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Nnemuka:
Marriage for the gram
Question is, what does this guy do for a living?
Ex bbnaija member whatever no be work oo...
it doesn't pay Bill's oo, I hope the lady is not just trying to cover the toilet sex shame by marrying a jobless guy.

Congratulations to them

RemyDropShadow:
I honestly appreciate your input dear but maintaining eye contact is imperative in male and female relations.
How do you talk to a person without looking them in the eye? You're definitely gonna come off as a wimp which is exactly what is happening right now.
I deserve all that has happened to me and I believe I've paid for it with my tears. I cried so hard for months even when the incident happened. My sisters and mum all looked at me like I was some kind of plague and the pain was too much. It helped me to become a better person though.
Thanks once again dear, the aim of me posting this here has been achieved. I've gotten really good inputs on here which I'm gonna implement. Thanks once again.

RemyDropShadow:
Thanks for your input brother. Can't agree more.
There has to be some sort of spiritual connection to this cause I struggle to understand how my brother always come across these type of girls.
One is by chance, two probably coincidence but 3? That is a pattern.

RemyDropShadow:
Hey everyone,this might be a lengthy read I'm sorry. Don't even know if this is the right section to post this.
Had to create a new account for this. I'm confused and i really need matured advices from matured folks on here.

I'm the 5th child out of 6 children in my family(4 girls and 2 boys) and I'm 24. My elder bro who happens to be my most senior sibling(first child) is 32 and he has a 26 year old fiancee.

I used to have a very big problem guys, with women actually.

This stemmed from the fact that for some very weird reason, girls almost always adore me to the dangerous point of making it very easy for me to sleep with them even without spending much.
I was addicted to sex and women in general because of that.

My brother has always stayed in his own house since he was 26. He is really comfortable with a very good job plus he runs a successful business. I've been staying with him since I was 16..
We used to be really wayward. I followed him everywhere. Parties, clubs, bars, you name it, we represented. He funded my stupid lifestyle, I even lost my virginity at 17 when he paid a girl to sleep with me. This was the very beginning of my obsession.

At 21, my body count was already over 30 and I had already slept with 2 of his very serious girlfriends (which they initiated actually) without him knowing. I was actually in over my head then and the excitement made me do them without thinking. Probably due to the fact that I've always envied my brother's very masculine physique and looks. I have very dark periodontal circles around my eyes and thick brows which always made me look more feminine than masculine till I was able to hide it with a beard so it came as a huge feat to be able to bed his girlfriends at the very least, to me.

I got caught though with the 2nd who he actually had marriage plans for. He intercepted a text she sent to me and all hell was let loose. A family meeting was held, my mum and entire family were so mad at me. My eldest sister slapped me to kingdom come. I had to kneel and beg in tears for him and everyone to forgive me which he did to my surprise. He forgave me wholeheartedly. He never chased me away from his home till I left for service July last year to Abuja.

During this period, he met and engaged his current fiancee.. I came back from Abuja August this year and met her here. I almost didn't approve of her cause of her slay queen kinda dress style and looks but we got along so well almost immediately.. Then I started noticing some weird behaviors 2 months back.

I was asleep one afternoon when my brother was at work and woke up to find his fiancee kneeling beside my bed, staring at my face. I almost screamed but I recognized her in time and she started laughing so i took it as a joke. It happened again about a week later but this time around, I pretended to be asleep and knew when she walked into my room and I felt her staring into my face for some minutes till she got up and left. I got so scared of her cause i started thinking she was a witch or something.

My brother traveled about 3 weeks ago and she was always walking around the house with a towel that revealed most of her laps. It made me very uneasy and scared. One day she came into my room to take movies from my laptop with same towel. All the while she was sitting in front of me, I could see her vagina clearly but I pretended and was sweating profusely. she acted like she was oblivious though. When she got up to leave, her towel dropped and she was stark naked in front of me. she screamed and acted like it was a mistake but my guts keeps telling me it wasn't. I almost grabbed her I wouldn't lie but the fear of my family is bigger than any urge out there. They'll fry me and hang me out to dry.

She gives me intense stares whenever she talks to me almost like she wants to set me on fire with her eyes and right now guys I'm really scared of repeating what almost destroyed the relationship I had with my brother. I really don't know what to do. I'm thinking of moving back to my family house but when I brought it up to my brother, he wasn't having any of it. He blatantly refused and said he was working on getting me a job somewhere so he needs me close. Should i mention he is also planning on sending me to Canada for my masters. I'm also thinking of opening up to him but I feel like there isn't enough to accuse her and I might just end up re-opening old wounds with such accusations.

I'm at crossroads hear folks, I feel scared of going out of my room these days, I can't even look her in the eyes for more than a second and she seems to enjoy it(probably thinking she is intimidating me with her beauty) but I'm just really scared.

I need matured advices please and if you can't give any, you're better off not commenting.. I'm trying to be a good person my family will be proud of in the future and I've come a long way in beating my sexual addictions.

Cc: Lalasticlala

lefulefu:
not all bad girls finish best abeg .there are many who are married to men who sleep around..some end up in a polygamous marriage and the man dont even have time for them .there was one my friend told me about this lady who is a single mom who was dating a guy based in south africa.the guy was a drug dealer and also had numerous concubines in south africa as well.the bros lost his life to one of the drug hits that occurs daily over there.this my friend im mumu paddy started dating this girl and started sponsoring this lady"s child in school that she had for the late drug dealer.upon all his good gestures this lady made him saw hell and the guy started suffering from low self esteem because of the terrible insults she threw at him.if he no see money give one day she will insult him and call him a broke dumb nigga and how she miss her late ex who was based in south africa.the bros will be crying and complaining to my friend.no be im eye im take run .abeg leave bad girls for the bad boys and if u a level headed guy get a homely girl for yourself.

lefulefu:
lol this assumptions is not always true.i have seen cases where ex runz girl or ashawo gets married to a cult guy or drug dealer and those men who call nice who involve themselves with street girl are not nice but mumu ish.i understand some ladies who are into the runz business when they want to settle down they look for naive men(not men who are nice) who they can manipulate when they get married .

lefulefu:
lol exactly ..she is the free type who loves to party and change men at well .age is really not a factor to make someone slow down at times .for op"s case if im want to get serious with a lady then its a wrong idea getting involved with the popular office party girl.if na her carefree lifestyle draw u to her then whats the sense in trying to change her .some men just like inviting stress into their life sha.such a lady is also meant for party boys and the non serious men .i dey hail guys who believe their own mission on earth is to act as a white knight and try change a lady .

nairaonfire:
Well got into a new gig about a year back, some months later my company acquired another company, (a competitor).
Been getting a whole lot of pressure from family to settle down. So unfortunately for me I saw one damsel from the newly acquired company, with all the right physique and calm attributes i wanted. Not knowing i was heading for my own demise.
Anyway we kicked off and started dating to the envy of other male colleagues who tried their luck to woo her but to no avail.
Relationship went on smooth for about 6months, till the big bang happened. The Country head just arrived town and has been eyeing this lady of mine. Noticed the lady was always calling the country head her close friend an some unusual weird calls was exchanged at odd hours, I felt unease about it but just shoved it off...with the thought "what will my damsel be doing with a married man".
So we had an office party and this country head codedly warned me to stay off(not in plain terms though) but i got the message. I felt i found a love to die for. Only for the lady to give me the much dreaded line some days after "we need to talk". Well madam said she needed break and she wasn't much into the relationship. I felt quite devastated. Well i got to find out a week later that the lady and country head are now couple goals in the office (atleast thats what they are called).
Well some pals in the office told me i dodged a bullet cos thats her modus operandi. She always goes for her bosses to secure her job, she did same with her previous boss, and i should count my gains and move on, which I am moving on though. Well the lady is 35 but still acts the age of 20. Cos at her age she still derives pleasure from clubbing and partying.
I actually did love her so much, i intended proposing before the year runs out. Well spoke to her of recent and shes maintaining we should still be friends but sincerely I ain't cut out for it as I'm desperately looking towards a job switch, cos the boss has suddenly seen me as his arch-enemy.

lefulefu:
lol why u come dey mention the babe age? .dat she is 35 is not enough reason to stop her flexing nau .i have seen ladies in their late 40s,early 50s who are single and still jumping from one club to another and from one man or men to another.since it seems u are a young man who wants to get into a serious relationship then get involved with a serious minded lady.stop wasting ur time with a lady who clubs heavily and maybe drinks and smoke.leave that to the playas.

pcguru1:
I expect young people not to even look her side, from everything she posted, I can sum it up in 1 word 'liability', but she is hustling though regardless. only a foolish young guy chases such. I mean what's the gain ?

truthsayer009:
Before nko? When i eventually become a sugar daddy ehn, all those Unilag boys go cry. I go dey fly their babes all around europe. I go kuku get money by that time.

byna:
My wife has sworn she would never openly apologize severally.

I have always been the one initiating but at this point I felt overwhelmed and needed her to apologize.

Besides it's harder initiating when u know the other is the one wrong.

byna:
We got married in 2012 and ever since then we have been blessed with 3kids (3,boys).
I have a monthly upkeep of 130k for my wife as she only comes to our factory and goes home without doing much for the day aside taking care of kids and cooking.

I noticed that each time we have a misunderstanding, we both keep straight faces for days and she behaves as though she is less concerned to make up. It doesn't affect her chores or cooking as for me I hardly reject food served.

Now, after a couple of days, she would come for sex without wanting us to discuss and resolve the disagreement first.

Even when I feel rudely insulted, this happens. She feels whatever she does doesnt matter as long as Las Las na sex go end am. But I feel it's wrong and issues should be kept straight and fun time separate.

So we had same issues last week and we have been keeping straight faces yet I've been eating her food. Sometimes she joins me for mng prayers, sometimes she does her privately ( we do together before any misunderstanding)
So this mng she appeared stark nude to my room and demanded for sex after almost 15 days. I told her it would be unfair if we sweep the pass e events under the duvet. She got up and told me she wasn't ready to discuss any past misunderstanding that she came to f*uck. I told her I wasn't ready till issues are ironed out.

She taught it was business as usually as my John Thomas always disappoint me each time I see her nude but today I was ready to turn her down.

I Want to know if it's proper to always treat ur spouse the way you like knowing fully well that sex is their weak point for reconciliation?

Mature minds pls

Pafoma:
And what will you do if you were me and you marry her, fast forward to the future... she gets into a secret relationship, rekindles an old flame especially from any of the guys or just throws all caution to the wind and becomes something else! Dont forget by then, you both will be married with children then...

Kindly share, what you will possibly do apart from divorce..

crackhaus:

Now do you see the resemblance of this to that scenario in the second story I shared?

These women will still be keeping in touch, that's even the major problem.

pocohantas:
Yes they are...luxurious indulgence

No, I don't own them. They are acquaintances that I love and support.

pocohantas:
It is rich men that enjoy polygamy.

Poor men who delude themselves into thinking they have same grace- will most likely end up with Tier3 midnight newspapers.

Fair game for all of them if you ask me.

LadySarah:
You will know NTA is Very Useless when Gotv gives it As a free channel even when ur sub expires.

Everybody goes to sleep early that day

OluwasureGig:
larrygaga is a badass producer. any song he lays his hands unto is an instant hit. man doesn't make bad songs at alllll

Genesiszero:
please nairlanders could this be the way I'm programmed?

I'm almost 22years and since my teenage years I've come to discover some fact about myself. I'm not too interested in feminine (women) things much.

I don't like pussy at all, I feel uncomfortable at the slightest site of it, it's doesn't move me, anytime I even manage to be close to a woman, I can try to massage and romance her but the moment she becomes hot and thereby tries to pull her skirt I feel completely down. all the sexual arousals will just go down. (may be I have pussyphobia) .

I hate pant lines, the moment a woman put's on a clothes either a skirt or a gown and I see the pant lines, it turns me off like damn! I don't know why but I guess that's me.

I hate female or feminine odours I mean like the creams and perfumes and the worst is their hair creams, there was a day one of my female friend came to me to show me her new hair, I can see the excitement in her face but the moment she came close to me I was pissed off and I tried going away I can see the pains in her eyes and the disappointment but I couldn't help it, the odours was freaking me out. I have to apologize to her. I pity her.

I hate seeing women in night dresses, it doesn't look sexy to me at all unlike some men out there. seeing you naked or wearing body revealing dresses even lingerie is a turn off for me.

sometime I prefer eating a food prepared by a man than that of a woman, except for my mom..... not even much of that of my sister.
it seems like a magic to me when men say they get aroused by seeing pussy, for it like a piece of shit

please help me, I don't know what is wrong with me.....only when in clothings moves me!

sometimes I feel sorry for my future wife!

kel94:
I have a friend like you, exactly as you described yourself. I thought he was gay, but he isn't. This is a question I always asked him, and a question for you too, "what is it about women do you really like?"

SmellingAnus:
He is not gay... I use to have a close friend who experiences like 80percent of what this guy experiences... Even pussy irritates him... He can romance a girl but ones she uses his hand on her pant he feels like throwing up... I tried my best to spoil him... A nakeddd girl cannot move him... Fortunately the last time we talked he was married... I didn't ask him how he overcame those stuffs though... The boy was a Jehovah witness and what even surprised me was he said his brother is worse than him... I just hope op is not his brother...

Cc: Genesiszero

BatleFox:
It's your mind not your religion. You are missing a very important hormone, a hormone that makes the difference between men and women. Sorry.

Genesiszero:
Hell no! Never..... I'm a Christian and its a taboo even in my culture

Ishilove:
Nigga you're gay. Go for deliverance from the spirit of homosexuality