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pocohantas:
Lol. You perfectly described me and my mum too. Seems our Naija mothers run on same OS o. The things they say and do are way too similar to be a coincidence

I've learned a lot from your post. I will keep doing my best. Thanks

1Sharon:
Lool..I don't know about all of this....but I do know that she wears denim ALOT which is too casual.

She attempts to look well put together but fails at it.

ornicus:
Beyoncé , jlo and Rihanna are entertainers. Part of their job description is to look sexy. And to control the images of themselves that are released to the public. You can compare ties savage to them. Not Linda ikeji. Linda ikeji is not an entrertainer who will prance up and down on stage and do multiple dance moves.

If you are looking for a foreigner to compare Linda ikeji to, you should be looking at someone like Ariana huffington, a person who turned a blog into a media empire.

Comparing Linda ikeji to Rihanna is like comparing dangote to mc hammer in his prime.

You think female industry leaders like the heads of yahoo, or eBay are going to waste time they can put into improving their business on mindless vanity?

You think the female ceos in Nigeria are more interested in being objectified over being admired for their competence?

midnighter:
All that is speculation. You might as well assume the whole OP is a total lie if you're going to discount parts of the story just because they don't suit you

How can you ask if we were there? You could say that about any post on the whole of nairaland.

Just because she didn't do what others may do it doesn't exonerate her from her actions. [b]If she was nice she would have just carried her bag like other girls do and remove her leg from the [/b]situation

pocohantas:
I think that picture was touched to look that way.

I noticed the things you said about her, but I can't even judge her. I am like that too- pretty careless. I am getting better though... not easy I must confess.

ornicus:
She is the one who is actually working her ass off. It is hard to focus on looking beautiful when you have a hard hustle going

Laura is nothing more than an attache sister who does no actual work.

Toke makinwa is just a rich man's plaything whose only job is doing fine girl for the gram.

Linda is the businesswoman who is trying to juggle motherhood and her media empire.

It is easy to focus 100% of your effort on your body when that is all you have or are.

Jasen1:
If you get anger issues don't bother reading jare

midnighter:
She is wrong. She violated his wifes privacy just to seek petty revenge for his deceit. Is it the wifes fault that he slept with her?

She had no right to call her and start bossing her about, telling her what to do with her wedding pictures and posting them everywhere without her permission.

She loved a liar and is using it to bully somebody who had nothing to do with it. Too bad

She should have classily kept it moving if she noticed the guy was bad or kept her quarrel with the man since he deserved it. thats what so many people do

Omojudy:
All these talk wey una dey talk.
One guy did me like this when I was in between marriages, supported me, wanted to know all my people etc. 3months I had no clue as the wife and family where based elsewhere. Later I come Dey suspect one lady with him, that made me go detective.
I visited in his absence and searched the whole house. Guy was married with 5kids to wifey and the name I suspected was a gf with one kid for him.
Well, I trashed his self contained office allocated apartment, flooded it and took everything of value in it which wasn’t much by the way. I remember I had gotten him a gas cooker as he wasn’t cooking or maybe using stove when I met him, took down to bathroom slippers and small bag of rice. Lol.
Then I contacted his wife and gf and accused them of giving him chance to break other girls heart.
The wife later became my friend that he had to warn her to avoid me. The gf first said thanks to me then probably called him then called me back to change mouth, so I asked her what was her wifely position since the other lady has older and more kids for him.
Omo guy was not even remorse, he asked me if I would have left if I was already pregnant with child for him.
So Omo guy used to carry me to functions, I met his superiors etc. I could only wonder how they looked at me while I had no idea.
I don come give una forward gist wey my blog people never even reach yet.

baby124:
That she stole his wedding pictures, opened a profile on Instagram and started stalking the wife till OP put his child’s picture up? Even blaming the innocent woman who doesn’t know what this OP is up to for not putting up her family picture to warn *girls* that he is married? That girlfriend is completely crazy!!! She has known from the get go that OP was married. She was playing along and looking for proof. When girl say they dream about this and that, they have seen evidence and just want you to admit. Her dream was too exact and vivid to be a revelation! Trust me!

baby124:
The idea not to live together to her own understanding and what you made your wife believe is because of distance! You never even gave that relationship a chance because you felt *trapped*. I know you did not want that pregnancy or to get married at this time which is the grudge you are carrying against your wife! I advise you to forgive yourself, forgive her and try to make it work. Stop fighting everyone because you are the one that did the gbenshing and put the baby there. So, obviously, you liked her a lot at some point.

One thing that struck me is your girlfriends statement that the child looked like you. Which you then noticed!!! Were you at any point disputing paternity and, was that one of the stories you told madam girlfriend to get in her pants? You are a funny guy. You can bond and fall in love over chess but can’t love your own wife because she tied you down.

Your wife must be an angel to even rate you after all your bullshit behavior. Just look at the lunatic behavior your so called girlfriend displayed after finding out you were married? Compare that with your wife after all you have done to her You sure your girlfriend is really an angel? LOL

FreemanTJ:
When she eventually picked my calls, I apologized profusely. I told her i was already planning to get a separation from my wife once the child was at least 6 months. I promised I was going to see her people so we can do a traditional marriage and eventually get a divorce. She was so devastated and said she was depressed. I told her I'd been reading the marriage act and asked for her forgiveness. Then I explained why I got married to the lady and circumstances surrounding the marriage.

She said she needed to talk to someone and was suicidal, she had an exam the next day and said she wasn't thinking straight. I felt really bad as I'd grown fond of her. I kept checking on her to ensure she wasn't going to do anything stupid. We communicated from 10pm till about 5am when her folks were almost awake and till she got prepared for her exams. I tried to calm her down but she kept crying on public while talking to me.
She insisted she couldn't allow me go through with the decision of divorce and she needed to seek forgiveness from my wife and daughter. Later on she said she wanted her pound of flesh.
She later called saying she spoke to her uncle who insisted I should leave the relationship that I wasn't serious with the whole divorce process and the separation was to buy time so he could resolve with his wife and divorce doesn't take 2years and it could take longer. I was disappointed because I meant what I said when I said I was seeking separation and would marry her traditionally but I guess she was overwhelmed by her emotions and decided she would contact my wife.

I didnt think she was going to go through with the threat of contacting my wife but she did. She asked me earlier if my wife was aware she was going to contact me and I replied yes which was a lie. Eventually, she narrated it all to her and created a fake page on instagram with our wedding pictures which she found on facebook. Immediately, my wife put a call through to me and she wouldnt stop crying.
Ever since we got married I have not had sex with my wife as I never wanted the marriage. In fact I wanted to get a PhD in the UK to get out of the situation as fast as I could. She was unhappy and just wanted some privacy. She said she didnt want our wedding picture out there since it showed she was pregnant and told me to tell my gf to bring down the page on IG. I reached out to my gf but she insisted on leaving the page out there so that no one would fall prey to me. She also mentioned my wife reached out to her to bring down the page but she wouldnt as she was part of the problem. She insisted if my wife at least gave an hint she was married to me on social media then maybe she would have save alot of single ladies falling prey to married men.
I asked her to drag my if she wants but to leave my wife out of it but she claimed to have forgotten the password.
She said in fact she's helping me save my marriage that I should fix it and put my wedding pictures on social media.

ifyalways:
The type of women you attract .
One is unnecessarily vindictive and dramatic and the other stuck on you.

There are chances you can still work out things with your wife/baby momma. Can you both take a weekend out, leave the baby for the grannies and try to work/talk things out ?

ladywriter:
I've always had the dream to work as a remote content writer (not freelance) with a company. I know two top content writers in Nigeria who have achieved this lofty goal. So I kept pushing to get there. Little did I know that I was already on the path that will lead me there. Below was how it happened:

I assume you know me already. I am Ladywriter. I created this thread "https://www.nairaland.com/4479900/how-make-decent-income-writing
", and "https://www.nairaland.com/1833989/how-make-1000-month-writing".

I stopped working on Freelancer.com to start my writing biz few years ago. It was tough, but I kept going. Two years ago, I sourced clients from LinkedIn. I got about 3 clients all from Europe. I worked with these companies for some time. The least period being six months and the longest - for about 2 years. While working with them, I tried as much as possible to satisfy the clients, but one of them was difficult to please. I eventually lost two of the clients. I kept faith with the remaining one. During this period, I brushed up my seo skill, took paid writing courses worth over $300 with Jon Morrow, bought copywriting books, read virtually all of Neil Patel’s content and followed Brian Dean bumper to bumper. I also bought grammar editing tools. I just kept on learning and improving myself.

Within a year, I became a pro at writing excellent business articles that ranked high on search engines. The articles I wrote for the company began to rank high in Google for our targeted keywords and the company sales soar. The company gives incentives from time to time. For example, they give Amazon Gift cards during Christmas.

Not too long ago, the company wanted to expand its staff strength. I got a call from the CEO asking me if I would like to work for the company full time. I was highly elated! I don’t think I need to tell you my answer (lol). Dreams come true after all. My basic salary for a start is four figures in dollars which translates to six figures in naira. I couldn’t believe my eyes. To cap it all, there are many benefits attached to the job. I will have the opportunity to travel annually to participate in the company’s camp meeting. There are other side benefits apart from my salary.

People, it is good to be hardworking. I can’t begin to tell you the number of hours I spend on my laptop daily including weekends or how much I pay for data monthly. It took me about 3-4 years to get to this point with a lot of learning curves. But it eventually paid off. And this is just the beginning for me.

The truth is, there is no shortcut to success online. There is a process to follow to achieve your dreams. There is no height too high to climb if you are ready to pay the price.

I am writing this piece to encourage someone out there on the path to achieving his or her dreams or someone with a similar dream as mine.

If you are a writer and you want to achieve a similar feat, follow the steps below:

1. Learn how to write business articles
2. Learn how to do SEO
3. Learn how to source clients from LinkedIn
4. Take free and paid writing courses
5. Follow the experts

May God reward your efforts!

Blessings!

franchasng:
Studying Engineering (Mechanical especially) in Nigeria is a waste of time, that's if you truly want to make impact not just to secure job.






But I have come to realize that engineering graduates are the smartest people on earth anywhere in the world. Forget medicine, engineering graduates are trained to fit-in in any field of life unlike medical graduates who are trained to fit in only in medical line.


You can see an engineer who is also a lawyer, a banker, a pharmacist, a doctor, a singer, a spiritualist, just name it, but you can hardly find a doctor who is a lawyer or an engineer or a banker.


You won't understand this unless you are truly trained engineer.


I am an Engineer, a software developer , a law student now also planning to study history, and above all, I am also an entrepreneur, only engineering graduates can be all this because they are trained to be versatile.


Op, work towards furthering your engineering study abroad, especially in US, Europe, Russia (chemical engineering only).


You can get free scholarship to study masters in Norway, Finland, etc to give you a new experience in new environment where you can also do exchange programs.



Most of the things you will learn in Nigerian schools as an engineer will be useless when you join the real industrial world. I did my IT with two different firms in 2 different sectors; AGIP and a manufacturing plant and they made me realized I wasted time solving Laplace Laplace transform in school when I ought to have spent more time at the workshops doing fabrications, learning CNC lathe machine programing and machinning processes.

Engineering students in Nigeria don't even know about robotics which ought to be part of mechanical engineering here because robotics is one sweet aspect of engineering Nigerian students need to explore to help Nigeria grow.

sweerychick:
Whose Fault Is It Anyway?

Good evening nairalanders!

I need serious opinions on this issue, as it has bothered me so much so I decided to bring it up here. It's about my younger sister and her girlfriend.

About 2 years ago my younger sis girlfriend met a guy that indicated interest in her, according to my sis her friend wasn't into this guy, in fact her friend was using him from the onset, my sis said that her friend told her that she doesn't like the guy at all because the guy according to her was a teacher in one private school and he isn't really what she wanted in a man.

But this guy loved her and my sis recounted one time the guy paid her tuition fees and gave her money for her project work. The guy was always there for her but her sis friend never liked him sometimes my younger sister will tell me that she should go for him she thought she was joking but little did she know that her girlfriend was serious.

When it was obvious she couldn't play the guy anymore, she had to confront the guy and told him face to face that they can't continue together, that she can't put up with him anymore and that he can have my younger sister as a friend since my sister is her roommate.

The guy was shattered and devastated, and it equally shattered my sister as well because my sister knew how much sacrifice the guy has made for her girlfriend. So the guy would meet my sister and start begging her to talk to her friend, and each time my sister tries to talk to her girlfriend to reconsider, she would turn it down.

So the guy gave up his efforts but maintained communications with my sister.

As time went by my sister and this guy became close, and they were good friends, so early February this year they guy got a contract job with Exxon mobile for 5 years at Akwa ibom, and he is now asking for my sister's hand in marriage. He's so serious that he has brought wine to my Father with his family members.

My sister told him let her put it in prayers. Because she's currently doing her NYSC.
Upon hearing the news of my sister and this guy, her silly girlfriend that rejected him because he was low, is now beefing my sister and telling the whole world that my sister snatched her boyfriend away from her. it was so bad that she even tried to re establish communication with this guy again.

My sister told me that her girlfriend sent a message to this guy and told him that my sister once had an abortion when she was in her 3rd year, and some stupid lies. But she said that the guy knew that her girlfriend was lying and decided to block her. This got my sister infuriated and me also but the guy begged us to let her go That she's just desperate.

But I'm really really really angry now because she has been spreading malicious lies about my younger sister. And my sister is planning her traditional wedding with this guy by January So please I need suggestions on how to deal with this issue because I don't see my sister at fault here, and I only see a wicked and desperate friend trying to cause wreck in someone's happiness..

Mods I really appreciate if this topic is on front page because it's a serious issue..

samsard:
Even President Buhari would have considered resigning to take this up .
Even on Fiverr you have to be mad hot to pull off 800k a week.

Valwezzy:
I mean his overall cash out.

By the way, isn't 1min worth $0.2?
And dude has over 600mins under his belt.

Now, do the maths

Valwezzy:
Taking a rough guess, dude must have made over 800k

brijibs:
I can only imagine.

And how it impacts his social life.

brijibs:
You want calculate the guy earnings ba?

Prenom:
You're still the boss, you know. Well, I didn't do anything today, but I think I hit over 600 minutes of 4's and 5's.

Prenom:
Wow. You're good, then. I think I used it thrice before, but I quickly switched to a laptop.

arinpe16:
Good evening everyone. Please I need your advice.

My husband has been keeping malice with me because I don't pray regularly again (we're Muslims) and he's threatening to divorce me (we only did court wedding and yet to do Nikkah).

He's eats my food but doesn't talk to me. This has been going on for over a year now and it's getting worse. Can I tell his parents? They are strong Muslims and I'm afraid they may blame me more. He also doesn't give me money anymore. I'm tired of his stinginess and he's very insensitive. He believes I'm a devil since I don't pray even though things have changed for the better for him since we met.

He also doesn't believe I can get a husband since I'm close to 35. Please, I'm confused. I don't know what to do.

madgoat:
Nothing mind blowing about it. Call a spade a spade; shes just seeking attention because shes lonely and with very few people giving her real attention in life.
I am bitter, shes not appealing to the eyes at all.