I'm dating this guy who is younger than me. He used to be sweet but I don't know him again, I've talked to him about it and ge promised to change. We make out but he doesn't go down there cos am a vir gin but on three occasions he was like "its just the tip,it will do nothing".

But the fourth time I felt this pain but it was mild then I withdrew, had my bath and left few hours later, I wasn't feeling comfortable so I went to check myself and saw few drops of blood came out of me. Then I talked to him about it and he says am still a vir gin. Please am

I still a virgin and how long does it take to close back?


Source: http://gennypearl..com.ng/2016/03/how-long-does-it-take-to-close-back.html?m=1

Family secrets.... I'm a married man with 4 lovely children and i love my wife. my confession is every easter holiday me and my wife younger sister always have sex,X_X  because she always spent it with us, she happily married with 2 kids, her husband is a solider in the military they do post him around a lot.

 This same stuff still happen this last easter holiday. but i don't know how to tell my wife not to allow her sister to come for the easter holiday again.. please help!!


Source: http://gennypearl..com.ng/2016/04/my-confession.html?m=1

I am a 23 year old graduate going for service this 2016 batch A. I am a vìrgin but my problem now is am pregnant!!! Yes I'm 2 weeks and 3 days pregnant. I got ill recently which got me to the hospital; te4sts were carried out and the result confirmed that am pregnant. I wouldn't believe that and I argued heaven and earth with the Doctor, then she told me to go for scan which gave the same result.

 I'm sharing this because I want to kinda educate peeps from my story. A matron in the hospital lectured me about a virgin's possibility of been pregnant. She said there is a small hole in the hymen of a virgin where the menstrual blood exit from and any sperm that manage to pass through the lil hole can do a great job of...
...baby..lol. I'm laughing because I don't want to believe yet but truly that sperm has managed to pass through during pre-intimacy with my bf. Somehow somehow sha he released on my vagìna and the virgin in me was relaxed and I said in my mind "Sebi he no penetrate, am a virgin so am safe jare ". We did that severally and now a virgin is pregnant ooo. No need for...

...penetration, you don't even need to see blood that u got disvirgined b4 belle stand oo...please be wise. Now where I need advice is this, I told my boyfriend but he doesn't seem to wanna accept. He said I should still go and be using home remedy PT after scan confirmed it. He asked where I won get the belle from. I am worried and so shamed to tell my single...
...mum and more scared of abortion coupled with the fact that am going for service April. My mum is my greatest pain, she won't be pleased with this at all and what if my claimed lover refuse it?

What am I to do??

Please I need your advice.


Source: http://gennypearl..com.ng/2016/03/pregnant-virgin.html?m=1


Follow me on twitter @gennypearl23

I am to choose between my 6years relationship and my 10months relationship. The 6years relationship has been a very tough one. He is my first love (We stayed together in Benin before i relocated to Abuja to stay with my Uncle).He is humble,social and fun to be with, although we have our challenges, he is very hot tempered and i am hot tempered as well(nobody to calm one another down that sometimes i end up slapping him and he beats me up,while other times, he just warn me not to try it again).

He is very caring to the core,he is a computer engineer,an OND holder and a yahoo guy as well. He is always there to satisfy me,there is nothing he doesnt give to me except he doesnt have, he...

...changes my phones almost every six months,spends lavishly on me,changes my wardrobe, even his family and friends knows he doesnt joke with me at all and  he is really in love with me and i love him too as well. At first,things were a little bit tough  between me and his parents,they didn't like me,the mum complained I'm lazy,i have pride and they...
...also feel I'm dominating the relationship but when they saw that their son is really bent on marrying me,they gave in and things started moving on fine. Some of his friends believe I can't marry him that I'm only deceiving him. Truly on my side,I have no intention of marrying him but i just keep dating him because i dont want to be changing boyfriends and anytime I...

...tell him I dont think I can marry him he sometimes cry and other times get angry but still does not change his mind on marrying me. The problem with my  boyfriend is that he flirts, he womanizes alot and this is  always causing issues between us. It ‎was during one of our numerous flirting argument that the new guy came into the picture (Abuja). I...
...wanted to break up with him but after several pleas,i accepted and we got back together while on the other side i started going out with the new guy. He was keeping me company and all(since we are in the same city). It wasn't a relationship like that,we just flirted and had s3x like on several occassions. He knows i have a boyfriend cos anytime he calls, i pick his...

...calls in his presence and he doesnt care. Along the line,the new guy started disturbing me that he has fallen in love with me and wants to marry him, he takes me on outings with his friends and he took me to his father's house,he said he wanted a fling before but now he is in love. Then he started giving me attitude whenever my first love calls and i dont...
...have a choice than to beg and promise i will find a solution to it because am already liking him. My first love noticed i was cheating when i travelled to benin for christmas. He beat the hell out of me and made me swear naked with the bible that i wont break up with him. After the incident he begged me again,brought his father and mother to beg, i accepted...
...again and we got back. Now I am having issues with him and the new guy. The new guy is telling me to choose btw him and my first love while my first love is bent on marrying me at all cost,He is really on my neck for marriage now. I dont really love the new guy but i can't just figure out why i can't let him go,its not like he spends more money on me compared to my...

...first love although he is more matured in handling issues compared to my first love,he doesnt talk anyhow,he is peaceful,well mannered and we hardly have issues. When i told my elder sisters I am breaking up with my first love, they all stood against it. They said i must marry him because he has spent a lot on me and morever the relationship is too long that i...

...should stop looking at the bad side that i was not looking at when i was spending all his money  and i cant just cut someone that truly loves me like that and all his family members knows me and its dangerous that they might just harm me for wasting their son's time. They said I should not have kept the relationship...

...that long knowing i cant marry him. Aside that,they said the new guy might just be making empty promises,that i dont know the kind of attitude he might show later. I'm really confused. Marrying my first love is a no go area for me, he isnt the type of father i want for my kids,i still prefer the new guy. I can't even face my...

...first love to tell him i can't marry him.Will the new guy not use all this against me later in future? Am i not selfish with my decision? Please help with your advice



Source: http://gennypearl..com.ng/2016/03/he-made-me-swear-naked-with-holy-bible.html?m=1

Please, I want you to advise me. I am a 24 year old girl and I met with a guy who is from my state of origin. Though it took me time to accept his proposal for a relationship & as we started the journey I realized he was caring and he cared about my career but sometimes he was skeptical of trusting me and this brought up a lot of complications and we later settled the issue.

The main thing is that it's been 5 months of being together and I don't know where he lives. I tried visiting him like twice but I have ended up staying alone in a guest house... though he paid for it and blamed it all on some family issues. So I have a close friend who was like it's not good or healthy enough when a lady does not know where her boyfriend lives.
As the guy might be concealing some truth about himself from me. Not to judge, I count living with a man my parents do not know as insane or cheap but my not knowing where he lives is what bothers me. Please,

Can someone advise on this?


Source: http://gennypearl..com.ng/2016/03/please-advice-am-inlove-with-stranger.html?m=1

Please I am not sending this email so that anybody can judge me. I feel bad enough as it is and feel like I have betrayed a friendship. The situation is that I had a party sex with my best friend’s ex-boyfriend and a friend of his. I actually have no issues sleeping with my friend’s ex but I know that my best friend and her ex are still having s*x.

Usually I tell my best friend everything and now I feel like I have broken a trust. Should I tell my best friend about the encounter with her ex and the other guy or should I just go keeping it a secret. It is sort of tearing me up inside that I have a secret of this nature from her. Please I am reminding you all that if you don’t have a matured.....





Continue Reading Here>>>>http://gennypearl..com.ng/2016/03/advice-me-i-had-party-with-my.html?m=1



Follow me on twitter gennypearl23 or instagram. Gennypearl 24

I am a 27years old lady. I am someone that has so many friends, some leave new ones come. At every point am always having at least one staying with me. I stay at my parents house with just my sister and I,  last year I accommodated one of a friend I met at work. In the process, I got to know her more and I found out that she talks a lot so I started withdrawing from..

...her, she noticed it‎ and at times she chips it in that she doesn't talk like that with any other person. We've had cases where we had cold war and verbally attacked each other. When she came initially  anytime she eats she washes only her plate and leave the rest, so I explained to her to just drop her plate instead of doing that since we do collective plate...

...washing and I can



Continue Reading Here >>>http://gennypearl..com.ng/2016/03/i-had-to-fight-out-cockroaches-from-my.html?m=1

Follow me on twitter. Gennypearl23

Let me tell you women are very bad
people and you will hear them blaming men for use and dump. 4 years ago, I was dumped by my girl friend. This is someone that I single handedly supported her
through school and after she graduated and started working, she began to change. She started putting password on  her phone, she stopped visiting me regularly and generally just became different. If I raised the issue of our marriage plans she will change the topic. This continued until I decided to pay her a surprise visit one early morning and I met a man in her house. In short the man slept there.

To make matters worse, she embarrassed me when I tried to challenge the man. She said to my face that he's her boyfriend and they are getting married and she walked me out of her house. I tried reaching out to her family and all they could tell me was that she had made her choice. Imagine what I went through. Now 4 years gone, she is reaching out to me and begging to be accepted back. She is calling me and sending people to beg me. She said she was decieved, and that she doesnt know what came over her.
Honestly we had a very good relationship until she messed up. I am still single and when I remember our good times in the past I feel for her but what she did to me really hurt me bad. I have said no to her. Am I right in saying No to her Or should I give her a second chance?
The End.


Source: http://gennypearl..com.ng/2016/03/i-was-dumped-by-my-girlfriend.html?m=1


Follow me on twitter @gennypearl23

Am in a relationship of no sex be4 marriage for almost 3ys now. Though, it was my fiance that told me that no marriage no sex which i agree. But i have tried on so many occasion to get just a kiss from him but he always turn me down, a times he get mad at me 4 making advances. I have this bad feeling that he is impotent.

On feb 14 i tried to seduce him by forcing a kiss on him and holding his d**k for about 5 minutes but the thing didn't move at all. I then asked  him why? He just started crying without reply me. I was so confused so i left his place, since then he doesn't call nor pick
my calls.




 IS HE TRUELY IMPOTENT?



Source: http://gennypearl..com.ng/2016/03/is-he-truely-importent.html?m=1

I am a 26years old guy. I have been having s*x with my friend's ex girlfriend, even before they broke up. She's dated 2 guys after my friend but we still do it. Many things could have separated us... But even when my girlfriend found out, and asked me to choose, i couldn't leave her, i would rather sacrifice my relationship for her.

Sometime last year, she came begging me to leave her alone that she is in a serious relationship, for a year, she didn't let me touch her until last week, she was practically begging me to sleep with her... After, i asked her to be my girlfriend but she refused. I'm getting old for this sh*t...i am tired of pretending & faking casual friendship what should I do?

Source: http://gennypearl..com.ng/2016/03/how-do-i-get-myself-out-of-this-shit.html?m=1

Please I don't know if this complain is not necessary but please admin share this problem of mine on your channel & Blog let's hear what people will say about this.
My name withheld please, I met my boyfriend in church, it was my first time in that church, he was the usher, I was invited by my friend from the office. He gave me the new form as a new invites.

He started calling me to check on me, from there he asked me out, I was happy because I have found a God fearing man. I had to pretend for a while before I gave in.

Now since we started dating, I do visit the hospital like twice in a week, because of maraton s3x I experience from my boyfriend always, he sleeps with me like 6 a times daily.

Please should I tell their pastor or leave the relationship, cus he takes me as a s3x slave.




Source: http://gennypearl..com.ng/2016/03/my-boyfriend-is-s3x-addict-born-again.html?m=1

I am a girl in my early 30,s, I was once married to a man, had 2 girls for him, but he beats me a lot, he was so harsh that anytime I hear the sound of his car, I am always scared, this was the first man in my life, he disvirgined me. So I was so much in love with him, but was wondering why he maltreats me that way.
We shared so much love and care together
before we got married. After the second daughter he changed drastically. It wasn't easy for me, the beating was something I couldn't bear. I was wondering what I did wrong, or was it because if the 2 girls I gave me.

One day he came back from work, I was sleeping, he came in, sat down, I sincerely didn't know he was back, he started shouting at me, that all I do is sleep, before I knew it ,he started beating me, that was the day I left the house. But he didn't allow me take my kids with me.
That was how that marriage ended. After 2 years, I got married again, I was scared hope I won't pass through what I saw with my first husband. My second husband promised me that he will never leave me. That he loves me,and that he will always be there for me. Made a lot of promises.

I told him the only way I can trust him, is when we take a blood oat. Which he declined, I told him, that means he is planning to leave me like my first husband. After long run, he agreed and we took The BLOOD OAT.

Now we had issues, he was worst than my first husband. And we have divorced again.

And before Now, I remembered vividly that my mum insulted a woman that was seeking for the fruit of the womb and the woman with bitter heart cursed her that no child of hers will ever stay in her husband,s house, is it what am passing through.

Please what can I do about the OAT we took?


Source: http://gennypearl..com.ng/2016/03/blood-oat.html?m=1

Hi Marital Ties
I'm in my late 20's, hoping to settle down soon but all to no avail. I had s3x with a guy I've known for more than 10 years on the 3rd of Jan this year. I felt bad about it, I used postinor 2 and decided to move  on with my life. Later I met this great guy I loved at first sight, charming and loving. I couldn't resist him and we had s4x that same week, 7th and 8th of january. I came back home because I only went for a vacation.

 I found out I'm pregnant not quite long,I'm devastated.  I told the first guy about it (though I have doubts because I used emergency oral contraceptive immediately we had s3x)he said I can't keep it because he does not have a job and he is still struggling. I didn't want to inform the...
...second guy because he claimed he didn't ejàculate in me but I told him anyway after I made some research and found out pre-ejàculate can cause pregnancy. He disclaimed the paternity, he said he has low sperm count and he just started treatment. I don't have money for DNA test, I don't have a job, I'm alone and confused. The problem here now is I have...

...been warned severally by spiritualists ( Pastors and Prophetess) never to abort or I will die. I'm going to do the abortion anyway because I can't carry the burden alone. I'm scared. My dreams, my hopes and my life is about to end and I'm scared.
Please help advice this subscriber on how to handle this situation.
The End.

Source: http://gennypearl..com.ng/2016/02/paternity-unknown.html?m=1

I'm a young lady of 23years a graduate, I finished school last year and serving soon. My problem is I am a vìrgin not that am naive or anything as a matter of fact I sabi well as in I am not the innocent type of virgìn they portray in movies. I have a boyfriend, we've been together for 5years he's a great and loving guy though...

...different tribe and religion he understands me so well but he can be temperamental although he never hits me but whenever he gets angry I get so scared cos he makes it look like he can hurt me and sometimes i feel he is obsessed with me. We do other things like head ,sm0och, fore play in general  but no s3x .I am a  very pretty lady and I love life I party alot, I've crazy friends and I meet different guys but I never allowed any one touch me and that's why I lose so many opportunities(great offers for that matter). I've searched for a PT job cos I don't like being idle but all still leads back to s3x and my dear BF isn't taking finding job serious but 5 years is a long time to leave this guy have known my whole life. Now I met this guy; very good and hardworking, my tribe and he is calm with me. I told this new guy my sexual status and he didn't have a problem with it. He spends alot for me, when I ask and when I don't; he knows what I need when I...

...need it, he's so generous and he doesnt  ask for s3x or anything. At first I was into it but later I started getting scared if he wasn't using me (jazz) but he is clean. He has a good job, mind you my Bf isn't working although he is older than me with more than 5 years but this new guy is married with a KID though young as....
...well but after 4 months now he is stylishly talking about s3x also though he says he will understand any answer I give him. Please help I still need this guy in my life and am beginning to like him.
Please I need your advice.
The End.

Source: http://gennypearl..com.ng/2016/02/confused-virgin.html?m=1

I'm not happy and the least thing I need is for anyone to add to my wounds.
I want criticism tho, correct me where I'm wrong and advice me where necessary
Iv been married to my husband less than a year. We have a baby together but I'm not going back to work until he is a year.
The challenge however is that we are always arguing and fighting on the basis that I'm asking him to create time to spend with us, let me know when u wanna go out and not assume I should know everything. When your coming home late keep me informed. I mean it's bad enough you are  going to come home at 4am but can I please know u r coming late!



My own flaw on the other hand is that I'm very temperamental. I never keep it down when I'm upset and I think already he has had it cos I can see clearly he is beginning to change!
We had an argument last week and he hit me... Yes u read right, hit me... Beat me blue black with a blind eye!
Now leaving him is not an option not because
I'm afraid to leave or cos I feel it's early but because I want to make it work. We promised each other forever so that's not an option.
I just feel lonely and out of place. Sometimes I feel like I have post partum depression or maybe I just over think. I just want understanding between us and for peace to reign!

#TheEnd


Source: http://gennypearl..com.ng/2016/02/he-hits-mebeat-me-blue-and-black-with.html?m=1

Hi Admin,

I have a problem o, my girlfriend is very poor in bed. As in she no sabi do at all. I started having s*x with her only about 8 months after we started dating. And we rarely do it sef. Each time I p*netrate her, after 2 minutes she removes herself and says she's tired, that we
should rest. Then I lose interest.

I have told her about it and she says it's because we are not married. That when we're married she will become wild for me and do anything I want. She's actually a very decent girl, and not into such things before. I plan to marry her soon but "hmmm" am I sure she will change?. Because she doesn't even move or react when we have s*x, she just lies down there while I do!

This can't happen when we're married o, I will just be getting it outside.
Please, guys what do you think?

Thanks


Source: http://gennypearl..com.ng/2016/02/my-bea-is-not-good-in-bed.html?m=1

I can’t believe this happened. My husband and I have been married for over two years. I consider our marriage solid, great, and fun. No complaints at all not until he lost his job and that started weighing us down as a family. My husband was my best friend; everything was going great till that evening when I returned from work and met him at home so downcast.
I was surprised to meet him at home unlike other days that he returns very late. Curious to know the reason for his cold reaction, he showed me a sack letter. I was devastated but decided to take it all in good faith. I consoled him and advised him to be on a look out elsewhere because my job won’t sustain us for long.
He searched for months but all effort was futile. In a matter of months, I started feeling the burden of running the family single handedly. I confronted my husband on the development of his job search, the answer I got from him was not convincing at all.
The frustration was becoming unbearable for me, we no longer communicate as the couple we used to be. Sex in our marriage was history as there was no excitement to it. As an active Christian, I ran to my pastor for counseling. I narrated my family’s problems to my pastor and pleaded with him to intervene by talking to my husband. He agreed and asked me to invite my husband to see him the next day.
On getting home, I told him what the pastor said and pleaded with him to attend the counseling with me. He was reluctant at first but agreed at long last. The next day we were at the pastor’s office. The pastor spoke to us on some marital issues and advised us to come for two weeks counseling.

That was where my ordeal with the pastor started. When we got home, my husband was so angry with me and said he will not be a party to that counseling nonsense. He blamed me for dragging our family to the public though I gave deaf ears to all he said that night and decided to attend the counseling alone with or without him.
The first day of the counseling was wonderful though the pastor asked about my husband; I gave an excuse a excuse for his absence.
On the third day of the counseling program, my husband went to see his parents. He spent three days because his aged mother was sick. It was at this time our pastor decided to visit our home. He said he had come to anoint the house. He knew I was disturbed. When I told him my husband and I were falling apart, he asked me when last I made love to him; honestly I couldn’t remember because it has been a long time.
That was when I started having thought about sex. I was filled with erotic thoughts. At that moment, the thought of how handsome and attractive the pastor is filled my subconscious. At first I tried to push the thought off my mind but I couldn’t.
The next day, he visited again to continue the praying and anointing. Even though my husband was not around, I still welcomed him because he was always welcomed in members house. Or is it the devil at work?
When I narrated what I was going to through, he was moved with so much compassion seeing my tears and came close to console me. He moved closer. He looked me deep in the eyes. I didn’t know how it happened. But our lips met. We kissed with hot passion.
We couldn’t hold it any longer and before we knew what was happening, we were already naked and moved to our room. He made love to me passionately on our matrimonial bed. I realized it been like for ages since I felt the touch of a man.
We were so deep into each other like our life depended on it. We were both exhausted after we both hit our sexual climax; he told me how deeply he has falling for me and pleaded with me not to end the relationship.
Then be brought out anointing oil. He said our marriage is blessed since I have made love to him on our matrimonial bed. He said our marriage will be restored again and that my husband will get another job.
Every time he visited and when my husband is not at home, we made love. He will then proceed to anoint the bed. It’s been almost a year now, that I have been having the secret relationship with our pastor.
One strange thing is that he always insisted we made love on my matrimonial bed and I could not resist. He was so trusted by my husband that he did not suspect anything.
My husband also moved around a lot in search of job. At a point he had to take up menial jobs in some towns and returns weekend. But my husband is yet to get a better job and I am feeling being used. Did he cast a spell on me or I am the guilty one?
I don’t want to go to hell fire when I die. I have asked God for forgiveness and vowed never to see the pastor again but that is not helping the matter because whenever I’m with my husband, I’m not bold enough to tell him how I feel.
I know I’m wrong but do I confess to my husband? Maybe that will be my only and true salvation. What do I do?


I need help as I am seriously dying of guilt.



Source: http://gennypearl..com.ng/2016/02/i-am-sleeping-with-our-pastor-lagos-wife.html?m=1

Hello Admin, I am so happy to share my problem here, cus as am writing this story I don't know who to run to or what to right now.
 My name is Mrs Tayo, am from Osun State, am a graduate of Obafemi Awolowo University.

It all started when I was in secondary school, all through my Jss 1 - Jss 3, I was a day student, in my SS1, my parents decided I should join  boarding school, that it will help me prepare for my WAEC.

I finally entered boarding, it was fun though, you mingle with other students in your rooms, in my room, I noticed this particular girl, that is very generous with "Sanitary Pad"

I am a very reserved girl, I hate borrowing,not even a sanitary pad, but one day I was in the room, I saw my period, checked my locker, I noticed my pad had finished. I had no option than to borrow from her, but she said I shouldn't worry. That was the day my problem started. We all left school, and everyone went theirs different ways.

Now am married for 5 years,no child, I visited a pastor and he told me that I once borrowed sanitary pad from a girl in secondary school days. I had to think for a while, before I remembered.

He said she is in a group, that all the girls that she gave Pad won't ever have a child. That the
blood is invoked in their spirit world.

What will I do. Am I not finished, where can I find this girl.

Please I need help.


Source: http://gennypearl..com.ng/2016/02/a-sanitary-pad-ruined-my-life.html?m=1

Abuja popular social media reporter "AlexReports" was earlier today spotted on his display picture with a lady on a close shot and it is suspected to be his girlfriend.

The very business minded media practitioner who is known to be professional with his clients and model is believed to have finally gotten a lover. 
Alex Nwankwo who was recently interviewed on NTA International said that he was not in a relationship but opened to get one soon when asked if he was married.

Investigation reveals that the beautiful elegant lady is an undergraduate of university of Ibadan and she is known as Sharon Nnaji.

Well, efforts to reach alexreports to confirm his status with the lady proved abortive as he was not picking his call. 

Does this mean Alex has finally found his missing ribs or is this just one of this selfies with models?


Source:

Hello Nairalands

Am Chinyere, am a native of Anambra State, I stay in Abuja, am a business woman. I tried as a young lady to build house for my parents in the village, and I have a car as well.

I met this guy, he is a graduate, but as for me I wasn't opportuned to go to school, but I finished my secondary school. We liked each other,we dated for like 6 months. And finally we did traditional marriage.

After that he left to Lagos where he stays, and I was in Abuja, I was waiting for our wedding date to be fixed. Anytime I visit him in Lagos. He don't normally  talk about our wedding.

One day, he called me that, he heard that I was the one that built house for my parents, that I should bring money for our wedding. I was shocked,wondering why he will say such a thing to a woman he wants to marry.

What should I do?

Should I bring my money out, or is it not the duty of a man to bring out money and marry a wife. Will my own be different.


Source: http://gennypearl..com.ng/2016/02/is-it-right-for-girl-to-bring-out-money.html?m=1

My wife asked me to marry a second wife less than 2 months after our lauded introduction as she refused to leave her parents house claiming if she packs to my house I will get poorer. She's 7 months pregnant and she turns down all my moves to get us married claiming she wants a muilti millionaire wedding, she want to deliver while still in her dads house.

She claims to be facing some spiritual problems and she's also the troublesome type that picks fight on every little thing.  She said i should get a second wife but I must fulfill all my responsibilities to her as her husband but she's not ready to fulfill any of her own responsibilities as a wife (like staying with me in same apartment,s3x,house chores and the likes). Now am feed up and I don't know how to go about it cuz i dont plan to have a second wife.

Please I need your sincere advice.

The End.



Source: http://gennypearl..com.ng/2016/02/she-wants-me-to-marry-second-wife.html?m=1

I'm a young lady of 24 years, currently serving, I met a man of 30 years like 10months ago, he's a very good man in most aspects. Recently, he's disturbing me to come meet his people and for him to meet mine too but I'm afraid because this man has never given me a dime before even though he works and earn cool salary. Even if he wants me to come and visit him because he works in Abuja while I'm serving in Lagos.

He will never talk about my transport fare and I don't ask because I don't know how to ask for money from anybody. My fear now is that will he be a responsible husband? Please how do I handle such a man? Will it be reasonable enough to walk out of such relationship? Do you think he's naturally stingy? I'm confused about the future.


Source:
http://gennypearl..com.ng/2016/02/is-he-naturally-stingy.html?m=1

I'm a 29year old lady, married with 2 kids. I met my husband when i was 28years,  we became friends and later got married. Before I married him i wasn't sexually active(I was really scared of s3x). Now we are married but the problem is that my husband can't seem to stop cheating, we have quarreled uncountable times because of his constant communication with girls(Note we have fought 3 times which of course he beat the hell out of me, the last one happened in Oct 2015 and my mum was around then cos my new baby was just 1 month old).

After I did a week fasting, some things started coming up, I got to realize that my husband has slept with one girl and I confronted him but he denied but when...

...the girl accepted that they've had s3x and I showed him the chat, he had to accept and begged for forgiveness that it will never happen again. I asked him if she was the only one he cheated on me with and he did yes; while I was trying to forgive him, my spirit told me that there's something he's not saying. On valentine's day I confronted him about sleeping with...

...other girls and he accepted and listed out their names, now not only has he slept with 7 girls but he has slept with them at least twice even though he said he slept once with one of them which now makes it 13times. So now he's really begging for forgiveness but I can't forgive him. He pays hotels to sleep with this girls and pay them but he has only paid in cash into..
...his first daughters account once which was 10k and since then he hasn't paid a dime. The most annoying thing is that he's a MINISTER in church. Now i dont even know whether i should tell his parents or tell his pastors or even report him to both parties. I really hate him and feel like poisoning him but I have 2 kids. I really wonder if I was the one who...


...cheated whether he would have forgiven me. He was asked why he cheated and what he said was "I was pregnant then and I just gave birth??like seriously?Is pregnancy asked and is birth not a thing of joy?I'm sure I married a BEAST. He said he will never chest on me again but I don't believe him because I believe if you have cheated on me once...

...and did not feel bad that u even got so bad that it's at least 13times with 7 different girls then I can't believe that he won't cheat again. Note: he has done HIV test and HEP B test and the result is Negative because he said he used condoms but TRUST & LOVE  is gone with the wind. I know some...

...people will advise that I should take him back and forgive him but have you even wondered why men hardly forgive their cheating wives? They'll rather throw her things out and take the kids for DNA test. ...what a world we live in.

The End



Source: http://gennypearl..com.ng/2016/02/i-really-hate-him-i-feel-like-poisoning.html?m=1

Hello admin, My name is princess. I'm 20 but caught in between two men. I'm a graduate and i speak 3 int'l languages. So due to that i look very matured more like 25yrs old. Therefore, older guys are attracted to me. Due to my past awful relationships i find it hard to fall in love. I stayed single for 2years, well i take care of myself cos i have a good job.

But last year January i got in contact with an old time friend of my brother. He stays abroad. We got talking and we were so into each other. We skyped and were connected a lot. But this guy is just 3yrs older than me unlike my usual admirers. He's a student and works. He is rich. Recently, i was trying out this dating site i opened few years ago and met another guy, he's 27.

A student doing his masters in the same country as my boyfriend even in the same city. He seem to give me the attention that i always wanted unlike my boyfriend. He is always there to help me with my process of going to join my boyfriend but he doesn't know i have a guy cos he assumed i'm single that's why i'm in a dating site.

I began to like this older one because he's so sweet & encouraging. Giving me the attention that I needed. He's ready to go to extra length to make sure I get to that country. But my boyfriend is always busy, he rarely gives me so much attention. He love me a lot but he is just too hard emotionally and as a woman i crave attention considering i haven't seen him face to face. But the older one isn't that rich, he's just ok plus he's Yoruba but my boyfriend is ibo like me. My brother knows him & my family but anytime we talk its always tense i watch my words but i love him more. The other guy is
really nice too. I'm due to travel in few weeks to
 join my boyfriend & i'm gonna be seeing the other one too cos he played 90%role in my process to travel.
I'm really confused and i don't like double dating. Both of them are serious about me and really love me. But i love someone who is hard emotionally hardly expresses his love for me. But the other one have no problem singing me to sleep. I'm a very attractive woman but i just find it hard to fall in love. And i'm here in love with two different people.

Please, what do i do?. Should i break things with the older guy so i don't lose both at the end or should i just play along then see how the future goes for us. I really don't know. Please help, I cant keep up with this for long.

Thanks



Source: http://gennypearl..com.ng/2016/02/caught-in-between-two-menmy-boyfriend.html?m=1

I am a muslim lady of 23years in love with my ex-boyfriend's friend. we've been friends  for over 8yrs and I met my ex through him and we have secretly had feelings for each other but couldn't tell each other. He is also a Christian. fast forward down to 2015 I met a guy who truly loves and cares a lot about me and I also love him.

He is a Muslim. Although we are in a long distance relationship(he is in the UK and am in nigeria) but we still talk and chat on a daily basis. 2 months ago my ex-boyfriend friend and I grew so close that we were always together 24/7  then the feelings became so deep that we kissed and sex with each other.
 Now I don't love my boyfriend as I used to, every little thing he does annoys me. We argue everyday but the question is should I leave my boyfriend for my ex-boyfriend's friend because he also loves and cares a lot about me or should I stick to my boyfriend and forget about him having in mind that my parents would never accept me to marry a Christian??

Pls I need your sincere and honest advise.


Source: http://gennypearl..com.ng/2016/02/am-inlove-with-ex-boyfriends-friend.html?m=1

My name is Chi for short, but am dating this guy from my tribe and it’s not as if I really love. The thing is that he is rich, not educated but he has two businesses that are doing well.

TON please don,t blame me, there is no lady today who doesn’t want to marry a rich man, especially if your family is broke.The mistake I made was to move into his house and he started sleeping with me whenever he likes as if we are already married. The thing is getting too much, even when am having my “monthly visitor” he will tell me to go and watch my body that he needs séx and I don’t have a choice but to do it. He says I must get pregnant before marriage but he has slépt with me for 1year, no pregnancy…


In fact, let me just confess that this guy want to kill me. His body is big and any time he climbs on top me with all his strength I use to have body pain after everything. But I need to get pregnant.

I’m 31. I’ve gone to hospital and doctors say am OK! But he has refused to go for his own check. Each time I tell him to do so he will shout at me and say if I can’t get pregnant I should just tell him. Am confused!

My mum knows am living in this guy’s house but my dad doesn’t. Pls I need good advise.
What can I do to help myself?



Source: http://gennypearl..com.ng/2016/02/my-boyfriend-wants-to-kill-me-with-se-x.html?m=1

My name is Felicia and I have been married for eight years with two children. Before now, my husband and I had a very fulfilling s*x life, and we had regular s*x at least three times a week. But in the past one year and three months, our s*x life has been almost non existent as my husband rarely touches me nor make love to me.

At first, I attributed it to tiredness and tried to understand with him but when the problem persisted, I had to let him know of my frustrations but he got angry with me and that led to a very big fight between us.

After that, he has continued to starve me of s*x and anytime I try to make a move, he would get angry and leave the bedroom.
But in recent times, I have had cause to believe he is cheating on me and that may account for his loss of sexual interest in me. He stays out late and most nights, does not bother to come home, giving different excuses.

Until now, my husband was very free with his phones and could leave them at home and go to work but these days, he takes his phones anywhere he goes,


even to the toilet. He leaves my presence sometimes to answer calls and stays up late to chat and has put up passwords on his phones and laptop, something he never did.

I am very frustrated and I have been tempted to get a lover who will satisfy my sexual needs if my husband cannot do that.
I want you readers to help me out before I make a wrong decision.
Dear readers, we would like you to put yourselves in Felicia's shoes. We ask: what would you do if your spouse starves you of sex for over one year?

What should a woman do if her husband starves her of sex for more than a year? Should she get a lover to satisfy her sexual needs?


Please comments


Source: http://gennypearl..com.ng/2016/02/my-husband-starves-me-of-sx-for-year.html?m=1

I am Chisom, I grew up from a Christian family, I was a born again to th chore, most of my neighbors uses me to an example to their daughters.

When I finished secondary school, I luckily got admission into the university, my parent sat me down and advised me that university is full of sinners. That I should make sure I don't mingle with sinners, and that they will lure me to sin. I promised them that I won't let them down.

I went into the university, and I was so happy about that. During classes I noticed there is this girl that dresses just like me, a sister like me, I went close to her and we became friends, we practically do everything together.

One day she told me to escort her to her friends place, cus I noticed she is hardly at home at night, I asked her, she said she goes for tutorial. I was like tutorial at night, she kept quiet.

I insisted on knowing where she normally goes. I followed her that night, when we got there I saw 2 guys seated in a room,I asked her what she was doing, she pointed at one of the guy that is her boyfriend. I was so surprised. She said she dresses like that to school because her mum is a lecturer that she is deceiving her.

she collected the cigarette and started smoking, she forced me to try it. I did and coughed they started laughing, like am a
 learner. I smoked that night I couldn't believe it was me. We now left that day, I kept going with her to see the guys, until one day she asked me if I have had s*x before, I said No, that my parents said is not a sin, she said is a lie, that is it is a sin why are they married.

She convinced me that s*x is sweet, that I should try it, and I agreed, that night we both went to the guys house, I was scared!, but she convinced me that I will enjoy it. When we got there as usual he was with his friends, this time 3 guys and we where just 2 girls. I sat down she brought drinks, and gave me one, I drank I started feeling dizzy, she was like I shouldn't worry. They started playing music and dancing.

I sat there moping at them, before I knew it one of the guy started kissing her, the other was removing her cloth, 2 guys on her and I was trying to close my eyes, she will give me sign to stop that, she was naked one was licking her. Pus*y, the other sucking her breast, the other guy came close to me. He Started touching me, I removed his hand, she was giving me sign as usual, I kept quite, he brought out my breast and started sucking it, I will be sincere I was enjoying it,i allowed him, but my eyes was on my friend and her 2 guys, the one sucking her pus*y, removed his penis and started fu*king her so hard, and she was licking the other one,s penis. The two was fucking her turn by turn, the one with me removed all my cloth,i was so shy that I was covering my unclothedness. But he finally forced himself into me it was so painful, that I shouted, he held my mouth. I told him to stop, they cleaned the blood.I told her I won't do again. I went into take a shower.

After that day, we kept on doing it, atimes we do party, atimes we will be 4, anytime i go home, I changed to that good girl, I was living two type of life.

After some years, I av graduated from the uni, working now,i have changed, not living that kind of life anymore. I fell inlove with a guy named Emmanuel, he was my everything. I. Loved him too much.

The day of my sorrow, was when we went to see his family, we came in and who did I see, the guy that disvirgined me, and the same guy we all have been doing party together.

He was looking at me, I pretended as if I don't know him.

Please should I tell my Fiancé before he does or should I quit the marriage.

I really Need Help!!!!!



Source: http://gennypearl..com.ng/2016/02/my-past-is-hunting-me.html?m=1

A friend introduced me to a guy who is about 32yrs but based in abroad. We have been friends and we talked,chat and video call. Now he is back in Nigeria and he came to see me but his dressing was not pleased to me(ear rings) and my aunty was not happy with his choice of job.

Though I like him and he wants to settle down with me but still praying over it then my parents and spiritual director said he is not right for me due to his choice of job but I know he listens to me and love me so much. I have not gone to his place and he come over to see me anywhere I am. He doesn't call me that frequently to ask how I am?. Besides he has a white woman with him in abroad but he told me is just for papers. He told my parents that he wants to settle down
with me but am scared cos I don't know whether he is serious or not cos I have had so much encounter with men who comes in the name of marriage. Am not desperate mind you but am 28yrs.
What should I do? Should I give him a trial but s3x is out of it.


Source:http://gennypearl..com.ng/2016/02/he-has-white-woman-abroad-for-papers.html?m=1

I am a lady in a serious relationship, last year October I found out that my fiancé got a lady pregnant after all said and the lady got rid of the pregnancy. Fast forward this month of February when I visited my fiancé,on a particular morning I went to the market to buy what i will cook, that morning on getting home I saw a lady dashing out of the house through the back door.

I confronted my fiancé but he denied which is really hurting me because I saw the lady with my eyes running out of the flat.The problem now is my introduction is this February ending and I am totally confused if I should continue or not as I cannot stand a cheating man.

God knows, I would av wanted to prove everyone that said I won't get married to this man wrong, they said I can't get married to him cus to them they said I am more exposed than him but with all these I am seeing my heart  deviating.

The question now is should I go ahead with the introduction so as to prove those that says I can't get married to him wrong or I should put a stop to everything cos of his infidelity...I need your matured and genuine advice please I am in a very tight corner. Thanks


Source: http://gennypearl..com.ng/2016/02/should-i-go-ahead.html?m=1

I married my husband 4 year ago, a year after our wedding we had beautiful baby, after some months he suggested he was going abroad for a greener pastures‎ for his family. Immediately he left, he change seriously, he promised to be coming home every 3 month, but it's going to 3 years now, I have not seen him, no support financially, spiritually, physically and emotionally for I and our baby.

Some month after his traveling, I found out from his document at home, that a woman invited him abroad, that was why he has never ask us to come over to visit him. He has promised to come home more than 6 times now, but gives different excuses for not coming. I was retrenched from my job last year, up till now my husband as not ask me how I am feeding or coping as there is no more communication between us again.  I will be approaching my late thirty soon and I still want to have more babies.
Should I wait for him or walk away?
I need a polite and sincere response.
The End.

Source:
http://gennypearl..com.ng/2016/02/i-have-not-seen-my-husband-in-3-years.html?m=1

Tuesday, February 16, 2016


I'm a girl in my late 20s and I work as a revenue officer. I need your advice, my guy is a banker and he's always having different girls, but I was still the one,because i've seen their names ring bell. There is this girl that works in the same bank as him, but different branch. Her name has been changed to my love and she has been introduced to his mum.

Yet he still claims to have feelings left for me. I love him so much, that letting go of him hurts. I'm still in the relationship, but if i see him I get hurt, if I don't, i still feel hurt. He has taken all part of me, that I found myself looking over at the babe's pics on facebook and even have her number registered on my mind. At times I will save the number to see her...

DP on whatsapp.
It's not like am ugly, but i just found myself lost in the thought of not letting him go. Even if I know the feeling is divided and more is with her than me,i still make fool of myself, by believing in him.


Source: http://gennypearl..com.ng/2016/02/iam-loving-him-he-is-loving-her.html?m=1