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Family / Re: Are You Feeling Suicidal? Come Here First! (part 2) by Googler(m): 11:18am On Nov 20, 2014
Enoquin:
@Googler Keep your head up. Don't allow yourself drown in despair and too much worry. Writing is forever, you can still write when you are old and feeble with an audio recorder and a young assistant typing your words up. Socially inept? Thats just a term...get people of like minds; it will help you during the struggle that you won't even realise that there is a struggle in the first place.
Thanks. Much appreciated.

maclatunji:
@Googler, I just read your post. Interesting life you have, I have the feeling it might become a great book someday. My advice to you is to dwell on the positives. It is what I do, everyone has problems but one thing about me is that unless I am ill, you will not find me moping over my problems. There is always something to work on that is positive and if you keep working on positives, good things would begin to happen. It could be a slow process, but it happens.
Keep your head up, keep doing positive things, have faith in God and hopefully things will get better and many of your dreams will come true.
As for your interest in writing, please visit this page, you might find it interesting http://www.facebook.com/storried
Thank you. I have checked out the page and will follow it.

Godmother:
@ Googler
I must say that your write-up is quite touching and my heart goes out to you.
But my belief is that contrary to what you said, our lives is not quite a script written out that must be played out whether we like it or not. Call me spiritual, but I believe in the God factor.

There are certain things that we can achieve when we hit the floor with our knees. For one, there's that peace that comes. Then there's the issue of the situation turning around (sometimes not immediately, but it does turn around.

You mentioned getting added skills like video editing and web development and I must say that's a good plan. Those will be added streams of income and being comfortable financially is about having multiple streams of income, some residual.

I just finshed a web development course myself so I can tell you its a course you're gonna love. In all I wish you goodluck.
Thank you, Godmother.

Sometimes it's the small things that open our eyes to certain "truths". Yesterday I fell ill just because I stayed up too long during the two previous nights. Yet if I don't stay up long there is no way I am ever going to improve things. It's a complex web that forces you to think deep about things rather than just accept generally accepted notions about God and spirituality.

I do agree with you about things turning around. I'm currently trying to get a place closer to the Island - that should cut down on the stress and give me a few more hours to work on things everyday.
Family / Re: Are You Feeling Suicidal? Come Here First! (part 2) by Googler(m): 6:13pm On Sep 22, 2014
Life is complicated. The thing about being broke is that you are not in control of what you do or what happens to you. Other people are. And this can bring about a situation of feelings of helplessness. Give you some examples.

1. A colonel sent to my state in the mid-80’s implemented a policy that has left me floundering for years on end.

2. The only good job I ever got, one (13 odd years ago, paid okay and was trekable from my pad) was lost because a member of staff decided to burgle the place and steal stuff, setting off a chain of events that led to detention and termination of the job of every administrative member of staff.

3. When I went to university in the late 90’s I could not complete it because a certain military administrator had put in place some very bad policies which saw fees going up astronomically.

4. When I tried to run an online business a couple of years back, I underestimated the extent of my adverse reaction to stress. Staying up late and getting up early quickly took its toll and I had to abandon the project after losing my entire savings – it wasn’t much, but it was my entire savings.

5. I am currently studying for a degree in law. But someone, somewhere, has decided to bungle my school’s accreditation process – meaning I may not go to law school and my degree will look like eba without soup. Had I any control, I would have gone to a better school.

My present job entails spending between 6 and 7 hours or more in traffic daily (Ogun State go VI) and the pay is just enough to cover that transport and feed you a little. My school fees and co have to come from what I manage to make from writing and editing which is very irregular.

I suspect that the script for our lives is written before we are born. I suspect there is a reason for it - which reason may explain why God does not intervene. Look at me. I could have graduated long long ago and settled into an okay job. But that was not to be. I can be very productive given the right environment – but I’ve been thrown into the most inhospitable physical and emotional environment of all, a roiling lough that appears to blind the eyes and bind the hands. How do you get productive with my working circumstances if you react easily to the stress? You dare not resign because being socially inept (what a post above mine calls being “weird”) has ensured you don’t have any network of friends. So you’re stuck – you can’t get a good job and you can’t go on your own. Fifteen years ago I wanted to be a fiction writer. I think I was quite good at it. Hell, I was winning prizes. But the striving to get food got in the way. I had to eat and I couldn’t combine that with fiction writing. Because, yes, you got it - stress.

I’m not atheist and I have never doubted the existence of God in all these. Why? Because I can see a pattern in everything. I have never completely starved, or been rendered homeless. Food usually turns up when I thought it was over. Things never go so bad I can’t get to the next day. It’s as if the script allows the basics, the barest basics, but nothing more. I can eat. I have a room. But I want a proper apartment. I want a home. I want a wife. I want children feeling my ears with their shrieks. But these have been pipe dreams. That is why one would, perhaps, have been better off with sturdy muscles going to some village farm without a care in the world. But I don’t think God or demons or witches have anything to do with any of these. Sounds complicated? Well, that’s another topic - God. But I hope it explains why I suspect that the script for our lives is written before we are born. You see, there was a time I thought the reasons I can’t bring myself to hurt a fellow human being by stealing from them or cheating or deceiving them is because I’m a good person and those who have no qualms duping old pensioners of their entire life savings are bad people. Now, I’m not so sure it's about being inherently good or bad. I suspect that temperament may explain things. We’re all victims of our temperament.

But, yes, hope one must. So thanks to Angeldemivida, sholay11, onegig, bellong and everyone else. Yes, I have visited the Business section a few times. Once my exams are over next month I am planning to leverage on my residual IT skills and go for video editing training, teach myself website development and spend some time promoting my editing side job online. If my degree will not be useful (they say they’re working on accreditation) I might retain my sanity by trying something else.

Thank you for reading. I won’t have gone into this with anyone – no one cares, not because they’re bad people but because they’re not meant to. So it feels good to ramble on an anonymous forum.

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Family / Re: Are You Feeling Suicidal? Come Here First! (part 2) by Googler(m): 6:08pm On Sep 22, 2014
9janinja:
"pick them one after the other " hmmm for a complicated and weird human-being like me wit a low self esteem ?
Unfortunately, “normal” people can’t understand that ^^^ even if they tried hard. That is why they tell you “go out and make friends”. They mean well, but they don’t understand.

In this situation, low self esteem and being weird (unable to fit in) are mutually reinforcing.

Well, I think you can try the Internet stuff like someone suggested. Then you may try one-on-one with a professionals psychologist or psychiatrist (very few experienced behavioural experts in Nigeria, sorry, but you may be lucky). Then you can try adopting coping strategies. What strategies? I don’t know what will work for you. But if you put your mind to it you will work out something.

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Family / Re: Are You Feeling Suicidal? Come Here First! (part 2) by Googler(m): 5:09pm On Sep 12, 2014
When I woke up this morning I wished I didn’t and almost seriously wished there was poison in the house so I could reach for it and ingest some. I don’t know I’m going to purchase poison and do it anyway – I think I still retain some of the religious stuff learned back in the day about suicide being very bad and I can’t bear to think of what it will do to my mother. I wish an accident would just happen and take me away.

Every day you wake up and look at the dump yard face to face room. Then you go to be bossed around by those you have to help out with anything that requires brain work. Then you go on Facebook and see classmates that were far far behind you in school occupying important positions. Then your shoes are out and you want to buy but remember house rent is due this month ending. Then you run into an old pal and he asks how come you are not yet married. And then wonder, why is life so tough for me? Even, why didn’t God just make me like one of those regular people are happy with their little means of livelihoods – you know, an IQ of 70 with big muscles to carry cement and earn a little money and have no care in the world? But no, school I didn’t go. Yet if I carry cement or drive okada I will fall ill.

I’m male. I will be forty in a couple of years. Nothing has ever worked out for me. I think even God made mistakes when he was making me because the smallest things everyone takes for granted – making friends, hardiness, etc. - are hard for me. Even ordinary school I couldn’t/can’t go. So I’m stuck in a small administrative job that can’t provide a basic apartment after covering transport.

Until about age 10 things were okay. We weren’t rich but we didn’t lack. Then the military came to power and the colonel sent to our state decided the civil service needed to be pruned. And my father was so pruned. The world just turned upside down and has not flipped back till today. Nearly three decades after, I’m yet to get out of it. Don’t get me wrong - I’m not blaming anyone. I know I ought to have changed things by now. I’m sure you know people who had things very bad but went on to be successful. But I guess God did not make me with whatever it is it takes to do that. I don’t know, but I just can’t seem to find the combination. God also didn’t give me the attributes to survive in Nigeria because I can’t hurt anyone – I can’t bring myself to deceive, cheat or steal even when the opportunity arises yet almost everyone seems to get by through dishonest means in this country. I can’t push someone out of the queue to get to the front and it seems you have to do that sort of thing to “make it”.

I’m still single. I want to be married – I’m sick of being alone. But I’m too broke to seriously consider it so I have refused to make any effort to go into a serious relationship. On the one or two occasions I mustered up some courage to give it a try the outcome was ghastly. The last one told me I can’t meet up with her financial needs so it wasn’t going to be me and her – she said so in so many words. Maybe it was just as well because I have always promised myself I will not bring forth kids under the circumstances I can afford now. I don’t want to bring a woman into it either.

When I finished primary school there was no money for secondary school so I was sent to a vocational school. You can probably tell from my writing that I’m not exactly a lightweight in book matters. Well, I later read for O' levels on my own and got the required 5 credits. I gained admission into the university at 24. I could not meet up with my financial requirements. Unluckily for me, things affect me very easily – if sleep late for several nights going, I fall ill; if I drink more beer than I should, I fall ill; when I get depressed, I fall ill. I crashed out after part II first semester as financial problems and anxieties sent me into depression.

Since then I have tried my hands a business or two but when you’re poor at networking it’s hard to attract funding and be on your own unless you have a solid capital base. I have also tried to use my skills at writing and editing to earn a living but not much has come from that since I have no networks.

I am currently back at university reading from home for a degree. Now, I can’t stand it anymore and want to abandon it and take off somewhere. At part I semester 1, I did 12 course and the result was 8As and 4 Bs. But last semester, that is, part IV semester 1, I did just six courses out of which I had 2 Es and 2Fs – that should tell you the mental state I’m in. I’m terribly depressed and don’t know how I will cope with the forthcoming exams and then 500L.

I guess I’ve rambled enough.

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Religion / Re: Osanyin Worshipers Meet Here: May Osanyin Teach You Medicines Ase by Googler(m): 8:34pm On Jul 03, 2014
Sorry, just curious -

Highpriests: About High Priest
I can use potent ebo, medicines and charms to make you. . . win elections. . . and so much more I can’t write here.
These fellows who kidnap hapless Nigerians and cut off their heads for rituals during election time, do you make such prescriptions?

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TV/Movies / Re: Top 10 Best Nollywood Movies You Watched 2012 by Googler(m): 8:40am On Dec 27, 2012
@op
Are these available on DVD and where can one get them in Lagos?
Politics / ‘ S’ West Integration More Important Than Mimiko’s Ambition’ - Igbokwe by Googler(m): 11:19am On Sep 18, 2012
‘S’West integration more important than Mimiko’s ambition’

SPOKESMAN of the Lagos chapter of the Action Congress of Nigeria (ACN), Mr. Joe Igbokwe has harped on the need for regional integration in South West Nigeria, saying it was far more important than the political ambition of Governor Olusegun Mimiko of Ondo State.

In a statement, he traced the history of integration in Nigeria to the “early 1940s and 1950s in the days of Zik of Africa and Chief Obafemi Awolowo until the unfortunate event on the floor of the Western House in 1951.”

Urging the people of Ondo State to vote out Mimiko in next month’s governorship election and usher in Mr. Rotimi Akeredolu (SAN), the flag-bearer of ACN as governor, he said the state “must be returned to the great family where they belonged originally.

“Regional integration in the South West Nigeria is one of the biggest projects in Nigeria today and Ondo State cannot afford to be in isolation. Like every other good thing in Nigeria, the regional integration going on in the South West is being copied by other zones in Nigeria. Ondo State cannot afford to be left behind in this serious business, Mimiko or no Mimiko.”

He continued: “South West or Yoruba nation is too important than the ambition of one man called Segun Mimiko. South West regional integration is far more important than the ambition of one man called governor Segun Mimiko.

“Segun may be pretending to be in the Labour Party but in actions, and deeds and in body language, he is PDP. Dan Iwuanyanwu, the Chairman LP, has just received a National Honour from President Jonathan and as political historians, we in ACN understand the game very well.

“Today, no one ethnic group or zone will say that it is better than South West Nigeria.Is it in terms of education? Is it in terms of wealth? Is it economy? Is it religious tolerance? Is it market?”

Source
Crime / Re: Man Arraigned For Duping Girlfriend Of N400,000 by Googler(m): 7:48pm On Jul 26, 2012
Hold on a second. You mean Thisday, a leading national newspaper, wrote this story with so many grammatical and structural blunders?! Smh
Celebrities / Re: Tonto Dikeh Offers N1m For 'poko' Decipherment by Googler(m): 5:41pm On Jul 26, 2012
A celebrity offers a cash reward for a guessing game. So what is her offence? I mean, why all the vitriol?
Religion / Re: A Young President Is Coming From Edo State by Googler(m): 9:06am On Jul 24, 2012
Lol. But Oshiomhole is in ACN naa. Even if he crosses PDP won't field him. Maybe a new party will emerge. But the North won't take it lying down. They think it is their turn.
Religion / Re: Best Religion Forum Topics by Googler(m): 9:02pm On Jul 18, 2012
Vedaxcool
Every thread has it's concept and this one is about the great threads. That is why it says "best". Please check the thread you are promoting and compare it with others put up.

This beautiful thread should be allowed to stay. Moderators, watch thread and clean up whenever necessary.
Family / Re: Definition Of Marriage To You? by Googler(m): 3:06pm On Jul 17, 2012
maclatunji: A solemn union between a man and woman to live together and take care of each other's needs as best they can based on God's stipulations.
What are "God's stipulations" please?
Education / Re: Why Do People Lie About Their Academic Pedigree by Googler(m): 11:01am On Jul 06, 2012
plantation: you've only succeeded in advertising ur ignorance. I know u must be regretting ur post by now.
NL is full of such people. When you write something they jump at it to make a "correction", only to end up advertising their own ignorance.

This one's brother even said it's not "normal" for a tech uni to run law courses!
Politics / Re: Reps Ask ECOWAS To Stop Deportation Of Nigerians From Ghana by Googler(m): 8:57am On Jun 25, 2012
ZUBY77: Nigeria must go.
He he. Have they produced the bag yet?

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Car Talk / Re: The Man Who Built A Car by Googler(m): 2:22pm On Jun 22, 2012
This is good.
Politics / Re: How The Vaswanis Loot Nigeria: The Brothers Get N6 Trillion Waiver by Googler(m): 11:08am On Jun 08, 2012
Naijiriyya. Even the president is implicated! Sad.
Politics / Re: Was " Mighty Joe" Killed On Trumped Up Charges? by Googler(m): 8:00pm On Jun 07, 2012
Lol @ "Dele Times".

Anyone in Lagos back in the day would remember MJ. As you can probably gather from op, he was a big black bad dude.
Politics / Re: Is Stella Odua (Aviation Minister) Being Shielded By GEJ? by Googler(m): 4:40pm On Jun 06, 2012
great1: Looking back at the string of events it is quite obvious that DANA air is not to be blamed for this air mishap.. We are quick to nail the foreigners who operate this flying corfins called airlines, but have we ever bothered asking ourselves who gave them the goahead to send Nigerian citizens to their early graves... Fair enough, PDP CPC ADC NPD CAN are quick to trade blames, but nevertheless will the true criminals ever face trial for this gross negligence...if the government is not willing to unmask the culprits who sold their souls all in the name of corruption, allowing unsafe planes to be flown in our country, then its time we unmask them ourselves... It is quite clear that stella odua has no shame or self respect, or let's say Respect for the dead... How dare her open her mouth to defend the first lady She should be answering the critical questions on how DANA airline got their operating lincense in the first place...I'm convinced she collected bribes from these criminals called investors, to allow the ill fated plane into the country... Our aviation sector should be grounded as well as everyone else who is affiliated with this incident... Sadly enough, I keep asking myself if the culprits will ever be brought to book... How many more flying caskets do we have left... Maybe 15 more... You'll never know....[b]its good to see that Jimoh Ibrahim has been exposed by a member of his airline...[/b]are we gona end up flying in planes that are destined to crashhh?

Jimoh Ibrahim has not been exposed by any member of his airline. Where did you hear that?
Politics / Was " Mighty Joe" Killed On Trumped Up Charges? by Googler(m): 4:14pm On Jun 06, 2012
Found this while googling. Was Mighty Joe killed on trumped up charges?

Wharfsnake,
Mighty Joe was a stand-up guy, he was truly a legend. We at afar in Suru-Lere, only read what they said happened. But things that he became legendary about were: He never ratted on his homies, he denied ever robbing anyone, and He could bend an iron with a punch.
Those were the good old days, when men were men. Shikena.
afs

_____________________________

--- In TalkNigeria@yahoogroups.com, Wharf Snake <wharfsnake@...> wrote:

Thanks Homie for re-inforcing your homeboy. It was a great time to be in Idi-oro. Especially in the later part of the seventies when modern boutiques moved into idi-oro. I can count cecil gees of london, barneys of switzerland, and many others.

Moving on....

Afis bro, I can understand your quandary, especially when Dele Times was your only source of information in those days. If you recalled, Dele Times was partially owned by the federal government, and one of the minority owners of Dele Times was the Alakija family of Mushin. In the annals of rich and wealthy nigerian families with deep money, the alakijas are the equivalent of the du ponts in America. You never read or hear about them, but their money speaks volumes and they own everything.

Mighty Joe was not an armed robber. Mighty Joe was killed as a service to one of these prominent families from Mushin. We all know the true story. Mighties only crime was that he beat up the owner of Jebako and seized Jebako from the owner. Mighty Joe was the body guard to the owner of jebako in those days. If you knew anything about Idi-oro in the early seventies, you would have known that the law had no reach in Idi-oro. Nobody could challenge Baba and mighty Joe in Idi-oro. Baba could mass an army that will fight anybody to a standstill. The only way to eliminate Mighty Joe and rid themselves of his troubles was to trump up charges that he robbed an old woman. How can a man who fed old people in Idi-oro turn around to rob them. That is the question you should ask yourself. Yes, he was a mean, tough M-F, but not an armed robber, bro. I knew that man very well, bro. He was one of the kindest cut of men to come out of Idi-oro. He was a true son of a gun and razor sharp knives and also, a man of his time. He was Idi-oro and depicted Idi-oro. In a nutshell, MIGHTY JOE was KILLEd for that prominent Mushin family that owned a partial share of Jebako. That was the story then and it remains so till infinity. There was never a robbery. Not once! and you are right, he was pressured to implicate Baba and Oshin, but as a shon of the Idi-oro, he took the stand by himself and like a hero of our time and everyone was proud of him, and the legend and lore has since built beyond his imagination, remained standing for a complete 4 minutes under a barrage of bullets before giving up the ghost. If I ever come into money, I will definitely make a movie of this great idi-oro son. He was surely one of a kind - a bad M-F, but not an armed robber.
Politics / Re: Airspace Not Shut Down For First Lady, Says Minister by Googler(m): 4:00pm On Jun 06, 2012
@lastpage

Seun:

I believe the first post about the crash on Nairaland was posted just after 4pm

Here:

Politics / Re: Airspace Not Shut Down For First Lady, Says Minister by Googler(m): 3:53pm On Jun 06, 2012
Seun:

I believe the first post about the crash on Nairaland was posted just after 4pm
Thank you.


Besides, I don't believe for one second that even in the military era a plane load of people would send a distress signal and be left to hover for one hour even if the plane carrying Hitler and IBB and Useni and TY Danjuma was landing. Not that if it happened and I am the pilot I would obey the "don't land" signal - I would just go ahead and land the plane make NAF shoot am down!

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Politics / Re: Airspace Not Shut Down For First Lady, Says Minister by Googler(m): 3:43pm On Jun 06, 2012
@lastpage


The Federal Ministry of Aviation will like to clarify that nothing could be farther from the truth....... “The crash occurred at about 4.47pm on Sunday and its last contact with the Lagos Control Tower was at 3.42p.m. as has already been announced.

Well, 2.45 to 3.42 to 4.47 - something needs to be explained there. But is this 4.47, is it an error? I mean, other accounts have consistently put the crash at between 3 and 4.

This from the "eyewitness account" thread:

Like a scene in a movie, the events of June 3rd 2012 is not one I can ever forget in a hurry. [b]It was 3.56pm [/b]and everyone had formed clusters around available TV set in preparation to watch the Nigerian National Football team play their Namibian counterpart in Calabar, a home match for the Eagles. Then came a loud scream from the grocery shop across my house, it was the owner shouting “Ki le leyi?” in Yoruba which by interpretation is “what is this?”

Now consider these:
1. Someone on telly said 3.40
2. There was a football match played that day which started at about 4pm. Crash obviously happened before match.
3. My colleague just showed me her phone - she sent out messages of the crash by 4.54 (that is, the news had already gone viral and spreading on BB by 4.54).

So I don't believe the crash happened at 4.47pm!
Nairaland / General / Is Nairaland A Dumb Site? by Googler(m): 1:38pm On Jun 06, 2012
atuboweke: everything Jonathan, everything Dame Jonathan, everything GEJ......even in my village no pipe borne water!!! It is GEJ...Dumb Nigerians......Lazy Nairalands....No wonder i metioned Nairaland to my oyibo friend and he just hissed and said its the dumbest site he has ever and stoped visiting. KEEP BLAMING GEJ FOREVERYTHING. Even when you fail a course in school it is GEJ.SCCCHHHH!!!!
Do you agree with the bolded?
Politics / Re: Airspace Not Shut Down For First Lady, Says Minister by Googler(m): 1:17pm On Jun 06, 2012
This is getting so tiresome you have to give up on Nigerians!

lastpage:
Even from the post of the Aviation Ministry (and l have read also from the posts of Dana Airlines as well) it said it lost contact with the plane for over one hour! ...before it eventually crashed. Read the bulletin again please.
Where did you read this?

lastpage:
Thus be assured: The plane hovered for over an hour before eventually ditching.
Pray, sir, can you provide your source for this?

lastpage:
Even when it crashed, it was "simmering" over some time before it exploded in a ball of fire.
Reports at the seen said they could hear people shouting for help for a long time when the plane crashed (before it exploded) ...AND NO HELP CAME!
What "reports", sir? Even if this "report" was true (which it certainly isn't going the credible accounts so far, rather than accounts from fiction writers and those who can't tell the difference between people trapped in building and those dead in aircraft) can the "reporter" tell us why he or she didn't help? Oh, I forgot the government should have been at Iju waiting for the plane to crash!

lastpage:
This is the irony of Nigeria!
Yes. It is! That the more educated a Nigerian, the...
Politics / Re: Who Closed The Airspace On Sunday 3 June 2012? Is 1st Lady For Dana Crash? by Googler(m): 5:33pm On Jun 05, 2012
BoboYekini:
I read that early on in the initial crash thread. struck a chord, but i guess it was glossed over in the heat

I read that tread and I didn't see it. Can you copy and paste it? But I'm keeping an open mind about this. Let's hope the truth comes out.
Politics / Re: Who Closed The Airspace On Sunday 3 June 2012? Is 1st Lady For Dana Crash? by Googler(m): 5:22pm On Jun 05, 2012
nuclearboy: ^^

Impeachment is somewhat extreme!

But [b]it is true that eye-witnesses say the plane kept circling [/b]and that foreign media were first to report the story even though it happened in the lap of Lagos!
I'm hearing bolded for the first time in this thread. And I have read countless accounts in newspapers and listened to quite a number on the BBC.
Politics / Re: Man Arrested At Radio House With Grenades & Live Ammo by Googler(m): 1:32pm On May 21, 2012
achi4u: bomb must go off in Abuja within two days.
BOKO HARAM are many in Abuja now.
I see they're now on NL.
Religion / Evidence Of Juju by Googler(m): 12:08pm On May 14, 2012
Found this while googling.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gEABw7dz1N0?version=3&feature=player_embedded

A Kenyan man was suspecting his wife of cutting shows and went to a juju house to help him catch who she was cheating with.

Seems the juju works and the wife and her lover were glued together during a steaming session. The sinful duo are eventually saved by the intervention of the police, the husband, and a pastor.
Romance / Re: If You Were To Date A Celebrity Who Would It Be? by Googler(m): 10:32am On Apr 06, 2012
Missy_B: Tuface, Nana Kwame Osei Sarpong, Chris Attoh. cheesy
He he. Bele dey hungry pesin.
Travel / Re: Why Do Foreign Embassies Reject Our Nigerian Traditional Weddings? by Googler(m): 11:08am On Mar 23, 2012
Henry40:


NO!

I'm sure they asked you at the Embassy for your Marriage Certificate. That's proof of a Legal Wedding, that's why they ask. You have to understand the reason these guys ask. The Crime of Bigamy is fully operational abroad. Bigamy is being legally married to more that a wife. To proof that, they must first proof that you are indeed legally married to more than a wife. It's basically to protect the sanctity of marriage.

I understand all this. What I'm asking is, what happens if I present a "marriage certificate" for my traditional marriage at a Western embassy? Will that do?

Akainzo:

You misunderstood the Marriage Act big time! The marriage act gives legal status to 3 types of marriages
1. The Court Wedding
2. The Church / Nikai wedding
3. The traditional / customary weddings

All the above 3 are legal weddings and each has its own marrisge certificates. Please go and read the Marriage Act.



My guy, you are totally WRONG. Under Nigerian Marriage Act, the traditional wedding is fully Legal. If it is not, why do you have customery courts in Nigeria to decide divorce cases?
Please do not spread mis-information.

The differences between the 3 marriages are the types of relieves you can have, it is only with the Court Wedding, that you are not allowed to marry more than 1 wife! If you perform the Customary Wedding, you are allowed and cannot be charged with bigamy! Embassies ask you for legal documents and are not interested if the wedding was court, church or traditional, so long as you have the legal documents to back up your wedding.

Ok, then.

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