homerac7:


Oga, why the aggression naa? Pls show me where I insulted you in my response and I will apologise.

Pls show me.

Nuclear waste for every nuclear plant in the world is under direct supervision of IAEA. So calm down and tame your ignorance. I'm sure you don't know that oil companies here in Nigeria have been using nuclear materials for their operation since forever, yet I'm yet to hear of any disaster so far.

apart from the bolded, the tone of your post is aggressive & also insulting

it's more of "listen, let me lecture you"

funnily,yours is almost like the man who is unaware that his son is in jail abroad but boosting that his son is a honest & uptight man, meanwhile his audience is aware of the truth

You are the man

Your son is Nigeria

homerac7:


Lastly, a major error in your view is that nuclear plants are still unsafe like what you have in the cold war era. That's very incorrect, as matter of fact more people have died from kitchen smoke and trip hazards than nuclear accidents since Chernobyl. Those plants come with several fail-safes that make it very remotely unlikely to fail during normal operation.

I am not of the opinion that nuclear plants are unsafe, I don't need lectures on fail-safe's. I'm an automation control specialist

no matter how unlikely the event of a meltdown is, should it happen, nigeria is not ready to manage it

remember the BP oil spill, it made news headline, such events don't occur all the time at least on that magnitude but it did

So when it happens in Nigeria regardless of how long it takes, the damage is my concern!!

learn to pass points across without insulting folks, no one knows it all

We are all here to learn

homerac7:


What happens with T in the BOOT is not my decision. It is a public project which is normally influenced by lot of unmeasurable factors.

you aren't getting the point, Nigeria has no maintenance culture, you brought up the BOOT in defense to the post you quoted to prove that it's out of Nigeria's hand i.e that Russia will build & operate & transfer

But the question is after it is transferred, can Nigeria maintain the facility?

Your refinery is not on same risk level with a nuclear plant, so what influences decision with one night not be same with other. I expect you to remind me again if Nigeria fell to Ebola virus when it got into the country.

if the refinery couldn't be maintained after the transfer, what makes the nuclear plant any differ?

You couldn't handle that which was less complex, how then will you be able to handle that which is complex

The preventive & maintenance policy for refinery could not be followed, how will that of a nuclear plant be any different

Nuclear waste for every nuclear plant in the world is under direct supervision of IAEA. So calm down and tame your ignorance. I'm sure you don't know that oil companies here in Nigeria have been using nuclear materials for their operation since forever, yet I'm yet to hear of any disaster so far

@the bolded, the reason you aren't hearing is becos of corruption & coverup

So trust me, when there is an abuse in management process of the nuclear waste, same thing will happen you won't hear, you will only get to hear if its a major one

I work in the Niger delta region, there are loads of spills in varying levels on a weekly basis, but do you get to hear them? The answer is NO

Am speaking based on facts, what I see with my eyes.

speaking of supervision, radioactive materials (source) for xray were brought to our site & kept in our office meanwhile there is a bunker meant for such. Management took that decision & kept mum about it

People were passing to & for without knowing there radioactive material was there!!

Note that what you call a technical is sometimes a PhD holder in quantum physics or engineering. It is simply the role he/she plays in the setup that matters. Plants runs with complement of several professional skills including accountants, tradesmen, technicians, scientists administrators and lot more.

@the bold, yet you corrected the fellow by saying scientist don't run plants but technicians but here again you listed scientists as one of those that run plants. What an irony!!!

We are building more gas plants, but we can't lay enough gas gathering facilities as required for constraint of fund and time Also is the risk factor of sabotage of these facilities. But nuclear plant does away with need for such expensive and extensive feed stock facilities.

@the bolded, pls these have never been a factor, it has always been becos of corruption

There is a federal government project currently going on in the Niger delta region, they have spent 5yrs now with nothing to show for it, billions have been sunk in & they are nowhere near mechanical completion, just because certain individuals are getting a cut


We can argue on & on, the point is not until a good maintenance culture & a robust emergency rescue plan is put in place. Nigeria shouldn't go nuclear

bushdoc9919:


Nuclear power plants do not just ''blow up'' like that.

And if you are thinking of Chernobyl....that was human error

Pls what do you mean human error?

Is Nigeria immune a from such?

Look at the last flood catastrophe, how did we handle it?

The various bombing that has taken place, how was it handled? See corpses being carried in wheelbarrow & ambulance being used to carry more than one patient

nuclear plant is good, the question is can we maintain it, in the event of an emergency can we handle it? We both know that the answer is NO

Even if we want the Russians to build & operate it forever, you & I know that when there is an emergency, our corrupt leaders will take a bribe & look the other way

What was the outcome of the botched immigration recruitment?

homerac7:
Aaaargh! Too much ignorance here !

Read again, it is a BOOT arrangement, meaning it will be built , owned, operated by the Russians before being transferred to Nigeria after a stipulated period.

Mr knowledge!! what happens if the "stipulated period" elapses, can Nigeria still maintain it?

Before you answer, remember our refineries were BOOT too

Scientists don't maintain plants, technicians[b][/b] do.

Mr knowledge, you would have replaced the scientist with technicians besides there is no way a nuclear power station will run without a scientist in its employs

Why spend that much to build something that carries much risk, it's not as though its establishment is a complete solution to our power problems

We haven't been able to maintain our roads, our gas plants, our power plants, our refineries, even traffic light or street light yet we want to go nuclear

with our penchant for cutting corners, how do you think the nuclear waster will be disposed?

we have abundant gas reserve, why not focus on Gas plant construction/power station

Can't more hydro stations be built

Jack188:
Look for a lawyer on http://linkagemind.com/en/ website. They will definitely help you. I've been using their services for a long time for now, and they never gave up on me

Thanks, I just checked them now, it seems they aren't based in Nigeria, can they render services here

prettythicksme:
It is damm wrong!!I and my guy share d same password in everything social networks,phone,atm pin,everything.

By guy I hope you mean husband but if boyfriend, I will like you to have a rethink about the social network part & ATM.

Couples who divorced were once the loveliest couples & never imagined they will part ways someday.

The social network password ought to be private, if things should go south between you & your partner, that can become a tool of destruction against you.

Remember when the human heart is broken or grieved, it can damn all consequences just to get revenge

That I refuse to share my towel with you or tooth brush doesnt mean I don't love you! Hygiene standard dictates I have mine while you have yours

it's just an advice & I hope you consider it

xavier0327:
I work in AIT abuja and salaries have not been paid for 11months...port Harcourt staff up to 8months unpaid salaries!!! Seriously looking for another job! God will help us.

Pls when you say 11months do u mean allowances or your main monthly take home?

how have you been footing your bills? 11 whooping months, that's 1year

wickedness is an understatement in this scenerio

I empathize with you

Still awaiting inputs

Still awaiting inputs

Still waiting for inputs

pls house can anyone recommend a good labour lawyer? location lagos preferably Benin city or asaba

Thanks

pls house can anyone recommend a good labour lawyer? location lagos preferably Benin city or asaba

Thanks

pls house can anyone recommend a good labour lawyer? location lagos preferably Benin city or asaba

Thanks

Wow!! Gods creativity & ingenuity at work

Meanwhile in other threads there is a war or words & ideology!!

That a women who is capable of terminating such process or has terminated such process regardless of the number of times shouldn't tell the intending spouse!! isn't that pure wickedness


It's not enough evil for them that the woman has committed abortion or abortions, that she has cut short God's creation before its time or that she has even committed murder, they drive it further to say its a past event & REPENT & move on & don't tell your "intending better half"

CC:babyosisi
cococandy
Dinachi ,timbuktou
keppyy,jahblessme,bukatyne,apextitan,pickabeau1,njokusboy,

babyosisi:
This is for all you males that insist that you need to check out and make sure your wives can conceive
Facts are sacred
Dinachi ,timbuktou,harveyspec cococandy,keppyy,jahblessme,bukatyne,apextitan,njokusboy,kilode100,4teelaw

if my wife to be is hypertensive, I need to see her readings, I need to see that she has been taking care of herself well, I need to see she is abstaining from what she was asked to abstain from

If she isn't doing any of this & my efforts to make her take her health serious, then I will bail

Cos in my thinking, is she continues this way in marriage, it will be my time & money in & out of the hospital

A lady that has had an abortion is more likely to have a damaged done to system than the one who hasn't, hence my request for the test

let me digress a little, if you are someone who has spiritual problems, whatever it might be, that's not enough to deter me

I will only run if

a. You aren't aware you have one & my efforts to make you see you have one is abortive
b. you are aware but you aren't doing nothing about it or living a carefree spiritual life

BUT if see the opposite to a&b, then I will gladly join you cos I know that it will become 2 against the problem

Imagine getting married to someone who is being oppressed by the devil, she doesn't care or still living in sin

It means in that union I will be the one doing all the praying & fighting in a fight that I inherited cos I got married

also imagine hiding it from me, only to get married & be informed that there is a fight o

Hope you are getting my point

babyosisi:
This is for all you males that insist that you need to i check out and make sure your wives can conceive
Facts are sacred
Dinachi ,timbuktou,harveyspec cococandy,keppyy,jahblessme,bukatyne,apextitan,njokusboy,kilode100,4teelaw

Madam you didn't get me at all!!

I won't subject my wife to be to fertility test just like that, I will only ask for one if I know she has had an abortion.

if my wife to be has been raped, I will want to know if she has gotten over it, if she has forgiven herself & raper. If not, then counseling session cos I don't want to be her victim

imagine getting married to a lady that hates men as a result of the rape incident, a lady who has probably vowed to deal with men, you expect me to marry such a lady?

I will do my best that she goes for counseling & if she isn't open to that, then good bye to her

The spirit being all this is "I love & i'm willing to go all through the way with you but you have to prove or show that you are ready for change, you have to show me that you are serious fighting that stuff(whatever it is)

It is on this premise that I will gladly join you in the fight.

the point is this, we are going to be one so don't hide anything from me, neither will I hide from you

If am to join you in fighting or battling anything, give me a heads up!!

You can't make me run from pillar to post, from one hospital to the other when the fault was yours & you never brought me into the picture & now you suddenly want me to join you in fighting it

That's not fair!!!


my asking for those test or whatever it is, is not to be judgmental or to get a perfect person but to prepare my mind & myself for the battles ahead.

Imagine getting married to a diabetic & such was hidden from you, only to be revealed in marriage.

I will suddenly stop eating some stuff just because of you either because I want to encourage you or not make you cook two diff meals etc


I LOVE YOU & PLS PUT ME IN THE PICTURE!!! Past or no past!!


This is what works for me!!!

keppyy:


Anyway, I asked him about his test and he said he does not need it and that he is clean blah blah blah...I just told him that I can't date him any more till I get his comprehensive medical report...And we've not spoken ever since (I sincerely don't know what he is hiding, MR CLEAN)...

Sorry for the long epistle...

I'm with you on this but if you truly love him & he is a good man, you work out something

Ultimatum don't work for some folks that's where your feminine powers come in.

Life ain't fair & the rules that apply to men don't apply to women especially in Africa. That being said that he barged you into running the test doesn't mean you should do the same for him.

make him see reasons why it's a give & take situation, you have done your to prove to him & now it's his turn(all this has to be done in a lovey dovey manner & not in an angry or strict tone)

Maybe he has nothing to hide, he could be scared of what the result will be(my first HIV test I was damned scared even though I was still a virgin, started thinking of all the romance I had been engaged in & maybe something went wrong somewhere)

another thing is check his mindset, if he doesn't believe in quid pro quo, see if he is open to change, if he isn't, you can let him be(I know most guys aren't open to that)



the operative words here are
a.if he is a good man
b.if you love him
c.lovey dovey atmosphere

Jahblessme:
Sorry to butt in @harveyspec but those questions any sharp se x worker can answer and pass in flying colours.

1.2,haaa highest 3..the first one was beating me,the second one promised to marry me,the third had an accident and died.

C.no se x first one,we dated in primary school,the second one forced himself on me,I was engaged to the third and we had planned date for introduction when he died.

2.Abortioooonnn!!! Jeezos *making sign of the cross* God forbid!! I can never sin against the cross in that manner.Abortion is murder(street workers normally go to professional doctors for abortions so the chances of damage is minimal).
3. No ooo,no children.
4.Suicide?? Tueh God forbid! I'm a child of God,its a sin.
5. No health conditions,of course willing to go for health checks.As a runs girl,shed be doing tests regularly because her alhaji customers who like hitting it raw would always demand clean bill of health .. If she's out to get you,you will never win.

You'd have to be a special kind and understanding man before any chick gives you an answer deviating from the above.They know what you want to hear and will answer you accordingly.

The true way of finding out about someone's lifestyle is by asking their views on those topics when having normal discussions.

Any other way,they will become defensive and tell lies.
One thing I have found out is that the men that don't bother,normally get confessed to naturally especially when trust has been established.

Once u brandish ur pen and paper with these jamb questions,you will NOT get the truth.

By the way,how would you know she's had an abortion before if she's not told you?? Its normally the innocent girls who get preg by mistake,some even by pre cum that run to quacks and get botched d&c.The runs girls have experts on speed dial.


Over and out!

If you give me those answers, you jam rock cos by the time I start askinv you follow up questions on those answers, you yourself go know say the truth will be the best!!

Cos you will be f
Anybody that asks those questions in a Q&A style will definitely get the wrong answers!!

She might even get angry & storm out

Those questions ought to asked during normal convo as u said & can be asked over a period of months

It's not something you ask once

Heck, you might tell me you had an abortion & I will simply acknowledge

Another day I will add another follow up question in a relaxed mood.

Once a while I might bring it up again, just to check of your answers will match

The person must not feel interrogated, hence you loose out neither must she get the whiff that you want to judge her

It also has to be a committed relationship heading to marriage. You can't just be my friend or let's see how it goes relationship & be asking me all these questions

cococandy:
I agree with you.

But for number two, I will limit the questions to "will you be willing to go for a check up with me?"
Reason being that most people might feel the questions are asked to judge them and even if they say no when the answer is yes, you then asking if they will be willing to go for a check makes it look like you didn't take their word for it.

So in my opinion, it's kinda pointless asking that question instead of stating that you require a test done before the marriage. Afterall you'd be willing to subject yourself to those fertility and STD tests too. It makes everything simpler. We just go for tests to ascertain that we are both okay and forget about uncomfortable questions.

My opinion.

Thanks, but if you don't give those answers, how then do I ascertain that you have changed!! I can't just take your word for it

It's not enough to pass all the health test, I need to know how you lived ur life, then check if you have made changes or open to changes & also if you realized ur mistakes etc

A lady who cheated in her previous relationship & sees nothing wrong in what she did all in the name if he wasn't always around, is a no no for me

Imagine she kept this from me, am I not walking into a time bomb

Imagine a lady who has been in 4 relationships & in those four relationships she cheated in all of them!! Isn't that a pattern? Isn't there a possibility that I will be her 5th victim?

But if she tells me & I study the circumstances around all of that & see that she has realized the errors of her ways, then I can forge ahead with her

But all those blanket statement of "honey, you didn't meet me as a virgin & I have a past bit all that matters is my love for you & I won't cheat on you" doesn't fly by me

A trial judge needs to hear the crime, needs to see the steps carried out for restitution & see the proof that the perpetrator is truly sorry & won't repeat it, based on this he can give a ruling

Those answers is for the sake of my mind, once the mind starts to play tricks on you then you know the relationship is over.

PS:I modified the original post, added some subsets of questions to no1 & a fresh question no 6

babyosisi:
^^^^^^
After calling me names,you want me to answer your questions o kwa ya
I am coming,let me go and fetch water to baff first

I said no hard feelings na!!
Oya sorry na, people fight & make up
Though your stance dey make my head touch sha

babyosisi:


Let us do some role playing
I meet you,you are not a virgin neither am I
Please tell me some of these questions you will ask me

I know you didn't ask me, but my question will go thus

Though I have to state it that it's quid pro quo, I'll be open & truthful to your questions & I expect same from you. I can't stomach lies

1. How many relationships have you been in?

a. In these relationships, did you cheat on ur partner? If yes
ai.how long did the affair last
aii.what led to the affair & how did it end?

b. where they healthy relationships, were you abused verbally or physically or sexually
c.were you sexually active in these relationship

The above questions is to help me ascertain if she is a damaged good & also to check if there was a pattern that repeated all through & to also see if she has turned a new leaf(assuming she was a cheat) to also check if she sought for help in terms of counseling and all of that

2.have you procured an abortion before?
a. how many times & were there complications in any of the procedures

b. did you go for checkup to ascertain that all was ok, I.e no complications

c. Will you be willing to go for a comprehensive checkup with me

3. Do you have any child or children, if yes

a. What was the circumstances that led to that birth

b. is the father of the child involved in the child's life or your life or will there be a future interference ?

4.have you ever contemplated suicide or have you attempted one before(my coz once dated a lady like that, so am taking no chances on that)

5. Do you have any health condition, eg HIV, Hepatitis, sickle cell, hypertension, ulcer, asthma etc if yes

a. How have you been managing it, what's your lifestyle like

I ask this cos I can't be with someone who is hypertensive & is still involved in smoking & drinking (for us to be together I have to see the willingness to change or at least a pattern of trying to live a healthy life)

6. have you promised anyone marriage before? If yes, how did it end, was it amicable?


There are more questions but we can peg it here, someone might say that I'm setting myself up for disappointment cos I will likely hear what I want to hear

That's why I will cite my caveat emptor, if you decieve me into marriage, the day I discover the heavy weight, that's the day the union will end

The answers to some of the questions throws a light into how the person has lived, the kind of crowd the person moved with, if the person has realized his or her mistakes, is willing to change etc

Cc:cococandy

simiolu1:

But the one that suprised me most was a girl who once told me she was a virgin (she told me of her own volition)
Later on when we were about to start dating, she told me she wasn't a virgin but that she's been abstaining from sex. When things got serious, she told me that once I hav sex with her, she won't be able to control her urges. This made me travel from Ogbomoso to Oyo every week back then. One night while in my arms, she opened up to me and delved into her past relationships, how she became a sex addict, got pregnant for her ex-bf and did an abortion.

Spot on!! Notice the stages & timing it took for her to reveal her past, that ought to be the advise here of know when to spill, where to spill & how to spill it!!!

If she had told u all at once at the beginning, you would have fled

One of my best definition of love is "to know is to love"

As I know/discover you daily, my love would grow deeper for u, not until I know you I can't truly say I love you

As a guy, you meet a lady you like, get to know her, start dating, as the relationship progresses it is expected that certain info be revealed

Because I like you & have come to know you & understand you, I can forgive some of the errors of your past, I will be willing to put myself in your shoe & understand why you did that thing

Sometimes we are slammed with info we can't handle but becos we have come to love the person, we may pull back but we go back to that person

Thanks for your submission, those that want to follow the OP's advice should do so but they should be given a Caveat Emptor too

imagine what they are saying that " if it doesn't have any bearing on the future of the current relationship then don't spill"

How do you determine which of your past or how ur past will pop up in your future?

women are good with secrets but a woman that can successfully tow the OP's line is devilish, imagine the guilt she will be carrying knowing fully well that she is deceiving the man

God help us all

babyosisi:


I said nothing about agreeing to marry her,read me again

For that one woman there are perhaps hundreds with the same past and no tapes

For me today knowing my husband as well as I do,if he came out today and told me he killed somebody in high school ,I won't even leave him let alone turn him in
It will not change my opinion about the man I love today
he must not have loved her enough
He was just looking for a reason to leave and found one

YOUR ADVISE THEN, OUGHT TO BE don't spill too early!! Let the relationship progress & study your partner to know if he is serious or not & find out the best way to tell him

You said above "knowing your husband as well as you do" his past won't shake you now cos you KNOW HIM. To know they say is to love!!

If you had found out that he killed somebody before within 1month of your dating him, you would have fled with every inch of your life!!

there have been cases where one partner revealed they had HIV, they still forged ahead with the relationship

If I truly love you & I hear about ur past, I will go back to the table & lay out all the facts & weigh them if I can handle that & check to see if you have truly turned a new leaf & also the chances of a reoccurrence too. Based on all of this I will make an informed decision

what's with this how many abortions has he procured ? Some girls have so lived a slutty life that they think all men are the same, so if a man has lived a normal life, he is wrong to want to know your past!! Did he live a good life just to settle for a slut?

babyosisi:


Do you suppose that the woman still has feelings for Emeka or that emeka will want to do something with her or that emeka will be stupid to tell the husband that he did things with the wife years ago
How many grown men are that foolish?
What do you take women for
Some immature beings that can't handle themselves or what

If I ran into a man I had any dealings with,I will decide if I want to acknowledge him or not,first of all and the level of acknowledgement I accord him is totally dependent on me
It could be a hello and a how are you handshake and that's about it
If I decide not to make any contact whatsoever that will be my choice

I know this is the internet so I am risking conversations with minors and teens on threads like this
You are watching too much Nollywood
Real life ain't like that

Firstly, I don't watch nollywood

Secondly, I ain't a minor, it's a far cry from it

Thirdly, if Emeka doesn't spill his escapades with the lady's husband then trust that he will spill it to his husbands circle of friends or at the husband whenever they quarrel just to spite him

I had great respect for you but with all of this, I will unfollow ur thread on "marital advice for newly weds & intending couples"


You are the type that can poison a man & watch him eating the food while petting him!!

Come to think of it, you were in a relationship with a man while at same time romping with azubuike!!

God save me from your type

PS: I'm aware my tone is harsh, no hard feelings o

cococandy:
If I knew him before I knew my husband and did all that before we got married, I've committed no offense.
There's nothing to worry about here even if he finds out.
Really I'll just be running into an ex who happens to be hubby's acquaintance.

Will it be awkward?. Meh maybe.
But What possible harm does it present to the marriage except she wants to continue seeing him again?. If not, I don't see how coincidentally knowing and meeting someone your babe dated in the past is a bad thing.

You might as well keep names and pictures of those you had sex with before marriage so that you can show your partner when you marry.
Please...


On the other hand, if you reverse the positions, I'd only feel a tinge of jealousy when meeting someone who my husband used to date especially if they had a raunchy time together. And I may feel a bit sorry for him because it might be embarrassing to him.

But I don't think I'm senseless enough to be mad at him for having a life and knowing someone before me. Like he owed me an explanation then even though he hadn't met me?

I thought its best I tell my spouse of my past but show to him that I have changed rather than portray a picture of being a normal girl or saint, only to be found out that I was wild & wayward

A man who has been having a healthy sex life within an average confines(no wild practice or exploration) suddenly learns that his wife he considered innocent or normal was once a wild dck sucking stripping escort bitchh

What do you think will happen to his psyche?

How do you think he will view her? Admiration or disgust?

cococandy:



If I did it before I met you, if it has no way of affecting our health or childbearing possibilities, if it won't come back to be in your face (eg things like dating your husband's old friend can come back in your face. So that I'd tell him.)

if it is not any of those,it belongs in the past. I'll leave it there. Ces't finis.

Pls how will you handle this!!

Your husband tells you he ran into an old acquaintance that he saw last maybe 15yrs, someone you haven't heard about.

this acquaintance will be coming over for dinner, he shows up & behold he is Emeka you have been sleeping with in faraway Japan(you thought u were safe cos Japan was far away & Emeka told u he hasn't been too Nigeria for the past 15yrs & he has no plan to)

You have done all manner of things with Emeka, ranging from orgies to foursomes to abortion

How do you deal with this?

If you say you can't cheat in a marriage, replace the above scenario with this
You did all of that with Emeka before you married your hubby, your hubby ain't aware you did those wild stuffs, he sees you as a cool headed lady!!

you can't tell which of your past will come hunting, so saying if it has little chance of spilling, keep it that way isn't wise

babyosisi:


I said if there are chances he knows your past then by all means come clean when asked
Wisdom is the key

Why take such chance?

how do u determine the probability of his finding out?

babyosisi:



Babyosisi were you an ashawo ?
Answer
Azubuike what type of question is that,I was not a virgin when I met you,I have a past just like you do and the important thing is that I am faithful to you and will never step out on you

Full stop


That is the answer to that question

Imagine during a party in another country(maybe u went for vacation), your azubuike leaves your side to go get drinks, only to hear a conversation about how you were the best stripper, dck sucker, the most widely sought out girl in a brothel

Pls will your above answer still suffice in this case?

do you know what it means for a man to find out that his wife was/is a public utility?

That she has been mounted & climbed by every dick & Harry?

Imagine a scenario where your former customer grabs u on the waist within ur husband view unknown to him & insults you based on your reaction, not knowing you ain't in the trade anymore

pls if am to endure insult & embarrassment as a result of your past, kindly put me in the picture in the beginning

babyosisi:


Exactly
Especially if you know he will use it against you,you don't need to tell him about every man that has poked you
Unnecessary detail
If you worked as a hooker( ashawo) and has turned a new leaf,you are free to keep that detail to yourself
It's not necessary to share all that worthless tale in order to appear honest
Old things are passed away,leave them that way
He isn't telling you all of his so you need to keep yours too
Don't show out yourself in a terrible light and destroy your reputation by blabbing about details of your past,destroying yourself with your own mouth.
If you had 5 abortions ,must you talk about them with your man?
What for?
Has he told you how many abortions he sponsored?
O ho
So why the details

so ma, what happens when he discovers later that she was a hooker, isn't that deceit? What happens in that awkward moment when her long time customer runs into both of them or if he stumbles into her profile online or her nude pics?

what happens after marriage when it is discovered that she can't conceive due to damages in her reproductive system as a result of an abortion?

I hope you are different from the OP of the thread on marital advice for newly weds & intending....

I thought a serious relationship should be built on trust

let me get this straight, you deceived me as a man & denied me the opportunity to have weighed my options before marrying you, not only that, you expect me to join you in proffering a solution to the consequences of your past