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k2039: It's not six years yet nah.

k2039: [color=#660033]Another 6 years and I will have a practical answer to your question.[/color]

vikel2104: Yes. I get it. Nursery and primary schools are usually combined. They are usually not separate. What we usually have are things like ABC Nursery and Primary School. I get it.

vikel2104: Greatgod2012, I actually meant nursery school that is before primary 1. I think you misunderstood it. I was suprised when you said you've seen 15. You might want to edit your initial post to clear that up. I'll try to make it clear in my original post so that people don't get confused again

Gaggi: No ma, u don't understand. U just feel the need to join the band wagon. U felt it wasn't a big deal now ur saying something else.
At first they have 15 males, now the males are not involved with nursery school kids yet the topic clearly talks about kids in nursery school.
People should learn to have their own opinion even if it differs from others.
What is wrong with cleaning up kids if the guy is up to it? We talk about gender discrimination being wrong yet we do the same thing. Even if u have male relatives or friends who are perverts, pls note that not every man is like that.

hydeka: On the issue of molestation, it is not only men that are guilty. Women too are capable of that but men seem to have scored more points in that regard from what we see and hear around us.

BananaBender: So in the wisdom of greatgod2012, schools should not allow male toddler-care-givers because of 'child molestation'

I never knew women weren't capable of 'child molestation'. What if the male care-giver is gay, is he allowed to care for your female child?

EfemenaXY: @ , longest time dear. How are you, Oga, the little soldiers and their cousins? Kudos to you babes. You are indeed a solid rock in your family

Re: kids and teenagers, I beg to differ, especially for the older ones.

The problem with most Nigerian parents is that they're too controlling and not trusting -especially with financial matters and relationships with the opposite sex.

There comes a point in time where we have to "let go". Rather than do so overnight (which can be overwhelming), it's best to start gradually. Start the pace by talking to your child about money from a young age. As they get older and wiser, take your talks & lessons about money one step higher. Introduce them to handling money.

Start with smaller tasks like asking them to purchase things from your local shop so they understand the concept of handling money, as per buying, calculating change, etc. Start off by being there with them. Then as they get older, let them do it themselves. Gradually 'up' the requests as they get more confident in their abilities.

Talk to them about the importance of prioritizing and budgeting. Then put this in practice by giving them real-life scenario problems where they have to make choices with limited funds. A practical example is asking your child something like this: I'm a student at Uni, far away from home. After paying off my essential bills, I'm left with just £10 for feeding. Do I go into my local Chicken & Chips shop to purchase a single meal costing £5.00? Or do I go to the nearby market to purchase ingredients for rice & stew (including a box of drumsticks) totalling £7.00 - which would last me for a whole week?

***Mothers, teach your sons how to cook!***

Also trusting your teenager to make the right decision is something I find many Nigerian parents lack. Rather than shout, yell, hail fire and brimstone at them for overspending or wanting to indulge in the latest fads in town, give them some money to purchase what they need, as opposed to what they want, with the understanding that they'll have to live with their choice.

Encourage your teenager to draft a monthly budget of their essentials. Trust me, when they see their budgeted list in black-and-white on paper / screen, that money given to them suddenly doesn't seem so much and will most certainly curb any spending spree they might have been contemplating.

Make sure they have their own bank accounts to manage their funds, but most importantly, instill the concept of "actions and consequences". It's okay to make mistakes as we learn from them, but what better way for your kids to make them, if not from the safety net at home?

It's best to always remember that teenagers are "mini adults" and should be treated accordingly with guidance, respect, and love.

EfemenaXY: , I'm not bothered about them having male teachers at higher levels (preferably secondary and above) . But at nursery level?

No.

What I would do? Seriously reconsider if that is the best place / school for my daughter to be at that point in time. This is where the onus is on prospective parents to carry out thorough background checks comes into play before handing over your precious little one to strangers. Would you believe me if I told you that I not only checked the OFSTED report going back for the past five years, for over twenty nursery schools, for my daughter? I also went there in person with her and her brothers & dad to get a proper "feel" of the place, staff, etc.

Think about it. Most nursery schools take kids from 3 months old. Would you in all honesty feel comfortable for a strange man to wipe/clean your baby's / daughter's bum? And change her soiled nappy?

Seriously.

rolled: Do theses male teachers handle kids who are not potty trained

EfemenaXY: At that (nursery) level, I'd rather not see even one male teacher there.

EfemenaXY: @op: you've said a lot, without really saying anything.

Tell me though, will this simplistic view of yours work with teenagers? If not, why not?

vikel2104: It is very rare to see a male teaching preschool or nursery kids. I have not seen one. I personally don't have the 'grace' to handle kids in that capacity.

To the guys, would you take up a job as a nursery school teacher?

And parents, what's your view on having a male nursery school teacher?

Share your opinion.

Yomieluv: Op,nice thread you got there.

Appreciation even make people do more,mum taught me to show appreciation to God,and people no matter how small things they did for me.

Every meal,I must tell my fiancee "thank you". She likes it a lot.

kreamidiva: My daughter was taught one song in nursery 1:

There are five magic words
There are five ,magic words
There are five magic words that i know...
"Please", "excuse me", "sorry", "thank you"
And the last one... "pardon me".

If she grows up with that song in mind,she would surely be good mannered.

greatgod2012: Simple and beautiful attitude of saying "thank you", "please" and "i'm sorry" should be inculcated into our kids' mindset from the craddle age, so that it becomes part of them.

damiso: Parents to a larger extent laying the right foundations from an early age..

I know the school too will eventually but in the UK I am not too comfortable with some elements like a school nurse being able to give my 13 year old daughter contraceptive pills on prescription without parental consent

lizfab: My four years old son picked up a habit. When you give him something, he'll say its 'small kenkene'. He went to spend the holidays at my aunt's and I think he learnt it there. When he says it, I just take back whatever it is I have given him. He's beginning to get out of it but still says it sometimes unconsciously but quickly says 'I'm sorry, thank you' when I give him 'the look'.

Atawewe27: Thanks .
This is an educative thread.
It deserves Fp, let those kids of NL learn how to be grateful.

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kreamidiva: :DI didn't know there were kids on NL

letsdothis: Did you enjoy it last night? You were wet throughout hmmm.

Atawewe27: Thanks .
This is an educative thread.
It deserves Fp, let those kids of NL learn how to be grateful.

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egopersonified: Thank you op, my last born is 2 and one of his first words was 'ta-tu'. Whenever you give him anything, even ordinary water to drink, he goes 'ta-tu'. It melted my heart so much that I would always look for opportunties to give him something. And there's this nanny in his daycare that when you give her just N1,000, she will thank you, when she gets home, she will call you to thank you again and for the next three days its thank you galore and I keep feeling embarassed, I always feel the thank you is more than the gift so I am always giving even when I dont have enough for myself. I also learnt on nl to say thank you, with a smile, to my husband after eating, you need to see the way his eyes light up sometimes with satisfaction.

kreamidiva: It's very important. I teach my kids from their tender age to say thank u. It's important to me. Basically because its a sign of disrespect and shows the person has no home training.

I teach my 1yr and 8 months son. I ask him "what do you say when you finish eating?" And he replies promptly "thantiu". Some times, even before i ask him if he has said thank u, he has said it.

Ingratitude is not my nature therefore anyone around me must learn to be grateful.

edwife: Great post greatgod2012 always a pleasure reading your post.

May God grant us the grace to train our children according to his will.