₦airaland Forum

Theblessed:
Absolutely, Kobo! Enough is enough of this bull-sh-t in this country and[b] we suppose to have men here? Do we and where are they? Hidden away, eh?

Anyway, sis I love your sig.![/b]

That was daft! I'm tired of reading painstakingly through sexist tripes like that.
Being boisterous behind a computer screen from the confines of your home or office, while seated on your calabash yansh. What's stopping you as a woman from vacating your seat? You too can do something about it unless you mean to tell me that women are inferior to men.

I do know one thing though - every rejection is a harbinger of a more attractive option to come.

It's not.  Human sexuality is not ungodly.
Songs of Solomon is a poetic illustration of man's God-given sexual desire.

    this is disgusting.  you never quit!
ever so fond of bashing men 

Moonstone:
See this pervert . How won't you say we're crass? Your morality is messed up.  

this is a preposterous lie

This is how it
happens. . . . we say 'NO' in a nice manner - they come back,
we say it a lil' harsher - they come back
we tell them point blank - they come back
we insult them - then it clicks and then they come to NL to complain.
C'est fini.

You should also understand that we mean what we say.

But what you say is often precarious.  Your emotions dictate the responses you tender.

And they say women would make better leaders than men  
Leaders who vacillate like pendulums cannot be relied upon in dire situations.

No, just thinking you're in close proximity.

Moonstone:
What da heck?
Crass is too harsh and we are not crass.
The sooner guys stop imagining our answers, the better for them.
We are not the most unorthodox. . . Guys have beat us in that category.
I know but if you're gonna toast a girl - you might as well do it right.

Then how do you explain their proclivity to prolong matters, when a resounding no would suffice?
No today, yes tomorrow, tantalizers the day after.
Does it stem from the need for attention?
They should understand that we're not toys.

ibkaye:
Gosh, you guys are mean.

Except my Ibukun. I love her so much

You live in San Leandro

SEFAGO:
^ Infact look at the unattractive girls Nigerian men have to put up with. Just check that video out .

CHEIIIIIIIIIIII eye-cancers

Moonstone:
Nigerian girls are not unrefined.

You're right, unrefined is putting it mildly.  Crass is a more adequate depiction.

A lot of guys don't understand a simple word called 'NO'.
No does not mean Yes.
When a girl says NO - back down and approach in a more subtle manner.

No means yes, yes means no.  The sooner girls stop interchanging these words the easier it will get for them.
Girls are the most unorthodox gender on the planet earth.  They find it easier to mince words than to be upfront.

I've seen guys approach a girl and then end up speaking horrible english to them. . . that's just wrong.

That's a barbarian's excuse to refrain from courteousness.   Naija babes are not the most eloquent or fluent english speakers on the planet, so don't delude yourself.

Although I've never been one to negatively generalize Naija babes, if I was asked to man the microphone I would speak with candor and call them unrefined.  It's a truth they deserve to know.

imhotep:
Very very good. Now you are hitting upon an issue at the heart of all spiritual journeying . . ."We can see through it in several ways" . . . I can go on posting from here. . . but I will have to let you discover things yourself.

"Those who have ears to hear, let them hear"

I like your style jare. You have a very intriguing style of posting.

Moonstone:
Jeez! At this rate, i might actually feed your carcass to vultures. The other slang is totally out of it and bro is not accepted either. Better search that peanut-sized brain of yours for another slang that would be appropriate.

How do you know I'm a man? Start listing evidence!

I LoL in spanish - jajajajaja.
Your secrets are safe with me, don't worry.

Faakay, ping Ibukun o. She has rejected all attempts at entry.

Moonstone:

Dude, for that alone, you better choose your method of leaving this earth - cremation or gun?

Stop faking! You can have your pick between bro and that other slang that rhymes with it. I have every reason to believe you would prefer the former.

Please correct the gender you reported on your profile.  We both know you're a man.

Moonstone:
It's the easiest thing in the world. I still don't understand why people act as if they cannot 'hold body'. It's a matter of[b] self discipline and self control.[/b]

If you want to do it, you do it. If you're too weak to do it - you find excuses not to do it. SIMPLE.

I'm in complete agreement with you bro.

imhotep:
@H202
I suggest you re-read the last two sentences of my post, the ones that end with the red colored text, over and over again. . .

@imhotep

My statement still stands as is.  Shifting focus to the last two declarative sentences of your post . . to me, I find the statement "see through it" to be rather obscure.  We can see through it in several ways - renunciation being one of those ways.  If you disagree, I would like you to elaborate on those sentences and further enlighten me by providing your perspective on the reflection you posted.

lalaboi:
Guyz like that are very very rare, . .Believe me!. . .No one wants to marry a lazy chick!. . .It'll prolly take her years to find a guy like that. . .hence the 40yr old before you marry comment!. . .

It goes both ways too. . .Looking at some Female comments on NL is sickening too!. . .Some of them just say whateva they like without even thinking. . .buncha immature kids in a grown body!. . . (excluding you offcourse )

They are no longer interested in being wives. They want to be your colleague in marriage!

chiogo:
^ I never said I won't wash.

I just don't like how many Nairaland dudes are always quick to say stuff like, "you'll remain single at 40", etc when a female is perceived as deviating from the supposed norm. Not everybody even wants to get married and not everyone will. But y'all make it seem like marriage is the ultimate. For some people, it's not.

Like I said in my first post, it's whatever works for the couple. There's no right or wrong as everybody is not the same. So, no need telling someone they won't find a husband, etc. There'll always be a guy who will tolerate such women who hold those views you're castigating.

ramblings of a future lazy wife. TUFIAAAAAAAAAKWA!!!

imhotep:
This short reflection may be useful to those who want to practice RENUNCIATION -:

Anytime you're practicing renunciation, you're deluded. You're deluded. What are you renouncing? Anytime you renounce something, you are tied forever to the thing you renounce. There's a guru in India who says, "Every time a love-peddler comes to me, she's talking about nothing but God. She says I'm sick of this life that I'm living. I want God. But every time a priest comes to me he's talking about nothing but sex". Very well, when you renounce something, you're stuck to it forever. When you fight something, you're tied to it forever. As long as you're fighting it, you are giving it power. You give it as much power as you are using to fight it.


The only way to get out of this is to see through it. Don't renounce it, SEE THROUGH IT. Understand its true value and you won't need to renounce it; it will just drop from your hands.

Again, what about those whose desires are negative and are addicted to living destructive lifestyles? It would be preferable to starve that desire to death before it leads to their demise.

One of the characteristics that distinguishes us from wild animals is our self-control. If practicing renunciation makes one deluded, then failure to utilize the self-control we have as human beings also makes us deluded. Restraint is not utterly useless.

oya je ka collabo - kan lobo

Deep Sight:
With reference to the OP -

I positively challenge any person to assert that sex is unnatural.

If sex is natural, which it evidently is, then abstention from sex is patently and most certainly UNNATURAL.

I disagree. An absolute comment like that fails to account for gray areas. You have completely dismissed and ignored the disparate levels of sex-drives present in humans, which perhaps makes it effortless for some to abstain from sex.  There should be scientific proof floating around somewhere that sexual abstinence isn't so unnatural for those who are asexual, since they are (for the most part) devoid of sexual desire.

Even if I concede to your assertion that sexual abstinence is unnatural, then you must also surrender that neither is the use of sex purely and solely for leisure when an ersatz mechanism is introduced.  A large majority of individuals engaging in pre-marital and post-marital intercourse are evidently unready to accept the subsequent natural consequences that result from having raw, natural sex.  In short, the use of condoms and other contraceptives to prevent pregnancy and the spread of STDs are in a similar vein as "unnatural" as sexual abstinence as used in your context.

My 2

Faakay nothing do you.
You a sharp nigga.
Do me I do you the gods won't vex

that's for metrosexual n qweer niggaz or som'n

crackers.

lol he's swole. bangin' in the hood has ossified him.

I'm keeping it wet.

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bawomolo:
you guys are just the rockets without kobe. a collection of decent players.

Yup, he's the thread that holds our fabric together. But that's understandable since the franchise is built around him.

This game is evidence that our perimeter shooting is lacking.
ARTESTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTT missing point blank shots