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Is he now a Wailer?!

youngestland:
Hello

I have been married for 2 years now and i have been doing all my best to give my wife a comfortable life here in nigeria.

My wife on the other hand has not been okay with the idea of staying in nigeria, shes always been wanting a life in USA which i have told her several times that i do not want that life since i am fine in nigeria. I live in my own house i have tenants paying me rent and i have a stress free job.
Now this is the story i woke up one morning and got ready for work, kissed my wife goodbye and i left only for me to close, drove home to meet an empty house i picked up my phone called her but it was switched off i called the mom if she knows anything she said she traveled to the village to settle an issue that she will come back the next day. I chilled to the next day thinking when i come from work i will meet my wife only to meet no one again now i was worried i called the mom again this time she said she is worried too that she will go to the village tomorrow and she will call me when she gets there.

I started suspecting then i did some investigation only to find out that my wife is in USA. i was out of control that night. My wife called me that same night begging me and trying to sweet talk me into moving to USA i told her shes joking young men leave nigeria to abroad to go hustle so they can get what i have in nigeria why will i leave nigeria in my mid 30 to go hustle when i have all the basic things in life i told her its a NO NO for me.

Now i could not take the emotional pains so i started trying to sike her to come back and i will give her all the money shes spent at first she was like i should please chill that we will work it out that i can come visiting and she too can come to nigeria too bla bla bla. so one morning i called her really pleaded with her to come back and offered her money she agreed and told me i should send the money i actually did send the money and when it was time for her to come she did not come only for me to call her and shes telling me she cant just leave her education in USA that this is the life she wants

Now this is what i want to do, i want to move on i really cant stand distance relationship and she has hurt me seriously. she even took along our court wedding certificate saying she doesnt want me to marry another woman or tear it out of anger.

Please i need advise how can i get a divorce on this issue because i really want to move on.

Serious issue here I tell you. @op, you didn't mention if you two had kids together. That also will influence your next line of action. cos it's alot easier to move on when kids aren't involved.
In any case, this shows that your wife hasn't been on the same page with you for a long time and that she had this all figured out. Maybe you were too blind to see. Moving on through the divorce route will be a long one as the marriage certificate is with your wife. She's virtually tied you. You'll have to talk to a lawyer vast in marriage issues to untie this part. cos without the certificate, it a long thing to have a divorce.

Talking about your mother-in-law, I am of the opinion that she had a fore-knowledge of what your wife was up to. That's just the way life goes. A man has got to be a man.

My advice, pick up the pieces and move on. A wife like you just described won't have a problem moving on even if you drop dead. And please don't contemplate relocating to the USA. She'll make your life even more miserable over here.

Teddywhiz1:
Someone should just create a new thread diaspora vs Nigeria....make we go face ourself for there

We've had these episodes of 'diaspora vs Nigeria' countless times on NL and it always descends into verbal abuse and insults. You can search the archives and see for yourself. It's more of a superiority fight. the 'I'm better than you' kind of thing. It is who we are.

Why can't we just learn that not everyone wants to relocate abroad and at the same time not everyone wants to remain in Nigeria? Home is where the heart is! It's the part you've chosen for yourself. Don't force it down on others.

going by recent events on this thread; it is safe to say that this thread has been successfully derailed. We have brought our 'Nigerianess' to bear again.

We are just a unique set of people. whether diaspora or not. We are who we are.

Trump talks before he thinks...So how does he feel now about all the twitter rants he's had on this Russia issue?

what is NL turning into? How in the world did this make it to the FP?

Playa0ne:
Its not all fun and happy or jolly as you all think,most of us live with regrets, if only things could be like this back home we often say, because by staying abroad you are making a huge trade-off. The choices are true happiness and belonging or living in a functional alien society. The OP just moved so he is still tripping, with time he would understand that there is more to life than a functional society. Life here is good but it cant be like home. Home is where your social network is, a place where you are accepted, where you dont look different, where you can make noise and even fight if you like, a place were you can compete without having to suffer abuses and deprivation because of your colour, you can NEVER understand what home is till you leave home.
NO PLACE LIKE HOME, this phrase must have been written by a man abroad, because ONLY PEOPLE LIVING ABROAD WOULD TRUELY UNDERSTAND THIS PHRASE!!!!

You are a wise man! History will be kind to you and your descendants.

emmasege:
Fayose is getting better as opposition leader by the day. He didn't only highlight the inherent dangers of using Kaduna as alternate airport @ the moment, he also proferred clues on what should've been done and/or be done by the clueless president from Daura.

Well spoken, Asiwaju Peter Ayodele Fayose. Never mind zombies whose ears are deaf to voice of reasoning and who get so disturbed hearing the name Fayose. They'd rather "kill and maim" on social media for a man who cares less whether they survive his harsh economic policies and bad governance or not. Some of such are already up here and am sure other internet soldiers of his will attack me below.

Sorry, I'm out of here. Continue defending a bad market. Femi Adesina I understand, Garba Sheu I understand. The duo smile to bank all the time and enjoy the luxuries of the state house with their families. They get paid anyway even if they have to lie against their conscience. How about you? You get paid through hunger, unfulfilled promises, fuelling cars and generators @ exorbitant price, forego international engagements since dollar has become exclusive right of the politicians etc.

May the descendants of zombies never curse the days of their zombie parents for mortgaging their future when they ought to wail for a true and positive change in Nigeria.

I said this before. Nigerians are beginning to make sense of Fayose's position. As many as possible should please avoid the Abuja-Kaduna expressway during this six weeks. Life has no duplicate. I hope this closure does not go beyond six weeks.
A word is enough for the wise.

Was he Kunle Afolayan's father?

Another chapter is unfolding in the U.S - Russia relationship. As Students of history and society, we are watching with keen interest.

sarrki:
He mocked himself

Nigerian president is our image within and outside

Let's play opposition with passion with cause

Op modify the topic

why didn't you take this same stance when your midget friend in Kaduna was insulting the incumbent and his wife between 2010 - 2015?

"Opposition with passion with cause" indeed.

All is fare in warfare. I like Fayose for the fire brand that he is. The truth is that people are beginning to see what he stands for and to be fair to him, he warned Nigerians.

Make una help the guy for Open forum. Which one be pm me here and there. Or pay for advice?

@op, no follow anybody go corner go discuss. If they can't offer valuable information here so that we all can benefit, make dem carry their advice go. Chances are that you may be scammed once you begin to entertain/patronize these side talks. Scammers have their tentacles up already as e be like say this man wey ready to build house get plenty money.

Be wise!

HungerBAD:
Interesting.

The first time I heard about this MMM thing,was when some of my well to do friends from out of the blues started asking me for money from Nigeria a couple of months ago.

When more than 8 asked me for money,I now knew it was not a coincidence,and so I became curious. And I was able to get the information out from 2,who had invested Millions each that it was MMM.

The first thing I did,was look it up if it was legal in the US,since the US is the biggest market for anything in the World.

And the United States classified it as a Ponzi(419)Scheme,and it is totally outlawed by the Country.

There is a reason I go with the US classification of things,as they tend to be realistic about everything.

In the United States,there are no Landcruisers Cars,no Avensis and Peugeot products as they do not meet the United States standards for safety. But these cars are dumped in Africa.

This Country will not touch anything sub standard.

So if the MMM is banned in the US as a fraud,then it can only mean it is fraudulent.

I thought you were making sense until you spewed thrash about the Toyota Land cruiser and Peugeot being substandard cars. This is totally wrong. for the fact that they do not target the US market doesn't make them substandard.
How many Lincoln or Buick cars do you find on the streets of any major European city? Does this make them substandard. I am not a supporter of MMM and I have my reasons for not investing in the scheme.

This is a public forum. please let us be guided and avoid passing out false or inaccurate information.

Thank you,

https://www.toyota.co.uk/new-cars/land-cruiser-v8/land-cruiser-v8-story.json

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Toyota_Land_Cruiser

https://www.toyota.co.uk/new-cars/land-cruiser/index.json

But seriously, whichever way you choose to look at it, this guy is putting smiles on the faces of his people. Whether with stomach infrastructure or his frequent comic outbursts. Either way, they are smiling.

I wish he would wear the mask and just appear inside Buhari's wardrobe in Aso Rock.
As baba want collect danshiki from wardrobe to wear, make Fayose surface and scare am.
I know you know what will happen next. Don't quote me please.

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ify2016:
Despite the current economic challenges facing Nigerians, we have failed to give up. The truth is that, though, there is a temporal hunger in the land, l so much believe in this man called PMB.
Nigerians are very hardworking people and that's why they adapt in any condition. Some may hate this man for no rational reason but deeply inside them they know that we have bright future with God on his side.

So, this thread is created specially for the lovers of President Buhari and his administration.

May Mr. President live long and healthy in order to discharge his official assignment.


We love you Mr. President and believe in you.

...Wait till December 1st when you and many other zombies will not be able to buy data again. At least Buhari is helping to depopulate nairaland of these shenanigans. Lubbish!
Lovers ko, Sexers ni ...

Which kind government be this? Does Buhari take joy in seeing people suffer? The N50 stamp duty fees no reach abi?

I know some morons will still defend this action of government. Shior!!

hmmm..I think this is abit going overboard Mr. Fayose

Forget all these media statements. Buhari isn't a democrat. At least, he does believe and act like one who knows what democracy is all about.

hayatulimisticor:
nyc write up

Be sincere. Did you read this write up?

It's obvious that the clouds are gathering already for 2019. I wonder what the campaign promises will be this time around...

Came across this article on a Foreign Website... Please read on...

It'’s been a tough year for Nigerian President Muhammadu Buhari. The mood in Africa’s most populous nation is a far cry from the euphoria that greeted his historic 2015 election — the first time in Nigeria’s history that an opposition candidate unseated an incumbent president in a democratic election. For weeks and even months after the vote, Buhari was a media darling, praised at home and extoled abroad.

Since then, the cheers have turned to jeers — even from members of the president’s own party, the All Progressives Congress (APC). Meanwhile, his administration cowers under attacks from a disillusioned electorate, members of the opposition, and even Buhari’s wife, Aisha, who said she might not vote for him in 2019, when he is up for re-election.

What’s behind the swift unraveling of Buhari’s presidency? His inability to formulate a coherent economic plan as Nigeria tipped into recession and unwillingness to make crucial decisions — as basic as appointing a cabinet — in a timely manner certainly didn’t help. But the main reason Buhari has lost the support of his countrymen is that the last year has revealed the central premise of his candidacy to be false: The man who claimed in the campaign to be a “reformed democrat” has proved to be the same old authoritarian showman who ruled Nigeria in the early 1980s.The man who claimed in the campaign to be a “reformed democrat” has proved to be the same old authoritarian showman who ruled Nigeria in the early 1980s.

Buhari’s first attempt to run Nigeria ended after a year and a half in the same manner it started: a coup d’état. Back then, Buhari launched a campaign to root out corruption, dubbed the “war against indiscipline,” which was accompanied by restrictions on free trade and free speech, as well as repression of his political opponents. Soon Nigeria was embroiled in a political and economic crisis that paved the way for his ouster.

By 2015, however, many Nigerians were ready to give him a second chance. Growing economic hardship and rampant corruption — and the seeming inability of then-President Goodluck Jonathan to tackle either — convinced them to embrace Buhari again despite his checkered past. To many he seemed like a competent leader — at least more so than the weak and feckless Jonathan.

But there is already a strong element of déjà vu in Buhari’s second stint at the helm. He has again staked his presidency on an anti-corruption crusade and again used it as a vehicle to target political opponents. Now, as before, Buhari’s legitimacy was built on empty showmanship, a hyped-up claim of superior morality and discipline coupled with a healthy dose of disdain for elitism, all quickly overshadowed by an economic crisis that he wasn’t equipped to tackle.

Part of the problem this time is that he promised much more than he could ever have hoped to deliver. On the campaign trail, he pledged to create millions of new jobs and make Nigeria’s currency, the naira, “equal to the dollar,” two Donald Trump-worthy whoppers that were about as likely to materialize as a border wall paid for by Mexico.

The fact that the media didn’t hammer Buhari’s campaign on the ridiculousness of many of his pledges speaks to the quality of journalism and punditry in the country. (Nigerian journalists have a reputation of being easily “bought” with cash in notorious brown envelopes.)

In any case, the results have been predictable. Instead of creating jobs, the Nigerian economy has shed half a million of them since Buhari took office, swelling the already bloated ranks of the unemployed to 13.3 percent. The current dollar exchange rate for the naira is about 455 to 1, compared with 260 to 1 around this time last year. Food prices have reportedly doubled across the country, forcing millions of people to go hungry as a famine looms in the north.

Not all of this is Buhari’s doing, of course. He inherited an oil-dependent economy only to watch the price of crude crater. He also inherited an empty treasury, the result of past administrations’ unchecked venality and failure to save when oil prices were high.

But Buhari’s actions, inactions, and posturing against free enterprise have helped make a bad situation worse. Despite spending the better part of the past decade campaigning for president, Buhari came into office with no idea who to appoint to his ministerial cabinet. Most presidential aspirants would have vetted potential appointees during their campaigns or at least during the transition. But Buhari didn’t name a cabinet until about six months into his presidency, blaming his inability to compose an economic management team on the fact that Nigerians were all “compromised.” During that time, capital projects like the building of major roads were stuck in limbo; protracted delays in approving the national budget also meant that federal ministries were unable to perform their basic functions. By the end of August, the economy had slipped into recession.

Admitting he’s no economist, Buhari’s economic decisions have been eccentric. Despite all indicators pointing to the need to devalue the naira following the loss of oil revenue, Buhari has declined to do so, insisting on applying stringent controls on the foreign exchange market and the importing of commodities like rice and frozen chicken.

Buhari seems to be betting on his administration’s ability to boost domestic production, even though the critical infrastructure needed to do so, like a stable power supply and functional roads, is not in place. The closest Buhari’s administration has come to articulating an economic plan is announcing its intention to borrow as much as $5 billion from foreign countries, including China and Japan. Meanwhile, disappointed investors are fleeing (or refusing to come) due to the unfavorable business climate. More than 250 companies have reportedly shut down in the past year alone.

Buhari’s much-heralded anti-corruption crusade has also largely proved to be a charade. The administration has initiated several investigations into financial fraud or misappropriation by former government officials, but so far there have been no convictions. The president has refrained from going after his close associates, individuals like Bola Tinubu, a powerful figure within the ruling party who was once described as “corruption personified.” Instead, it has been opposition politicians and members of his predecessor’s administration that have been the focus of his anti-corruption efforts.

Last month, he dispensed with due process altogether and ordered the state security service to arrest and raid the homes of judges who hadn’t been charged with a crime. According to the Buhari administration, the judges were corrupt. But the judges claim they were being framed as punishment for granting bail to critics of Buhari’s government. The incident caused a popular uproar and was described by the head of Nigeria’s judiciary as “deeply regrettable.”

Buhari’s gradual turn toward authoritarianism has revealed the emptiness of his central campaign pitch: Far from embracing the democratic process, he has sought to unilaterally impose his will and whims on the country, even when it means subverting the rule of law. There was perhaps no starker illustration of the president’s illiberal streak than his response to his wife’s suggestion that she may not support him in the next election: My wife, he said at a press conference on Oct. 14, “belongs to my kitchen and my living room and the other room.”

It is safe to say that Buhari’s misogynist remarks won’t bring his administration down or even diminish his popularity going forward. The truth is that many Nigerian men (and women) hold similar views. But if he wants to avoid a drubbing in the 2019 election, Buhari must put forward a realistic plan to fix the tattered economy while showing voters that he is indeed a “reformed democrat” and not the same old strongman they remember from the last time around.

Image credit: PIUS UTOMI EKPEI/AFP/Getty Images

http://foreignpolicy.com/2016/11/20/fool-nigeria-once-shame-on-you-fool-nigeria-twice-buhari-presidency/

And they are more venomous at their infancy.

priceaction:
People think conductor that Lagos government is talking about is the one shouting "oshodi", " oju elegba, yaba yaba", with dirty clothes, it is far more than that. What about those ticketers that are working with brt buses both blue and red buses now? Are they not conductors? Now Many people are fighting daily to get the jobs. At least I know many guys and girls that are graduates doing such job. So what is the fuse about that? At least it helps them solve some financial needs. At least they will start somewhere. Many idiots condemning the job will rush to it without thinking twice when it begins now.
I could remember when fashola started Street cleaning jobs for the old agile folks, and people were complaining that it was a way of punishing elderly people. Even those that took the job were always ashamed then, they used to cover their faces, but now, they are doing it with pride. Even a lot of young folks are fighting to get the job now. Why? Because it is well packaged now and they are under the payroll of Lagos state with good pension scheme. So it depends on the packaging and the welfare. The so called many white collar jobs many are doing are nothing but slavery under suite and packing shirts . many people that studied transport management and related courses will still find some edge is such a job.

O boy conductor na conductor! Leave analysis biko!

He's talking thrash. Who's interest does the appellation 'Arewa' serve? He should tell this his bull crap to the birds of the air. Is the Arewa Youth forum for the Isoko youth or does the Arewa Consultative Forum deliberate on Ijaw affairs?

What ethnic stock make up the membership of the Miyetti Allah Cattle Breeders Association of Nigeria? Who is their life patron? Whose interests does the organization protect and what are their objectives? What is the lingua franca in the Nigerian Armed Forces? And why is it so?

PLEASE DO NOT BELIEVE EVERYTHING YOU READ!

Football inside me politics section?! Hehehe...nothing I will not see on this NL.

Sounds like fiction... This is enough to weep for this country if indeed his account is true.

Who do we believe?!

CBN policies under this administration be like yoyo! Up and down! Side to side! East to West; North to South.