonnes of pvssy to erase their mind...and they never allow heartbreak happen to them, so they start breaking heart.

Nobody plans to be broke, sometimes life and circumstances unplanned just happen.
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But for married men, the experience is not an easy one to manage as regard to being the breadwinner of the family and gaining the trust and respect of your wife.
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Women generally respond better to a financially bouyant and responsible husband. When you struggle to meet up with family expenses, it's a matter of time before your wife reacts and start giving attitude. Some women are understanding and will help out, but a financially tight men easily stress an hardworking woman which can be overwhelming for her.
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When the money is not coming from the main source, she may develop distrust, anger and depression, which in turn affects sex life and energy level at home. Little issue quickly leads to quarell and malice to the point that the wife might feel underappreciated or unloved.

Over time, the persistence of such situation will make her more vulnerable to advances from guys out there who are doing well and promising her some fun and passion she's lacking at home. This is reality. And even virtuous women do fall at this point just to find happiness away from home stress.
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I've seen this countless time even as a bachelor and it makes me get scared of my future marriage.
Talking from experience I've dated married women who happen to be in this situation, many of them feel bad, but they need that spark and passion from their man, which they eventually get outside.
I'm keeping an open mind, even when I'll marry, I believe such thing can happen. Men should make money to cater for the family, otherwise have in mind your faithful wife may start fucking around when money is not there. It even get easier with social media where they get tonnes of attention from Hot men everyday. Even wives of rich husband do fall, let alone the one of broke men.
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As I write, a very homely, beautiful, gentle and innocent looking housewife is having same issue that I'm now her emotional support. It's only time before we start fvcking cos we are already building sexual tension and preparing to meet. That's just life, there's nothing can be done about reality. Though it's sad.

FeliciaOja:
If She Took Her 4 months to Accept your Proposal
Then it means, She had other men who she was interested in and messing with
After experimenting with other suitors for 4 months, she probably got dumped and now she is looking for you to wife her up

Op, dump her and never look back

So woman wey geh sense still dey Nairaland

Liposure:
will u bow 2 pressure

I can only bow to pressure of having a kid...and I can impregnate a sensible woman to ease that pressure and continue my life if need be...but for pressure to get marriage..I won't at the moment, until those concern I listed are covered

If no woman will prove to me beyond reasonable doubt that she's worth a longtime investment and that she will really make marriage worth it for me, forget it, I may not marry cos I can't see what's in it for me that I can't get without it

If I desperately need a child, I will impregnate a stable working class lady. If I needed food badly, I would employ a cook. If pvssy is my issue, I will get on short fvckmate dates..or FWB.

But for the stress of a nagging, fickle wife and the overwhelming responsibility of marriage, a woman has to convinced me it's worth it, that she will give me rest. otherwise, I will live my life as detailed above, and pursue my own personal ambition. I know what makes me happy at my present age. And I can't see marriage in the picture of my happiness until I'm proven wrong by a woman which I know itst gonno be hard...cos I can't even trust my wife.

I make about 200k monthly...yet no drive or future plan for marriage..no fiancee sef...

youthsinitiativ:
Na hotel dey put mattress for bare floor?

Yeye bloggers

it's possible I've straffed a gal before in a short time lodge like that..the mattress was big but on the floor

Audio cars

oluspicy:
Valid points raised.

At the end of the day frustration will make them jump from one prayer house to another, from one mountain to another in search of husband.

You dey mind then

incogni2o:
You say she is a good Woman, A good Woman will rather speak to her Husband wisely, not in the open where the Man's ego is offended.

A good Woman should know commanding her Husband to apologize wouldn't go down well.

Your Friend is obviously wrong.

The Wife can be Better in handling Him.

I was already looking for a comment like this, cos most guys up there are just saying thrash as if they don't understand man's ego. How can she support other men's action against her husband's action in the presence of those friend? No matter what she has to be wise about it and don't hurt the ego of the man. Cos that in itself is disrespectful.

She has no business with issues between friends. She should keep shut in public.

And should I say that friend has a problem. He should stay in his house and look for something doing. How can my wife be calling my friend several times to apologise for issue we had together. If you understand what I mean, something may be cooking in the background softly...And the husband is very smart, and right to act as a real man by shutting her up. That's how it starts, they support other guy against their man in the name of peace and being nice, before u know it,the other guy is already fucking them.
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If she wants to leave she should leave. I wouldn't expect my woman to disrespect me in the public too in the name of mediating in issues. Men issues should be left to men. The woman should go and apologise first for being silly. And I'm sure the man will calm down. There's no issue if she apologises. And the man should never apologise until she also realises that it's wrong to hurt your man's ego supporting other men in public.

Sierusvirus:
Because they don’t appreciate kind men but rather hard and difficult men to deal with them.

you dey mind dem

SweetCunt97:
My dear, location is never a barrier for kindness.

Yes. Maybe..and probably not a barrier to pummel a sweetcunt97 times

Justbehave:
Becareful make trailer no jam you.

Sure...I know what I'm doing....eyes don open taytay

SweetCunt97:
Me I'm available for kindness o. I don't abuse kindness

Unfortunately if u are an exception your location is Abuja..would have given u a try

Yes this sounds like generalization, enough anecdotal evidence is to me enough to generalize this habit of ladies and many guys can confirm this.
When a man decides to relate with a woman based on goodwill and not treating her casually or badly like bad boys, they quickly take it for granted. Why? Some even make it look like they are smarter than you or have certain power over you because you act with charity and generously towards them. Lol.
Many of them probably deserve the meanness they get from guys who maltreat them cos it seems they get certain high and personal self worth from being treated like thrash. I think it's their psychology, though unfortunate. To change this habit, if they can, they have to be intentional and aware of this attitude; cos otherwise, smart men will use it against them by treating them badly and still manipulate them to get their money, sex and respect.
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It's funny even a regular gal u know as slut, who u just decide to relate with kindness cos it costs you nothing, even though u know how guys treat her badly. Yet, she also takes it for granted.
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The truth is many men are intentionally stingy with women cos they know when women percieve them to be kind, they start acting important and misbehaving. So not all men are really stingy, but the attitude of women make many men to restrain their giving towards women. Before you know it, the gal will say he's a Maga. Lol. Imagine calling a Millionaire who only gives you 50k, 100k a Maga. And they think he's a fool. That's the point. Na their problem Sha. Be too kind to a woman, sooner he will take you for granted, even disrespect you.

Goovo:
Yes he is the one.
Is this ur total package?

That statement alone cracked me up like mad the day I saw the comedy....

Goovo:
Yes he is the one.
Is this ur total package?

That statement alone cracked me up like mad the day I saw the comedy....

Abeg is this the guy that said "Oluwa wetin dey occur" in one comedy like this?

harry2sexy:
Let me paint a scenario in the view to showing you how important money is over game, any day, any time and twice on a friday.

A not so eye-catching young man during his teenage days read everything from puas and probably got a success rate of 4/10.

Fast forward to a few years later, dude's got a source of income raking in 500k as a bachelor, has an Air conditioned 1 bedroom flat, has a corolla, wearing designer perfumes, quality wrist matches,good shoes and overall has improved his dress sense and is always dressing dope.

The difference in the few year later is at this point, wherever he steps into, bank, church, shoprite, wedding parties, mosque, club houses, taking a walk, his overall outlook commands respect unlike when he was a teen where he had to cram lines like
"hello, fine girl, can i follow u cos my mum said i should always follow my dreams."

Overall, hustling for the dough will give u a chance to approach any girl, in whatever setting there is. On the aspect of spending, we all know there's poverty in Nigeria and everybody is trying to scam everybody. This is where your street sense should come alive. Things like, "please baby, my rent has expired, my mum is sick, my school fees is not complete" should earn her the block button cos at this point you're the prize, not her.

I'm not against going to the park or eatery and just having fun but breaking the bank, i nor gree for that one.
I've said enough, una bye bye

It's a very simple thing. Some just don't want to admit the obvious. Where game ends, money begins

luminouz:


*shrugs*

Money is money, its hold on you is equivalent to the what value you place on it.

Nighty night.

Nobody sha one gree

y3mi:
Why should money be the transformative force ? I can understand and relate to it if you had said a guy may suppresses certain attributes he knows is in his personality but can't let it flow for lack of money to sustain or best express it, but to say money is the only thing that can effect it transformstion implies you never hsd it in the first place. To buttress this, I'd like to illustrate a typical scenario in as far as Nigerian goes, if you had me borrowe you my ride, say a 2009 Camry, to go woo a chic, there's a limit to the swag you can let out to impress her, depending on your personality ofcourse. But let's say that never occured but rather you happen to hit jackpot or won a huge contract and therefore could afford yourself a Ferrari, drove to a car wash and spotted that same chic across the street busy with something, now it would take only guys who believes a lady's worth can only be measured by the amount of money he has to begin dangle the key to his Ferrari at every given instant he chats/flirts with her, so I need you to note that not every guy would do that, someone like me wouldn't even get any Sportscar because of girls, only guys / men who as you've said are formed with the notion that only money has the effect of transforming or bringing out in them a personality they never really had, which makes me wonder what happens to that transformative effect and the unreal persona it brought out if, or when the money is no longer there, vanishes.

You also said...
Women like guys with high social value and standing, I think such thinking is rather skewed. I think what you actually meant to say is...there are women who are attracted to guys with high social value and standing.

I think why some of us have engaged you on this topic as opposition is how you have stereotyped both gender in your new found perception of reality upon which you hastily draw a conclusion that fundamentally collapse on itself.

All women gravitate towards a man of higher social value. That's a fact about women....

The transformative effect of money and success can not be measured, it is only experienced... except you as a person has wide life exposure and experience which, of course, a poor person wouldn't get in Nigeria's context. What money and success does is extending you your social circle of quality people. There are certain area, bar, hotel, travel spot that quality rich people frequent that a poor person will never get to let alone meeting someone of that calibre. Money expands your circle and its quality, that's what I mean. I don't mean having money and using it to buy people or sex.
Money even improves swaggs, take it or leave it. If you are well to do, the way you talk, you walk and reason will differ...these are the transformative effect I talk about....And you can't say money doesn't improve one's self esteem by the quality of exposure and people you associate with. My point is so simple ..