Dreadlock69:
There is this girl/lady of mine , dark tall and good looking, how we started talking and dating was a coincidence ,she was speaking rudely or not fairly to my cousin and I interrupt and cautioned her never to try that or repeat it again cause me get “gbana" for head i know dey take disrespect/nonsense.
she later calm down and became gentle like pikin wey Dem shout for ,after advising her and her later gra gra like I do am bad thing but me know send , how we start dating is a history I don't know how it happened.

Now she got this problem she get very sharp mouth how do I go about it ?
It only when I'm around she tries not to do anything stupid and talk pass herself because I do give her this stare warning eyes and she go respect herself ,like the one wey “ my mama go give me if I wan collect sweet from stranger or person she no like when I dey small".
She always feels she can get away with anything cause I'm around and no one will/dare to touch her .“ she get this kind mindset like nah cultist she dey date nobody got touch am".

My cousin bro and sis sometimes are like I know blame you anytime your husband dey you dey get wings.

She sweet and all to me and everyone but her mouth to sharp and ee dey off me sometimes , how do I manage her behavior I'm a cool / mind my business kind of person.

hope we are not dating same girl

odinson1:

Thank God say you know this one
You saw the lady that commented up there right? She called all of us small boys

i saw her comment in 3D �

odinson1:

So she's not even a virgin
My guy your eye go soon clear
I see you arguing throughout this thread, people wey don see life dey tell you something,you dey argue.
And guy,do not ask any woman for an advice concerning this matter,e get why

ask woman for advice?? Not even 10 years old me

Lvgirl:




My Judgement
Yes that way she will be engaged doing something
Less waka waka about
Pls note that her ex will be oiling her kpekus as well. Pls don't argue this.
U will be abroad husband ....oiling kpekus every December
The home base man will take 11 months


Wonderment

lol no be me disvirgin her.

Streetmovement:


Wotoporiously speaking

If so, then no need for the rush to open shop na, make everything go jejely

thanks, good that you understand my typo errors

headbasher96:
oga is married and enjoying his life in france with a french woman make una two the fool una self u see free pus.sy knack am responsibly oo.

And dont listen to nairalanders condemning women like their sisters are perfect

i know, I don’t find white women attractive, moreover I love my culture

Clinghton:
You should know what to do, but investing in someone you haven't married is risky these days who knows yours might be different.

The fact that you don't stay in Nigerian increases the risk.

it will be when we get married, not a fiancé or gf per say

ashawopikin:
How u go marry person wey u meet 5months ago? No be juju be dat?

una really get comprehension problem. Who told u we are married? Marriage might be next year if I know she is the woman for me. I will open shop for her to manage not hers

EASYGURU:


Na so my girl run me street after opening pos shop for her as requested. In less than two months she don fall in love with two of her pos customer. She broke up sha. Lucky mhe i no give her 300k operating capital if not i for b the simp of the year

girl friend o not wife, my case na wife not girl friend, the shop will be in my name

satandeterrible:

You came here for advice but you have been arguing against the mainstream advice been giving to you.
Staying abroad and marrying a Nigerian girl living in Nigeria is a very bad decision, with almost certainty of ending in disaster. Besides that opening a shop for her is another foolish decision, more so in her name.

pls can you show me the advice and where I argued?

Favfables1:


Can't she open the shop for herself? ...
She's asking you to open a shop for her immediately you guys get married ba, what effort is she putting towards that? Abi does she think it is only husbands that should build their wives in marriage and not vice versa? Sounds to me like this girl has a mentality of "my husband must do everything for me, while I do little or nothing" ...

I have two beliefs that as regards this issue.... 1. if it's important to you, you'd find a way to make it work 2. What you don't work to get, you won't have the capacity to sustain....

If that shop is important to her, it will show in her attitude: she will huzzle to bring part of the money, she will study in-depth as regards the kind of business she wants to do, she will do her research properly as regards where to get cheaper goods, the market system et Al...

If she isn't doing all the above and more, I bet you, if you open that shop for her, she will mismanage it!! Because she didn't go through the process of starting it, she definitely won't have what it takes to sustain it ...

I hope you get the point sir?

And please sir...
Don't ever consider getting married to a lady who isn't working for her money!! It's foolishness!!!!

How would someone who has never worked for 20k in her life, be able to manage that same amount, when given to her?

Give a girl who works for her own money legitimately 20k, I assure you, it will be put to far better use in her hands than a girl who has never worked for money in her life ....

While the former can plan that money well and it'll last her 2weeks or more, the later will most definitely spend it all in one salon ....


May God give you wisdom sir...

I appreciate your advice, I will do so in accordance

Vinnie2000:
Ogbeni, haven't you heard of Men with 2 or 3 business?
Open another for yourself and use the profits to be giving her Allowances.

am not in Nigeria

Wizywiz:
better behave like street G like u claim...no allow woman wey dey bend down piss come tumble you

lol I understand you. Woman never use my head before � thanx man

Wizywiz:
make I laugh u

answer my question

Toktee:
So why do you chose you open shop for here as she proposed?


Did you keep another woman over there?



Why most you do marriage by correspondent.

it might take two years for her to join me. I don’t have any woman living with me yet.

I am here for advice not for anything. I think I won’t open it till she have babies

Vinnie2000:
Ogbeni, don't open any shop for her!.
If u have too much Money, and feel like throwing some away, Use it to buy land, tricycle or Okada.
If u no wan get sense, Na u sabi!

okay, but what am opening the shop is because of incase we have kids the burden won’t be on me.

GooodHardDick:


Bro, don't do it at all. Abort that mission asap.

If you must open a shop for her, then wait for that marriage to grow for at least 6-7 years before doing that. And it open be open in your name!!!

You'll come back here and thank us later for giving you this wonderful advice!

thanx for your advice

Toktee:
Ask her if she will like to follow u to ur base... her answer will expose her intentions.

she agreed to go with me.

Wizywiz:
guy I dey laugh you, u feel you know her, ur eyes go soon clear...I bet you she is with you because you are outside and she feels the Benjamin dey ur hand. Pretend and tell her u are broke and will be deported or just form say no money again and see her reactions henceforth...I give u few weeks or months u go testify.. becareful with naija babes.....u no go hear now

exactly, I will do it. I am waiting for the right time to do we, relax, no be everybody be mumu as una think, I be street boy

GooodHardDick:


Leave the SIMP make he dey mumu for there.

This is exactly why they are called simpletons. They always learn the hard way

my brother advice me, I never do am. That’s what am thinking

Toktee:
She go just lie low now till after marriage... Immediately after marriage disturbances go commence.


I hate marriage by correspondence... the woman go Bleep her ex taya later you will discover that almost all the kids ain't yours.

she will change city.

satandeterrible:
A completely finished man.
I'm certain you'll learn the hard way.
Continue.

am here for advice, so u know fit open shop for your wife?

Toktee:
Comrade take it easy.... you know majority of them get blinded immediately after entering that narrow hole.


Leave am... Marriage by correspondent.

am here to seek advice and you dey attack me.

posty56:
open shop for her ,make she they make profit ,then make one broke guy come they help her keep am warm ,then she will blame you for not giving her attention,we have seen this before. una no wan get sense

bro relax, all finger cross. �

Toktee:
Even after marriage she go the use your money to feed and fattened Dicksons here and there... Never trust that gender... why is she not proposing joining you where you are?

its a process, not as fast as I think

Nonexisting:
Open the store before marriage,no. Open it after marriage, yes. Open in her name, no. Open in your name, yes. Never trust a vaginarian that stays with you for 24hrs not to talk of the one that stays far from you. Why do you even want to marry someone from here when you are abroad? You no see girl there? 95% of Nigerian wives at home cheat on their abroad husbands, forget their pretences and fake assurances.

bro e better make my wife cheat in Nigeria than me marrying abroad woman, e get why

golddust6000:
it doesn’t matter, if both of you understand each other

even if you date for 100yrars bro any body wey wan misbehave go misbehave

Vinnie2000:
You don open shop 4 ur Mama??
If u open it for her, it's inside dat Shop, one Soft, Yahoo boy will woo and Fucck her.
Better use ur Akonuche!

my mama and sister get shop. Na wife the mother of my kid na him sure

MAGG0T:



Village girls de give condition too ??


Na to go under river go look for wife for this country, ....

lol, she is not a village girl, but I met her in the village. She lives in the city.

slan87:
Is she ready to get involved financially in the project or all expense on you?

NO, she is not working, she is just a fresh graduate.

Streetmovement:
Wotoporiously speaking


Is she the one I wanna truly settle with forever?

Does she truly love me?

How often do you visit naija?

When are you guys gonna make it official?

Don't tell me, just answer within you and then proceed with your decision.


My opinion; marry that shenkes first before you open shop for am, use your upper.

I will be going for introduction my end of this year, by middle of next year then maybe the married, but if she get pregnant along the line then it will be faster.

elmagnifico411:
You can open the shop for her after getting married to her.. as for the name kini, I Don't think it's really necessary.. 2 off u can have your names on it for rest of mind.. my worry is, you Don't stay in d country. How long would she have to wait to be with u and see u everyday? I get why oh.. to leave Naija ladies and travel out no be easy thing.

i will be coming every six months of the year till she join me over