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Cantonese:
“I asked her if she ever heard about roll-on or antiperspirant, she replied NO! shocked and this is someone using an iphone and changes clothing periodically. shocked

i gave her my antiperspirant and taught her the need to use it daily as most of the odor comes from her armpit. i told her point blank she doesn't smell nice, her face changed somehow as if i insulted her and she left.

i saw her today and she walked passed”.

Your words here are even arrogant and immature, friend.

When you find people with all kinds of issues like this, must be very circumspect. “I told her point blank..”…. You don’t handle people in such way.

Now you saw her reaction to you.

drlateef:
You should learn to say things in a polite and pleasant way that will not offend the person. Would you feel happy if someone told you the same?

LINTUNE:
what's your issue...u really have a bad energy, ginaz just ignore this one, she's looking for who to banter words with, cos I don't understand why she's taking this so personal...madam rest IJN

BubblingB:
What is with Eva soap abeg? For a fair guy, recommend a good soap please

bahdpersona:
please, tell me the name of the perspirant, I would like to use it too. I really don't know much about personal hygiene, I think this is an opportunity.

Str8talk21:
Young lady, be careful on what type of advice you are seeking for here, because I can see that there are lots of retards on dis platform who have little or nothing in their pea-sized brain.

First of all, I want to believe you have parents close by, and if yes, you could have seek for advice first from them. If not, did you try to do research on your own before telling her she needs to be using deodorant?

On method of delivery of the advice, for me it's rather inappropriate,too blunt and rash. A subtle and kind method would have been better so that you don't hurt her spirit. Just, like you said, she's far junior to you, but unfortunately you didn't take her as your little sister. The way you drop those words to her is what killed her spirit.

Now, causes of any human being having an unusual body odor varies.
It could be after birth, not being well cleaned immediately after birth.
It could be as a result of low level hygiene, high metabolism rate, sweaty skin glands, not having bath immediately after sweating profusely, etc

As remedy, meet her and try to talk to her and apologize to her on the way your advice/message/observation was conveyed to her.

Then in the actual remedy, advice her to start bathing with this black soap, they called "DUDU OSUN" it is green/sky blue in packaging, but soap is black, though expensive, but hey... nothing is too much for a remedy here.
Let her try it for 3months with proper hygiene and let's see the result.

dettolgel:
Nigerians always feeling insulted and superior to people younger than them.

She is clearly a young person whose reasoning hasnt been fully formed. You should be more compassionate towards her.

If you can afford it buy her nice soap and roll on. Call her and show her maturity. Apologies to her that you didn't tell her that to embarrass her but you felt she needed to know and that you are sorry if it cuts across like you were insulting her. Yes, adult apologized to someone younger is teaching the person that it is okay for them to also apologise to people younger than them if need be.

The way you approach and resolve this issue with this young girl might be a pivot point in her life.

goodamerican:
Lmao. And you think I like you? Bwahahaha. *Laughs in Japanese*

You don't need to project your insecurities onto me, wretched one. It's you and your entire family that dark energy surrounds. You're obviously a lost cause to have turned what should be an easy-going thread into an angry one, exuding anger at a teenager and at an unknown person over the internet. Have a thousand seats and calm down, then go for deliverance to free yourself from the spirit of anger and the host of other spirits that's undoubtedly dealing with your lame ass.

Me and mines are protected and covered by the blood of Jesus.

Typical olodo, when you can't argue intelligently, you attack the other's intelligence. You're obviously a narcissist in female form and have deep-rooted issues you need to sort out. Whether you think I'm intelligent or not isn't my cup of tea, as in what's my business with that. My work and money speak for themselves, boo. As I've kindly suggested above, please go for deliverance; you're in dire need of it.

culf:
yes and No.

you did no wrong in telling her about her body odour but waking by you, giving you attitude, you should have held her hand, draw her close and let her know what you did is out of love and care you have for her and since it annoy her, you will never involve yourself in anything that concern her again.
She Ought to be grateful to you.

goodamerican:
Back to sender. You're hyperventilating and editing your posts upandan. I wonder who opens thread to look for a fight. I am not the cause of your frustrations o.

henrimoto:
@Ginaz, you did no wrong. Just that, this kind of issue, it's a very sensitive issue and its common among teenagers and young adults. When ever such person comes around, i think " how do i convey this message to this person"... without making her/him feel bad ( bad - as in, demoralise/ashame). Just as @mindlog wrote ' it hits the self esteem ' of the person involve.

goodamerican:
I hope someone does. You obviously have more issues than this girl. Pele.

goodamerican:
Basic reading comprehension is needed here. My first paragraph is meant to critique your approach/the things you must've done wrong when speaking to her (e.g. your words and body language). You shouldn't have opened the thread asking what you did wrong if you weren't willing to hear people's opinions. My second relays what I would do: provide a template for her to follow - that she needs to be doing these things to keep her hygiene up to par. If I know a teenage girl who has this problem, along with her younger sister, then they've definitely not being taught these things or have no one to teach them, and I would try and do that for them, knowing the next person may not be as nice about it as I would.

About her buying her clothes and an iPhone that you keep shouting, these shouldn't be your concern and quite frankly, they've nothing to do with you passing your message across kindly. There're people who drive the nicest cars but go to their homes and it stinks or it's a mess, so don't let outward appearances fool you. Some people are oblivious to these things either b/c they grew up in a similar environment and have grown accustomed to it, or due to nonchalance. How much less a teenager and her sister who are obviously uninformed about hygiene and aren't aware they smell badly (some people don't know they do until you bring it to their attention). The problem of hygiene itself is likely a big problem in Nigeria. I wouldn't be surprised if there're adults who don't wear antiperspirants or are nonchalant about hygiene.

No one here is fighting you. With the attitude you're exhibiting, you definitely didn't approach her as calmly as you'd like to claim you did, so you can't blame her for walking by you/not talking to you the next time you saw her.

goodamerican:
Telling her she didn't smell nice, acting shocked when she said she had never heard of antiperspirant, giving her an antiperspirant you've used ― all make your approach seem offensive and like you were mocking her. You probably presented your message in these manner, so you can't blame her for not greeting you. This is a sensitive something, meaning your words AND your body language have to be kind, otherwise the individual will take offense.

Imo, If I'm going to do something like this, I'll probably buy a gift set of some sort beforehand: consisting of some yummy-smelling soap, body wash, sponge, shaving stuff, antiperspirant, etc. Then, when next I see her, I would sit her down, start by saying I care (telling her this first will let her know I'm not trying to offend), then tell her I often perceive an odor from her. At this point, she would likely ask what kind of odor, then I would tell her in a gentle way, then bring out the gift set and tell her how to use them.

jabolo:
Good talk. Communication is underrated if what you are trying to achieve is behavioral change, not simply win the talk talk prize. Else, it's one ego trip after another.

I always advise people to Google "criticism sandwich".

If you subtly add critical advice in between two episodes of praise/flattery, you will reach her better.

So... (1)You look nice today, I always enjoy your company (2) Maybe try this deodorant (3) Hian! No one can slay pass you now.

Good Day.

HRHQueenPhil:
U did nothing wrong, someone needs to tell her the truth...I use to smell like a rotten fish too till d day I was insulted inside bus.. pls if u are still using Eva soap, stop it immediately..buy her gifts of good soap, perfume and anti persperant

Chidibe212:
There's a mountain that is really there. Except if his tweet of Jan 8th, 2022 was Photoshoped, he tweeted "something will happen in *Scotland* in the *beginning of the ember month this year 2022 When a WOMAN PRIME MINISTER bearing the Queens Name meets the QUEEN, something will happen*

I just read that Elizabeth (Liz for short) Truss was made UK prime minister on the 6th of Sep, two days before the death of Queen Elizabeth II in SCOTLAND and the two met in Scotland before the Queen's Death. How possible can a tweet of Jan 8th 2022 come to reality on 6th & 8th of September?
For reference:https://www.ndtv.com/world-news/how-queen-elizabeth-deemed-unfit-appointed-new-uk-pm-amid-health-concern-3328144


Another address is about the pastor's sex tape: King David is very popular in the Christian bible and is glorified till date as God's own (A man after God's heart) but he committed alot of atrocities with women, etc. If it was to be in this era, all King David's Sex tapes will be breaking the internet back to back to back. Lol but true

Olodo24:
He kinda copies Kidd's vibes, but he's too excessive. Kiddwaya is the script Sheggz came with, but he took it too far. Kidd was a million times better though

Sweetpink:
It seems like Daniella brings a curse on any guy she dates…lemme ship her to Adekunle

Throwback:
We Nigerian youths have been demanding for Peter Obi's medical records.

When will Obi respect the wishes of Nigerian youths and provide his medical records?

He's hiding evidence of his senility, but the Semifinalist will continue to disgrace himself both locally and Internationally.

omenka:
These punks have no idea the breakfast Jagaban is preparing for them. And dem must chop am next year whether they like it or not.

They think elections are won and lost by forming social media lynch mobs. Just a matter of time.