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I still believe that a ban on open grazing is a step in the right direction because this has been a major cause of insecurity in the country. Anambra just signed the bill into law today.

Quite sad

tycoon3:
Good morning house, I started noticing something on my fore head like eczema I have used creams funbact A and likes still the same, I also used some drugs to flush the system maybe it was dirt in the blood still the same, then I visited the hospital and was told it's a fungi infection that I don't need drugs or injection for it, I was given a tube cream to rub on it morning and night I even bought another one after that got finished still the same, though the doctor said if it's still the same after rubbing the cream that I should visit a dermatologist, I visited a general hospital it was a full day with out result, please doctor in the house help. What do I need to do to get my normal skill back this is irritating.

Doctors in the house help. It's inching and scratching when there is heat

Guy, I bought this Mckoll skin treatment from a Nairalander and that drum can cure any skin infection.

Quite sad, even worse when the vehicle is tinted

Good to know that these Nigerian youths are doing great and excelling outside this country, while our leaders still believe that we are lazy and prefer to address us as such. We will only ask for the opportunity and an enabling environment in Naija and then watch us turn things for the progress of the country. My two kobo

Lindner:
Long story!!

In an interview, I was asked to narrate a really tensed sitiation and how I navigated it.

I remembered my NYSC days, I lived inside Letmauck Cantonement, Mokola Barracks, Ibadan. Year was 2008.

The wife of an Army Officer( a Major) hired me to tutor their three young kids after school. Unknown to me, it was the woman that needed tutoring on how to read English(she couldn't read nor write). She spoke only pidgin.

We agreed the fees (weekly), and I started. She would later open up to me that she needed tutoring as well. For a relatively long time, I didnt meet the Major himself. I would have left before he returned from work. I was a teacher at St Luis Grammar school just behind the barracks.

Long story short, I started teaching the woman too after she increased my weekly fee. But I noticed the woman would rather gist with me than learn. Being a student of emotional intelligence myself, I reckoned she needed someone to gist with in that ghostly environment like the Officer's Quaters. A full time house wife and in that environment. The other end of the barrack where soldiers ans corpers live was more fun and populated . As long as I was paid, we would gist all afternoon. We soon became friends. I even stopped teaching the kids. They were super sharp, intelligent, restless and troublesome. But every Friday, she never missed my payment.

One faithful Friday afternoon, the Major came home early, that was the first time I ever saw his face. I rightly assumed all the money I was being handsomely paid came from him since the wife was a full house wife.

I stood up to greet him but I couldn't tell if he was angry, sad or just being his military self. He didn't bother to respond, he just went upstairs. His wife followed him immediately.

After about 15 minutes, he came back to join me. He asked how much I was being paid, I told him. He asked if his wife mentioned why she needed to learn how to read, I told him I assumed it was for self improvement. Meanwhile, I had been collecting money weekly for several weeks and this woman could not read jack. We would rather chat, gist and laugh.

The Major went to the TV area and gave me a card, it was their wedding invitation card in 2 weeks time. He mentioned that they never got married before the kids. In short, at the wedding, the woman would be required to read a long vow or something like that. It was a Methodist or Anglican church along Bodija.

He said, given his status both in the church and in the army, he must not be embarrassed by his wife's inability to read. That was the whole reason for the lesson that we turned into chatting sessions. He said it was mandatory that I attended to witness the result of my tutoring. The whole conversion lasted for about 10 minutes and it sounded more like subtle threats and one man trying to dominate another man.

How did the woman not mention her wedding and the real reason she was learning how to read? How could I make her read in two weeks? Should we just memorize the whole text of the program? My mind started racing. I lived at the other end of the barracks, the Major knows where I worked as well. No way I could escape. I had collected a lot of money already and I was 100% certain he would be embarrassed on that day.

I did what I could in two weeks. Attending the wedding for me was like a cow going to the slaughter. My heart was pounding and was literally in my mouth. I knew the woman could not still read even after practicing the texts many times.

It was a beautiful military wedding. I sat at the back, then two guys came and said something like "O boy, oga say make we sit beside you". Which oga? They said "Major". I knew I was in deep shit. Prior to that time, a corper colleague had to be locked up in the guard room for dating a soldier's sister. Ordinary soldier. This was a Major about to be embarrassed in front of his friends, colleagues, juniors and church members. Of course, he wouldn't beat his wife, I figured I would carry all the blame and possibly return every penny I collected.

Sitting through the wedding was the most tensed period of my entire adult life. Gruelling 3 hours!. Second was waiting for my HIV test result. Of course, she fumbled, woefully at that. It was a disaster. That moment you want to hide under the seat. The officiating minster had to take charge of the situation to save face. I'm sure he wasn't aware.

As they where matching out of the church through the guards or what do they call them. Those guys that carry sticks and couples pass under them. I was seriously looking at the Major's face. His facial expression would inform me of my likely fate. His face was always expressionless but today, it was important to read those expressions so as to know my next line of action. Either to pick the next available bus back to my state and never return or something like that. But again, there's the problem of the soldiers beside me.

Conclusion.

The Major didn't have my time on that day, I guess he was occupied with the guests and all. I got lost in the crowd but never returned home directly. I slept at a colleagues room like 10 blocks away from ours. I could remember, ours was block 36 Engineering block. The soldiers sent to sit next to me also probably didn't know the reason and we all dispersed. My room mate and other corper colleagues that knew the background were waiting for the full gist of what happened. That night, I was waiting for that "gulf 3" visit. Gulf car was reigning at the time. They used gulf to pick you up to treat unofficial f**k ups.

The next day, I received a call from the Major's wife to come down to the Officer's Quarters. She didn't thank me for attending the wedding or for my tutoring or say anything that I could draw conclusions on about the mood of the situation. I was too paralysed to even congratulate her. Why would she be the one to call me given what happened at the wedding? I had heard all sorts of stories about what happens in the guard room, true or untrue, I never wanted to experience any of it. I put myself in the Major's shoes. No man should experience what he passed though in those few minutes at the altar. The Church became very quiet. Some people could not even look up.

Approaching the building, I saw the Major and one of the soldiers from yesterday and behold, the Gulf car!!.

I went straight down on my knees and then on my chest, flat on the floor in public view. My colleague had told me that was the only way I could lessen my punishment. But the Officer's Quaters was too quiet and lonely to gain any public pity and possibly help. The Major looked confused. I started apologizing and promised to even refund him. His kids (2 boys, 1 girl) started laughing.

The wife came out laughing as well, but in her hands was what I would later find out to be cake wrapped in those aluminium foils for me. The Major and the soldier just looked at me as if I was less of a man, rolling on the floor without even being accused of anything yet. Apparently, the Gulf car belonged to the soldier. The poor man was not even angry at me. I died multiple times throughout the night thinking about what evil was about to befall me. But all was just in my mind.

The wife would later tell me that she warned her husband before the Wedding not to waste his money on tutoring her. She felt she was hopeless at education.

Not sure I have read any better story on Nairaland. So interesting that I have gone through it 5 times and seriously laughed hard.

Knowledge is power, thanks for sharing this information which is very helpful for travelers. Prayer will also cover every other person.

I have been using a 2003 Toyota Sienna for the past 5 years and will always give a thumbs up to that vehicle due to its performance and also being spacious. Users of this ride understands how reliable it is and commercial drivers will not trade off the MPV for any other one.
Anyway of recent mine had to be sold as a result of constant harassment by law enforcement agents as Sienna is believed to be used by oil bunkerers and armed robbers. I am usually stopped at every police check point and will be thoroughly searched for any form of weapon or contraband item.
It has become worse now that ungun known men believe so much in the vehicle especially in the eastern region. I will therefore not advise a private person to get a Sienna, my two kobo.

I have been using a 2003 Toyota Sienna for the past 5 years and will always give a thumbs up to that vehicle due to its performance and also being spacious. Users of this ride understands how reliable it is and commercial drivers will not trade off the MPV for any other one.
Anyway of recent mine had to be sold as a result of constant harassment by law enforcement agents as Sienna is believed to be used by oil bunkerers and armed robbers. I am usually stopped at every police check point and will be thoroughly searched for any form of weapon or contraband item.
It has become worse now that ungun known men believe so much in the vehicle especially in the eastern region. I will therefore not advise a private person to get a Sienna, my two kobo.

Dskillful:
Please don't mind my errors but I need help because I am really confused...

To cut the story short, I dated a girl for 2 years which her family and mine are fully aware, she's an Igbo girl and I am from Rivers State.

2018 I wanted to get married to her all of a sudden her parents refused, they started talking about tribal differences, I told them even my mum is an Igbo woman but they don't want to to listen. It got worst when the Rev. Fr said no they should not allow her marry me because they are Catholic. I felt very bad, but how will I do, I moved on with my life.

That same year they gave her out in marriage to one guy who based abroad, I congratulated her without any grudges. They got married and this year the man died but they have a son, the man has been buried but I still love her and she is willing to come back to me, infact as it stands we are more than lovers.

But I am giving her space so that she will mourn her husband very well and I don't want people to feel I prayed for the man to die so that I can take her back, because she said nothing will stop her this time. My problem now is should I let her go or marry her because I love her so much 100%?

My guy be very careful as this lady do not truly love you. Why didn't nothing stop her the first time and now she can swear because it will be more difficult for a widow with a son to get married. My wife is from a different tribe and a catholic too, but she resisted her parents and we still got married. POWER OF LOVE.
Also find out what killed her husband, good to know sha.

PHC cars always expensive, N2.6m for a 2003 Camry.

ambr055i:
Please, I need your advice because right now I'm confused about where to go, it's a lifelong decision.

I just turned 34 last month, still living with my uncle, but no pressure on his part is a big house. Currently, I teach in a school where my net salary and my home lesson inclusive are approx. N 100000 a month. I have a master's degree in engineering, so I haven't put that certificate to use. I have a saving of 900k, it will be higher by December. Although it would have been more than that, I lost 400,000 to the detriment of a bad investment. Last two years, I had an illness that struck (ENT related), which doesn't have a cure. One of the symptoms is vertigo (a sensation of feeling off-balance). This made me change my mind about travelling. For a few months now, I haven't had the experience.

I have three thoughts, but I can only do one at a time.

Firstly, leave my uncle's house, get an apartment. Use the rest of the money to start a business as a side hustle while working with the school.

Secondly, leave my uncle's house, get an apartment. Next, I invest my time in a tech skill (web dev, programming or data science).

Thirdly, travel to the US for my PhD program. I have already been preparing for my GRE before now.

Thank you.

My dear if you have an opportunity to do a Phd in USA, dont play with it at all. ENT health issue will be properly taken care of, also the trust God and believe for the best.

Sickle cell disease affects mainly blacks where it is predominant and yet these whites are spending time and resources finding the cure while we are here killing ourselves and discussing grazing routes. Malaria is killing so much every year and yet not much money is spent for research work on vaccine.

Abeg who do us this kin thing

JustNumb:
Hey guys I'll just be brief.

Straight to the point.

My wife is having an emotional affair.

Whats making it worse?

It's with a pastor with wife and children. Her pastor when she was in another state.

Now they're both in different states.

How did I know?

I saw her chat with him about 2+ years ago, and saw all the sweet name calling, the pet names and how they tell each other their activities of the day and even marital problems.

All the red flags and checklist of an emotional affair have been ticked by them.

The only thing remaining is the sexual part.

We've been married for some years now, she was a virgin when I married her though I'm 100% sure they have not met since we got married.

But the issue here is that this is causing serious friction in our marriage.

When I first saw it, I gave some time to be sure and I confronted her and she denied and said he's just her pastor (denial is one of the checklist).

Some months later they didn't stop the communication, I was about to tell her mum cos she visited. She pleaded and I let it slide.

Fast forward to 2021 they are still in communication. This time around the so called pastor is even always reminding her to clear chats so I won't see it.

Now emotional affair is actually worse than sexual affair
This pastor has a wife. I just pity the wife cos I can imagine how she would also be feeling.

I provide for the home, I also had to change from biz to the one that makes me travel to something that makes me work from home so she won't say it's cos I'm not always around.

We struggle with our sex life. What do I mean? She doesn't like sex. She doesn't mind if we stay 1 year without sex.

But me I'm a man with sexual needs.

Now when I see the way she doesn't like sex and I remember this emotional affair, it drives me crazy.


Those who have passed thru this, how did you overcome this challenge?
I don't want a broken home for my children cos sometimes I feel like calling her people and telling them to take their daughter back. Infact I'll dash them the bride price.

Do I go and get a side chick? But that won't solve my problem.

Guys come to my aid.

Cos if we discuss this again, this will be the 3rd time we're talking about same issue and same guy.

Sorry wasn't brief

Dont get a side chick, simply have a honest discussion with her. Also bear in mind that jealousy may be part of your problem. You do not like men talking to your wife.

[quote author=Xlyad post=106479943][/quote]Thanks, this is a confirmation of the work done by Dejt4u.

dejt4u:
I will post my solution later today

Okay, thanks.

dejt4u:
From my end, my answer is 97970

Can we see it, I tried reaching you earlier.

BlowYourMind:
He was seeing vision under the influence of strong alcohol when tinubu is good but osibanjo is better and the best for Nigeria

Osibanjo is the best option for Nigeria, the country may never recover if we miss this opportunity.

Mad, restarted my phone severally.

Kehindeaj78:
I live outside the country but I entrusted my house development with my parents in Nigeria, but they leave in a rented apartment. They're are due for new rent payment at their rented apartment which i sent them the money, only for them to call me that they don't want to rent another apartment again and have moved into my ongoing house and used the money to do somethings in the ongoinghouse. What do I do?

When you were collecting money from them to buy photosynthesis and amoeba, did you consult us. They have the right to enjoy your money considering their contribution to your welfare.

Let's hope that in the coming weeks the government will arrest the violators of this law and bring them to justice. Farms are being destroyed by this herders.

phr33man:
Here it is

Special thanks my brother, this is much clearer. May God richly reward you.

Christistruth00:
Governors don’t need to enforce the law they only need to tell the Area boys they are free to eat any Cow Grazing along the roads

and the Law will enforce itself

Exactly, and the cows will simply disappear. We can't continue to live in the 15th century.

phr33man:
Check this out. Feel free to ask questions

Thanks so much. Though I will be happy if you can break down the expansions on the work.

We still have a long way to go in this country, when banditry, kidnapping and violence is on the increase people still have time to spend on things that do not improve our lives in any way. Can't we have fans for people in IDP camp or supporting orphans and other less privileged persons rather than people who have succeeded in distracting us from fighting this corrupt government.

Showing unclothedness and immoral scene have now become a positive contribution to the society. My two kobo

jetwonder:
All Things Are Possible To Them That Believed!

Exactly my brother

HRHQueenPhil:
That ur friend Na man
He shld have talked to them before being revengeful

Queen, he had approached them several times all to no avail.

Please where can I watch this match online?
I am currently working offshore.

Guys, please help me solve this mathematical problem.

If α, β beta are the roots of the equation x² + 3x = 5
Find α8 + β8 (α to power 8 + β to power .

lagusboyyy:
With its high rate of theft

Maybe peace of mind means another thing in your dictionary.

Thanks, but kind words doesn't cost much.

Toyota Camry 2005 is okay as the car is very rugged with fairly good fuel efficiency and quite easy to maintain. Please go for a direct toks though I am wondering why Toyota Corolla 2005 is not on the list. The second name is Peace (if you know you know).

Xscape1993:
I will give you 900k cash.

A good offer