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Re: My Parents Move In To My Ongoing New House Without My Consent by MeghaneMorgane(f): 10:56am On Oct 04, 2021 |
brownlolly: He cannot sha chase them out. Na the man cause am from the beginning, maybe he made his parents think it is only his money he was using. So how do you expect the parents to behave if he gave them the impression that it was all his money from the start. Because his parents seem like good people, for them to have actually built the house up to that stage. Also, this is the first person I’m meeting not considering putting his parents in his plans and planning a permanent accommodation for them while making plans of a permanent accommodation for himself and his immediate family. Na the man’s fault. He should have discussed everything with his wife from the beginning. Anyway, as the situation is right now, maybe they need to talk to someone their parents will listen to, a pastor or someone else. Let the person talk to his parents. I wish him all the best |
Re: My Parents Move In To My Ongoing New House Without My Consent by obokuntravels: 10:57am On Oct 04, 2021 |
It happened to a friend of mine who is based in Canada but what he did was, he completed the building and let his parents there since they love the house and after 2years, he build another one for himself. So bro, respect the decision of your parents, seek for their blessings not their curse....shalom |
Re: My Parents Move In To My Ongoing New House Without My Consent by perryy(m): 10:58am On Oct 04, 2021 |
Eject them out of your house and face death very soon. Useless son that married a useless woman. If na your wife mama enter that house, will you come here to be saying this trash. Your uselss wife told us your parents begged you to let them in but you refused. What else do u expect them to do ? To continue moving from one rented apartment to the other while thier son has a house uninhabited by anyone! Who does that ? Eject them from that house let people eject you from life on behalf of your parents. |
Re: My Parents Move In To My Ongoing New House Without My Consent by Lenient001: 11:01am On Oct 04, 2021 |
Bro, u have to consider the house their's. Because u can't send them out of there and if u can't live with them when u finally come back. It would be ideal for you to rent an apartment for yourself (THIS IS NIGERIA). |
Re: My Parents Move In To My Ongoing New House Without My Consent by Efe42(m): 11:07am On Oct 04, 2021 |
Sir please I need any help from anyone right now I'm really stress out right now sometimes I feel so sad about my life I couldn't attend higher institution due to lack of fund but I'd attend vocational skills acquisition on welding and fabrication and I'd round up my skills program since 2018. but since then I haven't gotten any job or reliable source of income feed from hand to mouth the pandemic starvation mode is something I'll not forget in my life some month's back. I've been carrying my CV like my house key all day from one company gate to another and now I'm very sick with no money to buy drug's or food my account balance is just #200 please help sir anyone please |
Re: My Parents Move In To My Ongoing New House Without My Consent by tonididdy(m): 11:09am On Oct 04, 2021 |
Kehindeaj78:Your parents are smart. They are saving you years of paying unnecessary rents when their son has a house. I advice you to make it more conducive for them to live in. After all I doubt if you are ever returning to Nigeria permanently. So no fuss abeg.... You should be hapoy |
Re: My Parents Move In To My Ongoing New House Without My Consent by IZUKWU(m): 11:10am On Oct 04, 2021 |
Kehindeaj78:where are you building this house? In the city or villa. Which type of structure are you putting up. For what purpose ? For rentage or just for your own house. |
Re: My Parents Move In To My Ongoing New House Without My Consent by Gaddafi1: 11:13am On Oct 04, 2021 |
Kehindeaj78: When you were collecting money from them to buy photosynthesis and amoeba, did you consult us. They have the right to enjoy your money considering their contribution to your welfare. |
Re: My Parents Move In To My Ongoing New House Without My Consent by brownlolly(m): 11:13am On Oct 04, 2021 |
MeghaneMorgane: Lol parents, pastors, typical cycle, o di woro si woro. Africa smh 2 Likes |
Re: My Parents Move In To My Ongoing New House Without My Consent by frozen70(f): 11:15am On Oct 04, 2021 |
Kehindeaj78: Well they are your parents but should have informed you about it Is it possible you build a small apartment for them in another land if you have the money All the same, so far the rest members of the family knows that the lams and house belongs to you, just be careful with them |
Re: My Parents Move In To My Ongoing New House Without My Consent by Hezzyluv: 11:15am On Oct 04, 2021 |
DWJOBScom: Well, you can choose to delete emotions from your lyf style completely or try your best possible to build repulsive force on it "na you get yourself" @bold, what makes you think before me your were and who told you ain't gat house? |
Re: My Parents Move In To My Ongoing New House Without My Consent by Trojan8(m): 11:23am On Oct 04, 2021 |
Acidosis: 1 Like |
Re: My Parents Move In To My Ongoing New House Without My Consent by Trojan8(m): 11:24am On Oct 04, 2021 |
cococandy: Well that's the focus of the entire post. |
Re: My Parents Move In To My Ongoing New House Without My Consent by chrisj2(m): 11:31am On Oct 04, 2021 |
MeghaneMorgane: So the Bible will side with a parent that has a child and choose not to do the needful? Parenting and being a parent is not a quid quo pro arrangement! If you don't look after your children then you are not worthy of being a parent. Parent is completely at fault - no blame shifting will change that fact; and they have totally embarrassed the husband with his wife and the in-laws that will know about this. So the wife and her family do not have a say in this. Most couples abroad struggle with 2 incomes and this is not about men just being in charge of things... The parents must have known the circumstances but still have ulterior motives - sad! Lots of advice out there telling folks abroad to be careful trusting family - but this sort of things will continue to happen. Pity 2 Likes |
Re: My Parents Move In To My Ongoing New House Without My Consent by OfficialAPCNig: 11:32am On Oct 04, 2021 |
alpontif:Imagine. Such arrogance. alpontif:Another sweeping claim from a supposed wise man. alpontif:Every culture is community based. Stop making stupid claims. alpontif:Another sweeping claim. alpontif:This is not African. It's universal and stupidity is sacrificing personal happiness for social validation. alpontif:And the emotional blackmail begins here. alpontif:And the Op gave them money to rent their apartment. alpontif:Who are you to tell a man what his primary objective should be? Such arrogance. alpontif:Living for social validation means you have self esteem problem. You need help boss. alpontif:This shows you are a control freak. alpontif:You are obsessed with social validation.Unfortunately, not every man lives for social validation, like yourself. alpontif:Don't impose your flawed views on the Op. He knows his priorities. alpontif:Go work on yourself Mr man. His nuclear comes first before anything. He should get his parents new apartment. They have no business inconveniencing him and the wife 4 Likes |
Re: My Parents Move In To My Ongoing New House Without My Consent by FlipModeSquade(m): 11:37am On Oct 04, 2021 |
Ikillbrokehoes:That depends on which kind of parents they were.. |
Re: My Parents Move In To My Ongoing New House Without My Consent by chrisj2(m): 11:43am On Oct 04, 2021 |
neyobills: I have no need to build a house in Nigeria - there are family houses that I can stay or hotel or Airbnb. I live a simple live and can manage anywhere - why would I be so stupid to build a big house just for show. People should stop assuming the house belongs to man and that it is for him to come and live. Folks abroad want to invest their money and Nigeria give so much better returns on investment - simple as that! If people are continually discouraged to invest at home from abroad - it is the country that will suffer... Lastly, I am making plans for my retirement and old age - so I will not be needing financial assistance from the children - just their love and attention. I so intend to leave a big inheritance because statistically a lot of black people leave very little for the next generation. I am even ready to downsize to a smaller apartment so that my kids can get on the property ladder. I am responsible for them - not the other way round! 2 Likes |
Re: My Parents Move In To My Ongoing New House Without My Consent by Blackdisciple(m): 11:54am On Oct 04, 2021 |
Well continue the house till finish , then if there is still space in your yard later on start up another one just beside the ongoing house so they can move in to that one after everything. |
Re: My Parents Move In To My Ongoing New House Without My Consent by DWJOBScom(m): 12:00pm On Oct 04, 2021 |
Hezzyluv: Learning and flexibility must be tough |
Re: My Parents Move In To My Ongoing New House Without My Consent by sorepco(m): 12:05pm On Oct 04, 2021 |
More problematic then. Or maybe u told them it was your house? What if ur wife wants her folks to also move in? Let your folks know its owned by you n your wife.....that own the property! Kehindeaj78: 1 Like |
Re: My Parents Move In To My Ongoing New House Without My Consent by Iyajelili(f): 12:12pm On Oct 04, 2021 |
I hate people who seek advice on something clearer than water. Firstly, as the wife, I'm done contributing to any project with my husband. I'll only carry out my personal projects without even his knowledge. Secondly, as the husband, since my parents has taken the house with force as a compensation for "raising and taking care of me", I don't owe them anything anymore. Also, if the house is still uncompleted, they'll have to complete it on their own or live in it like that. My advice to any serious bachelor on nairaland, listen to nairaland guys advice at your own peril. 1 Like |
Re: My Parents Move In To My Ongoing New House Without My Consent by Advancedman(m): 12:12pm On Oct 04, 2021 |
FahBuLous:You think it will be easy to move them out, Before you comment on sensitive issue like this first ask questions. 1 Like |
Re: My Parents Move In To My Ongoing New House Without My Consent by slevan: 12:34pm On Oct 04, 2021 |
Your parents labour build house, you no.wan make them live I. Who go come live there. Guy, you get work to onon yourself. |
Re: My Parents Move In To My Ongoing New House Without My Consent by enesexy(f): 12:39pm On Oct 04, 2021 |
Kehindeaj78:please don't listen to those people asking what will you do, tell them the truth about both you and your wife contribution for the house. You and your family should come to an agreement that they will be there pending you and your wife will need the house... This is one of the reasons why I will never build a house with my husband. 1 Like |
Re: My Parents Move In To My Ongoing New House Without My Consent by neyobills: 12:43pm On Oct 04, 2021 |
chrisj2: Oh so u have no problems staying in a family house so why chastise an aged couple who decides to stay in their sons house that can also be rightly called a family house No one is assuming anything but you,let’s just say the house isn’t his for real even though he stated otherwise how does it hurt the investor that his parents decide to stay in a not to completed house,he didn’t say it was a finished and tastefully furnished apartment,how will his parents investing their rent money on the property affect the returns on his investment maybe you should give us your economical blueprint how this will affect the investor. Lastly you are making plans for retirement and I hope the come true for you and mine as well but until that happens it’s still wishful thinking,I’m sure those parents had their retirement plans too,bringing it to fruition is another kettle of fish and we need Gods grace as well to make it happen,perhaps their retirement plan was sending their kid to school,their kid their choice,u have no right to chastise their choice of investment if u haven’t fed them before. All this black people self hating crew self,where did u conduct your statistics that black people leave very inheritance behind,in saner climes no one cares much about an older folks inheritance when there is social security and safety net,abundance of jobs and opportunities,I’m sure you must have heard white people given up estate inheritances to their pets and no one raises the roof over there,how many black people have given their inheritance to cats? You had better jolt yourself back into reality with this story so we won’t be using u as an example too someday,hustle harder and pray for Gods as well,remember the ice says it’s solid too until u put some heat on it. |
Re: My Parents Move In To My Ongoing New House Without My Consent by Isaacify: 12:46pm On Oct 04, 2021 |
I advise you try building another house depending on your pocket, they are your parents and that's an average Nigerian parents mentality, probably a bungalow if you're building a duplex earlier, and get them pack into it before proceeding with your main dupe. |
Re: My Parents Move In To My Ongoing New House Without My Consent by alpontif(m): 12:53pm On Oct 04, 2021 |
OfficialAPCNig: You are even more daft than I assumed before. Seeking Social Validation is an essential part of any sane Human being, without that there won't be something called the Maslow's hierarchy of needs.... Psychologists know this, social scientists know this, philosophers know this, any well informed person knows this, anyone with half a brain knows this.... Therefore posing that concept as if its a flaw shows the deep gaps in your thought process. From the nonsense you have been vomiting, I can only wish you go back to school and pay attention this time, OR develop a habit of reading, so that you can better understand the sociology of human societies, why people behave the way they do, what different societies expect and how to understand societal values and understanding how to work with them for harmony in the society. There is a path to harmony, and there is another to division. The wise knows the path to pursue, I just hope readers don't get influenced by the deeply insane views you hold that can only lead to division in the African society. Eat your humble pie and open your brain to get wisdom.. E go pay you. |
Re: My Parents Move In To My Ongoing New House Without My Consent by AutoChick4U(f): 12:56pm On Oct 04, 2021 |
Kehindeaj78:OK your parents did wrong. They should have consulted you first before doing so. People complain about entitled mentality but its all round in this our society |
Re: My Parents Move In To My Ongoing New House Without My Consent by Jsucre(m): 1:01pm On Oct 04, 2021 |
Kehindeaj78:hmmmmm That's why I don't disclose my on going project to any of my family member. Until I finish the building and get my parent land and be developing it for them. Becos the money is from my wife and I purse. My wife 60% Me 40%. |
Re: My Parents Move In To My Ongoing New House Without My Consent by AutoChick4U(f): 1:01pm On Oct 04, 2021 |
But why are most Nigerians unfair to those abroad? These people work very hard to earn but people here will wanna exploit them. Its sad 3 Likes |
Re: My Parents Move In To My Ongoing New House Without My Consent by Jsucre(m): 1:02pm On Oct 04, 2021 |
Isaacify:correct |
Re: My Parents Move In To My Ongoing New House Without My Consent by AutoChick4U(f): 1:04pm On Oct 04, 2021 |
Isaacify:Contribution from both spouse. Wetin him go tell him wife? |
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