sidneyj:
half men will surely say yes

but real men will say no

It's actually the other way round.

FlawlessRebirth2:
.AXIN EHH

FB IS TOO DAMMM SLOW...BEFORE YOU READ MESS(LOADING)...BEFORE YOU REPLY(LOADING)...BEFORE E SEND(LOADING)??

You can use a messenger app instead.

Stupedinluv:
Catholic church says cohabit if finance is your problem

Bible say marry if you have burning desire for each other. Wedding requires money marriage does not.

I go with the bible.

Your head is there. We don't care if its Pope or bishop or anything, if that's not what the Bible says, then its a NO.

Good one from this man this time...

yahrant140:
Another marketing strategy...... Naija i hail thee!

You need Jesus!

Seriously...

This is serious. The guy will be cautious of laughing in public now.

This is where it starts from.

Patented:
Everybody's situation is different and you have no idea what the next person is passing through or has passed through. I really hate it when people sit in their own 'lil' corner of the world and make General statements about the rest of Humanity.

God bless you. It's funny indeed.

This is the very problem with relationships these days. You enter a relationship without any thought about getting married. Of course this is one of the things you get when you do that. The moment I'm asking you for a relationship, I'll let you know, I'm not entering to play, it's to get married to you.
What's all the rubbish about proposing sef? Must we copy all the western cultures?

Amberon:
we have a very similar situation. My bf who happens to be my best friend persisted and disturbed me for years, I finally gave in but I don't love him one bit. The thing is that he's crazy about me, before we started dating we'd sleep over at each other's houses a couple of times but he never touched me nor asked for sex. up till this day, he hasn't asked me for sex.

he's cute, dresses very very very well, neat and treats me like an angel. I told him countlessly that I didn't love him and couldn't date him but he came back begging and vowed that he must marry me. He even told everyone that we're engaged....

Anyways I made a promise to stick with him even tho I don't love him, after all the one I used to love didn't treat me well.

PS: before someone starts saying sh!t, I'm not dating him for money. I know I won't fall in love again, so I gave in simply because he loves and cherishes me, he's purpose driven and has good qualities which so many men lack. he also advises me like a sister.

My sister you've made the right choice. Real love has nothing to do with feelings. Real love is a decision to love someone and remain committed to the person, with or without feelings. Feelings develop as a result of meeting with someone that has the physical make-up that has been registered in our sub-conscious mind(which we might not really know ourselves). Until the picture changes you might not be able to develop the feelings you're looking for. But please note that the longer you stay in the relationship and show each other true love of commitment, the relationship will develop the feelings itself. And let me say this that you will be surprised to know that most people with good marriages today never had feelings for their spouse even at the point of getting married to them. What is most detrimental to our relationships these days, is the temporal feelings we develop which usually has a lifetime between 1-2 years and then there's nothing to hold on to since it's the feelings that led them to the relationship or getting married. I pray you understand this better and know that deciding to love that guy is really the best not your feelings.

Helloflife:
We started dating last year november.
We haven't gone intimate yet and he doesn't even pressurize me.
Truth is, i don't love him, and i think i made a mistake accepting to date him.
I've found out we have literally nothing in common.

Throughout our relationship, i've never said the word "i love you" to him.
He called last night and asked me if i love him and i couldn't give a direct answer cause i didn't want him to get hurt.

Dear romancelanders, whats the best way i could tell him how i really feel?

Please and please, let me say this, real love has nothing to do with feelings. Real love is a decision to love someone and remain committed to the person, with or without feelings. Feelings develop as a result of meeting with someone that has the physical make-up that has been registered in our sub-conscious mind. Until the picture changes you might not be able to develop the feelings you're looking for. But please note that the longer you stay in the relationship and show each other true love of commitment, the relationship will develop the feelings itself. And let me say this that you will be surprised to know that most people with good marriages today never had feelings for their spouse even at the point of getting married to them. What is most detrimental to our relationships these days, is the temporal feelings we develop which usually has a lifetime between 1-2 years and then there's nothing to hold on to since it's the feelings that led them to the relationship or getting married. I pray you understand this better and know that deciding to love that guy is really the best not your feelings.

Fiwasayo:
babe,we don't know what we want,we just know we want it.

You have just gave us the best summary.

shaddoww:
Hmmm, but what does a wife really need from her husband?

love and i'm not taking about feelings here.

Michellla:
a woman who genuinely cares about her marriage,her family,her life,does not necessarily "submit" mindlessly to every decision her husband makes.
theres alws a time to speak up.
Its marriage,not bondage.

That's why you should marry a man worthy of your submission.

Toks2008:


Acceptability may be a two way street but life is never designed for the feelings of love to be a two way thing.

This is a mystery too deep to decipher. Yes it will seem on the surface that both of you love each other and i guess thats where many are getting me wrong. I am not saying marry a man you hate but there is this deep desire that wells up inside us towards someone and often times this is what many people look out for before they can say they love a particular person.

As i wrote, the feelings of love between 2 people is rarely balanced and it will do a lady a great deal to have it tilted more to her side.I can't just explain this further.

Btw, you really can't decipher if a man loves you when you are also in love. In-fact the odd things and the red flags he shows will seem to be an innocent action and you keep telling yourself he loves you.

Brother, you are so much on point. I really wish the ladies of these days will get it into their head, that real love is not the feelings but a decision and commitment. They forget that what breeds feelings is just what they can see physically in the man, but good marriage requires much more than the temporal feelings that will soon fade away with time.
I'm even going through this same issue with a lady presently.

philfrey08:
why shd this be on frontpage

pple go dey yan dust naw

My brother sorry o....God will heal u

SInce u just came back from the village, ask yourself where u went to, what u ate, who u rolled with, quarrelled with or those who detest you.

I suggest u fast and pray against the evil forces. This is not ordinary

Do you attend Mountain of Fire?

We all know it's not good. Knowing how to prevent it and deal with it is the main good of the write-up.

cococandy:
Lol. How do we know the guy was not lying about his own virgin status? Who can tell?

If he was, he won't divorce the lady.

cckris:


Christianity is a personal relationship with The Most High God, who like any father, cares PASSIONATELY for his children.
Christians are not servants of the God who identifies Himself as Jehovah Elohim, the God of Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob, the holy One of Israel.
Religion is human efforts to find God. Christianity is The Most High God reconciling mankind He created back to Himself.

God bless you...

QueenValerie:
That's because they don't know what it is,it's difinetion.And that it's a verb,an action not just something you say.

And it's not a feeling.

Evathyst:
I've been observing some guys here with their Lady-bashing attitude. The likes of Tosyne2much, Emusmith, Tomfrench, Falconey and co. With their long epistles on '10 this, 10 that about ladies'.


So, I decided to post this price which I stumbled upon on facebook. Enjoy!



20 FACTS ABOUT NIGERIAN GUYS;
1. They can never love one lady.
2. They love sex more than anything.
3. They are very talented in lying to a lady.
4. They talk softly while conning ladies.
5. They are Heart breakers.
6. They can promise girls heaven on earth without fulfilling any.
7. They love we ladies before sex, after we do it with them, they hate us.

8. They fear pregnancy, but hate protected sex.
9. They are specialists in confusing girls.
10. 80% of conning boys are broke.
11. They're wicked.
12. Using and dumping girls is their hobby
13. They want to bear the title I'm the one that
disvirgined this girl.
14. Many of them are jobless.
15. A lot of them are pretenders.
16. Their 'I love you' means I want to have sex with you
17. Guys don't believe in relationship without sex.
18. All they want is sex. No sex, no dating.
19. They don't ve one girlfriend, on 2go or
facebook or whatsapp they'll keep asking any girl out.
20. Naija boys like sex pass their life.

TRUE OR FALSE


#All pun intended#

Cc:
Lalasticlala
Ishilove
Farano
Avicky
Estharfabian
Cutehector
Ritababe.

I'm a Nigerian, but how come none of your list applies to me.?

RedCapChief:


Is it an achievement if you don't steal? No
Is it an achievement if you don't get a job? No
Is it an achievement if you don't disrespect your parents? No


Achievements are given to people who do things

So when you do things like stealing, it's an achievement?
Just change your mindset. Whether you like it or yes, a virgin lady or guy will be more respected by his or her spouse than non-virgins, and we all know that doesn't make them a better wife or husband.

RedCapChief:

. . .derailing thread


I am sure the poster had good intentions in writing this article, but this article is a terrible piece to read. Too heavy on the mind. Consternates! Corroborant! Even modern doctoral theses shy away from mere demonstrations of lexical dexterity.
Yes, people will comment because they got the gist of the article before reading but your article is neither pleasant nor easy to read.



Yes, that is very nice. But don't expect your husband to give you any medal because you kept your virginity for him. There will be no prizes or gifts or awards. It is something personal between you and whatever reason you have for maintaining you stand. Don't think that having an intact hymen is something that is an achievement or something that makes you very special

Bros, it's an achievement and it sure will make her special.

MzNelly:
Lol
"You miss being used and dumped"
For real, tho?
When you're not tissue paper.
Sex is something two people engage in happily and joyfully. Stop using this line to undermine the worth of our girls.

We understand. The truth is always bitter to swallow.

Was there in December, not that nice again.

austino3050:
Those of us with broken screens, which category do we fit in...

According to op, you guys must be broke for refusing to fix it, or you're hiding something.

You might be wrong on some of your list.

petkruz:


I love him alot

The real love I know, never gives up. And that's what the guy showed you even after you've dumped him when he was broke. So do the same.