₦airaland Forum

franchasofficia:
listen to the op.
The married women you know that you think are supporting their husbands, if you go and check their support, it's almost equal to nothing.
A woman that earn say 1.5milion naira monthly in Nigeria and only contributes 300k/400k of that 1.5million is not making any contribution, she is just being smart so that she can claim to be a supportive wife as bragging right in future. Most men that earn 1.5million naira monthly hardly have savings all because they spend all on family, relatives, community development, Church, which sometimes makes me wonder where women's money usually go to? Check most successful or rich ladies, they don't do any project in their parents community, they don't do in their husbands community, they don't contribute much to Church projects aside the compulsory women association contributions/levies, she doesn't assist her husband's relatives, she doesn't assist her extended relatives, only parents and maybe siblings, she doesn't assist her friends, old classmates, course mates, struggling former colleagues, she never joins bereaved friend's support groups for fundraising, she doesn't give her side boyfriend money she rather collects from him still...but a man at the same financial level with her does the following:

Funds his girlfriend/fiance/wife
Carries his family financial burden 100%
Helps both immediate and extended relatives.
Helps his kindred
Do community projects to make life easier for his community

Does same for his wife's community
Help his wife's parents, siblings financially

Carries Church financial burdens
Carries estate security burden
Helps old time classmates, course mates and even struggling former colleagues
Sponsors his side chick(s) lol
Involves in most friends, colleagues, past colleagues, old school association fundraising and financial issues.
Now I always wonder, what do women use their moneys to do?

Is this peculiar to Igbos or Nigerians in general? I think our men, especially when they have money, just want to be munificent. Or maybe men in general are more generous than women.

Women's money go into the usual: clothes, shoes, travelling out (esp for those in the abroad), eating out, jewellery, bags, makeup kits, sex t.oys and obviously hidden investments, a few of which she might even forget, especially if e plenty.

Honestly, I usually get confused about this cos despite not doing much visible financial expenses, they are always broke even as high incom earners, ire oh

Please define "broke" in this context?

Three PhDs?

Does she know what it means to obtain three PhDs? Assuming she graduates at the age of 25 and proceeds to graduate school (in the abroad for assumption purposes): she obtains it at the age of 30. Then another PhD ± at the age of 34, and the final one at 38.

Lol.

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Her husband is the one to concern himself with such an ideology. People get what they deserve.

Kaczynski:
Open gutter is very cheap

Cheap but ugly, dangerous and uncivilised.

Rictech:
Regarding the bold part of your H: Your alma mater's policy is good! I don’t know about other schools, but at my own school, international students (scholarship/self-funded/exchange) are not allowed to stay in the school dorms beyond the first 6 months. I found out about this through my labmates. In fact, we received an email from the International Students Division earlier in November advising us to start looking for housing, because by March, we are expected to have moved out to make room for incoming international students. The cycle continues. By December 9th, the International Students Affairs Division will be holding an apartment search consultation.

Things have changed drastically after the pandemic. The hostel I lived in had a similar policy - one year residence - and move out to your own apartment. My friend (came in during lockdown) who lived there got an automatic extension. I came in a year after and got an extension via a lottery system. Fast forward to today, and the one year policy has been reinstated.

Regarding the colored part, thanks, I will explore that option.

Please do. While Japan is cheaper than many Western countries, as an African (apart from South Africans), it is quite costly. On paper, part-time jobs can pay for tuition costs provided the person does not do Black Tax. However, it will take a huge toll on your physical and mental health. I do not recommend. Life is for the living.

I was actually looking forward to another Web Development interview today (2025/12/03), but I just received an email saying it has been canceled. I believe I have a strong CV, but could you or anyone in IT please review it? I would really appreciate it.
cc: @blac.kbriar, @tensazan.getsu20

It is your visa status. Recruiters/Employers are so interested in the residence status of applicants, even before their qualifications and skills. I recommend learning the language rigorously, practising LeetCode whenever you can and commencing job hunting a little bit early before Japanese students do. That is, if you are an April entry, commence job hunting in January of the penultimate year to graduation. For October's entry, commence from April/May of the penultimate year. This is to accomodate mistakes, back to back interviewing while working in the lab etc. You wouldn't want to wait until the last months on your visa.

JooEeL:
See how women are happy with this news enh.

Women are so jubilant because they dont want their men to think nothing is better outside... while they keep him trapped and feeding off his misery as the miserable slave that he is.

TuFace needed not to re-marry. Just perform a vasectomy and enjoy life while recouping dividends from his craft.

But why is TuFace still interested in marriage again? Dude is made biologically. All he needed was a vasectomy and solidify his income via countries' tours. A few years ago, I thought of the likes of TuFace, D'banj and PSquare holding tours for the age group that listened to them while they were younger. Those men can hold concerts singing their old songs, and they will sell out. I am willing to attend a Wande Coal concert.

tensazangetsu20:
The street art here is on another level.

The open gutter policy in our country is what I have yet to grasp. Why must the gutter be open? What is there to look inside? I have been watching videos from Caribbean countries, both rich and poor, and I observed that ALL have covered walkways.

Why our own thing too dey different?

Rictech:
A friendly and timely advice to you and anyone planning on moving to Japan via study route.

(A) Choose schools around Tokyo/Osaka. These are places with lots of Jobs and English is widely spoken.
(B) Seek scholarship (MEXT or JICA), else you will struggle.
(C)All East and Southern Africans whether below or above 30 i have met here are on JICA
(D) All Nigerians i have met here are on MEXT.
(E) Will be official soon, tuition will increase by 25% next year.
(F) There are jobs, but not easy to get if you don't understand Japanese.
(G) Getting a job here is easier through recommendation. Even at that, you might not get more than 18hours a week and school activities might not allow you to hustle.
(H) What we frown at in Nigeria as agency fee when looking for house to rent is normal here, they call it key money and it is way expensive.
(I) Your monthly rent for 1k apartment might be ¥40k while the initial moving cost will be around ¥200k, and you will still pay rent for that month.
(J) Rental duration is between 1 year and 2 years. If you sign a rental contract of 2 years and decide to leave after 6 months, you will have to pay the remaining 18months rent.

Talking from experience o. IF YOU ARE A SELF-FUNDED, make sure you have LOTS of money else you will struggle, real struggle. All Africans (Nigerians inclusive) i have met here are on scholarship and they look at me in disbelief (like i committed a crime lol ) when i tell them i am self-sponsored. The job i am doing is via recommendation from an African brother. Kudos to the African community.

G: You are right about the recommendation or referral, and it is possible to get 18 hours or more, including the standard 28 hours. This depends on the kind of job and who referred you. If you have the physical strength, seek a job in warehouse. But please note: you will lose the ability to have an erect preek after a month.

H: Agent money is a global phenomenon. Nigerians who frown at it are illiterates. No landlord has the time to interact with so many prospective tenants when an agent can handle everything. Some landlords have more than one property or type of property and might not even reside in the same city where these properties are located. Yes, key money is very expensive. Moving costs are prohibitive. This results in residents living in the same apartment for a long time until they have saved enough for a down payment, are married, gotten a higher-paying job or are moving to a new location. This is also why staying in the hostel as an African is the cheat code: you save a lot and avoid these accommodation-related issues until you opt for, say, a PhD or get a job.

I: Yes, you pay all sorts of insurance costs, electricity costs, gas bills, water utilities and Internet connection if required. You pay both the current month and the last month. Yes, once you move, you pay for breaking the agreement. You also pay the guarantor's fee. The reason many don't move. The good thing is: rents don't get increased arbitrarily. Any rent increment would/might be after the initial 1 or 2 years agreement.

J: Agreement is agreement.

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I was privately financed and got scholarships (three), including an offer to continue to PhD level (which I later declined). I strongly recommend that you do the same. Just as you, the Nigerians I met here were all on MEXT and were shocked to know that I was privately financed. Other Africans were either on MEXT, JICA or Ashinaga Scholarships. The only other privately financed student I met (a Burkinabe) had a previous scholarship (MEXT Teacher's Training) and returned for his MSc. He taught me how to navigate the tuition waiver system, and we got waived quite a number of times.

What I did was to search through StudyinJapan website for scholarships. When I got into the country, I sat in my lab seat to carefully go through the requirements and their eligibility. You would find out that there are many scholarships for Southeast Asians. Target "World" and "Africa".

Yes, tuition fees would be increased o. One of the reasons I chose Japan was that the tuition fees are the same for both citizens and foreigners. So I targeted the top schools (national universities). I read earlier in the day that Tohoku University would increase its fees, and it is the first to do so. Thus, I expect other Teikoku Universities to do the same. Tokyo Tech was already a 100K yen more expensive than Todai. I can imagine its fees today.

manmade:
Some people are saying this is one of effects of population explosion, I don't share that idea, the population supposed to be a catalyst for growth and not it's menace, take China for example their population is more than Nigerian 10 times

You are comparing Nigerians to the Chinese?

Chinese are largely homogeneous; Nigerians aren't. China experienced terrific economic growth consistently for decades; ours got destroyed by Buhari in 2015. Since then, to see 5% GDP per annum growth na by connection.

dawnomike:
The new trending gist in december for Nigerians...

Nigerian politicians are lucky!

At one point, I thought they deliberately ignite new topics to keep our people busy.

I recalled when the intro happened, many female monikers warned that this couple would have a heated argument.

Time is everything.

Klington:
Imagine the little girl sleeping with a man old enough to be grandfather

Or the man sleeping with a girl young enough to be his daughter?

The issue here is murder, not consensual sex. Good a thing the police is involved.

Thomas1186:
PLS I NEED URGENT ADVISE AND SOLUTION!

Each time our marriage breaks, my business gets stuck and all manners of evils happen to me at the same time.

We did a couple of business together before she suddenly became attractive to me one day when I saw her. I wooed her and we dated for just 2 months and got married the third month.

Go to Mountain of Fire Ministries, for your own good o. I avoid anything White Garment. Before marrying a woman, dig deep into her social media pages. How can you marry someone who lies?

sparko1:
You Nigerian ladies, maybe when compared in Nigeria, but in the world, not in the top 50.

We are not talking of makeup and fake ass oh, real untouched beauty, come on, even Nigeria men are more beautiful than the women in most cases.

That is untrue. Our men have way more rough looking faces than our women. Is it pot belly that is handsomeness?

Anyway, we get what we deserve. We are meant for each other.

Ikennaford:
So you think big assess and big boobs makes women beautiful, haha bro,, that's myopic African mentality, nothing in chubby women,, that's not healthy,,,

Southern African women have naturally big yansh. How is that unhealthy? Have you seen Ijaw women? Kalabari women?

Na una type dey marry foreign women, yet disturb African women with cries just to put the head inside.

So far, I have seen enough, and I consider Black women to be very beautiful, anytime, any day. Yes, big yansh and breasts is bae!

WriterX:
I understand why an asia country will pick top spot Currently peope think been cute is about petiteness and small features on baby like faces.

I mean they literally sell most brands base on fave values. And so many other stuff. Yeah, they have that spot on lockdown. Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder
And which ever group of beholder is majority, carries the vote.

The beauty here is the concept of the White man. Black men rate beauty differently, just as Arab and South American men. So, yes, your last line is apt.

ednut1:
South Korea? Which kind mumu list is this

In East Asia, South Korean women are the most beautiful.

Karleb:
Funny how this post is only directed at men

Because women can always get married with nothing in their account or not even having an account.

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@TOPIC: The solution has always been fewer children. Life is too hard; people should not make it harder. People often stress themselves with four to five children, building houses in their respective villages, and then one where they reside, while taking care of immediate and extended relatives! C'mon! How much is left for them to enjoy life as humans?

pansophist:
And the way to build it is with meaningless relationship?

Room to make mistakes at a young age than being exposed into an uncertain world and make similar mistakes at an older age, leaving few years for relearning. If early marriage is to be encouraged, so too are early relationships.

franchasofficia:
Investing in landed properties in Nigeria is no longer a secure investment for the future, especially in Lagos state and some part of Abuja, all thanks to our unreliable, tribalist politicians.
Gold maybe okay if you can store it safely.

The issue with land investments is how unsafe (security wise) many parts of the country are. So even if it is land for agricultural purposes or residential, insecurity leads to a decline in its value. One, development will take time to reach that area, as it is unsafe for human habitation. Two, the value depreciates or, at best, stagnates.

Jakarta:
Invest in yourself, land, or gold, or even agricultural cash crops like palm tree. In 2007 - 2010 my friend's dad did heavy deforestation and planted palm trees. I went to the farms last week and I was chocked beyond my marrows, very big and mighty farm that you can't walk around it on foot. Even if you used a bike you will lost your way right inside the farm. That farm will be bigger than certain villages. The palm trees have become so huge, that you will need a climbing rope to harvest them.

Sadly the farm is not being properly maintained, due to lack of management and reliable workforce, as such the yield is somehow poor. But the size of the land alone is some thing else. I counted over 650 palm tree stand on my own, I lost my way and had to shout before others could locate me.

Oil palm plantations have made many families rich overtime across states as Edo, Cross River, Enugu, Akwa Ibom etc.

Too bad the farm isn't well managed. Is it that competent farm managers are scarce? How about employing foreigners, especially those from Southeast Asia, where palm oil is a huge industry?

SatoshiX:
1. Invest in yourself..
2. Genuine land in a developing area.
3. Avoid stocks and crypto as much as you can.
Let me share my experience again. In 2006, I bought some land in Ikorodu for 180k per plot. The following year, First Bank launched their IPO and I bought 7000 units @ #33. By 2009,I was already regretting why I invested in shares. 💔💔
Fast forward to 2025, the plots of land are worth more than 10m each while my FBHolco shares are nothing to write home about.

Yet Presco, Transcorp and Okomu Oil have tripled in valuation.

Stocks are good. It is the strategy that matters.

pansophist:
Death by hanging is not really justice to me, because it is too quick.

Life imprisonment is way more effective. He will stare at the wall endlessly, until he looses his mind. He wont know if its monday, or sunday, or which month and year it is.

He will imagine that freedom, something animals enjoy is far within his reach. He will hate every day that he exist, until death comes. Death would even an escape to agony on earth.
Girls should be careful. Go to school and study, and leave all these relationship stuff. It is just a way to increase your body count and makes you jaded, and unsuitable for your future husband.

How would young people know how to build a relationship with the opposite sex if they don't learn early enough?

pansophist:
Even if they want to sacrifice their own kids, where are they?

Your average American soldier is fat and the US military have been reducing the health qualifications just to recruit more soldiers.
Besides, the US of today is not like ww2 where the demographics was white majority. Many immigrants won’t fight. I can’t imagine the UK, France or The Netherlands want to fight. Most of the foreign population who are citizens won’t even fight.

Actually, someone asked a similar question on r/geopolitics and the responses (the majority) were confident that many second generation immigrants will enlist or agree to fight a foreign power even if that foreign opponent is a country they share ancestry with. So German forces fighting against Turkey. Interestingly, I've never seen Black French soldiers in their so-called peacekeeping activities in the Sahel compared to their White counterparts.

Choosing a school should be done by both parents and the fees shouldn't be a major criterion or the only criterion. Men should learn to be involved in their children's lives beyond financial contributions.

That said, there's nothing I detest than dishonest people, especially someone who is so close to me. In my opinion, this calls for a divorce, or at least a separation.

LordAdam16:
the Philippines is proof that the plight of Nigeria and much of sub-Saharan Africa is not peculiar
like they've had perfect and consistent inflation for western-style capitalism since the 2000s
they got in early on the BPO and GCC game with India
they were right in the nexus of all the asian miracles
they should naturally get along with everyone and have historic or linguistic connections to all of the Americas (both North and South)

the Philippines should be a $2T economy
they could have picked any high value industry they wanted to focus on
but i guess if it didn't dey, it didn't dey

instead of them to be introspective, they want to join Japan, SK, and Australia in antagonizing China

-Lord

As per boy boy na. E sure me die na Filipinos go dey war front if an actual war ever happens. The rest have dire birth rates and wouldn't want to sacrifice their young men in the first or second round.

Make dem boy boy first kpai before them.

SultanOfPuna:
4k all night till daybreak

This is why I can't pay for pussy
Because I know someone is paying very cheap for the same pussy.

If you take that girl collecting 4k brush her up and carry her go lekki. She go charge 300k
You see why paying for sex is dumb

Sex is dirt cheap or almost free in waterside communities. This is a global phenomenon. The people who live there see nothing wrong with having wanton sex. It's part of life and this cuts across all cultures and religions.

Lagos is an anomaly because it's a metropolitan area and the wealthiest state in West Africa.

This is not fair to ordinary Nigerians o.

It is really unfair.

pansophist:
It is not about de-marketing, but about infrastructures, safety, ease of travel, visa restrictions, security, tourist attractions, low corruptions, value for money etc.

For example last year, I flew from Stockholm (Sweden) to Marrakesh (Morocco) for 50 dollars return ticket with Ryanair. The direct flight was over 5 hours one way. Now can you fly from Lagos to Abuja which is about an hour for 50 dollars?
For about 30 usd a night, i stayed in a very modern apartment in the heart of Marrakesh, and a fine dining cost even less than you get in Lagos Island. That is why Europeans and westerners troop in daily.

When Nigeria ditch corruption and makes the country liveable, people will come.

Regarding hotel prices, services and standards, they will adjust accordingly once there is a consistent trooping in of tourists. Once there is an over-supply of hotels, prices tend to drop and later stabilise. The other aspects are well noted.

If Ivory Coast plays its cards well, it too will feature. Certain cultural practices by many Nigerians have to be eradicated for tourism to thrive.

givedemwotowoto:
Being one of the largest economies in Africa with the most diverse cultures is enough reason to visit and experience the diversity. The north alone has many tourist attractions. Every part of the country has rich history and culture, delicious food, ancient artifacts and tourist sites.

The number 1 problem is insecurity. Then things like electricity, and bad experiences tourists have right from the airports to the streets.

Foreign governments have had elevated security warnings about Nigeria since the past 15 years or more with religious riots, BH, Armed Fulani gangs, militancy, armed struggle, abductions, robberies etc all over Nigeria

Include ritual killings. Women travel solo more than men and a country that adores ritual practices cannot protect its native women let alone foreign women. Women are the pillars of the industry. Make it unbearable and demonic for foreign women, and nothing like tourism.

Why would a foreign female tourist visit a ritual den such as Warri or Asaba?

Nothing surprising here.

As I stated sometime ago:

Gerrard59:
Tourists were never visiting Nigeria in the first place. The stats say it all.

One, obtaining a Nigerian visa is very hard, and from online commentary, many Nigerians LOVE IT.

Two, the infrastructure to support tourism outside Lagos and Abuja aren't plentiful.

Three, Nigerians are largely dishonest and unnecessarily aggressive.

Four, Nigerians love and support ritual killings, especially of naive women. Women are the support pillars of the tourism industry globally. A country that cannot protect its native women cannot do the same for foreign women.