babyosisi: Coogar why are you getting upset
Igbo men prefer to marry Igbo women
That is just a fact
Meanwhile there are many Yoruba men that swear that they will not marry Yoruba women
There are those that dream of marrying Igbo women
If my memory serves me right aren't you one of the Yoruba guys that told us here that you don't don't like Yoruba women
There has been several with those confessions

But like I said,if you have money,we can manage you despite your tribal persuasions
Madu agaghi Abu ogbenye buru kwa amusu

lol @ Madu agaghi abu ogbenye buru kwa amusu..

babyosisi: There is something in an Igbo man that makes him adore Igbo women
We understand them and they understand us
My two first bobos were Yoruba ( they were very good to me by the way) but when it came to marriage,I still preferred an Igbo man too.
Three times I had tried to matchmake some folks
The moment I mentioned the woman was Yoruba,without even seeing a picture,the men lost interest including a girl whose mom was Igbo and father Yoruba.
One of the guys I was matchmaking with my school daughter,a physician ,I called him one day to start the show and his mother was on the background asking " Juo ya ma o nwere Onye Igbo doctor o ma"
( ask her if she knows an Igbo female doctor ) hahahaha
I tried to set up my older cousin with my Yoruba friend but he couldn't get over her tribe
Igbo men prefer Igbo women no doubt and have broken many hearts and when they venture out they prefer to look towards Calabar side or Rivers and Igbo/ Igboid parts of Delta.We are similar in many ways.
Igbos are family oriented and prefer cultures where the family unit in strong
Yorubas are very polygamous and promiscuous and their men and women freely have kids out of wedlock,they have complicated backgrounds so an Igbo man is fearful that a woman from such a background will not be good enough to raise a lasting family with.
That is one of the reasons
The other reason is the distrust after the civil war
The third reason is the notion that they use juju to tie a man in that culture( because if the promiscuity).That scares our Igbo men
No Igbo mother will happily agree to a non Igbo daughter in law ,there is always some convincing the man has to do.

This is very true and touched all areas.
My friends Dad had to dissuade her from marrying a Yoruba man by showing her the machete marks and cuts he got from the biafran war. He wouldn't even set eyes on the Yoruba suitor.

juju2008: The fact is that cultures differ and as such people like to marry their own. I am Igbo and I married an Igbo man. All my relations that I can think of married from various parts of Igbo land. Even the ones living outside the country all came back to marry from an Igbo family. However that is not to say that there are no exceptions. Our family friend's son married a Yoruba moslem, though as a condition she had to convert to the Catholic faith.

And that's another's issue, what's with igbos and this Catholic religion? from tribe to religion. who knows what else they would require. ..I don tire jare

Iaz93: You're uglier

LMAO! I just couldn't stop laughing at ur bitter self.
Dalu.

HisRib: 1) Honestly, there is never really a timeline when it comes to "when to start dating again after a break up." It all depends on you. Some people like to take a break in between relationships and others don't. I always suggest a small break because it gives you a chance to reflect. Going from relationship to relationship is not something I would recommend.

2) Your ex has absolutely no right to condemn you for moving on quickly after the break up (no matter who broke up with who). But, as I mentioned above, moving on too quickly after a break up isn't the greatest idea.

3) There is no standard healing time after a break up. Every relationship is different and there are many factors to take into consideration. For example, How long was the relationship ?, Are there children involved?, Did you introduce each other to your family members? And so forth. But, I think it's safe to start dating again 1-3 months after a small break up. By small, I mean much wasn't invested in the relationship. But as I mentioned above, it all depends on the individual. If you are ready, go ahead. I always suggest a small break from dating after a break up in order to reflect and prepare for the next relationship. This will allow you to figure out what went wrong in the previous one and do better in the future or help you figure out what you don't like so you know what/who to avoid when it comes to choosing your future partner.

4) Friendship between exes is in no way necessary. You don't have to be friends with you ex. In fact, I wouldn't recomment it right after the break up. Maybe months/years after the break up you can become friends, but not right away. Especially if one still has feelings for the other. If you want to move on quickly, it's best to avoid your ex for a while.

Completely priceless answers.
Thanks a lot.

Thanks for this thread.

1.How soon is too soon to move on to another relationship after u break up with an ex?

2. Does Ex have any right to condemn or get mad at you for moving on soon?

3. Is "friendship" necessary between you and an ex?

Thanks.

berylLOL: You are ugly.

How could u say such thing to someone grieving?
A lady like u is broken and in pain and all u could do is rub the ugly word on her face? Why are people so bitter especially Nigerians and yet we wonder why people commit suicide.
May God have mercy on u and send u help when u need it. Believe me, you will need comfort one day. I hope no one mocks you.

Op, just take it easy and heal first. Take stock and understand why things keep happening same way. Also understand that relationships are like clothes, you will never go naked. Someone is praying to have u, you just have to be patient and focused. All will be well.

Pyrrho:
I feel sorry for u girls who talk based on ur experience with a guy, one guy.
Bt to say the truth, u might find a guy who tinks u don't av to cook, and love u for even neglecting cooking.
Not me dear, not a chance.
U date the wrong person frm the start, u try to turn dem by good deeds -- ur plan fails, then u choose to get even for ur broken heart? Wrong path.

This isn't about pretending to be nice.
Truth is that any lady who is naturally homely will not sit back and watch things undone. I speak for myself cos even vist my friends and their place place is unkempt, I get up and do it. Be it male or female. Can't stand untidy place but whats nice about those is that they appreciate it. These things are not demanded, it comes from ur inside. But when it's demanded, it's upto u to put an end to it. It will be bad to walk into ur bf house and its untidy and u walk out without doing something about it but I won't let anyone take advantage of my chores obsessed self. Lol.

sandijey: Culture plays a major role. Might never marry a yoruba man even if am yoruba. The guys just expect u to cook and clean when they haven't even proposed! As if its their birthrite! And yes am bitter cus I have had terrible experiences! That's just eye service to me! That doesn't mean they would marry u. Someone else might be cooking and cleaning better than u! I have cooked, cleaned and scrubbed and I will never do that again! The worst is if the young man is still living wiv his parents! Lord have mercy. You will be expected to cook for everybody including his parents, etc! jus to show u are a well brought up girl even when he hasn't proposed to you! But because the boys family is already calling you iyawo, u go just form mugu! Call me missing rib now, I no send u!! At the end of the day, if he brings another girl home and she cooks, this same family will eat her food and call her iyawo! I think women should never spend a night in a bf's house. So he doesn't see u finish! If u are not readily available, u wouldn't be mandated to cook often! I don't mean to bring tribe! Just that my best friends are igbo dating igbo men! When we discuss and I tell them what I used to do, it sounded so awkward to them! And they used to warn me! But I was of the opinion that maybe igbo men do not see it as so important. Its not like they don't cook but their bfs never made it a habit! Meanwhile "me" chaiiiiiiii, I can't even say it!

I concur, same thing happened to me to a point that if I dont do chores, I will be interrogated as to why I didn't do those things. So I decided to stop doing them and called the whole thing off. Truth is that there's no limit to how bad people can treat you but you can always set a limit to how much nonsense you can take. Do what u can do and what u can't, seek wisdom on how to handle it.

There are health issues like diabetes that can cause infertility.
MUMPS have being known to cause infertility or sub-infertility amongst men.
If u experienced this disease as a child, u may look out for its lasting effect such as infertility. In most cases, it may result in absolute impotence.
Solutions are out there for those who seek them. Infertility can be a very frustrating issue.. Ladies, also know ur cycle, that would help.

Am yet to see another option apart from divorce and haven't gotten an answer to that.

Like someone mentioned seperation from the abusive man, I would like to know for how long? Are you not putting this womans life on hold? Barring her from finding a better man? Most of these abusers are stalkers and won't let go easily.How about the consequences of returning to the very abusive husband? cos truth be told, those men won't change.

Also what punishement are outlined for the abusive man to stop all forms of abusive if the woman is ever gonna get back to him. Because seperation without solution is nothing.

SegzyJoe: At loreta
Since Nigerian women don't like to divorce their husband why dont u start a campaign so that we can properly place u as devil incanate that you are. Do I blame u? Have u ever been married? Would d woman in question have found joy, if she is divorced like u?

Moral bankcrupt pple like u can start a shameless campaign telling pple to divorce their husband thereby goin contrary against d plan & purpose of God for mankind. Does that means
pple cannot die because they re divorced? Or why do
u think her failure to divorce was d reason she
died?

Have u ever consider d pain ur evil counsel will bring on other pple in the marriage like d children? Pls learn to shut up ur mouth on things u don't understand, pls.

Biko, what's your advice to women who are severally battered by their male partners? What options do they have? Your opinion is highly needed since divorce isn't an option.

thegeorgy: people can actually save lives by reporting to the appropriate authority.if u see a woman been abused by her husband you can actually make a report at the station.it wont kill you but help save someone!

After reporting to authorities in a place like Nigeria, u will not get justice because people u r reporting to are commiting the same crime.
Men's overall attitude to women have been brutal for ages. Count down from rape to domestic violence, its like women will continue to be slaves to men except they choose to save themselves.

Gini ka ona ako?@ topic ...I drive so well that my dad calls me "odogwu nwanyi" infact the man always step on his imaginary brake while I do my james bond moves...I therefore oppose the motion that men drive better than women! Am a living proof!

Kris d don.:
@ op, sorry pls i can't share mine cos if i do, the immediate commentor after me would probably find themselves on page 159. However, the summery is that i had sworn never to marry but changed my mind much later 2 avoid people accusing me of being a gay. As it is now, i dn't give a phuck about chicks cos they're all the same. Hustle 2 make it first and when SUCCESS comes, na dem go dey hustle persin. Guys mk una shine una eyes oh!

Lmao@people accusing him of being gay bc e no marry....lol..lol

naijathings:

please post your picture online and tell us your full name and where u r from so all the babes can stay away from you and your people because your mentality stinks.. spits.

I concur!

Hmmmm, people are going through stuff! It's well.

Hmmmmm, I have followed this thread and read every single post with relish.

Truth is that no health profession functions without the other, courtesy demands that you treat other health team colleagues with respect.
Nigeria is a Jungle where professionals go about trying to eat each other alive.

Those asking nurses to become doctors, if everyone became a doctor,how can we then function? I love what I do and I don't stop learning. If one piece of information could increase my level of knowledge and help me function better in my field, I go all the way to get it whether you are a doctor, nurse, pharmacist, nutritionist. What matters is that you have gained experience in your area of profession. The continuous bickering is very unnecessary as I have seen doctors who can't even insert an IV neither can they make diagnosis or even know what to assess. I have met ones who are very intelligent and enjoy what they do. There are bad and good ones.

If our professional bodies are doing bad, let's be the change we want to see. No matter how a patient/client offends you, patience is a strong virtue of a nurse. You can never do without that. What bothers me most is the work load of a Nigerian Nurse, it enormous and could affect proper care for clients.

What I was really expecting are those issues that affect care in a nursing setting. The technical, ethical, educational and economic issues affecting the field. How do we handle them and where do we go from here? Change can't come in one day but we can start somewhere. Enough of the bickering. We have some real issues, let's deal with them.

gsalvatore: I hate nurses cos they are wicked - in fact they can't help not being wicked,arrogant,suicidal and nutty sometimes. I mean these/some nurses were once nice babes till they got their white gown, that cardboard they wear as "Crown" and license to practice and they eventually turn into what they are not suppose to.
Go to FMC owerri and see were nurses bring arrogance to life, see how they talk to the patients relatives, if you go to them to inquire whats happening to you friend or whoever that is the patient there,you need to see the kind long face dem go wear.
I can remember in those days I was in the Uni, my mannest man got hit and was rushed to FMC owerri, the nurses see packaging na, anyi ana chikwa nu for that year( you do anyhow,you see anyhow).
Last year I met these nice kaduna gurl and she was in her(nursing) finals,I was like asking her "why are nurses arrogant and wicked and very soon when she gets her lisence she will join them" she said something like its part of the training, it has to do with empathy-whatever that means, if you pet the patients they will not like to get better quickly so they pretend to act as if they don't give 2shits. Well,I don't believe that mumbo jumbo cos I kno what arrogance and sheer stupidy looks like.

Funny thing is that my sister is graduating outta university as a Nurse this year...I told her earlier on that very soon she will turn to a Badass nurse and when she turns I will start giving her some space-we aint gonna be buddies again. She said she aint gonna change but we will see.
About nurses being promiscuous, that's a generalization but a little Truth dey there..I remember some years back I went to this Hospital in Aba (Ezuma hospital) for okigwe road make I see my buddie that was admitted there, O Boy! See nurses wey fine with their see through white outfit, nice perfumes,ceremonial curves, like say beauty na criteria for recruiting them. I later found out that my friend no wan get well again and I started visiting my friend regularly as a 'Loyal' friend wey I be. Anyi na aru ife nile(we multitask)

I disagree with you in the case of a Nurse giving you information about a relative or friend. That is breech of confidentiality. Legally, its completely wrong..It's not in the hands of a nurse to give information about a clients care or progress. This information can be obtained from the primary physician and it can only be given to the next of kin or guardian except in cases of emergency where the Doc makes such decisions for the client.
Somethings the public expects nurses to do is actually not in their scope of practice.

Prettychyna: @ rooneyboy,i am a registered nigerian nurse and am proud of that. Most people here are talking based on assumption or hearsay. Nurses may not be angels,but they are the next best thing. Nurses are in the business of caring,that's our bottom line!

I have been following your comments and how you have effectively defended our profession. I am proudly a Nigerian Registered Nurse/Midwife and also US Registered Nurse. There is definitely a difference between the quack and the Real.
Even though I have to agree that some trained RNs are mean but its just a smaller portion of them. And if Nigeria could channel their resources in providing an efficient healthcare system and proper resources for healthcare professionals, Things would be better. And yes I practiced in Nigeria and in a federal hospital for that matter but its disheartening when almost every procedure has to be improvised thereby frustrating every single care you give.
Retraining of healthcare professionals especially in ethics of their profession wouldn't be a bad idea. But the very great nurses are still very efficient and amazing but the health sector needs help.

Even though I want to defend Nigerian RNs which I am one of them, truth is that there are the bad ones. If you are a good nurse, you know yourself and its not hidden. This is an issue that should be addressed, we could do better. No one plans to get sick but if they do, the need all the care and love we can shower them while carrying out our duties effectively.

~vicky~:
honestly no 3 and move on

Move on as in continue with the relationship?

I really don't understand why yorubas HATE igbos so much. Every conversation here ends in hateful outbursts. Infact, looks like they wish all igbos should be wiped outta existence. Why this much Hate? Is there an unforgiving reason for this?
I love yorubas, people I have met are different compared to the kind of bitterness I see on NL.

JayKayMaybachz: Capital .......... Yes ........... She Was Far From Me And Whenever She Was Around ............ She Will Deny Me Of My Rights .......... So I Decided To Cheat ...........

Are you "married" to her that you boldly talk about Rights? Do the right thing and no one will deny you of your Rights! Right now, you are stealing it!!

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Sijo01: Its a point in the right direction!...... Hope they include the slicing off of the kpekus of a female rapists.

Female rapists? How does that work?

I think we should start by identifying those who have engaged in this act and the ones who are officially involved the act.
Everyone should speak for themselves! If you have ever rap.ed someone, kindly identify by typing a dot(.) Showing how many people you have molested. Until you identify a problem, you can never solve it. Am sure there are lots of them on NL. just be honest.

Jazzgreen: Wat if d woman forced d man into it, den starts screamin.AS A KINDA SET UP. U knw 9ja ladies. De wil take advantage of dis law to carry out all sorts of wickedness.PLS SAY NO TO DIS

Hmmm, looks like you have been in this kinda dilemma before, kindly explain.
I don't understand how you'll prefer jail time to castration.

Boomark:

Don't you read your bible? Is bulletin now more important than your bible.

God commanded that you not to make an image of anything whether in HEAVEN or on earth and bow to it. He knows why He gave that commandment but you don't. Why not obey it.

Except He instructs you to make a bronze snake like He told Moses.
Except He instructs you to make a the ark of covenant like He told Moses.
All these things are made the way He wants them to be. Do not neglect His commandments while waiting for His instructions. Those who follow these things this way are His obedient children.

Lol @ " bulletin more important than ur bible? Now this is getting interesting.

BERNIMOORE: @rich4God


ask a willing-suicide bomber's opinion about who he worships,he will definatelly tell you allah, and what reason does he have? he cites the jihad'surah chapter 9:5; which mandates them to 'slay' or 'kill' non-muslims who are generaly perceived as idolaters,it reads and i quote surah 9:5...slay the idolaters,besiege them,lay ambush for them....

Now from the suicide bombers Opinion,his actions as perceived by many is 'ignorance to them' because he is commissioned with a scripture backing! and that is why 'we' the onlookers do not follow what they say, but what they do.
The same applies to the catholics, they are taught to dissmiss any querry to their act or behavior to an image by sharply denying that theyare worshipping a God-forbidden image as clealy spelt out in the bible.....they start by riddiculing your objection by saying,'what are you talking about?'

catholics solid stance is, “No, we do not worship Mary!”(that is how they are trained to respond) However, the evidence is overwhelmingly against them. But before the evidence is presented, I’d like to cut at the root of this dispute.

Now lets reason from their own perspective and you will see that catholics are found wanting based on the available evidences ; lets go;

The apostle Peter, who is alleged to be the first pope,did he mention Mary in any of his biblical letters. Nor is there any record in any of the other letters, such as Acts of the Apostles, that Peter ever referred to Mary. Not only did he not mention her, directly or indirectly, but zero nothing is said by any apostle about the need to venerate or worship her. This fact speaks volumes against the Catholic’s view of Mary.

Why? Why did Peter fail to mention the “Virgin Mary”? Surely if all popes worshipped Mary and leaned on her for salvation, and they have, as the evidence will show, and if Peter was the first pope, why does he not praise and adore Mary in the same vein as other popes? The question demands an answer.

The Late Pope John Paul II Worshipped Mary & Relied On Her For Salvation

If the pope is the role model and instructor and guide for Catholics, and he is, and if they are striving to follow in his footsteps, and they are, they give the same level of reverence to Mary as their “Supreme Pontiff.” [size=14pt]It is a documented fact that the late Pope John Paul II relied more on Mary for salvation than on Jesus.[/size]

Pope John Paul made more than 40 pilgrimages to her shrines at Lourdes and Fatima. He wrote in his Apostolic Letter of Oct. 16, 2002, the following words:

[size=14pt]“I entrust this Apostolic Letter to the loving hands of the Virgin Mary, prostrating myself in spirit before her image in the splendid Shrine built for her by Blessed Bartolo Longo, the apostle of the Rosary.”
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Salvation In Mary & The Rosary!
Embroidered inside all of Pope John Paul’s robes was the phrase, [size=14pt]“Totus tuus sum Maria,” which means, “Mary, I am all yours.”[/size]

The Catholic Rosary concludes:
“HAIL, HOLY QUEEN, Mother of Mercy, our life, our sweetness and our hope! To thee do we cry, poor banished children of Eve; to thee do we send up our sighs, mourning and weeping in this valley of tears. Turn then, most gracious advocate, thine eyes of mercy toward us, and after this our exile, show unto us the blessed fruit of thy womb, Jesus. O clement, O loving, O sweet Virgin Mary!”

It is of interest when we ponder Roman Catholicism’s popular “15 Promises of Mary.” Among them we find:

“The soul which recommends itself to me [Mary] by the recitation of the Rosary, shall not perish...I shall deliver from purgatory those who have been devoted to the Rosary. Those who are faithful to recite the Rosary shall…at the moment of death…participate in the merits of the Saints in Paradise.”

It is obvious, then, that not only did the late pope worship Mary and place his eternal security in her, but it is equally obvious that “the faithful” follow in his footsteps. When Catholics turn from faith in Jesus Christ alone for salvation to trusting Mary and the Rosary, as did Pope John Paul II, they place their eternal salvation in jeopardy, [size=14pt]for Jesus Himself declared, "No one comes to the Father except through me" (John 14:6).
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If Jesus spoke the truth, and He did, there is zero security and salvation in Mary and the Rosary. In the pope’s “Prayer For The Marian Year,” he prayed:

[size=14pt]“Sustain us, O Virgin Mary, on our journey of faith and obtain for us the grace of eternal salvation.”
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There is ample evidence that Catholics in general worship Mary. It is a sad day in human history when any person, whether Protestant or Catholic, places his/her allegiance and salvation in anyone except the Son of God.

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ATMC: On first of november a fast was declared in my house by me...i encouraged everybody on d last day of oct to fast d next day being d first day of nov which was d penultimate month of d year so they all agreed. At about 5am d said day, i woke up and started taking tea, and my sis who was with me in d room, called my name and said what are you doing, i told her dt i's eating, she said are we not fasting again, i said i am but i got to eat cos i didn't eat on dt 31st of oct, she got up and joined me...we ate. And dt carried me through till 3pm. I THINK IT'S OK TO EAT BEFORE 6AM, IF U ARE FASTING 6 TO 6. henceforth dt's my way

Lmaooooooo! Ur ojoro too much!

ATMC: There was a time i's involved in a 3-day dry fast...d first day came and passed, on d night of d second day, around past midnight, i started calling my sister who was by me, with a faint voice, fortunately, she woke unlike her...i told her to get me food, she adviced dt i take orange, which i did, she then went on to warm d food but i stopped her so she brought d food as it is, thawed from d freezer...i ate voraciously...and few seconds afterwards i threw up everything...i had no physical strength, i had to draw strength from within me...it was an experience dt i wouldn't want to relive...since that experience my fast has never exceeded 3pm

ROTFL!!