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Ilekokonit:
What is good for the goose is good for the gander.

Me I dey even call police for woman wey do anyhow to me.

Today's women can not stand or handle a "real" man especially if he has a low tolerance for their bullshit.

Shebi na women want to dey drag power with men abi.

Me, I dey call UK police for women now o if they cross their boundary.

I have used the law and police against 2 Ex girlfriends in the UK in the past 7 years and am looking for more girlfriends to use it on so that they will tell their girlfriends that no be only woman fit call police for man for UK.

One ex girlfriend pushed me during an argument outside a restaurant at 12 midnight. I no talk. I just call London police and told them I had just been assaulted and they asked me where I was and I told them the name of the road and told them I was outside Barclays bank on that road. I then put the phone on speaker so that the tramp go know say no be joke.

Immediately she hear police voice see say na true, she just picked her rucksack (which she had dropped in order to push me) and begin pick race. (she no get papers and the fear of being deported to Muritala was the beginning of wisdom for her). Once I saw her running away I just told the police over the phone that she is running away but I am following her.

She ran back to her work place and I followed her and ensured she got a salary advance from her boss and paid me back the whole money that caused the argument. She was too willing to pay it back as she just wanted me to carry my police wahala away from her illegal immigrant self lest she gets deported.

The police kept calling me up till the next morning asking if I wanted to press charges for her assaulting me but I did not pick their calls as I just wanted to put the fear of God in her and ensure she never physically attacks another man again in her life (i.e repaying a woman in the same coin they use in dealing with men).

More men in the western world should call the cops on their wives and girlfriends who assault them even if its just a push or even verbal assault as women don't waste anytime to call the cops if the tables were turned.

E dey even hungry me to get a stubborn woman deported although I no get mind do that one as I no want make hunger kill her.

Another ex girlfriend started sending me multiple abusive texts and curses when I tell am say I no dey do again. I ensured she almost got charged with domestic malicious communication by UK police. I just carry my phone with the text messages from her go police station and told them to call her and tell her to stop contacting me although I told them I did not want her to lose her job.

The cantankerous greedy overworked fool later forgot that the police had asked her not to contact me again and she sent me another text a few days later asking that we continue the fight.

I just texted her the Met Police Reference No for her case and asked her if she wanted me to reopen the case again. That reset her overworked greedy brain and sent the message into her head as she has not called me for about 5 years now.

Enough of pandering to or treating these rascals called women with kid gloves when they will not bat an eyelid before sending a man to jail if the tables were turned.

Real men have tolerated enough s.hit from women for too long and its about time you let the law deal with them once they cross the line which they ALL will do sooner or later especially the ones who live in Western countries where too much latitude has meant they no longer know when they are crossing the line.

Sagamite would be proud of you!

https://www.nairaland.com/sagamite

ufotunang:
..has she not seen how the economy and country is hard under this Tinubu.
government..you can't compare the economy and country 12 years ago to now.. everybody for himself in this Tinubu government

Twelve years ago was 2013. No wonder! The economy was damn too good then. Six percent roaring GDP growth rate. Ever since Buhari entered, we've not had such a growth rate to date.

mosicola:
Ashawo and hookup made things easier for us. Besides,why should a man stress himself over a woman when we all know that we are not the only men knacking you. An average Nigeria lady dates more than five men these days. I keep on saying it here that I prefer ashawo or street girls cos the devil you know is better than the angel you don't know

Again, feminism is to blame here. It preached sexual liberalism, and for the love of testosterone, nothing gladdens a man's heart that he can buy the milk without caring for the cow.

ozo13:
kindness kwa .na so I burn my 190 naira per liter subsidized fuel about 3years ago dey chyke one babe.I carry am go far away down to a near by local govt to show her their popular market, then took her to zoo and even offering to teach her how to drive. Fast forward to Baba Tinubu era of 800/900 naira per liter. I no even dey get er*ection again wey I dey think about bills. Most fast food joint don close down because men no dey buy free food again for woman. just few men still doing such May be for their loved ones.

Damn! The Nigeria I knew isn't what I am reading o.

The blame is on feminism. Men have been dem.onised and mocked for chivalrous acts. So, why bother? Who wants to get aired on Twitter and lose their livelihood and social dignity? Oh! Besides, women are now equal to men on economic basis. Isn't that the goal of gender equality? Or you thought equality comes with only rights but no responsibilities?

pansophist:
The final stage is invincibility lol

Firstly women enjoy waves of attention from their late teens to like 24. At that age, she is celebrity, every man wants her number, and will be spoilt by rich men who will increase her taste, which she will confuse as standards. Then from 25 above, men will still be coming, but she notice that the intensity men are coming with have reduced, and at this point, most men wont put pressure if you decline the first time. From 30's, she realise that men actually have standards for the women they take serious. All her life, men ignore their standard just to fork, but now she wants to marry, she realise for the first time that she is broker than the men she calls broke, and men will hold it against her. From 35 upwards, she will begin to feel the invincibility men generally feel. Men at 35 years of age will go for girl even 10 years younger. Just like she went for men over 10 years older than her. If she enter 40, then if it is not over, it is a miracle to bag a quality man. Then the real pain, loneliness, and sadness becomes a norm. Whats more painful is that she has gotten used to la vida loca since her teens, then now will be like grace to grass. Better use your time wisely as a woman. Men are not the problem, it is just nature and the laws of seasons. Most men suffers theirs from birth till even 40's, and women that are still single at that age will pass through it. And the more beautiful and spoilt she is, the harder she falls.

To cap it, she begins to write long, long stories on Facebook and Twitter extolling "matured men" and kini kini kon. Like the one I read recently, it was way too long for simple "men are mocking older spinsters". She is 36, and I was like, would she have written this long grammar if she were 26? Me wey sabi like read well-written post no matter how long, I got disinterested because she was blaming men all through with some "I like matured men" bits here and there.

As I have stated, unlike older women of yesteryears, today's women have options:
- Remain single
- Have a child as a single mother. There is surrogacy here, too.
- Marry a woman
- Adopt a baby

Rictech:
To Gerra.rd59, davodyg.uy, majis.uka, moon.raker, kom.ia, black.bria & co, I want to specially appreciate you all for all your wonderful contributions to this thread, you guys have really done well.
Earlier this week, I was texting with my friend about the UK white paper & difficulty in getting Visa Sponsorship job to Europe or America. He suggested Japan to me, in his word "work too much for Japan & them they give T/V-visa now, two of my cousins entered with T/V-Visa this January & they've started working already, try apply". Of course, I can't take that risk, so I decided to do my due diligence. I have read from page 1 to 46 & I have gained incredible insights. I am quoting this particular reply of yours because I have similar profile with the person you replied. I am above 30, B.Sc Computer Science (2.2), formerly worked in a field completely unrelated to my course of study but did freelance web development (Reactjs/Django) as a side hustle, now working professionally as a Frontend Developer (1y+), ACC bal of 6M. I really want to leave Naija via visa sponsorship job or through school, what are my chances? Is my account balance enough ? I have also researched on National universities in more affordable prefecture, but as someone already there, I need more insight from you with regards to the research part of the 2 years MSc. Can I liken it to a pre-science/pre-degree or diploma in Nigerian universities?

What is T/V visa? This is the first time I am coming across that term, and I have not seen it anywhere associated with migration policies/visa insurance in Japan.

Most times, people are not entirely honest. The visa that allows people to work are the standard work visa and the J-visa (top 100 universities globally). So, how come a T/V visa equates to a work visa? What kind of job are they doing? These are questions you should ask him/them.

Your course of study isn't a problem. A bachelor's degree is the minimum educational qualification to be granted a work visa. As Blackbriar stated, your profile is good enough to get a recruiter's attention. The issue is that: you are not in Japan, and that is the major problem with job hunting in this country. Even being in a faraway prefecture, say Kyushu and wanting to move to Tokyo comes with many questions. A friend declined an offer because the company refused to cover his relocation costs (from Kyoto to Tokyo), and as he told me, it is the standard in the industry (also tech) for companies to cover a prospective employee's relocation costs to the equivalent of a month's salary (the prospective employee gets paid twice in a month).

You need to search "recruiting firms in Japan" and "recruiting agencies for tech jobs with no Japanese" so you can make a list of recruiting agencies to contact that you want to get a tech job in Japan. Your profile will be assessed, and if all goes well, you will get employed. The job might not be glamorous, seeing that you have only a year's experience. If you work with a notable firm or notable projects, one year can be enough, but anything less could lead to rejections compared to, say, 2 years of work experience. Recruitment agencies are utilised a lot here to get a job or change jobs. Please note: you don't have to pay a recruiter for anything. The employing organisation pays the recruitment agency. Any recruitment agency that asks you to pay is a sc.am in the making. From A-Z, you, as the applicant, don't pay. That is how recruitment agencies work.

Sorry, 6 million won't go anywhere. You mentioned checking national universities. Did you check their tuition fees and convert them to naira? When I applied, I was given a budget of Y80K per month X 24 months, and this was not in Tokyo. With inflation and yen instability, I imagine it being Y100K. So, six million cannot go anywhere. Research students pay lower tuition fees, so this is a good option which I strongly recommend you combine with job hunting, aka emailing recruiting agencies. The plan here is: you aim at being a research student so you get a foot in the country, so your job hunting chances increase. Once in the country, it is not an issue of being outside the country, but your profile that counts. If need be, you tell recruiters that you plan to become a research student, during which you aim to leave the program and start working. The research student program is for six months. Towards the end, it is expected that you formally apply to the department to become a master's student (2 years). My Burkinabe friend followed a similar route: six months as a research student, two years master's and now is in his first year as a PhD student (D1). You could drop out even in the first year of your master's. Although this is not encouraged or liked, but many Vietnamese, Nepalese and Chinese do it. Nothing illegal in the eyes of the law provided the employing organisation provides documents to apply for a work visa for you. Yes, the research student is like pre-degree in Nigerian parlance. But I am not sure six million goes anywhere, as you will be required to show a POF for living expenses and tuition fees for six months. How you do this with 6m is up to you.

He took a gamble and won it. That is life for you - it is a risk.

Commentor:
100k Canadian dollars isn't magnificent.

lol

Raalsalghul:
At your last statement do you think it is a function of intelligence or value system?

I'm inclined to think it's the latter.

Our matter don tire me to dey think about. This development of a thing should not be hard as previously thought. Many countries are doing their best to move up the ladder, no matter how small. So, why should it be difficult for elites from different groups to agree that let things be done properly while adhering to cultural beliefs and borders? Eh? You do this one there, I do this one here and everyone wins at the end of the day. Why should it be hard?

Raalsalghul:
I believe the lessons are being learnt: seen so many posts on TikTok telling immigrants to save and channel their investments back home since those announcements.

At least, all those "Home is where you are" statements have stopped.

There's one Nairalander lady who was the preacher of this ideology. I wonder what she has to say now.

Although to be fair, looking at the events in Nigeria, the White man is fairer and better than the Black man. At least, he built a functioning society.

I did a more thorough profiling and compilation of them.

See here: https://www.nairaland.com/7763389/top-jamb-scorers-where-today

And see that of WAEC (WASSCE): https://www.nairaland.com/8184851/top-waec-scorers-2009-where

Manfromlasvegas:
In a sane country were minds are operating at an optimum, the first question that would be asked would be what happened between 2014 and 2015 to lead to such a massive jump in the highest overall score, and the continuos upward trend since then?

Anyways I like the change sha. The new CBT format, the change from paper and pencil, have massively contributed to the upward tick in scores. I don't actually think that jamb was more difficult in the past. I think that jamb, in the past, would regularly do wuru wuru (negative .

That was the conclusion in the above thread,

ehizario2012:
For me, the key take away is that relocation/Japa should be seen as a means to an end and never an end in itself. I'll say Nigerians (especially those without settled status) in the UK should be interested in politics back home, who rules, who wins elections etc because there's indeed no place like home. I'll say Nigerians in the UK should save save and save/invest for the rainy day, keep developing yourselves and earning transferrable skills/degrees, live a modest life and approach mortgages with caution. No place like home.

Nah!

They want to kpeme in the UK. They believe they know more than the natives and can cut themselves off from their dominant societies. Thank God na the so-called liberal party aka lovey-dovey party with its leader labelling migrants as strangers, rightfully so anyway. In Reddit/UKPolitics, there were a lot of comments which stated that there should be a cultural clause to it where Aussies, Americans, New Zealanders aren't affected as Bangladeshis and Indians. You see, humans are tribal.

With my experience in the abroad, it is a place where you gain knowledge, build contacts, save hard currency to build where you know you are wanted, where people look like you, eat the dishes you like etc. It must not be Nigeria as Nigeria is not the only Black dominated country. I thought the 2023 elections would have taught people lessons, mbanu! If the natives say they don't want you, as evident by the comments I read on the Financial Times, what are you going to do about it?

In this life, you should never force anyone to like or accommodate you. Get what you want and port out.

To be honest, nothing to envy here or be tripped about. They don't attend elite universities in the abroad, they don't work at top institutions/companies in the abroad etc. All they have are prominent surnames of thievi.ng Nigerian politicians. Surnames that only make waves when in Nigeria.

When compared to children of Chinese and Singaporean politicians, these ones are nothing to write home about.

GeneralPula:
It’s way better than having a Gay as a son

This very son actually acts gay like. So, no difference. Moreover, he could as well be bisexual.

The demonism practiced by many Nigerians, proletariat vs bourgeoisie, is so cruel and disheartening. Tomorrow, these are the same clowns who accuse the White and Asian man of racism. How come of all the regions in Nigeria, only one was affected by so-called technical glitch?

ogaontop:
You're right, at the mercy of whether the wife is god-fearing or not. One went to court in the UK in collusion with the MIL to extort the man to pay him what they pay nannies over there; well the husband denied asking the MIL to come; his attorney brought evidence of the wife persuading her to come baby sit; case changed dimension immediately!!
She's currently in Nigeria

Both should be in Nigeria because I don't know how the husband will see any good in the wife again.

nedekid:
I thought only me noticed that. Bros the lady was in college ie university! Abi is university education free in the US? Someone brings you all the way to the US, accommodates and feed, sponsors through the process to get admission into the University, likely over a disagreement you then report that she is using you as a domestic servant or slave.
This reminds me of the UK couple that decided to house a Ukrainian lady who fled the war in her country. The lady reported her host to the authorities claiming the wanted her to do houses chores and so were enslaving her. If you reside in a household is it not proper to contribute to its cleaning?
Omo, I have said it time and time again. Never assist anyone, if you have money chop it yourself, those people you think you are assisting will be the ones that come after your head at the slightest opportunity.

See motivation!!

The alternative is to help from a distance and never bring the helped too close.

ogaontop:
Abroad no easy, even as you dey bring your mother or mother-in-law for child keeping, follow them talk well before dem vex one day report you for forceful labour, no payment or under payment below the minimum wage.
They will always agree in Nigeria, but when they come over their, the story will change after a few months.
I knew of some guys currently under the mercy of their mother-in-law's because the latter were brought for child keeping but now they're demanding for so much more!!

As for Bolarinwa, her own is clear case of wickedness, manipulation and system exploitation.

What are their wives doing about it? You cannot tell us the MILs are acting independently.

well well well, IbeOkehie.

I won't lie o, David Hundeyin predicted this too but with European countries (Germany wa the case study).

airsaylongcome:
This comment needs to be placed on top an marked as the "best" comment.

Diaspora, the street is military down here o. Please find a way to absorb the 5% shock. Pass it back to the American people. You ilk down here are nearly on life support.

No vex I, are things really difficult in Nigeria at the moment? I don't know why I'm finding it hard to believe things are hard as peddled in some quarters.

ChybuzzDD:
Don't mind her.
It's quite surprising that she hasn't realized her mistake till now.

Oh! She too campaigned and voted for Buhari in 2015?

dentalux:
In Nigeria that is not the norm. Again, you sound like someone so bitter about the blacks. I don't want to believe people who are citizens or are close to being a citizen do not like their fellow blacks. Cos I can easily tell you belong to one of the the two groups.

How does stating that the average Nigerian family shouldn't have more than two children become a racial issue?

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You see, this is the problem when some people cross the Mediterranean/Atlantic/Pacific and start carrying first world problems on their heads.

MadamExcellency:
He is still not qualified to contest for Councillor in Ifo Local Government Area.

And that's fair enough. Why do you want to contest an election in a place where you're not an indigene?

babajeje123:
That should be their decision.

lol

blackbriar:
JASSO Guide to some scholarships in Japan

[url]https: //www. studyinjapan. go. jp/en/_mt/2025/04/EN_2025-2026Scholarship_Pamphlet.pdf[/url]

I searched this exact website when I got into my laboratory. I just sat on Monday to search the scholarship page for scholarships; eligibility, and announcement dates. That month, I got one from my sensei, another the following month, and another six months after that.

People should conduct basic research.

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How you are able to post links without being banned by the anti-spam bot is surreal.

Nigerians have a major problem debating without involving tribal sentiments.

The country will be hard to properly govern.

The sky is blue. Water is wet.

Sowore campaigned and voted for Buhari in 2015. So, it's not breaking news. Sowore is a Tinubu's media guy.

Brandiebird:
Some demons will gather here to try to confuse people with big grammar. Team I have 2 mummies and I have 2 daddies! We'll see the proof in this pudding in 50 years time. We're just collecting data right now. 😂

Honestly, I want to see where this experiment will lead to.

Jbloc:
Hmmmmm, leave no of pikins, just make money for big house, car, holiday, etc

The number of children a couple have affects those things you mentioned.

babajeje123:
2 ke?

How many children do you think a tertiary educated couple should have in today's world (regardless of location)?

004gist:
and i never fit make 5m since 3 years i entered youkay

I'm sorry, but are you genuinely honest with this statement? Including as a student?