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Properties / Re: Why Do Tenants Always Prefer Packing Out At Night? by Godson201333(m): 7:17am On Jan 28
As per my observation, some people prefer to move their belongings at night because of the road situation. There is always less traffic at night than during the day. Of course, this is subjective depending on relocation distance.

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Romance / Re: Sex Is Getting Really Hard To Get These Days. I'm tired by Godson201333(m): 5:13pm On Jan 03, 2023
Icyboy:
Bro she’s using you. Stop simping. Man up. Grow some ballss and discard that old cargo for a much younger, matured and loyal mate.

Kindly note: when next you’re paying her daughters school fee, washing her undies and sending her money for food, just remember how Simp of a man you’re. Nonsense.

This is crazily funny grin

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Travel / Re: If You Travel By Air A Lot, Beware Of Over Friendly Chatty Seat Neighbours. by Godson201333(m): 7:52am On Sep 17, 2022
Buzzapper:
NEVER DO THIS IN A FLIGHT!!!

If you travel by air a lot, beware of over friendly chatty seat Neighbour's.

This older lady comes and sits next to me inside the plane. She asked me to help her put her bag in the overhead luggage compartment. But a gentleman sitting across quickly came through. (I am not very tall, and the overhead luggage compartment is something I try to avoid at all costs.
Immediately she sits down she strikes up a conversation. She was very pleasant and well spoken. So, we chatted all through the flight to Dubai.

Suddenly, when the pilot announced that we were now proceeding to begin our descent into DXB, my good friend 'developed' stomach pains. Me with my good heart, I pressed the steward's button, and the stewardess came to find out what the problem was. I told her my seat mate was not feeling well.

And this lady, she suddenly began to address me as 'my daughter'. The stewardess told me that there was nothing they could do except give her some painkillers and wait until we landed.

The pilot announced that we had a medical emergency on board and advised us all to stay calm. My new friend was crying and sweating like crazy. And she refused to let go of my hand... everyone assumed we knew each other.

So, we landed at DXB and the same gentleman who helped put up her luggage in the overhead compartment removed her luggage.

But as he removed the luggage, he advised me to distance myself from this lady and make it clear to the cabin crew that we were NOT travelling together. He was a godsend!

So indeed, the cabin crew came and asked me if we were related, I categorically told them we had met on the plane. I didn't know her at all.
So, we began to disembark and as I said goodbye, she kept begging me to carry her handbag. I was so torn... but the gentleman looked me in the eye and emphatically shook his head. He passed me a note telling me to let the cabin crew handle her.

So, I exit the aircraft and leave my 'new friend' to wait for the wheelchair and be handled by the cabin crew feeling very guilty.

As we waited for our luggage to come through, I hear this commotion. My 'new friend' was running, trying to escape the cabin crew, having gotten out of the wheelchair! She left the stewardess with her handbag and just ran towards the exit with the rest of her hand luggage!

Luckily the airport police were faster than her. They got hold of her and brought her back in handcuffs.

This lady starts calling out to me. my daughter... my daughter! how could you do this to me..... that's when I caught on. She was carrying drugs and she was trying to implicate me!

Luckily for me, the gentleman who had helped her with her luggage came forward and told the airport police that me and her had just met on the plane.

The police took my passport and asked her to reveal my full names if it was true we were travelling together. By God's grace, I had not even told her my first name! I was still asked to follow the police to a little room where I was questioned extensively.

Where did I meet her?... where did I board... where did she board. Etc... And my luggage was extensively searched and dusted for fingerprints.
They dusted all her luggage, and my fingerprints were not found anywhere on her luggage or on her handbag!

I was let go with advice never ever to touch anyone's luggage either in flight or at the airport. So, from that day, I don't care how much luggage you have, you will deal with it yourself. I will not even offer you a trolley to put your luggage on! Your luggage... your problem.... is my policy.

And if you can't reach the overhead compartment, and I am the nearest person, please call the cabin crew because all I will do is give you a blank stare and then look away!

@life in Saudi Arabia


Thank God for your life.

One of the first lesson my father gave to me as a young traveller is Never to touch strangers lugages while travelling. This ignorance has actually sent many innocent souls to jail!

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Romance / Re: Why Relationship Is A Scam by Godson201333(m): 4:49pm On Apr 14, 2021
Relation or marriage is a serious business. We that understand the business knows how to carry out our transactions and will never be left disappointed. People that have more problem are those that refuse to accept relationships as something transactional. Behind every ''I love you'' hides a reason. Inside that reason is where you get the selfish interest.

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Travel / Re: General German Work And Family Re-union Visa Enquiries by Godson201333(m): 5:32pm On Mar 08, 2021
ndewogermany:



some things you stated are not true like You are only qualified for a re-union visa, if you have unbefristet Aufenthaltstitel . Many students bring their spouse as long as they are still studying and they are usually required to block some money for their spouse and kids. I will not advise you to apply for 18 months yet. if your purpose is for you to bring your wife while still in Germany. then get another admission after studying your current program. during your wife interview, I would advise that your wife should tell them that she planned to also study in germany while being on family reunion.
Please if you plan to leave germany after your study. better dont stress your wife through all these german protocols cos the stress is not worth it. your dealing with people that are determined to ruin your peace of mind with their bureaucracy.

Until lately that Germany experiences a surge of Masters Students. The main purpose of a reunion visa is similar to the American fillings system. Hence, my first statement. Really, Reunion means that you have an indefinite stay and you can also file for a spouse. Other means do qualified to be called reunion although the word is wrongly used. A student bringing his or her partner to Germany with the same student visa is not reunion anything! But you gave the same advice, I was also trying to give.
Travel / Re: General German Work And Family Re-union Visa Enquiries by Godson201333(m): 7:10am On Mar 08, 2021
Mrbigman1:


Students do bring their spouses. I have seen many, so, the unbefristet permit you Said that is the only Qualifikation to bring a spouse is not totally true.

I never said it is not possible for student not to bring their spouse, but definitely not under the disguise of family reunion. One of the requirement is the adult living in Germany being able to financially provide for the other adult coming to join. How can a student take care of a spouse? The student must have a long term perspective in Germany. Check the below link for more info..

https://www.germany-visa.org/family-reunion-visa/

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Travel / Re: General German Work And Family Re-union Visa Enquiries by Godson201333(m): 5:06pm On Mar 07, 2021
Mrbigman1:
Good day ppl. I have some important questions.

I am done with studies but have not applied for my 18 months. However, we applied for reunion March last year, yet to get a date. From the look of things, it takes min 6 months for visa to be granted. Would this be an issue ? I mean, that I am done with school?

2. my wife has gained admission already and would be starting online classes with hope that she switches when she arrives to physical class. Is it wise to let either the Ausländerbehörde or the embassy to know about her plan to further studies when she arrives?

3. I plan on leaving germany at the Time she would be arriving, in a case where she’s needs to extend visa, can she be den recognize as a student or she would be asked to leave ?

Thanks for you input


You are only qualified for a re-union visa, if you have unbefristet Aufenthaltstitel. This is not your case.

Your 18 month visa is only valid for you to look for job so that you can qualify for the Blue Card/ employment visa.

You are not going to get the 18 month residence permit issued at once, They will split your 18 month into two.

It is not wise to start any reunion visa process but your wife might apply independently for a German student visa.

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Crime / Re: RTEAN-NURTW Clash: Our Members Were Attacked - NURTW Spokesman, Jimoh Buhari by Godson201333(m): 4:02pm On Feb 11, 2021
So we have Agbero, Tout (Buhari) and another old Jubril (Buhari) in Nigeria.
Crime / Re: Tola Azeez Awarded N5m Court Over Police Flogging (Photos) by Godson201333(m): 11:31am On Feb 03, 2021
Hmm I just hope many Nigerians won't start waiting for police officers to flog them..
Travel / Re: Canada Hype And Travel Rush: Here Are Things You Need To Know by Godson201333(m): 1:20pm On Jan 22, 2021
Anytime I open thread like this, just two things comes to my mind.

Its either you were denied Canada visa or you migrated to Canada with wrong expectations.

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Travel / Re: Surviving In South Africa by Godson201333(m): 1:14pm On Jan 22, 2021
This is very informative. Is it true that many Nigerians consumes various type of hard drugs?
Education / Re: Nigerian Law School Rejects Law Graduates Of North American Uni, Houdegbe by Godson201333(m): 11:33am On Jan 16, 2021
I heard that they run this university with just two main buildings and the rest na wash!

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Travel / Re: Man Mourns His Wife And 2-Year-Old Daughter Killed In Motor Accident by Godson201333(m): 11:01am On Jan 16, 2021
Awwww may her gentle soul rest in perfect peace..
Family / Re: 5-Year Marriage Experience: Lessons Learnt & Knowledge Acquired by Godson201333(m): 8:43pm On Nov 29, 2020
Openbusiness:
Just follow these 2 simple rules and there's a 97% chance everything else will fall in place and your marriage will be an enjoyable and lovable marriage:

1) Don't marry a woman you love more than she loves you. Marry a woman that loves you more than you love her. She must love you more. Don't even settle for 50/50. Maybe like 40/60, 30/70, 20/80 etc but don't be too extreme with it like 5/95, or you will end up running after your office secretary with big yansh grin

2) Never forget Rule #1

Wise message from my Father. Marrying a lady you love more than she loves you , is comparable to digging your grave !

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Romance / Re: Couple Who Met During NYSC Weds (Photos) by Godson201333(m): 7:50pm On Nov 11, 2020
Congratulations !!
Travel / Re: Did You Know Anyone That Regret Relocating To Canada? Advise Pls. by Godson201333(m): 3:29pm On Oct 29, 2020
FieldMarshall06:


95 percent regret. If you did not school there, don't go there. I mean first degree not masters. Don't dare, else you drive taxi.

Wise advice.
Crime / Re: Olakunle Ajomale Carrying US Microchip In His Body Since 2010 (pics) by Godson201333(m): 6:37pm On Sep 13, 2020
Kerosenehawker:
Fake story

Thiis is the real story for me

The man entered America on a visiting/tourist visa, overstayed the visa, and then either used fake papers to stay in the US, or engaged in fraud to stay there. He was eventually caught, and deported. The shock of being /deported, plus the fact that he lost a lot of stuff due to his deportation has made him severely depressed, and put hiss mental health in serous jeopardy, hence his story

Of course, there is no chip in his body. Nor is there a chip anywhere else. It's just mental illness. He is exhibiting classic delusional thinking. Probably schizophrenic. Some people with that kind of illness think that there are cameras watching them in their bedrooms, or something funny...

As for the Indian doctors, ether they were typical scammers, or they told him the truth, and he refused to believe it, or they told him a lie to get him off their backs.

Yes, some humans are being chipped, but the day when every human would be chipped is far far off...like the year 2070 or later. I doubt we have the technological capability to follow every human in the world if they were all chipped today. When large swathes of the same America have poor internet coverage.

I may be worng, but the guy has mental illness until proven otherwise.

Kerosene Hawker, I concur with your conclusion. But wait ooo, How come a kerosene Hawker is able to write this well articulated epistle?

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Crime / Re: Olakunle Ajomale Carrying US Microchip In His Body Since 2010 (pics) by Godson201333(m): 6:19pm On Sep 13, 2020
After reading this story, I myself believe that Mr Ajomale is hiding some truth from the audience. How come you were arrested at BWI but then you were sent to the correctional center in NC? You using someone else passport doesn't make sense, you need to tell us the kind of crime you committed that warranted your deportation from the US soil even though you claim to be a Green card holder.

The link below shows how he tried to stay back on the US soil by seeking asylum.


https://law.justia.com/cases/federal/appellate-courts/ca4/10-2268/102268.u-2011-08-02.html

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Travel / Re: Lithuania Student Visa by Godson201333(m): 11:51am On Aug 07, 2020
Chuchu27:


There aren't that many jobs in Lithuania and the wages are low by European standards. Infact it has one of the highest emigration rates in Europe and they are more people leaving the country than coming in, a trend that is likely to continue. The plus side is its low and affordable cost of living and relatively low tuition fees, which makes it ideal for students. It is also in the EU and Schengen zone which gives one the opportunity to explore career options in other countries after studies.

But don't think you'll get a job there especially as a foreigner. Study and leave, or explore options in other countries. As regards part time work while studying this will only be possible after one has gotten their TRP ( Temporary Resident Permit) which might not even be issued until your second year. So it's imperative to go with enough funds to cover both your tuition, accommodation and living expenses for atleast a year

whats the best insurance for an international student in Lithuania?
Travel / Re: Lithuania Student Visa by Godson201333(m): 11:32am On Aug 07, 2020
Lenfem40:
Great to see all the posts here. Interesting. Lithuania is an interesting place. You can either love it or hate it, depending on many simple, but key factors.

Having lived and worked in Lithuania for over 10 years as university professor, I can help provide useful and insider details for prospective students. More so I know many in the international office of the universities here.
I was once an international student in 4 different countries, so I can to a reasonable extent say that I can relate to aspirations of prospective students.

Please feel free to ask questions here
Cheers!

whats the best health insurance for an International student in Lithuania?
Family / Re: How Guys Use Marriage To Plunge Themselves Into Perpetual Poverty. by Godson201333(m): 2:53pm On Jul 21, 2020
McTobe:
poseidon000 and others that think like him, you went to the extreme with your conclusion. Go and look for a well educated financially successful elderly man that is not a hardcore Christian or Muslim maybe a freethinker or someone on esoteric path and tell him exactly what you posted and your conclusion I am sure he will disagree with you.
1. Life is not as straightforward as you put it. Hustle get successful and then get married. in the first place it’s not the best hustlers that are the most successful
2. There is more to life than just the so called financial stability, there are people that are born into wealth but they are looking for happiness and joy that comes from a family
3. Op there are people that married when they are average and today they have blown beyond imagination
4. You can only see life as far as the path you are on, do you know that there are cycles in people’s life and if you observe families very closely you may notice their cycle. Some people will become highly successful in their late twenties, thirties, others in their fifties and yet others in their sixties. Once that person keep working and not being idle (you don’t even need to be extraordinary) at about that time little things that others have overlooked can blow the person financially.
While I agree with your post no one should wait for when they are successful before getting married. Marry when you think it’s about time for you but just understand that it goes with a serious responsibility of taking care of your family. Just do your best and plan your life your best way and leave the rest...what must be must be. Agbakam mbo bu ego nri onu, ogalanya si na chi.(I too hustle na just for sustenance, wealth comes from sources that are beyond your grasp as a human) Believe it or not.
Op have you not seen very successful people that crashed overnight? Both corporate climbers and hustlers alike. Everything get WHY


It depend on your definition of success. No need to deviate from the topic or the OP opinion. but whatever!! another rule says'' If you cannot feed another adult with your current income or paycheck after deducting your bills and off-course, taking care of yourself, You are simply not qualified to marry and procreate. Is that too difficult to understand?? That rule does not require so much success, its all about saving yourself from some unnecessary headache. This is not 1920!
Family / Re: How Guys Use Marriage To Plunge Themselves Into Perpetual Poverty. by Godson201333(m): 2:46pm On Jul 21, 2020
Poseidon000:
Sup guys. I've something that have always earned the acme of my discountenance. And that's how men crudely jump into marriage in other to conform to societal dictate or for some selfish satisfaction.
This have gotten me pensive and I'll make no ado in getting to the nucleus of the issue.

Yesterday, I was headed toward gwarimpa, and on my way I noticed a disheveled young guy around Efab estate trekking by the express.
As a rule, I always give such guys 'lift,' because i was once with a female colleague in a lonely path that seldom have cars coming our way, suddenly one private car stopped and when I tried entering after my female colleague boarded, the SIMPson bounced me out and zoomed off with an empty back seat.

That incident birthed in me a sense of solidarity and understanding of what men go through just for being men, but yesterday, I was so incensed by a botch job my mechanic did that I drove past. After about 4 hours when I had everything sorted and was heading back, I saw the same guy heading toward my direction again(it's a dual carriage way) and he was sweating profusely, so I beckoned on him to enter. We got talking and I inquired why he's trekking such a long distance. He said: he went to look for a job that wasn't successful and he's going back to Arab road.
But this is just a miniscule of the guy's travail. He grew up in abject poverty.In fact, they gave birth to him and his sister in an uncompleted building. His dad died in that building, his sister got pregnant for some riffraff and they started what we call "abuja marriage", his mom subsequently fell sick and died in the same uncompleted building. Then the owner of the building decided to complete it, and drove him away.

Now, this guy was able to get another uncompleted building to stay, and as I'm typing this, he's with wife and kids. This is a person that don't have food at home and can not afford N150 to and fro.

I gave him 10k but I was so mad with him; I mean, I was disconcertingly appalled that this guy will think of marriage in his privation. Why not be a little bit comfortable before considering marriage, instead to face life with the dignity of a breadline.

Sadly, this is the same mistake lot of guy's have been making thinking they'll fall into some stupendous money as soon as they marry, and this is mostly perpetuated by religious charlatans who say; a man's destiny is predicated on his future wife, that as soon as he gets married, the special blessing tied to marriage will start opening way for him.

That's a mendacious twaddle that will leave you in a precarious situation. Please guys, have 'comfort' afoot before you dabble into marriage.

What's your take on this?



He probably forget to keep the rule that says '' A broke dude have no reason to even think of sex'' Unfortunately, I heard that many poor folks have tons of sex than the rich ones.. Hmmmmm
Politics / Re: FFK: How To Keep A Lady, Women Are Like Horses They Must Be Serviced Twice A Day by Godson201333(m): 5:49pm On Jun 15, 2020
Why is it that Reno and ffk write a lot about women these days?
Romance / Re: Have You Dated Someone Who Desperately Wanted To Get Married? by Godson201333(m): 9:49pm On Jun 14, 2020
gbengaoyeladun:
Girls ehn....naso this one told me in January that she dream that she will do her wedding this year...I was like not with me...she said is with you nah..and I said OK.....since then ehn.....I ran for my life.

Jesus Christ !!!
Politics / Re: APC screening: I Don’t Think I Will Get Justice – Obaseki by Godson201333(m): 7:43am On Jun 11, 2020
pat077:
It's unfortunate u didn't learn from ambode's situation. What stops you from decamping to another party if truly u have the support of the masses u have govern for four years. Ortom did it and he succeeded despite his below par performance in his first term. The moment u failed to unseat oshiomole as apc national chairman, a plan B should have been on the table.

My own point too...
Politics / Re: APC screening: I Don’t Think I Will Get Justice – Obaseki by Godson201333(m): 7:42am On Jun 11, 2020
My father was right then when Ambode went through similar trouble with Tinubu and I was defending Ambode but my own father gave me the quote that says[b] ''You can never outsmart your master '' Robert Greene[/b]. Assuming Obaseki really want to pursue his interest in politics, He should have just concur with Osho baba!!

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Family / Re: Wife Trying To Ruin My Career Within A Few Months Of Arriving Abroad by Godson201333(m): 9:22am On May 22, 2020
LinLinGentle:
Disclaimer: I AM NOT A SAINT AND MY WIFE IS NOT THE DEVIL. I HAVE JUST BEEN UNFORTUNATE TO BECOME A VICTIM OF MATRIARCHY WHICH MANY MEN SUFFER ABROAD...

I have been hustling abroad for a few years while wifey was working in Nigeria and living with children. Marriage has always been turbulent and we even almost got divorced after I travelled out. We somehow worked on our issues with the help of pastors, family and friends, and after a few years of ''roughing'' it abroad to pave way for them, I finally succeeded and my family arrived a few months ago.

I used to be hot tempered, but I have had enough time to gain insight into my inadequacies and reflect on them. I am now significantly calmer due to the determination to make my marriage better and as per ''abroad levels''. My wife on the other hand is fully taking advantage of me and the environment we find ourselves in. First thing she did on getting here was to cut of my entire family. She said she doesn't want to have anything to do with any of them anymore. She has also not been too keen to kickstart her career, as all she does is endless picture taking and editing for social media hyping. I know this might be due to the initial ''euphoria'' phase cos she is coming abroad to a big house, big car and having no limits on most things we used to manage back in Nigeria, and she thinks things are bread and butter. You would never think for a second that she is a married woman if you check her profiles on social media!

She has become even more toxic person than she ever was in Naija. Now very bossy, never backs down, always the attacker, ever ready for a fight, lazier, always on social media, communicates with me as little as possible, embarrasses me in the neighbourhood with the constant noises from our house, and finally her threats have now tripled! Madam is now so fierce that I have become the house chicken. Just within a few months of being here o! She tells me that she will show me for all the ''gra gra'' I used to do back in Nigeria. Friends advised me against bringing this woman here but I no wan hear word as per responsible family man wey I dey claim to be.

The popular threat is usually ''I will end your career''. I wasn't taking this too seriously initially, but she then started following through with the threats by constant calls to the police and other services, making spooky and baseless career ending accusations and allegations against me.

I have never been the one to first lay my hands on her, but I have spilled drinks on her before when she attacked me. My wife now gets very physical without having any element of self control, fear or restraint after the simplest argument and sometimes, she damages things out of anger. She does this so often and never hesitates to dare me to do my worst.

I discovered that she has signed up on dating sites and when I even caught her chatting about sex to a particular guy in our area, she said that it was all my fault. She did not apologise for this. She even referred to it one time after an argument that if I am convulsing like this over just a sex chat, she's waiting to see what I'd do when I see a man on top of her.

My productivity at work has declined significantly and I am now on the verge of depression. Neighbours called the police on us one time after a lot of noise from out house. She accused me of domestic violence. The police had to separate us and I was stuck at home for an extended period and could not go to work due to this. I am now being investigated for domestic violence, which is a serious crime as madam wants it and I have had to report the situation to my company! The whole thing is so messy that I am scared that I have not seen the worst yet.

I am so afraid of losing it all and returning to Nigeria broke cos I spent my last card and even racked credit card debt to bring them here hoping to pay off gradually. I still have a few years to get my citizenship and if I lose my job now, that is the end for all of us!

For now, I don't know what is going to happen to us, as this woman is so determined to cause great and irreparable damage that could ruin our lives, just to get back at me and she is being cheered on by her family and friends.

THE SITUATION IS SO MESSED UP!

UPDATE:

Divorce has now been filed. I also recently got lucky as I was able to secure a restraining order when she messed up again and hit me daring me to do my worst. I called the police and made a proper case and she was arrested. She has been banned from the house for a month. The police advised me to talk to my lawyer and extend indefinitely if I want to. I hope to get this done ASAP. The law here does not only protect women but also protects innocent men. All you need is patience and wisdom. Thank you all for your ideas. Still several hurdles to cross but I am on the winning side for now.



So sorry for your ordeal in the hand of your wife bro. Similar stories all over about abroad people bringing their spouse from Nigeria. Just a very sad situation.
Travel / Re: General-german-student-visa-enquiries Part 8 by Godson201333(m): 9:10am On May 22, 2020
Philamags:
Hello great minds!

Please I need clarification on the issue of SL as I am confused right now.

I am hoping to get a SL from a Nigerian living in Germany. This friend has lived and worked there for a very long time but has no red passport yet (green card) . But he has legal resident permit .

I would like to know if a person like this is legally qualified to issue SL, is resistant permit sufficient or must he be a citizen?

Plz guide me !

Yes he is qualified to get your an SL, his income with his legal permit are enough!

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Romance / Re: Should I Break Up Or Make Up With My Boyfriend? by Godson201333(m): 8:58am On May 22, 2020
Acmepreneur:
This my guy is not serious at all.

I used to tell myself change is the only permanent thing in life bla bla bla. And I really believe that once you take the right steps, you can be anything you want to be. This made me to be very soft with people.

When I started dating my Boyfriend, I really was not choosy or judgy. I accepted him without a second thought. I'm not the type of lady that actually do all those lady stuff, I'm a very serious person and I don't play games at all.
My BF is very cool, like not bad looking, normal behaviour etc and I like him a lot.

I'm a very ambitious person, with an extremely big dreams, my boyfriend is also hard working, but I'm not seeing any future at all with his career/prospects/life. When I say I'm with big dreams, it's means I'm working on discovering (new innovations), planning big business that would compete with top brands etc. I'm that big in dreams.

My children is also very important to me, I don't plan for their sufferings at all.
I'm an introvert, I find solace in my aspirations, dreams. I have books I work out those formulas (I mean how I would execute my business plans), I research a lot, think a lot etc

Our fight now

Since day 1, I do tell him to do this and that. I really hate company works, so I would tell him to have savings, and be building something sideways where he works. Also, I wanted him to do Masters, since he said he would love to travel out, he's always saying he hates Nigeria bla bla bla. His dad also wanted him to do Masters, but he's in the crew of Masters is a waste of time, and he can't do Masters in Nigeria bla bla bla

Baby try this business, he would say he doesn't have money, he needs 2 million to start a business etc.

Meanwhile, he doesn't have money to travel out of the country to do Masters, nor 2m to start any business. So I would tell him to manage what he has first, and that would propelled him later, but he likes to talk like illiterates that Masters is meaningless.

Meanwhile, while that is true, those things are just like investment, you don't know when you will see an opportunity to use your Masters certificate, and since he studied computer science, I told him that it can even help him get a job outside Nigeria when he leaves, that it can be useful there. I understand the situation of the country, but not having masters doesn't mean you will get a job as well, so why don't you just have it.

My bf would shut me off, and also his dad, the dad even asked him to take job at the federal university where he works, but my bf said he can't work in that place, this is a federal government job o, he would say the salary is too small and people there already knows him, because his dad is in a big office in the university.

So it won't seem like I'm disturbing him, I went quiet, but might chip it in in discussions, but I don't fight him on those things. He works in a small company, and he rose to the position of a Manager, he spent all his time in office, the little time to waste with his friends. It's a good thing but I'm not comfortable with that, the pay is about 90k, which is not enough for his expenses, also he's the first born.

Fast forward to last year, his dad died, it looks like a film trick to him, he now have to take care of his siblings and mum (mum is nurse, but retired long time ago, her pay is little because it wasn't normal retirement). Everything I was telling him finally came to pass.

He rented an apartment with His friends, he later hated it, and said he wants his own, he went to rent an apartment of 600k (he gathered it from different places and he borrowed), which I really hate and we fought on that as well. Because he could have used the money to secure his life in a better way, since his complain when I told him to start a business is that he doesn't have money bla bla bla

He will not apply for better jobs as well
He's practically doing nothing to grow, and would say he hates Nigeria and he would like to leave, but he can't even apply for scholarships or even google schools.

So this 2020, Jan 1, I started fighting him, that I'm not going to continue with him like that, that he should go apply for MSC, start a business or just do something. He now started saying that he has responsibilities which are his siblings, I told him this is the nonsense, he would do till the year ends, we will fight and later resolve it.

He won't even talk about it, or get reminded, he makes me feel Hus boss is using him. I have told him several times how he would be used and dumped, in fact, he makes me say negatives sometimes, and that's because I have seen people that get dumped while working with companies and they fall back to grass, my mum won't even accept him because he works in a company, small company, not cocacola or big companies. My mum hates company works like shits because we've heard and seen people falling to zero due to company jobs.

The problem
1. He says I'm disturbing his life, and not allowing him to rest

2. I'm not happy with him living that way, with no future, no investment, hes not building himself while working, hes not doing courses, not learning any skills, and I think its too risky.
His current salary is not enough for him, not to talk of me collecting part of it. But he gives me money though, has not been more than 1k, 2k and data subscription which I really appreciate.

3. I can't introduce him to my family because I want him respected. Truth is I don't know what he would say to impress my parents because I'm not even impressed with him. And I want him to be superloved and respected. I believe in first impression would last very long. He has introduced me to his family and all friends

4. He never ask me about my own life, aspirations, advice me etc, I'm always the one to do that. Yesterday he had the gut to tell me I'm not caring because of just two days of not showing care

5. Corona has turned his company outside down and he's highly affected. Just like all what I was telling him finally happened, and he has nothing to fall back at. He has a car,

6. I can't marry him or anyone this way, and I'm getting old, though and I want marriage next year. He said he wants too, but I can't marry him like this. And I don't want to get to late twenties, and he breaks up and I start looking for husband, people would be thinking maybe I have a problem that is why I'm yet to marry, they won't know that its him that caused my delay. Plus I have a very high esteem, so I would hate to be desperate for marriage with a man or be the one to be wanting marriage so much in a relationship

7. Right now, we have temporarily break up, so I'm asking if I should break up or make up? Because he was saying rubbish last night

Note: I'm not a fan of dating and rubbish, I love him very much and I don't want to leave him at all. I don't think there's any man I can date as I do not like dishonesty at all and 95% of men are dishonest. My BF is very honest and good I'm every other aspect


You are trying to raise a grown up man, That is simply not your job! Use your head!
Travel / Re: How Come Nigerian Roads Don’t Have Lane Markings? by Godson201333(m): 5:38pm On May 15, 2020
TheAfricaQueen:
The roads you see where built before 1960 and were maintained before 1960 There was a framework for the development of Nigeria pre-1960, then greedy Awolowo/Azikiwe/Balewa claimed Nigerians wanted independence. They sought for independence for their selfish agendas, to provide for themselves and their progenies.

To this day the current Political thieves are still miss-managing the roads built by the British.

I am not going to lie, if the British come back and want to take back control of thos country, I will support it because the clowns in power have dragged Nigeria into the medieval ages. Nigeria in 2020 is worse than Nigeria in 1960.

I sight your observation and comment...
Crime / Re: Abia Native Doctor Commits Suicide By Hanging by Godson201333(m): 8:38pm On Apr 05, 2020
The only funny thing is a traditional herbalist can also lose hope...
Family / Re: How Do I Tell My Parents I Have A Daughter? by Godson201333(m): 10:47pm On Mar 10, 2020
Dynamic33:
I met my baby daddy three years ago. We met on my 21st birthday. I went out to the nightclub to celebrate my birthday and I met this handsome 32 years old. He couldn’t stop staring at me until he approached me and introduced himself and we exchanged numbers.

He called me the next day, we chatted for about an hour and he told me he was married. He has two kids but they now are separated. In the process of divorce but they are still living together, separate bedrooms while he is waiting for the house he is building to finish so he can move out.

I was jealous and angry at him. I told him he is lying to me, they are still together and still fucking he just want to use me then dump me but he promised me that there was nothing between him and the wife, and that they had stop having sex when she was pregnant with the second baby and the baby was now 8 months and he has proof that there was nothing between them.

We were meeting at my place and staying together until 2-3am. Sometimes he doesn’t go back until the next day and on those days that we don’t meet, we chatted on the phone until late 1-2am while he was still in the house so I was happy that there’s nothing between them.

He brought the children to me, I fell so much in love with them and will be spending the day with them and it felt great to bond with them.

Then later I got pregnant, he told me to abort it because they are in the process of divorce. If the court finds out he impregnated someone somewhere else everything will go against him. I told him not to worry I will keep it as a secret until he sorts out the divorce but he insisted that I should abort. I didn’t like it. We had a misunderstanding. In anger I hit him with my heels shoes and injured him on the forehead. He was bleeding but he didn’t fight me back. He just left and I was very sorry. I kept begging him, asking for forgiveness, he kept ignoring me and for three months we didn’t contact each other because he was still mad at me.

Then few months later, he called and asked to meet me and I begged him for forgiveness for everything I did to him and I accepted to abort the pregnancy. I was already 5 months gone and two days before the abortion he came to my house and told me that while we’re on the break, he was stressed and started drinking and mistakenly had sex with his wife and she is also pregnant. He said that she lured him to have sex to stop the divorce process but he do not care about it. He will go ahead with the divorce because he still loves me and wants to be with me and he pleaded with me to do the abortion for him so he could win the divorce and custody of his children. I was very angry that I threw a plastic chair on him and asked him to leave my house and to never come back that it was over between us. I deleted and blocked his numbers and removed all his pictures on my phone. He was begging my friends to tell me to forgive him but I rejected him and I now have my beautiful daughter, my joy, my everything.

But the only problem I have, my parents sent me abroad to study, I dropped out three years ago and they don’t know I'm not longer in school and that I now have a child because they keep sending me money every month thinking I’m still in school. When I’m not so on December I did traveled back home to my parents and I left my daughter with a friend for 2 whole weeks. I couldn’t sleep or eat and my parents said Now that I’m in my final year after finishing it, they want me to come back home for good by July and where will I leave my child ? I don’t know how to tell my parents about my child? And also that I left school three years ago my dad is very strict and am scared.

Please I’m very sorry for the long post and advice me on how to tell them please?

Looks like this your abroad is somewhere in Ghana I guess. Anyways the earlier the better, let your parents know that you are no more in school. Lying to your parents while they keep sending you money to support your academic ambitious would be seen as a scam if you fail to reveal the reality to them.

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