₦airaland Forum

LordAdam16

Thank you for explaining it thoroughly and making it easy to understand.

Just as with the pager explosion affecting Hamas leaders, I am glad many outside of the West are beginning to see reasons why China has its own Internet. I don't know how well to phrase it, but the West accuses China of things that they (the West) are likely to do. It seems they are afraid that an external force will commit way worse than them. Also, note that this comes at a time when Canada has labelled India as the sponsor behind killings in Canada. China experienced a similar episode with Huawei as its CFO abi COO, the daughter of the founder, got arrested.

Unlike China, India has been too in love with the West. I recall those trips by Modi (the friendliest Indian PM with the West) to Australia and the UK hobnobbing with the leaders and elite. However, since India has decided to be neutral with Russia and China, the West has not been happy. Even when the EU goes through the backdoor to buy refined Russian diesel from India.

How the West intends to fight Russia, China and now India (Indonesia and Vietnam would be up next in a decade's time) at the same time remains to be seen. But I believe or want to believe that Indian elites' eyes have been open to the relations with the West, "be subservient or we deal with you". If they are smart, they have to begin the process of disentanglement because when it becomes worse, especially as the Indian economy grows (soon to surpass Japan), the moves would affect Indians more than the Chinese in terms of corporate jobs in the West, academia and citizenships. In a way, I think this would benefit our people. I don't see us being a challenger to the West in any way. We are so hooked on anything Western. The last one is so important as there are many Indians with Western passports, which they are gleefully proud to hold just as our people. This reared its head when the US barred American passport holders regardless of nationality or ethnicity from working with Chinese semiconductor companies. This affected ethnic Chinese with US passports. A similar move would significantly affect India more than China. On the other hand, I wonder if the Gulf States will come to India's rescue and how they (Gulf States) would manage relations with the West at the same time. An instance is a senior UAE official assuring the US of not going deep in artificial intelligence development with China and how NVIDIA chips are yet to be delivered to UAE centres for them (the UAE) to work with them simply because the Americans are afraid they will slip into China's hands.

In all, day don dey break for everyone. The Chinese would be like "What did we tell you?" or "I told you na".

SocialJustice:
Lol, you think so highly of the country. A business like JBS doesn't. Do you see their daily volume and it is premium price. Most Nigerians can't even afford their meat. Let's see what they will do here though. No electricity to power cold storage distribution self.

The news is actually true. JBS intends to invest that amount across Africa over the next five years with two chicken and one pork factories in Nigeria. The news is on Bloomberg.

It is a good deal. One of the best times to get into maize farming.

iamL:
I don't want kids, am not spending my hard earned money and time raising children in this cursed system that is passing away.

At time a point in my life I was worried but now I am supper free and peaceful. Honestly Am glad i didn't because all those around me who have kids are the ones telling me they wish they were bold like me. Until I met someone who isn't into children am not getting married. Nothing like when a woman is building her wealth with freedom and peace of mind.

This belief or feeling seems to be preponderant with women, rather than men. I don't think many young men in today's world are yet to realise this. No wonder they weaponise sex in marriage.

Interesting to note.

eniolorunfe:
I’m not the one you asked the questions, but let me attempt to give some reasons to this which I think may give some context to this issue.

Most African men are not romantic, they do not know how to connect with their wives emotionally and that’s an issue in most marriages. For women, having s*x is connected to their emotions. It’s not just a need. So, the husbands need to stir up their wives emotions positively, to be getting it regularly but most wouldn’t do this. What some men invest on their side chicks, they haven’t invested a fraction in their wives. Thats why there is this common saying out there “ a happy wife equals a happy life”. If a woman is not genuinely happy in the home, she most likely will be frustrating the man in the bedroom because that is how she feels she can be heard and her needs met.

It depends on the context of being "romantic" here. Are you assessing African men from the Eurocentric view of romance? For instance, Paris is said to be the City of Love/Romance, but I wager many African or Asian men don't view it as such. I rather have a city in the Caribbean or Brazil as such. Romance is tied to culture. Africans need to choose which culture they prefer - theirs or the Eurocentric view.

Two, things are hard in Nigeria. It takes a lot for a man to provide and be there for his household. Expecting the same man to be the numero-uno in romance is quite unrealistic.

Third, some of these women don't like sex. They see it as a chore. Funny enough, they had more than enough sexual intercourse experiences from 17/18 - 25. While Onega.i is right that older women are expressive in sex, it is absurd to weaponize it against one's husband YET expect him not to look outside.

It is bad when men are bullied from both sides - see sex as a reward when you beg for it, but don't complain that your wife withholds it from you. So suck it up. At the same time, don't look outside, but continue to provide for the family.

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Mind you: https://x.com/OfficiaEdoOsasB/status/1860040858596442505

These are the women who weaponise sex against their husbands.

owobokiri:
Even the educated suffer the same Igbo phobia. Ruben has always been like this on Igbo issues for eons. People who don't know much about Abati, should go back to read all he wrote about the Igbos during the regime of Olusegun Obasanjo. At a point , he was boasting of how Obasanjo will cut off the head of Igbos if Uwazuruike didn't stop his MASSOB agitations. The whole thing raised a storm then. . These are all closet tribalists.

Land is costly in Igbo land because land is scarce. It is what it is. I am not sure of any Yoruba man willing to drop over 200 million to buy a plot of land at Nnewi. There are no real Yoruba presence in the east. You can not stay in Lagos or Okitipupa and be upset that the cost of land is high in Igbo land. Most of your guys in the east, live in groups like the northerners because of the high cost of accomodations. That you're out priced does not mean you are banned from buying.

And I am supposed to be afraid or hate White or East Asian racists?

Karleb:
People actually believe Tinubu is doing a reform?

Actually he's, but the reforms are too late. Most importantly, he and his gang kicked against them in 2012. So he's part of the reasons the reforms were never made. It's only fair enough his administration gets to implement them now.

Amaechi and Fashola were part of the people against the build up of the Excess Crude Account. The APC, Mr Edun's boss' party, campaigned against the removal of fuel subsidies in 2012. So clearly he is being disingenuous.

If the roads have open gutters judging from a comment by a resident that the road leading to the Anambra State Government House has open gutters, it further reinforces my belief that Nigerian elites are thoroughly unintelligent.

Napata77:
I am not Yoruba. I am a Mwaghavul man.You guys need to understand that not everyone on Nairaland is Yoruba or Igbo.We have over 300 ethnic groups in this country for goodness sake.

Most Nigerians are arrogant ignormauses. Pay less attention to the monkeys! Bunch of innately foolish people!

I find it odd that it requires the president to sign a deal with JBS in Brazil to invest in Nigeria as it should have been JBS going to Nigeria to seek a deal with the federal and state governments. After all, JBS has facilities in South Africa because of the market size and structure.

Good CGPAs all through. A one-time BGS who is (I don't know about now) is a Nairalander currently pursues his PhD at Wayne State University. BSc Plant Biotechnology - 4.96.

Onegai:
sex and still be able to tell her your inner problems and insecurities in bed and watch her pray for you, the way no side chic can EVER pretend to. See men openly eyeing your Wife-Baddie but be unable to Balthazar her because you're drilling her at home and she's so satisfied, she wants to finish you with love.

Plant a tree today and sit under its' shade one day in the future

All the best.

I am glad this topic came up because you have always lampooned men for "cheating", but have never explained why a woman would use sex as a weapon against her husband. If she even agreed to ora.l sex, I can say she don try. But why is everything the fault of the man even when sex - tied to his hormones and prevention of prostate cancer - is now weaponised? How come the man is ALWAYS at fault in your opinion?

If OP has a pot belly or does not perform fore.play, that is his fault, but supposedly he is fit, trim and performs fore.play, how is it his fault? I am genuinely curious, why the Harvard and Oxford writeup for a man whose wife has weaponised sex to the point he has to beg for it?

IamAsiri:
I wish you would read what she wrote, even if you cannot read the book she suggested. She is so on point. Some women are already stressed up, some are anxious (battling with how to feed their family in this economy) while some are depressed. Some also have undergone FGM through no fault of theirs when they young which makes sex painful to them. Are you sure that your wife is not in any of these categories?

I'm genuinely curious, why do you think married men especially in Nigeria's present situation aren't mentally and physically stressed up as well? Who provides the bulk of finances across Nigerian families (north, east, west and south)?

Stricker321:
How do married men cope with this situation? My wife wants sex like max of once a week. If she can even reduce it to twice a month she will do it. Even the once a week is usually a struggle. At night, she will say she is tired, in the morning, she will say I am disturbing her sleep. .

I am just wondering why it has to be this tough and stressful to have access to my wife?

Nothing surprising. There is a growing number of married men who suffer the same. I bet she's not interested in ora.l sex because it's dIrTY 🙄 Has she asked you the usual question: "Is sex food"? 🙄

Mind you, your obligations as a man to provide financial, mental and physical security still hold o. We've not even mentioned prostrate cancer and how black men are the biggest sufferers. Tomorrow, we'd be told there are benefits for a man in marriage aside from having children within a two-parent household 🙄

Nonexisting1:
I knew it would be a black boy. The hate against the black colour is real. If it were a white boy, it wouldn't have been an issue.

Good you know being black begets hatred from others. So, why make it easy for them to clamp down on you?

RodgersAkpafu:
e na zero, and thats handicap one of many handicaps facing the Chinese

Building up to the above, America has a multi decade strategy of poaching global talent across the world to the USA to further their interests.
From the days of Operation Paperclip, that has been their style and they will continue to do it decades to come
No empire develops to that height totally endogenously. Look back to any empire from the time of Egypt....
Until the Chinese find a way to Starr poaching global talent, their name na sorry
Heck, China is even losing talent because contrary to what some of u may want to believe, many of the Chinese who left China to study ARE NOT GOING BACK TO CHINA

I work with them, so I know the general sentiment. Freedom is a snare the west is using to draw them in and hook them, and freedom is alluring.
This is a very interesting point and funny thing to say, don't even know how I'll respond to it lol

Well, when many are being discriminated against simply because they are Chinese and haunted about in their workplaces, they would learn. That said, I have stated here that many Chinese students are looking elsewhere - Korea, Japan, Singapore, Malaysia to study rather than the West. Also, the West has made it clear that they don't want Chinese students, at least in STEM fields which the Chinese prefer. Washington has stated so such that the number of Chinese students in the US has declined to be below that of India. The Dutch have explicitly barred Chinese students from STEM fields, and so have the Swiss.

See here:

Gerrard59:
10. As I have preached relentlessly on Nairaland, the United States is the [b]ONLY place where black professionals thrive and excel. Unsurprisingly, African Americans are the richest set of black people globally, with black South Africans behind. The US absorbs the best and brightest talent globally. However, I wonder if there won’t be a backlash towards Nigerians should Nigeria begin to prosper. Currently, Chinese Academics and professionals are being harassed with many opting to relocate to Mainland China or cousins in Singapore/Malaysia/South Korea/Japan. This paper studied their worries and planned departures: “Caught in the Crossfire: Fears of Chinese-American Scientists”: https://www.pnas.org/doi/full/10.1073/pnas.2216248120

So I wager that those who aren't interested in returning to China are Ndi lovey-dovey folks just as we've Nigerians who learnt basic biology in secondary schools in Nigeria, but chant woke words that gEnDeR and sEx are different concepts while supporting actual men to be in women's bathrooms. One cannot win always, but if one is to lose, it is better to lose such characters. China would not miss them.

BTW, the entire bolded text in the embedded post reveals a lot because India is beginning to experience similar backslashes. Very soon we would be told that India is taking our jobs 🙄

ednut1:
you are better off going to learn French and apply for express entry. The school is a mushroom school aka diploma mill. They probably rented two floors in a high rise and its not a reputable school with employers. Now is not even the time to come via study visa if its not in reputable universities in less competitive provinces.

But bros, why e be say our people no dey conduct basic research before paying huge sums to these schools? I once toyed with an MBA just as my first boss did too, so I have more than a fair knowledge about schools' quality, employability and the like. Why one school with a funny-looking name when there are good schools (STEM certified) in the Texas region in the US?

A simple Google search brought out the top MBA programs in Canada: https://www.reddit.com/r/MBA/comments/12eww5r/mba_at_top_schools_in_canada_or_m7_t15_us/
https://e-gmat.com/blogs/top-business-schools-for-mba-in-canada/
https://www.topuniversities.com/mba-rankings/canada

I would be told that "oh, those schools are either too expensive or elitist", but it mustn't be the top five or even top ten especially if one's grades and previous work experiences no dey okay, but looking at immigration changes and the utmost need to get a job with visa sponsorship, it is imperative that our people choose relatively good schools with some clout behind their names to make up for the huge expenses (financial and mental) that they would incur.

And yes, your suggestion on learning French is way better than spending hooge funds on a degree program at a funny-looking name university.

tensazangetsu20:
I wish I could answer your questions but now I get bored writing a lot on the internet. All i will say is just keep at it and you will get what you want.

The rantings of a bored young rich man.

God, when?

RodgersAkpafu:
After stealing intellectual property from across the world, it is only fair that the EU DEMAND that China "transfers tech"
In fact, the Chinese often demand western companies to transfer tech to Chinese companies when setting up in China
So it's tit for tat.....

Nothing special here

Everyone steals. The British stole from the Germans. Europeans stole from the Arabs. Americans stole from Europe. Japan stole from the US. South Koreans stole from the Japanese. When e reach China's turn, we are made to believe that only China stole. If so, how come the producer of the IP seeks the knowledge? At least, the Japanese and Koreans aren't asking for tech transfer.

RodgersAkpafu:
Now before people come running their mouths
I am not "diminishing" the Chinese achievements over the last 50 years

they have done well, really well 👏
However in this particular post you tagged me in @Gerrar.d59, its no big deal Technology transfer demands from someone who demand tech transfer is a fair deal and nothing special. On the side, I was paired with a Doctor Wang to do some work, and I have to say, apart from her not so perfect English, she is really sound, and eats the mathematics for breakfast

I really had to step up to the plate, so as to at least make the same impression she had on me, on her
Thankfully I did not fall hand lol

She is really really really good

Oh! The Chinese are damn too good! As I have noticed, while one is thinking 1, they have moved to stage 5. They are so good whether Hong Kong, Taiwanese, Mainland or Singaporean. They are ruthlessly good!

LordAdam16:
The world is collectively shackled by the US pursuing a negative policy of hobbling everyone--both "friends" and foes alike--so they remain #1 in perpetuity.
The day the planet escapes that grip will be Day 1 of an age of technological advancements that'll dwarf all previous industrial revolutions combined.

Europe is prepared to make that leap.
Washington is still running the "over my dead body" script.

Can you imagine what we could get up to if Musk, Russia, China, Europe, Japan, and India got together to jointly develop an interplanetary habitat. You know, the ISS of the 21st century. But grander. It'll be a marvel.

Japan is stuck in purgatory.
Germany is being ushered into a cryogenic capsule.
These are their friends.
They want to roll back the clock on China.
Russia they expect to be the newest North Korea.
India will only get so far before they pump the brakes. I don't know how anyone can look at this devious behavior and applaud it as better than all available options for the species.
Never mind the African homeland.
I'm supposed to be reassured that the same guys who bullied Japan into the Plaza Accords and destroyed Germany's energy infrastructure will let Africa achieve its $100T (4.5b people strong) potential over the next century.

I do hope the Axis Powers work out a way to help keep the Europeans above water.
We are all victims. Some better fed and clothed than others.

-Lord

THANK YOU very much! Imagine those countries who are allied nations yet see what they had to experience. As it is, Germany's industrialisation is on the brink. Manufacturing CEOs have lamented already. I don't want the Asian folks to help them. They should help themselves as this anti-China and soon-to-be anti-Indian rhetoric is based on racial superiority. I admire how China transfers the technology to neighbouring Asian and African countries. That is where the technical know-how is much needed, not by people who mocked the Chinese for copying "their technologies" yet suddenly want the copier to teach them. How can a thief know more about a product than the producer?

cc: IbeOkehie see the bold to understand our situation.

Objectivist04:
If you bet with your money on that you will lose it, look well they have past the stage of covering drainages . It is done before sand filling.
Soludo does not cover gutters, even the so called fun city and the new government house all have open gutters.
In the entire south east, only Abia covers drainage at all , ikpeazu did it and Otti is doing it, aside Abia , Enugu Anambra,imo and Ebonyi na open gutter everywhere. When you see the flyover build by Fintiri in Adamawa state and the one built by Ugwuanyi in Enugu, you will weep for south East. You need to see how gburugburu left deep gutters along the flyover uncovered, infact it is an eyesore.

Yet my people display braggadocio outside Nigeria

Toilet elites everywhere! So even near the government house, there are open gutters? Chai! A professor o!

P.S. Sorry, what is the Fun City all about?

Hopefully, the gutters will be covered. I will forgive not planting trees, but please cover the gutters.

The EU demands intellectual transfer from the Chinese. How the mighty have fallen!

This goes to show that if one works very hard and plays the long game, success is most assured.

Kudos to the Chinese! I am proud of them!

cc: RodgersAkpafu The West cannot defeat China, certainly not in this century. Lovey-dovey cannot sustain the economy in the long run. This century is the Asian one.

Childofgrace18:
Internet is your friend. Ghana, Kenya are all in red list.

You are the one in the UK. You are the one who made the claim without any supporting evidence, but I - a random questionnaire - should research to know why?

Thanks anyway.

Childofgrace18:
Not just only Nigeria, the only African country NHS recruit direct is south Africa. 98% of African country are on the red list.

So why blacklist Nigeria? And why is South Africa preferred? Ghana and Kenya nko?

optimusprime2:
Oh please... I said keep patriotism aside and let's be real. The only functional resource in Nigeria right now are the people who are very enterprising. Job Opportunities exist but how many regular people can boast of a salary equivalent of 800usd per month in Nigeria??

I can easily call some African countries asides South Africa that have that pay equivalent.

So, is it in Gambia where such jobs are plentiful? Let's set aside remote jobs as they are not dependent on the host nation. Botswana is safe, that is true. But the unemployment rate there is so worrisome the dominant party lost woefully in its recent elections.

There are some African countries that Security is literally almost not needed due to safe systems and law abiding people... is kidnapping not a Norm in Nigeria?

safety, not the abundance of jobs is the only positive these countries have over Nigeria.

AjisafeDayo:
Someone has just asked an important question. Why all these ranting. Simply advice him and if you don't know what to say, then save your keypad from stress. Must you come online to advertise your insanity? Nigerians can be so funny at all times

He has gotten enough advice. In summary is 10 million naira is grossly inadequate for a family man to relocate in today's world. Except on work visa which is hinged on cognate work experience.

Thugnificent:
Abakaliki Ebonyi state Nigeria

Thanks for the response.

Childofgrace18:
You are right, skills is fine but only skills can't qualify him to get visa in the "A" list countries. Their are path ways and is very difficult for the skills workers. The only skills that would have helped him 10% not necessary higher is if he is a nurse, doctor, dentist, pharmacist, radiography, laboratory scientist etc. especially nurse but 90% of trust in the UK don't recruit from Nigeria again and he have to score 7.0 in IELTS and 98% in CBT. Many nurses I know in Nigeria, their IELTS results have expired in their hands. Japa this days is not child's play. but once he comes to the UK legally not visiting, job plenty, or else he is not ready to work.

Curious question: why?

SSpeter:
na so una dey talk....I have over 50m unaccounted for because of this young entrepreneurs... when you provide capital to bring this idea to fruition, then it becomes tales by moonlight 🌙

Interesting. Some questions please:

- Any legal backing when you invested?
- Any established accounting proceedings before and after the investment?
- Any follow up and monitoring of the businesses and how they operate?
- Access to the bank accounts of the businesses?

Ernesthugo:
hopefully we shall see about it,it very tough outside the shores of Nigeria,also Nigerians are more blacklisted in so many country relating to crimes,so i have to use VPN more time in order to access nairaland as where I am more Nigerian website are blacklisted as it is regarded as porn. May God deliver us from the shackles of evil governance as it is now no more middle class, you either rich or poor. even 10m now is broke and poor

Sorry, which country is that where even access to Nairaland is barred?

ednut1:
you obviously don’t know how businesses work here. You charge expenses to the business pay little or no taxes. Travel expenses, car expenses, part of your rent or mortgage, phone bills , charity donations etc. and who says you can’t do business in Nigeria and abroad. The last business i did in Nigeria currency devaluation scattered it. But we move

People forget that running a business in the abroad actually enables one to pay less taxes in the long run.