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Tightpussy2024:
Why are you deliberately being dishonest and making it about greed? Swear you are not aware of the stigma attached to divorcees. Worse off they become single moms by nature of divorce. Go to romance section, every eke market day they is a thread to bash single mothers. If you are in such situation how easy will it be to walk out of your marriage?

For the records, I don't discriminate about divorcees, female or male. I also don't bash single moms even though I don't support its prevalence in a society as it leads to negative results over time. I support divorces provided both parties agree to it and especially in a case of violence towards any party, man or woman.

Plus men like gerrar.d59 that encourages men to be adulterous as their birth right, it looks bleak for African women sha

Then this. The reason I support men, well-to-do men, exploring other options is because women enjoyed their time when they were much younger. The same women who bashed their male counterparts stating outrightly that they have nothing to do with them, but frolicked with much older men now suddenly want to dictate to men as to how many women they should frolick with? The same women who openly and willingly dated married men are now against their husbands doing the same? When they were dating married men and having male admirers, why didn't they say no? When they were collecting money upandown and doing fine girl (their rights) from married men, why change when they are married?

In my books, the only woman a man should not "cheat on" is a virgin and the woman who was with him while he had nothing tangible in his life. Additionally, a man who explores should not bring forth diseases to his wife and children from other women, especially if he is not a Muslim. Also, after much analysis, apart from having children in a two-parent household, I don't see the benefits marriage accrues to men. Most importantly, it is not a black African man's thing to be adulterous. Men have testosterone, which is a hormone, not a m.oron. The average man globally likes to fvck. The Western men you use to judge other men divorce a lot, sometimes as high as thrice in their lives. The divorce laws in France condone adulterous men. The talk about fidelity mostly lies with Anglophones. Outside Anglophone, married men fvck a lot.

As a result of the Jarus' case, I had to ask two Indonesians (male and female) about their country's and Malaysia's views regarding polygamy. Both stated that it is not common there, but cheating especially by married men is rampant. The reason Anglophone men aren't openly adulterous is because of what they stand to lose economically. Elsewhere, the men lose nothing economically when they explore. In China, men have mistresses. The same holds for Russian, Thai, Japanese, Korean, Arabian and Latino men. For Chinese men, go to Macau and the Philippines to see what they do there.

So, if you want to stem the tide of adulterous affairs by Nigerian men, institute systems which punish their extramarital relationships. The other option would be to marry Western men and leave Nigerian/African men alone. Korean women are doing it. Copy them. Another option is to remain single, become a reverend sister, marry a woman or marry a much poorer man.

Again, the right to choose, not to dictate.

kolaa007:
Good evening my people
I want to just make enquiry on how to apply for a tourist visa to Japan. I just wan play go for like a week do I need to visit their embassy here in Lagos Nigeria ?

The embassy is in Abuja, not Lagos.

How much is visa fee what documents do I need and would be nice to meet some Nigerians when I get to Tokyo. Once I get someone will start my step by step journey to getting tourist visa and see if Dem give me or not. Cheers

Google "Japanese embassy in Nigeria" to find more information about obtaining a tourist visa to Japan. As for meeting Nigerians in Tokyo, as a tourist in a foreign land, why do you want to meet your country people? Anyway, there are Nigerians there and in neighbouring Saitama prefecture. Check Bumble too and other online groups.

aviara:
The guy must have been told Yoruba are the majority in Peckham so the bigot wanted to catch on the Yoruba majority to win the election. Sadly he came out second to the last.

The reason is simple, majority of yorubas in that county were born there and as such don't have the primitive ethnic sentiment of the average Yoruba person back home.

He alienated other West Africans who together form the majority. After all, the winner has a Liberian father and a Sierra Leonean mother. As it is, other West Africans would rather vote for a White person from the Conservative Party than a Nigerian. I don't see a Nigerian representing that constituency anytime soon.

aviara:
It's a bad precedent to export primitive tribal sentiment from Africa to the UK. What could have been the possible reason naming a party after a particular tribe if it isn't to get sentiment votes based on tribe.

Even if it's Indian party or Calabar party, it will still be a thousand times very wrong.

A retired orthopaedic surgeon who worked in the NHS o

Olusola who took the second to the last spot in the election, garnered 261 votes while the winner of the election, Miatta Nema Fahnbulleh, garnered 22,813 votes.

One of the few black politicians in the UK with a degree from Oxford in Politics, Philosophy and Economics. She has a solid profile and could be appointed as the Exchequer one day.

Love800:
You last number is not actually what it really is. U can still apply even in your forties. Luck may fall on you.

My prayer is that you eventually get the opportunity to leave Nigeria.

Yustash001:
I mean without securing a job. It was a typo error.

My sympathy.

So, how is she coping? A year is a long time o

AngelicBeing:
No wonder she is struggling to get a job , STEM COURSES would have given her the opportunity to secure a job although unemployment/ job scarcity is affecting so many Western countries including the UK but let her be positive, something will pop up for her

She should stayed back in Nigeria. All courses are not equal regarding relocation. Anything non-STEM has to be backed with quality work experience, a globally recognised certification or degree from an elite university.

The people criticising those in the videos NEVER condemned the utterances of MC Oluomo. How different are you lots from MC Oluomo? So, why are you so pained that MC Oluomo was mentioned? Even Tony Kabaka of Edo State was also mentioned. Also, their accents don't sound like they are Igbos. They could be Binis or of another ethnic group.

Anyway, I am really delighted with this demystification of the UK by recent migrants. It really pains those who have crowned themselves as representatives of Nigerians in the UK because they resided there for ages or were born and bred there. Before, we will be told, "we don't have the range to talk about UK/US/Canadian politics or issues". It is now an all-comers' affair. Please keep uploading those videos. I love them!

cassette:
Live and let others leave, I know you know YouTube was created for a purpose, you don't get upset when over oyinbo content on YouTube, all I see is someone jealous of others using YouTube as a legitimate source of income, I mean if everything annoys you then something is really wrong with you

He is pained because the UK he thought was excluded from "commoners" has had every Tom, Dick and Harry inside. I bet you if he has his way, he would ban Nigerians from entering the country.

Yustash001:
Well, I didn't listen to what he said but my sister has been in UK for more than a year with securing any job.

Sorry, your sister has been in the UK for 12 months without securing a job or she has a job already?

FEGEITOK:
What would you say about unmarried nurses above 30 who are doing everything to move on what I hear but haven't confirmed to be true is a newly created caregiver visa or via the student route?

Does it make sense?

Given their profession?

A nurse can move to the UK. It is an in-demand profession. Better as she is single. Preferably, she gets a job before entering the country. I no sabi how that visa system dey work.

That road is gone.

But it baffles me o...is it that we don't have the mental capacity to solve our infrastructural problems, whether erosion or flooding? I have stated it here, if it means hiring the Chinese or Japanese to build, operate and maintain these infrastructures, so be it.

We no dey try as black men o.

RodgersAkpafu:
as per the bolded

America (and by the extension the west) will eventually clip China wings
that one is inevitable
with the diversion of investment and massive support for China neighbours (India etc)

The same India that is neutral and is in bed with Putin? Those days of "my way or the highway" by Western countries are over. China is going nowhere. It is here to stay. It is an economic giant. As for investments going to India, some are owned by Chinese businesses. In other parts of Southeast Asia, and even Morocco, Chinese businesses are the ones powering those moves. The West initiates a policy, China surges along. Moreover, many Western firms are still staying put. They never leave a much poorer Russia, na China dem wan leave? The manufacturing and supply-chain ecosystem in China is unparalleled.

So, yes, some investments are moving away from China, but are financed by Chinese businesses. It is a Win-Win for developing countries. So, I am surprised that rather than agitate for African countries to benefit from China's derisking, you advocate for clipping of China's wings. Whereas most technologies Africa(ns) enjoys today are solely because the Chinese made them very affordable and accessible.

the high tariffs
limiting of Chinese students from certain courses
etc

Chinese universities are already so good (The Economist stated this itself), except you want them to study Gender Studies and Transgender Mutilation. UK universities cannot survive without foreign students. This is an undeniable fact. The top universities either have to admit more foreign students or have empty classrooms. Although, Indians are fast replacing the Chinese, the Chinese spend more and don't seek handouts. Apart from India, where else do you expect to get students? The ones wey Tinubu don batter? For instance, look at the restriction of visas by the UK, the numbers from India and Nigeria dropped, but not so for China because the terms of those rules don't affect them.

and BTW there is little room for growth for China at this point
they have gotten to their elastic limit
just like Japan

There is little internal consumption in the Chinese economy. So, there is room to expand. And yes, largely a reason they are exporting their goods to consumers who are watching their pockets. So, to stem inflation, countries would have to rely on China for the foreseeable future. Again, Japan's economic fall began when her baby-daddy America twisted its hands to sign the Plaza Accords. Is that what you want for China?

RodgersAkpafu:
Well
I support the West 100% in their stance of ruffling China and the whole of Asia because the playing field is not balanced...

I had some involvement with the penetrative efforts of UBER in South Korea, who is btw supposed to be a western ally. The underhand tactics and the subsequent "blockage" of Uber's first (mis) adventure into South Korea to pave way for the local competitor (I have forgotten their useless name sef) really changed my perspective of things

The same also happened in Japan. I read that very article in the WSJ. OTOH, America has bullied foreign competitors with huge fines. Samsung Electronics has been fined several times when it went head-on-head with Apple. The same was done against Huawei, but it has survived. The EU does the same with American tech firms, just as America does the same with European firms. No one is innocent.

the west for so long had turned a blind eye to the open hostility of Western firms in Asian markets....

You would have to define the Asia here. If you mean the likes of Japan, Taiwan and Korea, those are vassal allied nations. They do what the West wants, any time, any day. German and French companies are making a killing from Chinese consumers. Australia and New Zealand understand the importance of this market and have mended ties. As I stated, this is China, not Libya or Iraq.

China South Korea. etc
As much as I loathe trump, I agree with him in the area that the west has to unite to play the game the same way these Asians are playing it, and stop playing the "better person"

Unite with who? The world's economy has shifted East. Get along with them, rather than fighting them. Those days are gone. If you fight them, they embrace China. It is 2024 not 1994.

"Stifling China’s green energy boom would be a disaster" - FT.

I cannot post the link here because the anti-spam bot has banned me countless times whenever I post FT articles.

The West initiated the pivot to EVs and a green economy. China was vilified for smoggy air and polluted waters. China latched onto green economic technologies. China succeeded. Today, the West is angry. The same is gradually happening in AI. The time for sole Western dominance is over. Dem folks have to accept it.

cc: RodgersAkpafu

RodgersAkpafu:
your view about the west "fighting" China is simplistic and is not covering the full picture.

The West is not struggling because of its "fight" with China
China will be nothing without western capital and western markets

Agreed. However, the Chinese should be given accolades for expanding their economy via sheer hard work, fore-sighted investments into new technologies and expansion of investments/factories into developing countries. Dictating them to quell its progress does not sit right with me. The same was applied to the Japanese in the name of Plaza Accords.

Africa is too poor to absorb the excess capacity from China IF the west TRULY locks them out of their markets
South East Asia too....

The reason China is investing in these markets so they grow as China did and can afford goods and services by Chinese companies.

If anything, capitalism and corporate greed is what is messing the west up, especially the United States

I am curious, how exactly considering the US' economic situation is the best amongst all Western economies?

In other words, if you are of the following:

- a married person;
- leave on a student visa
- with children
- and above 30

Remain in Nigeria.

RodgersAkpafu:
the bolded is a very fallacious statement to make
From this comment you made
I can bet my left ball that u are not based abroad because if you are. you will see for yourself how the economy is so screwed esp in the UK and Canada

If you are old enough to remember, we are back to the UK/US/Canada of 2009-2011 where everywhere was hard so much so that people were going back to naija to get jobs at least to hide temporarily.

Unfortunately, many cannot return because the Nigerian economy is tough as well. APC ruined the country! Used tribal bigotry and economic incompetence to destroy the gains of the PDP. I blame dem Obasanjo, Atiku, Saraki and the rest who were so greedy and short-sighted.

Economy goes in cycles and right now, the economy is in the pit

it does not mean there won't be a resurgence, but for now, everywhere tight

Western countries to a great extent would continue to suffer economic crisis as long as they fight China. The animosity towards an economic giant such as China simply because the Han people refuse to cower in fear will affect the global economy. You cannot fight China and expect economic progress, especially for EU nations.

Nigerians dey owe rent for this UK
Females looking for a man to shelter them in exchange for "wife duties" (things are happening)

Interesting. Dem Big and Old Uncles in the UK would be having the times of their lives!

most people finding jobs difficult to get
all that

Again, fight China and suffer for it. The West would have been able to do away with China if Africa had a prosperous middle class, but after conniving with despotic rulers across the continent, how Africa wan grow? China has Southeast Asia to sell goods to. Europe has a poor Africa and a restive Middle East.

MT:
At the bolded, so going to Canada and the US is a breeze ?

Everyone knows migrating to the UK from Nigeria is easier than North America.

ednut1:
CAD to naira was 250 naira when i came and could survive with a job for months. Today its 1092. A one bedroom studio when i came to Toronto was 1300 today’s its 2300. There are fewer jobs today than then. The target of my message are students who come here without any-money thinking they can pay for their fees and bills . But 6 months down no job. They are all over social media crying

If Ednut dey warn people to be fully prepared, then e mean say water don pass garri.

You people should listen to him o.

nairaman66:
All physicists worship pure mathematicians anywhere in the world.

I am ignorant of the worshipping, but it is fairly common to read/see top grads in Mathematics rather than Physics. It is so rare even in the US.

Kizzygentle:
Because na fellow Asian man. If na African man, na death sentence straight. All this Asians no dey use ear dey hear say black man commit offence. Na death straight..

Blacks are mostly associated with drugs. Asian countries hate drug trafficking because of history. See Opium War in China. However, in Singapore's case, regardless of nationality or race, the laws are applied.

javascript1901:
I believe bc both are Asian countries.

Is this country okay for schooling and later live there?

I wrote about living and working in Asia as a black person, preferably man. That said, studying in Singapore is notoriously expensive. The universities there charge Harvard/Oxford rates for international students. No direct work visa after studies. Those who get such working rights are international students, almost all from neighbouring countries, sponsored by the Singaporean government. There are different classes of work visas for foreigners who wish to work in Singapore. I explained everything in this thread below:

Gerrard59:
That is because all Asian countries are not the same. The opportunities for foreigners, regardless of race in say Malaysia aren't the same as opportunities for foreigners in say, Singapore. Yes, the work ethic is most Asian countries, especially those characterised with East Asian culture, can be tedious for non-natives. The koko is that the jobs are available.



Yes, I highly recommend STEM unless one is prepared to learn the language for at least a year before commencing studies if the course is non-STEM like a Gambian did. Even STEM has courses one should not touch, like nursing. I don't think patients will be comfortable with blacks attending them as nurses or psychologists - both of which require native fluency. However, skills will get you the job if the language knowledge is zero. My guy got a job with a salary equivalent of $5K per month because he knows artificial intelligence (his research is AI related). This guy does not know how to speak Japanese. I even speak better Japanese than he does. The interviewers even requested he introduce himself in Japanese, but he politely declined as he did not know how to speak the language. Mind you, before this offer, he had three offers waiting for him.

If I am to recommend Asian countries for Black Africans and courses in terms of employment opportunities, in order of ranking: Japan, Singapore, China and South Korea. The competition in Korea and China for jobs is fiercer, so one has to be very good at the skills and language. Singapore is a peculiar case as there are restrictions for foreigners to be employed there. The government scrutinises the university you graduate from and the quality of work experience as a foreigner seeking employment. Black African candidates would have to showcase their skills for a firm to leave Chinese, Indians, and Westerners to employ them. If you graduate from, say, the National University of Singapore, the chances are higher, but NUS is pricey for foreigners. Tuition fees mimic the equivalent in Harvard and Oxbridge. Scholarships are minimal for non-South East Asian citizens. If not because of the use of English, it should come last in my ranking as it is very tough for black Africans without specialist skills. The surest or easiest way is to be transferred from the European or American office to the Singapore branch. Note: an African American has it easier as getting a job in the US is easier and faster to get a transfer compared to a black African that is still on a working visa vs citizenship status for the African American.

Those countries are the ones with stable economies. The rest are still developing. So, don't mistake Vietnam for South Korea or the Philippines for Japan. I have met a Nigerian who did both BSc and MSc in Computer Science at a Vietnamese University but could not get a job until he got it in Japan. He has been here for seven years and does not know how to speak Japanese. I dare say I speak better Japanese than he does and can read Kanji better than him. But he works in a top tech firm in the country.

So, there you have it.

Majulah Singapura!

Even though Japan and Singapore are allies (Singaporeans LOVE Japan), no favouritism when rules are broken.

As for those rights groups, they should shut up! There's a reason Singapore is one of the world's safest cities for almost ten consecutive years.

Esthered:

I'm honored to be mentioned by you.
You're right about our marriage being primarily for childbearing.
If you haven't conceived, you'll be asked the reason for the delay. I usually reply them asking if they'll take responsibility when the child comes and they laugh saying God will provide.

Please don't fall for the religious, God-chanting tricks of Nigerians. I cherish your current state - two children. You plan well and hope for the best, while also preparing for the worst. You know where the shoe pinches. As you rightly stated, children are investments, not to reap but to nurture. It takes so much to raise children into responsible beings in today's world. I read online that a crate of egg don hit 5K, and we know how egg, in boiled form, is essential for children's growth, mentally, physically and nutritiously.

I still try to phantom how couples seeing their low income mekwe anyhow and not take caution. They claim that it's good to have a good number of them as you don't know how many will succeed.

Tor! Hopefully, they have more girls than boys.