goldenboyofpsy:
How about your maternal family?

You will need a good lawyer possibly those legal aid or human rights lawyers who offer pro bono work to help you see the paperwork..

Secondly, how much of the woman do you know? Many things have gone wrong in our value system and opportunist is what we have mostly around us.. Try not to fall victim the second time.

Pray to deliver yourself from the curse your mum brought on you through her lifestyle so your daughter can have an edge in life so the circles don't continue...

Your baby father is playing with fire... He impregnated you as a minor which is punishable under the law of the land...

swears.. and baba even block her too.. chai, trouble plenty for this world oo

WandaMaximoff:
See ehn, if you want that marriage to see the light of day, don't bring your marital issues to Nairaland. Your marriage will be over before your thread gets to page 2.

You are living with a full grown adult for the first time, you both have weird habits that will irritate each other. Trust me, I'm sure there are habits she is also tolerating from you.

Marriage is give and take. I'd suggest you talk to her when the mood is lighter, pillow talk in the bedroom is a perfect time. Tell her how her hygiene makes you feel and tell her it would make you really happy if she changes.

Speaking up just at the time you noticed another of the unhygienic habit won't help you as you will be addressing it with anger.

If you can't settle a small matter like this amongst yourselves, there are worse storms in marriage o.

You just spoke my mind.Come and take a bottle of stout

dayoige:
Real quick!
I have a uncle in the UK who is a citizen and he assured me that if I can change my surname to his, he will fly me over to the UK.

I'm a 300L student studying economics here in Nigeria, and my name is .... ( This is the name I have in all my documents) and the surname my uncle want me to change to is 'Richard' so after changing my name it will look like this "Dayo Richard".

I want to apply for a change of name (to address the surname)

After doing the change of name I want to also apply for my National Identification Registration with (NIMC) which definitely I will have to do a new Birth Certificate with my new name.

Now my problem is this :
Will the change of surname affect my travelling documents if I want to apply for a visa, since the surname I have on my academic documents is different from my new surname?

What do you think I can do to balance everything?

Thanks

Why are you desperate to go? You are in 300lvl guy, just remaining a year to be through,you can go there for your Masters.. and don't change your surname for any reason, when it's even illegal, you would regret it.

Anigreat:
I'm sorry to bother you all this early morning with this my story.

Apologies for any blunders spotted, and sorry for the lengthy post.

I have a niece who unfortunately the mother died when she was barely a month old, and her mother was my only sibling as my mother gave birth to two of us, remaining only me now. Her death was really painful to us, but i thank God for consoling us especially my mother.

During her pregnancy, she never made mentioned of the person responsible for her pregnancy inspite of my mother's threat. When the inevitable happened we had no other option than to adopt the child. We were praying earnestly that the child survive, glory to God she did survive though it wasn't easy, as at now she's 14years old and currently in SSS1.

Last week my mum called me that my niece says she's coming to Uyo were i am staying to stay with me since there's no school for now, which i obliged to it immediately. Prior before this call, my girlfriend whom i intended to marry was staying with me. I informed her immediately that my niece is coming to stay with us for a short period of time, immediately i told her this, her countenance change through out that day. I keep on asking her what the matter was but she keep on saying nothing.

Monday last weekmy niece arrived my place.

My dears ever since my niece set her foot in my house, this girlfriend of mine whom i intended to marry turned to something else. She stop cooking, washing and sweeping, all she does is to ordered my niece around as her house help. I was so hurt seeing this that i confronted her thinking that she will change, but she went from bad to worst.

Yesterday morning i overheard her telling my niece to wash the toilet and mop the floor before thinking of eating. My niece replied that she's too tired that she won't be able to do it(I was actually happy inside when i hear this)

What follows next was a sounding knocked she gave to my niece and the poor girl screamed and started crying.

Truth be said, i was so furious that came out of the room. I didn't asked her anything i just told her your cup is full today. I dealt with her seriously. The beating i gave to her was out of this world, that she was bleeding, though later in the day i took her to a nearby clinic for treatment.

I have learnt alot this few days. Men should be careful of the type of women they intend to settle down with.

As some of them will manipulate you that you start hating your family members or stop them from coming to your house for no reasons if you're not strong.

I want her to get well after that i will put an end to the relationship, all marriage plan cancel, and no going back and no regret.

Imagine if I've gone ahead to marry her. Is this how she will be maltreating my niece? obviously i will forever leave in regrets.

If you ask me if i feel sorry for beating her, truth is, there's no atom of regret in me, and i will never feel sorry for her. If she has the mind to maltreat a poor girl whose mother is late, she's capable of anything.

Insults are welcome.

They have not locked your ass up bfor.. keep on beating ladies oo, till you jam the wrong person wey go sue you for assault and you pay heavily for it, and loose in both ways.. she fvcked up, but you would have just ordered her out of your house than that rubbish you just did, after you beat am na still your money you use treat am, where d sense dey?

YourCoffin:
Why did you beat her instead of sending her away? What did you achieve by beating her?

Azin, little things, some beta males will result to beating.. though the lady was wrong, there are still matured ways of handling issues, after beating her na still your money you use treat am, where is the wisdom?.. the funniest thing is that mumu gal will still stay in that house and call it love.

Hmmn ,thank God there was camera everywhere, she wants to start playing the victim card, next time she go get sense.

What a nice move


Dm me for your logos, flyer design and video adverts.

Unnecessary research, the should find cure to Corona than wasting their time on this type of unimportant research.

Different doctors and their advise , OP wch advise will you choose like this, I hope you don't make a wrong choice.

This shit always spoil my mood, why are some women like this? Just see her face, when the Bible says "There is no peace for the wicked" it is just written all over her.

Nice move, Nigerian doctors should emulate him oo

Mehn, will call the guy and let him know what has happened oo, that baby have land , if he is not happy about the issue and not interested in both me and the child, omo na to train the child by myself.but abortion is a no no for me, bcs it's a sin.

illicit:
It's not even fine

lol, waste of money, can he even breathe with that thing?

emaopel:
Do away from the 2 of them now and give for self for prayers... God will direct you all even give you new one.

Best of luck...

This is also a good advice.

God speaks through dream, if you have had this dream up to three times then God is trying to tell you something. open your eyes and watch out for the signs. Please remove emotions from the matter, marriage is a long time stuff, so be wise in making your decision..

This country that don't value their doctors, I pray they recover.

So these has become an issue mtchww, relationship and it's wahala sha

They should not try me oo ,now it's my turn the are considering this , it's not even funny...

Eileene:
If only they knew that being desperate makes them even more undesirable.

u can't force marriage on anyone

what is the use of pinning marriage on a man just because ur clock is ticking then after d wedding u two start living lyk strangers.No happiness nothing.

in this life we are going to live only once

societal pressure has a lot to do with this.

But one should not live unhappily just becos u want to please society that will still turn around and castigate u wen things go wrong.
life is too short jare

My dear not all girls know that oo, Nice comment.

Genesils:


In fact, this post is for me... I need to stop trying to know everything and start learning by working on project... I've been stucked on Python for too long
Thank you

Same here, mine is JavaScript...

TUANKU:

If you find python too hard then am afraid programming is not for you.
I learnt C++ first, then Java during my school days.
Coming to python it was obviously easier to get a hang than most languages.

what of JavaScript, because I am having hard time with it, at some point I get discouraged, how did you learn it?

Hmmn, is that love? Or sheer foolishness

In episode 20 of what does women want?? Women Sha our needs are endless...

rockstarB:
This is true, but we are hypocrite!
How many men will genuinely date a lady without asking for sex?
Men feels entitled to a woman's body, especially if you happen to be their girlfriend. It wont be hard hearing words like "you're punishing me" "you dont love me" how am I punishing you oga?
Worse off for a lady that has been involved with a guy before, men feel ladies like this do not have a right over their bodies anymore. It doesnt matter to them whether she wants to really get it right this time.

People talk about sexual compatibility, "what if we are not compatible", how many ladies or men will you sleep with before you find the sexually compatible one? What if he is sexually compatible but stingy? Emotionally manipulative, a beater and so on. Will you settle for someone like that has long as "sexually compatible"
Will you even be in your right mind to have sex with a sexually compatible patner that treats you like trash.

Sometimes we need to do a self evaluation, think about all the guys and ladies you have had sex with. Especially men, think about the ladies you intentionally lured to bed in the name of marriage, girls you broke their heart by getting them to be yours through sex; what has it profited you? Okay maybe a little boost of self esteem, but at the detriment of someone's emotional wellbeing. You can do better guys.

I am of the opinion that men and women that are genuinely looking out for partners to get married to do not put sex first, because they are aware that sex doesnt keep a marriage. It takes more than that. With all the premarital sex and sexual compatibility going on, see the rate of divorce all over the world.

Lastly, peoples view about marriage are different, there are men and women that do no want to get married, should they deny themselves sex because of this?
Abstinence is for our own good as long as both patner comes out clean, no lies.

God will bless you , Sis.. you just spoke my mind

Ishilove:

Continue. When you two are married you will keep pleading and pleading even when you're not at fault. Just don't come here later to disturb us with "I created this account for privacy. Nairalanders I need your help on my wife's mood swings"

swears, they have now turned nairaland to marriage counseling forum. OP if you are not cool with her mood swings and you can't control it.. it's better you opt out now, because you will keep pacifying and begging her in marriage.

Ekwutox:



So the reason why you helped that lady was because you wanted to have sex with her? You even want to put hand in her hole?

You sound like an irresponsible man. Poor girl. Ladies pls be careful

Very disgusting write up.

swears , I didn't gain anything

Mcslize:


Some ladies don't know when to snub. Most do that as a mind game playing. They do that to get attention from guys and those pusssy simp type of guys will be flooding them with messages.

If a lady snub me, I waste no time; courtesy demands that I free such a lady. Yes, I will free her completely because ain't got that time to lick any girl's ass.

A lady is not replying your messages - a guy who is wise will ignore her as well. When she is not getting that attention she wants by snubbing a guy, thinking the guy will keep on messaging her but the opposite is the case, she will by herswlf starts to reach out to the said guy.

Most times, it is immaturity that makes girls to snub guys. The clamour for attention from the opposite sex. That time a girl is using to snub a guy, if she is the wise type, she will use it to engage a guy in a meaningful discussions.

Having such a girl contact on my phone will even be a waste of time. I will delete her number once. Only fake girls who always like playing mind games snub for no reason.

Same goes for guys too sir, I love your write up

Hmmn, guys Sha.. you snub ladies for no just reason and you act like its cool, you don't imagine putting yourselves in their shoes, will you like to be snubbed as a human being, that shit pains tho.

God will help you Sir, anyway that can be your phobia, so no need to panic...

God-fearing
Caring
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