₦airaland Forum

Tinyemeka:
What exact culture shock are you talking about? Care to elaborate please?

Would you the same question arise between an Igbo and Hausa relationship?

When I first saw this video early this year, I asked a Zim lady what she thought and her response was that Zim women still maintain traditional values regarding the role of women in a relationship in respecting the views and catering to the needs of a man in a relationship.

A Nigerian guy is looking for peace of mind which the UK ones seem to have found in the Zim ladies (who mostly are reserved/quiet compared to Nigerian ladies), while most of the Zim guys are rough/randy, prowling for white ladies to hook up with.

Honestly, it will be EXTREMELY difficult for a single Naija guy coming to the UK and seeing the options available, to finally settle down with a Nigerian lady. Just God's grace to be honest.

A British girl does not do billings. Instead she'll be the one spending on the guy or at least sharing expenses.

A Zim/Kenyan/Ugandan lady is naturally packed front and back and does not see sex as a transactional business like most Nigerian ladies do. Will cook and host the guy proper. All she needs is his love and attention.

Romanians (including some Polish girls) are hunting black guys to sample their bedmatic skills for free, based on stories that they've heard.

And you want a Naija guy to come and be listening to Naija girls with their sense of entitlements and loud talk?

QuinQQ:
It is a deceptive explanation. If Islam is all about saving marriages ask DesireV why the divorce rate in the capital of Islam (Saudi Arabia) is so high

ugodson:
Firstly how do transporter make earns meat

Secondly how many companies will handle over 200 staff transportation when so e are owing o er 1 month salary (Note: staff won't resign cos there is no job out there and just hopeful they will pay salaries been owed.

ugodson:
Just sit and imagine someone's salary is 150k .just transportation in a day will take nothing less than 2k for 20days 40k excluding ur afternoon meal 40k .
How do you
Savings
Feeding
House rent
Miscellaneous
School fees
Data

Please and you still want this government?

OlujobaSamuel:
Tell me you don't live in Lagos without saying it.
BRT is strictly card payment system, so you are not paying cash.

AustineE1:
Exactly their modus operandi!...they first thirst the water and when they docile masses do nothing,they wait for a while and add another burden on them,it continues in this manner,is endless.
Imagine all the promises before the increment in electricity tariff,with the band A,B,C etc stories and promise of 18hrs power to band A. Now even band A in some places dont even have 6hrs power in a day.
Soon they will come back with another increment and another story.

DesireV:
Divorce isn't the exclusive right of the man in Islam. Both parties can initiate/seek divorce.
As a matter of fact, no faith discourages dissolution of marriage like Islam. It's like the last option to prevent marital disaster.

Pronouncing divorce three times at an instance is disliked in Islam, though the divorce stands. It's not the proper way. Witnesses aren't needed.
The marriage ends but there is the concept on 'iddah, only seen in Islam. The divorced wife has to do three menses in the man's house with her basic bills picked by the man 100% during this period. It's like a reconciliation window, to save the marriage. The man can take her back during this period without a new nikkah so far it's not the third divorce. A man can't marry his wife again if he has divorced her 3 times until she marries another man who consummates the marriage. Again, this is like a caution to make the man careful. Iddah is also to ensure the divorced wife isn't pregnant, so that she won't go away with the man's baby. This prevents paternity fraud.



Under Islamic law, a person who divorces his or her spouse without genuine reason is sinful. While the marriage stands dissolved here on earth, he or she will face the consequences on the day on judgement.



Wife can initiate/seek divorce just like the man. It's even more strict on the husband because if she does, there is no iddah for the husband. Also, she has only one card unlike the husband who has three. It's kinda easier for her

There is the role of the shariah court in all matters of marriage to ensure fairness among the parties. The primary goal is to save the marriage. If it doesn't work, that's when a fair dissolution comes in with the interests of the children of the marriage adequately protected.
That someone is cooking with pressing iron doesn't mean it was made for cooking. That someone is practising Islam wrongly doesn't change what Islam represents. You can talk about Islam, if you're knowledgeable about it and what you'll be saying is exactly what Islam is, not that the irresponsible behaviors and practices of some Muslims is Islamic.

DesireV:
Why do you talk about what you're clearly ignorant of?
What do you have to gain in this blackmail?
What you have written aren't true. I don't know why non Muslims discuss Islam out of sheer ignorance.
Can't you just let Islam be or say the truth about it?

BlackViper:
Typical Life in the North under shariah law where divorce is the exclusive right of the man and he doesn't even need to go to court to get a divorce.

All he has to do is say: "I divorce you" to his wife 3 times in the presence of 2 adult male witnesses and the marriage automatically comes to an end. This is known as "Triple Talaq."

Under Islamic law, the husband can divorce his wife for any reason or for no reason and at any time he feels like doing so.

Meanwhile a Muslim wife can only divorce her husband under one condition and one condition only. This condition is, if he leaves Islam. She cannot divorce him because he's unfaithful to her and she cannot divorce him on the grounds of domestic violence because the koran allows husbands to "discipline" their wives

AdolfHitlerxXx:
Divorce culture in the North is crazy. Especially in Kano.

Saw men divorce their wives over tea being too cold. Talaq, Talaq and Talaq... You don land for your Papa house.

Only there will you see a man divorce a pregnant woman. She too as soon she can force the baby to wean, she can go and drop off the baby at their gate even with the maiguard!

Where I come from, you will be forced to stay with her at least till after she delivers.

In Kano, I know a rich man whose first 2 wives are safe because they are his cousins and the extended family wouldn't take it. The other wives 3 &4, soon as they get pregnant, they seem to irritate him because he divorces them. He's done this over 20 times. I know a Bauchi woman with 9 different husbands. 3 of them on the same street

Divorce isn't stigmatized and women use their fathers names so it's easy to hide if you don't do your homework.

I was house hunting at a point and saw a very well furnished apartment. Was wondering about the brand new electronics when agent mentioned that it was a couple who married 3 months previously but before moving into the house, they had divorced.

Side-pieces aren't really permitted, you marry her in, unlike Southern men get away with. But Northern men will marry a specific lady simply to taste the sugar. 6 months after when she's shown she can't even lay the bed... She gets her 3 Talaqs.

dederocs:
Are you okay?

dederocs:
Na only 'on your mandate' he sabi

I have no respect for suckers, governor position is too big for sycophancy.

Dislodge and eliminate jihadists terrorists, fulani herdsmen from the forests of Edo and the state as a whole, this is your cardinal job, these demons have killed a lot of Edo people.

Kobojunkie:
According to what basic biology? I want to know what your source really is here, since I don't know of any basic biology telling women to have children before they are financially stable enough to care for their brood. 🥱🥱🥱

2. Why is this best of a woman about her having children before she has succeeded enough to be best able to take care of the children she intends to have (if at all)? 🥱🥱🥱

Omoawoke:
On another note, since the world needs more babies now since birth rate is declining
See this Chinese man ready to start paying PhD students 7k dollars for every baby they make

What do you think? If they start paying educated women for having babies, maybe people would get married faster and make more babies
https://www.johnathanbi.com/p/the-chinese-billionaire-paying-people-427

Fiscus105:
Not until you guys realise, the biggest reason there are so many single ladies at 30s, is because many of you are not "man enough" to take responsibility of being husband and father.

Check around you, you will see many of you in your 35-45 who yet to know the year they will get marry, if you, and others in that category are bold enough to get married, just imagine, the number of ladies they will take out from singleness.

If woman gets more education and more income back home, I think it's a plus for intending husband, rather than be a disadvantages to such ladies.

From time immemorial woman would do small shakara or being selective, yet they still ended in husband house, but since man refused to be man again, they instead shifting entire blame on female gender.

Omoawoke:
This is sweet to say that young men prefer older women..
Don’t complicate things, how many of your friends or sisters or female cousins go to date a younger man that is even below them in education and career ? Tell me!
A man can complete his PhD and go and marry a girl doing nysc
Can you finish your PhD as a woman and go marry a man doing nysc?

Kobojunkie:
Again, A woman is at her prime at 23 to 27, according to whom? Your mama abi na your papa?

Even imbe-iles know not to spew such nonsense in the open in the year 2026. Kai! 🥱🥱

Banhammy717:
Marriage is sweet if you get it right.
Unmarried marriageable ladies are now many in Nigeria, the number is alarming.
You will see a very decent, pretty, dutiful and disciplined responsible lady in her 30s, still single, I wonder why.
Maybe it's right time government mandate those men who are financially capable to marry more than one wife.

Merry100:
You are not a woman, so why do you think you are in the best position to explain what we want?
Age doesn't determine respect; maturity does.
Being successful gives women even more options. Some women prefer younger men, some others prefer men at the peak of their success. There are also women who actively support their partners in achieving success.
What you need to understand is that when a man and a woman start dating, even if the woman is older, the age factor tends to fade. Over time, they rarely even notice the age gap.

Men, whether younger or older, have some level of ego, a healthy ego is normal. Many men who marry older women; especially those who are not more than seven years older; are very mature. They rarely tolerate or permit disrespect.

A twenty-four year old man can date a thirty year old woman without any issues.

Ifyz0001:
The thing is that Nigerian men love to take charge even at their own risk.

Oga once she collects her salary she should run the house for 1 week ....so you can rest and regain yourself...but no....Nigerian men will be forming, keep your money.

Last last went you don't have 1 naira...the woman will quickly leave you with all her saved money.

edogu:
We often receive the kind of love we allow and believe we deserve. There are genuinely kind women out there who are ready and willing to support their husbands. Sometimes, the experiences some men complain about happen because certain red flags were noticed early on but deliberately overlooked.

For instance, how can you be in a relationship where your partner has never, even once, bought you a meaningful gift? You are always the one giving, giving, and giving. That should raise concerns. Secondly, some men enter relationships with the mindset that, as the head of the family, they must shoulder every single responsibility alone. That belief can be unhealthy.

I am a married man, and I can confidently say that my wife contributes without me asking. My ctive on the matter.

ericmor:
Why are all these young young girls getting apartment self? Is it that they don’t have parent or they just want to leave their parent house and live alone for their work privacy. Is the guys that should be doing that but the girls are more out there getting apartment for themselves. I see why most of them are single this days

Nice2023:
I didn't know how bad I was losing until the new tax law forced me to register my company and made me enlarge my coast and capital which some was given to me by friends and family members to be paid back with interest.

In fact,I borrowed about 85million just of recent and by the grace of God after tax I now make about 9million monthly. Sometimes,fear is our major set backs in life,especially the fear of people's opinion about business.

If u are a new graduate from a poor background like me, work and raise capital and change ur future. No person can become extremely rich being just an employee.

The competition is severely intense and can only favour few people.

Finally,every young man and woman should establish something,run it with ur sweat and do this diligently for 5years and see your life turn around for good.

All the best for u reading this,yes u!

Guyman02:
For those that have forgotten the Enugu false accusation.
That Enugu man really suffered, being stripped of his clothes, beaten by a mob and Policemen, questioned like a hardened criminal by Policewomen forcing him to sign a paper admitting to molesting his daughters.

Then the daughters came out to accuse their mother of teaching them how to say that their father molested, she later admitted that she had a quarrel with her husband and wanted to get back at him in a manner that was very painful.

Then they released the man with feeble apology, Enugu state promised to prosecute the woman but allowed the matter to die after the noise had died down.

The worst part for many people was that the man couldn't still believe that the wife could do what she did after he was exonerated

GloriousGbola:
A large number of Nigerians have a very casual attitude about stealing. It may also be because they too have seen different people steal and get away with it.

I was very strait laced in my employment years and frequently got into trouble over it. Looking back now it almost feels like a waste. A lot of Ogas were into very shady shit and everyone was covering for each other and the company suffered. But now the company is effectively gone and everyone has moved on.

I see some people who looted their former companies who are now ceos in new concerns and pontificating on character etc

As a contractor, you find almost everyone want their cut first before any talk of actual performance. If someone demands 20% cut up front what kind of job will I ultimately deliver?

now as a vendor on the other side i can see that sometimes when i was fighting contractors as an in house engineer over inflated and bizarre contract figures, i was getting in the way of my oga's kickbacks.

GloriousGbola:
Fornication is 100 lashes ooo

I am sure you know that

ukaface:
Y’all dragging her are dunce o

What’s the dragging for exactly?

She obviously was angry about rape and she wrote about it. So why calling her names?

Should rapists be applauded and appreciated.
Whether the Matabele girl lied or not is rape not happening?
Is there no ochanya case?
Ain’t men raping minors?
At UCH I witnessed a baby less than 2 years rushed to the hospital due to sexual abuse by her father. Are these things new?

So what exactly did she say wrong to warrant this nonsense backlash like as if she has said the worst thing ever to be heard on earth .


Rapists exists, and to hell with them


Any small disapproval to how women are treated Una men go term am feminism. wtf!
Should women not fight for themselves and speak up?
Y’all are sick.